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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really makes me cringe hearing about men talking to women like this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same as sending cock pictures with first message: "Hi. Wanna meet, babe?"

Would you unzip your trousers in public and ask a stranger for sex?

I just don't get it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't let them get to me.

I scroll through my messages like I do the fresh produce section in Morrison's

Okra...nope.

Butternut squash...nope.

Aubergine...nope.

Ooh, brussel sprouts...now you're talking

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It really makes me cringe hearing about men talking to women like this!

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Its not just men. Women can be just as bad x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't let them get to me.

I scroll through my messages like I do the fresh produce section in Morrison's

Okra...nope.

Butternut squash...nope.

Aubergine...nope.

Ooh, brussel sprouts...now you're talking "

Sprouts lol. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could never be rude. Even if someone pissed me off or was rude to me. As you say manners cost nothing.

If your polite and courteous then perhaps people will realise your actually genuine.

Don't worry though because even some of us guys get shitty and aggressive messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What ever happened to manners and talking to ladies with respect?!

No wonder they can’t get a meet

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By *un pair 2Couple
over a year ago

poole

We had one the other day from someone we'd never spoken to before

Can I fuck the wife?

What do you think I said ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven’t received a first message from a woman on here as of yet.

But the one’s that have replied to me have all been very nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What ever happened to manners and talking to ladies with respect?!

No wonder they can’t get a meet "

Even that doesn't guarantee a meet but it might get a reply saying a polite no thank you and good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I haven’t received a first message from a woman on here as of yet.

But the one’s that have replied to me have all been very nice"

You have now x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We had one the other day from someone we'd never spoken to before

Can I fuck the wife?

What do you think I said ?????"

Its shocking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It really makes me cringe hearing about men talking to women like this!

Its not just men. Women can be just as bad x"

I wish a woman spoke to us like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven’t received a first message from a woman on here as of yet.

But the one’s that have replied to me have all been very nice

You have now x"

Shorty’s popped my “woman makes the first move” cherry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually enjoy the abusive messages I've received. I like to wind them up even more lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I haven’t received a first message from a woman on here as of yet.

Shorty’s popped my “woman makes the first move” cherry "

Hahaha. It had to be done xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them "

Was once asked by a bloke if I had an animal that he could abuse after he’d fucked me! What in the actual fuck!!!!! Wierdo, block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them

Was once asked by a bloke if I had an animal that he could abuse after he’d fucked me! What in the actual fuck!!!!! Wierdo, block! "

Wow!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Was once asked by a bloke if I had an animal that he could abuse after he’d fucked me! What in the actual fuck!!!!! Wierdo, block! "

That's majorly disturbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a guy call me a fucking queer for accidentally clicking on his profile. I had great fun for a few hours winding him up before he went unlos

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I love it when i decline andgwt told k be grateful for the offer..hmmm ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

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Idiots don't they know curves make me a better play mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Idiots don't they know curves make me a better play mate"

Apparently us big birds take a better pounding

I love ladies of all shapes and sizes...I'm greedy x

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Idiots don't they know curves make me a better play mate

Apparently us big birds take a better pounding

I love ladies of all shapes and sizes...I'm greedy x"

Hey i wasnt saying that...;)

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By *indful indulgenceMan
over a year ago

Wymondham


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them

Was once asked by a bloke if I had an animal that he could abuse after he’d fucked me! What in the actual fuck!!!!! Wierdo, block! "

surely report then block?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ditto!

It’s the chemistry that gets me going

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Hey i wasnt saying that...;) "

I didn't mean you haha. That's a message I've had lol

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


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Hey i wasnt saying that...;)

I didn't mean you haha. That's a message I've had lol "

That's ok then...phew!

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By *indful indulgenceMan
over a year ago

Wymondham

it's a pity it's against the site rules to name and shame the people that are abusive or have no manners. I once made a neighbourhood watch list but a moderator deleted my entire profile description.

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By *osco78Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


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Hey i wasnt saying that...;)

I didn't mean you haha. That's a message I've had lol "

That's ok then...phew!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Idiots don't they know curves make me a better play mate

Apparently us big birds take a better pounding

I love ladies of all shapes and sizes...I'm greedy x"
hey any decent genuine guy wouldn't come out with a statement like that x so anyone else who ever says that you must remember that they are not worth texting back x theres a lot of good guys on here just like myself x don't let it put you off ok x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"it's a pity it's against the site rules to name and shame the people that are abusive or have no manners. I once made a neighbourhood watch list but a moderator deleted my entire profile description. "

It really is. Even when you report them it's very rare anything is done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"hey any decent genuine guy wouldn't come out with a statement like that x so anyone else who ever says that you must remember that they are not worth texting back x theres a lot of good guys on here just like myself x don't let it put you off ok x "

Thank you hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a man message, and when he was told I don’t meet for sex he said he was going to message Mr and ask him for me, like I had no say! Told him won’t happen, he won’t give me to him and blocked him. So rude! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We had a man message, and when he was told I don’t meet for sex he said he was going to message Mr and ask him for me, like I had no say! Told him won’t happen, he won’t give me to him and blocked him. So rude! xx "

Some people are completely delusional They make me feel 'normal' lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a man message, and when he was told I don’t meet for sex he said he was going to message Mr and ask him for me, like I had no say! Told him won’t happen, he won’t give me to him and blocked him. So rude! xx

Some people are completely delusional They make me feel 'normal' lol x"

Lol, since joining here I’ve realised that I’m definitely “normal” which is a bit disappointing. Until then I was the only weirdo in the village xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Lol, since joining here I’ve realised that I’m definitely “normal” which is a bit disappointing. Until then I was the only weirdo in the village xx "

Some people ruin all of the fun lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What really bugs me is when you read someone's profile and it says. That they want photos or a full list of things plus a long mail. Then they mail me with a hi or hello ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

"

Ditto! We must attract the same ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Lol, since joining here I’ve realised that I’m definitely “normal” which is a bit disappointing. Until then I was the only weirdo in the village xx

Some people ruin all of the fun lol x"

They do!! The acceptance is just too much!! I’m outraged that I can’t feel entitled to feel outraged anymore, lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Ditto! We must attract the same ones "

Are you kidding me??? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh. This week I felt like a free hooker.

