FabSwingers.com forum: REJECTION!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

WHO takes it worst, MEN! WOMEN ! in your opinion !!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

the needy, self obsessed in both communities... and including couples...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I don't like it, but then who does? But I accept it and don't make a nuisance of myself if I get rejected, just move on. I think it's a personal thing rather than a male/female thing. Just my opinion though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion...

Men over 40.

I have only had abusive mail from guys over 40.

The 20 to 30 age range have always thanked me for taking the time to say no and left it at that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being told no is a lot better than looking in your sent box and seeing your message deleted

more manners to it :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been turned down more often than an old pair of hand me down keks.

It's part and parcel of life on a sex site.

We have our moments too though, usually from people who can't accept our preferences, but still try to get us to change to their way of thinking.

You just need to grow a thick skin

and there aren't many as thick as me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men don't like it, but we get used to it! (come on, most of the time boyfriends get dumped, not girlfriends...)

I think it really depends on the situation as well as people's personalities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my opinion...

Men over 40.

I have only had abusive mail from guys over 40.

The 20 to 30 age range have always thanked me for taking the time to say no and left it at that."

Line 2 appears to be missing the word SOME

Please don't taint us all with your opinion. Ta

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"We have our moments too though, usually from people who can't accept our preferences, but still try to get us to change to their way of thinking.

The ones that try to do this are usually the ones who handle it worst of all!

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely, there's nothing worse than writing out a message (not the one liners that everyone complains about) and it getting deleted straight away. Pure demoralizing and rude.

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

If i contacted a cpl/female then im fine with rejection, where as im contacted by a cpl/female saying they like my profile, asking to chat on msn to swap face pics, i do get pissed off when as soon as they get the face pic they just say no thanks and just block you. All they have to do is just say im not for them, and ill happily delete their msn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me im pretty bad with it lol infact very bad with it. long story from the past and all lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think men....women are the stronger sex lol

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

we got told today by a single male that we were plain rude for not giving our private email address so he could send us his pic! but hey ho ho we wont lose any sleep over it lol oh and by the way our opening words were 'no thank you' it wasn't as if we even jumped straight in about the email

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I don't think gender comes into it. Some people are just naturally better equipped to take life than others.

The only people who have kicked off about me rejecting them are people with no worthwhile profile pics, a poor profile and a message that says something like, 'I want to do you so hard.'

But then these tend to be newbies on here rather than more experienced swingers.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

get the dummy spitters and tantrum throwers in ALL catigories ! its down to the indervidule/s who messages . some are very respectful and take your no at face value .others think more they go on that youll give up and just say "ok ill meet you " .then theres the negotiators ... dispite your clear prference they will ask "but why not" and "ahh but what if,... " tryng to convince you to meet em. oh and you cant forget my personal favourites the abusive and tantrum throwers ! they go from the "i am a respectful ..blah blah blah " to childish "well your too ugley anyway ect ect ".always makes me giggle how quick i can go from such a stunning creature to creature from the black lagoon pmsl ! none of the above and the domaine of just one group as ive said ,goes across all of them.

personally id not be so vaine or deluded to think id be irresistible to everyone on fab that id never get knocked back lol !!

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By *olfgangvwMan
over a year ago

Mansfield

I can cope with rejection. What does annoy me is not getting a response to a message even if it's "no thanks". Just plain rude!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"I can cope with rejection. What does annoy me is not getting a response to a message even if it's "no thanks". Just plain rude! "

not rude at all . link on home page to frequent q and a s that states this .

plus lots of threads awell which will give you they meny reasons ppl choose not to replie even with "no thanks " . from my exsprience just causes more bother than its worth with some ppl getting abusive or wanting you to validate your descision .sorry but makes mre sense to spend my time talking to those i may want to meet ,not ping pong mail to those ive said no to already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can cope with rejection. However please can people put what they mean on their profile. I have had several occasions where I have been told "i/we would never go with someone as old as you". However the reason I contacted them in the first place was that I was within the range stated on their/her profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont think anyone likes it but as many say above its part and parcel of the site.

