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"Happened to a male friend of mine ... messaging with a local couple, arranged a meet and turned up at their door at the time arranged to find two other males waiting. The couple opened the door, chose which man they wanted and said good bye to the other two!! Well they looked at each other and went to the pub for a pint and had a laugh about it. But really? How rude was that? Talk about making sure they didn't get let down!!! "  | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? " I think it can be. Depends whether you're a man with self respect and principles to allow it to happen. Judging by your reaction you are. 
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"Happened to a male friend of mine ... messaging with a local couple, arranged a meet and turned up at their door at the time arranged to find two other males waiting. The couple opened the door, chose which man they wanted and said good bye to the other two!! Well they looked at each other and went to the pub for a pint and had a laugh about it. But really? How rude was that? Talk about making sure they didn't get let down!!! "That's people for you | |||
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"Happened to a male friend of mine ... messaging with a local couple, arranged a meet and turned up at their door at the time arranged to find two other males waiting. The couple opened the door, chose which man they wanted and said good bye to the other two!! Well they looked at each other and went to the pub for a pint and had a laugh about it. But really? How rude was that? Talk about making sure they didn't get let down!!! "  That is cold. | |||
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"Men treat single women like this all the time" A more shiny model comes along . | |||
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"Men treat single women like this all the time" Or they fancy a night in with the Xbox haha!  | |||
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"All part of the fab life and life in general really, the world is becoming full of morons "Omg haven't heard that word in years ... brilliant | |||
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"Happened to a male friend of mine ... messaging with a local couple, arranged a meet and turned up at their door at the time arranged to find two other males waiting. The couple opened the door, chose which man they wanted and said good bye to the other two!! Well they looked at each other and went to the pub for a pint and had a laugh about it. But really? How rude was that? Talk about making sure they didn't get let down!!! " bad! Worse than my experience | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? " Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. " It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. " They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time." They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion. | |||
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"Men treat single women like this all the time" Depends on the type of men you and other women have been hanging around with. | |||
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"Men treat single women like this all the time" Ahh so that makes it ok then | |||
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"Happened to a male friend of mine ... messaging with a local couple, arranged a meet and turned up at their door at the time arranged to find two other males waiting. The couple opened the door, chose which man they wanted and said good bye to the other two!! Well they looked at each other and went to the pub for a pint and had a laugh about it. But really? How rude was that? Talk about making sure they didn't get let down!!! bad! Worse than my experience " Would have invited all three in and fucked them all    | |||
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"Men treat single women like this all the time A more shiny model comes along . "Apparently so! | |||
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"Men treat single women like this all the time Ahh so that makes it ok then "Far from it! It's the modern scourge of the Internet age. Everyone is dispensable. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion." And the regular 3am messages we get from single guys who have been asked not to message for a meet is almost daily, guaranteed at weekends is OK. but we don't cry about it and feel they wanted to use us. Of course they bloody did, this site is for people to use each other for mutual pleasure. Pretty much part of the definition of swinging. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion. And the regular 3am messages we get from single guys who have been asked not to message for a meet is almost daily, guaranteed at weekends is OK. but we don't cry about it and feel they wanted to use us. Of course they bloody did, this site is for people to use each other for mutual pleasure. Pretty much part of the definition of swinging. "I don't agree with that either. You haven't had a social with them or the intention of playing with them though. Yeah Swinging can still be done with mutual respect. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion. And the regular 3am messages we get from single guys who have been asked not to message for a meet is almost daily, guaranteed at weekends is OK. but we don't cry about it and feel they wanted to use us. Of course they bloody did, this site is for people to use each other for mutual pleasure. Pretty much part of the definition of swinging. I don't agree with that either.
You haven't had a social with them or the intention of playing with them though. Yeah Swinging can still be done with mutual respect. "So e of them we have, could be past club meets, people we've chatted to and said maybe in the future. There is no limit to the list of single guys that feel it's OK to message all day every day asking for sex. It just isn't something to cry about, especially publicly. It's a modern scourge. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion. And the regular 3am messages we get from single guys who have been asked not to message for a meet is almost daily, guaranteed at weekends is OK. but we don't cry about it and feel they wanted to use us. Of course they bloody did, this site is for people to use each other for mutual pleasure. Pretty much part of the definition of swinging. I don't agree with that either.
You haven't had a social with them or the intention of playing with them though. Yeah Swinging can still be done with mutual respect.
