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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. " I've never understood what an earth people get from sending abusive msgs. And it always seems to be the single ladies that get the majority. We've seen a friends account inbox and some of them were horrendous completely out if the blue. To easy for predators and morons to hide. | |||
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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. " Yeah that's what I mean. This person is fueling the nasty messages though, you can see. That's what made me think are they just enjoying it? You'd also think that but if you block half of them they just make new accounts 
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"I just rejected someone that abused a lady in forums for pointing out his pics were fake he then accused her of having an std He then went on to say I'm a skinny rat(after wanting to me) and how he only wants quality meets and I'm an std bitch Had to point out he messaged me I refused because of his forum behaviour
Loony toon"I commented on that just before the thread got deleted. Didn't go as intended for him lol | |||
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"I just rejected someone that abused a lady in forums for pointing out his pics were fake he then accused her of having an std He then went on to say I'm a skinny rat(after wanting to me) and how he only wants quality meets and I'm an std bitch Had to point out he messaged me I refused because of his forum behaviour
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He is pure vile
Seriously scared for any poor woman that does meet him
I commented on that just before the thread got deleted. Didn't go as intended for him lol" | |||
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"I just rejected someone that abused a lady in forums for pointing out his pics were fake he then accused her of having an std He then went on to say I'm a skinny rat(after wanting to me) and how he only wants quality meets and I'm an std bitch Had to point out he messaged me I refused because of his forum behaviour
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He is pure vile
Seriously scared for any poor woman that does meet him
I commented on that just before the thread got deleted. Didn't go as intended for him lol"And if it wasn't for a tineye search no one would have known. A lot to be said for single girls doing club meets only until familiar. | |||
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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. I've never understood what an earth people get from sending abusive msgs. And it always seems to be the single ladies that get the majority. We've seen a friends account inbox and some of them were horrendous completely out if the blue. To easy for predators and morons to hide." It's like said, a reply is better than no reply. Also it's to get attention, like I'll get lines of abuse or I'm fake ect in a first message and then (if I can be bothered to reply) they'll turn around and say “I wasn't expecting you to reply, you're not fake, fancy a shag?“. Internet trolling on a sex site. | |||
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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. I've never understood what an earth people get from sending abusive msgs. And it always seems to be the single ladies that get the majority. We've seen a friends account inbox and some of them were horrendous completely out if the blue. To easy for predators and morons to hide." There's a number of men who don't actually like women but sexually desire them. That cognitive dissonance comes out as abuse. | |||
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"I've had guys message me in the past being abusive and soon as I reply its, "oh I thought you were fake", or I was testing you. Or they were just generally abusive for the sake of wanting to incite something (if I havent blocked). Although Ive never seen a profile that was so negative on themselves, that it brought that sort of negativity to them. Literally shocked when I read this profile, perhaps they shouldnt be on fab kinda shocked because person is so low of self worth and you need some sort of confidence to be on here. But they're not helping themselves because they're feeding people with the text and not using filters, despite saying they're not meeting certain sexes and then blaming admin. It just struck me, despite the complaining, do people really just get off on the negative horrible attention? Even if it's getting blocked or making you feel so terrible about yourself. " Some people definitely will, because some people enjoy negative attention for a whole host of psychological reasons, but who knows if that’s the case with regards to the profile you are talking about. Only they will do. | |||
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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. I've never understood what an earth people get from sending abusive msgs. And it always seems to be the single ladies that get the majority. We've seen a friends account inbox and some of them were horrendous completely out if the blue. To easy for predators and morons to hide. It's like said, a reply is better than no reply. Also it's to get attention, like I'll get lines of abuse or I'm fake ect in a first message and then (if I can be bothered to reply) they'll turn around and say “I wasn't expecting you to reply, you're not fake, fancy a shag?“. Internet trolling on a sex site. " Serious question. Why do you reply to abusive messages? | |||
