FabSwingers.com forum: As rare as rocking horse ****

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have to wonder what goes through some peoples minds. Im an open genuine single female swinger, and i always here that people cant find a single female to play with, ( there are loads of us) but yet when it comes to finding a single guy to accompany me to a party, IT REALLY IS DIFFICULT lol, talk about being messed about, guys who say yes we will meet, but then find some excuse last minute. And yes they saw my pics on initial contact (im not quasimodos sister - honest lol) But if guys can continue to do this ( and yes i know its not all- ive met some fantastic guys) but surely it will put the few single girls off who are actually on here and who do genuinly play. So guys what im saying is, ITS NOT JUST SINGLE GUYS WHO HAVE PROBLEMS WITH MEETS. But please dont say you will meet if you have no intention of doing so. Walk the walk dont talk the talk.

Rant over, off for a chamomile tea to calm down. xxxxxx

have a great day everyone

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I had a friend staying one night and we decided we would like a guy over for an ffm. Did we get one? Did we hell as like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know exactly what you mean, they all talk a good story but when it comes to an actual meet they have no bottle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

its a shame for the genuine ones who want to meet, but i have to admit im losing faith with it all now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to wonder what goes through some peoples minds. Im an open genuine single female swinger, and i always here that people cant find a single female to play with, ( there are loads of us) but yet when it comes to finding a single guy to accompany me to a party, IT REALLY IS DIFFICULT lol, talk about being messed about, guys who say yes we will meet, but then find some excuse last minute. And yes they saw my pics on initial contact (im not quasimodos sister - honest lol) But if guys can continue to do this ( and yes i know its not all- ive met some fantastic guys) but surely it will put the few single girls off who are actually on here and who do genuinly play. So guys what im saying is, ITS NOT JUST SINGLE GUYS WHO HAVE PROBLEMS WITH MEETS. But please dont say you will meet if you have no intention of doing so. Walk the walk dont talk the talk.

Rant over, off for a chamomile tea to calm down. xxxxxx

have a great day everyone"

i think there r a lot of problems with meeting as couple who meets only ladies it is difficult as u can message lots then nothing and as the couple u geel u can't be pushy so i think in general there r a lot of non geniune people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there will be tons of people onhere that sign up and jump in pretty much blind

crunch time is when realization kicks in

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i agree there is nothing worse than a pushy potential meet, but my gripe is those who AGREE to meet then enjoy all the foreplay (texting calls etc) then on the day of meet they cry off with an excuse. I am at the stage where i wont even chat to someone who has been a member of 6 months or more with NO verifications or only meet or cam verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i agree there is nothing worse than a pushy potential meet, but my gripe is those who AGREE to meet then enjoy all the foreplay (texting calls etc) then on the day of meet they cry off with an excuse. I am at the stage where i wont even chat to someone who has been a member of 6 months or more with NO verifications or only meet or cam verifications. "
Me neither x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just want to say though, that the guys on here are lovely, ive met some fantastic guys, never been stood up or let down and always had a good meet.

It was just this one night we wanted a spur of the moment ffm (which is supposed to be every guys fantasy) that we couldt get one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes we have had that too it makes u wonder weather to keep trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over, off for a chamomile tea to calm down. xxxxxx

have a great day everyone"

Could it be that the men who get 'cold feet' are not really single? We've had a few men go quiet on us when we say we can only meet on a Friday or Saturday night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yep i did wonder that, thats why i will only agree to meet guys who say they can accomodate. I find if they cant they are either married or living with there mums lol, (well thats there excuse)

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Single girls can't get meets ..

Single guys can't get meets..

Hmmmm If only there was a way of putting the two together... let me think...

... lol

I've been very fortunate everyone thats agreed to meet me singles and couples have been fantastic, everyone in my book could be called ronseal.. did exactly what they said they would..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what conclusions can one make of this...

A lot of men don't want to meet properly,i.e. chat, drink, play, they seem to want play daytime.

The suggestions for this is, they have a partner and nipping out when they are about, and they can't.

