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"Ghosting is after you have met somebody though. It is cowardly behaviour." We did meet... Socially with plan of playing this weekend. | |||
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"Ghosting is after you have met somebody though. It is cowardly behaviour. We did meet... Socially with plan of playing this weekend." Ah right, maybe got cold feet. | |||
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"Ghosting is after you have met somebody though. It is cowardly behaviour. We did meet... Socially with plan of playing this weekend." Looking at your pics I'd say it's definitely his loss  | |||
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"Ghosting is after you have met somebody though. It is cowardly behaviour. We did meet... Socially with plan of playing this weekend. Looking at your pics I'd say it's definitely his loss "I concur  | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr" You can have the abundant mindset though. Be queues lining up.  | |||
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"It's crap isn't it... It's not that hard to say thanks but no thanks is it..? Chris x Ps. He must be mad...! " I really could understand someone saying- No thanks. I’m a big enough girl... But nothing after weeks of messages- meeting and sending pics. I feel rejected Lol Mrs P | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr" Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. | |||
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"Am I allowed to admit I feel disappointed that a gentleman we were in talks of meeting this Friday has ghosted us? Plans sadly changed from us to meet in a certain location- but we were still happy to meet. It’s such a shame... you put in so much energy and excitement... Sad that someone can’t just say- No thank you- my options have changed/ I no longer want to meet. Where has decency gone? Mrs P "He crazy not to meet you, but unfortunately as most couple and single ladies say you just have to move on, people change their minds weather their women, couples, or men. Put it down to experience plenty more single guys on here. | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. " I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives" If you've already met him and he turned up last time, he may well do. | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives" On a scale of 1 to 10 how attractive would you say he was? | |||
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"Oh yes we all accept a valid reason life can't always go to plan but a decent person has decency to give that reason and explain or apologise or rearrange perhaps as well as sceptical I'm bit old fashion in my ways x" Yup Exactapod | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives On a scale of 1 to 10 how attractive would you say he was?" Lol 6 or 7... sexy as fuck but hadn’t seen his cock yet!   | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives On a scale of 1 to 10 how attractive would you say he was? Lol 6 or 7... sexy as fuck but hadn’t seen his cock yet! "I would of guessed higher as he might have a more abundant mindset with women. Some flake because they get a more appealing offer to themselves like maybe a 1-1. | |||
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"Am I allowed to admit I feel disappointed that a gentleman we were in talks of meeting this Friday has ghosted us? Plans sadly changed from us to meet in a certain location- but we were still happy to meet. It’s such a shame... you put in so much energy and excitement... Sad that someone can’t just say- No thank you- my options have changed/ I no longer want to meet. Where has decency gone? Mrs P "Happened so much to us. I don’t think we’re an unattractive couple. Sure we look better in the flesh than our pics. Yet still we struggle. Either they disappear before a social or get cold feet on play meets. Given up with Fab now as nothing since September but disappointment after disappointment so profile hidden and we’re concentrating on friends, clubs, socials and fun. (And dipping into forum!) people forget to be honest on here and that’s where the decency has disappeared to...Mrs J | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives On a scale of 1 to 10 how attractive would you say he was? Lol 6 or 7... sexy as fuck but hadn’t seen his cock yet! "Well as the others have already commented he must be made as your as sexy as hell and it would be a dream to play with you | |||
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"Am I allowed to admit I feel disappointed that a gentleman we were in talks of meeting this Friday has ghosted us? Plans sadly changed from us to meet in a certain location- but we were still happy to meet. It’s such a shame... you put in so much energy and excitement... Sad that someone can’t just say- No thank you- my options have changed/ I no longer want to meet. Where has decency gone? Mrs P
Happened so much to us. I don’t think we’re an unattractive couple. Sure we look better in the flesh than our pics. Yet still we struggle. Either they disappear before a social or get cold feet on play meets. Given up with Fab now as nothing since September but disappointment after disappointment so profile hidden and we’re concentrating on friends, clubs, socials and fun. (And dipping into forum!) people forget to be honest on here and that’s where the decency has disappeared to...Mrs J"I’m so sorry to hear that. It is truly pants! X | |||
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"Am I allowed to admit I feel disappointed that a gentleman we were in talks of meeting this Friday has ghosted us? Plans sadly changed from us to meet in a certain location- but we were still happy to meet. It’s such a shame... you put in so much energy and excitement... Sad that someone can’t just say- No thank you- my options have changed/ I no longer want to meet. Where has decency gone? Mrs P
Happened so much to us. I don’t think we’re an unattractive couple. Sure we look better in the flesh than our pics. Yet still we struggle. Either they disappear before a social or get cold feet on play meets. Given up with Fab now as nothing since September but disappointment after disappointment so profile hidden and we’re concentrating on friends, clubs, socials and fun. (And dipping into forum!) people forget to be honest on here and that’s where the decency has disappeared to...Mrs J"Your very right in what you say but don't give up there's some genuine decent people still here x | |||
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"Stand down Stand down He’s been back in touch Seems the power of you guys has brought him out of the shadows " His ears were burning. | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives On a scale of 1 to 10 how attractive would you say he was? Lol 6 or 7... sexy as fuck but hadn’t seen his cock yet!
