FabSwingers.com forum: BBW confidence...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I admire how confident some of the lovely BBWs are on here.

I'm fine with meeting and playing with people (I'd be on the wrong site if I wasn't lol) but I wouldn't dream of getting naked. The thought of someone seeing me naked (my stomach mainly) panics me.

Before anyone asks...I don't have sex fully dressed lol. I wear pretty lingerie and I am dieting.

Does anyone else feel this way? X

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes. I like to wear a basque so I can keep it over my tum. A few times I've gone completely naked. The guys I've been with have made me feel like my body is beautiful. Body confidence comes from within. You're beautiful OP x

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Yup

Exactly.

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

Having seen you in a club I can confirm that you look amazing and your insecurities are very common.

sub'r' was incredibly shy but she has mostly overcome that but she is still very self-conscious of her belly too.

I think it is always helpful to remember just how confident everyone actually is, especially as a single female attending clubs - that takes balls.

We all have our hang-ups but I am always in awe of the sexy BBW's that I see in clubs in the most incredible outfits.

Keep it up ladies,

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"Yes. I like to wear a basque so I can keep it over my tum. A few times I've gone completely naked. The guys I've been with have made me feel like my body is beautiful. Body confidence comes from within. You're beautiful OP x"

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

not at all ive never been body conscious even when i weighed 22 and half stone. I prefer to be naked. Im sure a guy who knows hes meeting a big girl isnt expecting a small girl to pop out when the clothes come off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate being naked even when I'm on my own. I wear lots of pretty lingerie and I make sure that most of it you can get to all the good bits without ta_ing it off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I feel the same but my man makes me feel sexy and makes me cum and squirt at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a lady with confidence sexy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you. That's very kind. You have legs to die for! X

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I was really insecure when I started out. But a number of factors, support and wor_ing on myself, means I now like what I see, more or less. And anyone who doesn't is welcome to take a flying leap.

It's not been an easy transition, but it's got to come from within.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Having seen you in a club I can confirm that you look amazing and your insecurities are very common.

sub'r' was incredibly shy but she has mostly overcome that but she is still very self-conscious of her belly too.

I think it is always helpful to remember just how confident everyone actually is, especially as a single female attending clubs - that takes balls.

We all have our hang-ups but I am always in awe of the sexy BBW's that I see in clubs in the most incredible outfits.

Keep it up ladies,"

Thank you for your kind words. Sub'r'always looks fab.

Please don't think that this is a post fishing for compliments. It's a genuine post for advice as to how other ladies overcame their insecurities x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I admire how confident some of the lovely BBWs are on here.

I'm fine with meeting and playing with people (I'd be on the wrong site if I wasn't lol) but I wouldn't dream of getting naked. The thought of someone seeing me naked (my stomach mainly) panics me.

Before anyone asks...I don't have sex fully dressed lol. I wear pretty lingerie and I am dieting.

Does anyone else feel this way? X

When he's tied up and blindfolded and I've got a whip in my hand the last thing on his mind is my wobbly bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are times when I feel amazing and other times a bit chunky. Defo a mind thing.

Heels and outfits for me.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Being naked feels nice. Worrying about being seen naked is a mood killer.

If he's gotten as far as wanting your clothes off he's probably not worrying about your figure

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hate being naked even when I'm on my own. I wear lots of pretty lingerie and I make sure that most of it you can get to all the good bits without ta_ing it off.

Snap lol x

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Nobody's perfect.

Anyone who thinks they are is delusional.

I'd bet plenty of the gym bunnies are more insecure and aware of the slightest perceived imperfection than anyone larger. Confidence comes in all shapes and sizes and there are plenty of people who are drawn more towards curvier figures, so embrace your curves and enjoy any meets you have without worrying about what the other person is thin_ing.

If you've met for a social, bumped into them in a club or sent them a few pics in advance of a meet i'm sure they're fully aware of what you look like.

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"Thank you for your kind words. Sub'r'always looks fab.

Please don't think that this is a post fishing for compliments. It's a genuine post for advice as to how other ladies overcame their insecurities x"
I don't doubt that but I had to say it as its true.

