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"Dont pay it then... " You have just proven my point when it comes to idiots | |||
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" Getting sick of it, fab should become more strict with people. " How? What can fab do about the general downgrading of respect for others that increasingly blights our society? Serious question. | |||
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" Getting sick of it, fab should become more strict with people. How? What can fab do about the general downgrading of respect for others that increasingly blights our society? Serious question." By banning the abusive knobheads who can't handle rejection and the idiot incels trying to catfish people, would be a start. | |||
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"I think you still get the 'delete message' function whether you pay extra or not.....just saying. x" | |||
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"I think admin should limit the free membership time to, say, one month. Then either subscribe or they are deleted from the site. Yes, they can create a false email address, and create a new free account, but the IP address is the same, block that...!! Just the same as admin should block the right click option, that enables you to download anybody's pictures for your own use. Admin really does need to look at this site...security is very poor indeed. Sadly, it really isn't what it was just 12 months ago..." This is a free to join site, there is an option to support the site but it isn't obligatory. The site hasn't gone down hill at all in fact it's improving all the time I suggest you try some of the other sites, then you'll appreciate Fabswingers. | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. " Hi..op.. Ive been on fab a few yrs now..I always was a silver member...but not bothe_ed in last 5 months..I love the forums..but even these get invaded by d heads..that can spoil it...nasty comments or putting people down...fab was never like that ..men had respect.and women new the score. .its their game..us men hang out in hope..lol..now u have ppl just being rude and very selfish.. | |||
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"Dont pay it then... You have just proven my point when it comes to idiots " Excuse me! Im no idiot! No one makes you pay for site supporter no one makes you stay | |||
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"The OP's username gives you a clue. " | |||
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"Dont pay it then... You have just proven my point when it comes to idiots Excuse me! Im no idiot! No one makes you pay for site supporter no one makes you stay " And as you seem to be enjoying the site and the op isn't,who's the real idiot for staying ? | |||
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"I think admin should limit the free membership time to, say, one month. Then either subscribe or they are deleted from the site. Yes, they can create a false email address, and create a new free account, but the IP address is the same, block that...!! Just the same as admin should block the right click option, that enables you to download anybody's pictures for your own use. Admin really does need to look at this site...security is very poor indeed. Sadly, it really isn't what it was just 12 months ago..." VPN's will hide an IP address and why bother with right click protection when you can simply screenshot any image on a phone or laptop? I first used the site around 2008. We've just got back from a four year break. It's no different now to then. It works for people who don't expect the a website to provide guaranteed sex. It works for those that apply common sense. The only thing that could do with changing is the expectations of many who join thinking it's going to provide them with something they apparently can't get in the real world. A | |||
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"Fab is doing a great job, if you dont like it you can always delete or not login." Or hide your profile ..... Then you wont get anyone bother you | |||
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"Fab is doing a great job, if you dont like it you can always delete or not login. Or hide your profile ..... Then you wont get anyone bother you " When I had a single female profile briefly, mine was hidden...still got winks, messages and friend requests... | |||
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"Dont pay it then... You have just proven my point when it comes to idiots " There is no need to abuse people who answer your post. If this is your definition of an idiot then that isn't the site getting worse, it is your unrealistic definition of being an idiot that could be the problem | |||
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"Yes....there are some total idiots on here. Yes....there are guys who think with their cocks. But.....there are also some really lovely guys on here, it just takes a while to find them!! Chin up OP, and don't forget to block the ones that don't appeal " | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. " I'll try to get my brain out if my trousers... Sorry about that. The vanish stain remover just isn't working. Any suggestions ? Also how does one get spunk out of a black lace bra ? | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. " It’s only a fiver! A maccies would likely cost more. But agreed this place was very different 4 years back even | |||