Well as the others have already commented he must be made as your as sexy as hell and it would be a dream to play with you"Lol You flirt x | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives On a scale of 1 to 10 how attractive would you say he was? Lol 6 or 7... sexy as fuck but hadn’t seen his cock yet!
Well as the others have already commented he must be made as your as sexy as hell and it would be a dream to play with you
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You flirt x"Can't help but agree with his statement about you xx | |||
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"Stand down Stand down He’s been back in touch Seems the power of you guys has brought him out of the shadows His ears were burning. "He has his spies Or other profiles  | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives On a scale of 1 to 10 how attractive would you say he was? Lol 6 or 7... sexy as fuck but hadn’t seen his cock yet!
Well as the others have already commented he must be made as your as sexy as hell and it would be a dream to play with you
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You flirt x
Can't help but agree with his statement about you xx" | |||
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"Stand down Stand down He’s been back in touch Seems the power of you guys has brought him out of the shadows " Alls well that ends well | |||
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"Stand down Stand down He’s been back in touch Seems the power of you guys has brought him out of the shadows Alls well that ends well "Well- we can only but see... I’m all for giving people a second chance But if he steps out of line again- it’s honestly.... NEXT! I’ll make him do press ups next time I see him! Mrs P | |||
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"Stand down Stand down He’s been back in touch Seems the power of you guys has brought him out of the shadows Alls well that ends well
Well- we can only but see...
I’m all for giving people a second chance
But if he steps out of line again- it’s honestly.... NEXT!
I’ll make him do press ups next time I see him!
Mrs P"Mixed press-ups I'm sure | |||
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"Am I allowed to admit I feel disappointed that a gentleman we were in talks of meeting this Friday has ghosted us? Plans sadly changed from us to meet in a certain location- but we were still happy to meet. It’s such a shame... you put in so much energy and excitement... Sad that someone can’t just say- No thank you- my options have changed/ I no longer want to meet. Where has decency gone? Mrs P "He may have got cold feet. A lot of single guys like the idea of swinging. However when they get the chance to have a meet they shit themselves and get scared. | |||
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time. "I literally only meet by chance in clubs now if people just happened to be there. Takes me completely out of the ghosting/timewasting arena. I found there are so many flakes, fakes and time wasters on here that that's the only way I will let my time we spent now. I have a fabulous time at clubs, usually a lot more social than anything else, but it works for me and I feel it's time well spent and invested. Each to their own of course | |||
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time. "Oh no! Really? I’m nervous now x | |||
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time.
I literally only meet by chance in clubs now if people just happened to be there.
Takes me completely out of the ghosting/timewasting arena.
I found there are so many flakes, fakes and time wasters on here that that's the only way I will let my time we spent now.
I have a fabulous time at clubs, usually a lot more social than anything else, but it works for me and I feel it's time well spent and invested.
Each to their own of course"I just can’t get to clubs regularly enough | |||
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time.
I literally only meet by chance in clubs now if people just happened to be there.
Takes me completely out of the ghosting/timewasting arena.
I found there are so many flakes, fakes and time wasters on here that that's the only way I will let my time we spent now.
I have a fabulous time at clubs, usually a lot more social than anything else, but it works for me and I feel it's time well spent and invested.
Each to their own of course
I just can’t get to clubs regularly enough "Yes I can understand that it can be difficult and take a lot of arranging, babysitters, transport, etc | |||
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"The man was mad!  "Hell yeh! I will give him a second chance to redeem himself You know when you just hope the sex is going to be fab as the social was... Let’s see... we’ve rearranged for next weekend... I hope he rises to the occasion | |||
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time. "As well as being stunningly gorgeous it seems you may be if I may say to nice perhaps for your own good which in retrospect isn't a bad thing and giving people second chance shows even more good in you just don't let people take advantage of those qualities Why you have to be miles away from Kent xxx | |||
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"The man was mad!
Hell yeh!
I will give him a second chance to redeem himself
You know when you just hope the sex is going to be fab as the social was...
Let’s see... we’ve rearranged for next weekend...
I hope he rises to the occasion
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"The man was mad!
Hell yeh!
I will give him a second chance to redeem himself
You know when you just hope the sex is going to be fab as the social was...
Let’s see... we’ve rearranged for next weekend...
I hope he rises to the occasion
"I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you. I know how exciting it can be, when you get on so well with someone that ypu can't wait to see them again, for more. Hopefully it will wprk out and be as great as you anticipate. Like you OP, i like to give the benefit of the doubt, if i feel they are worth it. It's usually one more chance, then block | |||
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time.
As well as being stunningly gorgeous it seems you may be if I may say to nice perhaps for your own good which in retrospect isn't a bad thing and giving people second chance shows even more good in you just don't let people take advantage of those qualities
Why you have to be miles away from Kent xxx "Thank you! That’s so kind I do hope I’m a good egg in this world. I have a lot of love to share. I have a great hubbie who has encouraged me to be true to myself. I guess I just want to be treated the way I would someone else- with respect.. X | |||
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"The man was mad!