So e of them we have, could be past club meets, people we've chatted to and said maybe in the future. There is no limit to the list of single guys that feel it's OK to message all day every day asking for sex. It just isn't something to cry about, especially publicly. It's a modern scourge. "Yeah I personally wouldn't moan about it but I have empathy. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. " Ok, give me yr number. I might want to fuck yr wife around 2am | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . " You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion. | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion." I can’t argue with that reasoning . But I will say that although we no longer meet , whether that be fuck and go or otherwise , swinging has never meant much on a deeper level to us . It’s just a hobby that we enjoyed together . So our view may well differ from anyone who sees it as anything else . | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion. I can’t argue with that reasoning . But I will say that although we no longer meet , whether that be fuck and go or otherwise , swinging has never meant much on a deeper level to us . It’s just a hobby that we enjoyed together . So our view may well differ from anyone who sees it as anything else ." I can't believe that you ever treated people rudely in pursuit of your hobby though. | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion. I can’t argue with that reasoning . But I will say that although we no longer meet , whether that be fuck and go or otherwise , swinging has never meant much on a deeper level to us . It’s just a hobby that we enjoyed together . So our view may well differ from anyone who sees it as anything else . I can't believe that you ever treated people rudely in pursuit of your hobby though." Never once , we are very much of a mind that you do unto others as they would do unto you attitude , and it’s borne well for us . | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion. I can’t argue with that reasoning . But I will say that although we no longer meet , whether that be fuck and go or otherwise , swinging has never meant much on a deeper level to us . It’s just a hobby that we enjoyed together . So our view may well differ from anyone who sees it as anything else . I can't believe that you ever treated people rudely in pursuit of your hobby though. Never once , we are very much of a mind that you do unto others as they would do unto you attitude , and it’s borne well for us ." I think that's the difference. In all your documented adventures it always came across that enjoyment and fun for all involved was the main aim. I never got the sense that you used or disrespected any of your playmates. To me being third on the list in the middle of the night would make me feel like the booby prize | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion. I can’t argue with that reasoning . But I will say that although we no longer meet , whether that be fuck and go or otherwise , swinging has never meant much on a deeper level to us . It’s just a hobby that we enjoyed together . So our view may well differ from anyone who sees it as anything else . I can't believe that you ever treated people rudely in pursuit of your hobby though. Never once , we are very much of a mind that you do unto others as they would do unto you attitude , and it’s borne well for us . I think that's the difference. In all your documented adventures it always came across that enjoyment and fun for all involved was the main aim. I never got the sense that you used or disrespected any of your playmates. To me being third on the list in the middle of the night would make me feel like the booby prize" Some people just seem ignorant to that fact. It is the hierarchy of Swinging I guess. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? " There are some people that send you messages and you immediately know you don't want to be anywhere near them. I had a very rude and abrupt couple send me messages demanding I turned up at a particular time or place. I thanked them for the kind offer and declined. I treat people the way I want to be treated and have little time for people like that. Chalk it down to experience and move on. Better people out there. | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion. I can’t argue with that reasoning . But I will say that although we no longer meet , whether that be fuck and go or otherwise , swinging has never meant much on a deeper level to us . It’s just a hobby that we enjoyed together . So our view may well differ from anyone who sees it as anything else . I can't believe that you ever treated people rudely in pursuit of your hobby though. Never once , we are very much of a mind that you do unto others as they would do unto you attitude , and it’s borne well for us . I think that's the difference. In all your documented adventures it always came across that enjoyment and fun for all involved was the main aim. I never got the sense that you used or disrespected any of your playmates. To me being third on the list in the middle of the night would make me feel like the booby prize" I can see that , but , and here’s the thing . We have been sat in a lay by late at night , wondering where our next adventure will take us . And a message or a status will pop up and we are on our way . Whether we were the first or last choice , we didn’t care . If there was fun to be had we were there ! Life’s too short to be getting all upset over whether someone else sees you as a first choice or not . | |||
