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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbers

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By *allSteveMan
over a year ago

Poole


"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbers"

Usual fab behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares, you'll never know why they blocked you so don't waste a moment longer worrying about someone you'll never meet. Personally, if you're going to block you may as well say no thanks before but many don't.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

From the many previous threads on this subject it would appear a polite no thanks gets followed by by a stream of abuse so many just delete and block.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I only have three people on my block list - and I received multiple messages from them before I got round to blocking them. So I’ve no idea.

Buuuut...is it worse than them not messaging back randomly? At least this way you know straight up that it’s not going to happen.

Tough though, dude, I’m sorry *hugs*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"From the many previous threads on this subject it would appear a polite no thanks gets followed by by a stream of abuse so many just delete and block."

I am sure this does happen but if you are being polite why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbers"
did you send a pic at the point they deleted you? That's usually a crux point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From the many previous threads on this subject it would appear a polite no thanks gets followed by by a stream of abuse so many just delete and block.

I am sure this does happen but if you are being polite why? "

They are all polite until they get turned down

Not saying you would turn but many do

Sometimes it's just easier to block if you're not in the mood for an argument

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

When I do it, it's because red flags (including polite ones) have been raised and my attempts to push back and set boundaries have been ignored. But when that happens I usually send a final message explaining before I block. But block I do, because I don't fancy abuse.

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By *ug247Man
over a year ago

Near You

Could not agree more, it’s the complete random ones who are asking you all about you meeting them. Then boom blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I do it, it's because red flags (including polite ones) have been raised and my attempts to push back and set boundaries have been ignored. But when that happens I usually send a final message explaining before I block. But block I do, because I don't fancy abuse. "

Well that’s nice to know that at least you do give the reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbersdid you send a pic at the point they deleted you? That's usually a crux point "

Yep and we were still exchanging notes .. odd

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"When I do it, it's because red flags (including polite ones) have been raised and my attempts to push back and set boundaries have been ignored. But when that happens I usually send a final message explaining before I block. But block I do, because I don't fancy abuse.

Well that’s nice to know that at least you do give the reason "

I doubt the messages are well received.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Simple, they are not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbersdid you send a pic at the point they deleted you? That's usually a crux point

Yep and we were still exchanging notes .. odd "
they perhaps didn’t want to be rude and say they didn't fancy you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbersdid you send a pic at the point they deleted you? That's usually a crux point

Yep and we were still exchanging notes .. odd "

They obviously weren't attracted after face pic

It's actually really hard to say nicely that you aren't attracted to their face

Especially if conversation has been quite meet based

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbers"

his mum confiscated the wifi hub ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why oh why does this happen ... you are mailing each other and being polite and courteous, then they don’t reply and block you .. why is this .. surely if they do not wish to meet a polite no is all that is required .. some people seem so rude ... answers on a post card fabbers"

I agree with you. Unasked for messages are entitled to be ignored. Ignoring them is saying your not interested.

However when you choose to start responding to the messages if you later decide its going nowhere have the decency of saying so and why.

I have ended communication for various reasons but I always sent a message saying I am not continuing further and said why. Then I block to avoid any argument about it.....but they knew why so they had closure.

I don't think people should be left wondering what they did wrong or what changed. The longer the communication goes on the more you deserve the closure.

People who don't want to say why are cowards and your better off without them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s because some people have no intention of meeting just here to pass the time, then meet when it suits them. Which their choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't waste energies on anyone's odd behaviour on fab .....par for the course and not worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See it as a lucky escape. No-one wants to meet rude people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Bbwchick!

Unfortunately not everyone has standards and the decency to let people know. People have done it to me despite them initially contracting me and more than happy to meet after seeing my photos, then nothing. You can be polite as you want unfortunately it is very seldom reciprocated! Hence my block list is very big!

Sure a lot just get off on messing guys around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well said Bbwchick!

Unfortunately not everyone has standards and the decency to let people know. People have done it to me despite them initially contracting me and more than happy to meet after seeing my photos, then nothing. You can be polite as you want unfortunately it is very seldom reciprocated! Hence my block list is very big!

Sure a lot just get off on messing guys around."

Honestly I'm guilty of doing exactly what the poster is saying

It's easy to say 'not for me' to a profile with all the info and face/body pics already there

But when you realise you don't fancy them after nice chat and a face pic and they are lovely how do you even tell someone that without being hurtful?

Maybe it's the cowards way out but seems better than saying specifically their face turned you off ?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Well said Bbwchick!

Unfortunately not everyone has standards and the decency to let people know. People have done it to me despite them initially contracting me and more than happy to meet after seeing my photos, then nothing. You can be polite as you want unfortunately it is very seldom reciprocated! Hence my block list is very big!

Sure a lot just get off on messing guys around.

Honestly I'm guilty of doing exactly what the poster is saying

It's easy to say 'not for me' to a profile with all the info and face/body pics already there

But when you realise you don't fancy them after nice chat and a face pic and they are lovely how do you even tell someone that without being hurtful?

Maybe it's the cowards way out but seems better than saying specifically their face turned you off ?"
Ask for face pics in the first message. It's simple.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"From the many previous threads on this subject it would appear a polite no thanks gets followed by by a stream of abuse so many just delete and block."

Yep I got that yesterday. Blocked me because I declined a friend invite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well said Bbwchick!

Unfortunately not everyone has standards and the decency to let people know. People have done it to me despite them initially contracting me and more than happy to meet after seeing my photos, then nothing. You can be polite as you want unfortunately it is very seldom reciprocated! Hence my block list is very big!

Sure a lot just get off on messing guys around.

Honestly I'm guilty of doing exactly what the poster is saying

It's easy to say 'not for me' to a profile with all the info and face/body pics already there

But when you realise you don't fancy them after nice chat and a face pic and they are lovely how do you even tell someone that without being hurtful?

Maybe it's the cowards way out but seems better than saying specifically their face turned you off ?"

You look really great but not what I'm looking for sorry. X

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"See it as a lucky escape. No-one wants to meet rude people. "

Exactly this

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By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London


"When I do it, it's because red flags (including polite ones) have been raised and my attempts to push back and set boundaries have been ignored. But when that happens I usually send a final message explaining before I block. But block I do, because I don't fancy abuse. "

This

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By *igtoyMan
over a year ago

Sexytown

Fake profiles or timewasters. No brainer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a female block me after chatting even after pics were exchanged and everything was going well or so I thought.

I then bumped into her in a club and she wanted to have some fun with me, even though she was stunning I politely told her I was not her type!

She looked confused, so I told her she had blocked me on here and walked off!

Felt really good! Don’t think she was used to being turned down!

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

We block people who were not interested in or just think there time wasters, blocked many a single women after sending a few mails bk and forth, then they don't even read your message for a week, just block, it's pretty obvious there here for the attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprised couples get messed around by single fems! Thought it was just us guys

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Thought it was "manners maketh the man"

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

I wouldn't worry about it Op, life is to short.

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