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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As a guy who has never had a no sex social...

Please give ideas and examples of your best

no sex socials....

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

People meet, people talk. You have never done this?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People meet, people talk. You have never done this?!"

This. Especially when you both feel comfortable and at ease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social is socialising. A meet with sex is a meet. A social that leads to sex is a meet.

Try a meal or a drink and don't bring condoms.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

Drink of some sort, chat, laugh, go home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pub quiz

Coffee

Board games in the pub

Cinema and dinner after

Dinner at mine with chain pulling and hard beatings but no sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t it hard to separate one from the other ? Or is it just me. I have my first social on Saturday but I am hoping I get fucked at the end of the night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come to mine and have a coffee

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Isn’t it hard to separate one from the other ? Or is it just me. I have my first social on Saturday but I am hoping I get fucked at the end of the night "

Not for us. We make it clear that its a social only. If you want a social that leads to fucking, just say.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

When you walk in, see him, and immediately think 'helloooooo Have a chat, see if you're on the same page, if all good have a snog, if that makes your fanny flutter you know you're on to a winner.

Make arrangements to meet up again as soon as for earth shattering sex.

Repeat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with “_ady lick” above, she’s hot the nail well and truly on the head.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you walk in, see him, and immediately think 'helloooooo Have a chat, see if you're on the same page, if all good have a snog, if that makes your fanny flutter you know you're on to a winner.

Make arrangements to meet up again as soon as for earth shattering sex.

Repeat."

Tick !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to agree with “_ady lick” above, she’s hot the nail well and truly on the head.x"
....hit.....not hot, god I’m all over the place today...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn’t it hard to separate one from the other ? Or is it just me. I have my first social on Saturday but I am hoping I get fucked at the end of the night "

Well if they read the forums then they know their luck is in on Saturday eh?!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I do like a social a little chat, a flirt, a drink and a game of pool.

Play for forfeits of course which can be decided if there's a meet.

Hopefully if nothing else we can have a laugh and hope that the magic follows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn’t it hard to separate one from the other ? Or is it just me. I have my first social on Saturday but I am hoping I get fucked at the end of the night

Well if they read the forums then they know their luck is in on Saturday eh?! "

This is very true

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

We have had many great socials with couple's that have turned into deep friendships in & out of swinging.

We love them, shame not as many group socials as there used to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my one to one socials turned out great.

The ones that were so we could get to know each other before committing to sex turned out to be them not actually being able to accommodate and wanting a grope or blow job in an alley.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People meet, people talk. You have never done this?!"

Sorry for the confusion......

I have never met anyone for a no sex social.....

I always meet someone for a drink first before we have sex....

The point of this post is to give us guys some ideas for great places and things to do on a no sex social.....

Meeting in Starbucks trying to flirt over a cup of coffee.....

Doesn’t get me excited for a social meeting....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"None of my one to one socials turned out great.

The ones that were so we could get to know each other before committing to sex turned out to be them not actually being able to accommodate and wanting a grope or blow job in an alley.

"

Oh no! We've been to several organised socials as well as one to one so to speak and only one guy got a bit carried away with himself. That might be because there are two of us though I think the expectations are possibly different if it's two singles meeting.

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

A chat, of the flirtatious kind, hearing eachothers voice, seeing if you have that spark you started in messages face to face. A cup of coffee or (I drive) and then the first kiss leading to the last kiss as you say goodnight and arrange to meet again (or not!) x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"

Meeting in Starbucks trying to flirt over a cup of coffee.....

Doesn’t get me excited for a social meeting...."

It doesn't get me excited in a sexual way (I'm assuming that's what you mean) but it gives you the chance to check each other out in a safe environment without any expectations of anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to agree with “_ady lick” above, she’s hot the nail well and truly on the head.x....hit.....not hot, god I’m all over the place today... "

To be fair she’s hot too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to give an example, as it's between me and them.

