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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Click click

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Click click"

Why would you think that?

Post something that provokes a thought in someone’s mind and they’ll post a response.

Sure, people respond more readily to people they recognise but isn’t that the way it is in the real world too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been here a week - give it time

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By *anTouchThisCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Do you mean they're addictive, and you keep clicking on interesting topics, or do you think they are cliquey?

I'm assuming the former from what you've written, but responses suggest you could be indicating the latter.

We'd go with addictive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you walking through them wearing stilettos?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've been here a week - give it time "

Maybe she's been here before.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes I have been here before it was just a jokey observation I do think they are clicky by the way.

I don't really bother to respond because it's a waste of time no one acknowledges your comment anyway. It's like if somebody posted something asking a question everyone that type so reply is just typing for the sake of it there isn't any response to your response if that makes sense!! Much prefer real conversations you are listened to. But hey each to their own I'm sure these forums are great for a lot of people. I do see a lot of drama queens and me me me type people, they are probably the same people posting on Facebook in a similar vein

Also I know it's irrational but I find the blinking with eyelashes emoticon irritating haha! I think it reminds me of these sad trouts that have the eyelashes on the front of their car- no need at all!!

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By *oley999Woman
over a year ago

Land of Rainbows and Happiness

"Yes I have been here before it was just a jokey observation I do think they are clicky by the way.

Then why are you currently posting on the forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tick tock?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Yes I have been here before it was just a jokey observation I do think they are clicky by the way.

Then why are you currently posting on the forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Click click"

Are you sure you are on the right site? Your profile text gives no indication you like anything about the swinging lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have been here before it was just a jokey observation I do think they are clicky by the way.

I like that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Click click

Are you sure you are on the right site? Your profile text gives no indication you like anything about the swinging lifestyle.

I don’t think she asked for her profile to be picked apart. We all have our own reasons for being here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Click click

Are you sure you are on the right site? Your profile text gives no indication you like anything about the swinging lifestyle.

Are you sure you are on the right site as you have hidden your profile which generally gives now out away about ya

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't find them cliquey. Like any group, you get more out when you put more in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Click click

Are you sure you are on the right site? Your profile text gives no indication you like anything about the swinging lifestyle.

Are you sure you are on the right site as you have hidden your profile which generally gives now out away about ya

That is because I am not looking for any new connections at the moment. I am happily messaging current friends, posting on the forum and looking forward to a fun club night with friends on new year's eve.

Now that I have answered your question it would only be polite you do the same rather than deflecting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the Internet, best not to take it seriously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Click click

Are you sure you are on the right site? Your profile text gives no indication you like anything about the swinging lifestyle.

I don’t think she asked for her profile to be picked apart. We all have our own reasons for being here. "

Thank you yes it was just a joke jokey observation. It's so immature when people have to go and look at your profile. Quite surprised I didn't get a shitty message and then blocked that happens a lot on here!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Click click

Are you sure you are on the right site? Your profile text gives no indication you like anything about the swinging lifestyle.

Are you sure you are on the right site as you have hidden your profile which generally gives now out away about ya

Now that I have answered your question it would only be polite you do the same rather than deflecting."

^ exactly that I have some very good male friends on here and if I want benefits I can message them. I wrote to my profile text so that it would detract all of the twats with their cocks out

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

I think they can appear a bit of a click but I don't think they are it's just most people won't or don't want to comment on them and only a certain percentage who are really comfortable do comment . I'm new here and have not had a problem I treat all people with respect and as someone put it you only get out what you put in .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have been here before it was just a jokey observation I do think they are clicky by the way.

I actually agreed with some of your points, but then you mentioned trouts....

Oh well good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Click click

Are you sure you are on the right site? Your profile text gives no indication you like anything about the swinging lifestyle.

Are you sure you are on the right site as you have hidden your profile which generally gives now out away about ya

Now that I have answered your question it would only be polite you do the same rather than deflecting.

^ exactly that I have some very good male friends on here and if I want benefits I can message them. I wrote to my profile text so that it would detract all of the twats with their cocks out"

makes sense now

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Fuck yeah it's cliquey.

It's usually the one's in said clique that shout the loudest that there isn't one.

It's also full of sycophants and self absorbed narcissist's.

White nights, racist's, xenophobia, homophobia, anti-Semitism,ohhhh I could go on all day

But mainly people who just like the sound of their own voice and their opinion is the only opinion.

