FabSwingers.com forum: Are there any couples here who don’t allow kissing?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Having just read through the ‘Sensual Kissing’ thread, it appears we’re at a massive disadvantage on this site when looking for other couples as this isn’t something we want to do.

We haven’t had much luck on here with couples. We put this down due to only wanting soft swap to begin with, until we were comfortable moving onto full swap. But even with full swap we still wouldn’t want to allow any kissing. We’d eventually be ok with everything else but anal, kissing and safe sex only.

Are there any other couples on here that don’t allow kissing? We’re asking as we’re beginning to think we’re out of our league now.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've read on here a few times that kissing is something couples like to keep for themselves, so you are not alone

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

How do you define soft swap? Would you allow penetration with toys or fingers ? Oral ? Or just fondling ?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

So long as it's discussed with potential playmates you may have less issues than you think.

Yes there will be those that see kissing as essential, but there will be others happy to refrain. There's plenty of 'soft swap' couples out there who meet both privately and in clubs.

Fab is full of all manner of folks. It's just a question of finding the right match.

Happy hunting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How do you define soft swap? Would you allow penetration with toys or fingers ? Oral ? Or just fondling ?"

We define it as oral for each other’s partners with fingers as the only penetration.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't kiss our casual sex partners passionately on the mouth. It's the way we play and we mention it on our profile.

Please never feel that you're out of your own or anybody else's league because of something you do or don't to. People for who kissing is essential do tend to sing its praises and tacitly imply by doing so that people who don't are in the wrong. We aren't, we just do things differently to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So long as it's discussed with potential playmates you may have less issues than you think.

Yes there will be those that see kissing as essential, but there will be others happy to refrain. There's plenty of 'soft swap' couples out there who meet both privately and in clubs.

Fab is full of all manner of folks. It's just a question of finding the right match.

Happy hunting.

Thanks, thats reassuring.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We don't kiss our casual sex partners passionately on the mouth. It's the way we play and we mention it on our profile.

Thanks. We seen you comments in the other thread and tried to private message you for advice on how you manage but out of your age range lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not alone - but this lifestyle is a lot about personal choice. If people don't want to kiss - cool. I wouldn't want to meet them though as a good sexy snog is half the fun! For me - I would feel like a bit of a prostitute if it was just sex. But once again, it comes down to personal choice. Like age ranges - I don't want to meet anyone I could have given birth to. But great sex doesn't have an age range. So it's personal.choice.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We don't kiss our casual sex partners passionately on the mouth. It's the way we play and we mention it on our profile.

Thanks. We seen you comments in the other thread and tried to private message you for advice on how you manage but out of your age range lol

Hi, there's nothing to manage really. We mention that we don't kiss our casual partners passionately, that we're soft swing and that we enjoy BDSM. Not one person has ever tried to kiss either of us. We aren't averse to an ordinary kiss on the mouth it's the full on French kissing we don't enjoy.

As far as we're concerned we're swinging in a way that's right for us. If that doesn't suit other people it just means we aren't compatible, nobody's lost anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't kiss our casual sex partners passionately on the mouth. It's the way we play and we mention it on our profile.

Thanks. We seen you comments in the other thread and tried to private message you for advice on how you manage but out of your age range lol

As far as we're concerned we're swinging in a way that's right for us. If that doesn't suit other people it just means we aren't compatible, nobody's lost anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been seeing a lady for 5 yrs we've never kissed on the lips yet so your not alone

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Admittedly we do like kissing, but we understand that's not everyone's cup of tea.

It's entirely up to you guys how you like to play, there are no written rules to this swinging malarkey as long as you both enjoy yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some cpls like you who don’t like kissing so there is hope . We are one of the cpls who won’t meet people who won’t kiss . Seems the kissing is special but shagging is ok a bit unbalanced . But we do respect your opinion and wish you luck in your search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We originally didn't do kissing but have relaxed that rule. Sasha isn't a fan and is yet to do it as she feels it's too intimate (but a cock in the mouth is fine). I personally find kissing is the one thing that guarantees a raging hard on and gives me a connection to the playmate although 'no kissing' certainly isn't a deal breaker.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We're OK with kissing the same sex along with some soft play. Kissing the opposite sex is restricted to a quick one on the lips.

As long as it's discussed before hand then it's all good. We had an awkward situation in a club whilst on holiday. A couple who were new to swinging joined us on a big bed whilst we were playing. The lady launched herself at Rob and tried to stick her tongue down his throat without so much as a hello. Things ended soon after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We talked about it at first, then realised that if we were going to do it it needed to be all or nothing to actually relax and enjoy properly. Each to their own though no judgement.

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By *x3anteexxCouple
over a year ago

NW Cheshire

We love the kissing side of it all especially Mrs (if the kiss gives her a tingle then bingo! Lol)

We fully understand that not all people are into it. We have a long time friendship with a couple who won't kiss but everytime we play it makes us want to snog them even more!!

