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By *uracell-Danny OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i do tend to agree on this

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By *ennythelionMan
over a year ago

Derby

Yes without doubt. Especially among the younger fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no, the answers will vary according to the sections of people you ask.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Yes I think it is.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

I've not noticed... Well, no one has wanted to date me anyway

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Yes - I think that more people are joining who would quite like to find a significant other, especially someone who has a predilection for "kinkier" sex/swinging.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Definitely yes because in my opinion I think majority of the ladies need some kind of relationship, guys on the other hand are ok with constant fun , so this silent relationship pull is from the ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers "

it always has been, certainly for singles

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

I think there is certainly an element of that, I had a man get shirty and block me because I have a lot of men waiting to play with me, almost like he was judging me. I did remind him that this is a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely yes because in my opinion I think majority of the ladies need some kind of relationship, guys on the other hand are ok with constant fun , so this silent relationship pull is from the ladies "

Yup!

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells


"Definitely yes because in my opinion I think majority of the ladies need some kind of relationship, guys on the other hand are ok with constant fun , so this silent relationship pull is from the

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Certainly not in my case.

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By *oodyshere2011Man
over a year ago

Midlands


"Definitely yes because in my opinion I think majority of the ladies need some kind of relationship, guys on the other hand are ok with constant fun , so this silent relationship pull is from the

Certainly not in my case."

Buxom I just want to spank that bum of yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to meet someone but someone who likes swinging as part of a couple. Also someone into exploring other aspects of kink.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

You can use the site to meet your needs... each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems it’s getting more like Facebook than a dating site . 500 friends and now possibly of a face to face meet. Some even plead for people to fab their pics so they can get to the first page of fabbed pics

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

It's whatever you want it to be

Whatever works for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep definitely. Especially with the increasingly demanding women on here - many of whom expect dates, endless chat and total attention. It seems like people want an emotional connection rather than predominantly sexual one (I totally understand we have to get along, but I’m not one to wine and dine someone I don’t want a relationship with)

This is why, even though I’m bi, I’ve met mainly men and hardly any women off of here. I don’t want to date.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers "

Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two."

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. "

Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. "

Totally agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are looking for casual sex with strangers, you have to be equipped to appeal to those who want that sort of thing...

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time. "

Wonderful insight ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can use the site to meet your needs... each to their own "

Agree. I met my partner on her. Was not looking for a relationship. But that's what happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can use the site to meet your needs... each to their own

Agree. I met my partner on her. Was not looking for a relationship. But that's what happened"

on her? She was riding her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time. "

Depends on who you get to know. I’ve been spending time with someone from here since August but he eventually wants kids. I’ve not really been interested in anyone else but know I will be back to dating again soon. If I like someone then I want to invest in them. You are however on a swinging site. I spend a long time getting to know anyone I meet off here so don’t usually have that concern.

Oh and I’ve multi dated on dating sites. You are never exclusive until you’ve both decided to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More of a hunting ground....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Depends on who you get to know. I’ve been spending time with someone from here since August but he eventually wants kids. I’ve not really been interested in anyone else but know I will be back to dating again soon. If I like someone then I want to invest in them. You are however on a swinging site. I spend a long time getting to know anyone I meet off here so don’t usually have that concern.

Oh and I’ve multi dated on dating sites. You are never exclusive until you’ve both decided to."

Yeah different with Couples an that they have got them in the bag already. If I took them for fancy meal and that was it. Then they meet someone else who doesn't or just in a club etc it would annoy me.

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By *edtothecore74Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"Definitely yes because in my opinion I think majority of the ladies need some kind of relationship, guys on the other hand are ok with constant fun , so this silent relationship pull is from the ladies "

Bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site"

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me but I'm not here for hook up sex with total strangers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes - I think that more people are joining who would quite like to find a significant other, especially someone who has a predilection for "kinkier" sex/swinging. "

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By *edtothecore74Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet.

Totally agree with this "

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Not in my experience on here...but then, I’m happily attached so I wouldn’t see the same thing as a single person. I’ve certainly not met or chatted to any guys who have anything above nsa in mind.

I suppose my focus on the social side could be considered ‘datey’ but in kink, you have to know someone quite well to build the requisite trust to do the fun stuff so a mix of socials and meets is quite important. But it’s all with ‘nsa’ in mind and as soon as any feels start surfacing I tend to take a step back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think some men confuse wanting to get to know someone before sex with looking for a relationship.