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"There's knobheads everywhere in life and the intensity of 'knobheadedness' increases when knobheads believe they have the anonymity of being behind a keyboard, Fab is no exception. Accept that you will get crass inane messages and messed about. Realise that you might need to thicken your skin whilst on here. Use filters, the block button, gut feeling and instinct. Learn to use Fab for what you want and find out how it best works for you and enjoy those aspects. We get inundated by those outside our profile preferences, but don't have filters on, so its our fault. We get numerous crap messages and unsolicited friend requests, we delete. Our block list grows daily. We accept everyone we like the look of might not like us. We understand that messages might be exchanged and then contact fizzles out. However, we constantly learn and refine what works for us and enjoy those aspects. We move on from those experiences that haven't worked out and put them behind us. We enjoy the craziness of this lifestyle and have made some good friends. We look forward to future experiences, even though we don't know what they will be." This is sound ethos, with all due respect, I always find the more experienced fab users in general have a gentler view on the lifestyle, which is pleasing to read. I won’t comment on what I think of my generation and ones following behind. | |||
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"Yes....there are some total idiots on here. Yes....there are guys who think with their cocks. But.....there are also some really lovely guys on here, it just takes a while to find them!! " Stands around looking lovely | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. It’s only a fiver! A maccies would likely cost more. But agreed this place was very different 4 years back even" it has changed a lot.. but I'm still here.. | |||
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"There's knobheads everywhere in life and the intensity of 'knobheadedness' increases when knobheads believe they have the anonymity of being behind a keyboard, Fab is no exception. Accept that you will get crass inane messages and messed about. Realise that you might need to thicken your skin whilst on here. Use filters, the block button, gut feeling and instinct. Learn to use Fab for what you want and find out how it best works for you and enjoy those aspects. We get inundated by those outside our profile preferences, but don't have filters on, so its our fault. We get numerous crap messages and unsolicited friend requests, we delete. Our block list grows daily. We accept everyone we like the look of might not like us. We understand that messages might be exchanged and then contact fizzles out. However, we constantly learn and refine what works for us and enjoy those aspects. We move on from those experiences that haven't worked out and put them behind us. We enjoy the craziness of this lifestyle and have made some good friends. We look forward to future experiences, even though we don't know what they will be." Just do what I did, remove everyone off your preferences... Now my fab is lovely and quiet with actual conversations off the back of my forum posts. | |||
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"I think admin should limit the free membership time to, say, one month. Then either subscribe or they are deleted from the site. Yes, they can create a false email address, and create a new free account, but the IP address is the same, block that...!! Just the same as admin should block the right click option, that enables you to download anybody's pictures for your own use. Admin really does need to look at this site...security is very poor indeed. Sadly, it really isn't what it was just 12 months ago..." The IP address is not always the same. Many ISPs have a policy of changing IP addresses semi-regularly and those who use the site whilst away from home will have several IPs as they travel. Blocking right-click is easily overcome with a bit of javascript fiddle and, even using (say) HTML 5 can be got round by taking screenshots. I think the site owners are entitled to offer a free membership if they want. You can block free members from emailing you easily enough. My point is that internet security is easily got round in an environment where open display of ourselves is the name of the game. | |||
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" if you have a couples account, both people should be in the verification photo, " They have to be | |||
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"Women are idiots too." Wash your mouth out !! | |||
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"I think we all need to continue our awareness of how things change - including others' behaviours. If we do this, we can adjust our own, so that we continue to avoid/filter those who aren't appropriate for us to have more enjoyment. Fab is streets ahead of any competitive service." | |||
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"It’s only a fiver! A maccies would likely cost more. But agreed this place was very different 4 years back even" UNLOS got sick of the negativity & went for a MacDonald’s. | |||
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"Women are idiots too. Wash your mouth out !! " Now Ruggers I know you to be pretty impartial & you gotta admit... everyone, including the ladies, can be a bit of an idiot. Some even frequent the Forums! | |||
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"Women are idiots too. Wash your mouth out !! Now Ruggers I know you to be pretty impartial & you gotta admit... everyone, including the ladies, can be a bit of an idiot. Some even frequent the Forums! " It was a joke Random...promise not to do it again | |||
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"Women are idiots too." this well said | |||
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"I think you should not be allowed to wink or message until you are photo verified and if you have a couples account, both people should be in the verification photo, that would root out the nutters and guys pretending their wife knows what’s going on " for photo verification BOTH HAVE to be in the pic already | |||
