FabSwingers.com forum: Would you respect me?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For some people it’s very hard to hear the truth... So sometimes people lie to them in a effort to spare their fragile feelings....

I believe in earning people’s respect above everything in life...So I try to be as honest as possible with anyone I meet....

A friend of mine asked me tonight if it was okay to start dating a girl I used to hook up with over the summer....

I told him it’s fine and I wish him the best of luck....

He then asked me what she was like in bed....

I told him ..... I wasn’t really attracted to her , I didn’t like to kiss her , I found her body repulsive, I could only have sex with her if I was d*unk , But I did love her vagina.....

So I basically told him the woman he is going to build a relationship with , only good and redeeming quality is her vagina....

Now would you respect me for telling the truth or would you think I was only saying this because of sour grapes......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would depend on if you actually were telling the truth to be fair.

But at the same time you kinda lose respect for being so desperate to be shagging somone you found repulsive.

So i dunno neutral?

But part of me thinks this may well be an episode of "shit that never happened"

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It would depend on if you actually were telling the truth to be fair.

But at the same time you kinda lose respect for being so desperate to be shagging somone you found repulsive.

So i dunno neutral?

But part of me thinks this may well be an episode of "shit that never happened""

Interesting...... so you never had sex with someone you were not attracted too....

I’m basically saying I had sex with someone ugly....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point. "

You do realize he asked me?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point.

You do realize he asked me?"

Yes I do but you didn’t have to answer and it kind of tells you everything you need to know about him as well I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point.

You do realize he asked me?

Yes I do but you didn’t have to answer and it kind of tells you everything you need to know about him as well I suppose. "

I guess he was trying to measure up to me or find out if she was kinky....

Who knows....

But do you think me telling him this comes off as sour grapes?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would depend on if you actually were telling the truth to be fair.

But at the same time you kinda lose respect for being so desperate to be shagging somone you found repulsive.

So i dunno neutral?

But part of me thinks this may well be an episode of "shit that never happened"

Interesting...... so you never had sex with someone you were not attracted too....

I’m basically saying I had sex with someone ugly...."

Never with somone i found so repulsive i had to be drugged/d*unk no...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat...."

I have toys if I feel the need. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Testosterone is the devil

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point.

You do realize he asked me?

Yes I do but you didn’t have to answer and it kind of tells you everything you need to know about him as well I suppose.

I guess he was trying to measure up to me or find out if she was kinky....

Who knows....

But do you think me telling him this comes off as sour grapes?"

Yes unfortunately because why would you have sex with someone you’re not attracted to and why give the information away so readily? Just my take on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It would depend on if you actually were telling the truth to be fair.

But at the same time you kinda lose respect for being so desperate to be shagging somone you found repulsive.

So i dunno neutral?

But part of me thinks this may well be an episode of "shit that never happened"

Interesting...... so you never had sex with someone you were not attracted too....

I’m basically saying I had sex with someone ugly....

Never with somone i found so repulsive i had to be drugged/d*unk no...

Ok fair point.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x"

Good point, but I don’t think I’ll be invited to this wedding...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x

Good point, but I don’t think I’ll be invited to this wedding..."

Not if you’re still shagging her out of pity

No!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat....

I have toys if I feel the need. Thank you."

I’m sorry, I forgot you’re a attractive woman on Fab.... you will have more options....

Some of us less fortunate have to work with what we have in front of us...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point.

You do realize he asked me?

Yes I do but you didn’t have to answer and it kind of tells you everything you need to know about him as well I suppose.

I guess he was trying to measure up to me or find out if she was kinky....

Who knows....

But do you think me telling him this comes off as sour grapes?

Yes unfortunately because why would you have sex with someone you’re not attracted to and why give the information away so readily? Just my take on it. "

Well he asked a question and I gave a honest answer....

If someone asks me a question.... I will readily give a honest answer.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x

Good point, but I don’t think I’ll be invited to this wedding...

Not if you’re still shagging her out of pity

No!

No that ship has sailed... I ghosted her around August... she has been blocked on my phone and all social media since then...

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat....

I have toys if I feel the need. Thank you.

I’m sorry, I forgot you’re a attractive woman on Fab.... you will have more options....

Some of us less fortunate have to work with what we have in front of us..."

Personally speaking it’s not about if we would have respect after you told a friend what you thought of a women he was going to date !!!!!

It’s about if we think your a prick !!!! And that’s a definitely from me

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By *1FuntimesMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire

Did you tell the woman what you thought of her, in an honest way ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat....

I have toys if I feel the need. Thank you.

I’m sorry, I forgot you’re a attractive woman on Fab.... you will have more options....

Some of us less fortunate have to work with what we have in front of us..."

How do you know if I'm attractive?

My options are - I will only have sex with someone I fancy and feel the mutual attraction is present. Being horny never made me do anything I wouldn't be happy with. Perhaps I'm different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you tell the woman what you thought of her, in an honest way ?"

Nobody has time for that.... I just ghosted her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x

Good point, but I don’t think I’ll be invited to this wedding...

Not if you’re still shagging her out of pity

No!

No that ship has sailed... I ghosted her around August... she has been blocked on my phone and all social media since then..."

Please tell me you at least politely ended things with her?

Everyone has the right to chose to date/ have sex etc with whomever they want and to end it for whatever you want

However- it’s human decency to clearly end the relationship

Mrs P x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat....

I have toys if I feel the need. Thank you.

I’m sorry, I forgot you’re a attractive woman on Fab.... you will have more options....

Some of us less fortunate have to work with what we have in front of us...

How do you know if I'm attractive?

My options are - I will only have sex with someone I fancy and feel the mutual attraction is present. Being horny never made me do anything I wouldn't be happy with. Perhaps I'm different. "

Attractive is only my opinion by looking at your pics... I would have to see your face to determine if you’re beautiful/stunning...