From reading some of the threads posted on the forums though in the previous few weeks i'd have to say its the men

* storms off in a mood *

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

From reading some of the threads posted on the forums though in the previous few weeks i'd have to say its the men

actually, I would say it was woman over the last couple of months in the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From reading some of the threads posted on the forums though in the previous few weeks i'd have to say its the men

actually, I would say it was woman over the last couple of months in the forum.

Haha you've been here a lot longer than me pal so I will take your word for it!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

actually, I would say it was woman over the last couple of months in the forum.

Agreed.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

From reading some of the threads posted on the forums though in the previous few weeks i'd have to say its the men

actually, I would say it was woman over the last couple of months in the forum.

Haha you've been here a lot longer than me pal so I will take your word for it!

you will find the reactions differ when a male posts to when a female does.

the female will get 'his fecking loss sweetie, you are too hot for him anyways.'..... and there is only a pic of a nipple on show.

the guy will get 'stop fecking moaning and it's not dial a shag'... ( albeit, sometimes appropriate )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From reading some of the threads posted on the forums though in the previous few weeks i'd have to say its the men

actually, I would say it was woman over the last couple of months in the forum.

Haha you've been here a lot longer than me pal so I will take your word for it!

you will find the reactions differ when a male posts to when a female does.

the female will get 'his fecking loss sweetie, you are too hot for him anyways.'..... and there is only a pic of a nipple on show.

the guy will get 'stop fecking moaning and it's not dial a shag'... ( albeit, sometimes appropriate )

Laughing here

Will bear that in mind when I start my moaning thread later tonight!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Move on, don't revert to shouting about it in the forums otherwise you only add to your problems.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

From reading some of the threads posted on the forums though in the previous few weeks i'd have to say its the men

actually, I would say it was woman over the last couple of months in the forum.

Haha you've been here a lot longer than me pal so I will take your word for it!

you will find the reactions differ when a male posts to when a female does.

the female will get 'his fecking loss sweetie, you are too hot for him anyways.'..... and there is only a pic of a nipple on show.

the guy will get 'stop fecking moaning and it's not dial a shag'... ( albeit, sometimes appropriate )

Don't forget the differences in how the post opens.

The guy will start moaning after a few weeks when they have been repeatedly being blocked, repeatedly ignored and repeatedly sent off hand messages.

Women tend to post after just once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't read this thread, I rejected it, and blocked it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"get the dummy spitters and tantrum throwers in ALL catigories ! its down to the indervidule/s who messages . some are very respectful and take your no at face value .others think more they go on that youll give up and just say "ok ill meet you " .then theres the negotiators ... dispite your clear prference they will ask "but why not" and "ahh but what if,... " tryng to convince you to meet em. oh and you cant forget my personal favourites the abusive and tantrum throwers ! they go from the "i am a respectful ..blah blah blah " to childish "well your too ugley anyway ect ect ".always makes me giggle how quick i can go from such a stunning creature to creature from the black lagoon pmsl ! none of the above and the domaine of just one group as ive said ,goes across all of them.

personally id not be so vaine or deluded to think id be irresistible to everyone on fab that id never get knocked back lol !! "

With all respect, that was difficult to read.

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By *lam rockerMan
over a year ago

Tain

life is surely too short to get upset that someone ignored you, deleted an email without reading it or didn't reply back. As you were all told when you were young, there are plenty more fish in the sea. Now, if you're a plankton, that's worrying, but shrug it off, dust yourself down and send a message to someone else less discerning (oops, did I mean 'more' discerning).

A site like this requires patience, an ability to have some banter and not be bothered about anyone ignoring you. Ladies on this site get inundated with lots of emails every day. Who has time to read them all? Luck, and a sense of humour are essential requisites for anyone on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think bit of both really, but in my dealings I have politely turned down meets with cpls/single fems to be told im a single man and should be greatful for any offers I get!

If im 'rejected' as you put it via message I always email back saying thanks for your reply, and all the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy who just msgd me saying if i didnt like him plz let him know.

Sorry but not my type and too far away, now im getting hastle aparently he is the best thing on here and my loss hahahahahahah i cant stop laughing. If your reading this mate get over yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit we did once get someone who messaged all our friends telling them the most horrendous vile things about us after we had politely declined to meet them .... very sad ..... lovely thing was we were bombarded with messages of support from our true fab friends x x

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