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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

WIthout meaning to sound shallow we had both never liked the idea of a club as we feel we may be put off if people we don't find attractive insist on trying it on so to speak. We are however very open minded and don't want to make our mind up without giving it a go. What we would like to know is can we go and not play? Socialise and see if it's for us? Do we have to sit about in our underwear?

We're young horny and just want to experience all we can so just looking for some advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tried to PM you, I think I might have the info you need.

I am right at the other end of the country so clearly not trying a lame arsed excuse to wangle a meet.

If you message me I might be able to genuinely help you.

I am not going to write it up on the public forum

Robert X

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By *ath-N-DelCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow area

"WIthout meaning to sound shallow we had both never liked the idea of a club as we feel we may be put off if people we don't find attractive insist on trying it on so to speak. We are however very open minded and don't want to make our mind up without giving it a go. What we would like to know is can we go and not play? Socialise and see if it's for us? Do we have to sit about in our underwear?

We're young horny and just want to experience all we can so just looking for some advice. "

CJ's.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course you can go and not play in fact we know quite a few couples who love the clubs but never play

A lot of couples love just watching up being watched and we have never felt pressurised into doing anything we did not want to do

A lot of people enjoy clubs for the social aspect

We absolutely love the club scene as depending on the club I suppose it's always been a great night out for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgot to add that there are a lot of clubs that you don't need to get down to your undies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

see ur private mail box re scottish clubs....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check out the reviews second from the right menu above. No means No anywhere!

You never HAVE to play with anyone you don't want to... loads actually spend the whole night chatting then arrange a meet someplace else, other play with their own partners (pervs!) Some just march in and request an orderly queue.

What you wear depends on the club theme, sauna clubs obviously towels are the fashion statement, non sauna dress nice be a bit revealing or you will feel self concious as "over dressed" hen it's like a night out in a nice pub with benifits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The exiting thing is that you get different motives there. No-one is ever pushy, and we tend to go and not play. In fact, if we go looking to play we tend to bottle it, but if we go to just use the hottub and be pervy we find the pressure-free environment of the Townhouse actually spurs us on. Weird psychology hehe.xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The exiting thing is that you get different motives there. No-one is ever pushy, and we tend to go and not play. In fact, if we go looking to play we tend to bottle it, but if we go to just use the hottub and be pervy we find the pressure-free environment of the Townhouse actually spurs us on. Weird psychology hehe.xx"

Thinking of going to TH, do you know when it's busiest?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking of going to TH, do you know when it's busiest? "

Saturday nights.....

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By *edriderCouple
over a year ago

glasgow

we felt the same way before we went to a club(cjs) have been a few times now played some, havent others, there isnt any pressure at all and its always been fun, good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We may have to pluck up the curragh and take a wee trip to CJ's one night then

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By *landPeggyCouple
over a year ago

Holland !

"What we would like to know is can we go and not play? Socialise and see if it's for us? Do we have to sit about in our underwear?

Yes, yes, and your choice.

Clubs over here ( Holland ) are very user/newbie friendly, they, or one in particular, got us into swinging.

Free drinks, friendly bar environment, bubble baths etc etc

" It's better to regret something you have done than ..... "

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

Different clubs have different dress codes, but basically you will either wear towels, sexy evening wear, or some people go more daring.

Within the confines of the club rules its whatever you feel comfortable with really. Depending on where you go you will find some people attractive and obviously some you won't. Its pretty unlikely anyone is going to leap on you as such, and there is a massive social element to the clubs which you will probably find very enjoyable.

Even experienced couples can be very nervous about going to a club for their first time, so your questions and concerns are pretty common.

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