Please don’t take this as a come on... I’m just answering your question...

Now if a friend told you this about a guy you’re about to date... how you feel about her?

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By *1FuntimesMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire

But you say at start of thread " I believe in earning people’s respect above everything in life...So I try to be as honest as possible with anyone I meet...."

So should of told woman what you thought of her, if this is true.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point.

You do realize he asked me?

Yes I do but you didn’t have to answer and it kind of tells you everything you need to know about him as well I suppose.

I guess he was trying to measure up to me or find out if she was kinky....

Who knows....

But do you think me telling him this comes off as sour grapes?

Yes unfortunately because why would you have sex with someone you’re not attracted to and why give the information away so readily? Just my take on it.

Well he asked a question and I gave a honest answer....

If someone asks me a question.... I will readily give a honest answer....."

Where does discretion come into it? Did you give any thought to the lady?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you tell the woman what you thought of her, in an honest way ?

Nobody has time for that.... I just ghosted her."

I’m sad for you.

I’m sad that you haven’t developed a mature enough outlook on life yet.

Time will hopefully give you experiences that will make you realise human interaction is THE best thing on this planet.

Mrs P

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x

Good point, but I don’t think I’ll be invited to this wedding...

Not if you’re still shagging her out of pity

No!

No that ship has sailed... I ghosted her around August... she has been blocked on my phone and all social media since then...

Please tell me you at least politely ended things with her?

Everyone has the right to chose to date/ have sex etc with whomever they want and to end it for whatever you want

However- it’s human decency to clearly end the relationship

Mrs P x"

Honestly I don’t like to lie to people and say let’s be friends... it’s much better to ghost and not have to deal with awkward conversations in the future.....

If you ghost someone.... in their minds they can feel like you’re dead.... so they actually feel better about themselves...

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By *ildfire1212Man
over a year ago

fife

"Did you tell the woman what you thought of her, in an honest way ?

Nobody has time for that.... I just ghosted her.

I’m sad for you.

I’m sad that you haven’t developed a mature enough outlook on life yet.

Time will hopefully give you experiences that will make you realise human interaction is THE best thing on this planet.

Mrs P

I get the feeling he’s taking the piss here and checked out his profile and public pics he’s at a meet with his mum !!!!!

Take it with a pinch of salt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you tell the woman what you thought of her, in an honest way ?

Nobody has time for that.... I just ghosted her.

I’m sad for you.

I’m sad that you haven’t developed a mature enough outlook on life yet.

Time will hopefully give you experiences that will make you realise human interaction is THE best thing on this planet.

Mrs P

I get the feeling he’s taking the piss here and checked out his profile and public pics he’s at a meet with his mum !!!!!

Take it with a pinch of salt

Oh!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But you say at start of thread " I believe in earning people’s respect above everything in life...So I try to be as honest as possible with anyone I meet...."

So should of told woman what you thought of her, if this is true."

Look she never asked me what I think of her... if she did I would have told her the truth...

This woman is highly intelligent with a good paying corporate job....

If she only came over after I was d*unk , never spent the night, and was never seen in day light or public with me... she should know how I felt about her....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x

Good point, but I don’t think I’ll be invited to this wedding...

Not if you’re still shagging her out of pity

No!

No that ship has sailed... I ghosted her around August... she has been blocked on my phone and all social media since then...

Please tell me you at least politely ended things with her?

Everyone has the right to chose to date/ have sex etc with whomever they want and to end it for whatever you want

However- it’s human decency to clearly end the relationship

Mrs P x

Honestly I don’t like to lie to people and say let’s be friends... it’s much better to ghost and not have to deal with awkward conversations in the future.....

If you ghost someone.... in their minds they can feel like you’re dead.... so they actually feel better about themselves..."

I’m baffled. Confused. Bafffled and confused?!

Why would you lie and say you want to be friends?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has sex with a person they find their body repulsive and only do it because they're d*unk and horny, I wouldn't go near them. Talking about respect for self and the others.

Animals have sex where they don't need another option. Humans can choose.

Good day!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point.

You do realize he asked me?

Yes I do but you didn’t have to answer and it kind of tells you everything you need to know about him as well I suppose.

I guess he was trying to measure up to me or find out if she was kinky....

Who knows....

But do you think me telling him this comes off as sour grapes?

Yes unfortunately because why would you have sex with someone you’re not attracted to and why give the information away so readily? Just my take on it.

Well he asked a question and I gave a honest answer....

If someone asks me a question.... I will readily give a honest answer.....

Where does discretion come into it? Did you give any thought to the lady? "

Now you have utterly confused me...

Why would I have to be discreet when speaking to a friend?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you tell the woman what you thought of her, in an honest way ?

Nobody has time for that.... I just ghosted her.

I’m sad for you.

I’m sad that you haven’t developed a mature enough outlook on life yet.

Time will hopefully give you experiences that will make you realise human interaction is THE best thing on this planet.

Mrs P

I love people... honestly I do

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point.

You do realize he asked me?

Yes I do but you didn’t have to answer and it kind of tells you everything you need to know about him as well I suppose.

I guess he was trying to measure up to me or find out if she was kinky....

Who knows....

But do you think me telling him this comes off as sour grapes?

Yes unfortunately because why would you have sex with someone you’re not attracted to and why give the information away so readily? Just my take on it.

Well he asked a question and I gave a honest answer....

If someone asks me a question.... I will readily give a honest answer.....

Where does discretion come into it? Did you give any thought to the lady?

Now you have utterly confused me...

Why would I have to be discreet when speaking to a friend?"

If you don’t get it then there’s no more to be said

The scenario is a curious one but quite simple really ... she’s better off without both of you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you tell the woman what you thought of her, in an honest way ?

