FabSwingers.com forum: left hanging...

By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

Is it wrong to feel a bit 'pissed off' ...after an evening of very steamy chat ...with suggestions of a meet that day being thrown in ...when the lady I am talking to suddenly disappears ..leaving me hanging ..because someone else she knows has come online?

Happened twice recently...

Is it too much to ask for people to be genuine, after all I do have feelings to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to accept all this comes with no guarantees. People “juggle” each other especially if their time is limited, someone else popped up that she’s more into than you, simple as that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It can be annoying, but unless a place and time is agreed upon, there's no obligation. Even then, occasionally shit happens.

I try to avoid steamy chat because it tends to correlate with disappearing acts.

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By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

I try to avoid steamy chat because it tends to correlate with disappearing acts. "

I think you are right and it is not the norm for me to chat in that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it wrong to feel a bit 'pissed off' ...after an evening of very steamy chat ...with suggestions of a meet that day being thrown in ...when the lady I am talking to suddenly disappears ..leaving me hanging ..because someone else she knows has come online?

Happened twice recently...

Is it too much to ask for people to be genuine, after all I do have feelings to?

Did she tell you that was the reason she disappeared?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens regularly unfortunately.

More with couples, I find

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

How do you know she left you hanging and started chatting to someone else ?

If I'm having a conversation with someone and it's not going anywhere I will just stop. Doesn't mean I'm chatting to anyone else , it just means I'm bored and have moved on.

Avoid wank chat, it leads no where .

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Happened twice recently...

Is it too much to ask for people to be genuine, after all I do have feelings to?

Feelings, feelings, your feelings their feelings, my feelings, everyone has feelings.

Go find another lady to play with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 meets arranged last week, both cancelled at last min with excuses.

Fist one blocked me the next day, other one has a new veri appear on her profile from a bloke who she obviously decided to meet instead of me.

Chatting to another woman and things were going well but now she's gone quiet on me, I suspect another lady who we both know has put her off me.

Just the life of a bloke on fabs, it's sometimes shit, it happens to everyone, that's the way it is!

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By *opman1111Man
over a year ago

belfast

Block her and move on

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I definitely agree with the “wank chat”. I don’t realky like it anyway when I don’t know someone. It puts me off people very quickly and if I’m not into the person it’s kinda boring.

I’m not sure i would block in that situation, unless the other person was rude or mean. I’d probably remove them from my friends list though.

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By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

I think I am just not built for this type of environment.

I just want a friendly fuck buddy that likes doing lots of rude stuff...

but where do you meet someone who you can be yourself with if not on here??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do it. Hinting at filth is about as far as you need take things. Wank chatter.. chances are it's a fake profile anyway.

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By *hatguyJoeMan
over a year ago

Preston

I have been ghosted, I have had people dump me because a better offer came along.

Like it or not, it comes with the territory. You cannot change people you can only change the way you deal with them.

Don’t let them live in your head rent free, only you suffer that way.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Chatting or discussing meeting does not mean it is going to be in the timeframes that you may expect or even happen at all. If it's an agreed date and time then you reasonably expect it to happen or to get further communication.

No strings attached fun means to have different rules than for dating. We all have feelings but it's right to manage your expectations and involvement

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By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

" manage your expectations and involvement "

I actually think you are right. I am far too trusty and still very naive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure she was a she

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well there nothing worse going to a meet you on time you arrive at post code all made up phone to get door number and nothing at all then you st snd wsit phone couple of times nothing ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's how you feel so it's not wrong, but maybe changing your attitude to fab will help you avoid feeling the way you're feeling.

Fab can be very superficial & if she did stop talking because someone 'better' came along, then she'll do that that with a meet. Its shit, but its fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is annoying but it does happen 9n here a lot. Just don't give in and get to some socials too.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

" manage your expectations and involvement

I actually think you are right. I am far too trusty and still very naive.

And you’re not wrong to be so. Don’t let fab break who you are. Not everyone is a total cunt. Some of us are really nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened twice recently...

Is it too much to ask for people to be genuine, after all I do have feelings to?

Perhaps the lady was having a little lady play as you chatted,she orgasmed,she didn't wish to chat anymore.

Blokes do it all the time on here

No matter how she left you ,it doesn't make her any less genuine or under any obligation to take things further.

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By *elaxed life saverMan
over a year ago

Solihull....

We can all move on when we get bored or see sonething that turns us off someone.

Should block you as then you know they don't want your chat anymore.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

She came and went....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened twice recently...

Is it too much to ask for people to be genuine, after all I do have feelings to?

I would think they are being genuine so I don't get that bit don't you mean put you first and your desires first?

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