You have just put a huge smile on sub'r's face.

My job is to support her and to remind her of just how sexy she is as are all women.

Beauty is not how others see you true beauty is how you see yourself when you realise that you are sexy no matter how many curves you have.

I am a big believer that the more to try, experiment and face your fears the quicker you rise over them. I love seeing BBW's who comfortable with themselves and how they look, they are all amazing women.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Please don't think that this is a post fishing for compliments. It's a genuine post for advice as to how other ladies overcame their insecurities x"

That did not cross my mind at all.

The way I got over myself was to believe the men I meet and the ones that comment on the forums who say they prefer a happy naked woman to a worried half dressed one.

If a man is concerned about a woman fat bits he'll choose slim women. If he's with you it's because he's happy with what you are

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By *ingMan
over a year ago

liverpool

I love big women. I don't like wen a girl is not confident in her body. But I don't understand how society has made people feel so conscious of their body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I don't even think this is just a 'BBW' issue, I know women off all sizes that are sadly not confident in their bodies. Lumps and bumps, cellulite, stretch marks, bum too big, boobs too small, I know very few women that are truly content with their bodies. You look great and I hope the positive comments will help you see that sexy is as much a state of mind than anything else xx

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

I really must learn to proofread posts before hitting send

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love big women. I don't like wen a girl is not confident in her body. But I don't understand how society has made people feel so conscious of their body. "

Very well said x

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"I love big women. I don't like wen a girl is not confident in her body. But I don't understand how society has made people feel so conscious of their body. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nobody's perfect.

Anyone who thinks they are is delusional.

If you've met for a social, bumped into them in a club or sent them a few pics in advance of a meet i'm sure they're fully aware of what you look like.

It's on my profile and I always make sure they are aware that I'm a big girl. I always have done ever since meeting with someone at a hotel and them shutting the door in my face because I was too fat despite them seeing pictures and me telling them my size. X

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By *c69funCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

It's really sad how the media has turned people , especially women into thin_ing their bodies aren't good enough just because their not a stick insect.

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"It's on my profile and I always make sure they are aware that I'm a big girl. I always have done ever since meeting with someone at a hotel and them shutting the door in my face because I was too fat despite them seeing pictures and me telling them my size. X"
OMG, that is horrible but it was there loss not yours. The damage that did is probably one of the contributing factor to you insecurities. Some people need tal_ing to in braille.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be honest I don't even think this is just a 'BBW' issue, I know women off all sizes that are sadly not confident in their bodies. Lumps and bumps, cellulite, stretch marks, bum too big, boobs too small, I know very few women that are truly content with their bodies. You look great and I hope the positive comments will help you see that sexy is as much a state of mind than anything else xx"

Thank you. X

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

If you have a good heart,your a gorgeous person no matter what your size....i get insecure about my belly too,but i just put it to the back of my mind as if people look into your eyes they will see a good soul and that what matters...your gorgeous by the way..xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody's perfect.

Anyone who thinks they are is delusional.

If you've met for a social, bumped into them in a club or sent them a few pics in advance of a meet i'm sure they're fully aware of what you look like.

I do exactly the same thing.

Last year I went to a party for the first time ever and I was a single woman. The host had seen what I looked like because I sent photos, but when I got there I was in the kitchen tal_ing to him while he was getting me a drink and unsolicited he simply said just so you know I'm not going to play with you because I don't like fat girls but you might be very lucky and somebody might find you attractive tonight. Needless to say I left and burst into tears. It knocked my confidence big time.

But since then I've been to a few clubs and Iv now become a lot more confident.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An ex of mine would hide her tummy because of her stretch marks. I told her it didn’t bother me at all and those marks made her unique and I loved her all the more. But sadly she still found the need to hide her tummy.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My first few meets, I was completely unable to shave (long story, long since resolved). Seeing these great guys not even bat an eyelid at my hairy legs and black bushy underarms... so much of this stuff just doesn't matter. You connect with people, you enjoy their company. The aesthetics are icing on the cake.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I do exactly the same thing.