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"Yes....there are some total idiots on here. Yes....there are guys who think with their cocks. But.....there are also some really lovely guys on here, it just takes a while to find them!! Chin up OP, and don't forget to block the ones that don't appeal " Totally agree with you. It's a pity as they do spoilt it for the genuine meeters. | |||
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"Yes....there are some total idiots on here. Yes....there are guys who think with their cocks. But.....there are also some really lovely guys on here, it just takes a while to find them!! Chin up OP, and don't forget to block the ones that don't appeal Totally agree with you. It's a pity as they do spoilt it for the genuine meeters." They spoil it for themselves. | |||
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"I think admin should limit the free membership time to, say, one month. Then either subscribe or they are deleted from the site. Yes, they can create a false email address, and create a new free account, but the IP address is the same, block that...!! Just the same as admin should block the right click option, that enables you to download anybody's pictures for your own use. Admin really does need to look at this site...security is very poor indeed. Sadly, it really isn't what it was just 12 months ago..." For god sake Go to your message filters and block non site supporters! Simple dimple popped the pimple. Why do folk ask for more changes when they're not even using the options already available. You want a paying members only experience, it's a couple of clicks away! | |||
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"Yes....there are some total idiots on here. Yes....there are guys who think with their cocks. But.....there are also some really lovely guys on here, it just takes a while to find them!! Chin up OP, and don't forget to block the ones that don't appeal Totally agree with you. It's a pity as they do spoilt it for the genuine meeters." They dont spoil it for anyone people can work out the difference between idiots and decent people | |||
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"Yes....there are some total idiots on here. Yes....there are guys who think with their cocks. But.....there are also some really lovely guys on here, it just takes a while to find them!! Chin up OP, and don't forget to block the ones that don't appeal " I may not be a pretty boy, but I like to think I'm on the 'really lovely guys' list... Try me! X | |||
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"We’re all idiots and opinionated on here, we all have our own ideas how things work or should do. From one idiot to another just tell em feck of if it grinds your gears , generally works " | |||
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"See for the majority of the time, I see nothing wrong with it. Ultimately it's what you make it, no? " | |||
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" How? What can fab do about the general downgrading of respect for others that increasingly blights our society? Serious question. By banning the abusive knobheads who can't handle rejection and the idiot incels trying to catfish people, would be a start." How? Still a serious question. As others have said, IP bans are trivial to get around. How do you ban them? | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. Hi..op.. Ive been on fab a few yrs now..I always was a silver member...but not bothe_ed in last 5 months..I love the forums..but even these get invaded by d heads..that can spoil it...nasty comments or putting people down...fab was never like that ..men had respect.and women new the score. .its their game..us men hang out in hope..lol..now u have ppl just being rude and very selfish.. " Don't think she said anything about the site but about so many plonkers that are using it. I've rejoined after many months away and I can't say it's improved the people in any way... I've noticed the forums have died due to so much PC big stick approach that few speak their mind now for fear of the naughty step. It's very tame compa_ed to a few years ago. | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. " What took you so long to notice? It's the poor grammar that irritates me. | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. " sorry | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. " faf? | |||
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"From my perspective the site used to be full of average but naughty people.. and it was fun meeting up with others. Now there seems to be an amount of pretty angry ladies on here looking for someone to 'make them happy' and its not working. So they beat someone up for it. I often see it happening. " | |||
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"See for the majority of the time, I see nothing wrong with it. Ultimately it's what you make it, no? " This! I’m on all the swinging sites and this one takes some beating. There will be timewasters, wankers and all sorts of knobheads on any site. You get out of fab what you put in! | |||
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"Well. It's a generalisation made. There's always 30k plus online. I've noticed I'm being approached by more cheaters lately. But. Like someone else said. It's just the way of the world. I've started using block more but I tested a few messages and didn't block. It was clear they were just copy and paste messages. I'd get the same message sent a week later, two weeks later etc. So nowadays I prefer club meets. It's not to say I won't meet but it's harder work than it needs to be finding suitors x " Your bound to be popular Your stiflers mum | |||
