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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

....is the wrong word. But knowing how hard single guys have it on fab just getting a veri, let alone a play meet, how many ladies and couples, regardless of playing with single men or not would have a social with a single male just to enjoy the company and give them a chance to get them off the mark and interacting within the swing scene? Also, single guys, is it something you would want or is it play or nothing?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we were only just talking about how much we would enjoy meeting people from fab just purely for the social interaction. Rather cynically we concluded that most just want to meet socially if it was likely to lead to more.

We would have a social with most single guys, couples or women whether thy needed to be verified or not. Its nice to make new acquaintances

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We have on two occasions offered to meet a single guy for a coffee on both occasions they have said great and then we have never heard from them again. We don't play with single guys but we are always happy to meet for a chat if we are available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've offered a few over the years a coffee social natter and they'd get a verification but been turned down everytime as its not what they are looking for, each to their own as they say. Though the sad outcome is I don't anymore ... like they often say, a few can affect the many!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we were only just talking about how much we would enjoy meeting people from fab just purely for the social interaction. Rather cynically we concluded that most just want to meet socially if it was likely to lead to more.

We would have a social with most single guys, couples or women whether thy needed to be verified or not. Its nice to make new acquaintances "

When then ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we were only just talking about how much we would enjoy meeting people from fab just purely for the social interaction. Rather cynically we concluded that most just want to meet socially if it was likely to lead to more.

We would have a social with most single guys, couples or women whether thy needed to be verified or not. Its nice to make new acquaintances "

Completely agree, whilst many think of it as an easy hook up we feel that swinging is a community thing and would happily meet just for a social. We are soft swap and unless Sasha is in the mood never play with single guys, but would be more than happy to meet for a social maybe once a month. Its our main reason for visiting clubs, great way to make new friends.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"we were only just talking about how much we would enjoy meeting people from fab just purely for the social interaction. Rather cynically we concluded that most just want to meet socially if it was likely to lead to more.

We would have a social with most single guys, couples or women whether thy needed to be verified or not. Its nice to make new acquaintances "

Great idea. I love socials, meeting new people. Some of mine go on to more, some don't. Never any expectations with one x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"we were only just talking about how much we would enjoy meeting people from fab just purely for the social interaction. Rather cynically we concluded that most just want to meet socially if it was likely to lead to more.

We would have a social with most single guys, couples or women whether thy needed to be verified or not. Its nice to make new acquaintances

When then ? "

Next time you're in Hastings...

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I dont think single guys have it that bad to be fair. But anyways I'd much rather people wanted to meet me for social or otherwise because they liked me rather than they were feeling charitable or sorry for me.

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

I've tried just to meet for social with people. Only seems to be guys that will meet

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I dont think single guys have it that bad to be fair. But anyways I'd much rather people wanted to meet me for social or otherwise because they liked me rather than they were feeling charitable or sorry for me. "

we don't meet anyone out of pity or charity, we don't have the time or the inclination.

The op did say they think they chose the incorrect word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The social side is nice but why meet someone if nothing is ever likely to happen

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've tried just to meet for social with people. Only seems to be guys that will meet"

I think the problem is that so often you offer social meet and the person adds that little phrase "maybe more" that immediately puts you on your guard and prevents a relaxed encounter.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"The social side is nice but why meet someone if nothing is ever likely to happen "

If you only want to meet under those circumstances its fine you're probably in the majority here however some of us like to socialise too. There's something for everyone

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest


"I've tried just to meet for social with people. Only seems to be guys that will meet

I think the problem is that so often you offer social meet and the person adds that little phrase "maybe more" that immediately puts you on your guard and prevents a relaxed encounter."

I've quite often stated social at pub. But I get what you mean

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By *imited 3EditionCouple
over a year ago

Live in Scotland Play in England


"we were only just talking about how much we would enjoy meeting people from fab just purely for the social interaction. Rather cynically we concluded that most just want to meet socially if it was likely to lead to more.

We would have a social with most single guys, couples or women whether thy needed to be verified or not. Its nice to make new acquaintances

Great idea. I love socials, meeting new people. Some of mine go on to more, some don't. Never any expectations with one x"

Agree with both of you on this x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont think single guys have it that bad to be fair. But anyways I'd much rather people wanted to meet me for social or otherwise because they liked me rather than they were feeling charitable or sorry for me. "

Like we said, charity was just a tag line and very much the wrong word so please don't take any offence. We, as a couple are very fortunate that socials are fairly easy to arrange and in clubs there seems to be a hierarchy of power, predominately single females, then couples, and finally single men.