But since then I've been to a few clubs and Iv now become a lot more confident. "

That's horrendous. I get that big girls aren't to everyone's li_ing but to be so cold and hateful is totally unacceptable x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Nobody's perfect.

Anyone who thinks they are is delusional.

If you've met for a social, bumped into them in a club or sent them a few pics in advance of a meet i'm sure they're fully aware of what you look like.

I do exactly the same thing.

But since then I've been to a few clubs and Iv now become a lot more confident. "

Jesus some people.

That's ugly right there.

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

"Nobody's perfect.

Anyone who thinks they are is delusional.

If you've met for a social, bumped into them in a club or sent them a few pics in advance of a meet i'm sure they're fully aware of what you look like.

I do exactly the same thing.

But since then I've been to a few clubs and Iv now become a lot more confident. "

Cheeky bugger,somebody did similar to me....after sending pics,full body ones..went to the meet and he didnt even get out the car.... just messaged me and said...seen you and your not for me!!

Just inconsiderate..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just women who are body conscious

It is, however, more accepted that a woman might be body conscious than it is for a man

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

"Nobody's perfect.

Anyone who thinks they are is delusional.

If you've met for a social, bumped into them in a club or sent them a few pics in advance of a meet i'm sure they're fully aware of what you look like.

I am perfect!

The perfect weight for an aircraft carrier that is

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you have a good heart,your a gorgeous person no matter what your size....i get insecure about my belly too,but i just put it to the back of my mind as if people look into your eyes they will see a good soul and that what matters...your gorgeous by the way..xx"

Thank you. Im hoping one day I'll have the confidence to whip it all off anc bare all lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is perfect absolutely correct.

I take people as I find them. and I do get woman wishing to keep the belly covered, a few I've met actually asked me before hand if I was ok with this.

It's always ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not just women who are body conscious

It is, however, more accepted that a woman might be body conscious than it is for a man"

I totally understand that men can also be body-conscious, however women are more open to tal_ing about it I guess.

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

Thank you. Im hoping one day I'll have the confidence to whip it all off anc bare all lol x"

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I admire how confident some of the lovely BBWs are on here.

I'm fine with meeting and playing with people (I'd be on the wrong site if I wasn't lol) but I wouldn't dream of getting naked. The thought of someone seeing me naked (my stomach mainly) panics me.

Before anyone asks...I don't have sex fully dressed lol. I wear pretty lingerie and I am dieting.

Does anyone else feel this way? X

When he's tied up and blindfolded and I've got a whip in my hand the last thing on his mind is my wobbly bits

Yup. This.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nobody is perfect absolutely correct.

I take people as I find them. and I do get woman wishing to keep the belly covered, a few I've met actually asked me before hand if I was ok with this.

It's always ok"

I always let people know beforehand too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Bussy, it’s not only woman who are body conscious, I for one particularly am but I try not to show it, society tells us what we should look like in a perfect world but we don’t live in a perfect world, I love all different types of women’s body shapes. I happen to think you look gorgeous just how you are but you have to feel comfortable in your own skin

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By *issnwtyWoman
over a year ago

manchester

I agree I hate getting fully naked

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I am sure you will....it does take a little while but now i just think..i am me,im a good person with a good heart...so if they dont like what they see,they can bugger off...lol

Thank you. Im hoping one day I'll have the confidence to whip it all off anc bare all lol x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I admire how confident some of the lovely BBWs are on here.

I'm fine with meeting and playing with people (I'd be on the wrong site if I wasn't lol) but I wouldn't dream of getting naked. The thought of someone seeing me naked (my stomach mainly) panics me.

Before anyone asks...I don't have sex fully dressed lol. I wear pretty lingerie and I am dieting.

Does anyone else feel this way? X

I think you look amazing!

I never get naked and won't have any pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think you look amazing!

I never get naked and won't have any pics."

Thank you Doris. It's a rarity to see a remote picture not next to a penis lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If our eyes saw souls instead of bodies, how different our ideals of sexuality and beauty would be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly 4Len, there are a lot of people out there who are missing out on some real beauty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely adore bbws they are by far the most sexiest, I've only ever dated and went out with larger women and I'm not afraid to show public affection with a larger woman too, the last girlfriend she was quite large and sooo darn beautiful we went shopping one day and while waiting for a taxi to go home I cuddled her and snogged her for a Few minutes in front of everyone ... It's just a horrendous thing that todays society shames bigger women or men and make it out to be a bad thing .... It isn't.