When I replied and gave them what for I was up myself.

I was sent a scenario involving my dad and my boyfriend. My dad's dead. When I replied, up my self. I despair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always message, being polite. And never get a response. ??????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh. This week I felt like a free hooker.

When I replied and gave them what for I was up myself.

I was sent a scenario involving my dad and my boyfriend. My dad's dead. When I replied, up my self. I despair. "

Oh god, that's awful. I'm so sorry to hear that. People really don't think x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always message, being polite. And never get a response. ??????"
I always try to respond even if it's a no thanks but sometimes that opens up a cam of worms x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Ditto! We must attract the same ones

Are you kidding me??? X"

Some of the insults I get for not replying (despite the fact I state on my profile, Will only reply to those I'm interested in)! Absolutely vile.

You look like a man/you're fat anyway/ugly/slag...

I do love the sweet talkers

Then there's the cock pics with "Fuck now?". Thankfully I'm always sat around in stockings and lingerie just hoping for such a message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Some of the insults I get for not replying (despite the fact I state on my profile, Will only reply to those I'm interested in)! Absolutely vile.

You look like a man/you're fat anyway/ugly/slag...

I do love the sweet talkers

Then there's the cock pics with "Fuck now?". Thankfully I'm always sat around in stockings and lingerie just hoping for such a message "

Talk about not handling rejection well. It's not right they get away with it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

"

This totally... like because I’m big they’re doing me a favour... too many on here that get no replies think they’ll try the fat bird then get all nasty when you say no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got abuse from a couple last year for posting pics in the day, then saying wasn’t meeting on my status that night. Attention seeking and so people would message me to beg to meet. Was so shocked at receiving such spite from a woman I explained why. My bestie, who introduced me to Fab had died suddenly, I reacted in shock by posting on every site I was on about taking time out.

They said how sorry they were if my friend had really died, but attacked me for caring what random people who I wanted to fuck thought. Vitriol!! Apparently what random people who just want to abuse you is ok though.

I’d lost my rock and some stranger wanted to take away my sense of self worth!! Thankfully people like that are not the norm. I didn’t give a shit what random people thought, but those I was talking to had become friends. Just no need xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I got abuse from a couple last year for posting pics in the day, then saying wasn’t meeting on my status that night. Attention seeking and so people would message me to beg to meet. Was so shocked at receiving such spite from a woman I explained why. My bestie, who introduced me to Fab had died suddenly, I reacted in shock by posting on every site I was on about taking time out.

They said how sorry they were if my friend had really died, but attacked me for caring what random people who I wanted to fuck thought. Vitriol!! Apparently what random people who just want to abuse you is ok though.

I’d lost my rock and some stranger wanted to take away my sense of self worth!! Thankfully people like that are not the norm. I didn’t give a shit what random people thought, but those I was talking to had become friends. Just no need xx"

There are so many selfish and heartless people on here. I know its all about having fun but there's just no need for the hate and jealousy. I'm sorry for your loss xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got abuse from a couple last year for posting pics in the day, then saying wasn’t meeting on my status that night. Attention seeking and so people would message me to beg to meet. Was so shocked at receiving such spite from a woman I explained why. My bestie, who introduced me to Fab had died suddenly, I reacted in shock by posting on every site I was on about taking time out.

They said how sorry they were if my friend had really died, but attacked me for caring what random people who I wanted to fuck thought. Vitriol!! Apparently what random people who just want to abuse you is ok though.

I’d lost my rock and some stranger wanted to take away my sense of self worth!! Thankfully people like that are not the norm. I didn’t give a shit what random people thought, but those I was talking to had become friends. Just no need xx

There are so many selfish and heartless people on here. I know its all about having fun but there's just no need for the hate and jealousy. I'm sorry for your loss xx"

Thank you x People should just take a step back, consider if someone treated them the same way if it would impact on them having fun, and act accordingly. Sadly they don’t and the anonymity of being behind a keyboard makes it so easy to do xx Yay for the ones who make it worthwhile staying xx

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By *anManSamMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I can understand more so now why people send the cruder messages like if they get a reply bonus for them I guess if not they don’t give a toss

Ive had abuse and rudeness for actually putting effort into a message so who knows what way is best

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can understand more so now why people send the cruder messages like if they get a reply bonus for them I guess if not they don’t give a toss

Ive had abuse and rudeness for actually putting effort into a message so who knows what way is best "

Sometimes we're just fighting a losing battle. I understand the frustration of those that are being rejected but they need to understand that everyone has different tastes/types. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had one the other day from someone we'd never spoken to before

Can I fuck the wife?

What do you think I said ?????"

Only if you do bareback

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By *ettyboob72Woman
over a year ago

Manningtree


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them

Was once asked by a bloke if I had an animal that he could abuse after he’d fucked me! What in the actual fuck!!!!! Wierdo, block! "

there are no words block report

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"I don't let them get to me.

I scroll through my messages like I do the fresh produce section in Morrison's

Okra...nope.

Butternut squash...nope.

Aubergine...nope.