Nobody has time for that.... I just ghosted her.

I’m sad for you.

I’m sad that you haven’t developed a mature enough outlook on life yet.

Time will hopefully give you experiences that will make you realise human interaction is THE best thing on this planet.

Mrs P

I get the feeling he’s taking the piss here and checked out his profile and public pics he’s at a meet with his mum !!!!!

Take it with a pinch of salt

Hi fine Sir... thank you for contributing to this thread... I will like to advise you that this is not North Korea and you’re not compelled to read the writings of the dear leader Rudeboycane...

There is a send a dirty picture to the person above thread with your name on it....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x

Good point, but I don’t think I’ll be invited to this wedding...

Not if you’re still shagging her out of pity

No!

No that ship has sailed... I ghosted her around August... she has been blocked on my phone and all social media since then...

Please tell me you at least politely ended things with her?

Everyone has the right to chose to date/ have sex etc with whomever they want and to end it for whatever you want

However- it’s human decency to clearly end the relationship

Mrs P x

Honestly I don’t like to lie to people and say let’s be friends... it’s much better to ghost and not have to deal with awkward conversations in the future.....

If you ghost someone.... in their minds they can feel like you’re dead.... so they actually feel better about themselves...

I’m baffled. Confused. Bafffled and confused?!

Why would you lie and say you want to be friends?

What happens when a fling ends these days is that you tend to stay in contact with people via social media....

So if you don’t want anything to do with someone... they will still stalk your time line , like your pics , and write uncomfortable replies to anything you post....

It becomes kinda creepy.... so ghosting and blocking is the only answer....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone has sex with a person they find their body repulsive and only do it because they're d*unk and horny, I wouldn't go near them. Talking about respect for self and the others.

Animals have sex where they don't need another option. Humans can choose.

Good day!"

So I’m wrong for just liking her vagina and not her as a person?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point.

You do realize he asked me?

Yes I do but you didn’t have to answer and it kind of tells you everything you need to know about him as well I suppose.

I guess he was trying to measure up to me or find out if she was kinky....

Who knows....

But do you think me telling him this comes off as sour grapes?

Yes unfortunately because why would you have sex with someone you’re not attracted to and why give the information away so readily? Just my take on it.

Well he asked a question and I gave a honest answer....

If someone asks me a question.... I will readily give a honest answer.....

Where does discretion come into it? Did you give any thought to the lady?

Now you have utterly confused me...

Why would I have to be discreet when speaking to a friend?

If you don’t get it then there’s no more to be said

The scenario is a curious one but quite simple really ... she’s better off without both of you

This statement is totally not fair....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x

Good point, but I don’t think I’ll be invited to this wedding...

Not if you’re still shagging her out of pity

No!

No that ship has sailed... I ghosted her around August... she has been blocked on my phone and all social media since then...

Please tell me you at least politely ended things with her?

Everyone has the right to chose to date/ have sex etc with whomever they want and to end it for whatever you want

However- it’s human decency to clearly end the relationship

Mrs P x

Honestly I don’t like to lie to people and say let’s be friends... it’s much better to ghost and not have to deal with awkward conversations in the future.....

If you ghost someone.... in their minds they can feel like you’re dead.... so they actually feel better about themselves...

I’m baffled. Confused. Bafffled and confused?!

Why would you lie and say you want to be friends?

What happens when a fling ends these days is that you tend to stay in contact with people via social media....

So if you don’t want anything to do with someone... they will still stalk your time line , like your pics , and write uncomfortable replies to anything you post....

It becomes kinda creepy.... so ghosting and blocking is the only answer...."

You see- I agree with you that you don’t want people to follow you etc

And blocking may be the answer...

But not ghosting.

That says more about your lack of confidence in yourself being ‘honest’ and being able to clearly explain your thoughts in an articulate and mature manner.

Mrs P

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point.

You do realize he asked me?

Yes I do but you didn’t have to answer and it kind of tells you everything you need to know about him as well I suppose.

I guess he was trying to measure up to me or find out if she was kinky....

Who knows....

But do you think me telling him this comes off as sour grapes?

Yes unfortunately because why would you have sex with someone you’re not attracted to and why give the information away so readily? Just my take on it.

Well he asked a question and I gave a honest answer....

If someone asks me a question.... I will readily give a honest answer.....

Where does discretion come into it? Did you give any thought to the lady?

Now you have utterly confused me...

Why would I have to be discreet when speaking to a friend?

If you don’t get it then there’s no more to be said

The scenario is a curious one but quite simple really ... she’s better off without both of you

This statement is totally not fair...."

Neither of you have considered the lady. You’re gossiping amongst yourselves (if this is all true) so no I don’t think it’s unfair. So we should agree to disagree I think

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

I suppose it depends on what your real reasons are for being that brutally honest with your friend. Anybody with any emotional intelligence would know how disrespectful and bitter it comes across towards the lady. Are you frightened of losing your friend that you felt like you had to sabbotage the start of a new relationship? You sound deeply unhappy to fuck someone you found so repulsive.

Does it sound like sourgrapes? Maybe. Let's hope your friend has found something special. One man's trash is another man's treasure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x

Good point, but I don’t think I’ll be invited to this wedding...

Not if you’re still shagging her out of pity

No!

No that ship has sailed... I ghosted her around August... she has been blocked on my phone and all social media since then...

Please tell me you at least politely ended things with her?

Everyone has the right to chose to date/ have sex etc with whomever they want and to end it for whatever you want

However- it’s human decency to clearly end the relationship

Mrs P x

Honestly I don’t like to lie to people and say let’s be friends... it’s much better to ghost and not have to deal with awkward conversations in the future.....