There's nothing more sexier than a confident woman that accepts her body and has no fear of others views.

And yes you're beautiful OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to add that with the right partner I'm sure your confidence will build and you could go naked with them.

All about time and support isn't it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You guys really are amazing. I've wanted to post about this for a while but wasn't ready for the negative/hateful comments to which there have been absolutely none.

Thank you all for being so kind and open and to the other ladies and gents that also lack confidence, we will get there! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would like to add that with the right partner I'm sure your confidence will build and you could go naked with them.

All about time and support isn't it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nobody's perfect.

Anyone who thinks they are is delusional.

If you've met for a social, bumped into them in a club or sent them a few pics in advance of a meet i'm sure they're fully aware of what you look like.

I do exactly the same thing.

But since then I've been to a few clubs and Iv now become a lot more confident. "

That has completely dumbfounded me...what a complete ass! I bet you thought of a 100 suitable replies after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So lovely reading these replys.. and knowing I'm not the only one that thinks the way some of you do lol.

Bear adores me and my lumps bumps wobbles and the lot and tells me all the time how beautiful I am.. and I do believe him.. but I don't let it sink in..

Slowly my confidence is building(although it gets knocked down sometimes) and I've recently realised after many years.. that my big ass is very much liked lol.

You ladies are stunning. Always remember that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP i truly believe Sexy is an attitude and not a size.. we dont have to be for the taste of everyone as so not everyone is for ours too.

we are all different and all have our imperfections too, but definelty make the most of it.. Life is too short and don't let others intimidate you for it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loving all the positivity in this post. I am so conscious of my size and I'm very clear when chatting to guys and if I look at their veris and see a lot of smaller women given veris I usually steer clear.

But since I joined fab even with the knockbacks and nasty comments my confidence has grown. And any guy I have had fun with definitely has not wanted any part of my body hidden.

And knowing that other women have been coldly rejected even after been open about their size I know that the twat that did that to me is the one with the problem. I agreed to a coffee meet, with no interest in the guy but I thought sure why not maybe in person be different. He walked into coffee shop I stood up went to introduce myself. He looked me up and down, says "no thanks your definitely not for me", turned on his heels and left me in the middle of coffee shop.

It hurt and I had a good cry and been honest took me a few days to get over it. But at end of day he's a twat.

So ladies love every bit of yourself we are bloody worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys really really love a bit more chunk in the trunk so pleaaaase show it off more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I am pretty lucky really, I love naturism so happy being nude but obviously wish i was smaller but I don't actually have a hangup on being a large lady. I am on slimming world and lots of ill health has hampered me but I am getting there. Media makes us all aware of our sizes and can make us paranoid about being over sized but I like who I am and proud to bare all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you have a beautiful figure - be proud of it and show it off! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loving all the positivity in this post. I am so conscious of my size and I'm very clear when chatting to guys and if I look at their veris and see a lot of smaller women given veris I usually steer clear.

But since I joined fab even with the knockbacks and nasty comments my confidence has grown. And any guy I have had fun with definitely has not wanted any part of my body hidden.

It hurt and I had a good cry and been honest took me a few days to get over it. But at end of day he's a twat.

So ladies love every bit of yourself we are bloody worth it "

That’s appalling! How bloody dare he? Behaviour like that makes me so cross.

I do the same with veri’s and I also tell people if I think they’re out of my league. I used to be a lot bigger than I am now, but I’ve also put a few pounds back on from my lightest, which has made me huge in my head and my confidence has nose-dived. I agree it’s nice to read the encouraging and positive other comments here

Mrs F x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think in today's world people care less than ever about size and realize that being yourself is so more important. You should try it and maybe have a holiday in a naturist place and then you will see all shapes and sizes! Once you are naked in the hot sun you will get how liberating it is and you inner confidence will blossom. Your stunning so rip those clothes off and be free!!!!!!!