Single blokes are a little worried in case the woman they meet is really wanting a romantic relationship rather than a NSA type relationship (Plenty on here and dating sites, tip don't use the same pics

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If i'm wrong who cares, it's my thoughts and work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"yep i did wonder that, thats why i will only agree to meet guys who say they can accomodate. I find if they cant they are either married or living with there mums lol, (well thats there excuse)

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i think this is a good rule to follow about accomadate ,and yes lots of guys will bottle it at the last minute but dont give up we are out there !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh i know they are out there, just wish the ones who bottle it wouldnt waste my time.

right whos up for a meet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over, off for a chamomile tea to calm down. xxxxxx

have a great day everyone

Could it be that the men who get 'cold feet' are not really single? We've had a few men go quiet on us when we say we can only meet on a Friday or Saturday night.

Not all of us can be free at weekends my problem is that i have child care commitments so can't very often do weekends... Its not because i'm not single but i'm committed to seeing my children when i can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh i know they are out there, just wish the ones who bottle it wouldnt waste my time.

right whos up for a meet lol"

I'll Meet Ya half way!!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"my gripe is those who AGREE to meet then enjoy all the foreplay (texting calls etc) then on the day of meet they cry off with an excuse"

Agree with this, and whats even worse are the ones who contact me first with suggestions and dates for a meet then, when it gets near the time, disappear into a puff of smoke. What was the point in that?

The OP is true. People go on about single bi women being the Holy Grail of meets, but when I want to meet there's a distinct sound of tumbles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could it be that the men who get 'cold feet' are not really single? We've had a few men go quiet on us when we say we can only meet on a Friday or Saturday night.

Quite right, we all have good reasons for not being free at certain times. The problem is those who give the impression they are available/willing, but then get cold feet or go quiet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Rant over, off for a chamomile tea to calm down. xxxxxx

have a great day everyone

Could it be that the men who get 'cold feet' are not really single? We've had a few men go quiet on us when we say we can only meet on a Friday or Saturday night.

Yes but your not making out you can meet, this post is about those who AGREE to meet but have an excuse last minute.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive had that problem i get ready for them to come over baring in mind i dont really accom but this time i agreed got rid of hubby kids, got all dressed up and sat waiting and did they turn up, ring or even message me on here no they just disappeared, but again not all are like this its just finding respectful guys and girls which im sure its full of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over, off for a chamomile tea to calm down. xxxxxx

have a great day everyone

Could it be that the men who get 'cold feet' are not really single? We've had a few men go quiet on us when we say we can only meet on a Friday or Saturday night.

Yes but your not making out you can meet, this post is about those who AGREE to meet but have an excuse last minute."

The problem for us single guys is those that have let people down in the past as we get tarred with their brush. I've never let anyone down be it on or off site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over, off for a chamomile tea to calm down. xxxxxx

have a great day everyone"

I can't believe the foolish men who inhabit your little corner of the south Madam. Were I in your neighbourhood and able to resist thr occasional ciggie, I'd not only be proud to escort you to this party, but take great delight in both ravishing you and watching others do the same!

The local men should be hanging their heads in shame for letting such a magnificent example of womanhood's wants and needs go unsatisfied...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We know two ladies comfortably sitting under the SBF label who continually amaze us with very, very similar tales of woe.

Neither have particular problems with couples but find it a very uphill struggle to meet the "right" singles.

As said previously, it starts well but when a meet is imminent, the trail goes very cold.

Although these ladies are both chilled & relaxed, they now have those awful negative, off putting statements on their profiles. I.E. Sentences starting with "No..."

The conclusion they've come to (& we're in agreement) is that the site is short of swingers - Those with an open, relaxed mindset who enjoy sharing pleasure & full of fellas (& ladies)who believe that being on a site like this will enable them to get laid when they have trouble in the (best word for it) vanilla world.

The fantasy of many seems to be the possibly - not the actuality - of meeting.

Being attached but cheating doesn't help.

We've never had trouble finding partners - this is not because we are "special" but because we research potential friends, Check their verifications & talk to them.

Communciation is all in life.

It shouldn't be a surprise that it matters on a swing site.

Ian x (pontificating on a late lunch break).