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"I think admin should limit the free membership time to, say, one month. Then either subscribe or they are deleted from the site. Yes, they can create a false email address, and create a new free account, but the IP address is the same, block that...!! Just the same as admin should block the right click option, that enables you to download anybody's pictures for your own use. Admin really does need to look at this site...security is very poor indeed. Sadly, it really isn't what it was just 12 months ago..." Swinging websites were payment to join is compulsory have just as many idiots and timewasters as the free swinging websites. It's VERY easy to change your IP address or use a VPN or use a proxy. Putting a right click protect on the website will not stop people from collecting/taking pics. Right click protect is useless. | |||
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"Yes....there are some total idiots on here. Yes....there are guys who think with their cocks. But.....there are also some really lovely guys on here, it just takes a while to find them!! Chin up OP, and don't forget to block the ones that don't appeal " Thank you for supporting the decent guys. We are still on here. | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. " Stood up , mucked around ?? Same old shit different year | |||
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"Inclined to agree with OP for lots of reasons and the site is losing its appeal every time I log on.. but males should be realistic about the chances of getting a meet. As ladies outnumber men they can afford to pick and choose and let's face it if the ratio were opposite so would the males. " your right there but in the end a lot of nice guys to lose when it come to picking as the women go for the bad boy tape with a six pack and more | |||
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"Inclined to agree with OP for lots of reasons and the site is losing its appeal every time I log on.. but males should be realistic about the chances of getting a meet. As ladies outnumber men they can afford to pick and choose and let's face it if the ratio were opposite so would the males. your right there but in the end a lot of nice guys to lose when it come to picking as the women go for the bad boy tape with a six pack and more" Absolute rubbish!! This myth about ladies only going for the "bad boy type with a six pack" is mostly something those that don't find the site meets their expectations use to blame for it not doing so, rather than looking closer to home for the reason. I don't have a six pack, nor am I a "bad boy" and nor do lots of other guys who find the site more than meets their expectations - so it's not about body type at all. | |||
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"Inclined to agree with OP for lots of reasons and the site is losing its appeal every time I log on.. but males should be realistic about the chances of getting a meet. As ladies outnumber men they can afford to pick and choose and let's face it if the ratio were opposite so would the males. your right there but in the end a lot of nice guys to lose when it come to picking as the women go for the bad boy tape with a six pack and more Absolute rubbish!! This myth about ladies only going for the "bad boy type with a six pack" is mostly something those that don't find the site meets their expectations use to blame for it not doing so, rather than looking closer to home for the reason. I don't have a six pack, nor am I a "bad boy" and nor do lots of other guys who find the site more than meets their expectations - so it's not about body type at all." maybe your right but i do believe it to and i think most me would agree if they had the guts to say so loll | |||
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"Inclined to agree with OP for lots of reasons and the site is losing its appeal every time I log on.. but males should be realistic about the chances of getting a meet. As ladies outnumber men they can afford to pick and choose and let's face it if the ratio were opposite so would the males. your right there but in the end a lot of nice guys to lose when it come to picking as the women go for the bad boy tape with a six pack and more Absolute rubbish!! This myth about ladies only going for the "bad boy type with a six pack" is mostly something those that don't find the site meets their expectations use to blame for it not doing so, rather than looking closer to home for the reason. I don't have a six pack, nor am I a "bad boy" and nor do lots of other guys who find the site more than meets their expectations - so it's not about body type at all. maybe your right but i do believe it to and i think most me would agree if they had the guts to say so loll" There is someone for everyone as the saying goes. | |||
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"Fab feels like one of the more male friendly sites i've come across if I'm honest. Most others charge. Now I'm reading about men who want to charge for it? Unhappy at how they're treated? Having money, or being willing to spend money doesn't stop people from becoming arseholes you know. It's usually a sign you are one. So I'd quit moaning about it if I were you, unless you're prepa_ed to get off your fat arse and make your own site." I completely agree I've had abuse and idiotic messages from paid members as well as non-paid members. it doesn't make a difference an idiot is an idiot. | |||
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"Inclined to agree with OP for lots of reasons and the site is losing its appeal every time I log on.. but males should be realistic about the chances of getting a meet. As ladies outnumber men they can afford to pick and choose and let's face it if the ratio were opposite so would the males. your right there but in the end a lot of nice guys to lose when it come to picking as the women go for the bad boy tape with a six pack and more Absolute rubbish!! This myth about ladies only going for the "bad boy type with a six pack" is mostly something those that don't find the site meets their expectations use to blame for it not doing so, rather than looking closer to home for the reason. I don't have a six pack, nor am I a "bad boy" and nor do lots of other guys who find the site more than meets their expectations - so it's not about body type at all. maybe your right but i do believe it to and i think most me would agree if they had the guts to say so loll There is someone for everyone as the saying goes." I think that's a load of rubbish about women only wanting Badboy types and six packs. Some Mabey but not the majority. I want a man that is respectful and funny and who I can have mutual fun with. If you have a six pack and a face like an angel but you are a dick to me I'm not going to be interested. And I think the majority of women would feel exactly the same. | |||
