FabSwingers.com forum: Do you buy anything for the person your meeting?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?

Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something..

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?

Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."

Ooooh I hope so! I’m collecting Manola Blahniks right now, have one pair already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?

Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."

Never received any gift whether I meet someone with hubby or alone

I now feel a bit short-changed! X

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you give someone a gift wouldn't it make them feel like a prostitute ?

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Not directly but have to fill the tank if travelling to meet them

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

If we are planning an over night meet, and you want to bring a bottle of wine, cool. Or chocolate for energy.

Anything more, and I'd be a bit uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you give someone a gift wouldn't it make them feel like a prostitute ?"

A little, but if it was a pair of Jimmy Choo's I would ignore that feeling

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I was once brought a huge bunch of flowers by a guy on a different site and it was a social. I felt it inappropriate so took them to a cemetery and placed them on a grave of a young man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think someone might be taking advantage of your good nature or winding you up . If you are going for a meet at their home then perhaps a bottle of wine would be a nice gesture .. Just like if you were visiting vanilla friends.

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales

I don’t think you should buy a gift at all, like a poster further up said, a bottle of wine is a nice touch if it’s an evening meet, or a little bunch of flowers is quite cute but no more x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you give someone a gift wouldn't it make them feel like a prostitute ?

A little, but if it was a pair of Jimmy Choo's I would ignore that feeling

Lol. But seriously their is people out their that lets say 'spoil' their regular meet. Yes it to some probably feels degrading or like an escort but at the same time your probably wanting it anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?

Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."

No, you're not buying their love. Where art ones balls my good sir?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I've had people bring wine to share, chocolate, and pizza, top guys

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?

Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."

God no its most certainly not common!

If you have people from the site asking for expensive things in return for sex then your being used and you should report them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything more than a bottle of wine would freak me out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Btw im not talking on a 1st meet. Regular meets. So you know this person fairly well and are fully comfortable with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had flowers bought for me and chocolates.

Quite unexpected. If they had known me better they would know I'd prefer a potted plant than cut flowers

Pair of heels seems extreme gift for meet.

Although I've had pair of shoes from a foot fetishist we went to charity shops and picked a pair for him to enjoy on my feet. Was a lot of fun and they didn't even cost a fiver.

Many offers to bring bottles of wine. Sadly can't drink it

Gifts aren't necessary if someone demands a gift then it's not a gift.

If you want to gift that's up to you its the thought that counts not the price tag

If she likes sex toys find something you could both enjoy on a meet. A bullet to use on her, vibrating cockring, etc and they don't break the bank. Add spice to a play meet

Fun for both

I also recommend the durex intense condoms if they aren't allergic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people don't like it or want it because it makes them feel like the gift is an exchange for sex.

I personally wouldn't see it that way if it was someone I'd been talking to for a while, or had spoken to a lot. Sometimes it's nice to do things for other people.

I'm not sure I'd like to be bought shoes or something like that, it would more than likely make me feel as though I was expected to wear them for the person who bought them, like a trophy perhaps. However a box of chocolates or a bottle of wine I just think is a nice touch, a show of appreciation. It's definitely not something I would expect though, and a lot would be determined through the type of meet arranged. Example, if a gangbang had been organised and a guy turned up with a bottle of wine, my brain would be thinking "cheers for letting me use your chuff love, here's a bottle of red", however if an evening of drinks and getting to know one another was planned I'd have a different mindset about it.

If it was someone I considered a friend I'd have no issue at all with gifts being exchanged, as I think it's just being thoughtful, but in no way necessary.

P x

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

if someone is coming to my home then a bottle of wine is a nice touch but I don't ask nor expect it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If we're going to someone's house we take wine and chocolates as we would in any social situation. If a guy turned up with a gift just for me I would feel uncomfortable. I am equally involved in our meets and don't want or need gifts.

I also don't want to be "spoiled". It's got nothing to do with being a gentleman or showing respect in my opinion, this is 2018 not 1918.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Btw im not talking on a 1st meet. Regular meets. So you know this person fairly well and are fully comfortable with them."

Gin & my bag of toys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm treating them with my penis, that's enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?

Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."
diamonds always it's a prerequisite of meeting

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By *ohn snowMan
over a year ago

bletchley

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dinner

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

I've bought alcohol, lingerie and sex toys but only for Women I've met before and class as friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they get the fuck of there life no girt compares to that

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By *osmosgirlWoman
over a year ago

Wetherby

I was treated to a bag of quavers once.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?

Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something..diamonds always it's a prerequisite of meeting "

Remember that for our meeting sexy.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?

Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something..diamonds always it's a prerequisite of meeting

Remember that for our meeting sexy....."
omg and it's too late to delete it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you end as more a friend with added sexual benefits then I don't see why buying your friend flowers or a drink is seen as an issue. It's certainly not prostitution!

I became very good friend with my past friend and benefits. I wasn't driving back then. One day I was stuck with my shopping and no taxi in sight! He offered to pick me up and drive me home. Then we went out for drinks. You know, just like any ordinary friend does for their friend.

On his way to work, he used to pop in for morning sex lol. We had the best of both worlds.

Why can't folk find and establish friendship from a site like this without being viewed as prostitution?

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

No, never bought anything for a playmate - and it's never been expected from anyone I've played with...

....I've had the occasional 'hint' in messages over the years with a suggestion that I might like to buy them some lingerie to wear - at which point I've hit 'delete'...

....I have, however, had a couple of husbands buy their wives lingerie or shoes for us to 'christen'!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Jelly Babies are the only things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you end as more a friend with added sexual benefits then I don't see why buying your friend flowers or a drink is seen as an issue. It's certainly not prostitution!