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"I just rejected someone that abused a lady in forums for pointing out his pics were fake he then accused her of having an std He then went on to say I'm a skinny rat(after wanting to me) and how he only wants quality meets and I'm an std bitch Had to point out he messaged me I refused because of his forum behaviour
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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. I've never understood what an earth people get from sending abusive msgs. And it always seems to be the single ladies that get the majority. We've seen a friends account inbox and some of them were horrendous completely out if the blue. To easy for predators and morons to hide. It's like said, a reply is better than no reply. Also it's to get attention, like I'll get lines of abuse or I'm fake ect in a first message and then (if I can be bothered to reply) they'll turn around and say “I wasn't expecting you to reply, you're not fake, fancy a shag?“. Internet trolling on a sex site. " Insta block. I'd imagine because of your interests you'll get a lot of msgs from guys that don't have a clue what a Top/Dom actually is either. | |||
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"My partner - who also has a single woman profile - has been totally put off Fab by the lunatic messages she received, which is a shame as she was keen to chat, meet and indulge her exhibitionist tenancies on here. And she also wanted to put some stories up. I am waiting patiently to see what happens." Tell her to put all her filters up and only msg those she is interested in. She could write her stories and only talk to those she's interested in then | |||
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"I've had guys message me in the past being abusive and soon as I reply its, "oh I thought you were fake", or I was testing you. Or they were just generally abusive for the sake of wanting to incite something (if I havent blocked). Although Ive never seen a profile that was so negative on themselves, that it brought that sort of negativity to them. Literally shocked when I read this profile, perhaps they shouldnt be on fab kinda shocked because person is so low of self worth and you need some sort of confidence to be on here. But they're not helping themselves because they're feeding people with the text and not using filters, despite saying they're not meeting certain sexes and then blaming admin. It just struck me, despite the complaining, do people really just get off on the negative horrible attention? Even if it's getting blocked or making you feel so terrible about yourself. " I’ve had those kind of messages too. It makes no sense. I do think some people are so bitter that they actually enjoy making or trying to make others feel like crap. | |||
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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. I've never understood what an earth people get from sending abusive msgs. And it always seems to be the single ladies that get the majority. We've seen a friends account inbox and some of them were horrendous completely out if the blue. To easy for predators and morons to hide. There's a number of men who don't actually like women but sexually desire them. That cognitive dissonance comes out as abuse. "  | |||
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"I know, Phoenix, but think the damage has been done! To try and 'tell her' to do anything is counterproductive and how I introduce the subject of filters and messaging over a glass of candlelit red wine may be a challenge beyond me! However, I am a patient man (have had to be) and thank you for your excellent advice, which I will keep in mind. " It is horrible and it does take someone with thick skin to be able to continue I think. Some of the abuse I’ve received on here is sickening, all because of a “no thank you” or “good luck in your search” could get me racial abuse, body shaming, and r*pe threats, one went as far as to make multiple profiles just to send me abuse. It hasn’t put me off this site, but it has made me incredibly wary and incredibly picky on who I see because the abuse doesn’t always come straight away. They’ll be being really nice to you, then you say you can’t meet on a day they want to, and it starts. It’s all well and good blocking & reporting, but some do come back just to find you again. | |||
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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. I've never understood what an earth people get from sending abusive msgs. And it always seems to be the single ladies that get the majority. We've seen a friends account inbox and some of them were horrendous completely out if the blue. To easy for predators and morons to hide. It's like said, a reply is better than no reply. Also it's to get attention, like I'll get lines of abuse or I'm fake ect in a first message and then (if I can be bothered to reply) they'll turn around and say “I wasn't expecting you to reply, you're not fake, fancy a shag?“. Internet trolling on a sex site. Serious question. Why do you reply to abusive messages? " I don't usually, I have quite a dry sense of humor I guess so sometimes I just troll them back if I'm bored. It ends in a block though. I think I got to the point I've been on here for 5 years now, I've got quite a thick skin, if i can be bothered I do, if I can't I insta block. | |||
