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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So who is willing to send the first message? Or does it depend on the guy? X

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

I think it guys message 1st normally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly admit I've received more than I've sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send the 1st one to someone I'd like to possibly meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the man. If I’m looking and I see someone I think I’d like to meet, I’ll give them a message

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

I sent the 1st one to Del. And the rest they say is history. 2 yrs married this Yr.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I've sent first messages to guys I like the look of or whose profiles I like x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rare I get a message first. It’s usually me sending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just send a message to a girl I like the look of. I know I’m new to this but I thought that’s how it worked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very rare for me to message first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ll generally get messaged first if it’s in response time to something (status, etc). I will message women I like the look of first but it’s nice to receive one out the blue too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely send the first message.

Normally if I said the first message it's a response to something from the forum.

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

If I see a profile I like or profile pics I appreciate I will send the first message

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I'm doing this more often these days. It works out quite well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve sent one in a whole year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on the man. If I’m looking and I see someone I think I’d like to meet, I’ll give them a message "

Where are your public photos? I can't perv on you today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a lush surprise though when you do get one especially off a proper hotty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I for one am blown away

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan
over a year ago

North west

What about messaging couples? Can’t actually remember getting a message from a single female, but 100’s from single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a message?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have actually had a few first messages sent to me.

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent


"I sent the 1st one to Del. And the rest they say is history. 2 yrs married this Yr. "

Fuck me..you must have been his only message and he snapped you up quick. .

Im joking dont hang me fabbers..lol

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

It does happen but it's rare. Confident move for a woman I like it.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

I send the odd first message usually in response to forum posts or statuses. Often works out well .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never sent the first message......

I like to be hunted not the hunter......

Consequently I only get about 20 messages a week.....

18 are guys offering to suck me off , and 2 are couples profiles with only the husbands in Nyc available to meet......

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I have never sent the first message......

I like to be hunted not the hunter......

Consequently I only get about 20 messages a week.....

18 are guys offering to suck me off , and 2 are couples profiles with only the husbands in Nyc available to meet......"

I'd headhunt you too big boy if we were into that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That would be a good day.

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Oh?

I thought that ladies didn't get the mail option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had a few

I seem popular in ireland lol

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I've sent first messages to guys I like the look of or whose profiles I like x"
this for me too x

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By *ir Phineas Lucius AshbyMan
over a year ago

nr Chester NW


"I've sent first messages to guys I like the look of or whose profiles I like x this for me too x "

Well hello sally it would be my pleasure to meet you

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I've sent first messages to guys I like the look of or whose profiles I like x this for me too x

Well hello sally it would be my pleasure to meet you"
You're not getting the drift of this thread.

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

We have single males blocked.

I send messages when I’m wanting to meet.

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been steadily chatting to a woman who messaged me first on here. Probably the best conversation anyone has had with me here yet. She's hot too!

If that's how it is every time a woman messages first then please ladies feel free to slide into my inbox!

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I send as well as received

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I've probably received as many as I have sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the problem is you don't really know who you are talking to .anyone can put a picture up the amount of sad guys pretending to be female it's sad really but what do exspect from a site that has little or no vetting in place.

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"I sent the 1st one to Del. And the rest they say is history. 2 yrs married this Yr. "

Nice to hear.

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

Um I rarely do it.. I am more likely to send a wink, like pictures and if the wink is sent back then I would message.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I think the problem is you don't really know who you are talking to .anyone can put a picture up the amount of sad guys pretending to be female it's sad really but what do exspect from a site that has little or no vetting in place."

They can but they're usually pretty easy to suss out - can honestly say of the profiles that have messaged me first that are ladies or couples I've maybe had two that were suspect and could spot them a mile off.