If you ghost someone.... in their minds they can feel like you’re dead.... so they actually feel better about themselves...

I’m baffled. Confused. Bafffled and confused?!

Why would you lie and say you want to be friends?

What happens when a fling ends these days is that you tend to stay in contact with people via social media....

So if you don’t want anything to do with someone... they will still stalk your time line , like your pics , and write uncomfortable replies to anything you post....

It becomes kinda creepy.... so ghosting and blocking is the only answer....

You see- I agree with you that you don’t want people to follow you etc

And blocking may be the answer...

But not ghosting.

That says more about your lack of confidence in yourself being ‘honest’ and being able to clearly explain your thoughts in an articulate and mature manner.

Mrs P"

Honesty can come off as rudeness sometimes and in a situation like this... I’d rather be remembered as a coward than a rude person....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah im definitly filling this under shit that never happened

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I suppose it depends on what your real reasons are for being that brutally honest with your friend. Anybody with any emotional intelligence would know how disrespectful and bitter it comes across towards the lady. Are you frightened of losing your friend that you felt like you had to sabbotage the start of a new relationship? You sound deeply unhappy to fuck someone you found so repulsive.

Does it sound like sourgrapes? Maybe. Let's hope your friend has found something special. One man's trash is another man's treasure. "

Honestly, if I told him she was very kinky in bed and all the graphic details of our bedroom antics.... would I still come off as bitter? Would he maybe question his new relationship?

There is always two sides to a coin....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yeah im definitly filling this under shit that never happened"

Thank you fine Sir..... your contribution to this thread was commendable...

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation."

I beg to differ...... when you’re horny and d*unk things just kinda happen....

It’s the heat of the moment kinda thing...

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

U havnt earn my respect

Bit childish the way u said it's like u want her u can have her she's xxxx n this anyways

U said it's fine for him to date her but u don't seem genuinely happy for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure why you would tell a mate what the lady was like in bed. I would lose respect at that point. "

This.. bit shitty if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation.

I beg to differ...... when you’re horny and d*unk things just kinda happen....

It’s the heat of the moment kinda thing..."

Didnt matter how d*unk i was id never have sex with anyone i didnt fancy.. never

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know for u op but when I buy bleach at the shop I pay in cash. Hope that will make you think

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Yeah im definitly filling this under shit that never happened"

Me too.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation.

I beg to differ...... when you’re horny and d*unk things just kinda happen....

It’s the heat of the moment kinda thing..."

So you spent a lot of time over the summer d*unk and horny then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation.

I beg to differ...... when you’re horny and d*unk things just kinda happen....

It’s the heat of the moment kinda thing...

Didnt matter how d*unk i was id never have sex with anyone i didnt fancy.. never"

But what if you only liked their penis?

Should that matter?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation.

I beg to differ...... when you’re horny and d*unk things just kinda happen....

It’s the heat of the moment kinda thing...

So you spent a lot of time over the summer d*unk and horny then."

Do you ever stay on topic of the thread?

You really like to take conversations on tangents....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would depend on if you actually were telling the truth to be fair.

But at the same time you kinda lose respect for being so desperate to be shagging somone you found repulsive.

So i dunno neutral?

But part of me thinks this may well be an episode of "shit that never happened"

Interesting...... so you never had sex with someone you were not attracted too....

I’m basically saying I had sex with someone ugly...."

Hopefully your pal isn't as shallow as you, if so then the lass needs a new pool of blokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a load of bollocks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It would depend on if you actually were telling the truth to be fair.

But at the same time you kinda lose respect for being so desperate to be shagging somone you found repulsive.

So i dunno neutral?

But part of me thinks this may well be an episode of "shit that never happened"

Interesting...... so you never had sex with someone you were not attracted too....

I’m basically saying I had sex with someone ugly....

Hopefully your pal isn't as shallow as you, if so then the lass needs a new pool of blokes "

So by not being attracted to someone facially but just liking their sex organ ... I’m now considered shallow... that’s rich...

So let me guess ... you meet every faceless person that emails you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respect people's honesty and spade is a spade approach. However, I'd think you were a bit of a prick for being so derogatory about someone in that way.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation.

I beg to differ...... when you’re horny and d*unk things just kinda happen....

It’s the heat of the moment kinda thing...

So you spent a lot of time over the summer d*unk and horny then.

Do you ever stay on topic of the thread?

You really like to take conversations on tangents...."

I like to expand on thing's and learn,it's what makes me a well rounded human being. You've got your inital answer from people,do you just want a thread full of yes answers?

No need to answer that it's clear what the answer is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I respect people's honesty and spade is a spade approach. However, I'd think you were a bit of a prick for being so derogatory about someone in that way. "

So let me get this straight.... you like the truth only if it’s not derogatory?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation.

I beg to differ...... when you’re horny and d*unk things just kinda happen....

It’s the heat of the moment kinda thing...

So you spent a lot of time over the summer d*unk and horny then.

Do you ever stay on topic of the thread?

You really like to take conversations on tangents....

I like to expand on thing's and learn,it's what makes me a well rounded human being. You've got your inital answer from people,do you just want a thread full of yes answers?

No need to answer that it's clear what the answer is."

No not at all... I’m looking for peoples honest opinions on how I looked to my friend after I said that statement....

Calling me desperate was a cheap shot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone has sex with a person they find their body repulsive and only do it because they're d*unk and horny, I wouldn't go near them. Talking about respect for self and the others.

Animals have sex where they don't need another option. Humans can choose.

Good day!

So I’m wrong for just liking her vagina and not her as a person?"

Did you meet her vagina first or did you meet a woman initially?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I respect people's honesty and spade is a spade approach. However, I'd think you were a bit of a prick for being so derogatory about someone in that way.