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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To be honest all of the above is why I have started cutting down on private meets and going to my local swinger club. If someone doesn't turn up there I have others to entertain me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP has an impressive list of verifications (nothing wrong with that) so maybe her definition of rarity is somewhat different from other people?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

wrydwoman,

yep i think thats the way its going to be from now on, as you wont believe, it, the same guy has only just mailed my friends who have a meet up for sat night asking if he couldnt attend, lol, but yet told me he is working and he cant get out of it, needless to say she told him she knew about his TW abilities and he blocked her. God why cant we name and shame lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The OP has an impressive list of verifications (nothing wrong with that) so maybe her definition of rarity is somewhat different from other people? "

In what way? im confused

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"The OP has an impressive list of verifications (nothing wrong with that) so maybe her definition of rarity is somewhat different from other people?

In what way? im confused

Apparently because we get meets, we aren't allowed to complain about being stood up, lied to, messed around and generally let down. Only single guys are allowed to complain. How very dare we!

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Use the verification system and stick by it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately I think some single men on here are not single because they want to be. It's the same with anything in life. They talk the big talk and then don't deliver. It's the way of the world.

But ........ I say this also. If you find it hard on here.

Hit the socials parties and munches.

I am new to this site but swung along time on another site. Talking in chat is okay. Mailing is okay. But hitting a real world night out with lots if naughty peeps is best. Socials and clubs are such a laugh.

They are there. You can speak. You can see if they are a weasel. You will be attracted to people the way you should be.

Cast your net differently. You can find out the best social by looking on here as well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Apparently because we get meets, we aren't allowed to complain about being stood up, lied to, messed around and generally let down. Only single guys are allowed to complain. How very dare we!"

if the gentleman has read my original post he would have seen and perhaps digested that i was merely stating that everyone goes on about females being hard to find, but when a couple/male finds one there is nothing worse than being let down or even worse led along while the female is offering something 'rare' and the other person is merely toying with them. This is what puts people off!!

And my verifications may be impressive but it shows im the real mccoy and not a timewaster as many are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers master, but ive been swinging for nearly 6 years now and no the score, unfortunately i live in devon and not a lot happens down here, so even casting my net different down here would still cast the same people as we are all in the same boat down here, (on the middle of a moor) lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently because we get meets, we aren't allowed to complain about being stood up, lied to, messed around and generally let down. Only single guys are allowed to complain. How very dare we!"

Nope, not what I mean at all. Please note the caveat about verifications.

The thread title is Rare as Rocking Horse Shit, not Frustration at Being Let Down. Hence my posting.

I am not saying don't complain, it's just that I presume that "Equus Ligni Ferus Feces" is something very rarely seen and would thus be demonstrated by very few, if any, actual meets.

It's about expectations, again In My Humble Opinion.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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The thread title is Rare as Rocking Horse Shit, not Frustration at Being Let Down. "

The OP title refers to what people say about single (bi) females, that we are rare as rocking horse shit. The OP isn't complaining that her meets are rare, she is complaining that people say they want to meet us, then chicken out/change their mind last minute/lie. I know exactly what she means.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with OP, hence changed age range to reflect my thoughts on single men at the mo lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's about expectations, again In My Humble Opinion."

its about expecting it to happen when someone AGREES to it happening. Not to waste peoples time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about expectations, again In My Humble Opinion.

its about expecting it to happen when someone AGREES to it happening. Not to waste peoples time."

I agree absolutely, if someone says they will meet they should not mess you around. I would not disagree with a single word of your posting in that context.

My non-sarcastic point was that I read your posting as more a comment about single women struggling to get meets as just as single men do. That is how I read your posting so that is why I suggested that people's level of expectation how many meets they will have will vary from person-to-person. No malice or smart-ass attitude from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thread title is Rare as Rocking Horse Shit, not Frustration at Being Let Down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh i know they are out there, just wish the ones who bottle it wouldnt waste my time.

right whos up for a meet lol"
id love to but your so farrrrrrrr awayyyyyyyy down there in jethro country lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh i know they are out there, just wish the ones who bottle it wouldnt waste my time.

right whos up for a meet lol"

Only if you was closer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I was a single guy Jen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

nothing wrong with jethro country lol

mwah boys and jack extra mwahs to you xx

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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D'awwwww....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a friend staying one night and we decided we would like a guy over for an ffm. Did we get one? Did we hell as like"

You know, instead of going with the majority of mouth-breathers/window lickers on here who mail spam people, heres a revolutionary tactic.