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"Full of wannabee pornstars just my opinions lol " Plus other shit .. | |||
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" I think that's a load of rubbish about women only wanting Badboy types and six packs. Some Mabey but not the majority. I want a man that is respectful and funny and who I can have mutual fun with. If you have a six pack and a face like an angel but you are a dick to me I'm not going to be interested. And I think the majority of women would feel exactly the same. " I'm not a Badboy, I don't have a six pack, I don't have a face like an Angel. I 'm a bit of a dick, does this mean I'm doomed ? | |||
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"Women are idiots too. Wash your mouth out !! " Well, I am | |||
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"Full of wannabee pornstars just my opinions lol " Have you seen any fat, middle aged , arthritic porn stars? | |||
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" I think that's a load of rubbish about women only wanting Badboy types and six packs. Some Mabey but not the majority. I want a man that is respectful and funny and who I can have mutual fun with. If you have a six pack and a face like an angel but you are a dick to me I'm not going to be interested. And I think the majority of women would feel exactly the same. I'm not a Badboy, I don't have a six pack, I don't have a face like an Angel. I 'm a bit of a dick, does this mean I'm doomed ? " -nods sagely- doomed | |||
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"Inclined to agree with OP for lots of reasons and the site is losing its appeal every time I log on.. but males should be realistic about the chances of getting a meet. As ladies outnumber men they can afford to pick and choose and let's face it if the ratio were opposite so would the males. your right there but in the end a lot of nice guys to lose when it come to picking as the women go for the bad boy tape with a six pack and more Absolute rubbish!! This myth about ladies only going for the "bad boy type with a six pack" is mostly something those that don't find the site meets their expectations use to blame for it not doing so, rather than looking closer to home for the reason. I don't have a six pack, nor am I a "bad boy" and nor do lots of other guys who find the site more than meets their expectations - so it's not about body type at all. maybe your right but i do believe it to and i think most me would agree if they had the guts to say so loll" You’re absolutely spot on..... good looking men and women do well on Fab and in real life..... If people didn’t care about looks and personality was the most important thing when determining who to meet.... We would never need to upload any pictures on our profiles.... | |||
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"I think admin should limit the free membership time to, say, one month. Then either subscribe or they are deleted from the site. Yes, they can create a false email address, and create a new free account, but the IP address is the same, block that...!! Just the same as admin should block the right click option, that enables you to download anybody's pictures for your own use. Admin really does need to look at this site...security is very poor indeed. Sadly, it really isn't what it was just 12 months ago..." The IP adress would only be the same if they pay thier ISP extra to have a static IP adress. A s for right click blocking again thats not even remotely secure you csn get browser addons to get round it or much more easily just press the print screen button on your keyboard | |||
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" I think that's a load of rubbish about women only wanting Badboy types and six packs. Some Mabey but not the majority. I want a man that is respectful and funny and who I can have mutual fun with. If you have a six pack and a face like an angel but you are a dick to me I'm not going to be interested. And I think the majority of women would feel exactly the same. I'm not a Badboy, I don't have a six pack, I don't have a face like an Angel. I 'm a bit of a dick, does this mean I'm doomed ? " Yep you're totally fucked I'm afraid! | |||
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"Inclined to agree with OP for lots of reasons and the site is losing its appeal every time I log on.. but males should be realistic about the chances of getting a meet. As ladies outnumber men they can afford to pick and choose and let's face it if the ratio were opposite so would the males. your right there but in the end a lot of nice guys to lose when it come to picking as the women go for the bad boy tape with a six pack and more" Ahh the nice guy. For anyone interested in some insight into "nice guys" cuestar on youtube does some amazing summary vids of r/niceguy threads from _eddit. Also r/nicegirls. Sex is not somwthing women pay out after you put in so many "nice guy" tokens. Its a weird entitlement, i mean being a nice guy is not a "feature" its the litteral bare minimum you should be as a human being. If your only selling point is that youre "nice" of course youre going to lose out as nearly every other bloke is nice but also has a USP, which kight looks, sense of humour, a certain fetish or any number of other things. | |||
