FabSwingers.com forum: Do you accept gifts from people you’re going to meet?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have no problem bringing a bottle of wine or buying a round of drinks for someone on a first meet...

I was wondering what fabbers experiences have been with excepting gifts from a potential new meet has been....

I honestly would feel funny excepting any gifts from a stranger because I know nothing in life is free , and if I don’t like them in person.. the situation might turn strange....

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)

I wouldn't accept a gift from a meet...

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Id accept a Cadburys cream egg, just putting it out there for reference

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Id accept a Cadburys cream egg, just putting it out there for reference

That’s not really a gift

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't accept a gift from a meet... "

Even flowers?

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I've only ever been bought a birthday cake by someone I've met - he fed it to me in bed and made a bit of a mess

I must be going wrong as half the men don't even cough up towards the hotel room let alone turn up with even a bottle of water lol

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Some gents do very kindly bring a bottle of wine with them as a hello firsttime/repeat gesture, not necessary at all, but always politely received,

Sometimes your lucky if they remember to bring their own condoms!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've only ever been bought a birthday cake by someone I've met - he fed it to me in bed and made a bit of a mess

I must be going wrong as half the men don't even cough up towards the hotel room let alone turn up with even a bottle of water lol "

That’s was a nice gesture.....

I’m more talking about someone buying you lingerie, things like that....

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Id accept a Cadburys cream egg, just putting it out there for reference

That’s not really a gift"

Its not?

But why?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No, that would feel a bit weird to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id accept a Cadburys cream egg, just putting it out there for reference

That’s not really a gift"
yes, it is given it is gifted.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

She bought me a bottle of water, some chocolates and a packet of crisps -do I need to declare these as expenses?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would accept an Aston Martin

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

"I've only ever been bought a birthday cake by someone I've met - he fed it to me in bed and made a bit of a mess

I must be going wrong as half the men don't even cough up towards the hotel room let alone turn up with even a bottle of water lol

That’s was a nice gesture.....

I’m more talking about someone buying you lingerie, things like that...."

No I want to fuck them, not gain a new lingerie draw !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only gift women ever gave me on a meet were kinder Buenos !!!

#youallknowwhoyouare

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By *ade and VanessaCouple
over a year ago

Central Scotland

No, that would really creep me out. Especially for a first mee

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a hotel needs no. But if a couple invited us to their home then we will take a bottle of wine as a gift.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

God no, flowers would make me feel like an unwell aunt.

Orgasms are enough for me no need to spend anything.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Depends on how long we have been chatting beforehand whether I take a gift or not, I at least buy the lady a drink.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

A guy I used to meet regularly once brought me a pack of Lindt reindeer (it was an in joke) which we split between us.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"God no, flowers would make me feel like an unwell aunt.

Orgasms are enough for me no need to spend anything."

Auntie Dalliance its got a certain ring too it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id accept a Cadburys cream egg, just putting it out there for reference

That’s not really a gift

Its not?

But why?"

2 cream eggs or a bag of mini eggs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually ask ....

Would you like me to bring a bottle of your favourite wine

Or do you eat chocolates .ok if I bring a box ..

In a pub or cafe ..I'll always buy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe after a few meets with a person. A little token of appreciation.

Just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never accept gift on meets, don’t know what’s in them (knock out drugs the ones you hear about, hidden cameras, tracking devices) and ladies if you’re reading this, if someone does offer you. Just say no.

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

I have never expected gifts, most guys will bring along a bottle of something in my experience, but I have also received flowers twice, chocolates and a nice bottle of champagne....

Yes a bit of a shock when someone turns up with flowers but a lovely gesture at the same time

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I've only ever been bought a birthday cake by someone I've met - he fed it to me in bed and made a bit of a mess

I must be going wrong as half the men don't even cough up towards the hotel room let alone turn up with even a bottle of water lol

That’s was a nice gesture.....

I’m more talking about someone buying you lingerie, things like that....

No I want to fuck them, not gain a new lingerie draw !"