If I just wanted something to fill my vagina I would invest in dildos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do think some men confuse wanting to get to know someone before sex with looking for a relationship.

If I just wanted something to fill my vagina I would invest in dildos. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

simple answer is yes ..the site is filling up with non swingers and relationship seekers

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Definitely yes because in my opinion I think majority of the ladies need some kind of relationship, guys on the other hand are ok with constant fun , so this silent relationship pull is from the ladies "

Pahahahahahahahaha! Oh my god, 1986 called and wanted their Cosmo advice section back

Seriously?! People still believe this kind of twallop?

*wanders off snickering*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"simple answer is yes ..the site is filling up with non swingers and relationship seekers "

Maybe there will be more couples that want to swing in the future from this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is a good thing , it will allow people to find someone they are interested in who enjoy exploring and trying new things that others would step back from doing.

Keep on spreading the love

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think this is a good thing , it will allow people to find someone they are interested in who enjoy exploring and trying new things that others would step back from doing.

Keep on spreading the love "

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By *edtothecore74Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"I think this is a good thing , it will allow people to find someone they are interested in who enjoy exploring and trying new things that others would step back from doing.

Keep on spreading the love "

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By *uracell-Danny OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Thank you for all your contributions and for helping to stimulate a healthy discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re welcome op , have a great day everyone!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s like a dating site. In my fairly limited experience of dating sites the people on here are more interesting and more willing to engage in conversation and there is a lot more dynamic content in this site than on dating sites, which keeps us coming back. I think dating sites are missing a trick tbh.

As for the comment on women wanting relationships, I call bs. There are a LOT of men in this site looking for relationships. They just maybe aren’t as open about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every Fab user has got their own agenda for being on here. There are no set rules (unless I missed the memo ) regarding what you have to want from the site. So yes, I'm sure there are some Fabbers who would prefer to find a relationship, as at least the still very difficult subject of sex/high sex drive or kinks would already have been breeched just by being on here. I'm sure there are plenty of others who see this site as a sex site (which is not the right view), a wank fodder, a wind up etc.

There are genuine swingers on here, too, but do remember, OP, that swinging is more than just sex. As one of the posters above rightly said, trying to get to know someone before agreeing to meet/have sex is part of checking if there is any chemistry. As otherwise a good dildo/toy can do a much better job than a partner that's not suitable. It's just a woman thing

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I think this is a good thing , it will allow people to find someone they are interested in who enjoy exploring and trying new things that others would step back from doing.

Keep on spreading the love "

Yep deffo

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"Every Fab user has got their own agenda for being on here. There are no set rules (unless I missed the memo ) regarding what you have to want from the site. So yes, I'm sure there are some Fabbers who would prefer to find a relationship, as at least the still very difficult subject of sex/high sex drive or kinks would already have been breeched just by being on here. I'm sure there are plenty of others who see this site as a sex site (which is not the right view), a wank fodder, a wind up etc.

There are genuine swingers on here, too, but do remember, OP, that swinging is more than just sex. As one of the posters above rightly said, trying to get to know someone before agreeing to meet/have sex is part of checking if there is any chemistry. As otherwise a good dildo/toy can do a much better job than a partner that's not suitable. It's just a woman thing"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think it’s like a dating site. In my fairly limited experience of dating sites the people on here are more interesting and more willing to engage in conversation and there is a lot more dynamic content in this site than on dating sites, which keeps us coming back. I think dating sites are missing a trick tbh.

As for the comment on women wanting relationships, I call bs. There are a LOT of men in this site looking for relationships. They just maybe aren’t as open about it."

I agree. I’ve met a few that wanted more with me but I didn’t feel the right connections. They never said that in their profile.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers "

here is what this old man has learnt in my yrs here....

the site is many things to many people.... don't be so fixated on the things you can't control! its big enough that two groups after the same thing will find each other... you concentrate on making yourself the best person you can for them!

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By *edtothecore74Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers

here is what this old man has learnt in my yrs here....

the site is many things to many people.... don't be so fixated on the things you can't control! its big enough that two groups after the same thing will find each other... you concentrate on making yourself the best person you can for them!"

Yaaaaaaaassssss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Definitely yes because in my opinion I think majority of the ladies need some kind of relationship, guys on the other hand are ok with constant fun , so this silent relationship pull is from the ladies

Bullshit. "

I only meet one man at a time for regular fun. Every one of these playmate scenarios have ended, because the man wanted to make it a permanent relationship, and admitted they were on here looking for a long term partner who liked sex, usually because lack of sex had led to their previous relationship demise.

