FabSwingers.com forum: Escort or Affair

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have had a thought following on from other thread if needed what would you rather for your partner to visit an escort/prostitute or a full blown affair. God forbid if sex fell out of your partnership for some reason people still have needs. You love the person what would you do.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

escort, i have advocated it many times on here to the ppl who use this site to cheat.

Visiting an escort is pure nsa and if you genuinely are just looking for sex far more honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would rather he visit a prostitute, for obvious reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have had a thought following on from other thread if needed what would you rather for your partner to visit an escort/prostitute or a full blown affair. God forbid if sex fell out of your partnership for some reason people still have needs. You love the person what would you do."

I wouldn't because I wouldn't need to, after but would much rather pay for sex that risk it getting messy with an affair.

We've even talked about hiring a girl for the both of us so we can get our fantasy the way we want it, I just don't see anything wrong with paying for sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is how would the other half feel about them spending the money , Lots of couples put there money together and if thay found out thay had spent 100s on escorts would stll go mad ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

escort ,i see a few guys whos wifes dont do sex any more ,i give them what they require ,and because i am a male they dont look at it the same way as it would be if they went with a female ,odd i no ,but hay i enjoy it too and its free

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Thing is how would the other half feel about them spending the money , Lots of couples put there money together and if thay found out thay had spent 100s on escorts would stll go mad ,

since there are threads on here giving advice on cash only hotels i assume there are plenty who get round this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is how would the other half feel about them spending the money , Lots of couples put there money together and if thay found out thay had spent 100s on escorts would stll go mad ,

since there are threads on here giving advice on cash only hotels i assume there are plenty who get round this

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well i was always told escorts cost 100s and if spending that i am sure thay would see ..

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

There really is no diffrence at all if they get it for free here or pay for it they still cheating so in my opinion neither are acceptable .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is how would the other half feel about them spending the money , Lots of couples put there money together and if thay found out thay had spent 100s on escorts would stll go mad ,

Yes its a bit of a rip off, but ok if you have plenty of money. My hubby once said he would pay for me to see a male escort for my birthday, it would of cost £300, which i thought would be a waste of money.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not necessarily an escort but definetly a nsa relationship. Ive actually discussed this with all my long term partners and would be more than happy for them to have sex with someone else if i couldnt for whatever reason.

However, i dont think i could accept them sitting wining and dining and getting emotionally close to someone else.

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

Having sex with another person without your partner knowing is "cheating" It does not a differnce if it is paid for or unpaid for.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

That should have read did discuss it with all my ex longtime partners

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Having sex with another person without your partner knowing is "cheating" It does not a differnce if it is paid for or unpaid for.

But this is about them knowing, not not knowing

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"Having sex with another person without your partner knowing is "cheating" It does not a differnce if it is paid for or unpaid for.

If you are not meant to eat biscuits, then it does not matter if that biscuit has been given to you or you have brought it, you still should not have it.

The issue is not where, how, with whom and for how much. The issue is why is the person cheating in the first place ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think you may get a better picture posting this on a vanilla site lol

Swingers are less (and I said less) likley to stray than vanillas anyway. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No sex in a marriage is not uncommon, in fact happens alot, usually one person stops wanting it, doesn't mean the marriage has failed and that people have fallen out of love. So either way the other gets sexual fulfilment from a prostitute or swinging or having an affair has its pluses and minuses, disease, emotional entanglement, cost etc.

No right or wrong answers and anyone who says its all cheating is right and wrong in the same breath.

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

In direct answer to your question though. The word 'affair' generally applies to more than the sex, it applies there is emotional attachments.

So you was saying if only the sex fell out of your relationship then the other person would not need an affair. They would want NSA sex with another person. It then does not make a difference if the pay or do not pay for it.

Though having paid sex is a lot easier for most men then having free sex...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having sex with another person without your partner knowing is "cheating" It does not a differnce if it is paid for or unpaid for.

If you are not meant to eat biscuits, then it does not matter if that biscuit has been given to you or you have brought it, you still should not have it.

The issue is not where, how, with whom and for how much. The issue is why is the person cheating in the first place ..."

Its not cheating it is from the partners perspective and them knowing. Many couples swing together and they swing seperately is that cheating no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No sex in a marriage is not uncommon, in fact happens alot, usually one person stops wanting it, doesn't mean the marriage has failed and that people have fallen out of love. So either way the other gets sexual fulfilment from a prostitute or swinging or having an affair has its pluses and minuses, disease, emotional entanglement, cost etc.

No right or wrong answers and anyone who says its all cheating is right and wrong in the same breath. "
yes theres alot of truth in what you say here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would not visit a 'professional' and neither would i have a full blown affair

i need to feel that the other person is attracted to me in some way rather than it being a simple commercial exchange.

i would also say there is a difference between physical and emotional infidelity, hence why an affair would not work for me

i have been in this position for some years with mrs bus

we still have a sex life, but being bi-sexual i have a sexual requirement that she could never fulfill physically.

it isn't easy and i initially struggled incredibly to divorce sex with another from the emotional bonds that we have within the relationship - and i still have times where that is the case.

what we have built is something that we can both cope with mentally and emotionally, but as i've said before in other posts for that trust to happen, guidelines and rules need to be put in place and moreover those need to be adhered to as opposed to abused.

trust is as fragile as it is strong

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

The problem I have with this topic is the word "affair"

The word affair is a non specific word so does not have a try meaning. So it is hard to comment on something with the true meaning on the topic is not know.