Ooh, brussel sprouts...now you're talking "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them "
totaly agree

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By *oley999Woman
over a year ago

Land of Rainbows and Happiness


"I always message, being polite. And never get a response. ??????I always try to respond even if it's a no thanks but sometimes that opens up a cam of worms x"

I just don't respond anymore. I make a face to myself. Block and delete. The block list is quite extensive - I hope there isn't a limit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am always respectful and pleasant and do not post crude talk. Unfortunately I am usually totally ignored. Maybe I should be more nasty and obnoxious. Totally confused about what people want thesedays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners are the cornerstone of society.

A lot of people unfortunately have gone a step back in evolution. They think life is about taking what they want or like without the consequences.

If I ever change my stance please find a gun and shoot me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them

Was once asked by a bloke if I had an animal that he could abuse after he’d fucked me! What in the actual fuck!!!!! Wierdo, block! "

That is quite sickening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am always respectful and pleasant and do not post crude talk. Unfortunately I am usually totally ignored. Maybe I should be more nasty and obnoxious. Totally confused about what people want thesedays"

Why would you want to be that? Hurt someone just to get a response? No one on this thread has said that’s what they want. Think you may be missing the point a bit, the “treat em mean, keep em keen” is such a myth, don’t fall for that crap. You said “usually” so you are not totally ignored, so don’t worry about those who don’t respond, no one has to, no one is entitled to anything on here, so just go with the flow and focus on those who you do appeal to xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am always respectful and pleasant and do not post crude talk. Unfortunately I am usually totally ignored. Maybe I should be more nasty and obnoxious. Totally confused about what people want thesedays

Why would you want to be that? Hurt someone just to get a response? No one on this thread has said that’s what they want. Think you may be missing the point a bit, the “treat em mean, keep em keen” is such a myth, don’t fall for that crap. You said “usually” so you are not totally ignored, so don’t worry about those who don’t respond, no one has to, no one is entitled to anything on here, so just go with the flow and focus on those who you do appeal to xx"

Although the irony that you got a response, by suggesting abusive is the way to go, is not lost on me, haha xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Ditto! We must attract the same ones "

Me too but I get called a “fat old slag”....real charmers some of them...good job I have a thick skin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Ditto! We must attract the same ones

Me too but I get called a “fat old slag”....real charmers some of them...good job I have a thick skin

"

This always amuses me, that until you say no you’re attractive and they want you, but as soon as you do suddenly they didn’t want you anyway and resort to insults. Pathetic!!

You are all gorgeous btw xx

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Ditto! We must attract the same ones "

Yup, last week I got a response saying average body and no face isn't worth it anyway. I don't think they get irony.

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

It’s a common misconception on here that some think that just because we are on a swinging site we must be wanting to have sex with anyone or everyone on here and if we aren’t attracted to them we should have sex anyway because we are Swingers ... that’s what swinging us about right ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it not make more sense to filter/block everyone out and just search for your own matches, then message them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s a common misconception on here that some think that just because we are on a swinging site we must be wanting to have sex with anyone or everyone on here and if we aren’t attracted to them we should have sex anyway because we are Swingers ... that’s what swinging us about right ??

"

You mean that's not the case haha. Some people believe I should be flattered that someone would want me Haha. I'm always flattered but it's the approach they take which is all wrong xx

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We've had 'You're a disgrace to your race' aimed at the Mrs a few times. I can categorically say she's a hell of a credit.

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By *e_jpMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"We've had 'You're a disgrace to your race' aimed at the Mrs a few times. I can categorically say she's a hell of a credit. "

That’s awful (awful is the wrong word as it doesn’t truly convey my dismay at this) It’s depressing to think that people can be that bigoted.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them "

It either that or "hi,hello or nice to view you" considering that gets deleted, fancy a fuck gets a response be it a bad one most men will take that.

You reap what you sow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't respond to the abuse...

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Only ever had one nasty message and that was due to somebody we had on our veris so we got abuse from it but they ended up apologising.

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By *otplumMan
over a year ago

Margate


"It really makes me cringe hearing about men talking to women like this!

"

I am always polite and respectful, I treat folks as I expect to be treated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am always respectful and pleasant and do not post crude talk. Unfortunately I am usually totally ignored. Maybe I should be more nasty and obnoxious. Totally confused about what people want thesedays"

If someone doesn't reply, take it that they're not interested and move on. Ladies get bombarded with messages on here and some would need a PA to politely reply to everyone.

Complete strangers who demand my time and attention just baffle me. I wouldn't reply to SPAM emails with a polite "No thanks" so I certainly wouldn't on here.

I genuinely think that the ones who send vile messages are acting out like children. Report, block and delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them

It either that or "hi,hello or nice to view you" considering that gets deleted, fancy a fuck gets a response be it a bad one most men will take that.

You reap what you sow."

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Sadly I dont think this sort of behaviour is restricted to the online word. It just that its far more magnified on the Internet as the perceived anonymity brings out some peoples true selfs which they would normally keep hidden in public off line.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

No one needs this male or female it's not rigth and they should get banned off site for good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as a good filter. I sometimes feel the need to thank them for helping the good messages stand out far more

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By *terling2017Woman
over a year ago

birmingham


"What ever happened to manners and talking to ladies with respect?!

No wonder they can’t get a meet "

Finally penny seems to be dropping......

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise. "

Precisely. The analogy with approaching someone in a pub always puzzles me. Women in pubs don't generally stand there with their tits out talking about that gangbang they had last week.

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Ditto! We must attract the same ones

Are you kidding me??? X

Some of the insults I get for not replying (despite the fact I state on my profile, Will only reply to those I'm interested in)! Absolutely vile.

You look like a man/you're fat anyway/ugly/slag...

