FabSwingers.com forum: partners

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

have had a couple of experiences recently in clubs when we have met couples and I (male) have started to play with the female but my partner did not fancy the other male. In both instances he told his partner to stop, and took her away. One of them was fairly agressive about it.

Anyone else had this sort of experience, and what thoughts do you have about it?

(I am aware, by the way, that this shows that as a bloke I will shag anyone, whereas my partner, as a woman is much more choosey!)

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By *eznhannahCouple
over a year ago

leeds

shouldnt you have decided if you all fancy each other before you got to the playing stage, i think in that situation i,d call a halt to procedings as well, actually wouldnt have to cos misses would we swing for what we both get out of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have had a couple of experiences recently in clubs when we have met couples and I (male) have started to play with the female but my partner did not fancy the other male. In both instances he told his partner to stop, and took her away. One of them was fairly agressive about it.

Anyone else had this sort of experience, and what thoughts do you have about it?

(I am aware, by the way, that this shows that as a bloke I will shag anyone, whereas my partner, as a woman is much more choosey!)"

Hey..not all guys will shag anything. I'm selective myself and state on my profile i'm not here to sleep with endless women. Lets not label all guys please!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My god that was putting a bit of a label on guys wasn't it!

I like to think the guys I play with are as choosy as I am, and as for the OP, yes maybe you should have discussed it first before starting to play with the lady of the couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well done mrs alda me says...

watch and learn lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is Mrs Alda not quite ready for full swap yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree, when we play we like to play together but mixed if you see what we mean ,it would be odd and feel odd if one of us was left out of the fun. Hence one reason why we dont usually go to clubs, prefer to meet a horny couple of two and be at home or theirs and relax with people you know reasonably and get on with, fancy..

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over a year ago

I struggle with the fact that you're off and playing with the fem before you have even found out from your wife whether she wants to play with the male half of the couple

If we're playing with a couple we both have to like them and vice versa,we sort that little detail out before we get to the knickers off stage

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

(I am aware, by the way, that this shows that as a bloke I will shag anyone, whereas my partner, as a woman is much more choosey!)"

This comment.......I don't know how I missed it before is totally outrageous and an insult to every woman you have played with along with all the decent men out there that don't shag just anyone and have manners and respect for their playmates,something that maybe you need to learn

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

comment in brackets was tongue in cheek and a joke, by the way.

These situations were in the couples room at chams, in a big group situation where lots of people were playing together, it was not just a case of me grabbing an available girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Situation also allows a single fella to persuade a 'friend' to go along on a couples night.. she doesn't have to fancy anyone while he gets his rocks off at will... Cunning!!

I'd have stopped the proceedings too...

Shagging anything.... OOoerr Want a bullett for the other foot lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh well... that's alright then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Anyone else had this sort of experience, and what thoughts do you have about it?

My thoughts - you are either rubbish at reading your own partner or you were suffering cock blindness and weren't bothered if anyone else was giving positive signals as long as you copped a feel.... but that is just my thoughts based on very limited information.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i feel sorry for any woman that the OP has ever " played with" with a comment like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

was a joke! told against me. was not a serious comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"was a joke! told against me. was not a serious comment "

no.... you missed try again lol..

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By *eznhannahCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"Situation also allows a single fella to persuade a 'friend' to go along on a couples night.. she doesn't have to fancy anyone while he gets his rocks off at will... Cunning!!

I'd have stopped the proceedings too...

Shagging anything.... OOoerr Want a bullett for the other foot lol...

we came across that very situation in a club a few weeks ago they think its cunning but its not its blindingly obvious,

even in a group situation we always stay as a couple with a couple (or 2 lol) but EVERYONE has to be involved

as for "fussy gate" probably was meant as a joke gone wrong the dude has apologised

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By *eznhannahCouple
over a year ago

leeds

as an afterthought, ironically enough i thought at first this was a thread about the club in manchester "partner" which is were the fake couple were, not the clubs fault btw how do u stop somthing like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd never go into a sexual situation unless we were both in agreement and happy about it.

To do so sounds like the ideal way to ruin a good night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit confused by that attitude:

Is it a simple trade off:

You can "have" mine if I can Have yours!

Surely the pleasure of one's partner is part of the experience.

I love watching my partner (when with her) getting off with someone else.

Anyone else had this sort of experience, and what thoughts do you have about it?

(I am aware, by the way, that this shows that as a bloke I will shag anyone, whereas my partner, as a woman is much more choosey!)"

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By *eznhannahCouple
over a year ago

leeds

thats why some people play with singles and others play with couples its a matter of taste and which you prefer, we have done both but much refer couples as much more fun,(in our opinion)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What we think about it is... too right!

The fact that you say they were in the couples room suggests that they wanted t o play with couples, had they wanted to play with a single bloke – there are other rooms for that.

If your partner is not part of the proceedings, that is what you effectively are – a single bloke.

Before anyone starts, of COURSE your partner has the right to not want to join in, however – the other couple ( or one half of them even) has an equal right to then want to halt the play if you turn out to be not a couple.

We only play as a couple, and only with other couples, neither of us would be happy with the situation you mentioned.

Surely you should be communicating with your partner constantly, checking she is happy with the situation, and seeing what you both want to do, this does not have to be a long conversation, just reading each other facial expressions and so on is enough.

The thing that worries me above all else is that your post states that this has happened a few times recently, did you not learn your lesson the first time?

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

we only have 2 rules (now) but rule no 1 is the most important

for me K has to be happy, for K I have to be happy

Very early on in our swinging life we got in to a very undavoury position which I bottled and got d*unk while K sat around getting more and more angry it was the make of break for us swinging and the result was rule no 1.

Glad to say we have never had a problem since because guess what ..... we talk about it FIRST!

btw rule no 2 is safe sex only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clearly you haven't talked a enough to be going to a club together. But having not been to a club myself my partner loves to see me being played with and we generally play with single men.

So my taste in men is paramount in the way we play but he does look after my safety in every way. So he does have a say in who can play with me and I know he has different tastes from me.

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