swingershaz can I ask you, what do you mean when you use this word in this topic ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i would not visit a 'professional' and neither would i have a full blown affair

i need to feel that the other person is attracted to me in some way rather than it being a simple commercial exchange.

i would also say there is a difference between physical and emotional infidelity, hence why an affair would not work for me

i have been in this position for some years with mrs bus

we still have a sex life, but being bi-sexual i have a sexual requirement that she could never fulfill physically.

it isn't easy and i initially struggled incredibly to divorce sex with another from the emotional bonds that we have within the relationship - and i still have times where that is the case.

trust is as fragile as it is strong "

Very true trust and communication is the key. And you get to satisfy your bi sexual needs.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

never been in the situation but would imagine the affair may cause more pain to the wronged party.

note use of imagine and may.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The problem I have with this topic is the word "affair"

The word affair is a non specific word so does not have a try meaning. So it is hard to comment on something with the true meaning on the topic is not know.

swingershaz can I ask you, what do you mean when you use this word in this topic ?

A escort for a one off nsa sexual encounter or an ongoing affair where you build up an emotional attachment with simples

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"The problem I have with this topic is the word "affair"

The word affair is a non specific word so does not have a try meaning. So it is hard to comment on something with the true meaning on the topic is not know.

swingershaz can I ask you, what do you mean when you use this word in this topic ?

A escort for a one off nsa sexual encounter or an ongoing affair where you build up an emotional attachment with simples"

So the question you pose in your topic does not make sense.

If a person is only looking for sex (with their partners permission due to their lack of sex drive or other reasons) then they would not be looking for an affair as you see it in your eyes.

In your question the only thing missing in the relationship is the sex. So the only thing the person would be looking for is sex.

So the question I suppose is, would you perfer you partner to get sex by paying for it, or by getting it for free ?

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"The problem I have with this topic is the word "affair"

The word affair is a non specific word so does not have a try meaning. So it is hard to comment on something with the true meaning on the topic is not know.

swingershaz can I ask you, what do you mean when you use this word in this topic ?

A escort for a one off nsa sexual encounter or an ongoing affair where you build up an emotional attachment with simples"

Your statemnent suggest that there is only 2 choices. A escort or an affair?

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By *ornyddCouple
over a year ago

doncaster

either way is cheating if the other doesnt know , but if i had to choose it would be escort .. no threat to falling in love and at least there wont be gossiping behind ur back as an affair would always get caught out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i know a person who had had affair for years and there husband new and was over 20 years and on his dead bed he never asked for wife or his family just her , She stayed with her own family but had a affair .. thay all new . Lifes strange is it if you know it takes some of the heart out away .. not sure ..

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By *ornyddCouple
over a year ago

doncaster

i think if it is a couple that swing together then there shudn't be secrets .. its open and honest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The problem I have with this topic is the word "affair"

The word affair is a non specific word so does not have a try meaning. So it is hard to comment on something with the true meaning on the topic is not know.

swingershaz can I ask you, what do you mean when you use this word in this topic ?

A escort for a one off nsa sexual encounter or an ongoing affair where you build up an emotional attachment with simples

Your statemnent suggest that there is only 2 choices. A escort or an affair?"

Of course there are more than two options was just asking which would be easier nd which one could you live with. Sex is sex and we all need it some more than others.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!

"either way is cheating if the other doesnt know , but if i had to choose it would be escort .. no threat to falling in love and at least there wont be gossiping behind ur back as an affair would always get caught out

so your saying there is no chance of an escort falling for a punter ? thats rubbish and also its a well know fact many men meet escorts and download all of their family grife to them .

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"The problem I have with this topic is the word "affair"

The word affair is a non specific word so does not have a try meaning. So it is hard to comment on something with the true meaning on the topic is not know.

swingershaz can I ask you, what do you mean when you use this word in this topic ?

A escort for a one off nsa sexual encounter or an ongoing affair where you build up an emotional attachment with simples

Your statemnent suggest that there is only 2 choices. A escort or an affair?

Of course there are more than two options was just asking which would be easier nd which one could you live with. Sex is sex and we all need it some more than others."

Well the easist and best one to live with, is for the person to have free NSA sex with someone that understands the situation and is looking for the same NSA sex.. (an option that your orginal question need to give .. hehe)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The problem I have with this topic is the word "affair"

The word affair is a non specific word so does not have a try meaning. So it is hard to comment on something with the true meaning on the topic is not know.

swingershaz can I ask you, what do you mean when you use this word in this topic ?

A escort for a one off nsa sexual encounter or an ongoing affair where you build up an emotional attachment with simples

Your statemnent suggest that there is only 2 choices. A escort or an affair?

Of course there are more than two options was just asking which would be easier nd which one could you live with. Sex is sex and we all need it some more than others.

Ah but you was'nt opening the thread I was.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"If you are not meant to eat biscuits, then it does not matter if that biscuit has been given to you or you have brought it, you still should not have it..."

sorry to dig this one up from way back, but I've had many an affair with a rocky road traybake though, they're gert lush!

Wolf

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I havent read all the thread except the original post.

I would much rather my partner if I had one have an affair with his body than his heart in an affair.

My ex had an affair using his heart and its not a good feeling knowing anothjer lady has his heart over me. No idea if he had sex with her but even if he did the fact that she became more of a prority to him than me hurt the most. I dont really care or bother if he did have sex with her.

The heart bit was the bit that hurt

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