I do love the sweet talkers

Then there's the cock pics with "Fuck now?". Thankfully I'm always sat around in stockings and lingerie just hoping for such a message "

Your response!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

Precisely. The analogy with approaching someone in a pub always puzzles me. Women in pubs don't generally stand there with their tits out talking about that gangbang they had last week. "

The way some are dressed these days and their open dialogue. I get to differ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't let them get to me.

I scroll through my messages like I do the fresh produce section in Morrison's

Okra...nope.

Butternut squash...nope.

Aubergine...nope.

Ooh, brussel sprouts...now you're talking "

Got to love a Sprout...

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Manners seem to escape quite a few on here and I've sadly found that it's people my age and above that can be the worst culprits. Got a message recently, I replied "thank you but I'm afraid you're not my type. Appreciate the nice mail tho" He then replies with a tirade of how I should look in the mirror as how dare I say that (plus some other charming things)

I get rejection isn't nice but you can't win on here. Ignore the mail you're a bitch. Answer the mail you get abuse.

I know its not all people that act this way but it really does ruin it for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been rude to anyone on here there's no need for it

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Manners seem to escape quite a few on here and I've sadly found that it's people my age and above that can be the worst culprits. Got a message recently, I replied "thank you but I'm afraid you're not my type. Appreciate the nice mail tho" He then replies with a tirade of how I should look in the mirror as how dare I say that (plus some other charming things)

I get rejection isn't nice but you can't win on here. Ignore the mail you're a bitch. Answer the mail you get abuse.

I know its not all people that act this way but it really does ruin it for others. "

We just ignore everyone we're not interested in. If they message again they get blocked.

Simple.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

My manners are impeccable, they seem a lost art these days. I blame the parents.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

Precisely. The analogy with approaching someone in a pub always puzzles me. Women in pubs don't generally stand there with their tits out talking about that gangbang they had last week. "

I guess it just saying you wouldn't do it in the real world as apposed to online.

Even if they did that wouldn't justify bad behaviour towards them.

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I've never been rude to anyone on here there's no need for it "

Exactly, just because its online doesn't mean you shouldn't treat people with respect.

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London

Obviously goes without saying that is ridiculous but what I wonder is, if people keep using this tactic does that mean that some woman or men actually respond positively to it?!?

Surely nobody receives that kind of message and jumps on it straight away?

xx

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Entitled keyboard warriors with too much time on their hands! If they did it in a pub they would be kicked out of there!!!!

Idiots they are!

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Entitled keyboard warriors with too much time on their hands! If they did it in a pub they would be kicked out of there!!!!

Idiots they are! "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many people regard this site as a free-for-all of debauchery and dehumanise the members to the extent of not thinking they're worth being treated with respect.

We once had a message from someone who shouldn't have even messaged us as per our profile stipulations, and said something about taking us for a ride in his cab and watching while the "hubby gives you a good drilling". I mean, WTAF?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Obviously goes without saying that is ridiculous but what I wonder is, if people keep using this tactic does that mean that some woman or men actually respond positively to it?!?

Surely nobody receives that kind of message and jumps on it straight away?

xx"

Going by my own personal experience, when ive looked at their profile, they don't have the green tick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think many people regard this site as a free-for-all of debauchery and dehumanise the members to the extent of not thinking they're worth being treated with respect.

We once had a message from someone who shouldn't have even messaged us as per our profile stipulations, and said something about taking us for a ride in his cab and watching while the "hubby gives you a good drilling". I mean, WTAF?"

The Internet in general, and pornography in particular, are very good at dehumanising people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise. "

I hate this attitude, apologies to the person who posted it, if not their intention, but this is like the “she was asking for it” attitude. Same as you reap what you sow. As adults, on an adult site, just because someone has certain pics etc, it doesn’t mean that they lose their right to respect.

Abusive messages are more often than not ignored, so do not get the response that people seem to think they do.

I love Mr talking to me a certain way, but if anyone else did it, I’d ignore their ass!

Men and women need to realise that their approach may appeal to them, but not necessarily to others xx

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London


"Obviously goes without saying that is ridiculous but what I wonder is, if people keep using this tactic does that mean that some woman or men actually respond positively to it?!?

Surely nobody receives that kind of message and jumps on it straight away?

xx

Going by my own personal experience, when ive looked at their profile, they don't have the green tick "

Yeah we did think that was probably the case but not only does that make the individual rude but also unintelligent! As surely you would stop making the same mistake over and over again lol

xx

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By *ames3212Man
over a year ago

sunderland

I totally agree always be polite with my first message and throughout, usually no reply and or at times get told I'm not being imaginative enough

but never got any off women bad when messaging back, never really.got the first message from an interested.women so don't know how women usually start a conversation

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I think many people regard this site as a free-for-all of debauchery and dehumanise the members to the extent of not thinking they're worth being treated with respect.

We once had a message from someone who shouldn't have even messaged us as per our profile stipulations, and said something about taking us for a ride in his cab and watching while the "hubby gives you a good drilling". I mean, WTAF?

The Internet in general, and pornography in particular, are very good at dehumanising people "

True.

I do find that useful in that I'm less likely to take this crap personally. I dismiss their humanity. Self defence.

But it means it happens in the first place, more often than it would in the real world.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

Someone said delusional and I think porn culture amplifies it. Add in the fact some people

handle rejection badly. Not that I get a lot of messages

Now off to adli for sprouts !

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise. "

Does that mean we forgo all social norms? This being a platform for non-manogomy engagements does not mean everyone can be treated in a way which would be considered extremely inappropriate by the vast majority

xx

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

Does that mean we forgo all social norms? This being a platform for non-manogomy engagements does not mean everyone can be treated in a way which would be considered extremely inappropriate by the vast majority

xx"

No, but the means the norms are different. The essence of this site is approaching strangers in the hope of nsa sex. You wouldn't do that in the vast majority of social situations.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

The entitlement here hacks me off..

