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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Imagine you get chatting to someone here. They tick all your boxes, depending on what your preferences are: smoker/non smoker, 420 friendly or not, can accommodate/ can’t.

What could come up in conversation that would put you off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Them not being able to hold a conversation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Them not being able to hold a conversation"

I hear you there! Yup, that would put me off too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrogance. Everyday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Them not being able to hold a conversation"

This.

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Arrogance. Everyday "

Could you give an example?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Can I pm. The arrogance in question is about a couple on here and whilst the ladies arrogance annoyed me I don't wish to upset anyone.

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By *llysonMacWoman
over a year ago

Hanley

Talking down to me, or explaining simple things as though i dont know what im doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Talking down to me, or explaining simple things as though i dont know what im doing. "

Oh yeah, people being patronising for condescending irritates me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when you read a profile and there are lists of what you can and cant say to them and the sydney uni type pointless statements...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I must admit that I’m a bit of a grammar snob, so I’m put off when messages are hard to read due to basic punctuation and everything is reduced to as short a word as it can be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"when you read a profile and there are lists of what you can and cant say to them and the sydney uni type pointless statements...

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Aye! With you on that one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they request something, lingerie or makeup, in a demanding sort of way. I was told a few years ago, after chatting foe a few days, to have my nails painted red. I never do my nails and said so. They were very insistent so I chose not to meet them. I wish I hadn't bothered with the days of messaging in the first place!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when you read a profile and there are lists of what you can and cant say to them...

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This. 'ooh, demanding and negative; be still my heart!' I think it's even worse on dating sites.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Lull in communication as they Google words I use as they have a limited vocabulary. For example, if the had to look up "lull".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

As others have said, not being able to hold a conversation, or if sex chat is all that they have

Evidence of bad judgement is a big one for me- for example a guy telling me about rocking straight up to a stranger's house and having them tie him up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lull in communication as they Google words I use as they have a limited vocabulary. For example, if the had to look up "lull".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any kind of sex chat before we've met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any nasty views that pop up that I don't share.

Lack of empathy.

Personalities not gelling.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

They are attached

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Or start getting pushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding out the bedside reading material is how to be a shoe bomber

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assumptions.

People assuming what I’m like before they’ve even met me, saying how the meet will go, that kind of thing. I start to wander what else will they assume...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assumptions.

People assuming what I’m like before they’ve even met me, saying how the meet will go, that kind of thing. I start to wander what else will they assume..."

*wonder*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Assumptions.

People assuming what I’m like before they’ve even met me, saying how the meet will go, that kind of thing. I start to wander what else will they assume...

*wonder*

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I love it when people check their own mistakes

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Sex talk!

Get chatting, going well, all nice, polite, respectful, humorous.

So a social is on the cards, arrange a time/date.

Next thing they're going full on 50 Shades, telling me what they're going to do to me.

To me, not with me.

No idea if that's my thing, what I do & don't like.

Just the assumption, we're meeting, we are going to fuck, and what they want.

Happens 9/10 times

It's a good job I've got a sense of humour... And the block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who gives orders or demands what they want and no thought about what the other half might like or want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who approach me on here and then wish to discuss my past verifications or judge me on them.

I was chatting to a guy recently and I was looking to arrange a social until he started judging me on my verifications. Told me "You only seem to go for Love Island contestants who fucking love themselves". Then asked to meet me. I suddenly wasn't so keen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone who gives orders or demands what they want and no thought about what the other half might like or want"

Yes! This too. Guys who try and tell me what to wear or how to do my makeup just get swerved x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They start to focus on just me and what they want to do to me or see me do (guys in couples) or they talk as if I’m just there to be a spectator and talk about Mr and will he like them etc (single “bi” women) it’s a couple’s profile, some people don’t seem able to get that. Some seem to want to use me to fuck Mr as they can’t accommodate- not good.

The others are guys we chat to about a bukkake meet, and from accepting that what we offer, they start talking about taking it further.

Get it’s all about chancing their luck xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor grammar, text speak, asking if I'm free now/tonight, talking about themselves and not asking about me.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Text speak. Abusive messages. Taking it for granted that I'll meet if I reply to a well written message, or any message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They voted Brexit. A real passion killer for me.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Telling me I should be more flexible about who I meet. Why should I be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dick pictures being sent with messages...

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back


"Dick pictures being sent with messages..."

Dam I was just going to send you one cheeky

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All very good points.