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"From my perspective the site used to be full of average but naughty people.. and it was fun meeting up with others. Now there seems to be an amount of pretty angry ladies on here looking for someone to 'make them happy' and its not working. So they beat someone up for it. I often see it happening. " You’re a very brave man for posting this.... You will become a pariah for this post , but I thank you for your sacrifice...... Great post | |||
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"From my perspective the site used to be full of average but naughty people.. and it was fun meeting up with others. Now there seems to be an amount of pretty angry ladies on here looking for someone to 'make them happy' and its not working. So they beat someone up for it. I often see it happening. You’re a very brave man for posting this.... You will become a pariah for this post , but I thank you for your sacrifice...... Great post" If you saw the messages sent to an average woman on this site on a daily basis you would totally understand why sometimes we get pissed off and a bit jaded. | |||
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"From my perspective the site used to be full of average but naughty people.. and it was fun meeting up with others. Now there seems to be an amount of pretty angry ladies on here looking for someone to 'make them happy' and its not working. So they beat someone up for it. I often see it happening. You’re a very brave man for posting this.... You will become a pariah for this post , but I thank you for your sacrifice...... Great post If you saw the messages sent to an average woman on this site on a daily basis you would totally understand why sometimes we get pissed off and a bit jaded. " Whats weird is the gay/bi guys seem a lot more polite when messaging men. Ive seen the messages women get and the abuse but the messages i get from men are always pretty polite and very complimentary, if i delete without replying they dont pester and if i day thanks but no thanks i get a "thanks for replying" response. Ive not seen the level of abuse women seem to get regularly turning guys down or even for not responding quickly enpugh | |||
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"From my perspective the site used to be full of average but naughty people.. and it was fun meeting up with others. Now there seems to be an amount of pretty angry ladies on here looking for someone to 'make them happy' and its not working. So they beat someone up for it. I often see it happening. You’re a very brave man for posting this.... You will become a pariah for this post , but I thank you for your sacrifice...... Great post If thats true surely you will too for publicly agreeing with him? Homie , I’m public enemy number 1..... I’m cool , I’ll never meet anyone from the forums anyway...." thats not true your one of my top 5 favourite posters | |||
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" Getting sick of it, fab should become more strict with people. How? What can fab do about the general downgrading of respect for others that increasingly blights our society? Serious question." | |||
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"There's knobheads everywhere in life and the intensity of 'knobheadedness' increases when knobheads believe they have the anonymity of being behind a keyboard, Fab is no exception. Accept that you will get crass inane messages and messed about. Realise that you might need to thicken your skin whilst on here. Use filters, the block button, gut feeling and instinct. Learn to use Fab for what you want and find out how it best works for you and enjoy those aspects. We get inundated by those outside our profile preferences, but don't have filters on, so its our fault. We get numerous crap messages and unsolicited friend requests, we delete. Our block list grows daily. We accept everyone we like the look of might not like us. We understand that messages might be exchanged and then contact fizzles out. However, we constantly learn and refine what works for us and enjoy those aspects. We move on from those experiences that haven't worked out and put them behind us. We enjoy the craziness of this lifestyle and have made some good friends. We look forward to future experiences, even though we don't know what they will be." | |||
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"Yes....there are some total idiots on here. Yes....there are guys who think with their cocks. But.....there are also some really lovely guys on here, it just takes a while to find them!! Chin up OP, and don't forget to block the ones that don't appeal " thanks licky | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. " This is what happens when you give free memberships, it is the same on all the free dating sites too. You pay for quality. | |||
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"What has happened to this site, it use to be good. Now it is just over run with idiots, all with their brains in their trousers. The site is dying a death and not worth paying the membership fee any more. This is what happens when you give free memberships, it is the same on all the free dating sites too. You pay for quality." Seems exactly the same as it was 5 years ago to me. And no you dont pay for quality. If fabs was pay walled initially i know myself and a lot of other people wouldnt be on here at all. | |||