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" To me being third on the list in the middle of the night would make me feel like the booby prize Some people just seem ignorant to that fact. It is the hierarchy of Swinging I guess." In life too. I think we've all had that phone at 6pm on a Saturday "my plus one has dropped out, can you make a 7:30 black tie dinner?"  | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion. I can’t argue with that reasoning . But I will say that although we no longer meet , whether that be fuck and go or otherwise , swinging has never meant much on a deeper level to us . It’s just a hobby that we enjoyed together . So our view may well differ from anyone who sees it as anything else . I can't believe that you ever treated people rudely in pursuit of your hobby though. Never once , we are very much of a mind that you do unto others as they would do unto you attitude , and it’s borne well for us . I think that's the difference. In all your documented adventures it always came across that enjoyment and fun for all involved was the main aim. I never got the sense that you used or disrespected any of your playmates. To me being third on the list in the middle of the night would make me feel like the booby prize I can see that , but , and here’s the thing . We have been sat in a lay by late at night , wondering where our next adventure will take us . And a message or a status will pop up and we are on our way . Whether we were the first or last choice , we didn’t care . If there was fun to be had we were there ! Life’s too short to be getting all upset over whether someone else sees you as a first choice or not ." You make a good point. I suppose if I am someone's third choice I'd rather not know.  | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion. I can’t argue with that reasoning . But I will say that although we no longer meet , whether that be fuck and go or otherwise , swinging has never meant much on a deeper level to us . It’s just a hobby that we enjoyed together . So our view may well differ from anyone who sees it as anything else . I can't believe that you ever treated people rudely in pursuit of your hobby though. Never once , we are very much of a mind that you do unto others as they would do unto you attitude , and it’s borne well for us . I think that's the difference. In all your documented adventures it always came across that enjoyment and fun for all involved was the main aim. I never got the sense that you used or disrespected any of your playmates. To me being third on the list in the middle of the night would make me feel like the booby prize I can see that , but , and here’s the thing . We have been sat in a lay by late at night , wondering where our next adventure will take us . And a message or a status will pop up and we are on our way . Whether we were the first or last choice , we didn’t care . If there was fun to be had we were there ! Life’s too short to be getting all upset over whether someone else sees you as a first choice or not . You make a good point. I suppose if I am someone's third choice I'd rather not know. "That’s the spirit | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? " I don't see the problem - you were under no pressure to respond, And didn't... Many dream of a late night booty call lol | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? I don't see the problem - you were under no pressure to respond, And didn't... Many dream of a late night booty call lol" This is funny, people being insulted by a late night booty call... | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? I don't see the problem - you were under no pressure to respond, And didn't... Many dream of a late night booty call lol This is funny, people being insulted by a late night booty call..." I don't think it was the booty call it was being third choice that caused insult | |||
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"Happened to a male friend of mine ... messaging with a local couple, arranged a meet and turned up at their door at the time arranged to find two other males waiting. The couple opened the door, chose which man they wanted and said good bye to the other two!! Well they looked at each other and went to the pub for a pint and had a laugh about it. But really? How rude was that? Talk about making sure they didn't get let down!!! " That's horrendous! | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion. And the regular 3am messages we get from single guys who have been asked not to message for a meet is almost daily, guaranteed at weekends is OK. but we don't cry about it and feel they wanted to use us. Of course they bloody did, this site is for people to use each other for mutual pleasure. Pretty much part of the definition of swinging. "And this is exactly why I AM NOT a Swinger!! Disgusting attitude. Couples are right up there with single men for being that way. They can have each other.  | |||
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"You shouldn’t feel insulted.... it’s just sex... Never take it personal " Well it was a text out the blue, at 10 past midnight, expecting me to get dressed then drive the 12 miles to their place, only because they wete dtood up twice.. Thrice including me. Im feel insulted that they think i can be called upon like an emergency shag like theres a break the glass fire alarm type of emergency cocj setvice | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion. I can’t argue with that reasoning . But I will say that although we no longer meet , whether that be fuck and go or otherwise , swinging has never meant much on a deeper level to us . It’s just a hobby that we enjoyed together . So our view may well differ from anyone who sees it as anything else . I can't believe that you ever treated people rudely in pursuit of your hobby though. Never once , we are very much of a mind that you do unto others as they would do unto you attitude , and it’s borne well for us . I think that's the difference. In all your documented adventures it always came across that enjoyment and fun for all involved was the main aim. I never got the sense that you used or disrespected any of your playmates. To me being third on the list in the middle of the night would make me feel like thee booby prize"
Glos you've always come across as respectful to the people you met. No matter how many people you met. I think you both come across as a lovely couple.
If all swinging couples were like you (and Mr&MrsN), I would be proud to call myself a Swinger.