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"I've had guys message me in the past being abusive and soon as I reply its, "oh I thought you were fake", or I was testing you. Or they were just generally abusive for the sake of wanting to incite something (if I havent blocked). Although Ive never seen a profile that was so negative on themselves, that it brought that sort of negativity to them. Literally shocked when I read this profile, perhaps they shouldnt be on fab kinda shocked because person is so low of self worth and you need some sort of confidence to be on here. But they're not helping themselves because they're feeding people with the text and not using filters, despite saying they're not meeting certain sexes and then blaming admin. It just struck me, despite the complaining, do people really just get off on the negative horrible attention? Even if it's getting blocked or making you feel so terrible about yourself. " Hey i didn't ask for profile advice  | |||
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"I have been pondering this about the exact same person, it feels very destructive and i would question the motives of anyone trying to meet someone so obviously vulnerable. If it was done purely to get positive reinforcement of the "oh you're beautiful" variety that's alarming as is the alternative that this persons self worth is so low they feel the need to degrade there selves in such a manner. Fab is a hard place to be vulnerable and as with anything there is always a large amount who lack empathy and take joy from pain, so to provide them with the ammunition seems not very sensible to me. " Yeah sounds like you've seen them, exactly what I'm talking about but they say the don't want to be told that they're beautiful ect because the they won't believe the person. It's not healthy, I think to a degree you do need some confidence on here and if you are constantly being put down and agreeing with those comments it's not good for your mind. It can be quite damaging and make you low in self worth and confidence. Totally agree with you, it's the worse thing you can do is point out your vulnerabilities on the Internet. | |||
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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. I've never understood what an earth people get from sending abusive msgs. And it always seems to be the single ladies that get the majority. We've seen a friends account inbox and some of them were horrendous completely out if the blue. To easy for predators and morons to hide. It's like said, a reply is better than no reply. Also it's to get attention, like I'll get lines of abuse or I'm fake ect in a first message and then (if I can be bothered to reply) they'll turn around and say “I wasn't expecting you to reply, you're not fake, fancy a shag?“. Internet trolling on a sex site. Insta block. I'd imagine because of your interests you'll get a lot of msgs from guys that don't have a clue what a Top/Dom actually is either. " I give up on that lol.. It takes time to build up that sort of relationship with someone where you can trust a person. Many of the messaged I get are incredibly disrespectful and think I'll just hop straight into it. For instance, I like to be physically dominated (and slightly mentally) but I don't like humiliation play. I constantly get called a slut/slave/whore ect cause people tie it all into one thing. | |||
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"I have been pondering this about the exact same person, it feels very destructive and i would question the motives of anyone trying to meet someone so obviously vulnerable. If it was done purely to get positive reinforcement of the "oh you're beautiful" variety that's alarming as is the alternative that this persons self worth is so low they feel the need to degrade there selves in such a manner. Fab is a hard place to be vulnerable and as with anything there is always a large amount who lack empathy and take joy from pain, so to provide them with the ammunition seems not very sensible to me. Yeah sounds like you've seen them, exactly what I'm talking about but they say the don't want to be told that they're beautiful ect because the they won't believe the person. It's not healthy, I think to a degree you do need some confidence on here and if you are constantly being put down and agreeing with those comments it's not good for your mind. It can be quite damaging and make you low in self worth and confidence. Totally agree with you, it's the worse thing you can do is point out your vulnerabilities on the Internet. " Part of me would love to know more and help if possible but I'm not going to even venture near to the subject having never spoken to the person before. It is heartbreaking watching someone effectively crumble for the world to see and seeming to thrive in there own destruction. I have a tendency to try and protect everbody but fab aswell as life has taught me some people will destroy themselves no matter what others try to do. We just have to hope they can rebuild once it's done. | |||