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Defo in the "no kissing"(on lips, the ones on yer face) camp. So rest assured there are quite a few of the same ilk as yourselves.

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By *omesticated_VixenWoman
over a year ago

sw London

We have exactly the same rules as you, no kissing and no anal and safe sex. You are not alone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Knowing boundaries is a good thing and yes you might restrict the amount of interest you get but then you may get a better hit rate on meeting people once people know what's ok or not for you both.

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By *lay_withusCouple
over a year ago

north West

We have very few limits but top of them is no kissing. It has never been a problem in any of our meets and we have had the most epic of adventures with some wonderful people.

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Personally we love to kiss but if there is one thing we have learnt from our many years on here it is that no matter what you are looking for there will be others looking for the same. Keeping passionate kissing between own partners is one we have seen quite a lot so we cant see it being any kind of problem. We wouldn’t not meet a couple because they don’t kiss but may have to tell them to remind us if we look as though we are moving in for a snog lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strange, We will suck ya cock or lick ya fanny, but no lip touching.....I would find oral sex a bit more intimate than a snog tbh.

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I have to say that of all the meets I've had from here and there have been a lot the worst was a couple who did the no kissing thing. It simply seemed a bit empty and souless. Interestingly enough the male part of the couple contacted me a few days after our meet to ask if I could mail him privately about any other GBs were wanted without his wife knowing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a couple on here too. He kisses but I don't.

I've read numerous times in the forum that it's off-putting/ no kissing- no meet/ kissing is essential etc. However it has never hindered us meeting other couples.

We always mention it beforehand though.

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

Apart from my husband, it’s women only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi horny.couple.

We do not allow kissing either, we just feel that its to much of a romatic and intimate experience that we like to indulge in together. Thats not to say we dont agree with it. We are all on here here for our own reasons, you should stick to you boundries and belives otherwise it could jeopardize everything else moving forward. Everything else goes tho, well apart from anal lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your opinions.

I can see a few of you can’t understand why we’re happy to give other couples oral and them us but no kissing. We just feel there is more of a connection when kissing.

When meeting single males, this hasn’t been a problem. But then I guess that’s just cause they ain’t getting much luck anywhere else lol.

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By *reokinkMan
over a year ago

London

When I swung as a single male I avoided meeting couples privately that had a no kissing rule but would happily go with the flow in clubs.

Historically with a previous partner we were both ok with the other kissing other people as long as it wasn't for too long or passionate.

Fast forward to now and my current partner regards it as a big no no. For me it felt weird at first and I had to adapt. However, respecting each others boundaries naturally has to be the priority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single female, I just wouldnt be turned on enough to want sex if there is no kissing to set the scene.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Kissing or not kissing always divides opinion. It seems to be ok for the people on the pro kissing side of the argument to state their case in fairly emotive terms while emphasising that they would never meet non kissers. This thread has been mostly devoid of that.

It is just a case of differing preferences and requirements from a meet, nobody should feel that they're doing it wrong because they do it differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having just read through the ‘Sensual Kissing’ thread, it appears we’re at a massive disadvantage on this site when looking for other couples as this isn’t something we want to do.

Are there any other couples on here that don’t allow kissing? We’re asking as we’re beginning to think we’re out of our league now."

We kiss on meets but we don’t have much luck on here either.

There are so many tick boxes to tick for a meet. We’re looking for straight, full swap, slim(ish), non-smoking couples, reasonably local and reasonably educated. Just finding that is difficult on the site. If we added no kissing it would be even more difficult.

People who just want to shag others and aren’t looking for anything specific will get more meets because they have a bigger pool to choose from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Having just read through the ‘Sensual Kissing’ thread, it appears we’re at a massive disadvantage on this site when looking for other couples as this isn’t something we want to do.

Are there any other couples on here that don’t allow kissing? We’re asking as we’re beginning to think we’re out of our league now."

Sorry, don't even know you could get things started without kissing. But each to their own, good luck and don't give up just yet.

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By *ornymrandmrsMan
over a year ago

London

We dont kiss either, but we don't meet couples only bi males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit kissing is something personal between us two.

We are happy watching another couple kiss as it is personal and loving for them.

It seems to intrigue people as I can lick pussy, suck cock or lick cum off a lady but not keen on kissing others. But thats just me. Maybe I am strange but glad to say there are other lovely strange people out there

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I have to admit kissing is something personal between us two.

We are happy watching another couple kiss as it is personal and loving for them.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We didn't kiss others for years. Over time we realised that actually kissing was a massive part of sex for us and we felt that we were missing out.

However if you guys don't want to kiss others then there are loads out there that are happy to play under those circumstances.

Peeked at your profile and we don't think that the no kissing rule is your problem it's just the nature of the site. Have you thought about socials and club's? There is no substitute for meeting like minded people face to face.

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