Welcome to the forum's baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like a lot of the people on the forum.

some posts do turn me off but im sure i have the same effect to others.

as with anything because of the limited amount of ladies their posts will attract more responses than men, this is to be expected.

a few threads like the rate me and pint,kiss,fuck ones only serve as an ego boast and the thing to remember there is ego is not your amigo.

it is true some peoples posts do get ignored and i can vouch for that, but anyone who ignores you isnt worth your effort to know in all honesty. your trying to interact with them so its not your problem.

me? i post as i feel. what you see is what you get, not all will like that.

i just hope people see the good rather than the bad.

i care about what happens to people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fuck yeah it's cliquey.

It's usually the one's in said clique that shout the loudest that there isn't one.

It's also full of sycophants and self absorbed narcissist's.

White nights, racist's, xenophobia, homophobia, anti-Semitism,ohhhh I could go on all day

But mainly people who just like the sound of their own voice and their opinion is the only opinion.

Welcome to the forum's baby

^ that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i like a lot of the people on the forum.

some posts do turn me off but im sure i have the same effect to others.

as with anything because of the limited amount of ladies their posts will attract more responses than men, this is to be expected.

a few threads like the rate me and pint,kiss,fuck ones only serve as an ego boast and the thing to remember there is ego is not your amigo.

me? i post as i feel. what you see is what you get, not all will like that.

i just hope people see the good rather than the bad.

i care about what happens to people."

Totally agree with you about the would you date fuck or kiss type posts. A bit like when women all men on Facebook post a picture of their body under the guise of showing some new workout Gear when all they are doing is fishing for compliments about how fit they are!! What makes me laugh is the amount of butthurt people that complain and get upset when someone like me who is a bit of a banter bus comes along and make some jokey remarks.

All they do is prove a point about it being clicky

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By *otonfoxMan
over a year ago

Southampton

We don’t all have our cocks hanging out on our profiles.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"We don’t all have our cocks hanging out on our profiles."

What is your most recent picture of?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Is this like the scene in Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince where he's describing Aragog?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

regarding the ego boosting threads.

a lot of people men and women can be alone or depressed so these threads i suppose have a purpose.

some do post on status about wanting pics fab'd and they are very self absorbed where it seems a mission to be loved by all and be number 1.

shouldnt hate people that are like this, because they are suffering a lack of confidence so need to feel the love.

also worth remembering the majority of these do not meet, most have boyfriends or married so have no intention of meeting. its a game.

when a women looks as good as they do and claim to be single i very much doubt this because they have the pick of so many. then you have to ask if they are single why? they are beautiful and adored so why are they single?.

it could be they are a nightmare to live with and make so many demands guys walk away from it, and im sure women in relationships have felt this about her man.

people are people. we all different with different goals.

once you examine, break things down a little you see what is happening.

blinded we are by beauty that our brains turn to mush and we forget the game is being played.

if someone is popular, loved and adored on here good luck to them. they have achieved something.

fab is a massive mindfield and its best to look wear you place your feet.

all the best

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By *otonfoxMan
over a year ago

Southampton

"We don’t all have our cocks hanging out on our profiles.

What is your most recent picture of? "

OMG I didn’t know that was on public view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"regarding the ego boosting threads.

a lot of people men and women can be alone or depressed so these threads i suppose have a purpose.

some do post on status about wanting pics fab'd and they are very self absorbed where it seems a mission to be loved by all and be number 1.

shouldnt hate people that are like this, because they are suffering a lack of confidence so need to feel the love.

also worth remembering the majority of these do not meet, most have boyfriends or married so have no intention of meeting. its a game.

it could be they are a nightmare to live with and make so many demands guys walk away from it, and im sure women in relationships have felt this about her man.

people are people. we all different with different goals.

once you examine, break things down a little you see what is happening.

blinded we are by beauty that our brains turn to mush and we forget the game is being played.

if someone is popular, loved and adored on here good luck to them. they have achieved something.

fab is a massive mindfield and its best to look wear you place your feet.

all the best

Hang on a minute that is a massive sweeping statement I put photos up this morning, and yes I have put an update up saying if you like my photos please fab them but does not make me self absorbed or means I have low self-confidence. It's my profile and I will use it how I see fit generalise sweeping statements like that and not helpful for anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"regarding the ego boosting threads.

a lot of people men and women can be alone or depressed so these threads i suppose have a purpose.

some do post on status about wanting pics fab'd and they are very self absorbed where it seems a mission to be loved by all and be number 1.

shouldnt hate people that are like this, because they are suffering a lack of confidence so need to feel the love.

also worth remembering the majority of these do not meet, most have boyfriends or married so have no intention of meeting. its a game.

it could be they are a nightmare to live with and make so many demands guys walk away from it, and im sure women in relationships have felt this about her man.

