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Pushy or non pushy?

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By *lacksausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Where is the line between pushy and non pushy?

In my books, the person you really wish to shag can NEVER be pushy; and also the person you would never shag in a thousand years is designated PUSHY right after the second message or so.

What do you think, fellow fuckers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With that attitude towards ladies i dont think they will filling you mailbox.Think of being on here like being in a Bar and you see a lady who your attracted to and try to engage in a conversation and she shows no interest in you simply leave her alone as no one like pushy people

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By *lacksausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"With that attitude towards ladies i dont think they will filling you mailbox.Think of being on here like being in a Bar and you see a lady who your attracted to and try to engage in a conversation and she shows no interest in you simply leave her alone as no one like pushy people "

There goes Mr nice who has all the ladies queuing up. It's an open question about where the line is. Hypothetical shit. Not the chance in a lifetime to show who is cute.

It's Christmas for fuxk sake.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Pushy is a person who won't take a hint, no matter how hot they are or how much you might want them in the future. Non pushy is more irregular or casual contact, not just about sex.

In person, non pushy might suggest new things, pushy will demand, push, try it on, and pout.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Pushy is someone who ignores your boundaries.

It's why most people won't meet anyone giving off a hint of that, we don't wanna be sexually assualted.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Common sense approach , put your cock down when speaking lol

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

For me, pushy is the guy who tries to get you to meet when you’ve said you have plans so can’t. Who keeps saying what a shame you can’t meet earlier than the date, just 4 or 5 days away, that you’ve agreed. Who keeps asking for more pics. Who immediately takes it to sex and what they want you to do.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"For me, pushy is the guy who tries to get you to meet when you’ve said you have plans so can’t. Who keeps saying what a shame you can’t meet earlier than the date, just 4 or 5 days away, that you’ve agreed. Who keeps asking for more pics. Who immediately takes it to sex and what they want you to do. "

Oh yeah. I've had more than one experience where I've gone from happy to meet for a social to blocking the person before a meeting was set. I tentatively agree then the pushy comes out.

Can't we do it today? I'm looking forward to copping a feel in the pub. I'm sure I can persuade you to go back to mine after. When we skip the social I'm going to (do kinky things that I'll never agree to on a first meeting).

I demure, say I'm being made uncomfortable, flat out say that this isn't a good approach, say that I have firm rules and don't make exceptions no matter how amazing they think they are. They apologise at each step, learn nothing, and I'm not risking my safety with someone who won't respect my damn boundaries.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"For me, pushy is the guy who tries to get you to meet when you’ve said you have plans so can’t. Who keeps saying what a shame you can’t meet earlier than the date, just 4 or 5 days away, that you’ve agreed. Who keeps asking for more pics. Who immediately takes it to sex and what they want you to do.

Oh yeah. I've had more than one experience where I've gone from happy to meet for a social to blocking the person before a meeting was set. I tentatively agree then the pushy comes out.

Can't we do it today? I'm looking forward to copping a feel in the pub. I'm sure I can persuade you to go back to mine after. When we skip the social I'm going to (do kinky things that I'll never agree to on a first meeting).

I demure, say I'm being made uncomfortable, flat out say that this isn't a good approach, say that I have firm rules and don't make exceptions no matter how amazing they think they are. They apologise at each step, learn nothing, and I'm not risking my safety with someone who won't respect my damn boundaries. "

Yes!! ‘We could sneak off to the toilets..’ oh, lucky me.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm probably a hard arse, but I'm trying to skip the fantasists. And I want people to look me in the eye, respect me as a human being, and not be mentally skipping forward to thinking about getting their end away.

Apparently I'm a fake and a prude. Nah, I just don't want to end up a statistic.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I'm probably a hard arse, but I'm trying to skip the fantasists. And I want people to look me in the eye, respect me as a human being, and not be mentally skipping forward to thinking about getting their end away.

Apparently I'm a fake and a prude. Nah, I just don't want to end up a statistic. "

Sounds fair to me! I want to meet people who are looking for mutual pleasure, not a free hole right this minute because they happen to be horny.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I'm probably a hard arse, but I'm trying to skip the fantasists. And I want people to look me in the eye, respect me as a human being, and not be mentally skipping forward to thinking about getting their end away.

Apparently I'm a fake and a prude. Nah, I just don't want to end up a statistic.

Sounds fair to me! I want to meet people who are looking for mutual pleasure, not a free hole right this minute because they happen to be horny. "

Oh indeed. One of the points on my check list is, do they respect my humanity (including right to make my own choices about my body)?

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By *lacksausage OP   Man
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport


"For me, pushy is the guy who tries to get you to meet when you’ve said you have plans so can’t. Who keeps saying what a shame you can’t meet earlier than the date, just 4 or 5 days away, that you’ve agreed. Who keeps asking for more pics. Who immediately takes it to sex and what they want you to do.

Oh yeah. I've had more than one experience where I've gone from happy to meet for a social to blocking the person before a meeting was set. I tentatively agree then the pushy comes out.

Can't we do it today? I'm looking forward to copping a feel in the pub. I'm sure I can persuade you to go back to mine after. When we skip the social I'm going to (do kinky things that I'll never agree to on a first meeting).

I demure, say I'm being made uncomfortable, flat out say that this isn't a good approach, say that I have firm rules and don't make exceptions no matter how amazing they think they are. They apologise at each step, learn nothing, and I'm not risking my safety with someone who won't respect my damn boundaries.

Yes!! ‘We could sneak off to the toilets..’ oh, lucky me."

sneak off to the toilet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pushy is someone who ignores your boundaries.

It's why most people won't meet anyone giving off a hint of that, we don't wanna be sexually assualted."

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"For me, pushy is the guy who tries to get you to meet when you’ve said you have plans so can’t. Who keeps saying what a shame you can’t meet earlier than the date, just 4 or 5 days away, that you’ve agreed. Who keeps asking for more pics. Who immediately takes it to sex and what they want you to do. "

This, absolutely all of this.

I’ll also add when they say “we’ve been chatting for a couple of days now, it’s time we meet” (erm no, it is time to meet IF/WHEN I decide...

or:

“What do I have to do to get a meet with you?” erm, well, you’ve blown it if you had any glimmer of a chance!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

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