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"Inclined to agree with OP for lots of reasons and the site is losing its appeal every time I log on.. but males should be realistic about the chances of getting a meet. As ladies outnumber men they can afford to pick and choose and let's face it if the ratio were opposite so would the males. your right there but in the end a lot of nice guys to lose when it come to picking as the women go for the bad boy tape with a six pack and more Absolute rubbish!! This myth about ladies only going for the "bad boy type with a six pack" is mostly something those that don't find the site meets their expectations use to blame for it not doing so, rather than looking closer to home for the reason. I don't have a six pack, nor am I a "bad boy" and nor do lots of other guys who find the site more than meets their expectations - so it's not about body type at all. maybe your right but i do believe it to and i think most me would agree if they had the guts to say so loll You’re absolutely spot on..... good looking men and women do well on Fab and in real life..... If people didn’t care about looks and personality was the most important thing when determining who to meet.... We would never need to upload any pictures on our profiles...." He's far from "spot on" whilst I agree that attraction (both physical and personality) comes into it - attraction is a very much subjective thing and doesn't as he suggested come down to having a six pack and being a bad boy at all. As I said I am/have neither, and am more than happy with my experience here. | |||
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"Dont pay it then... You have just proven my point when it comes to idiots " I’m thinking the forum is getting inundated with people venting some kind of frustration. If you think about it, there’s more and more of these type of posts, someone is always upset about something. There’s no coincidence that Trump and May have been in charge since the increase of these type of posts. Cheer up op, have patience, things aren’t always as bad as we make out. | |||
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"Full of wannabee pornstars just my opinions lol Have you seen any fat, middle aged , arthritic porn stars?" Yeah you need to sit down and watch a certain mature site from the NL there's loads of fat lasses with bingo wings on there , there's plenty here too giving it the biggun cos they'd never pull in a disco | |||
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"Full of wannabee pornstars just my opinions lol Have you seen any fat, middle aged , arthritic porn stars? Yeah you need to sit down and watch a certain mature site from the NL there's loads of fat lasses with bingo wings on there , there's plenty here too giving it the biggun cos they'd never pull in a disco " Who me???? Outrageous V x | |||
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"Is disco still a thing? Clearly not like it used to be as Cruise is shutting next month , too many student skint kids and the bingo winged birds are all on here fawning over a thousand desperate geezas a day " Must admit ive never really done the chester scene. I prefer manc and london, less knobheads | |||
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"Is disco still a thing?I wish they were, I love Discos " KP made them. Lovely, little round crisps. Salted were my favourite, don't know if you can still get them though. | |||
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"Is disco still a thing?I wish they were, I love Discos KP made them. Lovely, little round crisps. Salted were my favourite, don't know if you can still get them though. " Tesco and Amazon still sell them although (according to the KP website) they only come in Cheese & Onion, Salt & Vinegar and Prawn Cocktail flavours though | |||
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"Is disco still a thing?I wish they were, I love Discos KP made them. Lovely, little round crisps. Salted were my favourite, don't know if you can still get them though. Tesco and Amazon still sell them although (according to the KP website) they only come in Cheese & Onion, Salt & Vinegar and Prawn Cocktail flavours though " Will have to go for cheese and onion then. | |||
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"Is disco still a thing?I wish they were, I love Discos KP made them. Lovely, little round crisps. Salted were my favourite, don't know if you can still get them though. " That's as funny as granny going head first through her telly when you scream use ya head nanna for fucks sake | |||
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"Is disco still a thing?I wish they were, I love Discos KP made them. Lovely, little round crisps. Salted were my favourite, don't know if you can still get them though. " I meant Discotheques but I do like the crisps too lol | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. " Very very well handled by yourself,we could all learn from how you dealt with that,I doubt personally I could have been so calm with such threatening behaviour. | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. " Could have just met him in the hotel bar There's a thought If not for you say thanks but no thanks | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. Could have just met him in the hotel bar There's a thought If not for you say thanks but no thanks " After all its called fabswingers ... Not treasure hunt swingers | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. Could have just met him in the hotel bar There's a thought If not for you say thanks but no thanks " Maybe she didn't feel comfortable sitting in a hotel bar in full makeover,with the possibility to be let down by some timewaster.i think she was quite right in how she dealt with the guy. | |||