people are people. we all different with different goals.

once you examine, break things down a little you see what is happening.

blinded we are by beauty that our brains turn to mush and we forget the game is being played.

if someone is popular, loved and adored on here good luck to them. they have achieved something.

fab is a massive mindfield and its best to look wear you place your feet.

all the best

we have a difference of opinion. no problem thats what a forum is for.

but to counter that how many sweeping generalisations to you see about men?

fair comment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"regarding the ego boosting threads.

a lot of people men and women can be alone or depressed so these threads i suppose have a purpose.

some do post on status about wanting pics fab'd and they are very self absorbed where it seems a mission to be loved by all and be number 1.

shouldnt hate people that are like this, because they are suffering a lack of confidence so need to feel the love.

also worth remembering the majority of these do not meet, most have boyfriends or married so have no intention of meeting. its a game.

it could be they are a nightmare to live with and make so many demands guys walk away from it, and im sure women in relationships have felt this about her man.

people are people. we all different with different goals.

once you examine, break things down a little you see what is happening.

blinded we are by beauty that our brains turn to mush and we forget the game is being played.

if someone is popular, loved and adored on here good luck to them. they have achieved something.

fab is a massive mindfield and its best to look wear you place your feet.

all the best

we have a difference of opinion. no problem thats what a forum is for.

but to counter that how many sweeping generalisations to you see about men?

fair comment?"

Like I've just said on the other thread you are very contradictory. I haven't made any sweeping statements about men and two wrongs don't make a right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"regarding the ego boosting threads.

a lot of people men and women can be alone or depressed so these threads i suppose have a purpose.

some do post on status about wanting pics fab'd and they are very self absorbed where it seems a mission to be loved by all and be number 1.

shouldnt hate people that are like this, because they are suffering a lack of confidence so need to feel the love.

also worth remembering the majority of these do not meet, most have boyfriends or married so have no intention of meeting. its a game.

it could be they are a nightmare to live with and make so many demands guys walk away from it, and im sure women in relationships have felt this about her man.

people are people. we all different with different goals.

once you examine, break things down a little you see what is happening.

blinded we are by beauty that our brains turn to mush and we forget the game is being played.

if someone is popular, loved and adored on here good luck to them. they have achieved something.

fab is a massive mindfield and its best to look wear you place your feet.

all the best

we have a difference of opinion. no problem thats what a forum is for.

but to counter that how many sweeping generalisations to you see about men?

fair comment?

Like I've just said on the other thread you are very contradictory. I haven't made any sweeping statements about men and two wrongs don't make a right. "

i did say how many generalisations about men do you see.

not that you make them. i never implied that you made them.

i always thought you one of the nice ladies on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"regarding the ego boosting threads.

a lot of people men and women can be alone or depressed so these threads i suppose have a purpose.

some do post on status about wanting pics fab'd and they are very self absorbed where it seems a mission to be loved by all and be number 1.

shouldnt hate people that are like this, because they are suffering a lack of confidence so need to feel the love.

also worth remembering the majority of these do not meet, most have boyfriends or married so have no intention of meeting. its a game.

it could be they are a nightmare to live with and make so many demands guys walk away from it, and im sure women in relationships have felt this about her man.

people are people. we all different with different goals.

once you examine, break things down a little you see what is happening.

blinded we are by beauty that our brains turn to mush and we forget the game is being played.

if someone is popular, loved and adored on here good luck to them. they have achieved something.

fab is a massive mindfield and its best to look wear you place your feet.

all the best

we have a difference of opinion. no problem thats what a forum is for.

but to counter that how many sweeping generalisations to you see about men?

fair comment?

Like I've just said on the other thread you are very contradictory. I haven't made any sweeping statements about men and two wrongs don't make a right.

i did say how many generalisations about men do you see.

not that you make them. i never implied that you made them.

i always thought you one of the nice ladies on here"

I am but I just don't like general sweeping statements. You may be right some people are doing it for attention but what's the problem with that?

