FabSwingers.com forum: frightened of clubs

By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

I have never been to a club or to a sex party or group meeting of any kind.

I have always worried that it would be filled with super hot guys and sexy girls who all know exactly what they are doing...

Maybe also filled with d*unk people and pounding music?

I do not drink or drug myself.

But other's seem to swear by clubs?

If I was to create a sex club it would be like coffee shop.

Peaceful chit chat with coffee. Then sneak of for a fuck with a stranger.

I can dream...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Most are nothing like your description OP.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Honestly... OP, I think even you realise how silly this sounds.

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"I have never been to a club or to a sex party or group meeting of any kind.

I have always worried that it would be filled with super hot guys and sexy girls who all know exactly what they are doing...

Maybe also filled with d*unk people and pounding music?

I do not drink or drug myself.

But other's seem to swear by clubs?

If I was to create a sex club it would be like coffee shop.

Peaceful chit chat with coffee. Then sneak of for a fuck with a stranger.

I can dream...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

Why assume that about Clubs? Some people are into fitness and don't drink at all, most drink but not enough to get d*unk.

Clubs have a wide variety of people attending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been to a club or to a sex party or group meeting of any kind.

I have always worried that it would be filled with super hot guys and sexy girls who all know exactly what they are doing...

Maybe also filled with d*unk people and pounding music?

I do not drink or drug myself.

But other's seem to swear by clubs?

If I was to create a sex club it would be like coffee shop.

Peaceful chit chat with coffee. Then sneak of for a fuck with a stranger.

I can dream...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

Being shy I was terrified the first time I went to a club, but once there it wasn't as intimadating as I had expected, as a lot aren't licsenced you don't tend to find too many d*unk people, in fact I think most aren't, just find a local one and go with out any expectations other than to meet like minded people out to enjoy themselves

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We've never done any of those you describe either, op. If we did we'd expect to see a cross section of society, so different types, shapes and sizes just like in the real world, excluding the so called elite clubs, gatherings and events like those that kill them cats.

In all seriousness thkugh, if I were you I'd just go and see for yourself or better go to an organised social event which I bet attracts those that frequent clubs, they have clothes on so less intimidating. We will go to a club this year, it just needs to be far, far away from home.

Good luck.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe try a club in the daytime when it is quiet ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are great. Safer way to meet people than here. It is harder to bull shit people when you are right infront of you. I don't drink at clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single man, it depends on you and it depends on the club.

I'd not reccomend you be willing to part with too much cash, nor bend through too many hoops to gain entry to ANY of the club's involved with Swinging.

It's not aimed at everyone. Most of them are safe places where people go to be their exhibitionist selves, party, socialise, catch up and make new friends.

If sex is your primary concern, you probably won't enjoy it and may feel a bit ripped off.

If like me, having a good night out and meeting new people is your main goal. Then dont write off the club side of things.

I'd reccomend you take a friend with you, male or female, so you've a wingman/woman. Someone to talk to and people watch with. Make a few ground rules if you need, stick to them and watch the social veris roll in the next day.

Same goes for Group Socials. I'd advise you start here, you may find someone like you who is at exactly the same stage in their exploration. Team up.. straights, bi's, Gays, Tv's whatever. Get to know the people and you will find a friend who'll have your back in the swinging world.

It's that simple.

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife

"Honestly... OP, I think even you realise how silly this sounds."

That’s very harsh words to used , he obviously has social anxiety Istanbul!!! Get yourself down to your local doctors op .

The thing about it is you are going to be in the clubs and try and go with you flow

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I have never been to a club or to a sex party or group meeting of any kind.

I have always worried that it would be filled with super hot guys and sexy girls who all know exactly what they are doing...

Maybe also filled with d*unk people and pounding music?

I do not drink or drug myself.

But other's seem to swear by clubs?

If I was to create a sex club it would be like coffee shop.

Peaceful chit chat with coffee. Then sneak of for a fuck with a stranger.

I can dream...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

Don’t live with the shadow warriors of your mind.

Reality is brilliant, “what if” doesn’t quite make the mark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main club we attend is Secrets and it’s far from a club you would think. It’s classy, only single ladies and couples and the atmosphere is relaxed. They also serve a cuppa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late...."

I do lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been to one either as I too am intimidated, despite being a fairly confident person in general. I've always imagined sticky floors ??

I guess they all have different vibes and rules etc , so one may suit you more than another- just like any other club or cafe! I don't even know if there are any in the Norwich area?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late....

I do lol"

Not coffee but tea

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By *arlo82Woman
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Absolutely nothing like your description OP

Couldnt be further from. Most are so chilled and laid back and you chat about anything and make friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been to a club or to a sex party or group meeting of any kind.

I have always worried that it would be filled with super hot guys and sexy girls who all know exactly what they are doing...

Maybe also filled with d*unk people and pounding music?

I do not drink or drug myself.

But other's seem to swear by clubs?

If I was to create a sex club it would be like coffee shop.

Peaceful chit chat with coffee. Then sneak of for a fuck with a stranger.