On his way to work, he used to pop in for morning sex lol. We had the best of both worlds.

Why can't folk find and establish friendship from a site like this without being viewed as prostitution? "
yes, why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm going to someones home for a meet I'd take a nice(ish) bottle of wine around.

Lee x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Porsche Boxster please no pressure lol

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Porsche Boxster please no pressure lol

What colour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Porsche Boxster please no pressure lol

Rinser!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had to be red to match those lush lips of yours and fiery attitude xxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you end as more a friend with added sexual benefits then I don't see why buying your friend flowers or a drink is seen as an issue. It's certainly not prostitution!

On his way to work, he used to pop in for morning sex lol. We had the best of both worlds.

Why can't folk find and establish friendship from a site like this without being viewed as prostitution? "

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Had to be red to match those lush lips of yours and fiery attitude xxxxxxxxx"

Red it is.....I’m ordering it as we speak!

Fiery? Cheeky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmm look forward to receiving it miss sexy lips .

I’m naughty but nice you should know that by now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good company a laugh connection is the best present you can give

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah a box of chocolates to share obviously. Sharing is caring, but if the person does not enjoy sharing... you know the greedy ones than take two boxes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think someone may have been teasing you, how would you know they would fit or even like heels. Now if we're talking a good sturdy pair of new wellies....

Token food gifts are always appreciated though I think. Its just fuel for the activities ahead really

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Treat to a pair of heels... errr, no Op. But like posters above, if I view them as friends then it's a bit different. I'd buy them little gifts etc like I would anyone in the vanilla world I liked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think someone may have been teasing you, how would you know they would fit or even like heels. Now if we're talking a good sturdy pair of new wellies....

Token food gifts are always appreciated though I think. Its just fuel for the activities ahead really

Finally someone understands my thought process. Fuel for the activities ahead! Nothing wrong with that. Be kind to one another and enjoy food amongst other activities as Autumn has nicely said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to be a sugar daddy yes if not a bottle of something would be a gd gesture to take for a meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had guys occasionally buy me panties and I find that very sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take a nice bottle of something to share

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Cake, chocolate, biscuits, sweets, something energising for that half way through period to share and slowly start things back off again.

That and your own unopened preference on condoms if you have a preference.

But it’s a mutual experience. A gift is unnecessary really. Something to share if you want to take anything, is always the best option.

Lex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've received a few gifts over the years but these have been from people that I've been submitting myself too and never on the first meet. If someone's coming to my house then a bottle of something to drink is always appreciated. I've had guys message me and said they wanted to buy me things but I've never met them because I would feel awkward and like I was obliged or obligated to them in some way even though obviously I wouldn't be. If it's somebody that I meet very regularly with and have become friends with and I don't see it's a problem.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think someone may have been teasing you, how would you know they would fit or even like heels. Now if we're talking a good sturdy pair of new wellies....

Token food gifts are always appreciated though I think. Its just fuel for the activities ahead really

How would you know if they had food tolerances? Food gifts are therefore a bad idea.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If you want to be a sugar daddy yes if not a bottle of something would be a gd gesture to take for a meet x"

A sugar daddy for me would be well past it, I’m

52 years old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are only as old as the person you are felling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have taken a bottle of wine to a meet,not entirly sure if it was appreciated,have given a regular fb chocolates on her birthday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think someone may have been teasing you, how would you know they would fit or even like heels. Now if we're talking a good sturdy pair of new wellies....

Token food gifts are always appreciated though I think. Its just fuel for the activities ahead really

How would you know if they had food tolerances? Food gifts are therefore a bad idea."

Ask them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always take a bottle of wine round, for me it’s polite

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"You are only as old as the person you are felling

I'm a lumberjack and I'm OK....

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I have given a couple of regular fwbs a small gift in the past but u certainly wouldn't expect anything. In fact I'd think it was a bit weird!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course not, we *are* the gifts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope but we have a lady buy me flowers though x

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Depends on who I'm meeting.

I may take a bottle of wine for a couple or for a single lady for us to share.

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

If someone is inviting you into their house surely it's polite to arrive with bottle of wine/spirits..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take anything and I'd be pissed off if a meet turned up with something. I'm not an escort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't take anything and I'd be pissed off if a meet turned up with something. I'm not an escort. "

That's your personal choice but I've received gifts in the past and I certainly don't see myself as an escort!!!

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Most of the time guys wanna buy gifts that benefit them, like underwear that turns them on (or as you say in the OP shoes).

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I took chocolate fingers when I went to a guy’s house. Had a cuppa and some chocolate fingers

Certainly helped for round 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make creams and oils for a variety of things. If the guy has shown any interest in my practices and hobbies before our meet I would bring one for them. I think it's a far more thoughtful gesture but most show absolutely no interest so in short the answer is no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just bought a guy ive been seeing for a while a Christmas TShirt. I like to buy small presents, once I know someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always offer to pay on the first meet and have bought gifts for ladies I’ve known a good while

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I think it's polite to take a bottle of wine or flowers for the lady if you are visiting their home. If meeting in public then buying each other a drink is fine.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Depends on the circumstances, I've had gifts and seen them only as thoughtful gestures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A box of condoms is always appreciated.. hate people who don't bring their own !

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By *969BewitchedWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I've had wine or flowers when they have visited my home which is a lovely gesture.

If someone was regular then gifts would be fine as I'd probably do the same too but not for a first meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done wine . Chocolates flowers candles vodka ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So im new to swinging and wondered if its common to buy things (male meeting a female or couple) to buy the female especially something?

Just ive heard from people they treat the female to a pair of heels or something.."

Squze love ..you know we are meeting Saturday ..any chance I could have ya shoe size lol

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