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

We can all date but looking for relationships on here with someone who is more in tune with your sexual desires is probably a better bet than regular dating sites, as from the start you can be more up front about what you want.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I do think some men confuse wanting to get to know someone before sex with looking for a relationship.

If I just wanted something to fill my vagina I would invest in dildos.

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Mental connection v emotional attachment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do think some men confuse wanting to get to know someone before sex with looking for a relationship.

If I just wanted something to fill my vagina I would invest in dildos.

Mental connection v emotional attachment.

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Unless you are in a club scenario (where guys can end up being a stunt cock of convenience) the mental connection has to be there.

You can even develop a "fondness" for someone or even "love" several people without having to go all in with a co-habiting partnership.

Whenever I am with someone, for the time we are together I try to put them as the centre of my universe. In my mind at least, we are lovers, a couple, two people connected to the exclusion of all others. Until we part and continue on with our lives.

We chat as friends between those times. Is is an affair? A relationship? Does it need to be defined by societal norms?

I don't know the answer. But I can't do fuck and go with a stranger no matter how hard I try to convince myself otherwise.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... "

Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is too! Once had a woman going mental at me as I was chatting to other people in the chat room! WTF!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend. "

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do think some men confuse wanting to get to know someone before sex with looking for a relationship.

If I just wanted something to fill my vagina I would invest in dildos.

Mental connection v emotional attachment.

Unless you are in a club scenario (where guys can end up being a stunt cock of convenience) the mental connection has to be there.

You can even develop a "fondness" for someone or even "love" several people without having to go all in with a co-habiting partnership.

Whenever I am with someone, for the time we are together I try to put them as the centre of my universe. In my mind at least, we are lovers, a couple, two people connected to the exclusion of all others. Until we part and continue on with our lives.

We chat as friends between those times. Is is an affair? A relationship? Does it need to be defined by societal norms?

I don't know the answer. But I can't do fuck and go with a stranger no matter how hard I try to convince myself otherwise.

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Sounds like me and my connections.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is too! Once had a woman going mental at me as I was chatting to other people in the chat room! WTF!! "

One woman doesn't have to label all women on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is too! Once had a woman going mental at me as I was chatting to other people in the chat room! WTF!!

One woman doesn't have to label all women on here."

She ruins it for all the jenuwhine wimmen on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree, nearly every other message starts the same, would you like to go for dinner, would you like to meet up for a drink etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can use the site however they want

C

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other?"

We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the progression has been pushed by over saturation of males on the site.

Women get so many offers that some of them started nit picking and expecting more and more from guys which may not be what was originally intended by the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't say I've noticed. Seems pretty much the same as it has been for 7+ years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is fortunate enough to find their partner via fab , I wish them all the best. If people just want to swing and continue exploring , I also wish them the best on their sexual journey.

It’s not that deep to be honest , do what you enjoy and get what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then."

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. "

I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do think some men confuse wanting to get to know someone before sex with looking for a relationship.

If I just wanted something to fill my vagina I would invest in dildos.

Mental connection v emotional attachment.

Unless you are in a club scenario (where guys can end up being a stunt cock of convenience) the mental connection has to be there.

You can even develop a "fondness" for someone or even "love" several people without having to go all in with a co-habiting partnership.

Whenever I am with someone, for the time we are together I try to put them as the centre of my universe. In my mind at least, we are lovers, a couple, two people connected to the exclusion of all others. Until we part and continue on with our lives.

We chat as friends between those times. Is is an affair? A relationship? Does it need to be defined by societal norms?

I don't know the answer. But I can't do fuck and go with a stranger no matter how hard I try to convince myself otherwise.

Sounds like me and my connections. "

You’re sensational , definitely adding to my hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is too! Once had a woman going mental at me as I was chatting to other people in the chat room! WTF!!

One woman doesn't have to label all women on here. She ruins it for all the jenuwhine wimmen on here "

How rude

You selfish tw*tface fooker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac. "

She was probably very highly sexed but maybe you should have found this out before you explored in a club. If she’s not compatible with you then you walk away.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I do think some men confuse wanting to get to know someone before sex with looking for a relationship.

If I just wanted something to fill my vagina I would invest in dildos.

Mental connection v emotional attachment.