Hell yeh!
I will give him a second chance to redeem himself
You know when you just hope the sex is going to be fab as the social was...
Let’s see... we’ve rearranged for next weekend...
I hope he rises to the occasion
I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you. I know how exciting it can be, when you get on so well with someone that ypu can't wait to see them again, for more. Hopefully it will wprk out and be as great as you anticipate. Like you OP, i like to give the benefit of the doubt, if i feel they are worth it. It's usually one more chance, then block "Lesson learnt boss x | |||
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"Believe it or not, that's the same kind of treatment single men get. I'm not saying what he did was right but he could have had some bad experiences in the past." I think it's the same treatment many seem to get, many times regardless of gender. | |||
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time.
Oh no! Really?
I’m nervous now x"Yeah I was really stupid lol.. I left it after the second one, months later he messaged again and I said yeah ok, if you promise. Got ready, sat waiting and nothing until days later with excuses, I blocked him after that. Mug I am a soft touch, I believe everyone deserves a second chance but its made me a bit more dubious with others.
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time.
Oh no! Really?
I’m nervous now x
Yeah I was really stupid lol.. I left it after the second one, months later he messaged again and I said yeah ok, if you promise. Got ready, sat waiting and nothing until days later with excuses, I blocked him after that.
Mug I am a soft touch, I believe everyone deserves a second chance but its made me a bit more dubious with others.
I am sure you will be ok, and won't have as bad luck as me lol x"Oh no! That’s just disgraceful! You’d think mature gentlemen would have some balls... I’m nervous now... should men on here get a second chance- or not? | |||
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"Believe it or not, that's the same kind of treatment single men get. I'm not saying what he did was right but he could have had some bad experiences in the past. I think it's the same treatment many seem to get, many times regardless of gender." That's true, unfortunately nothing can be done about it. Since I've stopped making the first moves I've actually been really lucky with the type of people I interact with and meet on here
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time.
Oh no! Really?
I’m nervous now x
Yeah I was really stupid lol.. I left it after the second one, months later he messaged again and I said yeah ok, if you promise. Got ready, sat waiting and nothing until days later with excuses, I blocked him after that.
Mug I am a soft touch, I believe everyone deserves a second chance but its made me a bit more dubious with others.
I am sure you will be ok, and won't have as bad luck as me lol x
Oh no! That’s just disgraceful!
You’d think mature gentlemen would have some balls...
I’m nervous now... should men on here get a second chance- or not? "Surly that depends on the individual | |||
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time.
As well as being stunningly gorgeous it seems you may be if I may say to nice perhaps for your own good which in retrospect isn't a bad thing and giving people second chance shows even more good in you just don't let people take advantage of those qualities
Why you have to be miles away from Kent xxx "Ah thank you  yeah although it's a curse of its own, I just got a lot more wary of people and their intentions. Like I'd be less likely to meet people far away incase it happened or new people ect.
I'm soon to be snowed in too lol
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time.
As well as being stunningly gorgeous it seems you may be if I may say to nice perhaps for your own good which in retrospect isn't a bad thing and giving people second chance shows even more good in you just don't let people take advantage of those qualities
Why you have to be miles away from Kent xxx
Ah thank you yeah although it's a curse of its own, I just got a lot more wary of people and their intentions. Like I'd be less likely to meet people far away incase it happened or new people ect.
I'm soon to be snowed in too lol
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time.
Oh no! Really?
I’m nervous now x
Yeah I was really stupid lol.. I left it after the second one, months later he messaged again and I said yeah ok, if you promise. Got ready, sat waiting and nothing until days later with excuses, I blocked him after that.
Mug I am a soft touch, I believe everyone deserves a second chance but its made me a bit more dubious with others.
I am sure you will be ok, and won't have as bad luck as me lol x
Oh no! That’s just disgraceful!
You’d think mature gentlemen would have some balls...