And as I said two wrongs don't make a right so because you feel that men have general sweeping statements made about them it's ok to do the same for women. I think there are plenty of women bashing threads on the forums.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"regarding the ego boosting threads.

a lot of people men and women can be alone or depressed so these threads i suppose have a purpose.

some do post on status about wanting pics fab'd and they are very self absorbed where it seems a mission to be loved by all and be number 1.

shouldnt hate people that are like this, because they are suffering a lack of confidence so need to feel the love.

also worth remembering the majority of these do not meet, most have boyfriends or married so have no intention of meeting. its a game.

it could be they are a nightmare to live with and make so many demands guys walk away from it, and im sure women in relationships have felt this about her man.

people are people. we all different with different goals.

once you examine, break things down a little you see what is happening.

blinded we are by beauty that our brains turn to mush and we forget the game is being played.

if someone is popular, loved and adored on here good luck to them. they have achieved something.

fab is a massive mindfield and its best to look wear you place your feet.

all the best

Very nicely put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry if i offended. wasnt my intention.

but what i would say is that i did include men and women in most of that post from the very start.

including about depression and being self absorbed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sorry if i offended. wasnt my intention.

but what i would say is that i did include men and women in most of that post from the very start.

including about depression and being self absorbed."

I'm not offended I was just making my point.

But I don't see how putting photos up and wanting them to be fabbed is self absorbed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sorry if i offended. wasnt my intention.

but what i would say is that i did include men and women in most of that post from the very start.

including about depression and being self absorbed.

I'm not offended I was just making my point.

But I don't see how putting photos up and wanting them to be fabbed is self absorbed. "

ok. nice talking with you take care.

btw i fabd your pics as i liked them

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"We don’t all have our cocks hanging out on our profiles.

What is your most recent picture of?

OMG I didn’t know that was on public view

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Click click"

Agree.

I was ignored in an "insult the person above" thread. How fucking soul destroying to be so fucking insignificant that someone can't even be

arsed to call you a cunt.

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

"Click click

Agree.

I was ignored in an "insult the person above" thread. How fucking soul destroying to be so fucking insignificant that someone can't even be

arsed to call you a cunt.

xslutx

that happens on many thread posts most just post and be damned if they ignore it.

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I am the thread killer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you need to be known to get involved . Even as a woman it’s difficult to be part of the forums. I got fed up and gave up, but thought I’d try again yesterday.

I commented on several threads in the space of an hour, I wasn’t surprised to get no response.

I think perhaps I need to spend more time in the forums than I do. Lack of time means that can’t happen.

Infrequent posts just don’t work which is a shame as I enjoy a good debate when time allows

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Yes you need to be known to get involved . Even as a woman it’s difficult to be part of the forums. I got fed up and gave up, but thought I’d try again yesterday.

I commented on several threads in the space of an hour, I wasn’t surprised to get no response.

I think perhaps I need to spend more time in the forums than I do. Lack of time means that can’t happen.

Infrequent posts just don’t work which is a shame as I enjoy a good debate when time allows "

Post when you want and don't expect a response every time.

If not getting a response is an issue then post on every single thread.

You're guaranteed to get a few at least that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes you need to be known to get involved . Even as a woman it’s difficult to be part of the forums. I got fed up and gave up, but thought I’d try again yesterday.

I commented on several threads in the space of an hour, I wasn’t surprised to get no response.

I think perhaps I need to spend more time in the forums than I do. Lack of time means that can’t happen.

Infrequent posts just don’t work which is a shame as I enjoy a good debate when time allows

Post when you want and don't expect a response every time.

If not getting a response is an issue then post on every single thread.

You're guaranteed to get a few at least that way.

Thanks for the response, but I never ‘expect’ anything, I certainly don’t warrant a reply every time, it would just be nice sometimes.

Not getting a response isn’t an issue, I’m just a friendly person who likes a chat when she has time . Sadly I don’t have enough time, or an opinion to post to every thread.

It was just an observation that infrequent use of the forums doesn’t work well

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Yes you need to be known to get involved . Even as a woman it’s difficult to be part of the forums. I got fed up and gave up, but thought I’d try again yesterday.

I commented on several threads in the space of an hour, I wasn’t surprised to get no response.

I think perhaps I need to spend more time in the forums than I do. Lack of time means that can’t happen.

Infrequent posts just don’t work which is a shame as I enjoy a good debate when time allows

Post when you want and don't expect a response every time.

If not getting a response is an issue then post on every single thread.

You're guaranteed to get a few at least that way.

Thanks for the response, but I never ‘expect’ anything, I certainly don’t warrant a reply every time, it would just be nice sometimes.

Not getting a response isn’t an issue, I’m just a friendly person who likes a chat when she has time . Sadly I don’t have enough time, or an opinion to post to every thread.

It was just an observation that infrequent use of the forums doesn’t work well "

I've killed more threads since we came back than I did in around five years before our break. C'est la vie

It happens. Too much forum time is often as bad as popping in now and then.

It's easy to get sucked in and find yourself spending an age in here.

Beats watching soaps and daytime TV though.....