Unless you are in a club scenario (where guys can end up being a stunt cock of convenience) the mental connection has to be there.

You can even develop a "fondness" for someone or even "love" several people without having to go all in with a co-habiting partnership.

Whenever I am with someone, for the time we are together I try to put them as the centre of my universe. In my mind at least, we are lovers, a couple, two people connected to the exclusion of all others. Until we part and continue on with our lives.

We chat as friends between those times. Is is an affair? A relationship? Does it need to be defined by societal norms?

I don't know the answer. But I can't do fuck and go with a stranger no matter how hard I try to convince myself otherwise.

Sounds like me and my connections. "

Me too x

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other?

We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then."

*Confused* What has the club manager got to do with this? Is it his or your story?

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By *m35279Woman
over a year ago

belfast


"Yep definitely. Especially with the increasingly demanding women on here - many of whom expect dates, endless chat and total attention. It seems like people want an emotional connection rather than predominantly sexual one (I totally understand we have to get along, but I’m not one to wine and dine someone I don’t want a relationship with)

This is why, even though I’m bi, I’ve met mainly men and hardly any women off of here. I don’t want to date."

Just you saying the being wined and dined part got me excited even though I’m not intentionally on here to date. I think ya’ll might me onto something

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac.

She was probably very highly sexed but maybe you should have found this out before you explored in a club. If she’s not compatible with you then you walk away. "

Yeah I kind of knew we had play lots of times, just thought she wouldn't behave that recklessly.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other?

We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

*Confused* What has the club manager got to do with this? Is it his or your story?"

Oh he took delight in telling me because I think he was jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac.

She was probably very highly sexed but maybe you should have found this out before you explored in a club. If she’s not compatible with you then you walk away. Yeah I kind of knew we had play lots of times, just thought she wouldn't behave that recklessly."

It’s not reckless though if that’s someone's thing. You obviously never set boundaries to start with.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Things change, things evolve - and what's changed more than anything imo, is that individulism is now more possible than its ever been.

This site can be 100 different things to 100 different people (and probably is) - as long as you're clear what it is you want and are looking for, it works.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac.

She was probably very highly sexed but maybe you should have found this out before you explored in a club. If she’s not compatible with you then you walk away. Yeah I kind of knew we had play lots of times, just thought she wouldn't behave that recklessly.

It’s not reckless though if that’s someone's thing. You obviously never set boundaries to start with. "

Getting d*unk while doing it is in my opinion. You need a wing man to keep the men in check.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac.

She was probably very highly sexed but maybe you should have found this out before you explored in a club. If she’s not compatible with you then you walk away. Yeah I kind of knew we had play lots of times, just thought she wouldn't behave that recklessly.

It’s not reckless though if that’s someone's thing. You obviously never set boundaries to start with. Getting d*unk while doing it is in my opinion. You need a wing man to keep the men in check."

I had d*unk quite a bit before my first visit but I was very aware of my surroundings. I wasn’t falling about plus my partner never left my side.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac.

She was probably very highly sexed but maybe you should have found this out before you explored in a club. If she’s not compatible with you then you walk away. Yeah I kind of knew we had play lots of times, just thought she wouldn't behave that recklessly.

It’s not reckless though if that’s someone's thing. You obviously never set boundaries to start with. Getting d*unk while doing it is in my opinion. You need a wing man to keep the men in check.

I had d*unk quite a bit before my first visit but I was very aware of my surroundings. I wasn’t falling about plus my partner never left my side. "

When I was told she had to be rescued off the floor it implies she was more than tipsy don't you think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac.

She was probably very highly sexed but maybe you should have found this out before you explored in a club. If she’s not compatible with you then you walk away. Yeah I kind of knew we had play lots of times, just thought she wouldn't behave that recklessly."

Alcohol makes people reckless .

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers "

I have noticed that to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac.

She was probably very highly sexed but maybe you should have found this out before you explored in a club. If she’s not compatible with you then you walk away. Yeah I kind of knew we had play lots of times, just thought she wouldn't behave that recklessly.

It’s not reckless though if that’s someone's thing. You obviously never set boundaries to start with. Getting d*unk while doing it is in my opinion. You need a wing man to keep the men in check.

I had d*unk quite a bit before my first visit but I was very aware of my surroundings. I wasn’t falling about plus my partner never left my side. When I was told she had to be rescued off the floor it implies she was more than tipsy don't you think."