I’m nervous now... should men on here get a second chance- or not? "Honestly, people deserve a second chance and he might of genuinely had something happen in life. Just make sure he knows there's no 3rd time, especially if you book hotel rooms. | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x" I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x" I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours. | |||
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"Hot op tell him he has pissed you off and when your meeting next weekend you'd like a live pic sent showing the place your meeting. Once done then you will set off yourself Like all the guys and the ladies have said what a knobjockey for actually messing you about My thoughts anyway x" I wouldn’t say he’s messed me about- I’m fact we were the ones that had to change the location. However- he Has not returned messages for a while even though read them... when it’s about a meet in two days that has become frustrating As a result- we have now rearranged. Do you think I’m over reacting now? | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours." 24 hours? That's not that long to be honest. He genuinely could have been busy. With you being a couple, perhaps he didnt feel it needed a prompt reply and got back to you, when he was able. I wouldn't blow someone out or be overly upset if they didn't communicate for that short length of time.... unless it was the day of the meet | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours." Please try to not let it affect you. Some people take advantage of decent honest people. It does sound like this person is being less than honest with you, and with themselves. A second chance is a luxury not to be squandered. A third chance really shouldn't happen. If it was me, I certainly wouldn't mess you about. I think I can speak for a large number of us on here in that sense x | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours. 24 hours? That's not that long to be honest. He genuinely could have been busy. With you being a couple, perhaps he didnt feel it needed a prompt reply and got back to you, when he was able. I wouldn't blow someone out or be overly upset if they didn't communicate for that short length of time.... unless it was the day of the meet "Thank you That was my initial thoughts Then I read people’s opinions on here and my mind became doubtful about timewasters. | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours. Please try to not let it affect you. Some people take advantage of decent honest people. It does sound like this person is being less than honest with you, and with themselves. A second chance is a luxury not to be squandered. A third chance really shouldn't happen. If it was me, I certainly wouldn't mess you about. I think I can speak for a large number of us on here in that sense x" Thank you for yet another kind and non judgemental opinion I really want to believe him but there is doubt in my mind and a tad mistrust. I think I’m answering my own queries- if I get a genuine apology now he knows I was confused then we can move on. But I honestly feel if I don’t then this ship has sailed sadly and I have to learn from this and all your advice here. X | |||
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"Am I allowed to admit I feel disappointed that a gentleman we were in talks of meeting this Friday has ghosted us? Plans sadly changed from us to meet in a certain location- but we were still happy to meet. It’s such a shame... you put in so much energy and excitement... Sad that someone can’t just say- No thank you- my options have changed/ I no longer want to meet. Where has decency gone? Mrs P "Did you cha ge the plans or did he you seem a bit vauge there | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours. 24 hours? That's not that long to be honest. He genuinely could have been busy. With you being a couple, perhaps he didnt feel it needed a prompt reply and got back to you, when he was able. I wouldn't blow someone out or be overly upset if they didn't communicate for that short length of time.... unless it was the day of the meet
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Based on what you've said, i don't think he is a timewaster. He has already met you for a social. He is still making arrangements with you. He got in touch before the date you were supposed to meet. I've had this a few times, where they've gone quiet for a day. In the grand scheme of things, it's little time at all. All i would say is to trust your instincts. People on here will give opinions based on experiences they've had, but it doesnt mean that it will be your experience. I would definitely give him the benefit of the doubt and hopefully you will have a great meet "Thank you x | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours. Please try to not let it affect you. Some people take advantage of decent honest people. It does sound like this person is being less than honest with you, and with themselves. A second chance is a luxury not to be squandered. A third chance really shouldn't happen. If it was me, I certainly wouldn't mess you about. I think I can speak for a large number of us on here in that sense x Thank you for yet another kind and non judgemental opinion I really want to believe him but there is doubt in my mind and a tad mistrust. I think I’m answering my own queries- if I get a genuine apology now he knows I was confused then we can move on. But I honestly feel if I don’t then this ship has sailed sadly and I have to learn from this and all your advice here. X" I would say that all my advice comes with a caveat. I'm great at giving it, but like many, not particularly good at taking it. Especially when it's my own...lol I hope things work out for you, especially as you seem like an intelligent and lovely couple. Annoyingly it's the decent ones who allow themselves to give a shit. It's when we give a shit, we open ourselves up for disappointment x | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives" Why do you need a reason? Not to put you on the spot but this is the world we live in nowadays. People have loads of options, other lives, illness, personal problems..sometimes meeting someone off the internet for sex or whatever, is just not high on someone’s agenda. By the way, I’ve been ghosted previously (after meeting) by both guys on my veris!! They added these veris when I came back on here, hoping to change my mind no doubt. I’ll not be meeting them again, for sure! Don’t think too much about it, it is what it is, unfortunately. :-s | |||