Its more that we see lots of forum posts where people complain that they can't get a veri because they get no response from couples or females. We enjoy just chatting and think it would be great if people interacted more and helped each other more. Just being verified in person puts most singles well ahead of many others on the site.

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By *ydrewMan
over a year ago

forest

If anyone ever near new forest and fancy a drink. Give me a shout

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"I dont think single guys have it that bad to be fair. But anyways I'd much rather people wanted to meet me for social or otherwise because they liked me rather than they were feeling charitable or sorry for me.

Like we said, charity was just a tag line and very much the wrong word so please don't take any offence. We, as a couple are very fortunate that socials are fairly easy to arrange and in clubs there seems to be a hierarchy of power, predominately single females, then couples, and finally single men.

Its more that we see lots of forum posts where people complain that they can't get a veri because they get no response from couples or females. We enjoy just chatting and think it would be great if people interacted more and helped each other more. Just being verified in person puts most singles well ahead of many others on the site."

I'm not offended, I'm not the type that gets offended easily. I was just commenting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont think single guys have it that bad to be fair. But anyways I'd much rather people wanted to meet me for social or otherwise because they liked me rather than they were feeling charitable or sorry for me.

Like we said, charity was just a tag line and very much the wrong word so please don't take any offence. We, as a couple are very fortunate that socials are fairly easy to arrange and in clubs there seems to be a hierarchy of power, predominately single females, then couples, and finally single men.

Its more that we see lots of forum posts where people complain that they can't get a veri because they get no response from couples or females. We enjoy just chatting and think it would be great if people interacted more and helped each other more. Just being verified in person puts most singles well ahead of many others on the site.

I'm not offended, I'm not the type that gets offended easily. I was just commenting "

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I did do this a few years ago

Met unverified for a coffee and chat went really well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I did do this a few years ago

Met unverified for a coffee and chat went really well"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont think single guys have it that bad to be fair. But anyways I'd much rather people wanted to meet me for social or otherwise because they liked me rather than they were feeling charitable or sorry for me. "

We would only ever meet with somebody we liked the look of and found their profile interesting, and would only meet us as we sparked their interest. We are slowly building a great network of friends and would happily introduce those we met to our social circle. Many of those are cuck or actively seek single males so it would certainly help with networking x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've met a lot of single guys and helped them out - I'm still picky about who I meet, nevertheless. Otherwise, with functions and parties, I meet a fair few. BUT - there are some people who dislike guys who have a veri from someone in the way I've categorised myself here: it's disheartening.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've met a lot of single guys and helped them out - I'm still picky about who I meet, nevertheless. Otherwise, with functions and parties, I meet a fair few. BUT - there are some people who dislike guys who have a veri from someone in the way I've categorised myself here: it's disheartening. "

There will always be wild swings in sexual preference and opinion with regards to who has met who. Many who are happy to meet TV's but still battle self demons in being able to define who they are and accepting what floats their boat. This is where meeting people face to face with an open mind, friendly demeanour and no preconceptions is very important.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some ive met for a social.

but the majority have made their minds up after a time of communication and we meet to play.

its all in the way you are towards that person and how you interact together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I enjoy a social. For me it's part of the build up and as equally exciting. There's no expectations of anything more just coffee, a drink or a meal with good company. If I didn't feel we got on then there's pressure for it to be anything more.

Though as a 4th or 5th time around newbie. I know how hard it can be to even get a social meet and get verified. And because of that I have no expections.

I think one of the organised socials if probably the best way to get verified for a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like having a nice social. Yesterday evening in fact I met up with a nice couple and we played some board games with a couple of drinks.

We had discussed earlier that if anything happens then that's fine, but there wasn't any pressure on taking it any further than just a nice night together! It ended up being one of my favourite nights for a long while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might be in the minority here but I find meeting people I’m not attracted too or interested in having sex with a waste of time...

I’m not knocking anyone that likes this idea....

I’m just giving a honest opinion....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I might be in the minority here but I find meeting people I’m not attracted too or interested in having sex with a waste of time...

I’m not knocking anyone that likes this idea....

I’m just giving a honest opinion...."

No, you're in the majority.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"....is the wrong word. But knowing how hard single guys have it on fab just getting a veri, let alone a play meet, how many ladies and couples, regardless of playing with single men or not would have a social with a single male just to enjoy the company and give them a chance to get them off the mark and interacting within the swing scene? Also, single guys, is it something you would want or is it play or nothing?"

Do some real charity instead. Talk about 1st world problems.

Who wants to a be a pity meet anyway?

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