So, I will say it again. Either go to a club on your own or build a good connection with trust and respect as your choices are YOUR choices. I won’t go with just anyone. I have to know that they will have my back and vice versa, so not just a casual guy I hardly know.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I like to have or find a connection. It can be more fun if there is.In swing world its not essential but it is desirable. It can lead to having/being a FB , it can lead to a relationship if both want it. As to whether FAB is becoming a dating site I don't think it has become more so . I think single people on here recognise that any potential partner in future is likely to be a swinger as there is no going back to vanilla I suggest for most swingers.I think it's becoming more of a " fab my photos " type site .Ultimately the ever growing male to female ratio and the inability of many men to know how to respect the motives of female swingers and to recognise their needs and limitations in meeting and playing with more than a few each month will have a bigger impact.

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers "

Its not from my perspective but everyone uses websites in slightly different ways.

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over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac.

She was probably very highly sexed but maybe you should have found this out before you explored in a club. If she’s not compatible with you then you walk away. Yeah I kind of knew we had play lots of times, just thought she wouldn't behave that recklessly.

Alcohol makes people reckless ."

I have a better time with a bit of alcohol but I’m not reckless and never will be.

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead


"I don’t think it’s like a dating site. In my fairly limited experience of dating sites the people on here are more interesting and more willing to engage in conversation and there is a lot more dynamic content in this site than on dating sites, which keeps us coming back. I think dating sites are missing a trick tbh.

As for the comment on women wanting relationships, I call bs. There are a LOT of men in this site looking for relationships. They just maybe aren’t as open about it."

wow wow wow what a bum

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Wonderful insight .... Well it has happened to me. A fuckbuddy of mine thought it was OK to get gangbanged d*unk and have to be rescued off the floor. She thought I was still gonna be taking her to Blackpool for the weekend.

That’s not a fuckbuddy if you were going to take her away. Also, did you not discuss swinging with each other? We were going to a club. We had swung together a bit, just the condom had got lost in her the week before and I've seen guys in clubs trying it on without them. I don't know whether the club manager embellished the story though but the trust had gone then.

I’ve only been to a club with someone I knew and trusted well. We discussed everything before we went and had enough respect to make sure we were both ok with whatever happened. I guess you didn’t really know her well enough or set boundaries. I thought I could but I think she was a nymphomaniac.

She was probably very highly sexed but maybe you should have found this out before you explored in a club. If she’s not compatible with you then you walk away. Yeah I kind of knew we had play lots of times, just thought she wouldn't behave that recklessly.

It’s not reckless though if that’s someone's thing. You obviously never set boundaries to start with. Getting d*unk while doing it is in my opinion. You need a wing man to keep the men in check.

I had d*unk quite a bit before my first visit but I was very aware of my surroundings. I wasn’t falling about plus my partner never left my side. When I was told she had to be rescued off the floor it implies she was more than tipsy don't you think.

So, I will say it again. Either go to a club on your own or build a good connection with trust and respect as your choices are YOUR choices. I won’t go with just anyone. I have to know that they will have my back and vice versa, so not just a casual guy I hardly know. "

I had known this woman a few months. I do mostly, I have red flags to look out for now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to date. But I like fucking friends however I don't want commitment with anyone. I like chats I like to go out for drinks with my friends occasional evening/day out even weekends away. But ultimately its sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be. "

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way."

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. "

Ah ok. I'm glad I'm not single, it all seems so much more complicated than when I was.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. "

Oh my God, I meant casual hook ups, not cash hook ups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here.

Ah ok. I'm glad I'm not single, it all seems so much more complicated than when I was."

It certainly is.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. "

Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here.

Oh my God, I meant casual hook ups, not cash hook ups "

I didn’t notice, ha. I’ve been working all night and still haven’t gone to bed. None of those cash hook ups mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?"

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here.

Ah ok. I'm glad I'm not single, it all seems so much more complicated than when I was.

It certainly is. "

I think I'd go on First Dates, it seems easier than navigating the maze of dating sites.

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By *esterLilacCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

I’ve always used this site as a dating site when I was single. It worked for me. I think you take what you want from this site as there are such a variety of people looking for different experiences.

And my experience of traditional dating sites, has been people just looking to hook up.

I think people on here are just a bit more open and upfront about what they are looking for compared to a dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here.

Ah ok. I'm glad I'm not single, it all seems so much more complicated than when I was.

It certainly is.