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"The best thing is When mr P wakes im the morning and reads this he is going to laugh, cuddle me and make me realise I’ve nothing to worry about And either: It’s all going to be fine next week Or There are plenty more hot cocks in the sea P.S you guys are all awesome! X" Love this x | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives Why do you need a reason? Not to put you on the spot but this is the world we live in nowadays. People have loads of options, other lives, illness, personal problems..sometimes meeting someone off the internet for sex or whatever, is just not high on someone’s agenda. By the way, I’ve been ghosted previously (after meeting) by both guys on my veris!! They added these veris when I came back on here, hoping to change my mind no doubt. I’ll not be meeting them again, for sure! Don’t think too much about it, it is what it is, unfortunately. :-s" I wish I had your confidence and balls Perhaps I’m too soft for this game? X | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives Why do you need a reason? Not to put you on the spot but this is the world we live in nowadays. People have loads of options, other lives, illness, personal problems..sometimes meeting someone off the internet for sex or whatever, is just not high on someone’s agenda. By the way, I’ve been ghosted previously (after meeting) by both guys on my veris!! They added these veris when I came back on here, hoping to change my mind no doubt. I’ll not be meeting them again, for sure! Don’t think too much about it, it is what it is, unfortunately. :-s I wish I had your confidence and balls Perhaps I’m too soft for this game? X" Not at all! It’s just a sign of modern times I’m sorry to say. As frustrating as it is, you just have to pick yourself up, remember to never do that to others and move on to the next! Never take it personally, as you never know what’s going on in someone’s life. x | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives Why do you need a reason? Not to put you on the spot but this is the world we live in nowadays. People have loads of options, other lives, illness, personal problems..sometimes meeting someone off the internet for sex or whatever, is just not high on someone’s agenda. By the way, I’ve been ghosted previously (after meeting) by both guys on my veris!! They added these veris when I came back on here, hoping to change my mind no doubt. I’ll not be meeting them again, for sure! Don’t think too much about it, it is what it is, unfortunately. :-s I wish I had your confidence and balls Perhaps I’m too soft for this game? X" I'm extremely soft. But I've set myself a system that works for me now. I understand you can't club as much as me, but you can decide on what you will and won't accept and how you are going to go about it. | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives Why do you need a reason? Not to put you on the spot but this is the world we live in nowadays. People have loads of options, other lives, illness, personal problems..sometimes meeting someone off the internet for sex or whatever, is just not high on someone’s agenda. By the way, I’ve been ghosted previously (after meeting) by both guys on my veris!! They added these veris when I came back on here, hoping to change my mind no doubt. I’ll not be meeting them again, for sure! Don’t think too much about it, it is what it is, unfortunately. :-s I wish I had your confidence and balls Perhaps I’m too soft for this game? X Not at all! It’s just a sign of modern times I’m sorry to say. As frustrating as it is, you just have to pick yourself up, remember to never do that to others and move on to the next! Never take it personally, as you never know what’s going on in someone’s life. x" | |||
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives Why do you need a reason? Not to put you on the spot but this is the world we live in nowadays. People have loads of options, other lives, illness, personal problems..sometimes meeting someone off the internet for sex or whatever, is just not high on someone’s agenda. By the way, I’ve been ghosted previously (after meeting) by both guys on my veris!! They added these veris when I came back on here, hoping to change my mind no doubt. I’ll not be meeting them again, for sure! Don’t think too much about it, it is what it is, unfortunately. :-s I wish I had your confidence and balls Perhaps I’m too soft for this game? X Not at all! It’s just a sign of modern times I’m sorry to say. As frustrating as it is, you just have to pick yourself up, remember to never do that to others and move on to the next! Never take it personally, as you never know what’s going on in someone’s life. x" Very mature and true opinion Thank you x | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours." Wait so the meet isnt till next week and he hasnt replied for a day a week in advance and your accusing him of ghosting you? 
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours. Wait so the meet isnt till next week and he hasnt replied for a day a week in advance and your accusing him of ghosting you?
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"Thank you for all your kind words... I guess we all just invest so much time and effort. There are some top guys on here- and when you feel like you’ve said no to some to meet with someone else who actually is going to let you down... it’s disappointing. Grrrrrrrr Maybe he'll pop back up, you never know. I know I’d understand if he was able to give me a valid reason... as I know everyone has lives Why do you need a reason? Not to put you on the spot but this is the world we live in nowadays. People have loads of options, other lives, illness, personal problems..sometimes meeting someone off the internet for sex or whatever, is just not high on someone’s agenda. By the way, I’ve been ghosted previously (after meeting) by both guys on my veris!! They added these veris when I came back on here, hoping to change my mind no doubt. I’ll not be meeting them again, for sure! Don’t think too much about it, it is what it is, unfortunately. :-s I wish I had your confidence and balls Perhaps I’m too soft for this game? X Not at all! It’s just a sign of modern times I’m sorry to say. As frustrating as it is, you just have to pick yourself up, remember to never do that to others and move on to the next! Never take it personally, as you never know what’s going on in someone’s life. x Very mature and true opinion Thank you x" Hey, I’ve wasted enough time myself racking my brain wondering why these people suddenly go awol. You never get an answer, unless something terrible happened and they were being genuine. One of my veris was even due to come round to mine, messaged ten mins before saying he’d a shower and was on his way...then nothing. Nothing at all. Nothing for months! I get suggestive messages off him all the time now but he’s blown it and I’ve lost interest. Probably has a girlfriend etc. A lot on here have other romantic interests going on in the real world. Best to just forget it and realise it’s not you, but a problem they have. | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours. Wait so the meet isnt till next week and he hasnt replied for a day a week in advance and your accusing him of ghosting you?