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

But since I joined fab even with the knockbacks and nasty comments my confidence has grown. And any guy I have had fun with definitely has not wanted any part of my body hidden.

It hurt and I had a good cry and been honest took me a few days to get over it. But at end of day he's a twat.

So ladies love every bit of yourself we are bloody worth it "

I am absolutely appalled! What a cunt!!!

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

"Nobody's perfect.

Anyone who thinks they are is delusional.

If you've met for a social, bumped into them in a club or sent them a few pics in advance of a meet i'm sure they're fully aware of what you look like.

I do exactly the same thing.

But since then I've been to a few clubs and Iv now become a lot more confident. "

WHAT?!?! Seriously, who the fuck do these men think they are??? I bet you wouldn’t have played with him!

They need a high five... in the face... with a chair!

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

Personally, I’m far from body beautiful. I have a lot of imperfections - I’m covered in stretch marks and I’ve most definitely got a Mummy tummy.

But, I think a lot of how you are perceived is about your own confidence. Hold that head up high and own it! Whilst lots of men do like slim women, there are just as men who prefer curvier women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I admire how confident some of the lovely BBWs are on here.

I'm fine with meeting and playing with people (I'd be on the wrong site if I wasn't lol) but I wouldn't dream of getting naked. The thought of someone seeing me naked (my stomach mainly) panics me.

Before anyone asks...I don't have sex fully dressed lol. I wear pretty lingerie and I am dieting.

Does anyone else feel this way? X

I feel exactly the same! Can be a real downer at times

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By *rGenuineMan
over a year ago

Purley

But you’re not a BBW so why even comment on this thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You guys really are amazing. I've wanted to post about this for a while but wasn't ready for the negative/hateful comments to which there have been absolutely none.

Thank you all for being so kind and open and to the other ladies and gents that also lack confidence, we will get there! Xx"

Hope you're feeling more positive.

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By *sm81Couple
over a year ago

warwickshire

I remember the first time we went to a club I didn't even get to my underwear and we just left as it was full of beautiful slim women, however since then I now quite happily walk around the club in my lingerie and my boobs seem to get a lot of attention! I'm learning to have confidence and believe that if I wasn't their cup of tea they wouldn't want to chat and play plus my husband loves my body x

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

But you’re not a BBW so why even comment on this thread?"

But you’re not a BBW either.....................

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you’re not a BBW so why even comment on this thread?

But you’re not a BBW either....................."

BBW or not everybody has a right to an opinion and everybody has body confidence issues. Nobody is excluded from any thread.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

But you’re not a BBW so why even comment on this thread?

But you’re not a BBW either.....................

BBW or not everybody has a right to an opinion and everybody has body confidence issues. Nobody is excluded from any thread. "

That was kinda my point.

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

This thread is a breath of fresh air on the Fab Forums, no knife fights, trolls under the bridge or muppets.

Ladies, it just goes to show you that you have lots of support and you are all beautiful. We all have our imperfections and over time with some support we can come to terms with them. Stay sexy and have fun.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

But you’re not a BBW so why even comment on this thread?"

A lot of women, regardless of shape or size, have body confidence issues. I think women should build each others confidence up. Does it matter what size I am or class myself as? I was offering words of support to the OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread is a breath of fresh air on the Fab Forums, no knife fights, trolls under the bridge or muppets.

totally agree lovely to see these types of posts

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiya, T S.

My wife is exactly the same, she hates her stomach.

At 53 she is trying to lose it but it's very difficult. Try to ignore the large haters, god knows we get them. There are people who really don't care about body shapes.

You are beautiful, young and have a lifetime to go. Don't waste it on hangups about your body, you are gorgeous as you are and don't let anyone tell you different. If they do, they're not worth your time and effort. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've told you before tattooed I'd have no problem holding your hand in public and being seen with you.

