FabSwingers.com forum: Mental health issues on fab

By *iveshowcouple2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the people on here are normal i don't think i want to be lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it to serious

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

From where we are, it appears that people use fab to show off that they're going on holiday.....again! The fact that they have no intention of playing when they get there, seems irrelevant!..........'We're off to blah de blah this time next year...'

Big bloody deal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t let it get to you just take it as it comes if someone says something you don’t like block them don’t let it affect your mental health it’s really not worth

Mrscxxx

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

Only if you let it!!!! we find the best policy is to take 99% of it with a pinch of salt lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think you have to be pretty strong in your mental health, and have firm boundaries, to be able to handle it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally agree OP.

I’m bonkers but there is worse out there. I’m not meeting at all at the moment as fed up of the usual bullshit on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From where we are, it appears that people use fab to show off that they're going on holiday.....again! The fact that they have no intention of playing when they get there, seems irrelevant!..........'We're off to blah de blah this time next year...'

Big bloody deal

Facebook for swingers

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

There are some amazing people here, some of whomI have the pleasure of calling friends.

Find those gems. Keep them close (but not in a stalkerish way).

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"There are some amazing people here, some of whomI have the pleasure of calling friends.

Find those gems. Keep them close (but not in a stalkerish way).

Oh definitely. They help you deal with the BS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you OP.

I am an introvert and find interacting with most people quite draining, so I have to set really strict boundaries, trust my instincts and only give my time to those who deserve it.

When I read 'I don't take life/things too seriously', that usually translates to someone who can't be trusted on their word, so I don't give them my time. Previous experience means they're not serious about other people's time (sometimes even their own time), so they either want to keep chatting on fab endlessly, or whatsapp. They can't commit to make time for a simple phone call. So I would not even speak to them letalone think of meeting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im up and down like a prostitutes knickers at the minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

I totally agree with you there on this.That is why I am only doing this now and then. But even I found myself were I had to come of snap chat,Instragram and take Facebook of my phone.

It does make a difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some amazing people here, some of whomI have the pleasure of calling friends.

Find those gems. Keep them close (but not in a stalkerish way).

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

Agreed OP. I think for all the time we're able to meet, we'll most likely stick to clubs and the big socials instead. Unless we manage to build up a good group of friends we can message when we will be free but that option is a long time away really.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree OP but there are some lovely people too. Hard to do but you've got to just let the knocks go x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you suffer with anxiety, staring at the screen for hours isn't good for you, and reading negative replies from strangers is not going to help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So it's not just me that can see/feel this, then. I've always felt a weird energy on here and I can never quite pinpoint it.

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By *lackduffyMan
over a year ago

london

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

Men get messed with lot more than women. There are lots of bogus profiles on here so I wil take a leaf out of their verifications.

Oh lest I forget, with a bloody hot body like yours, any one turns you down probably isn’t even a real profile

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

Agreed, my consolation is you occasionally find gems on here and that it isn't indicative of rl.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Social media and mental health is a big issue. It has led me to be very selective of what I choose to engage with

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

*Only if you allow it to.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just see Fab as a microcosm of society, though maybe with attracting a higher concentration of extremes. You get the full cross spectrum here and need to grow a thick skin to be on here along with an acceptance of crap, abuse, rejection etc. Use intuition, filters, block list, clubs and organised socials if they work for you. Make friends with those that you click with and get to know their friends. The fantasists / nut jobs / time wasters means its all the more enjoyable when it does work out good!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"We just see Fab as a microcosm of society, though maybe with attracting a higher concentration of extremes. You get the full cross spectrum here and need to grow a thick skin to be on here along with an acceptance of crap, abuse, rejection etc. Use intuition, filters, block list, clubs and organised socials if they work for you. Make friends with those that you click with and get to know their friends. The fantasists / nut jobs / time wasters means its all the more enjoyable when it does work out good!"

I couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say, mental health (MH) is coming wherever you go. Some pockets more so than others, I think dating / sex platforms in particular bring particular behaviours to the forefront.

One of the biggest example is unmanaged insecurities.

Also, it's a bit of a meat market, however we dress it up. So, that brings out some of the best and worst in people.

Though there is a distinction between bad behaviour and mental health issues. It's not such a clear line but most times on here it seems like bad behaviour.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think being here can make your mental health worse if you're not careful, as well as coming into contact with those who aren't managing theirs.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

That is why we take regular breaks from the site. We are lucky in that being a couple fab does not take up a significant amount of our time, god knows what it is would be like to be a single guy on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

So bloody true that....

The trick is to recognise it and sign off for a bit x

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By *iveshowcouple2 OP Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

*Only if you allow it to......."

I dont.

Liberal use of the block button helps but frankly walking away from fab and all the weirdo dipshits who prowl its pages venting their bile is the best way to deal with it.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

definitely f*** you up

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Lol my heads already fucked so business as usual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There are some amazing people here, some of whomI have the pleasure of calling friends.

Find those gems. Keep them close (but not in a stalkerish way).

Am I one of those amazing friends?

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"I think being here can make your mental health worse if you're not careful, as well as coming into contact with those who aren't managing theirs. "

This

At times I find this site draining and it's easy to get tears of frustration. I often wonder how can something so easy actually be so hard ?

Take a break , do some nice things and re focus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

Yeah people being annoying on a trivial website isnt what causes mental health issues....

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

My mental health is shit, suppose how you handle here is how your mental illness affects you?

Gotta basically realise most people on here want something from you that benefits themselves, which makes for a shitty introduction anyway (users/liars). So if you just presume most people talk out their arse then you're in for a nice surprise when what you're seeking turns up.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

Yeah people being annoying on a trivial website isnt what causes mental health issues...."

But if you're vulnerable anyway, the peaks and troughs of attention, the flattery, the abuse, the superficial nature of it all, and more... can exacerbate your issues. Or those of others.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Op -You just need to not give a fuck anymore -what will be will be -that's the way I play it anyway

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

Ask for your money back?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

p.s ive just had my car washed and booked a holiday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you have to be pretty strong in your mental health, and have firm boundaries, to be able to handle it. "

Agreed! Don't let it ruin your experience OP. As a few have mentioned there are many amazing people on here. Like minded fabbers are connecting all the time. This is still a fabulous platform to get what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may lean towards batshit crazy, but I am not delicate, more robustly insane.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My mental health is shit, suppose how you handle here is how your mental illness affects you?

Positive thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

Yeah people being annoying on a trivial website isnt what causes mental health issues....

But if you're vulnerable anyway, the peaks and troughs of attention, the flattery, the abuse, the superficial nature of it all, and more... can exacerbate your issues. Or those of others. "

Very true

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

At least it's a fuck...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"'We're off to blah de blah this time next year...'

Is blah de blah in the Caribbean?

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land

"'We're off to blah de blah this time next year...'

Is blah de blah in the Caribbean?

Some town in Wales isn't it?

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

"Having a rare free day coming up soon I have been spending heaps of time on fab trying to arrange a meet with some interesting people.

Here is the thing though.

The more time I spend on fab the more depressing I find the whole experience. Time wasted dealing with fantasists. Getting abuse from weirdos. Lies. It all adds up.

I reckon I have fairly robust mental health but too much time on this site can definitely fuck with a persons head.

We’re abolutely fine .... Wibble

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"'We're off to blah de blah this time next year...'

Is blah de blah in the Caribbean?

Some town in Wales isn't it?"

Would you boast about going to Wales for your hols?!!

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