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Permission to play without her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My Mrs has given me permission to play without her... Whether in a club or private meet, but I'm torn.

We have always played together and had some great times, but her health ain't great at the minute and she senses my frustration...

I'm just worried that it'll come between us rather than make us stronger.

Anybody else experiencing this and how has it been?

Cheers you lovely lot.

D

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Have to get a single male profile then.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

If you're torn you've answered your own question - if it was something you truly wanted to do and had no concerns about, you wouldn't have any doubts.

Playing separately can work, but it's not without it's dangers if you're not wary of them and both 100% bought into the idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My Mrs has given me permission to play without her... Whether in a club or private meet, but I'm torn.

We have always played together and had some great times, but her health ain't great at the minute and she senses my frustration...

I'm just worried that it'll come between us rather than make us stronger.

Anybody else experiencing this and how has it been?

Cheers you lovely lot.

D "

I did the same with my hubby but he didn't want to play without me so waiting until I'm better. If you don't want to OP then don't. Like me she is probably worried your not getting sex, I was the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to get a single male profile then. "

Why????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it worth abstaining from playing whilst she’s not well?

She might well be feeling vulnerable at the moment. Waiting for her, puts her where she should be. Your biggest priority.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Have to get a single male profile then.

Why????"
Think about it.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I haven't experienced this but maybe go for a social only meet and see how that feels, and see how your wife feels when you get back.

No pressure then either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My focus would be on helping my partner get well.

The last thing I would want was them to feel my frustrations re sex. What a horrible vulnerable position for her to be in.

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By *0nderMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

When she mentioned it was ok to play solo did she ever use the phrase “it’s fine”, if so.. it isn’t it’s a trap (jk)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies guys.

She's quite encouraging of it, but I've said we always said we'd be in it together.

Unless the idea turns her on?

Or as one of you said it maybe a test?

Hmmmmm ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the replies guys.

She's quite encouraging of it, but I've said we always said we'd be in it together.

Unless the idea turns her on?

Or as one of you said it maybe a test?

Hmmmmm ?? "

If you don’t trust her not to be setting you up, then there are deeper problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a wank.

Somethings are more important than sex. Be there for your missus. This will make you stronger together.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"When she mentioned it was ok to play solo did she ever use the phrase “it’s fine”, if so.. it isn’t it’s a trap (jk)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has she got a sister?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

If you have doubts, there is your answer. Are your doubts because you are not sure if she is fine with it? What is the frustration with, that you are not swinging? or not getting sex while she is ill?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve sed that about my man to but not had any takers yet Mrscxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Only child ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you have doubts, there is your answer. Are your doubts because you are not sure if she is fine with it? What is the frustration with, that you are not swinging? or not getting sex while she is ill?"

Doubts are because ideally I only want her... Think she's insistent because she wants me to be fulfilled but tbh I'm happy to wait for her... Would only consider being with a couple but it's something we want to do together... So I'll most likely remain patient. X

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