Stuff what others think. You go girl! Xx

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By *inxybWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Happiness blooms from within...feel beautiful, feel proud and enjoy every moment, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think in today's world people care less than ever about size and realize that being yourself is so more important. You should try it and maybe have a holiday in a naturist place and then you will see all shapes and sizes! Once you are naked in the hot sun you will get how liberating it is and you inner confidence will blossom. Your stunning so rip those clothes off and be free!!!!!!! "

So untrue, you cannot pick up a magazine or look at articles online where people are been snapped and the headline is such and such has let herself go, obviously she not wearing Spanx and isn't done up to the nines for a tv appearance etc.

And I see it in my niece and friends young girls the pressure on them to be a certain size and look and dress a certain way, it's actually frightening.

Try shopping for clothes a certain high Street brand used to have a pretty decent plus size selection, now lucky if there is more than 4 rails, was in their store in Belfast and the few rails they had were hidden at back of shop. Very disheartening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you’re not a BBW so why even comment on this thread?"

It’s a public forum, not an echo chamber, no one is excluded from any thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think this is just an issue that bbws have.

I know Boo get self conscious about how she looks sometimes.

But then again so do I. Dress down events are the worse kinds for me but sometimes just fa_ing it till you make it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a shame you feel uncomfortable being seen naked.

What if the guy loo_ing at you thought byou were utterly lush?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a shame you feel uncomfortable being seen naked.

What if the guy loo_ing at you thought byou were utterly lush?

For me I wouldn’t believe it even if he said it, so it would be irrelevant

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

But you’re not a BBW so why even comment on this thread?

This. Empowered women empower women!

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By *ugzbunny1Man
over a year ago

Swindon

OP, I'd agree with most of the posts on here...alot of women are self conscious on body image. I know it doesn't necessarily help to say that they shouldn't be but I'm in the band of those who love skin on skin and although a Basque is really sexy I do love to take them off if the woman is ok with it...many of us men appreciate a woman's body with curves and yes tummies lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But since I joined fab even with the knockbacks and nasty comments my confidence has grown. And any guy I have had fun with definitely has not wanted any part of my body hidden.

It hurt and I had a good cry and been honest took me a few days to get over it. But at end of day he's a twat.

So ladies love every bit of yourself we are bloody worth it "
all I can say is, it's his loss he doesn't know what he's missing X) some other bloke or lass gets to enjoy you instead.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It's a shame you feel uncomfortable being seen naked.

What if the guy loo_ing at you thought byou were utterly lush?

For me I wouldn’t believe it even if he said it, so it would be irrelevant "

Yeah, this one is often not about what men think.

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

I used to feel this way alot and occasionally still do sink back into this way of thin_ing. I do get naked though and have done for a few years and I think swinging made me more confident in my body. I remember the first club I went to, had a swimming pool and everyone was naked and I forced myself to get in naked. I've never looked back, I felt so free and sexy and I'm also a strong believer in fake it, till you make it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gorgeous girl - I know exactly how you feel, I’ve been going to clubs for about 4 years and it’s only in the last year I’ve had the confidence to dress down ( still stoc_ings and a baby doll, but but better than a towel)

Remember it’s rare to find a woman that’s totally happy with their body, even the ones we think are perfect.

I hate it when a hot guy messages saying he likes curves but all his pics are with much much slimmer ladies, makes me feel like he’s messaging because any holes a goal, I’ve had socials were you can see as as soon as I get out the car they aren’t happy, and yet I clearly state on my profile that I’m big assed, big boobed but I have the attitude to go with it, but like you it’s a massive dent to my confidence, you will find someone, one day, that you will find the confidence to be naked in front of, until then I send you lots of hugs, mwah xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all need to fake it til we make it with confidence.

I'm crap at confidence.

I have a horrible nude on my profile to show people exactly what they are getting. I hate it but it's honest.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think we all need to fake it til we make it with confidence.

I'm crap at confidence.