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

I hate this attitude, apologies to the person who posted it, if not their intention, but this is like the “she was asking for it” attitude. Same as you reap what you sow. As adults, on an adult site, just because someone has certain pics etc, it doesn’t mean that they lose their right to respect.

Abusive messages are more often than not ignored, so do not get the response that people seem to think they do.

I love Mr talking to me a certain way, but if anyone else did it, I’d ignore their ass!

Men and women need to realise that their approach may appeal to them, but not necessarily to others xx"

I think the point being made is that by its nature, this site is radically different from normal life. Hence people who may be able to operate perfectly normally in everyday life have little or no idea of how to operate here.

A good analogy is if you or I went to live in China. We would no doubt commit loads of social faux pas before we worked out what was or wasn't done in a society so different to our own.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

Does that mean we forgo all social norms? This being a platform for non-manogomy engagements does not mean everyone can be treated in a way which would be considered extremely inappropriate by the vast majority

xx

No, but the means the norms are different. The essence of this site is approaching strangers in the hope of nsa sex. You wouldn't do that in the vast majority of social situations. "

The discussion is not about the approaching as such. Its the crude way its done and reaction to it when its rejected.

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By *arah_kieran_ukCouple
over a year ago

Greater London


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

Does that mean we forgo all social norms? This being a platform for non-manogomy engagements does not mean everyone can be treated in a way which would be considered extremely inappropriate by the vast majority

xx

No, but the means the norms are different. The essence of this site is approaching strangers in the hope of nsa sex. You wouldn't do that in the vast majority of social situations. "

Agreed some norms obviously differ but social norms are dictated by the vast majority within that community/society and I’d suggest most would agree respect is a norm that would not alter in any social situations. So that would suggest anything deemed inappropriate by the vast majority should therefore not be accepted (unless specifically encouraged by indicating a want in let’s say your profile interests)

xx

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

Does that mean we forgo all social norms? This being a platform for non-manogomy engagements does not mean everyone can be treated in a way which would be considered extremely inappropriate by the vast majority

xx

No, but the means the norms are different. The essence of this site is approaching strangers in the hope of nsa sex. You wouldn't do that in the vast majority of social situations.

Agreed some norms obviously differ but social norms are dictated by the vast majority within that community/society and I’d suggest most would agree respect is a norm that would not alter in any social situations. So that would suggest anything deemed inappropriate by the vast majority should therefore not be accepted (unless specifically encouraged by indicating a want in let’s say your profile interests)

xx"

But the vast majority would think that approaching a stranger with a view to casual sex is outside social norms. You'd get sacked if you did that at work for example.

My point is that it's not immediately apparent which social norms do apply on here and which don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or " free this second ill be the best youve ever had " or "fuck now followed by 10 messages of ????????? "

Lmao block lists are what these are made for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And a hello never goes a miss

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I don’t know...be nice to receive a message now and again

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think there are degrees of deviance from social norms. It's tricky sometimes, and I'm not sure many do nuance well.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

Does that mean we forgo all social norms? This being a platform for non-manogomy engagements does not mean everyone can be treated in a way which would be considered extremely inappropriate by the vast majority

xx

No, but the means the norms are different. The essence of this site is approaching strangers in the hope of nsa sex. You wouldn't do that in the vast majority of social situations.

Agreed some norms obviously differ but social norms are dictated by the vast majority within that community/society and I’d suggest most would agree respect is a norm that would not alter in any social situations. So that would suggest anything deemed inappropriate by the vast majority should therefore not be accepted (unless specifically encouraged by indicating a want in let’s say your profile interests)

xx

But the vast majority would think that approaching a stranger with a view to casual sex is outside social norms. You'd get sacked if you did that at work for example.

My point is that it's not immediately apparent which social norms do apply on here and which don't. "

Surly then the logical approach would therefore be to apply the social norm of the wider society, till they establish what norm is here.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

I try to be polite, but it usually back fires.

No good turn never goes unpunished.

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By *racknell SexMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

No offense to the op but I really think you just cannot win no matter what you say or do.

Some women will always complain even if you say 'hello, how are you, how's your day going?' ..or 'love your photo's, you look gorgeous, be nice to chat for a bit, I actually live fairly local to you'.

You are either too boring or too forward or you did not read their profile correctly blah blah blah....

There is no one single approach that you will not get berated for from some women.

I've tried.

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife


"No offense to the op but I really think you just cannot win no matter what you say or do.

Some women will always complain even if you say 'hello, how are you, how's your day going?' ..or 'love your photo's, you look gorgeous, be nice to chat for a bit, I actually live fairly local to you'.

You are either too boring or too forward or you did not read their profile correctly blah blah blah....

Well put my good man !! Agree fully

There is no one single approach that you will not get berated for from some women.

I've tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

I hate this attitude, apologies to the person who posted it, if not their intention, but this is like the “she was asking for it” attitude. Same as you reap what you sow. As adults, on an adult site, just because someone has certain pics etc, it doesn’t mean that they lose their right to respect.

Abusive messages are more often than not ignored, so do not get the response that people seem to think they do.

I love Mr talking to me a certain way, but if anyone else did it, I’d ignore their ass!

Men and women need to realise that their approach may appeal to them, but not necessarily to others xx"

No I do kind of mean they're asking for it. It's a site full of explicit sex references.

I wouldn't post a pic of my pussy then get irate when people sent me messages saying they want to fuck/ lick/ finger it.

I do realise that people are different to me. They're looking for a fuck. I am being respectful by being polite if I'm not looking for the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not really. It's a site full of sex pics, sticky genitals and explicit reviews of sex meets. They're looking for sex. It's not a surprise.

