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By *otorcyclerob OP   Man
over a year ago

Southport

I just got told this by a friend of mine. She and I were an item a while back and she knows I'm a dirty fucker who can push all the buttons and go all night. But I'm too nice and that's why I get no meets on here.

So is that true ? is being nice a disadvantage ?

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By *riendlymasseurMan
over a year ago

birmingham Warwickshire &Worcestershire

Interesting I have have learned that I am nit pushy enough and too honest??? I would rather be myself and honest though

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Would rather have a nice polite sexy man than a rude inconsiderate man anyday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would rather have a nice polite sexy man than a rude inconsiderate man anyday"
Hell yeah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting I have have learned that I am nit pushy enough and too honest??? I would rather be myself and honest though"

+1

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I just got told this by a friend of mine. She and I were an item a while back and she knows I'm a dirty fucker who can push all the buttons and go all night. But I'm too nice and that's why I get no meets on here.

So is that true ? is being nice a disadvantage ?"

no, back in 5 minutes to explain why

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

Ah the old "why do chicks dig jerks?" chestnut.

It's not so much that women are attracted to guys with lousy personalities, its more a case that jerks, bad boys, whatever you want to call them, have certain personality traits that activate a woman's attraction circuits on a subconscious level - specifically strength, independence, leadership, confidence, non-neediness etc.

Women will often entirely overlook all of the bad points because those things that their subconscious considers to be valuable traits in a man come through so strongly.

Of course its the guys who can demonstrate those kinds of characteristics but remain genuinely nice and decent fellows at the same time who are the real alpha males and will clean up every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just got told this by a friend of mine. She and I were an item a while back and she knows I'm a dirty fucker who can push all the buttons and go all night. But I'm too nice and that's why I get no meets on here.

So is that true ? is being nice a disadvantage ?"

The best advise i can give ya is be YOURSELF nice or not dont ever try and be something you are not

Plenty of people like nice by the way xx

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I just got told this by a friend of mine. She and I were an item a while back and she knows I'm a dirty fucker who can push all the buttons and go all night. But I'm too nice and that's why I get no meets on here.

So is that true ? is being nice a disadvantage ?"

The honest truth..... the "you're too nice" line is just something women say so you don't feel so bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be ture to yourself and who you are ..... why change to fit in ... you are who you are ...... and if thay dont like you or wish to meet thay are not for you x Nasty people i would never meet .. as swinging is about fun having a good time .Dont let others put you down ok xx As thay will some get off on it xx

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Ah the old "why do chicks dig jerks?" chestnut.

It's not so much that women are attracted to guys with lousy personalities, its more a case that jerks, bad boys, whatever you want to call them, have certain personality traits that activate a woman's attraction circuits on a subconscious level - specifically strength, independence, leadership, confidence, non-neediness etc.

Women will often entirely overlook all of the bad points because those things that their subconscious considers to be valuable traits in a man come through so strongly.

Of course its the guys who can demonstrate those kinds of characteristics but remain genuinely nice and decent fellows at the same time who are the real alpha males and will clean up every time.

"

i tend to agree ,except for the subconscious part. on here women are generally looking for nsa, neediness and whining suggest its not going to be a good shag and then fuck off, then what you mean by nice becomes very important.

Add in the fact nice guys finish last can turn into the worst sort of male entitlement (i was nice to you therefore deserve a shag) and you have a whole host of red flags.

Op be yourself, nothing else works in the long run.

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By *scottMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"I just got told this by a friend of mine. She and I were an item a while back and she knows I'm a dirty fucker who can push all the buttons and go all night. But I'm too nice and that's why I get no meets on here.

So is that true ? is being nice a disadvantage ?

The best advise i can give ya is be YOURSELF nice or not dont ever try and be something you are not

Plenty of people like nice by the way xx "

Soapy speaks/writes sound sensible words. Now there's something I never thought I would say publicly. Always be yourself as the genuine article is always better than an attempt to mimic something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd have thought being nice & polite would be a positive+

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Soapy speaks/writes sound sensible words. Now there's something I never thought I would say publicly. Always be yourself as the genuine article is always better than an attempt to mimic something else."

xx

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By *otorcyclerob OP   Man
over a year ago

Southport


"Ah the old "why do chicks dig jerks?" chestnut.