I have a horrible nude on my profile to show people exactly what they are getting. I hate it but it's honest. "

I took all sorts of (I thought) horrible nudes for my now FWB. Although I had to do the psychological work myself, he became (over months) a person I could believe when he told me that he wanted me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a shame lots of people are so self conscious especially girls, some men only fancy fit girls but most men not to bothered about appearance as long as a girl has a sexy mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love big girls, I’m not bothered by ‘so-called’ imperfections like stretch marks, cellulite, tummy fat etc. I actually find it quite sexy, and a turn on for me. I have found it disappointing when I’ve undressed a big girl with my eyes and used my imagination til the suspense is about to kill me, only to find when they eventually play they’ll refuse to get naked as that’s my ultimate fantasy, so we can have skin contact and feel eachothers bodies. Very sexy. I just hope that more larger women will find that when guys like me are after a play with them, we want them as they are naturally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a shame you feel uncomfortable being seen naked.

What if the guy loo_ing at you thought byou were utterly lush?

For me I wouldn’t believe it even if he said it, so it would be irrelevant "

I totally understand that.

My ex went from a size 12 to a 22 due to health reasons.

I used to tell her she was gorgeous, regardless of her size and I meant every word.

Still didn't change her view of herself and it ultimately caused the breakdown of our relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a shame you feel uncomfortable being seen naked.

What if the guy loo_ing at you thought byou were utterly lush?

For me I wouldn’t believe it even if he said it, so it would be irrelevant

I totally understand that.

My ex went from a size 12 to a 22 due to health reasons.

I used to tell her she was gorgeous, regardless of her size and I meant every word.

Still didn't change her view of herself and it ultimately caused the breakdown of our relationship.

the only mirror i have is a shaving one and i even hate loo_ing into that lol.

so i get what these ladies are say 100%

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

the only mirror i have is a shaving one and i even hate loo_ing into that lol.

so i get what these ladies are say 100%"

You look fab hun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the only mirror i have is a shaving one and i even hate loo_ing into that lol.

so i get what these ladies are say 100%

You look fab hun xx"

and so do you, from what i see your popular for being you!

dont change anything xx

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Sexy is as sexy does. Embrace it honey pie!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I used to but soon after joining clubs and going on alsorts of nights I soon realised no one honestly gives a fuck (well they do hug you know what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all about self confidence and having a good mental belief in yourself, only you can make you happy

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By *ottie 13Woman
over a year ago

Happy go lucky

As everyone has said no one is perfect but you'll be perfect to someone that's the point I have hang ups but I've learned to control them (well most days) and tbh I find the more time I spend naked the more I like what I see. Try it you might like it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If I could give you all a huge hug, I would. You've really opened my eyes at how accepting some people are. Thank you all so much xxx

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By *erby DomCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne(ish) and Chesterfield(ish)

"If I could give you all a huge hug, I would. You've really opened my eyes at how accepting some people are. Thank you all so much xxx"

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By *arly StagesCouple
over a year ago

Penwortham

Some fantastic supportive posts on here. I know Mrs E has certainly become more confident in herself since we joined and she received so many Fabs on her photos. Having previously been on here as a single fella, I can certainly see how it feels to be judged on size alone as I'm a short arse and the amount of profiles that specify guys over a certain height is pretty huge. Luckily I don't have short man syndrome!!

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By *hedevilwearspradaWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere nearby

A lot depends on the people you meet too. I always said I’d never get naked on a meet because I detest my body, and could only imagine others doing the same. Then earlier this year one guy I met, who knew how I felt, had me naked before I knew what was happening. Then after we had played, we just lay together and he stroked my tummy (which is the bit of me I hate the most). For the first few seconds I was terrified - that he would be repulsed, and that it would be the last I saw of him, but after a little while it felt amazing. That was a huge turning point for me, and I’ll be forever grateful to him for ma_ing me like it was ok to be me. The next time we met I was naked and blindfolded - something else I never thought I would do.

I’ve been lucky enough since then to meet some awesome people who have shown me that I can be sexy and turn a guy on, and I’ve had amazing totally unselfconscious sex. It’s a revelation! I’ve bought sexy undies and worn things I never would have worn before. One of the guys I see has got a killer body, the kind of guy that I would never ever in a million years have even replied to before, let alone met. But he makes me feel amazing!

Don’t get me wrong, things happen and I feel like shit, and like I’m not good enough, but the difference now is that feeling doesn’t linger the way it used to.

You are bloody beautiful OP, you just need to believe it yourself. Guys are lucky to meet you, not the other way round x

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