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"I have been pondering this about the exact same person, it feels very destructive and i would question the motives of anyone trying to meet someone so obviously vulnerable. If it was done purely to get positive reinforcement of the "oh you're beautiful" variety that's alarming as is the alternative that this persons self worth is so low they feel the need to degrade there selves in such a manner. Fab is a hard place to be vulnerable and as with anything there is always a large amount who lack empathy and take joy from pain, so to provide them with the ammunition seems not very sensible to me. Yeah sounds like you've seen them, exactly what I'm talking about but they say the don't want to be told that they're beautiful ect because the they won't believe the person. It's not healthy, I think to a degree you do need some confidence on here and if you are constantly being put down and agreeing with those comments it's not good for your mind. It can be quite damaging and make you low in self worth and confidence. Totally agree with you, it's the worse thing you can do is point out your vulnerabilities on the Internet. Part of me would love to know more and help if possible but I'm not going to even venture near to the subject having never spoken to the person before. It is heartbreaking watching someone effectively crumble for the world to see and seeming to thrive in there own destruction. I have a tendency to try and protect everbody but fab aswell as life has taught me some people will destroy themselves no matter what others try to do. We just have to hope they can rebuild once it's done. " I agree. I’m pretty sure I know who you are referring to, and it’s really sad to see. Like you, I’d love to help, I’ve thought about sending a message but then something tells me not to. | |||
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"I have been pondering this about the exact same person, it feels very destructive and i would question the motives of anyone trying to meet someone so obviously vulnerable. If it was done purely to get positive reinforcement of the "oh you're beautiful" variety that's alarming as is the alternative that this persons self worth is so low they feel the need to degrade there selves in such a manner. Fab is a hard place to be vulnerable and as with anything there is always a large amount who lack empathy and take joy from pain, so to provide them with the ammunition seems not very sensible to me. Yeah sounds like you've seen them, exactly what I'm talking about but they say the don't want to be told that they're beautiful ect because the they won't believe the person. It's not healthy, I think to a degree you do need some confidence on here and if you are constantly being put down and agreeing with those comments it's not good for your mind. It can be quite damaging and make you low in self worth and confidence. Totally agree with you, it's the worse thing you can do is point out your vulnerabilities on the Internet. Part of me would love to know more and help if possible but I'm not going to even venture near to the subject having never spoken to the person before. It is heartbreaking watching someone effectively crumble for the world to see and seeming to thrive in there own destruction. I have a tendency to try and protect everbody but fab aswell as life has taught me some people will destroy themselves no matter what others try to do. We just have to hope they can rebuild once it's done. I agree. I’m pretty sure I know who you are referring to, and it’s really sad to see. Like you, I’d love to help, I’ve thought about sending a message but then something tells me not to. " I mean to be fair it has been clearly stated that this person doesn't "want" help and that effectively negates them "needing" help. It's just so sad, i see insecurities every day in here and hey i have my own too just like every man, woman and child but this seems on the surface a much more serious trail of events. | |||
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"I have been pondering this about the exact same person, it feels very destructive and i would question the motives of anyone trying to meet someone so obviously vulnerable. If it was done purely to get positive reinforcement of the "oh you're beautiful" variety that's alarming as is the alternative that this persons self worth is so low they feel the need to degrade there selves in such a manner. Fab is a hard place to be vulnerable and as with anything there is always a large amount who lack empathy and take joy from pain, so to provide them with the ammunition seems not very sensible to me. Yeah sounds like you've seen them, exactly what I'm talking about but they say the don't want to be told that they're beautiful ect because the they won't believe the person. It's not healthy, I think to a degree you do need some confidence on here and if you are constantly being put down and agreeing with those comments it's not good for your mind. It can be quite damaging and make you low in self worth and confidence. Totally agree with you, it's the worse thing you can do is point out your vulnerabilities on the Internet. Part of me would love to know more and help if possible but I'm not going to even venture near to the subject having never spoken to the person before. It is heartbreaking watching someone effectively crumble for the world to see and seeming to thrive in there own destruction. I have a tendency to try and protect everbody but fab aswell as life has taught me some people will destroy themselves no matter what others try to do. We just have to hope they can rebuild once it's done. I agree. I’m pretty sure I know who you are referring to, and it’s really sad to see. Like you, I’d love to help, I’ve thought about sending a message but then something tells me not to. I mean to be fair it has been clearly stated that this person doesn't "want" help and that effectively negates them "needing" help. It's just so sad, i see insecurities every day in here and hey i have my own too just like every man, woman and child but this seems on the surface a much more serious trail of events. " That’s very true. | |||
