FabSwingers.com forum: No picture before a meet ?.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thoughts please.

Was just asked by a husband to come round and play with his wife in front of him after i sent a couple of face pics to him.

I asked for the same in return but whilst they wanted to meet, they didnt want to share a pic.

Im verified so clearly genuine.

Would be pretty pretty awkward if i turned up and there was no attraction.

Why wouldn't you show before ?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

The wife is is a figment of his imagination just like the mother of Norman Bates in Psycho.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Potentially a warning sign of fake/ no wife.

I'd say no pic no meet, but where you draw the line is up to you.

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

Likely fake in my opinion too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well he gave me the address...

Pretty sure turning up and seeing her and then walking out due to no attraction would not be great for them

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

You're going to see her anyway if you go so what's his problem sharing a face pic now? Unless, there is no wife. Sounds suss to me x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Definitely suspect. Give it a miss.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Well he gave me the address...

Pretty sure turning up and seeing her and then walking out due to no attraction would not be great for them

Turning up and finding out he's given you the wrong address (happens) or there's no her wouldn't be great for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds very supect to me, be weary!

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Is the account verified in any way ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry as others have said sounds fake .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no wife, just some sad bloke trying to trick you I'm afraid.

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Sounds dodgy walk away

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Set and apply your own rules, if you're happy to take the risk do so, if not don't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly fake but could be a stunner do you want to take the risk

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By *esires of HertsCouple
over a year ago

Herts and London Borders

and also very disrespectful to you...everyone has the right to decide before a meet is there is any form of attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well he gave me the address...

Pretty sure turning up and seeing her and then walking out due to no attraction would not be great for them

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your a man , it's exciting it's like blind date , go for it , you have the address , check it out

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sure I miss out on great meets due to my firm no exceptions rules. But I also keep myself safe, and that's more important.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Given you're bi OP - and I am guessing the husband of this "couple" is too? My guess is you'll get there and hubby will tell you the "wife" has been delayed but will be home soon and has suggested you both play together till she gets there and she'll join in....

.....if you go along with that....fast forward an hour and he'll have cum, the "wife" will have texted to say she's not going to make it and can you re-arrange for another day.

If it seems too good to be true, it very likely is

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Agree to meet at a coffee shop/bar?

I never ever meet people without seeing plemty of face photos first, though...

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

A lot of spidey senses picking up the same vibe her OP

It sounds dodgy

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Agree to meet at a coffee shop/bar?

I never ever meet people without seeing plemty of face photos first, though... "

Huh, I only have one face picture I share (it's a few months old, clear, and I've barely changed, though)

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

I don't share a face pic, I can't have face pictures linked back to me through swinging or BDSM (or even poly for that matter) so I'm very careful who gets a picture of my face.

Only people who get as far as my actual mobile number and I can count those on one hand (I don't give that out either, I have a burner phone/number to give out on the day for meets)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thoughts please.

Was just asked by a husband to come round and play with his wife in front of him after i sent a couple of face pics to him.

I asked for the same in return but whilst they wanted to meet, they didnt want to share a pic.

Im verified so clearly genuine.

Would be pretty pretty awkward if i turned up and there was no attraction.

Why wouldn't you show before ?"

He didn't want to show their pics,simple as that.Just because you sent yours and he invited you round,you are under no obligation to accept.thats your call.

We won't meet single guys without seeing a clear face pic and we don't send ours.says so on our profile.

It's their choice to send or not and their choice to join us if invited.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think the face pic thing isn't insurmountable, but I'd want to do other things to reassure someone that I am who I say I am. I don't think that's happened here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pics then no meet. Would also advise a social meeting first to see if there is mutual attraction.

Pics especially if poor quality will only give you an idea of how someone looks.

An actual meeting will tell you exactly what the other party looks like and if you will feel some chemistry too. This is very important to us.

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By *rBBMrsLDCouple
over a year ago

Seaford

We have met one couple for a social a couple of years back who wouldn’t share their face pics.

We took a risk and it felt a bit uneasy waiting for them to turn up as they had seen our faces.

They were lovely people, attractive but we wouldn’t do it again.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"Agree to meet at a coffee shop/bar?

I never ever meet people without seeing plemty of face photos first, though...

Huh, I only have one face picture I share (it's a few months old, clear, and I've barely changed, though) "

That’s fine- but I do ask for several. No hats or sunglasses- or photos cropped at the top of the head. I was caught out a few times with that trick!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Agree to meet at a coffee shop/bar?

I never ever meet people without seeing plemty of face photos first, though...

Huh, I only have one face picture I share (it's a few months old, clear, and I've barely changed, though)

That’s fine- but I do ask for several. No hats or sunglasses- or photos cropped at the top of the head. I was caught out a few times with that trick!

Fair enough. I'd see what I made of that request if it came to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Given you're bi OP - and I am guessing the husband of this "couple" is too? My guess is you'll get there and hubby will tell you the "wife" has been delayed but will be home soon and has suggested you both play together till she gets there and she'll join in....

.....if you go along with that....fast forward an hour and he'll have cum, the "wife" will have texted to say she's not going to make it and can you re-arrange for another day.

If it seems too good to be true, it very likely is

This is exactly what it sounds like to me. I might be wrong - they might be genuine couple, but I've heard this kind of thing from more than one guy here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As many others have said, sounds very dodgy.

I won't meet anyone without knowing what they look like. Simple as.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As many others have said, sounds very dodgy.

I won't meet anyone without knowing what they look like. Simple as.

By that thinking,we must be dodgy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not. Could be a trap, but if not, then I wouldnt consider meeting someone without knowing what they looked like. This isn't blind date.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I would wonder if she's meeting under duress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I agreed to meet a guy after some chatting but haven't seen his face photo just torso. What a great surprise it was

But I go more for the brain than look.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

maybe ask to speak to her on the phone at least? then you know she exists...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always show before meet and preference meet social away from house etc, that way its easier of all if there is no connection - trust me having had two well written about stalkers, you must protect yourself best you can

J xx

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By *ana_nana_MATTMAN!Man
over a year ago

Haywood Village, Weston-super-Mare

Theres normally a very good reason why someone does not want to show a face pic before a meet. But not one of those reasons will lead to a positive result. They may be unattractive, they may be fake, they may be paranoid, whatever the reason is, it's going to be a red flag.

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By *uxinteriorMan
over a year ago

south west , continental

No way, don't go to an address blind. Arrange to meet in a public place, coffee shop, pub, if its genuine then great if not you haven't lost anything. Not showing a photo would send alarm bells ringing for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely meet them both in public first. If they both turn up and you like them then ok. If just guy turn up...run.

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By *ame-room-no-swapCouple
over a year ago

Taunton

"Well he gave me the address...

Well he gave me *an* address ...

CFY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well he gave me the address...

Well he gave me *an* address ...

CFY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sounds totally legit.....

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