Block all single guys and go read up on some profiles you have an eye on.

Mail the guy in question if you're interested and want to know a bit more about what he can offer/who he is.

If he can string a decent conversation along then you're halfway there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just want to say though, that the guys on here are lovely, ive met some fantastic guys, never been stood up or let down and always had a good meet.

It was just this one night we wanted a spur of the moment ffm (which is supposed to be every guys fantasy) that we couldt get one"
i don't like things too drawn out and long winded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just want to say though, that the guys on here are lovely, ive met some fantastic guys, never been stood up or let down and always had a good meet.

It was just this one night we wanted a spur of the moment ffm (which is supposed to be every guys fantasy) that we couldt get one i don't like things too drawn out and long winded"
completely ignore this comment it was half finished..then i lost me train of thought..thought i deleted the bloody thing! I FEEL SOOO STOOOOPID!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't rely on a gent to take me to parties as I go on my own, no problem in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

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whiskey ciggies and music mate...i recommend david grays white ladder.....unless your feeling suicidal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

hun this is not about being let down as such, its about the fact that everyone says single females are as rare as rocking horse shit, but when they get the chance to meet one they mess the female around. But then complain they cant find a single fem!! policy is simple and dont arrange meets which you have no intention to keep just because you manage to talk and keep a conversation going with a single fem,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

Well if people read her post properly she wouldn't have to keep saying it.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

Well if people read her post properly she wouldn't have to keep saying it.

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they may of read it meticulously..you know this sweetheart.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yes there are loads of us on here, unfortunately many will no longer meet on a one t one basis and will only play at parties due to being mucked about by single guys and couples who have no intention of making a meet they organised and agreed too. And if you look at the ratio of single females on here to single males im sure its in the very very low percentage.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

Well if people read her post properly she wouldn't have to keep saying it.

they may of read it meticulously..you know this sweetheart."

Obviously not, "sweetheart".

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I've had more nsa fun off of dating sites than on here!

Now starting to swing as a couple as a result of meeting off of a dating site.

My experiences as a single have been good with hardly any cancellations. Maybe I've just been lucky.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

oh i now see that you have deleted your comment, well i wont remove my reply to you as it still stands.

Perhaps admin can let us know what the ratio is of single men to females, it would make interesting reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

Well if people read her post properly she wouldn't have to keep saying it.

they may of read it meticulously..you know this sweetheart.

Obviously not, "sweetheart".

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haha! Can i take this opportunity to call a truce? As i meant no offence..and i really really DON'T want my blood on your hands..i just meant people will read, then immediately dismiss..if they're the sort of people i think we're talking about. X

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

Well if people read her post properly she wouldn't have to keep saying it.

they may of read it meticulously..you know this sweetheart.

Obviously not, "sweetheart".

haha! Can i take this opportunity to call a truce? As i meant no offence..and i really really DON'T want my blood on your hands..i just meant people will read, then immediately dismiss..if they're the sort of people i think we're talking about. X"

In which case I misread you and apologise.

Pumpkin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

Well if people read her post properly she wouldn't have to keep saying it.

they may of read it meticulously..you know this sweetheart.

Obviously not, "sweetheart".

In which case I misread you and apologise.

Pumpkin

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PHEW!! Word to the wise don't upset the Wyrd, lest yea live to regret it!

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over a year ago

"Its not just the ladies that get let down i was tonight!!!

Well if people read her post properly she wouldn't have to keep saying it.

they may of read it meticulously..you know this sweetheart.

Obviously not, "sweetheart".

In which case I misread you and apologise.

Pumpkin

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PHEW!! Word to the wise don't upset the Wyrd, lest yea live to regret it!

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