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"I have been pondering this about the exact same person, it feels very destructive and i would question the motives of anyone trying to meet someone so obviously vulnerable. If it was done purely to get positive reinforcement of the "oh you're beautiful" variety that's alarming as is the alternative that this persons self worth is so low they feel the need to degrade there selves in such a manner. Fab is a hard place to be vulnerable and as with anything there is always a large amount who lack empathy and take joy from pain, so to provide them with the ammunition seems not very sensible to me. Yeah sounds like you've seen them, exactly what I'm talking about but they say the don't want to be told that they're beautiful ect because the they won't believe the person. It's not healthy, I think to a degree you do need some confidence on here and if you are constantly being put down and agreeing with those comments it's not good for your mind. It can be quite damaging and make you low in self worth and confidence. Totally agree with you, it's the worse thing you can do is point out your vulnerabilities on the Internet. Part of me would love to know more and help if possible but I'm not going to even venture near to the subject having never spoken to the person before. It is heartbreaking watching someone effectively crumble for the world to see and seeming to thrive in there own destruction. I have a tendency to try and protect everbody but fab aswell as life has taught me some people will destroy themselves no matter what others try to do. We just have to hope they can rebuild once it's done. I agree. I’m pretty sure I know who you are referring to, and it’s really sad to see. Like you, I’d love to help, I’ve thought about sending a message but then something tells me not to. I mean to be fair it has been clearly stated that this person doesn't "want" help and that effectively negates them "needing" help. It's just so sad, i see insecurities every day in here and hey i have my own too just like every man, woman and child but this seems on the surface a much more serious trail of events. " That's the thing though, they can help themselves as all they'd have to do is use filters, fab gives you the tools to stop all of this so you can't exactly blame fab. If you're not meeting a specific sex or newbies, use the filters and stop the messages. I personally wouldn't send a message to them.. I get the feeling it wouldnt be appreciated even though its out of kindness and concern. There's obvious things you can do to stop this, just makes me wonder is it down to the attention. | |||
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"I have been pondering this about the exact same person, it feels very destructive and i would question the motives of anyone trying to meet someone so obviously vulnerable. If it was done purely to get positive reinforcement of the "oh you're beautiful" variety that's alarming as is the alternative that this persons self worth is so low they feel the need to degrade there selves in such a manner. Fab is a hard place to be vulnerable and as with anything there is always a large amount who lack empathy and take joy from pain, so to provide them with the ammunition seems not very sensible to me. Yeah sounds like you've seen them, exactly what I'm talking about but they say the don't want to be told that they're beautiful ect because the they won't believe the person. It's not healthy, I think to a degree you do need some confidence on here and if you are constantly being put down and agreeing with those comments it's not good for your mind. It can be quite damaging and make you low in self worth and confidence. Totally agree with you, it's the worse thing you can do is point out your vulnerabilities on the Internet. Part of me would love to know more and help if possible but I'm not going to even venture near to the subject having never spoken to the person before. It is heartbreaking watching someone effectively crumble for the world to see and seeming to thrive in there own destruction. I have a tendency to try and protect everbody but fab aswell as life has taught me some people will destroy themselves no matter what others try to do. We just have to hope they can rebuild once it's done. I agree. I’m pretty sure I know who you are referring to, and it’s really sad to see. Like you, I’d love to help, I’ve thought about sending a message but then something tells me not to. I mean to be fair it has been clearly stated that this person doesn't "want" help and that effectively negates them "needing" help. It's just so sad, i see insecurities every day in here and hey i have my own too just like every man, woman and child but this seems on the surface a much more serious trail of events. That's the thing though, they can help themselves as all they'd have