I think it's great, when you get the same kind of buzz as you would do with a positive date. All those positive feelings, without the pressure of love and commitment around my neck *Disclaimer - If the feelings intensify at a later date, id want to talk like adults, it may be mutual, may not*

It's good if you get the new friend feeling from it. Ok, if they have social skills but no game.

Poor, if they can't hold a conversation because all brainpower is directed to thinking with their cock/clunge.

Bad, if they have poor hygiene, have clearly lied, any hint of arrogance or treat me disrespectfully in any way (without my prior permission )

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By *ir Phineas Lucius AshbyMan
over a year ago

nr Chester NW

I’m in

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By *illieGTV/TS
over a year ago

High Heels

Best social is where the conversation flows, you have great laughs, you enjoy the company and before you realise it six to seven hours have passed by and the topic of sex has barely been discussed if at all.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

At least a kiss to know you might have some potential to see again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social is meeting ,chatting,laughing, flirting and hopefully snogging .....been ages since ive had a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People meet, people talk. You have never done this?!"

And then they leave seperatley,never having removed clothes..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some of these socials sound like interviews or dates,...

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Some of these socials sound like interviews or dates,...

"

A= Always

B= Be

C= Closing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually a n sex social is very good just because you think there is an attraction online, meeting in person is different and it allows both parties to change their minds without pressure . For me I have found equally on both sides might decide a second meet is not going to happen .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A social is meeting ,chatting,laughing, flirting and hopefully snogging .....been ages since ive had a social"

I got two on my first and latest social Was lots of fun

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Actually a n sex social is very good just because you think there is an attraction online, meeting in person is different and it allows both parties to change their minds without pressure . For me I have found equally on both sides might decide a second meet is not going to happen . "
Are you dtf if it goes well though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually a n sex social is very good just because you think there is an attraction online, meeting in person is different and it allows both parties to change their minds without pressure . For me I have found equally on both sides might decide a second meet is not going to happen . Are you dtf if it goes well though?"

Not always all depends in the situation and where the social is

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Actually a n sex social is very good just because you think there is an attraction online, meeting in person is different and it allows both parties to change their minds without pressure . For me I have found equally on both sides might decide a second meet is not going to happen . Are you dtf if it goes well though?

Not always all depends in the situation and where the social is "

See I think most women are on here. You just have to create the opportunity for sex to happen. Preferably evening and no lunch or morning work break, Starbucks for 30 mins etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good social is a drink to calm the nerves and some laughs then if I like them I’ll meet again for the fun.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"Some of these socials sound like interviews or dates,...

"

So, you say you don't have no sex socials. How does it work for you? Do you meet up for a drink, both knowing you're going to end up shagging? Have you chatted for a while?

I'm just intrigued because for me until you actually see someone face to face you don't know if you want to fuck!!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Some of these socials sound like interviews or dates,...

So, you say you don't have no sex socials. How does it work for you? Do you meet up for a drink, both knowing you're going to end up shagging? Have you chatted for a while?

I'm just intrigued because for me until you actually see someone face to face you don't know if you want to fuck!!"

He only has no sex if he doesn't like them. Who is gonna turn the big boy down?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"As a guy who has never had a no sex social...

Please give ideas and examples of your best

no sex socials....

"

OK, I'll give you one of my favourites - one of the first I had on fab.

Engaging guy initiates a chat on fab and we really get on. He invites me out for a drink because he has a rare day off and because it's a beautiful sunny day I am inclined to accept.

Meanwhile I go to test drive a car and they ask me if I am doing anything that evening and would I like to come to Brands Hatch (race circuit) and 'play' with some cars, have a BBQ after....I ask if I can bring a friend?

I get back to said guy and ask him if he'd 'mind' taking me motor racing instead?

I meet him at the pub, he drives me to the race circuit, I accuse him of being flash because he is driving a large Mercedes......... I wonder why all the guys at the race circuit are so impressed - turns out it's a 164k armour plated AMG!

He is a total petrol head it turns out, a professionally trained advanced driver, and brings back salesman after salesman white as a sheet after test driving their cars on the track.....