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Which is still a day away. He hasnt responded for one day thats not ghosting thats just adult life"Thank you Appreciate your opinion ... mr P even was doubting him which makes me wonder as he’s mr sensible in all of this. Just tough when he’s been responding/ sending messages regularly - then doesn’t respond. But you’re right. It is life sometimes and I’m grateful for your balanced opinion | |||
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"Ghosting is just rude. If somebody changes their mind for whatever reason, you deserve an explanation. After that point you have to decide whether it is a valid reason and how to move forward. Personally I would have to get a bloody good apology. You know you’re right... I didn’t actually get much of an apology... Just a - I’ve been busy... Strike two! Third strike and he’s out of here! Great advice x I'm glad I may have been of some help... I have met people from here who maybe weren't the greatest fit. You never know until you try yes? However I can't say I've followed up on someone I didn't like. I couldn't like someone like that. Piss poor excuses. There are plenty of people out there. Let's all just be honest about what we want x I actually can’t sleep because I’m a little rattled now... I mean it was only 24 hours but when you can see they have read the kik messages etc it has rattled me.... I am hoping tomorrow he may be able to say a sincere sorry Otherwise I think I may just be too pissed to meet him next week. As people say- there are tonnes of damn fine and respectful men on here- who can respond when you send a message about the meet in question and not blank you for 24 hours. Wait so the meet isnt till next week and he hasnt replied for a day a week in advance and your accusing him of ghosting you?
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"Oh yes if the day is still due to arrive - don’t freak out too much yet - I’m sure it’s just busy life and he might still be due to respond when he gets a minute x ps I love your profile and pics x "Thanks for your sanity! You guys all rock! Think I went a bit nuts there didn’t I? What time is it? Lol | |||
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"Oh yes if the day is still due to arrive - don’t freak out too much yet - I’m sure it’s just busy life and he might still be due to respond when he gets a minute x ps I love your profile and pics x
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You guys all rock!
Think I went a bit nuts there didn’t I?
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I mean I know it happens and people get cold feet, but he must have either been married and his conscience got the better of him, or he was just too intimidated by the thought of having to do you justice and be worthy of you. Either way it was ultimately his loss, but I understand how annoying it is for you x | |||
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"Hot op tell him he has pissed you off and when your meeting next weekend you'd like a live pic sent showing the place your meeting. Once done then you will set off yourself Like all the guys and the ladies have said what a knobjockey for actually messing you about My thoughts anyway x I wouldn’t say he’s messed me about- I’m fact we were the ones that had to change the location. However- he Has not returned messages for a while even though read them... when it’s about a meet in two days that has become frustrating As a result- we have now rearranged. Do you think I’m over reacting now? If he's that blase without even a single daily message leading up to the meet bit of flirting etc building things up it seems like he isn't too flustered tbh so if I was you I'd still go with the live pic and location on messenger And I still can't believe I'm saying this to a hotwife like yourself if you can get that x I am a tad confused with your message... Live pic and location? But I agree- why no messages leading up to meet... " A live pic of the place your meeting And share location on messenger or WhatsApp If he moves from the bar when your on your way,you'll know what to do lol Goodnight Devon hotwife x | |||
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"Hot op tell him he has pissed you off and when your meeting next weekend you'd like a live pic sent showing the place your meeting. Once done then you will set off yourself Like all the guys and the ladies have said what a knobjockey for actually messing you about My thoughts anyway x I wouldn’t say he’s messed me about- I’m fact we were the ones that had to change the location. However- he Has not returned messages for a while even though read them... when it’s about a meet in two days that has become frustrating As a result- we have now rearranged. Do you think I’m over reacting now? If he's that blase without even a single daily message leading up to the meet bit of flirting etc building things up it seems like he isn't too flustered tbh so if I was you I'd still go with the live pic and location on messenger And I still can't believe I'm saying this to a hotwife like yourself if you can get that x I am a tad confused with your message... Live pic and location? But I agree- why no messages leading up to meet... A live pic of the place your meeting And share location on messenger or WhatsApp If he moves from the bar when your on your way,you'll know what to do lol Goodnight Devon hotwife x" How low would your self worth have to be to jump through hoops like that? | |||
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"I can't believe someone would have a meet lined up with you and not turn up I mean I know it happens and people get cold feet, but he must have either been married and his conscience got the better of him, or he was just too intimidated by the thought of having to do you justice and be worthy of you. Either way it was ultimately his loss, but I understand how annoying it is for you x"Err the meet isnt till friday. | |||
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"Thid thread is beautiful for the guys tripping up over themselves to try and get in though "It sure it, spread your cheeks then pretty boy | |||
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The things you read on the forums.....
