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FWB or ONS. What do you prefer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It seems to be the case those are asking for FWB often never find the ‘time’ to meet again after the first meet.

Personally I think that the FWB is way more fun than ONS in the long run and this is what I’d choose every time.

I’d be interested in hearing what others on here prefer.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

F.U.N

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

P'raps I've been lucky so far. Only one has played and run away. All the rest have come back for more, so must be doing something right. Just age and experience I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"F.U.N"

Ha. I guess that’s a decent enough answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fwb. However, most messagers seem to want ons. It could be a full time job on here, lining up each next hook up. Who has time for that? Surely great sex requires a connection.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"F.U.N

Ha. I guess that’s a decent enough answer. "

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fwb for sure, much more satisfying than a one off

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Freya 1000. Can't answer you direct as TOO OLD. But yes. As I said age and experience counts 'cos the first time is really more of a "getting to know you". It gets progressively better from then on. At least for quite a long while. So FWB rather than ONS or FB anytime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWB not interested in ONS (once I actually worked out what it stood for )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fwb would be what I'm looking for x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Freya 1000. Can't answer you direct as TOO OLD. But yes. As I said age and experience counts 'cos the first time is really more of a "getting to know you". It gets progressively better from then on. At least for quite a long while. So FWB rather than ONS or FB anytime."

Why would you want to message here direct when you can reply and quote in a post on here? What's ons by the way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Freya 1000. Can't answer you direct as TOO OLD. But yes. As I said age and experience counts 'cos the first time is really more of a "getting to know you". It gets progressively better from then on. At least for quite a long while. So FWB rather than ONS or FB anytime.

Why would you want to message here direct when you can reply and quote in a post on here? What's ons by the way? "

I didn’t know either but i assume one

Night stand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here seeking a FAB (friend and benefits). However, if I don't see that guy again, it's due to the fact he didn't do it for me in bed.

Sorry to sound harsh but I don't see the point in having a friend and benefits, if you don't enjoy the sexual benefits.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Freya 1000. Can't answer you direct as TOO OLD. But yes. As I said age and experience counts 'cos the first time is really more of a "getting to know you". It gets progressively better from then on. At least for quite a long while. So FWB rather than ONS or FB anytime.

Why would you want to message here direct when you can reply and quote in a post on here? What's ons by the way?

I didn’t know either but i assume one

Night stand? "

That makes sense, I personally don't want any of them as I'm looking for a proper relationship now. Had previous bad experiences with fwb.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Freya 1000. Can't answer you direct as TOO OLD. But yes. As I said age and experience counts 'cos the first time is really more of a "getting to know you". It gets progressively better from then on. At least for quite a long while. So FWB rather than ONS or FB anytime."

Obviously she doesn't want you to answer her directly, then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So far all the comments have been along the same thinking as me. Has anyone had FWB go wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm here seeking a FAB (friend and benefits). However, if I don't see that guy again, it's due to the fact he didn't do it for me in bed.

Sorry to sound harsh but I don't see the point in having a friend and benefits, if you don't enjoy the sexual benefits. "

This answer. But lately I've taken to meeting just once and leaving it at that.

Seems to work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm here seeking a FAB (friend and benefits). However, if I don't see that guy again, it's due to the fact he didn'to it for me in bed.

Sorry to sound harsh but I don't see the point in having a friend and benefits, if you don't enjoy the sexual benefits. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far all the comments have been along the same thinking as me. Has anyone had FWB go wrong? "

Yes. See my comment above.

One guy threatened to have me hurt. Why? Because I didn't want to see him again. I didn't tell him why. Unlike him, I actually don't like hurting people I've met. So I kept my reasons to myself. Even though he ought to of guessed why considering how our meet went ! He eventually gave up pestering and left me alone.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Don't like the acronyms FWB FB and as for ONS no thank you. I need to know someone, understand them which means long term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far all the comments have been along the same thinking as me. Has anyone had FWB go wrong? "

Yes . They got more involved than me. Started speaking about settling down and having children. I broke it off, because I didn't feel the same way and it wasn't fair to continue. Understandably he chose to cut me out of his life completely. It was sad, but something I accepted for him to move on

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester


"So far all the comments have been along the same thinking as me. Has anyone had FWB go wrong? "

I ended up having a child with my Fwb....

Ooooooppppssssss.....we are no longer friends which is a bit crap as he found it awkward....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"So far all the comments have been along the same thinking as me. Has anyone had FWB go wrong? "

Several times.

1.arranged to meet, often got let down at the last minute, only met when he felt like it and then only for sex at mine

2.ended up as pretty much a relationship, met his parents etc, probably a rebound for him

3.suspect he was never truly single, he broke it off first then met a few times after, he then got married and wanted to continue meeting. Tried to let him down gently, ended up having to block him here and on all social media.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually meet people with the intention of it being a one time thing....

I thank them for a great time and never contact them again....

If they contact me again , we can become friends with benefits......

But I will never contact them first.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So far all the comments have been along the same thinking as me. Has anyone had FWB go wrong?

Yes . They got more involved than me. Started speaking about settling down and having children. I broke it off, because I didn't feel the same way and it wasn't fair to continue. Understandably he chose to cut me out of his life completely. It was sad, but something I accepted for him to move on "

That’s quite sad. I feel sorry for the lad but if you didn’t feel the same then you had to end it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So far all the comments have been along the same thinking as me. Has anyone had FWB go wrong?

Several times.

1.arranged to meet, often got let down at the last minute, only met when he felt like it and then only for sex at mine

2.ended up as pretty much a relationship, met his parents etc, probably a rebound for him

3.suspect he was never truly single, he broke it off first then met a few times after, he then got married and wanted to continue meeting. Tried to let him down gently, ended up having to block him here and on all social media. "

Have you had some that worked? Lol.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"So far all the comments have been along the same thinking as me. Has anyone had FWB go wrong?

Several times.

1.arranged to meet, often got let down at the last minute, only met when he felt like it and then only for sex at mine

2.ended up as pretty much a relationship, met his parents etc, probably a rebound for him

3.suspect he was never truly single, he broke it off first then met a few times after, he then got married and wanted to continue meeting. Tried to let him down gently, ended up having to block him here and on all social media.

Have you had some that worked? Lol. "

One. We both moved on. He's now a couple with my friend. I'm glad they got together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm here seeking a FAB (friend and benefits). However, if I don't see that guy again, it's due to the fact he didn't do it for me in bed.

Sorry to sound harsh but I don't see the point in having a friend and benefits, if you don't enjoy the sexual benefits. "

if person has not performed well what you were looking for so you need another one. So technically going for ONS until you meet the right guy. Some might be lucky in 1st meet other may have to go for more then 1.

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire


"Freya 1000. Can't answer you direct as TOO OLD. But yes. As I said age and experience counts 'cos the first time is really more of a "getting to know you". It gets progressively better from then on. At least for quite a long while. So FWB rather than ONS or FB anytime.

Why would you want to message here direct when you can reply and quote in a post on here? What's ons by the way?

I didn’t know either but i assume one

Night stand? "

No - Office of National Statistics. Mmmm - look at the data tables on that! Take me with your Excel pivot table baby!

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