It's not so much that women are attracted to guys with lousy personalities, its more a case that jerks, bad boys, whatever you want to call them, have certain personality traits that activate a woman's attraction circuits on a subconscious level - specifically strength, independence, leadership, confidence, non-neediness etc.

Women will often entirely overlook all of the bad points because those things that their subconscious considers to be valuable traits in a man come through so strongly.

Of course its the guys who can demonstrate those kinds of characteristics but remain genuinely nice and decent fellows at the same time who are the real alpha males and will clean up every time.

"

Yeah I get all that, IMHO I've always been in the "loveable rogue" class myself. Being a biker and not following the rules in their entirety lol and yet as a single dad being the responsible and caring one too. I was having a chat with the girl last night and talking about how I get no responses to genuine mails. Is it bad to use respect as platform for saying hello, I feel that I shouldn't say anything in a first mail that I wouldn't use as an opening line if I spoke to them in a pub.

Polo..I'm pretty sure she wasn't making me feel better it was a genuinely honest comment. I've known the girl long enough not to have to play games like that.

I've always been honest and myself and wont ever change that. I'm not needy and whiny either lol I've been on scene for 6 years and those I've met are generally more than happy. but as you'll see from my verifications no joy on this site.

Just trying to analyse why my opening gambit just gets deleted with no response on this site

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Ah the old "why do chicks dig jerks?" chestnut.

It's not so much that women are attracted to guys with lousy personalities, its more a case that jerks, bad boys, whatever you want to call them, have certain personality traits that activate a woman's attraction circuits on a subconscious level - specifically strength, independence, leadership, confidence, non-neediness etc.

Women will often entirely overlook all of the bad points because those things that their subconscious considers to be valuable traits in a man come through so strongly.

Of course its the guys who can demonstrate those kinds of characteristics but remain genuinely nice and decent fellows at the same time who are the real alpha males and will clean up every time.

Yeah I get all that, IMHO I've always been in the "loveable rogue" class myself. Being a biker and not following the rules in their entirety lol and yet as a single dad being the responsible and caring one too. I was having a chat with the girl last night and talking about how I get no responses to genuine mails. Is it bad to use respect as platform for saying hello, I feel that I shouldn't say anything in a first mail that I wouldn't use as an opening line if I spoke to them in a pub.

Polo..I'm pretty sure she wasn't making me feel better it was a genuinely honest comment. I've known the girl long enough not to have to play games like that.

I've always been honest and myself and wont ever change that. I'm not needy and whiny either lol I've been on scene for 6 years and those I've met are generally more than happy. but as you'll see from my verifications no joy on this site.

Just trying to analyse why my opening gambit just gets deleted with no response on this site

"

without seeing your opening mail, cant really say ,however like the profile.

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

i was told i looked too nice by my first meet,soon proved him wrong

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

So is that true ? is being nice a disadvantage ?"

I have been called a nice guy a lot... i don't think it is a disadvantage at all... I think in my case it is a case of learning to be more Assertive... more Forward...and that has taken a long time to get to where i am now...... and even then i think i have a long way in myself to go

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I like nice

But I like it with an edge to it,there is nice naughty and then there is bland nice

I prefer the nice naughty and that is usually apparent within a short time of messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being nice is good, i dont like men who are arse lickers too much though.

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"I just got told this by a friend of mine. She and I were an item a while back and she knows I'm a dirty fucker who can push all the buttons and go all night. But I'm too nice and that's why I get no meets on here.

So is that true ? is being nice a disadvantage ?"
I would suggest working on your seduction techniques. Good pick-up lines are: "Do as I say and you won't get hurt" and "This isn't a toy gun, bitch!" If all else fails you could try either chloroform or a stun-gun, you might also consider constructing a hidden cellar if you are planning on a longer-term relationship.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Think she may have been saying it to stop you feeling bad because you dont get meets. I only ever meet nice guys, why would someone meet someone who wasnt nice? Unless your well ott with cheesiness and are very false in the niceness then i certainly dont think being nice is the problem

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Think she may have been saying it to stop you feeling bad because you dont get meets. I only ever meet nice guys, why would someone meet someone who wasnt nice? Unless your well ott with cheesiness and are very false in the niceness then i certainly dont think being nice is the problem"
Thats nice......

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


" is being nice a disadvantage ?"

No I don't think it is. I like nice guys especially if it's mixed with a naughty streak.

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By *otorcyclerob OP   Man
over a year ago

Southport


" is being nice a disadvantage ?