There's only so much vetting the site can do though so it will always happen but with a little diligence on the part of us the users it's not that big a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you have been my lucky then thats all I can say early say morning and early Sunday morning that's when they show themselves.wommen we tell they get texts for guys out of the blue they. Have may of text a year over a year ago .sending pic of there so call hung cocks. sad fuckers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Um I rarely do it.. I am more likely to send a wink, like pictures and if the wink is sent back then I would message. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Um I rarely do it.. I am more likely to send a wink, like pictures and if the wink is sent back then I would message. "

Yes what's wroung with that .these individuals that say do t bother sending a wink or a simple hello.what do they want a live story halve of them don't even send a reply .just reply say your not my tipe it's not hard .but there's a lot of rude ignorant people out there .

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"Um I rarely do it.. I am more likely to send a wink, like pictures and if the wink is sent back then I would message.

Yes what's wroung with that .these individuals that say do t bother sending a wink or a simple hello.what do they want a live story halve of them don't even send a reply .just reply say your not my tipe it's not hard .but there's a lot of rude ignorant people out there ."

That should make it a lot easier for you and save your time. If you are suited to their style of writing, just keep on to the next one and don't worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send the odd first message usually in response to forum posts or statuses. Often works out well ."

I think one would be mad not to reply your stunning there's hope yet x

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By *tothetMan
over a year ago

Maidstone

Mainly me who goes first had a few girls message first

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"I send the odd first message usually in response to forum posts or statuses. Often works out well .

I think one would be mad not to reply your stunning there's hope yet x"

You're too kind, I never expect a reply so it's always nice to hear back, especially when it turns into a great chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Um I rarely do it.. I am more likely to send a wink, like pictures and if the wink is sent back then I would message.

Yes what's wroung with that .these individuals that say do t bother sending a wink or a simple hello.what do they want a live story halve of them don't even send a reply .just reply say your not my tipe it's not hard .but there's a lot of rude ignorant people out there .

That should make it a lot easier for you and save your time. If you are suited to their style of writing, just keep on to the next one and don't worry about it"

Yes I agree, it makes me laugh pepole are more complicated behind screens than they are in person what happend to the good old phone box and the last dance lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send the odd first message usually in response to forum posts or statuses. Often works out well .

I think one would be mad not to reply your stunning there's hope yet x

You're too kind, I never expect a reply so it's always nice to hear back, especially when it turns into a great chat. "

I think your to modest but it's lovely to see there is genine modesty out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've sent first messages to guys I like the look of or whose profiles I like x this for me too x

Well hello sally it would be my pleasure to meet you You're not getting the drift of this thread. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sent the 1st one to Del. And the rest they say is history. 2 married this Yr. "

Don't tell me his second name is boy custy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've sent first messages to guys I like the look of or whose profiles I like x this for me too x

Well hello sally it would be my pleasure to meet you You're not getting the drift of this thread.

"

I total get the thread .but that's beauty of thread everybody has there own interpretation or experiences would you not agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on the man. If I’m looking and I see someone I think I’d like to meet, I’ll give them

a message "

I admired that nothing sexier than women who knows what she wants x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about messaging couples? Can’t actually remember getting a message from a single female, but 100’s from single men.

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Well with us it dependant on who got the phone but we both reply equally.plus I think females can pick out the difference in how a man will tex compaired to a women

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never send the 1st one to someone I'd like to possibly meet"

I have the same principle almost all the time as I don't wish to add to a massive heap of unread mail pouring into ladies and couples inboxes daily, apart from when I'm arranging the odd event. Therefore my total number of first contacts I've sent (winks and messages) is under a dozen, compared to thousands received?

It sounds like an insane ratio for a chap, till you bear in mind the principle I have AND the fact I've had 365 days to accumulate that lot lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well good night to all you lovely pepole it's been a blast ,work in the morning.x

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon


"I send the odd first message usually in response to forum posts or statuses. Often works out well .

I think one would be mad not to reply your stunning there's hope yet x

You're too kind, I never expect a reply so it's always nice to hear back, especially when it turns into a great chat.

I think your to modest but it's lovely to see there is genine modesty out there "

I'm just one of many on here and don't believe most of the compliments thrown my way, after all they might just have an ulterior motive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have sent the first message quite a lot of times

some worked out some never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have sent far more over the years than I have received. It's what I've always expected.