I hate this attitude, apologies to the person who posted it, if not their intention, but this is like the “she was asking for it” attitude. Same as you reap what you sow. As adults, on an adult site, just because someone has certain pics etc, it doesn’t mean that they lose their right to respect.

Abusive messages are more often than not ignored, so do not get the response that people seem to think they do.

I love Mr talking to me a certain way, but if anyone else did it, I’d ignore their ass!

Men and women need to realise that their approach may appeal to them, but not necessarily to others xx

I think the point being made is that by its nature, this site is radically different from normal life. Hence people who may be able to operate perfectly normally in everyday life have little or no idea of how to operate here.

A good analogy is if you or I went to live in China. We would no doubt commit loads of social faux pas before we worked out what was or wasn't done in a society so different to our own. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No offense to the op but I really think you just cannot win no matter what you say or do.

Some women will always complain even if you say 'hello, how are you, how's your day going?' ..or 'love your photo's, you look gorgeous, be nice to chat for a bit, I actually live fairly local to you'.

You are either too boring or too forward or you did not read their profile correctly blah blah blah....

There is no one single approach that you will not get berated for from some women.

I've tried.

"

I think you're right. Men send polite messages and they get ignored. They think they need to be more raunchy and they still get ignored. They send a very crude fuck message and get an annoyed response.

At least it's a reply.

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife


"No offense to the op but I really think you just cannot win no matter what you say or do.

Some women will always complain even if you say 'hello, how are you, how's your day going?' ..or 'love your photo's, you look gorgeous, be nice to chat for a bit, I actually live fairly local to you'.

You are either too boring or too forward or you did not read their profile correctly blah blah blah....

There is no one single approach that you will not get berated for from some women.

I've tried.

I think you're right. Men send polite messages and they get ignored. They think they need to be more raunchy and they still get ignored. They send a very crude fuck message and get an annoyed response.

At least it's a reply.

"

I’m still waiting for my reply!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No offense to the op but I really think you just cannot win no matter what you say or do.

Some women will always complain even if you say 'hello, how are you, how's your day going?' ..or 'love your photo's, you look gorgeous, be nice to chat for a bit, I actually live fairly local to you'.

You are either too boring or too forward or you did not read their profile correctly blah blah blah....

There is no one single approach that you will not get berated for from some women.

I've tried.

"

Or they just don't fancy you. I've tried sending polite messages in reply and it's FAR more hassle to be honest. I then get "But why don't you fancy me?/ I'm better than the guys you've met/ you're a dog anyway". I can't win

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

And you can set up a profile which is fairly clear about the kind of message you want (I don't have anything gaping, oozing, in your face, and my text sets a certain tone) and you still get awful or wildly unsuitable messages anyway.

You just keep trucking on.

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By *racknell SexMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

Lets face it... women love to complain... lol

'Nagging wife'...

Sorry ladies but it does seem to be a thing.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Ditto! We must attract the same ones "

Wow waht a cheek you are stunning.

Manners maketh the man. He obviously falls short

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"It really makes me cringe hearing about men talking to women like this!

Its not just men. Women can be just as bad x"

There generally men posing as women

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

"

Ridiculous. Poor fragile egos. I mean clearly you're not 'too' fat or they'd not have made contact to begin with. Who do they think they're kidding?

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Lets face it... women love to complain... lol

'Nagging wife'...

Sorry ladies but it does seem to be a thing.

"

This is the reason we use the verification system, for trusted meets and encounters. Gets rid of the loose ends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve sent a lot of messages, all really nice ones to ladies, they just get deleted with no reply!then one lady messaged me!! Bi suck I said hey, next message cum now, hotel now imadgine if a guy said that, women hold the power on here I’m afraid it’s to easy for them!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the fragile egos, it’s always someone else’s fault, they give insults if no one pays them attention. Poor babies, haha xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Love the fragile egos, it’s always someone else’s fault, they give insults if no one pays them attention. Poor babies, haha xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never insulted any lady on here!! Because not many reply back??????????

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By *hezGeekCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We’ve simply stopped replying to the messages we get that either A) clearly haven’t read our profile or B) are crude and disrespectful. We’ve only been here a month but in that time we’ve had far more of A and B than simple, honest, friendly messages from people who tick our ‘please message if’ box. The blatant copy-pastes are the worst... at least put a bit of thought into it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am always respectful and pleasant and do not post crude talk. Unfortunately I am usually totally ignored. Maybe I should be more nasty and obnoxious. Totally confused about what people want thesedays"
some women have bigger egos than men mate and a lot on here are here because they get no attention in the real world so fulfil there ego on here? Low self esteem,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo. "

This post is about abusive messages. People block because of abuse or simply because it’s easier to do that as the person messaging them simply doesn’t appeal. The amount of messages some people receive can be ridiculous, so they won’t/can’t always reply to them all. Instead of calling people trashy if they don’t respond, accept that the appeal isn’t there and move on. Their profile, their decision who they want to respond to.

On my first day of joining fab in 2017, without even a pic, the fact I was female led to over 1000 messages! I don’t consider myself trashy for not responding to most of them, people do have lives outside this place.

it’s actually bad manners to call people trashy for not sharing your viewpoint- not a great example of good manners.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them "

To be fair you wouldn't walk about with your tits and arse out. Why is OK for you to behave differently on here but not other people?