No I don't think it is. I like nice guys especially if it's mixed with a naughty streak.

"

Ohhh believe me I have a massive naughty streak fnar fnar Sometimes people have been shocked that a "nice" guy can be so filthy. There's rude and there's rude lol like I said I'm a likeable rogue most of the time I just had a bad night I think and that statement surprised me

I'd like to thank everyone for the positve comments today.

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By *otorcyclerob OP   Man
over a year ago

Southport


"Being nice is good, i dont like men who are arse lickers too much though. "

I don't like crawlers either but arse licking is ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You naughty boy.

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By *riendlymasseurMan
over a year ago

birmingham Warwickshire &Worcestershire


"Being nice is good, i dont like men who are arse lickers too much though.

I don't like crawlers either but arse licking is ok "

Agreed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nah i like my men a bit rough round the edges lol

Not rude i still like people to be nice people people see nice in different ways, guys who are to 'nice' i find a bit creepy, i kind of like guys who have a sarcastic sence of humor and take the piss out of me but in a funny way not a cruel way, i dont like guys who are on the best behaviour and never say or do anything out of place, i do find that off putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nah i like my men a bit rough round the edges lol

Not rude i still like people to be nice people people see nice in different ways, guys who are to 'nice' i find a bit creepy, i kind of like guys who have a sarcastic sence of humor and take the piss out of me but in a funny way not a cruel way, i dont like guys who are on the best behaviour and never say or do anything out of place, i do find that off putting"

haha get ya coat on then ya pulled m8!

make sure its a warm coat tho as im walking ya home save cab fare x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nah i like my men a bit rough round the edges lol

Not rude i still like people to be nice people people see nice in different ways, guys who are to 'nice' i find a bit creepy, i kind of like guys who have a sarcastic sence of humor and take the piss out of me but in a funny way not a cruel way, i dont like guys who are on the best behaviour and never say or do anything out of place, i do find that off putting

haha get ya coat on then ya pulled m8!

make sure its a warm coat tho as im walking ya home save cab fare x "

who said i want you knowing where i live, i'll walk myself home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nah i like my men a bit rough round the edges lol

Not rude i still like people to be nice people people see nice in different ways, guys who are to 'nice' i find a bit creepy, i kind of like guys who have a sarcastic sence of humor and take the piss out of me but in a funny way not a cruel way, i dont like guys who are on the best behaviour and never say or do anything out of place, i do find that off putting

haha get ya coat on then ya pulled m8!

make sure its a warm coat tho as im walking ya home save cab fare x

who said i want you knowing where i live, i'll walk myself home "

I never said your home did I lol I have a tent dont ya no hun!

I dont no some peope hey its all me me me me me with you aint it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nah i like my men a bit rough round the edges lol

Not rude i still like people to be nice people people see nice in different ways, guys who are to 'nice' i find a bit creepy, i kind of like guys who have a sarcastic sence of humor and take the piss out of me but in a funny way not a cruel way, i dont like guys who are on the best behaviour and never say or do anything out of place, i do find that off putting

haha get ya coat on then ya pulled m8!

make sure its a warm coat tho as im walking ya home save cab fare x

who said i want you knowing where i live, i'll walk myself home

I never said your home did I lol I have a tent dont ya no hun!

I dont no some peope hey its all me me me me me with you aint it x"

hows it me me me i've just told you to bugger off, ive had my shag you can go now lol

*taxi*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nah i like my men a bit rough round the edges lol

Not rude i still like people to be nice people people see nice in different ways, guys who are to 'nice' i find a bit creepy, i kind of like guys who have a sarcastic sence of humor and take the piss out of me but in a funny way not a cruel way, i dont like guys who are on the best behaviour and never say or do anything out of place, i do find that off putting

haha get ya coat on then ya pulled m8!

make sure its a warm coat tho as im walking ya home save cab fare x

who said i want you knowing where i live, i'll walk myself home

I never said your home did I lol I have a tent dont ya no hun!

I dont no some peope hey its all me me me me me with you aint it x

hows it me me me i've just told you to bugger off, ive had my shag you can go now lol

*taxi* "

hahaha

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

somewhere out there

hubby has always been known as a nice guy even as a doorman, he says ther is an old sayin, nice guys cum last lol but he's still a nice guy and very popular, cos as _abio said he is assertive but not pushy forward but not to make it rude, and tells it how it is though with a little tact i like nice so long as it's not through bein sub

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