So let me get this straight.... you like the truth only if it’s not derogatory?"

Wonder what the girl would say about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe that most of these people that are shocked by the op's discussion with his mate have never had similar frank discussions! Op whilst I like to think I wouldn't find myself in your situation of having sex with someone I didn't find attractive, it does happen. And if a friend asked me the same I think I'd also have to be honest with them... maybe not quite as brutal as you implied you were... I'd choose my words carefully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming this is true, it's his fault for asking what she's like in bed. That automatically shows that he only sees her as a sex partner, a shag. No way in hell would I ask someone what a woman is like in bed because I only care about what she's like in bed with ME, and I'll do my own groundwork of building that relationship or arrangement with her. Your mate probably gets off on hearing about your sexual encounters and seeing that he's pursuing your previous partner, he probably finds it easier having a third party or triangulating to make new connections because he's too insecure to do it on his own. The fact that you've been with this lady and he's your friend legitimises the connection in some way. Just seems weird if a relationship is what he wants. I doubt it.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation.

I beg to differ...... when you’re horny and d*unk things just kinda happen....

It’s the heat of the moment kinda thing...

So you spent a lot of time over the summer d*unk and horny then.

Do you ever stay on topic of the thread?

You really like to take conversations on tangents....

I like to expand on thing's and learn,it's what makes me a well rounded human being. You've got your inital answer from people,do you just want a thread full of yes answers?

No need to answer that it's clear what the answer is.

No not at all... I’m looking for peoples honest opinions on how I looked to my friend after I said that statement....

Calling me desperate was a cheap shot"

No it wasn't a cheap shot and I didn't call you desperate. However if you had sex with someone that you think is ugly then you are indeed...desperate.

How do you get an erection in that case?

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

To answer the original question; yes, to me it would sound like sour grapes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't believe that most of these people that are shocked by the op's discussion with his mate have never had similar frank discussions! Op whilst I like to think I wouldn't find myself in your situation of having sex with someone I didn't find attractive, it does happen. And if a friend asked me the same I think I'd also have to be honest with them... maybe not quite as brutal as you implied you were... I'd choose my words carefully. "

Thank you very much.... I notice hypocrisy is rife on the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you used this poor woman for sex then later slag her off because you weren’t attracted to her.

You don’t deserve respect for being honest. you didn’t respect that poor girl you slated. you didn’t respect your friends new relationship

Your attitude is frankly disgusting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Assuming this is true, it's his fault for asking what she's like in bed. That automatically shows that he only sees her as a sex partner, a shag. No way in hell would I ask someone what a woman is like in bed because I only care about what she's like in bed with ME, and I'll do my own groundwork of building that relationship or arrangement with her. Your mate probably gets off on hearing about your sexual encounters and seeing that he's pursuing your previous partner, he probably finds it easier having a third party or triangulating to make new connections because he's too insecure to do it on his own. The fact that you've been with this lady and he's your friend legitimises the connection in some way. Just seems weird if a relationship is what he wants. I doubt it. "

High Five... you get it...

Don’t ask a question if you might not like the answer....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation.

I beg to differ...... when you’re horny and d*unk things just kinda happen....

It’s the heat of the moment kinda thing...

So you spent a lot of time over the summer d*unk and horny then.

Do you ever stay on topic of the thread?

You really like to take conversations on tangents....

I like to expand on thing's and learn,it's what makes me a well rounded human being. You've got your inital answer from people,do you just want a thread full of yes answers?

No need to answer that it's clear what the answer is.

No not at all... I’m looking for peoples honest opinions on how I looked to my friend after I said that statement....

Calling me desperate was a cheap shot

No it wasn't a cheap shot and I didn't call you desperate. However if you had sex with someone that you think is ugly then you are indeed...desperate.

How do you get an erection in that case?"

I turn off one of my senses to elevate another of my senses....

That means close my eyes and just feel.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To answer the original question; yes, to me it would sound like sour grapes."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you used this poor woman for sex then later slag her off because you weren’t attracted to her.

You don’t deserve respect for being honest. you didn’t respect that poor girl you slated. you didn’t respect your friends new relationship

Your attitude is frankly disgusting "

So lying to him or avoiding the question would be a better solution?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I would be wondering why you had sex with a woman who's only redeeming feature you think is her vagina. Smacks of desperation.

I beg to differ...... when you’re horny and d*unk things just kinda happen....

It’s the heat of the moment kinda thing...

So you spent a lot of time over the summer d*unk and horny then.

Do you ever stay on topic of the thread?

You really like to take conversations on tangents....

I like to expand on thing's and learn,it's what makes me a well rounded human being. You've got your inital answer from people,do you just want a thread full of yes answers?

No need to answer that it's clear what the answer is.

No not at all... I’m looking for peoples honest opinions on how I looked to my friend after I said that statement....

Calling me desperate was a cheap shot

No it wasn't a cheap shot and I didn't call you desperate. However if you had sex with someone that you think is ugly then you are indeed...desperate.

How do you get an erection in that case?

I turn off one of my senses to elevate another of my senses....

That means close my eyes and just feel....."

Thankyou for answering my question and not coming out with your usual reply. It makes a nice change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat...."

Thanks, but I'd rather go hungry than put up with something unappetising.

And there are more tactful ways of answering your friend's question; you could have just said something like "mmm, gorgeous pussy" (or whatever your favoured terminology) and said what a lovely personality she had (if that was the case). It's possible to be both honest and respectful of the woman and your friend's taste

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If someone has sex with a person they find their body repulsive and only do it because they're d*unk and horny, I wouldn't go near them. Talking about respect for self and the others.

Animals have sex where they don't need another option. Humans can choose.

Good day!

So I’m wrong for just liking her vagina and not her as a person?

Did you meet her vagina first or did you meet a woman initially?