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"You shouldn’t feel insulted.... it’s just sex... Never take it personal Well it was a text out the blue, at 10 past midnight, expecting me to get dressed then drive the 12 miles to their place, only because they wete dtood up twice.. Thrice including me. Im feel insulted that they think i can be called upon like an emergency shag like theres a break the glass fire alarm type of emergency cocj setvice" Some people welcome sex, at any time or place in priority lists. Some don't. They possibly moved on to someone who didn't mind being further down the list. | |||
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"You shouldn’t feel insulted.... it’s just sex... Never take it personal Well it was a text out the blue, at 10 past midnight, expecting me to get dressed then drive the 12 miles to their place, only because they wete dtood up twice.. Thrice including me. Im feel insulted that they think i can be called upon like an emergency shag like theres a break the glass fire alarm type of emergency cocj setvice Some people welcome sex, at any time or place in priority lists. Some don't. They possibly moved on to someone who didn't mind being further down the list. " It is funny the abundant mindset these women + couples can have on here. It goes to a lot of their heads. If it was a single guy doing it he would be lambasted. | |||
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"If the op had been sat in his living room wondering whether he wanted to go to bed , or have a wank , and the text came , he may well have been tempted . The couple would have been horny and simply thought he was ok after the social , and since they had been let down , why not see if he fancied it . On this occasion he didn’t , so fair enough . Tat should be the end of it . Why it’s become what it seems to be on this thread is anyone’s guess . From guys thinking that because they aren’t the first choice it’s not on , couples thinking it’s rude , and so on ..... Maybe swinging isn’t for everyone , but as far as we are concerned , no one owes anyone anything , so if you’re horny and fancy a shag , you ask someone and see if they fancy one too . Jobs a good un . To whine publicly about not being the first choice won’t do anyone any favours at all , so I can’t see who serves to gain anything from this thread . You've mentioned recently that the fuck and go, pick them up and put them down side of swinging is no longer for you. Possibly it never was what the people commenting here wanted. I/we *do* feel it's rude to be contacted at the last minute as second or third option. The gain from this thread is that it identifies who's happy with one off, last minute sex and who isn't. Neither is wrong in my opinion. I can’t argue with that reasoning . But I will say that although we no longer meet , whether that be fuck and go or otherwise , swinging has never meant much on a deeper level to us . It’s just a hobby that we enjoyed together . So our view may well differ from anyone who sees it as anything else . I can't believe that you ever treated people rudely in pursuit of your hobby though. Never once , we are very much of a mind that you do unto others as they would do unto you attitude , and it’s borne well for us . I think that's the difference. In all your documented adventures it always came across that enjoyment and fun for all involved was the main aim. I never got the sense that you used or disrespected any of your playmates. To me being third on the list in the middle of the night would make me feel like the booby prize I can see that , but , and here’s the thing . We have been sat in a lay by late at night , wondering where our next adventure will take us . And a message or a status will pop up and we are on our way . Whether we were the first or last choice , we didn’t care . If there was fun to be had we were there ! Life’s too short to be getting all upset over whether someone else sees you as a first choice or not . You make a good point. I suppose if I am someone's third choice I'd rather not know. "Same here. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion. And the regular 3am messages we get from single guys who have been asked not to message for a meet is almost daily, guaranteed at weekends is OK. but we don't cry about it and feel they wanted to use us. Of course they bloody did, this site is for people to use each other for mutual pleasure. Pretty much part of the definition of swinging.
And this is exactly why I AM NOT a Swinger!! Disgusting attitude.
Couples are right up there with single men for being that way. They can have each other. ". So you’re here for the shits and giggles ?? | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. Ok, give me yr number. I might want to fuck yr wife around 2am "You're a, single guy, I'm sure you probably send creepy messages like that all the time. See the idea of fab is you don't need numbers or to respond to fools, so I won't anymore. | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion. And the regular 3am messages we get from single guys who have been asked not to message for a meet is almost daily, guaranteed at weekends is OK. but we don't cry about it and feel they wanted to use us. Of course they bloody did, this site is for people to use each other for mutual pleasure. Pretty much part of the definition of swinging.
And this is exactly why I AM NOT a Swinger!! Disgusting attitude.
Couples are right up there with single men for being that way. They can have each other. "Your posts do make me laugh, the most anti swinging person on a swinging site. What the hell are you doing here, just disapproving of people's lifestyles. Seriously, you joining this site is a joke. Your life must be so empty. | |||
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"You shouldn’t feel insulted.... it’s just sex... Never take it personal Well it was a text out the blue, at 10 past midnight, expecting me to get dressed then drive the 12 miles to their place, only because they wete dtood up twice.. Thrice including me. Im feel insulted that they think i can be called upon like an emergency shag like theres a break the glass fire alarm type of emergency cocj setvice Some people welcome sex, at any time or place in priority lists. Some don't. They possibly moved on to someone who didn't mind being further down the list. It is funny the abundant mindset these women + couples can have on here. It goes to a lot of their heads. If it was a single guy doing it he would be lambasted." | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion. And the regular 3am messages we get from single guys who have been asked not to message for a meet is almost daily, guaranteed at weekends is OK. but we don't cry about it and feel they wanted to use us. Of course they bloody did, this site is for people to use each other for mutual pleasure. Pretty much part of the definition of swinging.
And this is exactly why I AM NOT a Swinger!! Disgusting attitude.
Couples are right up there with single men for being that way. They can have each other.
Your posts do make me laugh, the most anti swinging person on a swinging site. What the hell are you doing here, just disapproving of people's lifestyles. Seriously, you joining this site is a joke. Your life must be so empty. "You should do some reading comprehension classes. | |||
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It is becoming common to be seen as a sexual commodity, yet as long as the people who want to use as one have been very clear about it, I do not see any problem with that. It is actually better that way.