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over a year ago

"Yes you need to be known to get involved . Even as a woman it’s difficult to be part of the forums. I got fed up and gave up, but thought I’d try again yesterday.

I commented on several threads in the space of an hour, I wasn’t surprised to get no response.

I think perhaps I need to spend more time in the forums than I do. Lack of time means that can’t happen.

Infrequent posts just don’t work which is a shame as I enjoy a good debate when time allows

Post when you want and don't expect a response every time.

If not getting a response is an issue then post on every single thread.

You're guaranteed to get a few at least that way.

Thanks for the response, but I never ‘expect’ anything, I certainly don’t warrant a reply every time, it would just be nice sometimes.

Not getting a response isn’t an issue, I’m just a friendly person who likes a chat when she has time . Sadly I don’t have enough time, or an opinion to post to every thread.

It was just an observation that infrequent use of the forums doesn’t work well "

I understand the ‘infrequent poster’ thing.

I tend to pop in and pop out of fab as I get on with my day, as many others do.

I may post something I think is witty and come back later only to see no one seemed to notice.

What I now realise is; those little ‘gems’ make people smile sometimes and kinda make the forums what they are. They don’t necessarily require a response where everyone falls about laughing.

When I’ve gone to socials I often get told people like my silly posts. They rarely feel the need to say it on the forum though.

So.... here’s to posting pointless silliness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks Obi Fox and Rachael, I’ll stick with my infrequent visits and keep smiling xx

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

"Yes you need to be known to get involved . Even as a woman it’s difficult to be part of the forums. I got fed up and gave up, but thought I’d try again yesterday.

I commented on several threads in the space of an hour, I wasn’t surprised to get no response.

This is what many newbies get on the forums.

So why does it take, you need to be known to get involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have been here before it was just a jokey observation I do think they are clicky by the way.

Absolutely agree with this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks Obi Fox and Rachael, I’ll stick with my infrequent visits and keep smiling xx"

You’re welcome xx

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over a year ago

"Yes I have been here before it was just a jokey observation I do think they are clicky by the way.

Absolutely agree with this!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Yes you need to be known to get involved . Even as a woman it’s difficult to be part of the forums. I got fed up and gave up, but thought I’d try again yesterday.

I commented on several threads in the space of an hour, I wasn’t surprised to get no response.

This is what many newbies get on the forums.

So why does it take, you need to be known to get involved. "

You don't need to be known to get involved. Everybody started out unknown and just got themselves involved. I've never met any regular forum contributors in person but I still manage,jyst post what you want when you want and don't worry about what everyone else is doing

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Yes I have been here before it was just a jokey observation I do think they are clicky by the way.

Absolutely agree with this!

Soz

Haha that made me giggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the Internet, best not to take it seriously "

Omg, a rational, common sense comment on the internet, it must be the end of days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the Internet, best not to take it seriously

Omg, a rational, common sense comment on the internet, it must be the end of days

This kind of comment really annoys me, yes it's only the internet but it doesn't mean that the interactions you have with people on the internet compared to real everyday life interactions are any less meaningful. However a lot of people use the anonymity of the internet as an excuse to be rude and abusive. I will add however I do find the forms to be quite clicky and as a newbie sometimes the responses from people who have been doing this a while are very Savage. I try to get involved but more often than not just get ignored, the first thread I ever posted in on the forums I got absolutely savaged by several well-known forum users, so I do think a lot of people have a valid point when they say the forums can be quite unfriendly at times.

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By *iss SinWoman
over a year ago

portchester

"It's the Internet, best not to take it seriously

Omg, a rational, common sense comment on the internet, it must be the end of days

It's totally unfriendly for newbies. Regular posters shoot people down in seconds as they think their opinion is more valid then anyone elses. Intelligent females try to belittle others with their fancy words. No wonder its the same old people contributing over and over, they are only here to feed their egos and have no interest in meeting other then at their cliquey socials! IMO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's the Internet, best not to take it seriously

Omg, a rational, common sense comment on the internet, it must be the end of days

I will add to balance things out slightly that's some regular threads that are very friendly and people are quite inclusive it's a shame there isn't more of those.

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over a year ago

"It's the Internet, best not to take it seriously

Omg, a rational, common sense comment on the internet, it must be the end of days

I will add to balance things out slightly that's some regular threads that are very friendly and people are quite inclusive it's a shame there isn't more of those. "

Pssst. You can start more of those if you would like to xx

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over a year ago

"It's the Internet, best not to take it seriously

Omg, a rational, common sense comment on the internet, it must be the end of days

I will add to balance things out slightly that's some regular threads that are very friendly and people are quite inclusive it's a shame there isn't more of those.