I honestly don’t remember.... I was 3 sheets to the wind that night

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I respect people's honesty and spade is a spade approach. However, I'd think you were a bit of a prick for being so derogatory about someone in that way.

So let me get this straight.... you like the truth only if it’s not derogatory?

Wonder what the girl would say about you?"

That’s a little out of order....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat....

Thanks, but I'd rather go hungry than put up with something unappetising.

I’m sorry but I don’t lie to my friends..... if they ask , they shall receive the truth....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would depend on if you actually were telling the truth to be fair.

But at the same time you kinda lose respect for being so desperate to be shagging somone you found repulsive.

So i dunno neutral?

But part of me thinks this may well be an episode of "shit that never happened"

Interesting...... so you never had sex with someone you were not attracted too....

I’m basically saying I had sex with someone ugly....

Hopefully your pal isn't as shallow as you, if so then the lass needs a new pool of blokes "

She needs to stop picking friends to fk! I mean how old is she, a teenager - or maybe just kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I respect people's honesty and spade is a spade approach. However, I'd think you were a bit of a prick for being so derogatory about someone in that way.

So let me get this straight.... you like the truth only if it’s not derogatory?

Wonder what the girl would say about you?

That’s a little out of order...."

Why? Surely if you're able to be honest about her, she should be able to do the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking about an ex partner in such a shitty way? If he didn’t walk away thinking less of you then he’s probably on the same level.

And if he falls for her and it gets serious he’s always going to remember what you said about his girl??

If you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications openly state sex acts and ratings of sexual performance, for thousands of people to read. Yet when 2 men discuss the same it's considered a bad thing. That's weird.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I respect people's honesty and spade is a spade approach. However, I'd think you were a bit of a prick for being so derogatory about someone in that way.

So let me get this straight.... you like the truth only if it’s not derogatory?

Wonder what the girl would say about you?

That’s a little out of order....

Why? Surely if you're able to be honest about her, she should be able to do the same? "

Let’s just say , she wouldn’t have nice things to say about me...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Talking about an ex partner in such a shitty way? If he didn’t walk away thinking less of you then he’s probably on the same level.

And if he falls for her and it gets serious he’s always going to remember what you said about his girl??

If you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all "

So you only like the truth if it’s nice....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Verifications openly state sex acts and ratings of sexual performance, for thousands of people to read. Yet when 2 men discuss the same it's considered a bad thing. That's weird."

Glass houses springs to mind.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely no respect from me ... all you had to say was that you didn't fancy each other and leave it at that! You spoke about someone behind their back = not nice and makes you seem untrustworthy

You might have lost a friend in the future = fickle

And have no diplomacy ... all the above traits I don't find particularly attractive in anyone, sorry!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you used this poor woman for sex then later slag her off because you weren’t attracted to her.

You don’t deserve respect for being honest. you didn’t respect that poor girl you slated. you didn’t respect your friends new relationship

Your attitude is frankly disgusting

So lying to him or avoiding the question would be a better solution?"

What you got up to sexually was between you and her. No one else’s business. Your friend can find out for himself what she is like.

It’s not lying or avoiding the question it’s about being respectful to your playmate and discreet

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over a year ago

"I respect people's honesty and spade is a spade approach. However, I'd think you were a bit of a prick for being so derogatory about someone in that way.

So let me get this straight.... you like the truth only if it’s not derogatory?

Wonder what the girl would say about you?

That’s a little out of order....

Why? Surely if you're able to be honest about her, she should be able to do the same?

Let’s just say , she wouldn’t have nice things to say about me... "

Can't blame her for that.

So perhaps that answers your own question?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Absolutely no respect from me ... all you had to say was that you didn't fancy each other and leave it at that! You spoke about someone behind their back = not nice and makes you seem untrustworthy

You might have lost a friend in the future = fickle

And have no diplomacy ... all the above traits I don't find particularly attractive in anyone, sorry! "

Thank you for being honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verifications openly state sex acts and ratings of sexual performance, for thousands of people to read. Yet when 2 men discuss the same it's considered a bad thing. That's weird.

Glass houses springs to mind....."

I think many verifications are disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So you used this poor woman for sex then later slag her off because you weren’t attracted to her.

You don’t deserve respect for being honest. you didn’t respect that poor girl you slated. you didn’t respect your friends new relationship

Your attitude is frankly disgusting

So lying to him or avoiding the question would be a better solution?

What you got up to sexually was between you and her. No one else’s business. Your friend can find out for himself what she is like.

It’s not lying or avoiding the question it’s about being respectful to your playmate and discreet

So you don’t talk to your girlfriends about your sex life?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I respect people's honesty and spade is a spade approach. However, I'd think you were a bit of a prick for being so derogatory about someone in that way.

So let me get this straight.... you like the truth only if it’s not derogatory?

Wonder what the girl would say about you?

That’s a little out of order....

Why? Surely if you're able to be honest about her, she should be able to do the same?

Let’s just say , she wouldn’t have nice things to say about me...

Can't blame her for that.

So perhaps that answers your own question? "

But I would still respect her honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you used this poor woman for sex then later slag her off because you weren’t attracted to her.

You don’t deserve respect for being honest. you didn’t respect that poor girl you slated. you didn’t respect your friends new relationship

Your attitude is frankly disgusting

So lying to him or avoiding the question would be a better solution?

What you got up to sexually was between you and her. No one else’s business. Your friend can find out for himself what she is like.

It’s not lying or avoiding the question it’s about being respectful to your playmate and discreet

So you don’t talk to your girlfriends about your sex life?"

No I don’t actually and I really don’t want to hear about theirs

You weren’t discussing just your sex life. You were slagging a girl off for being unattractive but you dipped it anyway and boast about it.

