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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive been messaging a fair few women and couples but seem to be told im not their preference. Could I be doing something wrong ??

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Maybe but it could also be because you don't match their preferences.

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By *atchusplay1000Couple
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Good answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're spot on there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Perhaps just happens way too often!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you are a straight guy who likes TS, that confuses people. I lost a meet for that before Christmas. Oh, well I'll just be bi it's simpler.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How’s your approach? Is it needy? Or are you laid back?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yh thats right and oh no

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im fairly laid back upfront and honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. You don't match their preference; you can't change that.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As others have said if people have a preference not to engage with you OP that's their prerogative - often when guys find they're not finding the site meets their expectations it's down to one, some or all of the following:

Expectations set too high

Approach - if sending blind messages isn't working, try a different approach, like clubs, socials, or getting involved in the forums

Attitude - if you expect responses to every message and meets to come easily It's the wrong attitude

Profile isn't appealing

Pics aren't appealing

All of these are within your control, so maybe take a look at them and see what you can change - it won't of course guarantee anything but may improve your chances

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmmm I suppose just a matter of coming across the right person or people

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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago

A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain


"Hmmm I suppose just a matter of coming across the right person or people"

Now you’re getting the hang of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im fairly laid back upfront and honest"

Thats where youre going wrong!

Being honest usually results in more knock backs than if you just bullshit like the majority

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who knows I am who I am and will not change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly OP, its pretty parr for the course on adult sex dating site, after al us men are in the significant majority, so there is lots to chose from and unless you "click" or really stand out, you will just have to grit your teeth and carry on

Keep fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yh seems like there is a fair amount of competition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys will always struggle there’s so many of you on here, it’s a case of if the candy looks better elsewhere there going to pass you by OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmmm seems like im not sweet enough for most

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Your age may go against you with some OP and the fact you’ve been here a year with no verifications.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thats true ive updated my profile explaining. You look amazing I must say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe but it could also be because you don't match their preferences."

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Someone going to love ya

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I think you look lovely but too young for me.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Your read up ....sounds confused and a bit full on. ...

Try a club ....

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

Profile doesn't exactly sell . .been on a year .one PIC ,no verified meets . many will be oh so wary on that score . maybe some fine tweaking here and there . M matter how good or nice you might think you are .people make their own minds up .perhaps you attend a social or club first .get yourself seen ( the real you tends this work best ...it does for me anyway ) good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Awwww thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thankyou such as nice thing to say x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sounds like a good idea

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive had that a few times saying no veri but.hoping to change that soon. Maybe a club is the way forward

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

Don't sound desperate to meet .learn to accept rejection as well it happens . everyone on here is their own person and everyone has their own preferences .but never say never .there just might be someone out there for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think your right there perhaps I have on occassions. Ive took on board the feedback and appreciate the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say, i wouldnt engage with someone who's status mentioned they were looking for their first meet. I'd see it as them just looking to get verified and anyone would do....or maybe I'm becoming jaded

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By *ovegames42Man
over a year ago

london

Let’s try and compare it to buses , many come along that you don’t want, the ones you do will either be full or pass you by with out noticing you standing there holding your hand out then eventually you will find one that is available and willing to take in more customers. Like all things in life it’s a patient waiting game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been messaging a fair few women and couples but seem to be told im not their preference. Could I be doing something wrong ??"
yep you aren't what their after op try reading all the profile to see if your in with a shout next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ive only put that as my status today but thats a very good point. Think im too honest lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That is such a good analogy. Very true though !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

A lot of people dont specify on there profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people dont specify on there profiles"
that's why you message hi I read your profile I'm interested in knowing more about what your looking for and if I might be someone who you would be interested in chatting to and see where it goes,it's simple but straight to the point,and it shows your polite and willing to find out about them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tried that as well. I do make an effort and read profiles and then relate to there profile at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just plug away that is all you can do ,sign up for the next local social get your face out there get meet verified by the social organiser ,go on cam in chat and talk to people not just sit there with your cock in your hand and again get cam verified as genuine ,go to a club and socialise or a party it's all about socialising letting people see your a ice guy that's polite and non pushy,also tweeking the profile now and then and put up upto date statuses to help grab attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I suppose going on the chat cant hurt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive been messaging a fair few women and couples but seem to be told im not their preference. Could I be doing something wrong ??"

Well yes of course its you, who else could it be?

You are messaging people that don't want to meet with you. Maybe target your messages better, but also just because you find somebody attractive doesn't mean they find you in any way what they want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yh but seems to be way too often but yh that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yh but seems to be way too often but yh that makes sense"

It doesn't really.

Thibk of it like this, there are probably 10 or more active males for every active female, probably a lot more.

Then if you've ever had a serious relationship where you share stuff properly with your partner how many women do you see that you would like to have sex with compared to how many she would.

Excluding actors and celebs that's probably 50+ women you look at weekly compared to 1 or 2 people for her. So your odds are low!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yh odds are stacked against the men

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Yh odds are stacked against the men "

The odds are only stacked against you if you choose to see it that way - negative outlook breeds negative responses - like I said further upthread you have everything within your control to give a positive outlook and enhance your chances of meeting people (albeit without guarantees) it's up to you to find what you need to change to achieve that.

P.S. If you use the reply and quote button, people will know who you are replying to

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

OP please can you click reply and quote so we know who you are responding to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm I suppose just a matter of coming across the right person or people

Now you’re getting the hang of it. "

Does he clean after wards

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yh odds are stacked against the men

The odds are only stacked against you if you choose to see it that way - negative outlook breeds negative responses - like I said further upthread you have everything within your control to give a positive outlook and enhance your chances of meeting people (albeit without guarantees) it's up to you to find what you need to change to achieve that.

P.S. If you use the reply and quote button, people will know who you are replying to "

Will do

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP please can you click reply and quote so we know who you are responding to! "

Lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hmmm I suppose just a matter of coming across the right person or people

Now you’re getting the hang of it.

Does he clean after wards "

Must be good at it ??

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