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"Happened lots of times to me. Even a mutual friend of ours OP. Who is obviously not my friend anymore. Wonder who this chap is?? Fab is a very small world remember. Gem x" It’s ok! Can see your veri to him | |||
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"Happened lots of times to me. Even a mutual friend of ours OP. Who is obviously not my friend anymore. Wonder who this chap is?? Fab is a very small world remember. Gem x" What happened to you? A person you were planning on meeting didnt keep in 100% daily communication with you? You wonder who this guy is!? Seriously your starting a fucking witch hunt because a guy who has a meet on Friday didnt message a couple for all of bloody Wednesday? I think this may be time admin steps in here and deletes this if people who csnt read are getting the wrong end of the stick and now hunting the poor bastard down. Jesus christ | |||
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"Happened lots of times to me. Even a mutual friend of ours OP. Who is obviously not my friend anymore. Wonder who this chap is?? Fab is a very small world remember. Gem x What happened to you? A person you were planning on meeting didnt keep in 100% daily communication with you? You wonder who this guy is!? Seriously your starting a fucking witch hunt because a guy who has a meet on Friday didnt message a couple for all of bloody Wednesday? I think this may be time admin steps in here and deletes this if people who csnt read are getting the wrong end of the stick and now hunting the poor bastard down. Jesus christ" No ones hunting him down, you can obviously see a recent social veri. It's not rocket science is it. | |||
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"I can't believe someone would have a meet lined up with you and not turn up I mean I know it happens and people get cold feet, but he must have either been married and his conscience got the better of him, or he was just too intimidated by the thought of having to do you justice and be worthy of you. Either way it was ultimately his loss, but I understand how annoying it is for you x"You read the post all wrong and have now assumed a hell of a lot of negative things about a user you don't know. | |||
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"To the OP, sometimes patience is needed. Single men ( or whoever people are meeting ) don't have to answer mails or texts straight away, sometimes life is more important" You’re so right... He has been awesome and messaged me a few times since I was very grateful for everyone’s support last night when I needed it and the sensible tough love when I needed to realise life is - well life. He’s a great guy. I am looking forward to our meet and will look forward to hopefully a happy number of meets in the future. We just need to communicate what we both expect of each other for us to all be happy. Thanks again x | |||
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"To the OP, sometimes patience is needed. Single men ( or whoever people are meeting ) don't have to answer mails or texts straight away, sometimes life is more important You’re so right... He has been awesome and messaged me a few times since I was very grateful for everyone’s support last night when I needed it and the sensible tough love when I needed to realise life is - well life. Good to hear he's got in touch x have lots of fun gorgeous good luck xx He’s a great guy. I am looking forward to our meet and will look forward to hopefully a happy number of meets in the future. We just need to communicate what we both expect of each other for us to all be happy. Thanks again x" | |||
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"It is really shit, if you've invested your time and are talking constantly to build it up, you're excited and it's such a drop when you get ignored or stood up. Ive had quite a few now but I don't do socials, it does get me a bit bummed but I can spot a guy with a partner a mile away now or a time waster. I'd say it makes me less likely to meet new people .
Don't fall for excuses, I've given benefit of the doubt and even been stood up a second time.
Oh no! Really?
I’m nervous now x
Yeah I was really stupid lol.. I left it after the second one, months later he messaged again and I said yeah ok, if you promise. Got ready, sat waiting and nothing until days later with excuses, I blocked him after that.
Mug I am a soft touch, I believe everyone deserves a second chance but its made me a bit more dubious with others.
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"When looking for single guys on here most of the ones we’ve chosen have been great. Couples however are terrible for this. Twice we’ve booked a hotel room and been let down at the last minute. That’s with having good conversations with them for a few days:weeks aswell. We won’t make the same mistake again. That’s just rude! We’re not all like that x " | |||
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"Tell me something..... What is the proper way to say to someone? “ look you’re a cool person , but I don’t want to have sex with you anymore “ Without causing any harm...... I thought 'it's not you, it's me' was the go to way." No they start asking why?stating “ I can change “.. and then they start getting creepy on social media .... That’s why a block is necessary....... People on here blow my mind.... they will block someone for any reason under the sun , but think ghosting is terrible cowardly behavior.... | |||
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"Tell me something..... What is the proper way to say to someone? “ look you’re a cool person , but I don’t want to have sex with you anymore “ Without causing any harm...... I thought 'it's not you, it's me' was the go to way. No they start asking why?stating “ I can change “.. and then they start getting creepy on social media .... That’s why a block is necessary....... People on here blow my mind.... they will block someone for any reason under the sun , but think ghosting is terrible cowardly behavior...." Ghosting is still cowardly though. I can handle a lot worse than being rejected for sex. I'm not changing, I looked into stuff recently but it's not for me. | |||
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"Thank you! I can see why some men and women may prefer to just keep the sex as just that. Turn up. Fuck. Leave. But that’s not what I’m after or had advertised. We had even met and talked about this. He had been messaging regularly- meet was arranged. Location sadly had to change but he has then just done a sad runner. It’s such a shame and I now actually feel sorry for him. He had the opportunity to be into a regular thing with a top couple (if we can say about ourselves). Some blokes (and NOT all)- think that this is easy on here. He was new. Literally two weeks in. He’s going to get a shock when he finds how hard the competition really is- especially in little Devon. I am frustrated at his immaturity as I had high expectations for him- and now I am disappointed in him! Mrs P" Maybe he didnt take kindly to this thread? | |||