to do is use filters, fab gives you the tools to stop all of this so you can't exactly blame fab. If you're not meeting a specific sex or newbies, use the filters and stop the messages. I personally wouldn't send a message to them.. I get the feeling it wouldnt be appreciated even though its out of kindness and concern. There's obvious things you can do to stop this, just makes me wonder is it down to the attention. " I can see your point and i certainly wouldn't say you are wrong as all we can do is speculate really, but i would presume that even if it is something as "simple" as a want of attention that there is still a very large issue causing the attention seeking. A complete minefield in reality and we could all be barking up the wrong tree and be getting trolled into showing concern. The problem is without asking we will probably never know and i for one am brave enough to say I'm too cowardly to ask. | |||
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"This thread is exactly why Fab has become Facebook..... We are trying to heal the world instead of having great sex...... Smh" Where is your compassion? You're a typical selfish man. | |||
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"This thread is exactly why Fab has become Facebook..... We are trying to heal the world instead of having great sex...... Smh Where is your compassion? You're a typical selfish man. "Compassion for people on sex site not looking for sex? | |||
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"This thread is exactly why Fab has become Facebook..... We are trying to heal the world instead of having great sex...... Smh Where is your compassion? You're a typical selfish man.
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"This thread is exactly why Fab has become Facebook..... We are trying to heal the world instead of having great sex...... Smh" I'm interested, how is asking why do people seek negativity and (primarily men) send nasty comments to women for attention come across as trying to "heal the world" and a Facebook thing? | |||
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"This thread is exactly why Fab has become Facebook..... We are trying to heal the world instead of having great sex...... Smh" Strangely enough. You could do both. Women are experts at multitasking. | |||
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"This thread is exactly why Fab has become Facebook..... We are trying to heal the world instead of having great sex...... Smh Strangely enough. You could do both. Women are experts at multitasking. "Oh, you misandrist! | |||
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"I've had guys message me in the past being abusive and soon as I reply its, "oh I thought you were fake", or I was testing you. Or they were just generally abusive for the sake of wanting to incite something (if I havent blocked). Although Ive never seen a profile that was so negative on themselves, that it brought that sort of negativity to them. Literally shocked when I read this profile, perhaps they shouldnt be on fab kinda shocked because person is so low of self worth and you need some sort of confidence to be on here. But they're not helping themselves because they're feeding people with the text and not using filters, despite saying they're not meeting certain sexes and then blaming admin. It just struck me, despite the complaining, do people really just get off on the negative horrible attention? Even if it's getting blocked or making you feel so terrible about yourself. " We’ve just read your profile... We’re left wondering if it’s because these people who send you abusive messages read your profile, and then assume it’s ok to send you such messages without consent because they see the content. Some people can’t tell the difference between you writing what you’re consensually looking for, and writing saying “I consent”. These people perhaps think domination=abuse, when of course it does not. They really need to be educated. You’re not what we are looking for (we can’t believe we’ve just said that to a single woman  ) but if you were, we’d message about your profile and if you enjoyed and consented to verbal play/domination/humiliation. If you said yes, then game on!
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"This thread is exactly why Fab has become Facebook..... We are trying to heal the world instead of having great sex...... Smh I'm interested, how is asking why do people seek negativity and (primarily men) send nasty comments to women for attention come across as trying to "heal the world" and a Facebook thing? " You’re giving attention to the idiots on here.... And trying to figure out trollish behavior.... Taking up valuable forum space for people looking to meet and have sex.... The answer to any question asked on the forums is this “ Not everyone that signs up to Fab will get sex “ | |||
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"This thread is exactly why Fab has become Facebook..... We are trying to heal the world instead of having great sex...... Smh Strangely enough. You could do both. Women are experts at multitasking. Oh, you misandrist! "Be quiet you. | |||
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"This thread is exactly why Fab has become Facebook..... We are trying to heal the world instead of having great sex...... Smh Strangely enough. You could do both. Women are experts at multitasking. Oh, you misandrist!