Pssst. You can start more of those if you would like to xx"

That's the point I have tried but they just get ignored.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

People who interact regularly can form friendships and enjoy what each other writes.

Joining in in a positive way is the purpose of a forum.

In my opinion people tend to ‘see’ cliques when they aren’t as involved and laid back as everybody else

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over a year ago

"It's the Internet, best not to take it seriously

Omg, a rational, common sense comment on the internet, it must be the end of days

I will add to balance things out slightly that's some regular threads that are very friendly and people are quite inclusive it's a shame there isn't more of those.

Pssst. You can start more of those if you would like to xx

That's the point I have tried but they just get ignored. "

We all post threads that don’t get much response. It’s not just you. Keep chucking them on. Some of them will do well xx

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

I have to agree with the OP. The forums are clickey, however I enjoy my own company and love talking to myself. So how do we make it more inclusive and friendly? Only a tiny % use the forums, so gotta ask why are they so underused and dominated by a minority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Click click"

Maybe she's a swinger singing Mack The Knife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to agree with the OP. The forums are clickey, however I enjoy my own company and love talking to myself. So how do we make it more inclusive and friendly? Only a tiny % use the forums, so gotta ask why are they so underused and dominated by a minority."

Maybe they are dominated by a minority because they are underused?

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over a year ago

"People who interact regularly can form friendships and enjoy what each other writes.

Joining in in a positive way is the purpose of a forum.

In my opinion people tend to ‘see’ cliques when they aren’t as involved and laid back as everybody else

This has just proved the point about cliques.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Maybe they are dominated by a minority because they are underused?"

And the minority that use them are possibly dominated by a further minority of that minority......

Spooky.......

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Maybe they are dominated by a minority because they are underused?"

But why are they underused? It's a viscious circle. Do they need to be promoted more?

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over a year ago

Maybe they are dominated by a minority because they are underused?

But why are they underused? It's a viscious circle. Do they need to be promoted more? "

Yes I think they do but I think a lot of people are lurkers but just worried about that first post.

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over a year ago

Maybe they are dominated by a minority because they are underused?

But why are they underused? It's a viscious circle. Do they need to be promoted more? "

The vast majority on the site are men looking to get their willy wet. I can't imagine they have much interest in adding 'twat' as a replacement word in a song.

Maybe

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Maybe they are dominated by a minority because they are underused?

And the minority that use them are possibly dominated by a further minority of that minority......

Spooky.......

Exactly. There must be what 35,000 members on here, yet I can real off about 10 names that constantly stand out. Anyone care to do the maths on that? I only got a C at GCSE level so my calculation will be dodgy.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"People who interact regularly can form friendships and enjoy what each other writes.

Joining in in a positive way is the purpose of a forum.

In my opinion people tend to ‘see’ cliques when they aren’t as involved and laid back as everybody else

This has just proved the point about cliques."

In what sense?

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over a year ago

"People who interact regularly can form friendships and enjoy what each other writes.

Joining in in a positive way is the purpose of a forum.

In my opinion people tend to ‘see’ cliques when they aren’t as involved and laid back as everybody else

This has just proved the point about cliques.

In what sense?"

if people don't fit the status Quo by being as laid back as everybody else. That's my point it feels like if people don't fit in to the people already very involved in the forums then it can be an exceptionally difficult place. I hope you see my point.

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over a year ago

"People who interact regularly can form friendships and enjoy what each other writes.

Joining in in a positive way is the purpose of a forum.

In my opinion people tend to ‘see’ cliques when they aren’t as involved and laid back as everybody else

This has just proved the point about cliques.

In what sense?

can be difficult. yes.

im sure some feel they have a target on the back and get jumped on by the same trolls who operate here.

am i the only one who sees this?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"People who interact regularly can form friendships and enjoy what each other writes.

Joining in in a positive way is the purpose of a forum.

In my opinion people tend to ‘see’ cliques when they aren’t as involved and laid back as everybody else

This has just proved the point about cliques.

In what sense?

can be difficult. yes.

im sure some feel they have a target on the back and get jumped on by the same trolls who operate here.

am i the only one who sees this?"

I think the fora reflect life. In any large group there will be sub groups and differing personalities. The nature of certain sub groups is to deny their existence while continuing to display certain characteristics of that group the same goes for certain personalities.

I think the solution is to continue to interact in your usual way and for anyone who recognises exclusive or bullying behaviour to report it or at least challenge it respectfully.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"This has just proved the point about cliques.

In what sense?