I think I'd go on First Dates, it seems easier than navigating the maze of dating sites."

Thing is, I just want to fast forward to being part of a couple on here, fucking randoms together. My single purpose is very different to how I want to be once in with a likeminded guy.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. "

Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think."

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it could be to a point as they seek the perfect playmate or more but the reality is it more of a chat site than anything else

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Definitely yes because in my opinion I think majority of the ladies need some kind of relationship, guys on the other hand are ok with constant fun , so this silent relationship pull is from the ladies

Pahahahahahahahaha! Oh my god, 1986 called and wanted their Cosmo advice section back

Seriously?! People still believe this kind of twallop?

*wanders off snickering*"

Love what the above said - I agree - what utter garbage!!... So women can’t have fun too and we all automatically want a relationship...I don’t even think this sort of comment would be valid for 1986.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. "

Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here.

Ah ok. I'm glad I'm not single, it all seems so much more complicated than when I was.

It certainly is.

I think I'd go on First Dates, it seems easier than navigating the maze of dating sites.

Thing is, I just want to fast forward to being part of a couple on here, fucking randoms together. My single purpose is very different to how I want to be once in with a likeminded guy. "

Oh right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world."

I have done. All my very long term relationships were from having sex the first night. I decided to do things differently this year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it could be to a point as they seek the perfect playmate or more but the reality is it more of a chat site than anything else "

Utter bollocks. I chat a while to gauge some common likes, but my ultimate aim is to find someone I like enough to meet more than once.

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By *edtothecore74Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think."

You are so full of shit.... off you pop back to the 50s

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Definitely yes because in my opinion I think majority of the ladies need some kind of relationship, guys on the other hand are ok with constant fun , so this silent relationship pull is from the ladies

Pahahahahahahahaha! Oh my god, 1986 called and wanted their Cosmo advice section back

Seriously?! People still believe this kind of twallop?

*wanders off snickering*

Love what the above said - I agree - what utter garbage!!... So women can’t have fun too and we all automatically want a relationship...I don’t even think this sort of comment would be valid for 1986. "

I think that if you read the number of posts from women saying that they need a connection, that personality is more important than looks, that they feel used if they have sex with a man and then he doesn't contact her until he wants sex again, that their fuck buddy has been meeting someone else and they're upset by it etc. anyone could be forgiven for thinking that a lot of women want the illusion of a relationship at least.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world.

I have done. All my very long term relationships were from having sex the first night. I decided to do things differently this year. "

You seem the type though who is only going to be seeing 1 guy at a time. So it wouldn't dishearten some men like it might if you were seeing multiple men. Good luck

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

You are so full of shit.... off you pop back to the 50s"

The music was better back then

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By *uracell-Danny OP   Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Again thank you all for your contributions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know about dating per say, I don't converse with many people looking for that as I'm already married. I do think there's an awful lot more men (probably women too, but I don't seek them out) using it as a casual hook up site. It's become fairly difficult in our local area at least to find men who genuinely enjoy meeting couples and understand the dynamic as opposed to "making do" or trying to get me to meet alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world.

I have done. All my very long term relationships were from having sex the first night. I decided to do things differently this year. You seem the type though who is only going to be seeing 1 guy at a time. So it wouldn't dishearten some men like it might if you were seeing multiple men. Good luck "

In a committed relationship then yes, up to that point, I see a few like I am now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the similarities. I can't get a date here either.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world.

I have done. All my very long term relationships were from having sex the first night. I decided to do things differently this year. You seem the type though who is only going to be seeing 1 guy at a time. So it wouldn't dishearten some men like it might if you were seeing multiple men. Good luck

In a committed relationship then yes, up to that point, I see a few like I am now. "

Yeah, on here I think oh he can keep you busy when you're not with me attitude. But a lot won't and definitely not in vanilla dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world.

I have done. All my very long term relationships were from having sex the first night. I decided to do things differently this year. You seem the type though who is only going to be seeing 1 guy at a time. So it wouldn't dishearten some men like it might if you were seeing multiple men. Good luck

In a committed relationship then yes, up to that point, I see a few like I am now. Yeah, on here I think oh he can keep you busy when you're not with me attitude. But a lot won't and definitely not in vanilla dating. "

In real world dating, it’s the same. I will go on a few dates with different people until it clicks properly with one. Never put your eggs in one basket too early on. Advice from dating experts.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world.