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"To be honest, even though, in my opinion, it was rude, they have been totally honest about why they were texting you
It is becoming common to be seen as a sexual commodity, yet as long as the people who want to use as one have been very clear about it, I do not see any problem with that. It is actually better that way.
You empty your balls in a hole without leaving your soul. "Yes of all parties are OK with that approach of course that's fine. But even in the briefest of encounters I would still hope for a briefest glimpse or glimmer of their soul, or essence if you prefer. Otherwise to me it's not worth the effort | |||
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"To be honest, even though, in my opinion, it was rude, they have been totally honest about why they were texting you
It is becoming common to be seen as a sexual commodity, yet as long as the people who want to use as one have been very clear about it, I do not see any problem with that. It is actually better that way.
You empty your balls in a hole without leaving your soul. "But as a couple of people have acknowledged on the forums recently, you might not leave your soul but you take it with you a tiny bit tarnished. | |||
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"To be honest, even though, in my opinion, it was rude, they have been totally honest about why they were texting you
It is becoming common to be seen as a sexual commodity, yet as long as the people who want to use as one have been very clear about it, I do not see any problem with that. It is actually better that way.
You empty your balls in a hole without leaving your soul. "That's assuming you had a soul in the first place.. | |||
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"To be honest, even though, in my opinion, it was rude, they have been totally honest about why they were texting you
It is becoming common to be seen as a sexual commodity, yet as long as the people who want to use as one have been very clear about it, I do not see any problem with that. It is actually better that way.
You empty your balls in a hole without leaving your soul. "And surely that’s why people choose swinging over dating . What’s actually wrong with that if that’s what works ? Couples have the depth and soul with each other . I’ve said before that to us it’s just a hobby , but hopefully one which will please all parties . So why do singles swing ? Especially with couples . It’s clear from the off that a single playing with a couple isn’t going to get anything other than sexual satisfaction from the meet . He or she won’t get anything more as the couple have love and emotional support etc ... with each other , so yes , the single is there to act out a fantasy , or get off on whatever their three people enjoy , but it isn’t going to involve sharing ones soul . And that’s the crux of the issue with this thread . There are singles who see it for what it is , and couples primarily who don’t see the issue . I feel in the middle , I can see some would not want to be a stunt cock , and that’s cool . Don’t meet couples then ! ( ) Any couple meeting singles who do so when they are in love with each other will invariably offer nothing more than the opportunity to do as I’ve described here . Sure there will be insecure couples , and couples who’s relationship is not strong or are falling apart , and perhaps a single could snatch one party away , but that’s not swinging is it ?
So to sum up , if you’re single and looking for true meaning , soul , depth and so on , why look to play with a couple in the first place ? We have always looked at it like this , and had amazing fun with singles , perhaps because we all know the score . We have always seen swinging as superficial and just a small part of our relationship , and if at times that’s come across as heartless then that’s tough . But I can’t recall ever seeing anyone leave a play with us without a big smile on their face .
But I bet there’s many a guy who sat at home with a miserable face who didn’t turn up because he thought we were just an entitled couple who thought he was just a second or third choice stunt cock  | |||
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"To be honest, even though, in my opinion, it was rude, they have been totally honest about why they were texting you
It is becoming common to be seen as a sexual commodity, yet as long as the people who want to use as one have been very clear about it, I do not see any problem with that. It is actually better that way.
You empty your balls in a hole without leaving your soul.
And surely that’s why people choose swinging over dating . What’s actually wrong with that if that’s what works ?
Couples have the depth and soul with each other . I’ve said before that to us it’s just a hobby , but hopefully one which will please all parties .
So why do singles swing ? Especially with couples . It’s clear from the off that a single playing with a couple isn’t going to get anything other than sexual satisfaction from the meet . He or she won’t get anything more as the couple have love and emotional support etc ... with each other , so yes , the single is there to act out a fantasy , or get off on whatever their three people enjoy , but it isn’t going to involve sharing ones soul .
And that’s the crux of the issue with this thread . There are singles who see it for what it is , and couples primarily who don’t see the issue . I feel in the middle , I can see some would not want to be a stunt cock , and that’s cool . Don’t meet couples then ! ( ) Any couple meeting singles who do so when they are in love with each other will invariably offer nothing more than the opportunity to do as I’ve described here . Sure there will be insecure couples , and couples who’s relationship is not strong or are falling apart , and perhaps a single could snatch one party away , but that’s not swinging is it ?