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Hereorthere

I prefer to save that sorta talk for the 2nd message

But agree manners cost nothing at least say please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to save that sorta talk for the 2nd message

But agree manners cost nothing at least say please "

You must be doing something right, as you get to a second message haha xx

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Hereorthere


"I prefer to save that sorta talk for the 2nd message

But agree manners cost nothing at least say please

You must be doing something right, as you get to a second message haha xx"

I have my good moments admittedly

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By *eelouWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo. "

You're entitled to your opinion but I'm afraid after the abuse I've taken when replying thanks but no thanks (I was very polite and respectful) I don't think I will be doing it any more. Not sure how that amounts to my behaviour being trashy. I know I'm not the only one that has to deal with people spitting the dummy when you say you're not interested. Not everyone has manners sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to save that sorta talk for the 2nd message

But agree manners cost nothing at least say please

You must be doing something right, as you get to a second message haha xx

I have my good moments admittedly "

Haha, hope those good moments lead to fun, as you seem to understand the nature of this place, and humour is definitely appreciated here xx

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Hereorthere


"I prefer to save that sorta talk for the 2nd message

But agree manners cost nothing at least say please

You must be doing something right, as you get to a second message haha xx

I have my good moments admittedly

Haha, hope those good moments lead to fun, as you seem to understand the nature of this place, and humour is definitely appreciated here xx"

Yeah when I grow the balls to actually message I may actually get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to save that sorta talk for the 2nd message

But agree manners cost nothing at least say please

You must be doing something right, as you get to a second message haha xx

I have my good moments admittedly

Haha, hope those good moments lead to fun, as you seem to understand the nature of this place, and humour is definitely appreciated here xx

Yeah when I grow the balls to actually message I may actually get there"

Haha, you will x and I’m sure you’ll have fun when you do. Good luck! xx

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By *elrose57Couple
over a year ago

reading

as a couple we have all sorts, like willing to give you a go, WOW we was over the moon, fuck where have they been hiding, just what we are looking for, and then they get on there high horse when you delete without opening message, as for manners there free, and acts of kindness gets you very far in life, so don't let them grind you down, and carry on being nice , thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We very, very rarely get a rude message from anybody. I guess we must just be lucky

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Hereorthere


"I prefer to save that sorta talk for the 2nd message

But agree manners cost nothing at least say please

You must be doing something right, as you get to a second message haha xx

Thank you very much lovely x

I have my good moments admittedly

Haha, hope those good moments lead to fun, as you seem to understand the nature of this place, and humour is definitely appreciated here xx

Yeah when I grow the balls to actually message I may actually get there

Haha, you will x and I’m sure you’ll have fun when you do. Good luck! xx"

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By *hor ThumbMan
over a year ago

bristol


"It really makes me cringe hearing about men talking to women like this!

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yes me too, how stupid and ignorant they are and there are no excuses or any other explination for it.i mean, have those lines the op set pointed out ever worked for anyone ever? another symptom of male privilage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo. "

One for the block list

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

One for the block list "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

One for the block list "

Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

One for the block list

Lol x"

I just don't understand these people who expect/demand replies. The only time I'm arsed about my messages being ignored is if I'm arranging to meet that person. Otherwise I just assume they're not interested. No big deal . Plenty more fish and all that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

One for the block list "

If you’re honest it’s because you have low self esteem, but somehow still have a big ego, and just like nagging. After all, you do post pics with your tits and ass on show, so what do you expect? Just trashy, and you reap what you sow so suck it up buttercup, it’s to be expected!

Obviously I’m joking, in case the sarcasm is lost on some. Misogyny alive and well, but sadly seems to be justifiable for being abusive xx

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

One for the block list

If you’re honest it’s because you have low self esteem, but somehow still have a big ego, and just like nagging. After all, you do post pics with your tits and ass on show, so what do you expect? Just trashy, and you reap what you sow so suck it up buttercup, it’s to be expected!

Obviously I’m joking, in case the sarcasm is lost on some. Misogyny alive and well, but sadly seems to be justifiable for being abusive xx"
How fucking dare you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

One for the block list

If you’re honest it’s because you have low self esteem, but somehow still have a big ego, and just like nagging. After all, you do post pics with your tits and ass on show, so what do you expect? Just trashy, and you reap what you sow so suck it up buttercup, it’s to be expected!

Obviously I’m joking, in case the sarcasm is lost on some. Misogyny alive and well, but sadly seems to be justifiable for being abusive xx How fucking dare you! "

I dare because you know I’m right, and I’m a woman, so I can get away with it!! see, even did flirty eyes so you’d forgive me, haha xx

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo. "

Woops, sorry

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

One for the block list

If you’re honest it’s because you have low self esteem, but somehow still have a big ego, and just like nagging. After all, you do post pics with your tits and ass on show, so what do you expect? Just trashy, and you reap what you sow so suck it up buttercup, it’s to be expected!

Obviously I’m joking, in case the sarcasm is lost on some. Misogyny alive and well, but sadly seems to be justifiable for being abusive xx How fucking dare you!

I dare because you know I’m right, and I’m a woman, so I can get away with it!! see, even did flirty eyes so you’d forgive me, haha xx"

To a degree you are yeah but it comes from a lack of discipline in my opinion.

Hey, don't tease if you're not gonna play that's rude and unforgivable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

One for the block list

If you’re honest it’s because you have low self esteem, but somehow still have a big ego, and just like nagging. After all, you do post pics with your tits and ass on show, so what do you expect? Just trashy, and you reap what you sow so suck it up buttercup, it’s to be expected!

Obviously I’m joking, in case the sarcasm is lost on some. Misogyny alive and well, but sadly seems to be justifiable for being abusive xx How fucking dare you!

I dare because you know I’m right, and I’m a woman, so I can get away with it!! see, even did flirty eyes so you’d forgive me, haha xx

To a degree you are yeah but it comes from a lack of discipline in my opinion.

Hey, don't tease if you're not gonna play that's rude and unforgivable."