You obviously think this is acceptable. I think you have a poor attitude and you are trying to cover it up with your ‘honesty’ talk

You clearly aren’t interested in peoples opinion on the matter

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

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"Erm

Yes to honesty. I can take that so much easier as I’m slightly autistic and people not telling the truth confuses me.

However- we have to be subtle and tactful sometimes... this could be the future missus you’re blaspheming...

Mrs P x

Good point, but I don’t think I’ll be invited to this wedding...

Not if you’re still shagging her out of pity

No!

No that ship has sailed... I ghosted her around August... she has been blocked on my phone and all social media since then...

Please tell me you at least politely ended things with her?

Everyone has the right to chose to date/ have sex etc with whomever they want and to end it for whatever you want

However- it’s human decency to clearly end the relationship

Mrs P x

Honestly I don’t like to lie to people and say let’s be friends... it’s much better to ghost and not have to deal with awkward conversations in the future.....

If you ghost someone.... in their minds they can feel like you’re dead.... so they actually feel better about themselves...

I’m baffled. Confused. Bafffled and confused?!

Why would you lie and say you want to be friends?

What happens when a fling ends these days is that you tend to stay in contact with people via social media....

So if you don’t want anything to do with someone... they will still stalk your time line , like your pics , and write uncomfortable replies to anything you post....

It becomes kinda creepy.... so ghosting and blocking is the only answer....

You see- I agree with you that you don’t want people to follow you etc

And blocking may be the answer...

But not ghosting.

That says more about your lack of confidence in yourself being ‘honest’ and being able to clearly explain your thoughts in an articulate and mature manner.

Mrs P

Honesty can come off as rudeness sometimes and in a situation like this... I’d rather be remembered as a coward than a rude person...."

I prefer honesty to cowardice...the few people that send shitty messages on here that's up to them but then blocking before you respond...utter cowards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can still be truthfully without being so blunt, by just saying she wasn’t your type and not going into any detail, that’s why we have filters, we don’t say everything we think and with good reason.

People who say, they say how it is, think it’s a badge of honour or something, it isn’t, showing respect for other people’s feelings is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because someone asks a question doesn't mean you have to answer.

You could've told him to find out for himself, that's not being dishonest.

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By *electableDalliancesCouple
over a year ago

leeds

No, I'd think you were a bit of a dick, but he probably won't as he knows you and is still your friend.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Op I'd think that I couldn't trust you to keep anything I'd said or done with you confidential

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat...."

Yuck.

All respect lost there.

I would never ever have sex with someone I’m not attracted to.

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

Did you meet her on naked attraction? Saw her vagina and fell in love with her immediately, without seeing the rest of her?

I thought not

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Quite often opinion is mistaken for fact.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

"Quite often opinion is mistaken for fact."

Ain't that the truth

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

I would never say to someone what an ex was like in bed as one person's bag of trash is anothers pot of gold

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I would have just told him to decide for himself tbh ,beauty is also subjective ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would depend on if you actually were telling the truth to be fair.

But at the same time you kinda lose respect for being so desperate to be shagging somone you found repulsive.

So i dunno neutral?

But part of me thinks this may well be an episode of "shit that never happened""

Me and my best friend had sex with the same guy at two separate occasions and swapped notes. My experience with him was a great one whilst hers was disappointing.

Attraction and sexual chemistry plays a huge role in this and whilst this girl wasn't for you she might be for him.

I wouldn't think less of you for being honest, your views are your own and he may think differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the plus side he now knows you'll never go back there so it won't be awkward and jealousy shouldn't be an issue

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

"For some people it’s very hard to hear the truth... So sometimes people lie to them in a effort to spare their fragile feelings....

I believe in earning people’s respect above everything in life...So I try to be as honest as possible with anyone I meet....

A friend of mine asked me tonight if it was okay to start dating a girl I used to hook up with over the summer....

I told him it’s fine and I wish him the best of luck....

He then asked me what she was like in bed....

I told him ..... I wasn’t really attracted to her , I didn’t like to kiss her , I found her body repulsive, I could only have sex with her if I was d*unk , But I did love her vagina.....

So I basically told him the woman he is going to build a relationship with , only good and redeeming quality is her vagina....

Now would you respect me for telling the truth or would you think I was only saying this because of sour grapes......"

There’s being honest and there’s being tactful with it . But I’ll be brutally honest with you and say ,,,, you and your mate sound like a pair of immature 15 yr olds in the school playground !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In some cases, people use telling 'the truth' as a way to be edgy or provocative.

Being diplomatic with the truth is better imo.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"For some people it’s very hard to hear the truth... So sometimes people lie to them in a effort to spare their fragile feelings....

I believe in earning people’s respect above everything in life...So I try to be as honest as possible with anyone I meet....

A friend of mine asked me tonight if it was okay to start dating a girl I used to hook up with over the summer....

I told him it’s fine and I wish him the best of luck....

He then asked me what she was like in bed....

I told him ..... I wasn’t really attracted to her , I didn’t like to kiss her , I found her body repulsive, I could only have sex with her if I was d*unk , But I did love her vagina.....

So I basically told him the woman he is going to build a relationship with , only good and redeeming quality is her vagina....

Now would you respect me for telling the truth or would you think I was only saying this because of sour grapes......"

Poor woman!

I think she deserves better than both of you. If she stole your money and shat in your bed then yeah, I'd warn him about her.

For him to ask about her prowess in bed and you to be so derogatory...and you seem quite proud of being a nasty piece of work and the any hole a goal type, "respect" is not a word I'd associate with you.

Yuk!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

im all for honesty but seriousy there was absolutly no reason for you to say that about the poor girl you could have just said you werent compatable. To be perfectly honest if your shagging someone you find repulsive it shows your a desperado who shags any hole is a goal. I like your threads and postings but youve really gone down in my estimation with this one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You didn't answer his question.