I've just come across another thing that puts me off:

"What does it take to get a woman like you interested in me?" Oh god, that infuriates me for so many reasons.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Lull in communication as they Google words I use as they have a limited vocabulary. For example, if the* had to look up "lull".

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*they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All very good points.

I've just come across another thing that puts me off:

"What does it take to get a woman like you interested in me?" Oh god, that infuriates me for so many reasons. "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The questions that are answered in our profile already and them "knowing" better than us what we want.

Mrs

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"Imagine you get chatting to someone here. They tick all your boxes, depending on what your preferences are: smoker/non smoker, 420 friendly or not, can accommodate/ can’t.

What could come up in conversation that would put you off?

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We were talking about travel, mentioned San Sebastian, the Basque country, how my grandfather came from there, etc- and he said: “St Andrew’s? ST ANDREW’S? you’d never be Scottish, there is nothing Scottish about you!”

Me: “I never said St Andrew’s. I said St Sebastian. Spain?”

Him: “right- it must be because of your accent...”

Unfortunately this was after the sex, lol. Then I had a shower and he claimed I took “bloody ages” when I am a mother of 3 kids with one shower at home- my showers never last more than 3 minutes.

Ugh. Never was I happier to leave a hotel room. Shame, because he was good looking...

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Shouldn't off-putting really be put-offing?

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

Impression that 1 think they are gods gift or string along with crap lies worst than holly oaks and eastenders lol

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I dislike being summoned to put code words in a message as proof of reading a profile that and the to do or not to do list.

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By *ndy0001Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Imagine you get chatting to someone here. They tick all your boxes, depending on what your preferences are: smoker/non smoker, 420 friendly or not, can accommodate/ can’t.

What could come up in conversation that would put you off?

Asking me for money!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some on said to us that they found it a turn on cheating on their gf and that's why they were on here... They pretty off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex talk!

Get chatting, going well, all nice, polite, respectful, humorous.

So a social is on the cards, arrange a time/date.

Next thing they're going full on 50 Shades, telling me what they're going to do to me.

To me, not with me.

No idea if that's my thing, what I do & don't like.

Just the assumption, we're meeting, we are going to fuck, and what they want.

Happens 9/10 times

It's a good job I've got a sense of humour... And the block button.

"

That's a rookie error if ever there was one , whatever happened to all in good time huh ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that ask stupid questions

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

A recent 1 annoyed me was going to meet till i had over a dozen messages about smelling my panties its like come on get a grip. Felt like i was being stalked by the panty sniffer lol.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If they asked me what I was going to wear when I met them. Or they started talking about sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similar to Lady Lick. I don't like talking dirty to someone I am newly conversing with. It's tacky and completely changes the dynamic. I just feel like I've been reeled in initially so that i can then be used for wank fodder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Demanding what I need to wear to meet them. Also sex chat in the first few messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Similar to Lady Lick. I don't like talking dirty to someone I am newly conversing with. It's tacky and completely changes the dynamic. I just feel like I've been reeled in initially so that i can then be used for wank fodder. "

By the way... you are beautiful Mystique! Demure and cute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pushiness, expectations after one message

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

Had that happen. Then they told me they voted ukip to get all the dirty foreigners out, my dad was born in Rumania and was an israeli citizen before coming to this country) so as you can imagine. That ruined it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they think white power ranger is cooler than green one.

I just can't, I wouldn't get it up after hearing that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not being able to hold a conversation or starting sex chat as soon as they think I'm interested just because I replied. Not taking 'sorry, not interested' for an answer, being pushy.

Asking 'what is your biggest turn on?' or 'what is the naughtiest thing you have ever done?'.

Couples believing they are the centre of the universe and I should be eternally grateful they decided to message me and invite me to play with them. Who didn't bother reading my profile beforehand. When I reply politely telling them I'm not ready to meet a couple yet (too many risks due to my leg not fully healed) or that I already have plans, or simply that I would never meet anyone at the drop of the hat, I get abusive messages, or got questioned what I even do on Fab! Just because I passed the incredible opportunity to play with such an amazing couple!

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By *n_thy_kneesMan
over a year ago

Ipswich

Lists of requirements that you must fulfill like it's a job interview.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it’s nothing in particular you just get an uneasy feeling about someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who think its all about them! I really don't like selfish people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who think its all about them! I really don't like selfish people. "
everyone is selfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pushiness, expectations after one message"

This, 100 percent.

I can't stand when anyone assumes that because we have exchanged a few messages we are definitely meeting.

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