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"Use fab what you want to get out of it. Yes I get abused messages, I just laugh, block and move on. If you constantly moan about this site why are you still here???? I don’t get that at all. If it doesn’t work then leave. No one is forcing you to stay. As for the ones saying I’ve been stood up! You know why? As you don’t do research. You’ll meet at the drop of the hat the lass you was messaging turns out to be a lad from Wigan! 10 years I’ve been coming back and forth on here and not once have I ever been stood up. Why? As I chat for weeks on here, get a rapport and go from there. " Nail, head, hit!! | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. Could have just met him in the hotel bar There's a thought If not for you say thanks but no thanks After all its called fabswingers ... Not treasure hunt swingers Not all hotels have bars for a starter - then you have the thing about feeling comfortable going to a public place "dressed" to meet a stranger - ultimately it's about personal safety and the right to expect it to be respected and if what she described was how she chose to ensure that safety then the guy should have accepted it. To then go into abusive and threatening mode because she had asked him to do something that ensu_ed her safety just goes beyond the pail and I applaud the steps she took personally." Well in terms of safety giving them the key card by leading it outside its way. Mor dangerous than giving them the room number. Hotel doors have peep holes but you can't keep somone out if they have the card. Hell he could have taken it said out wasn't there then come back and robbed her | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. Could have just met him in the hotel bar There's a thought If not for you say thanks but no thanks After all its called fabswingers ... Not treasure hunt swingers Not all hotels have bars for a starter - then you have the thing about feeling comfortable going to a public place "dressed" to meet a stranger - ultimately it's about personal safety and the right to expect it to be respected and if what she described was how she chose to ensure that safety then the guy should have accepted it. To then go into abusive and threatening mode because she had asked him to do something that ensu_ed her safety just goes beyond the pail and I applaud the steps she took personally. Well in terms of safety giving them the key card by leading it outside its way. Mor dangerous than giving them the room number. Hotel doors have peep holes but you can't keep somone out if they have the card. Hell he could have taken it said out wasn't there then come back and robbed her " At no point did she say that on this occasion she had left a key card there - she asked him to go stand by her car so that she could see him and satisfy herself he was genuine and would then presumably have told him where the card was. Either way that's not the point - the point is they were her rules for her safety and he not only chose to ignore them but got abusive, and that is not on regardless of how safe those rules were. | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. Very very well handled by yourself,we could all learn from how you dealt with that,I doubt personally I could have been so calm with such threatening behaviour. " Thank you xx | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. Could have just met him in the hotel bar There's a thought If not for you say thanks but no thanks " I don't think you read the while post...He was never there. | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. Could have just met him in the hotel bar There's a thought If not for you say thanks but no thanks Maybe she didn't feel comfortable sitting in a hotel bar in full makeover,with the possibility to be let down by some timewaster.i think she was quite right in how she dealt with the guy." Thanks xx | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. Could have just met him in the hotel bar There's a thought If not for you say thanks but no thanks After all its called fabswingers ... Not treasure hunt swingers Not all hotels have bars for a starter - then you have the thing about feeling comfortable going to a public place "dressed" to meet a stranger - ultimately it's about personal safety and the right to expect it to be respected and if what she described was how she chose to ensure that safety then the guy should have accepted it. To then go into abusive and threatening mode because she had asked him to do something that ensu_ed her safety just goes beyond the pail and I applaud the steps she took personally." Thank you so much x | |||
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"Yes I agree with this, take yester day for example. As a Trans girl I am used to a little bit if abuse etc but yesterday was a new one for me. So I am staying in wigston in Leicester and speaking to a few guys, one or two really sweet and I met one of them. A few saying they wanted to meet but kept putting the time back and then blamed me that I had to leave the hotel But then one guy messaged and wanted to meet, he lived 1.5 miles from where I was. So he says can I come over, yep no problem, so he messages after a while to say he is outside the hotel and what's my room number. So I don't just give it out that woukd be mad. I either leave a key card outside on car screen or ask them to ask reception to call through and say Mr Clarke is here for you. Well he says he is outside and I ask him to go stand by my car. He replied I'm at reception what's your room number, again I say go to my car. Now I do this to make sure it is a real person and not a Messer, he then says that I'm fucking him about and he has reported my car stolen to the police. And i will wait til you cone out go to your car and me and 3 friends are going to gang r@pe you and fuck you right u.I reply that is ok as I have screenshot all your messages and i am sure the police will give a knock on your door later. He then rrpkies, God you can't take a joke. I simply replied that threatening behaviour is not a joke. He then said he was really sorry and not to report him.... This is the first time that abuse to this extreme has been met here but I think that it is getting harder to know who is genuine. Could have just met him in the hotel bar There's a thought If not for you say thanks but no thanks I make my rules for my safety. If someone doesn't want to follow them that's fine, but no need for abuse. " Indeed.x | |||
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