So to sum up , if you’re single and looking for true meaning , soul , depth and so on , why look to play with a couple in the first place ? We have always looked at it like this , and had amazing fun with singles , perhaps because we all know the score . We have always seen swinging as superficial and just a small part of our relationship , and if at times that’s come across as heartless then that’s tough . But I can’t recall ever seeing anyone leave a play with us without a big smile on their face .
But I bet there’s many a guy who sat at home with a miserable face who didn’t turn up because he thought we were just an entitled couple who thought he was just a second or third choice stunt cock "great post | |||
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"To be honest, even though, in my opinion, it was rude, they have been totally honest about why they were texting you
It is becoming common to be seen as a sexual commodity, yet as long as the people who want to use as one have been very clear about it, I do not see any problem with that. It is actually better that way.
You empty your balls in a hole without leaving your soul.
And surely that’s why people choose swinging over dating . What’s actually wrong with that if that’s what works ?
Couples have the depth and soul with each other . I’ve said before that to us it’s just a hobby , but hopefully one which will please all parties .
So why do singles swing ? Especially with couples . It’s clear from the off that a single playing with a couple isn’t going to get anything other than sexual satisfaction from the meet . He or she won’t get anything more as the couple have love and emotional support etc ... with each other , so yes , the single is there to act out a fantasy , or get off on whatever their three people enjoy , but it isn’t going to involve sharing ones soul .
And that’s the crux of the issue with this thread . There are singles who see it for what it is , and couples primarily who don’t see the issue . I feel in the middle , I can see some would not want to be a stunt cock , and that’s cool . Don’t meet couples then ! ( ) Any couple meeting singles who do so when they are in love with each other will invariably offer nothing more than the opportunity to do as I’ve described here . Sure there will be insecure couples , and couples who’s relationship is not strong or are falling apart , and perhaps a single could snatch one party away , but that’s not swinging is it ?
So to sum up , if you’re single and looking for true meaning , soul , depth and so on , why look to play with a couple in the first place ? We have always looked at it like this , and had amazing fun with singles , perhaps because we all know the score . We have always seen swinging as superficial and just a small part of our relationship , and if at times that’s come across as heartless then that’s tough . But I can’t recall ever seeing anyone leave a play with us without a big smile on their face .
But I bet there’s many a guy who sat at home with a miserable face who didn’t turn up because he thought we were just an entitled couple who thought he was just a second or third choice stunt cock
great post"Everyone is different., there can be a stunt cock, but with a little regard to who your contacting out the blue at ten past midnight. If they pre notified me then ok, i wouldn't treat a couple or single woman like that. Would any of yous who disagree with me be honestly happy to do that? One reason i was insulted was i thought we had gained mutual respect and friendship | |||
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"To be honest, even though, in my opinion, it was rude, they have been totally honest about why they were texting you
It is becoming common to be seen as a sexual commodity, yet as long as the people who want to use as one have been very clear about it, I do not see any problem with that. It is actually better that way.
You empty your balls in a hole without leaving your soul.
And surely that’s why people choose swinging over dating . What’s actually wrong with that if that’s what works ?
Couples have the depth and soul with each other . I’ve said before that to us it’s just a hobby , but hopefully one which will please all parties .
So why do singles swing ? Especially with couples . It’s clear from the off that a single playing with a couple isn’t going to get anything other than sexual satisfaction from the meet . He or she won’t get anything more as the couple have love and emotional support etc ... with each other , so yes , the single is there to act out a fantasy , or get off on whatever their three people enjoy , but it isn’t going to involve sharing ones soul .
And that’s the crux of the issue with this thread . There are singles who see it for what it is , and couples primarily who don’t see the issue . I feel in the middle , I can see some would not want to be a stunt cock , and that’s cool . Don’t meet couples then ! ( ) Any couple meeting singles who do so when they are in love with each other will invariably offer nothing more than the opportunity to do as I’ve described here . Sure there will be insecure couples , and couples who’s relationship is not strong or are falling apart , and perhaps a single could snatch one party away , but that’s not swinging is it ?
So to sum up , if you’re single and looking for true meaning , soul , depth and so on , why look to play with a couple in the first place ? We have always looked at it like this , and had amazing fun with singles , perhaps because we all know the score . We have always seen swinging as superficial and just a small part of our relationship , and if at times that’s come across as heartless then that’s tough . But I can’t recall ever seeing anyone leave a play with us without a big smile on their face .
But I bet there’s many a guy who sat at home with a miserable face who didn’t turn up because he thought we were just an entitled couple who thought he was just a second or third choice stunt cock
great post
Everyone is different., there can be a stunt cock, but with a little regard to who your contacting out the blue at ten past midnight. If they pre notified me then ok, i wouldn't treat a couple or single woman like that.
Would any of yous who disagree with me be honestly happy to do that?