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"Thank you! I can see why some men and women may prefer to just keep the sex as just that. Turn up. Fuck. Leave. But that’s not what I’m after or had advertised. We had even met and talked about this. He had been messaging regularly- meet was arranged. Location sadly had to change but he has then just done a sad runner. It’s such a shame and I now actually feel sorry for him. He had the opportunity to be into a regular thing with a top couple (if we can say about ourselves). Some blokes (and NOT all)- think that this is easy on here. He was new. Literally two weeks in. He’s going to get a shock when he finds how hard the competition really is- especially in little Devon. I am frustrated at his immaturity as I had high expectations for him- and now I am disappointed in him! Mrs P" Sorry to Hear that. | |||
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"Thank you! I can see why some men and women may prefer to just keep the sex as just that. Turn up. Fuck. Leave. But that’s not what I’m after or had advertised. We had even met and talked about this. He had been messaging regularly- meet was arranged. Location sadly had to change but he has then just done a sad runner. It’s such a shame and I now actually feel sorry for him. He had the opportunity to be into a regular thing with a top couple (if we can say about ourselves). Some blokes (and NOT all)- think that this is easy on here. He was new. Literally two weeks in. He’s going to get a shock when he finds how hard the competition really is- especially in little Devon. I am frustrated at his immaturity as I had high expectations for him- and now I am disappointed in him! Mrs P Maybe he didnt take kindly to this thread?" Where up until today did I say anything negative about him? I can just imagine how he found out about this thread... | |||
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"That is a shame. But In all honesty, he'd only been on the site for two weeks. Perhaps the idea of meeting someone regularly, when he'd only been on a short period of time, became overwhelming, the more he considered it. When they are New, they don't know what to expect and it can become too much. I know I was like that when i initially joined. You have some lovely pictures in your gallery. I'm sure you won't struggle to find someone who suits what you are looking for. I'm also pleased that this hasn't Jaded you. There are some great guys on here "wise words worth considering a different perspective to what I wrote x | |||
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"Tell me something..... What is the proper way to say to someone? “ look you’re a cool person , but I don’t want to have sex with you anymore “ Without causing any harm...... Sex anymore? Would you let it get that far if you weren't attracted to a person? I won't lie, I think you have to have a bit of a thick skin to be on here. I know from talking to someone after a few messages whether we'll hit it off or not and I'm not afraid of saying, look I'm sorry but unfortunately Im not feeling the chemistry here. It may hurt a bit at first, but what's worse? If you're string someone along and ghosting them? Least they'll have closure on it. I honestly think it's better to be honest, I would prefer it. " I understand everything you’re saying but for guys it’s a little different... When I’m looking for a partner I look for totally different attributes than when I’m looking for a sex buddy..... I like certain kinks that I will bypass ascetics to fulfill my fantasy’s.... But here is the problem, because you have a great time with someone sexually that doesn’t mean you want more.... Not all women , but some start getting attached, and want to spend time with you away from the bedroom..... That’s when it starts getting confusing....... You then have two choices..... Acquiesce to her demands to keep having sex with her... Or end it there and find someone else..... You can’t tell someone you are good enough to have sex with but not worth a relationship..... I’ve tried it in the past and it became a mess.... This is the reason I only play with couples and ghost single women.... | |||
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"That is a shame. But In all honesty, he'd only been on the site for two weeks. Perhaps the idea of meeting someone regularly, when he'd only been on a short period of time, became overwhelming, the more he considered it. When they are New, they don't know what to expect and it can become too much. I know I was like that when i initially joined. You have some lovely pictures in your gallery. I'm sure you won't struggle to find someone who suits what you are looking for. I'm also pleased that this hasn't Jaded you. There are some great guys on here "Thanks babes Especially that you seem to get it x | |||
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"imagine if the op was a guy and everything in reverse ..the guy would have been ripped to pieces .... nobody owes anybody anything as in real life trust no one until trust is earnt" But I’m not a guy I am a little more sensitive I put emotion into my friendships etc and into those we play with. So me coming here to listen to other wise swingers advice/ experiences has actually been really good as it’s strengthened what I want/ we want... and most certainly those we don’t! Mrs P | |||
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"imagine if the op was a guy and everything in reverse ..the guy would have been ripped to pieces .... nobody owes anybody anything as in real life trust no one until trust is earnt" Its possible but I dont think he would on this topic. Although the op has received the odd side swipe on this tread. | |||
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"imagine if the op was a guy and everything in reverse ..the guy would have been ripped to pieces .... nobody owes anybody anything as in real life trust no one until trust is earnt Its possible but I dont think he would on this topic. Although the op has received the odd side swipe on this tread." What’s a side swipe? | |||
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"imagine if the op was a guy and everything in reverse ..the guy would have been ripped to pieces .... nobody owes anybody anything as in real life trust no one until trust is earnt Its possible but I dont think he would on this topic. Although the op has received the odd side swipe on this tread. What’s a side swipe?" Some small digs | |||
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"imagine if the op was a guy and everything in reverse ..the guy would have been ripped to pieces .... nobody owes anybody anything as in real life trust no one until trust is earnt But I’m not a guy I am a little more sensitive I put emotion into my friendships etc and into those we play with. So me coming here to listen to other wise swingers advice/ experiences has actually been really good as it’s strengthened what I want/ we want... and most certainly those we don’t! Mrs P " You have done nothing wrong. Remember our conversation. Stay true. Do it your way x | |||
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