I can dream...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

You could always approach Starbucks or Coffee Bean with a proposal. Not sure about the hot coffee near my naked parts though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After attending clubs for quite a few years now I couldn’t recommend trying one enough. I’ve met some great friends over the years there. Don’t go with any ideas of what to expect, just be non pushy and friendly with people in there and sure you’ll have a great time. Like been mentioned before maybe try one in the day first. First ever club I went to was Quest and that was a Wednesday afternoon so quite but just what you need for first trip there. Sure after you try one you’ll be hooked

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By *arlo82Woman
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late...."

Club Shhh sell tea, coffee and hot choc as well as a cheese toastie and chips up until it closes at 4am

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By *wallower88Man
over a year ago

London

I've been to places like a sauna. If alone in fine but if more than 3 people if the same place i get panicking worse than I normally would because were all naked

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By *wallower88Man
over a year ago

London

"I've been to places like a sauna. If alone in fine but if more than 3 people if the same place i get panicking worse than I normally would because were all naked"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late....

I do lol"

Ok sounds like a plan.... we can call it Swinging Starbucks

Op I can find you some start up money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late....

Club Shhh sell tea, coffee and hot choc as well as a cheese toastie and chips up until it closes at 4am "

Ok I’m there.... this beats eating halal food

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

As someone who spends a lot of time in clubs

There is nothing to be worried about. Clubs is full of people of all shapes and sizes. The music can be a mixture depending on the night in question

I would say sometimes there is out and out fun happening in the bar area

- but often they are in the play areas

People are from all different backgrounds, chat and have a laugh you will be supprised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late....

Club Shhh sell tea, coffee and hot choc as well as a cheese toastie and chips up until it closes at 4am "

Just curious, as your a host at events, would you say joining at the right time of the year would make a difference. In spring time people are generally more open and welcoming but in winter they tend to close up and just huddle together with people they know.

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By *wallower88Man
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've never been to one either as I too am intimidated, despite being a fairly confident person in general. I've always imagined sticky floors ??

I guess they all have different vibes and rules etc , so one may suit you more than another- just like any other club or cafe! I don't even know if there are any in the Norwich area?"

You're right. Also different vibes on different nights. If you like nights out and meeting new people. I'd highly reccomend it. Sex comes secondary I think.

There's a list of clubs and reviews on Fab. There must be. Norfolk is huge and Norwich is the only place around

Great Yarmouth is seedy enough to have one surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd open a Pirate themed club.

Do not steal this idea or I'll board your club, rope and pillage it! Look awesome doing so. You have been warned.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

"I have never been to a club or to a sex party or group meeting of any kind.

I have always worried that it would be filled with super hot guys and sexy girls who all know exactly what they are doing...

Maybe also filled with d*unk people and pounding music?

I do not drink or drug myself.

But other's seem to swear by clubs?

If I was to create a sex club it would be like coffee shop.

Peaceful chit chat with coffee. Then sneak of for a fuck with a stranger.

I can dream...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

As you've never been too one, what makes you think they're not like how yous like them to be?

There's really only one way to find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late....

I do lol

Ok sounds like a plan.... we can call it Swinging Starbucks

Op I can find you some start up money "

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By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

Ok sounds like a plan.... we can call it Swinging Starbucks

Op I can find you some start up money "

A few other coffee shop names ...

swingjava

cafeswing

copuccino

dirtymocha

jerkperk

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By *arlo82Woman
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late....

Club Shhh sell tea, coffee and hot choc as well as a cheese toastie and chips up until it closes at 4am

Haha there isn't a right or wrong time of year to join. If you're feeling a bit uncertain head to a few socials first then venture to a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok sounds like a plan.... we can call it Swinging Starbucks

Op I can find you some start up money

A few other coffee shop names ...

swingjava

cafeswing

copuccino

dirtymocha

jerkperk

Latte Secrets

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By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

In all seriousness some very good tips. Thank you for your comments.

Going to a club during the day while its quiet is an excellent idea.

I could imagine trying that.

Finding the right club also.

I better go on that diet I've been thinking about too ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been to a club or to a sex party or group meeting of any kind.

I have always worried that it would be filled with super hot guys and sexy girls who all know exactly what they are doing...

Maybe also filled with d*unk people and pounding music?

I do not drink or drug myself.

But other's seem to swear by clubs?

If I was to create a sex club it would be like coffee shop.

Peaceful chit chat with coffee. Then sneak of for a fuck with a stranger.

I can dream...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

For Christ's sake JUST GO and have a look for yourself instead of whinging on here

If you don't like it you don't have to stay, or ever go again.

Simples !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late....

Club Shhh sell tea, coffee and hot choc as well as a cheese toastie and chips up until it closes at 4am

Haha there isn't a right or wrong time of year to join. If you're feeling a bit uncertain head to a few socials first then venture to a club"

Just wondering if the sun factor ever played a part but I guy when your horny you horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok sounds like a plan.... we can call it Swinging Starbucks

Op I can find you some start up money

A few other coffee shop names ...

swingjava

cafeswing

copuccino

dirtymocha

jerkperk

Latte Secrets "

Cuckuccino

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By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

In fact thinking about it.. I would love to own and run an adult club - completely of my own design and choosing.