One reason i was insulted was i thought we had gained mutual respect and friendship "I would imagine the social was to determine whether or not there was a compatibility . The couple obviously thought you were ok as they contacted you . One social isn’t likely to gain mutual respect and friendship , and as I’ve pointed out , I don’t think all that is what they were looking for at ten past midnight . They wanted a booty call . Simple . The bug problem is that they told you that two others had let them down , maybe to explain why they were looking last minute .com as they were . I don’t know , but I do agree that it’s not a nice feeling if you look at it like that . However , they could have made the plans ages ago with the guys that let them down . So you weren’t necessarily third on their list . The fact that they felt comfortable in contacting you for a guaranteed session is a plus isn’t it ? | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion. And the regular 3am messages we get from single guys who have been asked not to message for a meet is almost daily, guaranteed at weekends is OK. but we don't cry about it and feel they wanted to use us. Of course they bloody did, this site is for people to use each other for mutual pleasure. Pretty much part of the definition of swinging.
And this is exactly why I AM NOT a Swinger!! Disgusting attitude.
Couples are right up there with single men for being that way. They can have each other.
Your posts do make me laugh, the most anti swinging person on a swinging site. What the hell are you doing here, just disapproving of people's lifestyles. Seriously, you joining this site is a joke. Your life must be so empty.
You should do some reading comprehension classes. "There is nothing wrong with my comprehension reading and I agree with him why are you here if you think swingers are disgusting???? You do realise this is a site for swingers don’t you? | |||
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"Happened to a male friend of mine ... messaging with a local couple, arranged a meet and turned up at their door at the time arranged to find two other males waiting. The couple opened the door, chose which man they wanted and said good bye to the other two!! Well they looked at each other and went to the pub for a pint and had a laugh about it. But really? How rude was that? Talk about making sure they didn't get let down!!! "  | |||
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"Been on a social meet with a couple and agreed to play sometime. So, anyway.. This morning at 00:10 hrs, i was woken by a text message. ( I usually turn off my phone) It's them asking me to their place, AFTER being stood up by not 1, but two meet arrangements last night and for the 1st time, felt freakin insulted. I never replied to the text and turned my phone off. Is it common to be a standby cock? A third option? Why the hell would you feel insulted. Quite entitled to say no or ignore them but you will never be anything important in their lives so just get over it. Ridiculous attitude. Same as the 30 messages a day we get, primarily from single guys, asking us to play, or really my wife, 24xhours a day. I don't go to bed hurt and insulted by it, although I would be annoyed if it had woken me up. It's the principle of it. If it's a gangbang arranged fair enough. Being a single guy doesn't mean you have to be at their beck and call. They didn't have any arrangements made with him though. They made an offer and he was entitled to say no. They didn't make any demands or tell him he wouldn't get another offer, just asked if he was free at that time. They had been flaked on twice. He was third choice and asked at short notice at a late time. It's not very respectful in my opinion. And the regular 3am messages we get from single guys who have been asked not to message for a meet is almost daily, guaranteed at weekends is OK. but we don't cry about it and feel they wanted to use us. Of course they bloody did, this site is for people to use each other for mutual pleasure. Pretty much part of the definition of swinging.
And this is exactly why I AM NOT a Swinger!! Disgusting attitude.
Couples are right up there with single men for being that way. They can have each other.
Your posts do make me laugh, the most anti swinging person on a swinging site. What the hell are you doing here, just disapproving of people's lifestyles. Seriously, you joining this site is a joke. Your life must be so empty.
You should do some reading comprehension classes.
There is nothing wrong with my comprehension reading and I agree with him why are you here if you think swingers are disgusting????
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"To be honest, even though, in my opinion, it was rude, they have been totally honest about why they were texting you
It is becoming common to be seen as a sexual commodity, yet as long as the people who want to use as one have been very clear about it, I do not see any problem with that. It is actually better that way.
You empty your balls in a hole without leaving your soul.
And surely that’s why people choose swinging over dating . What’s actually wrong with that if that’s what works ?
Couples have the depth and soul with each other . I’ve said before that to us it’s just a hobby , but hopefully one which will please all parties .
So why do singles swing ? Especially with couples . It’s clear from the off that a single playing with a couple isn’t going to get anything other than sexual satisfaction from the meet . He or she won’t get anything more as the couple have love and emotional support etc ... with each other , so yes , the single is there to act out a fantasy , or get off on whatever their three people enjoy , but it isn’t going to involve sharing ones soul .