A few of the messages I have received from females have asked if I have a big cock. Not something I would expect in a first message, but I guess it must be important.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester


"So who is willing to send the first message? Or does it depend on the guy? X"

I do it all the time you get a better choice that way. I think in it like being able to go into a restaurant and choosing what you want of the menu rather than having what is left over as the kitchen staff often do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send the odd first message usually in response to forum posts or statuses. Often works out well .

I think one would be mad not to reply your stunning there's hope yet x

You're too kind, I never expect a reply so it's always nice to hear back, especially when it turns into a great chat.

I think your to modest but it's lovely to see there is genine modesty out there

I'm just one of many on here and don't believe most of the compliments thrown my way, after all they might just have an ulterior motive. "

No motive I say it how it is and if the person beloved me and takes the compliment on board .all well and good it cost nothing to be sociable and polite x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So who is willing to send the first message? Or does it depend on the guy? X

I do it all the time you get a better choice that way. I think in it like being able to go into a restaurant and choosing what you want of the menu rather than having what is left over as the kitchen staff often do. "

Have you read this persons profile .what is wrong with a wink or wolf wistle would rather have someone boo you I really do t get a w/o k is hi I'm interested why should I send a long winded message to no fucking reply get life do t judge a book by the cover.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have sent the first message quite a lot of times

some worked out some never

"

I wish pepole could be straight if they don't like you why not just block you it's not hard thsts what we do.if pepole don't have the balls to open conversation behind a screen what chance have they got in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who thinks that multiy mida sites such as thease are breeding reclusive pepole hermits that don't know how to socially connect with pepole anymore would love to hear your views

Jo

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

I've often sent the first message! If I've spied them why not??

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I'm another who often sends a first message. Some get answered, some don't. I never really look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've sent first messages to guys I like the look of or whose profiles I like x"

Mmmm interesting xx

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By *eldomVanillaMan
over a year ago

London

Rarely happens but once a month I may get a message first.

But is usually from forum, a thank you for fabbing pics or response to a wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do if I come across a profile that interests me, not all respond but most do..

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Some of the best meets I’ve had have been with guys I’ve messaged first! I’ve no issue with it at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can hardly keep up with messages I reveive, let alone generating more by sending out first messages lol

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I can hardly keep up with messages I reveive, let alone generating more by sending out first messages lol "

I honestly think you should consider it lovely! If you’re a fussy biatch like me - the majority of men who message you will be of no interest!

If you’re willing to look (Male hot photos, local updates etc) you can come across some real gems!

I’ve met some amazing guys this way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can hardly keep up with messages I reveive, let alone generating more by sending out first messages lol

I honestly think you should consider it lovely! If you’re a fussy biatch like me - the majority of men who message you will be of no interest!

If you’re willing to look (Male hot photos, local updates etc) you can come across some real gems!

I’ve met some amazing guys this way! "

My mate keeps saying this ! Yeah maybe I should because almost every message I get is from someone unsuitable lol - thanks xx

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

It does happen. It’s rare when it happens to me. When it does it’s lovely.

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
over a year ago

Coventry

An incredibly rare, but fabulous thing when it does. Makes my day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have on occasions sent messages, I'm hidden 99% of time so i need too otherwise I wouldn't get anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My inbox and winks are always open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the meets I have had I have sent the first message lol...all the messages I get the guys are not someone I would ever meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have on occasions sent messages, I'm hidden 99% of time so i need too otherwise I wouldn't get anywhere "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So who is willing to send the first message? Or does it depend on the guy? X

I do it all the time you get a better choice that way. I think in it like being able to go into a restaurant and choosing what you want of the menu rather than having what is left over as the kitchen staff often do.

Have you read this persons profile .what is wrong with a wink or wolf wistle would rather have someone boo you I really do t get a w/o k is hi I'm interested why should I send a long winded message to no fucking reply get life do t judge a book by the cover. "

Or it's grammar

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