If he's intelligent he should know that because you weren't attracted to her you wouldn't have found the sex to be the most fulfilling, as you were only looking to put your dick in someone.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"For some people it’s very hard to hear the truth... So sometimes people lie to them in a effort to spare their fragile feelings....

I believe in earning people’s respect above everything in life...So I try to be as honest as possible with anyone I meet....

A friend of mine asked me tonight if it was okay to start dating a girl I used to hook up with over the summer....

I told him it’s fine and I wish him the best of luck....

He then asked me what she was like in bed....

I told him ..... I wasn’t really attracted to her , I didn’t like to kiss her , I found her body repulsive, I could only have sex with her if I was d*unk , But I did love her vagina.....

So I basically told him the woman he is going to build a relationship with , only good and redeeming quality is her vagina....

Now would you respect me for telling the truth or would you think I was only saying this because of sour grapes......"

A Gentleman never tells Homie so I wouldn't appreciate that.

I Would rather find out myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im all for honesty but seriousy there was absolutly no reason for you to say that about the poor girl you could have just said you werent compatable. To be perfectly honest if your shagging someone you find repulsive it shows your a desperado who shags any hole is a goal. I like your threads and postings but youve really gone down in my estimation with this one"

He didn't say what the sex was like either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen people melt over men on here I wouldn't give a second thought to.

You have your opinion of the woman; I hope it doesn't influence him in any way.

I think he shouldn't have asked you in the first place.

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

"It would depend on if you actually were telling the truth to be fair.

But at the same time you kinda lose respect for being so desperate to be shagging somone you found repulsive.

So i dunno neutral?

But part of me thinks this may well be an episode of "shit that never happened"

Interesting...... so you never had sex with someone you were not attracted too....

I’m basically saying I had sex with someone ugly...."

Lmao...you didn't have to tell him tho did ya...

Sounds in truth like you were jealous. .

She was yr booty call after all..

But I wouldn't worry. .he wont be seeing you if he gets with her...

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Boom !

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By *risrugbyfanMan
over a year ago

yate

Omg , hoping for mostly her sake and some of yours ,your friend doesnt tell her what you said .

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By *tarbeckCouple
over a year ago

york

"Why would I have sex with someone I'm not attracted to...?

Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat...."

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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

You state you try to be honest as possible but ghosted her because she was repulsive

Not very honest is it?

Just say love I'm not feeling it and sorry for wasting your time and block her. Its not hard or difficult!

The fact your mate wants to date her but is interested in bedroom talents says alot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can still be truthfully without being so blunt, by just saying she wasn’t your type and not going into any detail, that’s why we have filters, we don’t say everything we think and with good reason.

People who say, they say how it is, think it’s a badge of honour or something, it isn’t, showing respect for other people’s feelings is. "

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By *otwife for useCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Completely fail to understand why this is about respect, you clearly have none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

High Five... you get it...

Don’t ask a question if you might not like the answer...."

Yeah, mind you, I'm not condoning your response to him, I'm just saying that I don't believe his line of questioning is coming from the right place. He's your mate so I get that you can have whatever private conversation with him that you like so no comment there. Me personally, I would have advised him that it might not be wise to begin where I left off with her and I would have mentored him on his confidence and self-referral. That's assuming he wants a relationship. His question is borderline objectifying in my opinion. It's just not my style to discuss what happens my harem unless we've been there together to high-five as it's all going down.

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

"For some people it’s very hard to hear the truth... So sometimes people lie to them in a effort to spare their fragile feelings....

I believe in earning people’s respect above everything in life...So I try to be as honest as possible with anyone I meet....

A friend of mine asked me tonight if it was okay to start dating a girl I used to hook up with over the summer....

I told him it’s fine and I wish him the best of luck....

He then asked me what she was like in bed....

I told him ..... I wasn’t really attracted to her , I didn’t like to kiss her , I found her body repulsive, I could only have sex with her if I was d*unk , But I did love her vagina.....

So I basically told him the woman he is going to build a relationship with , only good and redeeming quality is her vagina....

Now would you respect me for telling the truth or would you think I was only saying this because of sour grapes......"

I don't think your friend should have asked that follow up question and I don't think you should have replied that way.

Furthermore your responses in this thread regarding the lady of interest is appalling. The way you view her and women in fact is terrible. You've essentially reduced her down to an object, a play thing, something that isn't even of much use to you aside from her vagina.

To say:

"Because sometimes you want a steak but only a hot dog is available....

If you’re hungry, you have to eat...."

Well now that is a rather crass comparison

I really hope not a lot of men have this "any hole is a goal" mentality but I know that isn't the case... really sad

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I made this thread after watching the movie bird box. It gave me inspiration to make this forum a better place.....and show people the error of their ways.. call me the Diogenes of Fab...

Whenever the subject of bi men comes up on any thread..... these comments are always posted

“ I’m not attracted to men , I don’t want to kiss a man , I don’t want a relationship with a man , I JUST WANT HIS COCK “

“ I would never meet a man alone , and I don’t play with men unless a female is involved “

“ I met a couple and the husband started sucking me in the heat of the moment, and I went with it “

“ Labels shouldn’t matter, IF IT FEELS GOOD , JUST ENJOY IT “

Now in this thread I’ve been called desperate, and a few other things ...

by stating that I only liked this woman for her vagina and nothing else?

Why do bi men on Fab get a free pass for stating the exact same things I said about this woman?

Is this how all of you subconsciously feel about bi men? But are afraid to post it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I made this thread after watching the movie bird box. It gave me inspiration to make this forum a better place.....and show people the error of their ways.. call me the Diogenes of Fab...