FabSwingers.com forum: Telling a new partner

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am in a new relationship with An amazing women who doesn't know firstly I swing and also that I am.bi.

We have not been exclusive so that's why still on here but after my ok today she asked where we where heading

How do I bring all.of thus up as don't want to hide who I am?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

i think you need to sit down and tell her everything. Yes there is a chance she may walk away but would you really want to spend your whole life with someone you couldnt be 100% honest with and true to yourself. Good luck

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You need to have a long conversation and be honest with her. Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i think you need to sit down and tell her everything. Yes there is a chance she may walk away but would you really want to spend your whole life with someone you couldnt be 100% honest with and true to yourself. Good luck"

You are right not going to lie just no idea how to bring it up my ex was one who brought me into this life so not had to have this chat before lol

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Take a deep breath and tell her... especially if you want to carry on this and introduce her to it....if she freaks out so be it.

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

If your still meeting people whilst in this new relationship then you're not swinging, you're cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe when your playing ask her what her fantasies are and test the water? Just a thought

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Sit down with her and discuss how you *both* want your relationship to move forward. This means you listening to her as much as her listening to you. From this frank and open discussion the two of you can develop a mutually satisfying relationship or decide that you don't want the same things and agree to part.

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By *orksCouple25Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"If your still meeting people whilst in this new relationship then you're not swinging, you're cheating"

He said it wasn’t an exclusive relationship ie fun buddies or friends with benefits etc so he’s not cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever you tell her, if she's a good person she'll respect your honesty. If she doesn't want to continue you will at least have the knowledge that you did the right thing by her and that's the kind of shit money can't buy.

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

Question is if she says no way that’s not for me!

What do you value more, keeping her and not swinging or stay single and swinging with possibly finding someone who understands you?

I personally think now you’ve had a taste of the good life you’d struggle to live a normal vannila boring life again so be careful what you promise as you might not be able to keep them!

Good luck and look forward to hearing out come! Better than waste Dred this lol

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

Do you want her to join in this life? Or would you be content in a monogamous relationship? I think that would be the first hurdle.

Then, address things one at at time. Give her time to adjust.

It's shocking how many people still believe that man + man = HIV = AIDS = DEATH to all.

Get a recent bill of health to show your status when you bring it up?

If that goes well, bring up swinging. Straightforward, honest, and what it means to you and will to her.

If this turns out to be a long term relationship for you, do you really want to go into it hiding who you are?

Good luck.

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

I always thought if you were single and not in a relationship that to call your self a swinger was somewhat misleading. Couples swing. Single men fuck ?!???!

Is I wrong

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"I always thought if you were single and not in a relationship that to call your self a swinger was somewhat misleading. Couples swing. Single men fuck ?!???!

Is I wrong "

If a couple has a FMM+ are the extra guys just pulling, then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always thought if you were single and not in a relationship that to call your self a swinger was somewhat misleading. Couples swing. Single men fuck ?!???!

Is I wrong "

You are opening a can of worms you know don't you :- )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am in a new relationship with An amazing women who doesn't know firstly I swing and also that I am.bi.

We have not been exclusive so that's why still on here but after my ok today she asked where we where heading

How do I bring all.of thus up as don't want to hide who I am? "

If you are having the "where are we heading conversation" then now is the right time to agree what a long term relationship will look like and then to decide if it suits you both. If you don't have the conversation now you will have to have it at a later date and it will be harder to do.

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

Don't roll it out as if it is some terrible thing that you're ashamed of, as she is like to respond accordingly (the same goes for telling a partner about a kink).

I had a similar conversation this week with my guy (although it was more checking in, as he has known from the outset what I'm about). I was a bit nervous about how it might go but I framed things positively and made it clear how much I value him and it all went really well

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By *iverpool 2Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I was on fab before I met Mrs L2, from the outset I was honest and told her about fab & swinging.

Luckily for me she was very bi curious and the thought of swinging had turned her on in the past, if she had told me she wasn’t interested in any of this I would have been happy to give all this up, as it is she is just as naughty as me and we’re loving every minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are right not going to lie just no idea how to bring it up my ex was one who brought me into this life so not had to have this chat before lol "

Explain it’s something your ex got you into and you carried on. Ask her if she is ok with this and if she isn’t and you really want to make a go of it then leave fab. Good luck x

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

"I was on fab before I met Mrs L2, from the outset I was honest and told her about fab & swinging.

Think you died and went to heaven when you met Mrs L2

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"I always thought if you were single and not in a relationship that to call your self a swinger was somewhat misleading. Couples swing. Single men fuck ?!???!

Is I wrong

You are opening a can of worms you know don't you :- )"

O I do hope so

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