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"A lot of people play the sympathy card to get attention. Don’t fall for it. It’s maniiplative behaviour " I agree with this, and also know which profile the op is talking about. Anyone who has read it will know. | |||
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"I've had guys message me in the past being abusive and soon as I reply its, "oh I thought you were fake", or I was testing you. Or they were just generally abusive for the sake of wanting to incite something (if I havent blocked). Although Ive never seen a profile that was so negative on themselves, that it brought that sort of negativity to them. Literally shocked when I read this profile, perhaps they shouldnt be on fab kinda shocked because person is so low of self worth and you need some sort of confidence to be on here. But they're not helping themselves because they're feeding people with the text and not using filters, despite saying they're not meeting certain sexes and then blaming admin. It just struck me, despite the complaining, do people really just get off on the negative horrible attention? Even if it's getting blocked or making you feel so terrible about yourself. We’ve just read your profile... We’re left wondering if it’s because these people who send you abusive messages read your profile, and then assume it’s ok to send you such messages without consent because they see the content. Some people can’t tell the difference between you writing what you’re consensually looking for, and writing saying “I consent”. These people perhaps think domination=abuse, when of course it does not. They really need to be educated. You’re not what we are looking for (we can’t believe we’ve just said that to a single woman ) but if you were, we’d message about your profile and if you enjoyed and consented to verbal play/domination/humiliation. If you said yes, then game on!
Some fools need to learn the difference between description and consent
xx"Oh no don't get me wrong I don't get messages which are abusive in the sense people want to literally hurt me ect, nothing to do with my profile. I think I already said but I am not into humiliation but people generally seem to (and you have, but its no offense) put domination in all one category. So I get called slut/slave/whore and degrading names, think its OK to "use" me and I'm not turned on by that and that's not what I enjoy personally. I guess there is issue with it for some but I put all that stuff there so people don't have to ask. You're right though just because it's there doesn't mean I give consent, it's made clear that half of that stuff will not happen on a first meet because it's earnt by trust. | |||
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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. I've never understood what an earth people get from sending abusive msgs. And it always seems to be the single ladies that get the majority. We've seen a friends account inbox and some of them were horrendous completely out if the blue. To easy for predators and morons to hide. It's like said, a reply is better than no reply. Also it's to get attention, like I'll get lines of abuse or I'm fake ect in a first message and then (if I can be bothered to reply) they'll turn around and say “I wasn't expecting you to reply, you're not fake, fancy a shag?“. Internet trolling on a sex site. Insta block. I'd imagine because of your interests you'll get a lot of msgs from guys that don't have a clue what a Top/Dom actually is either. I give up on that lol.. It takes time to build up that sort of relationship with someone where you can trust a person. Many of the messaged I get are incredibly disrespectful and think I'll just hop straight into it. For instance, I like to be physically dominated (and slightly mentally) but I don't like humiliation play. I constantly get called a slut/slave/whore ect cause people tie it all into one thing. " Lack of understanding and it's massive and not only on here as I'm sure you know
Nothing wrong atall with a sexy masochist but many just can't differentiate between loads of things in the bdsm scene and what turns different people on and off.
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"It's like with deprived kids - any attention is good attention. Sad, but the person is an adult and should seek help." | |||
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"If women only reply to abusive messages then I see why men send them. A reply is better than a delete/block/ignore, for them. If the women who ignore normal messages ignored the abusive ones they might stop sending them. I've never understood what an earth people get from sending abusive msgs. And it always seems to be the single ladies that get the majority. We've seen a friends account inbox and some of them were horrendous completely out if the blue. To easy for predators and morons to hide. There's a number of men who don't actually like women but sexually desire them. That cognitive dissonance comes out as abuse. " Incels. | |||
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