We eat their free BBQ, then go back to the pub and drink Pimms and watch water voles play on the river bank as the sun goes down, and the chemistry starts to become palpable.....

He walks me to my car, asks if we can meet again, and we have a brief kiss before going home to arrange an all-nighter a couple of weeks later in a 5* hotel of his choice....

As he said at the time 'If Carlsberg made socials.....'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn’t it hard to separate one from the other ? Or is it just me. I have my first social on Saturday but I am hoping I get fucked at the end of the night "

Change the guy for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some of these socials sound like interviews or dates,...

So, you say you don't have no sex socials. How does it work for you? Do you meet up for a drink, both knowing you're going to end up shagging? Have you chatted for a while?

I'm just intrigued because for me until you actually see someone face to face you don't know if you want to fuck!!"

This is how I’ve always done it.....

We arrange to meet at a bar close to my house or at the bar in their hotel....

We meet have a few drinks, sometimes eat a few appetizers....

We build up sexual tension... this can take 10 minutes or 5 hours....

We then decide to play or call it a night.....

What I mean by me never having no sex social, is me meeting someone with no chance at having sex.... if we hit it off...

I work 60-80 hours per week, plus I go to the gym 6 days a week...

Any free time I have is for family, friends and sex.... in that order

But with that being said...... I try to have 1 vanilla date per week... those are strictly no sex events because I use sex and swinging sites for all my proclivities.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a guy who has never had a no sex social...

Please give ideas and examples of your best

no sex socials....

OK, I'll give you one of my favourites - one of the first I had on fab.

Engaging guy initiates a chat on fab and we really get on. He invites me out for a drink because he has a rare day off and because it's a beautiful sunny day I am inclined to accept.

Meanwhile I go to test drive a car and they ask me if I am doing anything that evening and would I like to come to Brands Hatch (race circuit) and 'play' with some cars, have a BBQ after....I ask if I can bring a friend?

I get back to said guy and ask him if he'd 'mind' taking me motor racing instead?

I meet him at the pub, he drives me to the race circuit, I accuse him of being flash because he is driving a large Mercedes......... I wonder why all the guys at the race circuit are so impressed - turns out it's a 164k armour plated AMG!

He is a total petrol head it turns out, a professionally trained advanced driver, and brings back salesman after salesman white as a sheet after test driving their cars on the track.....

We eat their free BBQ, then go back to the pub and drink Pimms and watch water voles play on the river bank as the sun goes down, and the chemistry starts to become palpable.....

He walks me to my car, asks if we can meet again, and we have a brief kiss before going home to arrange an all-nighter a couple of weeks later in a 5* hotel of his choice....

As he said at the time 'If Carlsberg made socials.....' "

That man is a true gentleman..... that social was better than any date I have ever had....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some of these socials sound like interviews or dates,...

So, you say you don't have no sex socials. How does it work for you? Do you meet up for a drink, both knowing you're going to end up shagging? Have you chatted for a while?

I'm just intrigued because for me until you actually see someone face to face you don't know if you want to fuck!! He only has no sex if he doesn't like them. Who is gonna turn the big boy down? "

Trust me ...... I’ve been turned down.... in 10 years 4 couples/women didn’t like me....

3 women - 1 a German tattoo model , 1 girl from Lithuania, and 1 girl from South Africa

1 couple - interracial couple, black woman / white guy.....

I remember each ones face because I think about them every time I’m pushing big weight at the gym.... it’s my motivation....

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"People meet, people talk. You have never done this?!

And then they leave seperatley,never having removed clothes.. "

Or one takes the other one home.

Normal human interaction.

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By *oinus1961Couple
over a year ago

Huntingdon

It's a bit like an elephant. Almost impossible to describe but you know it when you see it!

We have had several absolutely cracking socials where before we knew it the evening had gone.

The last one was with an absolutely gorgeous gentleman and the conversation flowed. For personal reasons I wasn't up for play and it's unfortunate that circumstances have conspired against us since. I felt like I'd known him for AGES. It really was a great night tho.

Sometimes a great social night with no play leads to an amazing night next time tho!

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