I do see what you mean. Laid back perhaps wasn’t the right phrase to use. It’s difficult to type the right sentiment sometimes

What I mean is that people should just join in without worrying what others think or whether they’ll get replies or noticed. It’s the joining in regardless that counts.

I was the new kid at school several times as a child so I know what it feels like to feel I’m an outsider to all these chums.

But equally, I learned to understand that I wasn’t always perceived as an outsider, just new. School is a terrible place for cliques/gangs and so on.

But the forums don’t deliberately try to make anyone feel left out. I believe it is a personal perception. I post loads but was once new and just accepted that I had to make the effort to join in.

And if no one liked what I said I’d not worry. New people or lurkers should join in. Saying things that go against the grain of conversations, or are designed to cause ‘trouble’ will not make anyone popular anywhere. Nothing to do with who is friends with who.

I’ve rambled on but hope I’ve made some sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who interact regularly can form friendships and enjoy what each other writes.

Joining in in a positive way is the purpose of a forum.

In my opinion people tend to ‘see’ cliques when they aren’t as involved and laid back as everybody else

This has just proved the point about cliques.

In what sense?

can be difficult. yes.

im sure some feel they have a target on the back and get jumped on by the same trolls who operate here.

am i the only one who sees this?

I think the solution is to continue to interact in your usual way and for anyone who recognises exclusive or bullying behaviour to report it or at least challenge it respectfully."

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Everyone was new once. I just joined in and kept going.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"can be difficult. yes.

im sure some feel they have a target on the back and get jumped on by the same trolls who operate here.

am i the only one who sees this?"

If some of what you’ve experienced has not felt good to you that’s going to make you see things differently.

There are plenty of things you’ve posted that get positive responses though

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Everyone was new once. I just joined in and kept going. "

And we

you

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By *carlettxWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I can kinda understand this

If I post or comment on ‘Swingers chat’ people generally comment on my post etc

If I comment on a post in ‘the lounge’ it will often get ignored by the regular forum posters that banter with each other

Doesn’t bother me but can see how it might make some feel left out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have to start somewhere on here.

Posts will get ignored as the forums move so quickly at times. But like me keep joining in.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"This has just proved the point about cliques.

In what sense?

I do see what you mean. Laid back perhaps wasn’t the right phrase to use. It’s difficult to type the right sentiment sometimes

What I mean is that people should just join in without worrying what others think or whether they’ll get replies or noticed. It’s the joining in regardless that counts.

I was the new kid at school several times as a child so I know what it feels like to feel I’m an outsider to all these chums.

But equally, I learned to understand that I wasn’t always perceived as an outsider, just new. School is a terrible place for cliques/gangs and so on.

But the forums don’t deliberately try to make anyone feel left out. I believe it is a personal perception. I post loads but was once new and just accepted that I had to make the effort to join in.

I’ve rambled on but hope I’ve made some sense?

I used to effectively live in the forums on my old solo profile. The majority of my meets were with other forum users. There were forum socials all the time. I could guarantee that any comment I made got a response and that any thread I started would usually hit 100 in an hour or so. Life seemed fantastic

Then I met Fox, we coupled up, ditched our solo profiles, got married and we took an extended break.

Have I returned to the same forums? No. Do I feel like newbie again? In some ways. Does it mean I behave and post any differently? Not one bit.

Never let others affect what you post, how you interact and get involved or whether you feel included or not. Because at the end of the day everything typed is just words on a page and everyone will have an opinion. And they're all as valid as anyone else's - even if you don't agree.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Never let others affect what you post, how you interact and get involved or whether you feel included or not. Because at the end of the day everything typed is just words on a page and everyone will have an opinion. And they're all as valid as anyone else's - even if you don't agree.

That’s what I meant to say

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over a year ago

"This has just proved the point about cliques.

In what sense?

I do see what you mean. Laid back perhaps wasn’t the right phrase to use. It’s difficult to type the right sentiment sometimes

What I mean is that people should just join in without worrying what others think or whether they’ll get replies or noticed. It’s the joining in regardless that counts.

I was the new kid at school several times as a child so I know what it feels like to feel I’m an outsider to all these chums.

But equally, I learned to understand that I wasn’t always perceived as an outsider, just new. School is a terrible place for cliques/gangs and so on.

But the forums don’t deliberately try to make anyone feel left out. I believe it is a personal perception. I post loads but was once new and just accepted that I had to make the effort to join in.

I’ve rambled on but hope I’ve made some sense?

Then I met Fox, we coupled up, ditched our solo profiles, got married and we took an extended break.