Not for me to criticise your choice of meets, but if you've booked a hotel it's just plain miserly to not contribute in some way. We all know the end result a (hopefully) good fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never received any gifts from a fab meet, social or otherwise but often they offer to pay for dinner/drinks which is always a lovely and appreciated gesture. On a first date yes I’ve had chocolates and flowers once which was fun as I didn’t really like him when I met him in person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

gifts = no meet creepy as f**k

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By *ojos party boyMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

The only gifts i bring are my exceptional humour & chloroform.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"gifts = no meet creepy as f**k"

Any reason why? Just for future reference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a social meet near my birthday and he brought me a bottle of pink gin and some chocolates.

Didn’t think it was creepy at all until he started thinking I was the ‘one’ and wanted a relationship!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

trouble most likely, or creating it :)

"I wouldn't accept a gift from a meet...

Even flowers?"
especially not flowers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d give them some lube and penicillin... just in case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone brought along a new baby doll thing for me but grossly underestimated my size.

I don't like any one bringing anything especially for me.

Drinks are fine; I bring drinks and snacks myself.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"I had a social meet near my birthday and he brought me a bottle of pink gin and some chocolates.

Didn’t think it was creepy at all until he started thinking I was the ‘one’ and wanted a relationship! "

That more his fault then the gifts, again it all about getting that understanding and boundaries.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"I wouldn't accept a gift from a meet...

Even flowers? especially not flowers "

Hay fever?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

If I'm visiting someone's house, even if it's my kids I don't walk with my two long hands (Jamaican for empty handed). I've bought a bottle of wine, and I've accepted the same.

The only time I've told a meet to do one was the married man who turned up with perfume and shampoo...his wife's brand, he wanted me to use so not to leave a scent trail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone brought along a new baby doll thing for me but grossly underestimated my size.

I don't like any one bringing anything especially for me.

Drinks are fine; I bring drinks and snacks myself."

I had to re-read that and realised it’s the underwear not a doll

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Id accept a Cadburys cream egg, just putting it out there for reference

That’s not really a gift

Its not?

But why?

2 cream eggs or a bag of mini eggs?"

Has to be the full sized eggs, so I feel special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Damn, not been offered yet so can't have a real opinion on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a social meet near my birthday and he brought me a bottle of pink gin and some chocolates.

Didn’t think it was creepy at all until he started thinking I was the ‘one’ and wanted a relationship!

That more his fault then the gifts, again it all about getting that understanding and boundaries. "

I agree, if he hadn’t been so clingy it would have been a good gift. I still ate the chocolates though and shared the gin with my friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id accept a Cadburys cream egg, just putting it out there for reference

That’s not really a gift

Its not?

But why?

2 cream eggs or a bag of mini eggs?

Has to be the full sized eggs, so I feel special

I love a cream egg

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Id accept a Cadburys cream egg, just putting it out there for reference

That’s not really a gift

Its not?

But why?

2 cream eggs or a bag of mini eggs?

Has to be the full sized eggs, so I feel special

I love a cream egg "

Your welcome to share mine, if I get any thats it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Id accept a Cadburys cream egg, just putting it out there for reference

That’s not really a gift

Its not?

But why?

2 cream eggs or a bag of mini eggs?

Has to be the full sized eggs, so I feel special

I love a cream egg

Your welcome to share mine, if I get any thats it

Deal my lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like things we can share together. I often take treats we can enjoy together and they do too. It's its a fb or fwb I would give them small gifts if it's their birthday etc. I have had flowers given to me and I enjoy recieving treats but I would not accept anything of high monetary value

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did have one guy who always brought a single red rose.i thought it charming

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I had an FB bring champagne for us to share and flowers on my birthday, that was nice. Lingerie would feel a bit creepy to me, unless I knew them very well.

I always buy coffee/drinks (or at least the first round!) on a social, unless they insist otherwise. Not having to travel is a great gift for me so I l do this in return

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By *oodyshere2011Man
over a year ago

Midlands

This time of year I do not mind a bag of mini eggs!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never accept gifts from a meet, would never want anyone to feel that they may be owed something back. Plus It's weird to give someone a gift when you don't know them so it would put me off anyway.

If they had a bottle of alcohol, I'd maybe help them drink it but I don't see that as a gift as they would be welcome to drink mine, I always share.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends who it is and also what the gift is.