And that’s the crux of the issue with this thread . There are singles who see it for what it is , and couples primarily who don’t see the issue . I feel in the middle , I can see some would not want to be a stunt cock , and that’s cool . Don’t meet couples then ! ( ) Any couple meeting singles who do so when they are in love with each other will invariably offer nothing more than the opportunity to do as I’ve described here . Sure there will be insecure couples , and couples who’s relationship is not strong or are falling apart , and perhaps a single could snatch one party away , but that’s not swinging is it ?
So to sum up , if you’re single and looking for true meaning , soul , depth and so on , why look to play with a couple in the first place ? We have always looked at it like this , and had amazing fun with singles , perhaps because we all know the score . We have always seen swinging as superficial and just a small part of our relationship , and if at times that’s come across as heartless then that’s tough . But I can’t recall ever seeing anyone leave a play with us without a big smile on their face .
But I bet there’s many a guy who sat at home with a miserable face who didn’t turn up because he thought we were just an entitled couple who thought he was just a second or third choice stunt cock
great post
Everyone is different., there can be a stunt cock, but with a little regard to who your contacting out the blue at ten past midnight. If they pre notified me then ok, i wouldn't treat a couple or single woman like that.
Would any of yous who disagree with me be honestly happy to do that?
One reason i was insulted was i thought we had gained mutual respect and friendship
I would imagine the social was to determine whether or not there was a compatibility . The couple obviously thought you were ok as they contacted you . One social isn’t likely to gain mutual respect and friendship , and as I’ve pointed out , I don’t think all that is what they were looking for at ten past midnight . They wanted a booty call . Simple .
The bug problem is that they told you that two others had let them down , maybe to explain why they were looking last minute .com as they were . I don’t know , but I do agree that it’s not a nice feeling if you look at it like that . However , they could have made the plans ages ago with the guys that let them down . So you weren’t necessarily third on their list . The fact that they felt comfortable in contacting you for a guaranteed session is a plus isn’t it ? "The soul bit was just for the rhyme btw | |||
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"To be honest, even though, in my opinion, it was rude, they have been totally honest about why they were texting you
It is becoming common to be seen as a sexual commodity, yet as long as the people who want to use as one have been very clear about it, I do not see any problem with that. It is actually better that way.
You empty your balls in a hole without leaving your soul.
And surely that’s why people choose swinging over dating . What’s actually wrong with that if that’s what works ?
Couples have the depth and soul with each other . I’ve said before that to us it’s just a hobby , but hopefully one which will please all parties .
So why do singles swing ? Especially with couples . It’s clear from the off that a single playing with a couple isn’t going to get anything other than sexual satisfaction from the meet . He or she won’t get anything more as the couple have love and emotional support etc ... with each other , so yes , the single is there to act out a fantasy , or get off on whatever their three people enjoy , but it isn’t going to involve sharing ones soul .
And that’s the crux of the issue with this thread . There are singles who see it for what it is , and couples primarily who don’t see the issue . I feel in the middle , I can see some would not want to be a stunt cock , and that’s cool . Don’t meet couples then ! ( ) Any couple meeting singles who do so when they are in love with each other will invariably offer nothing more than the opportunity to do as I’ve described here . Sure there will be insecure couples , and couples who’s relationship is not strong or are falling apart , and perhaps a single could snatch one party away , but that’s not swinging is it ?
So to sum up , if you’re single and looking for true meaning , soul , depth and so on , why look to play with a couple in the first place ? We have always looked at it like this , and had amazing fun with singles , perhaps because we all know the score . We have always seen swinging as superficial and just a small part of our relationship , and if at times that’s come across as heartless then that’s tough . But I can’t recall ever seeing anyone leave a play with us without a big smile on their face .
But I bet there’s many a guy who sat at home with a miserable face who didn’t turn up because he thought we were just an entitled couple who thought he was just a second or third choice stunt cock
great post
Everyone is different., there can be a stunt cock, but with a little regard to who your contacting out the blue at ten past midnight. If they pre notified me then ok, i wouldn't treat a couple or single woman like that.
Would any of yous who disagree with me be honestly happy to do that?
One reason i was insulted was i thought we had gained mutual respect and friendship
I would imagine the social was to determine whether or not there was a compatibility . The couple obviously thought you were ok as they contacted you . One social isn’t likely to gain mutual respect and friendship , and as I’ve pointed out , I don’t think all that is what they were looking for at ten past midnight . They wanted a booty call . Simple .
The bug problem is that they told you that two others had let them down , maybe to explain why they were looking last minute .com as they were . I don’t know , but I do agree that it’s not a nice feeling if you look at it like that . However , they could have made the plans ages ago with the guys that let them down . So you weren’t necessarily third on their list . The fact that they felt comfortable in contacting you for a guaranteed session is a plus isn’t it ?
The soul bit was just for the rhyme btw "Aww you've gone and spoilt it now  | |||
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