Have I returned to the same forums? No. Do I feel like newbie again? In some ways. Does it mean I behave and post any differently? Not one bit.

I agree with this. being ignored isn't necessarily the issue I just think it's the unfriendliness that bothers me sometimes. I appreciate everyone started somewhere and I've already made some fantastic new friends and met people that I have interacted with in the forum plus have a few planed. I Know It Happens in every form of life that you get little groups and that's only natural like I said I only get offended when it feels like people are being rounded on. Some people ask for it because they posted something very controversial or damn right rude but others are asking what they considered to be an Innocent question or making what they consider to be a valid point and just get savaged. Anyway it's good to have a rant from time to time but don't get me wrong I do enjoy the forums. Just wanted to make some observations.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"This has just proved the point about cliques.

In what sense?

I do see what you mean. Laid back perhaps wasn’t the right phrase to use. It’s difficult to type the right sentiment sometimes

What I mean is that people should just join in without worrying what others think or whether they’ll get replies or noticed. It’s the joining in regardless that counts.

I was the new kid at school several times as a child so I know what it feels like to feel I’m an outsider to all these chums.

But equally, I learned to understand that I wasn’t always perceived as an outsider, just new. School is a terrible place for cliques/gangs and so on.

But the forums don’t deliberately try to make anyone feel left out. I believe it is a personal perception. I post loads but was once new and just accepted that I had to make the effort to join in.

I’ve rambled on but hope I’ve made some sense?

Then I met Fox, we coupled up, ditched our solo profiles, got married and we took an extended break.

Have I returned to the same forums? No. Do I feel like newbie again? In some ways. Does it mean I behave and post any differently? Not one bit.

For every post that comes across as rude it's as likely it's just being blunt. The trouble with words on a page is that it's hard to get a sense of sarcasm, humour, seriousness or intent. Much easier in spoken word form. So often people take offence when none was intended.

There are of course, posts which go over the top and are just plain rude.

Much like conversations with strangers in the real word.

Such is life.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

How did you two meet on fab?

Please tell me it was in a matchmaking thread?

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over a year ago

Grantham

"How did you two meet on fab?

Please tell me it was in a matchmaking thread?

That question goes to obi fox btw

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over a year ago

It's very much like the first day at a new school. Many already know each other and enjoy each other's company and have certain games they play and conversations they enjoy. Once you make a few friends you realise it's not a bad thing, it's more finding your feet and establishing who's company you enjoy too. I'm still very new and constantly finding people I enjoy the company of.

Try not to take things to heart.. its not all bad.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"How did you two meet on fab?

Please tell me it was in a matchmaking thread?

Fox messaged me.

Yes folks.........single females can in fact message single male profiles. You'd never believe it!!

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"How did you two meet on fab?

Please tell me it was in a matchmaking thread?

Fox messaged me.

Yes folks.........single females can in fact message single male profiles. You'd never believe it!!

Darn, I was looking for a win there

I never message men first, I assume they'll message if they are remotely interested

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over a year ago

"How did you two meet on fab?

Please tell me it was in a matchmaking thread?

Fox messaged me.

Yes folks.........single females can in fact message single male profiles. You'd never believe it!!

Darn, I was looking for a win there

I never message men first, I assume they'll message if they are remotely interested

you dont message first?

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over a year ago

"How did you two meet on fab?

Please tell me it was in a matchmaking thread?

Fox messaged me.

Yes folks.........single females can in fact message single male profiles. You'd never believe it!!

Darn, I was looking for a win there

I never message men first, I assume they'll message if they are remotely interested

you dont message first?"

I very rarely message first either.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I never message men first, I assume they'll message if they are remotely interested

you dont message first?"

Sorry, I very very very rarely message men first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Click click"

Clique....

The grammar people are going to love you

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Yes folks.........single females can in fact message single male profiles. You'd never believe it!!

I've now tried it twice in one week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve winked single males I’ve liked and it’s gone from

There.

Kitty x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Click click

Clique....

The grammar people are going to love you

That's a spelling error not grammar

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over a year ago

"I never message men first, I assume they'll message if they are remotely interested

you dont message first?

Sorry, I very very very rarely message men first

shame. your both nice women from my interactions with you both

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over a year ago

"I never message men first, I assume they'll message if they are remotely interested

you dont message first?

Sorry, I very very very rarely message men first

shame. your both nice women from my interactions with you both"

We can still be nice and not message first.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It’s just friends interacting with friends I think. I do understand that people may feel a bit excluded from it at times but that’s life. We can’t all be part of everything. I do think people take it far too seriously though.

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