Shhh, if Mr thinks I’m showing a lack of discipline I’ll be in trouble, haha x

Sorry about that, I forgot that flirting in anyway means you have to guarantee you put out. My bad. Please forgive me, I’m appalled at my lack of manners. I solemnly swear to be a miserable bugger instead xx

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

One for the block list

If you’re honest it’s because you have low self esteem, but somehow still have a big ego, and just like nagging. After all, you do post pics with your tits and ass on show, so what do you expect? Just trashy, and you reap what you sow so suck it up buttercup, it’s to be expected!

Obviously I’m joking, in case the sarcasm is lost on some. Misogyny alive and well, but sadly seems to be justifiable for being abusive xx How fucking dare you!

I dare because you know I’m right, and I’m a woman, so I can get away with it!! see, even did flirty eyes so you’d forgive me, haha xx

To a degree you are yeah but it comes from a lack of discipline in my opinion.

Hey, don't tease if you're not gonna play that's rude and unforgivable.

Shhh, if Mr thinks I’m showing a lack of discipline I’ll be in trouble, haha x

Sorry about that, I forgot that flirting in anyway means you have to guarantee you put out. My bad. Please forgive me, I’m appalled at my lack of manners. I solemnly swear to be a miserable bugger instead xx"
I'll let you off this time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good manners should he answering messages and not blocking people. Its just trashy behaviour to do that imo.

One for the block list

If you’re honest it’s because you have low self esteem, but somehow still have a big ego, and just like nagging. After all, you do post pics with your tits and ass on show, so what do you expect? Just trashy, and you reap what you sow so suck it up buttercup, it’s to be expected!

Obviously I’m joking, in case the sarcasm is lost on some. Misogyny alive and well, but sadly seems to be justifiable for being abusive xx How fucking dare you!

I dare because you know I’m right, and I’m a woman, so I can get away with it!! see, even did flirty eyes so you’d forgive me, haha xx

To a degree you are yeah but it comes from a lack of discipline in my opinion.

Hey, don't tease if you're not gonna play that's rude and unforgivable.

Shhh, if Mr thinks I’m showing a lack of discipline I’ll be in trouble, haha x

Sorry about that, I forgot that flirting in anyway means you have to guarantee you put out. My bad. Please forgive me, I’m appalled at my lack of manners. I solemnly swear to be a miserable bugger instead xx I'll let you off this time."

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good manners is reading the FAQs before getting down to messaging, reading the profile of the person you're messaging and seeing if you meet the criteria they are looking for, and then...and ONLY then...introducing yourself in a fairly short but interesting message, something that might make you stand out from the crowd a little, and hopefully draw a response if the person you've messaged is interested. If they're not then expect your message to be deleted...it's not bad manners, its just practicality.

Just be nice everyone...there's enough crap flying around in the real world without it having to pollute Fab as well. Enjoy.

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By *otBunsHunWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them

Was once asked by a bloke if I had an animal that he could abuse after he’d fucked me! What in the actual fuck!!!!! Wierdo, block! "
I had someone ask me if their dog could have a go....er..wtf..no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good manners is reading the FAQs before getting down to messaging, reading the profile of the person you're messaging and seeing if you meet the criteria they are looking for, and then...and ONLY then...introducing yourself in a fairly short but interesting message, something that might make you stand out from the crowd a little, and hopefully draw a response if the person you've messaged is interested. If they're not then expect your message to be deleted...it's not bad manners, its just practicality.

Just be nice everyone...there's enough crap flying around in the real world without it having to pollute Fab as well. Enjoy.

"

This!!! xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This made me chuckle totally agree with most of the above. But how many profiles have you read that complain about people say hi how are you?

You just can't win on this site lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Good manners is reading the FAQs before getting down to messaging, reading the profile of the person you're messaging and seeing if you meet the criteria they are looking for, and then...and ONLY then...introducing yourself in a fairly short but interesting message, something that might make you stand out from the crowd a little, and hopefully draw a response if the person you've messaged is interested. If they're not then expect your message to be deleted...it's not bad manners, its just practicality.

Just be nice everyone...there's enough crap flying around in the real world without it having to pollute Fab as well. Enjoy.

"

Love it. So true xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is anyone else sick of messages from people with no manners?

Would you walk up to someone you've never met before and say 'wanna fuck' or 'I'm gonna destroy you'?

No wonder so many people on here complain that no one will meet them

Was once asked by a bloke if I had an animal that he could abuse after he’d fucked me! What in the actual fuck!!!!! Wierdo, block! I had someone ask me if their dog could have a go....er..wtf..no"

There are some right creeps about. Definitely either trying to sound like extreme deviants (bestiality impresses who though???) or candidates for having their pets taken from them for their well-being xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This made me chuckle totally agree with most of the above. But how many profiles have you read that complain about people say hi how are you?

You just can't win on this site lol"

There’s a difference between a boring and generic “hi, how are you?” and being crude or abusive. What’s wrong with getting the balance right and sending an interesting message? But still accepting that you could be the politest person in the world, and you may still get no response- it’s not a given or an entitlement (not saying you’re saying that btw) but too many seem to think they’re owed one (btw, please respond, I’ve been polite, lol) Xx

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By *lappyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I always use manners in the messages and even if I receive a reply which reads not for me, I will reply with a thank you and good luck with your fab adventures

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By *inn2000Woman
over a year ago

belfast


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Ditto! We must attract the same ones "

Haha me too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Ditto! We must attract the same ones

Haha me too "

We must instantly get bigger once they've been rejected lol xx

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"I always use manners in the messages and even if I receive a reply which reads not for me, I will reply with a thank you and good luck with your fab adventures "

Likewise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually get the 'you're a fat bitch anyway. It's your loss' haha.

Ditto! We must attract the same ones

Haha me too

We must instantly get bigger once they've been rejected lol xx"

Proper laughing at this. Bigger, uglier or turn into slags x

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