Could be amazing experience.

Can't see it making any money though.

To be honest I don't know how a lot of restaurants make money.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantasy.

How can you think about running a swingers club when you've never been to one ?

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By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

"Fantasy.

How can you think about running a swingers club when you've never been to one ?"

Imagine Rodin's 'The Thinker'...

Getting the idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been to a club or to a sex party or group meeting of any kind.

I have always worried that it would be filled with super hot guys and sexy girls who all know exactly what they are doing...

Maybe also filled with d*unk people and pounding music?

I do not drink or drug myself.

But other's seem to swear by clubs?

If I was to create a sex club it would be like coffee shop.

Peaceful chit chat with coffee. Then sneak of for a fuck with a stranger.

I can dream...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

For Christ's sake JUST GO and have a look for yourself instead of whinging on here

If you don't like it you don't have to stay, or ever go again.

Simples !

He’s not whinging though unless I can’t read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're wrong.

Swinging is all ages and body types. It's just your everyday people looking for a little sextra.

The ones I've visited have a bar area. You will be fine. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to church maybe

Join your local bingo hall

Bridge club

Look at for signs in village halls that say "coffee morning"

You'll get there one day op ...

Think brexit ..no deal no problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In fact thinking about it.. I would love to own and run an adult club - completely of my own design and choosing.

Could be amazing experience.

Can't see it making any money though.

To be honest I don't know how a lot of restaurants make money."

They sell food

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In fact thinking about it.. I would love to own and run an adult club - completely of my own design and choosing.

Could be amazing experience.

Can't see it making any money though.

To be honest I don't know how a lot of restaurants make money."

I lot of restaurant's don't. Start up restaurant businesses are lucky to last 2 years and the profit margins are sometimes less than 10%. Like any business, staff are you biggest cost, along with taxes and rates. Your on to a winner if you get your concept, service and product offering successfully right. I imagine running a club would have the same challenges of running any business that looking for people to spend their disposal income. Go for it OP. The pitfalls are plenty, but the rewards are great.

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By *ugs and JunkCouple
over a year ago

Bellshill

That’s like saying everyone who goes to the gym is using steroids.

Very naive and narrow minded assumptions

Mrs

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

I am very new to the scene and can naturally understand the apprehension you (OP) are feeling, however, I think you'd be pleasantly surprised.

I've visited a few clubs now and have had a great time on each occasion.

Go with an open mind, expecting not to necessarily be involved in any sexy play (consider that a bonus), engage with others - female / male / couples - with respect and sincerity, as you would in any other social setting, and I'm sure you'll have a nice time.

Best wishes.

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By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

Forgive my naivety and my ignorance,

But if at a club and meeting someone for the first time and playing...

Would you feel safe kissing? Snogging? giving oral? rimming etc?

Where do you draw the line?

Maybe the person you are snogging just rimmed someone else or swallowed?

Sorry but these of the kind of things I think of.

I even think a potential playmate could take offense at my wanting to use a condom as if its a personal slur against them.

Crazy huh!

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By *reeman76Man
over a year ago

oldbury

"You just came up with a great business idea....

A swinging coffee shop.....

Your only problem is serving coffee after 10 pm....

Most people don’t drink coffee that late...."

De-clothing decafe

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

Some clubs have events that are less intense e.g a “pub” night or even non-playing.

I went to one of the latter - it got me through the door and gave me some insight into that kind of venue.

People were very friendly and it dispelled a lot of fears.

The parties I’ve been to reminded me of coffee shops, with lots of chat. At least in the early stages

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By *aughty neighboursWoman
over a year ago

Barnsley

You could call your swing/coffee shop

Flick your bean!! :D

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By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

How about the C-spot

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"How about the C-spot"

Starfucks

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By *racknell Sex OP Man
over a year ago

Bracknell

"How about the C-spot

Starfucks "

subtle...lol

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Forgive my naivety and my ignorance,

But if at a club and meeting someone for the first time and playing...

Would you feel safe kissing? Snogging? giving oral? rimming etc?

Where do you draw the line?

Maybe the person you are snogging just rimmed someone else or swallowed?

Sorry but these of the kind of things I think of.

I even think a potential playmate could take offense at my wanting to use a condom as if its a personal slur against them.

Crazy huh!

Maybe clubs aren't for you if that is your point of view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been to a club or to a sex party or group meeting of any kind.

I have always worried that it would be filled with super hot guys and sexy girls who all know exactly what they are doing...

Maybe also filled with d*unk people and pounding music?

I do not drink or drug myself.

But other's seem to swear by clubs?

If I was to create a sex club it would be like coffee shop.

Peaceful chit chat with coffee. Then sneak of for a fuck with a stranger.

I can dream...

What are your thoughts on the subject?

For Christ's sake JUST GO and have a look for yourself instead of whinging on here

If you don't like it you don't have to stay, or ever go again.

Simples !

It's lovely how understanding some people can be in the forums sometimes. Warms the ole cockles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's lovely how understanding some people can be in the forums sometimes. Warms the ole cockles "

Afraid I don't have a lot of time for faint hearts and dreamers. Had enough of them on here.

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