If I was meeting someone for the first time I wouldn't expect anything but I wouldn't be offended with a bottle of something. But if it was first meeting someone turned up with lingerie that would put me right off.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

No nothing (apart from maybe a bottle of wine) it would be weird, spend more time being clean and well presented, us TGirls put in a lot of effort so appreciate the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always offer to bring wine or drink, sometimes it's accepted.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Yup a bottle of wine or chocolates of something similar that could be shared.

V x

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I accepted a gift someone brought when he met me. He wouldn't have been able to use it again anyway

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By *heSofaDestroyersCouple
over a year ago

HereAndThere

We had a first meet with a couple the guy was running late (at there place) and turned up with flowers for him mrs and mine and a chocolate bar for me!

We still giggle about it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yup a bottle of wine or chocolates of something similar that could be shared.

V x "

Yes and I don't necessarily see that as a gift, it's like if somebody comes to my house and I make some a coffee that's not a gift it's sharing and making someone feel welcome and comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy I met for the first time quite a while back now gave me a new toy as he was leaving - kind of unexpected and a little weird accepting it if I’m honest.

One guy also had a stash of apples in his hotel room and casually offered me an apple. Would have preferred chocolate but hey

haha

Do not expect any sort of gift though- just would never turn down chocolate

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"Yup a bottle of wine or chocolates of something similar that could be shared.

V x

Yes and I don't necessarily see that as a gift, it's like if somebody comes to my house and I make some a coffee that's not a gift it's sharing and making someone feel welcome and comfortable. "

Exactly

V x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I invited a vegan girl over to my place once and she turned up with a tub of coconut oil....

I thought it was strange, until she told me most lubes are silicon based and coconut oil is better for your body......

I must say the smell of condom lube and coconut oil was a unique smell in my bedroom...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've only ever been bought a birthday cake by someone I've met - he fed it to me in bed and made a bit of a mess

I must be going wrong as half the men don't even cough up towards the hotel room let alone turn up with even a bottle of water lol "

I have always paid for a hotel room in full if one has been required and if an all nighter dinner as well as breakfast.

If going to someones home ,wine or flowers are the norm.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"I have no problem bringing a bottle of wine or buying a round of drinks for someone on a first meet...

I was wondering what fabbers experiences have been with excepting gifts from a potential new meet has been....

I honestly would feel funny excepting any gifts from a stranger because I know nothing in life is free , and if I don’t like them in person.. the situation might turn strange...."
They got more chance of getting blood out of a stone than a gift off me.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Nothing wrong with bringing along a bottle of wine to a first meet....though anything above and beyond that could be construed as bribery???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading this thread, I think it's time I got rid of those engagement rings...

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

"I invited a vegan girl over to my place once and she turned up with a tub of coconut oil....

I thought it was strange, until she told me most lubes are silicon based and coconut oil is better for your body......

I must say the smell of condom lube and coconut oil was a unique smell in my bedroom..."

Umm coconut oil degrades condoms, more likely to split I'm afraid

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By *nsatiablepartnerseekerMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Unsolicited gifts is one thing,but many profiles on site ask for generous men and other such blatant requests for offers.

I remember talking to one lady who would not meet unless you had ordered her gifts from Amazon.. just last week one of her veries was there on the profile admiring they had bought the said gift.

Glad to see there are some decent sorts her and to be honest I find the forum tends to attract the genuine types and is a great place to identify honest and decent fun seekers rather than those motivated by greed.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We often bring a bottle of wine, it's a friendly gesture. Wouldn't accept anything other than that though.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

Wales

A man i met on the last site i was on bought me a mobile phone camera tripod on our first meet. That took the wind out of my sails and i felt awkward as i’d not gotten anything for him.

I’ve not had any other gifts. Not even a packet of Skittles.

I’m not one for flowers (if any future meets read this) or hand cream. Other than that i’m easy.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"I remember talking to one lady who would not meet unless you had ordered her gifts from Amazon.. just last week one of her veries was there on the profile admiring they had bought the said gift.

I recall a single female being booted off a site for making the same demands. It's akin to prostitution.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Hasn't bothered me. Don'tget why i would feel awkward just because someone enjoys(or thinks it polite) to bring gifts. I'm not obligated to anyone and you could always refuse the gift if you wanted to.

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By *rettyLittleThingWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

"Unsolicited gifts is one thing,but many profiles on site ask for generous men and other such blatant requests for offers.

I remember talking to one lady who would not meet unless you had ordered her gifts from Amazon.. just last week one of her veries was there on the profile admiring they had bought the said gift.

Yeah that's against fab rules and she could be banned.

Nope, even men not going half's on hotel rooms or paying for my drinks I kinda feel awkward with. I want to pay my way, I don't expect it and we both use the room so I feel it should be fair and equal.

Same with offering things like lingerie, I really feel uncomfortable with it. I mean it's different if you are dating a person but on here I feel like this could be used against you if the meet didn't go well or you fell out.

I guess I feel like I owe the person something in return and some might even use the fact they've bought you gifts off a list to pester you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a gifter. Not necessarily a gift for people I meet, however I'm a considerate and thoughtful person.

I like people to know they're appreciated and sometimes I gift.

A gift could be as simple as a thank you card, a handwritten note, or a picture taken just for them.

I don't give to receive so I wouldn't be creeped out by someone gifting in my direction, I'd tend to think of them as thoughtful, unless of course they seemed a creepy person, in which case I'd not be hanging around.

Not everyone and everything has sinister undertones.

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By *ueen of sleezeWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

No never I pay my own way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my Porsche.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does a blow up bed, pump and a huge bottle of lube, count as gifts?, for when a meet wanted to "get slippy"...thankfully he was outbid on the suitcase generator and bouncy castle, on ebay, to take the idea into the outback of who knows where

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Would depend on the gift....?

Is a bj still a gift or is that standard now days..lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I invited a vegan girl over to my place once and she turned up with a tub of coconut oil....

I thought it was strange, until she told me most lubes are silicon based and coconut oil is better for your body......

I must say the smell of condom lube and coconut oil was a unique smell in my bedroom...

Umm coconut oil degrades condoms, more likely to split I'm afraid

I knew she was up to no good ....

She probably wanted bareback

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

If i was hosting id expect a bottle of vino!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"gifts = no meet creepy as f**k

Any reason why? Just for future reference."

gifts give the giver more of a sense of entitlement to most not all just most.

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By *w79Man
over a year ago

Stalbridge

Cup of tea or coffee & a biscuit (not a soggy one, before the immature comments start) would be as much as I'd accept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always happy to accept biscuits and cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have accepted tasty food treats as gifts. Chocolate always goes well as part of dessert. It all depends on how long you been in contact. The rapport you have built up. So you know it's all intended in good nature.

Sometimes you may have discussed something in conversation and that may spark a surprise funny gift. Just laugh about it after. Nothing wrong with gifts folks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember talking to one lady who would not meet unless you had ordered her gifts from Amazon.. just last week one of her veries was there on the profile admiring they had bought the said gift.

I recall a single female being booted off a site for making the same demands. It's akin to prostitution."

Had similar on our couples profile, a lady we got chatting to and hubby was going to meet then said she was after a Rich sugar daddy! We pissed ourselves laughing. We ain’t rich and he’s not sugar. When we explained we were poor she blocked us. We then found out via another couple on here that she was an escort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember talking to one lady who would not meet unless you had ordered her gifts from Amazon.. just last week one of her veries was there on the profile admiring they had bought the said gift.

I recall a single female being booted off a site for making the same demands. It's akin to prostitution.

Blimey! My idea of a gift like a funny card or a book won't go well to the ones looking for "rich" people

I have never come across any couples or single women asking me for anything. The only time I can remember a woman years back asked me to pay for the entrance fee to an event and drinks because apparently she was skint. I declined, went alone and met friends there.

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By *aron_TentakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Is a bottle of wine considered a 'gift'? I'd just assume it was for sharing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many moons ago when I was on here as a single female, I was given a packet of jelly babies. It had been a bit of a joke about how I could chew their heads off without getting fired! I also gifted a ladybird book along the same lines. So nothing expensive, just a bit of shared humour x

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