I have done. All my very long term relationships were from having sex the first night. I decided to do things differently this year. You seem the type though who is only going to be seeing 1 guy at a time. So it wouldn't dishearten some men like it might if you were seeing multiple men. Good luck

In a committed relationship then yes, up to that point, I see a few like I am now. Yeah, on here I think oh he can keep you busy when you're not with me attitude. But a lot won't and definitely not in vanilla dating.

In real world dating, it’s the same. I will go on a few dates with different people until it clicks properly with one. Never put your eggs in one basket too early on. Advice from dating experts. "

Yeah but do you tell the vanilla guys that? On here they could see verifications etc ignorance could be bliss for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Things change, things evolve - and what's changed more than anything imo, is that individulism is now more possible than its ever been.

This site can be 100 different things to 100 different people (and probably is) - as long as you're clear what it is you want and are looking for, it works."

Totally agree x

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be. "

Yup, on the dating sites I got lots of young men asking for sex, and as soon as I came on Fab I got more mature men offering to take me out to dinner or take me away for the weekend....quelle domage!!!

I'll have the sex and the weekends thanks, and as my profile states quite openly I'm up for dating too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes "

And you can shut up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world.

I have done. All my very long term relationships were from having sex the first night. I decided to do things differently this year. You seem the type though who is only going to be seeing 1 guy at a time. So it wouldn't dishearten some men like it might if you were seeing multiple men. Good luck

In a committed relationship then yes, up to that point, I see a few like I am now. Yeah, on here I think oh he can keep you busy when you're not with me attitude. But a lot won't and definitely not in vanilla dating.

In real world dating, it’s the same. I will go on a few dates with different people until it clicks properly with one. Never put your eggs in one basket too early on. Advice from dating experts. Yeah but do you tell the vanilla guys that? On here they could see verifications etc ignorance could be bliss for them."

I’m not on about here. I don’t do any different on here or vanilla dating. If I’ve only met someone once or twice then I may still someone else for a date. Until it’s exclusive then that’s my prerogative. Most people do it or at least in London we do, same as all big cities in the world. If they ask then I would say but they are probably multi dating initially also. It’s kike job interviews, You don’t take the first job offer you get you know.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world.

I have done. All my very long term relationships were from having sex the first night. I decided to do things differently this year. You seem the type though who is only going to be seeing 1 guy at a time. So it wouldn't dishearten some men like it might if you were seeing multiple men. Good luck

In a committed relationship then yes, up to that point, I see a few like I am now. Yeah, on here I think oh he can keep you busy when you're not with me attitude. But a lot won't and definitely not in vanilla dating.

In real world dating, it’s the same. I will go on a few dates with different people until it clicks properly with one. Never put your eggs in one basket too early on. Advice from dating experts. Yeah but do you tell the vanilla guys that? On here they could see verifications etc ignorance could be bliss for them.

I’m not on about here. I don’t do any different on here or vanilla dating. If I’ve only met someone once or twice then I may still someone else for a date. Until it’s exclusive then that’s my prerogative. Most people do it or at least in London we do, same as all big cities in the world. If they ask then I would say but they are probably multi dating initially also. It’s kike job interviews, You don’t take the first job offer you get you know. "

Yeah I get that but I think if some vanilla guys knew it might have an impact that's all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world.

I have done. All my very long term relationships were from having sex the first night. I decided to do things differently this year. You seem the type though who is only going to be seeing 1 guy at a time. So it wouldn't dishearten some men like it might if you were seeing multiple men. Good luck

In a committed relationship then yes, up to that point, I see a few like I am now. Yeah, on here I think oh he can keep you busy when you're not with me attitude. But a lot won't and definitely not in vanilla dating.

In real world dating, it’s the same. I will go on a few dates with different people until it clicks properly with one. Never put your eggs in one basket too early on. Advice from dating experts. Yeah but do you tell the vanilla guys that? On here they could see verifications etc ignorance could be bliss for them.

I’m not on about here. I don’t do any different on here or vanilla dating. If I’ve only met someone once or twice then I may still someone else for a date. Until it’s exclusive then that’s my prerogative. Most people do it or at least in London we do, same as all big cities in the world. If they ask then I would say but they are probably multi dating initially also. It’s kike job interviews, You don’t take the first job offer you get you know. Yeah I get that but I think if some vanilla guys knew it might have an impact that's all."

Impact on what? I’m talking about just going for drinks and just general getting to know them. Not sleeping with them at the same time.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"For us, no.

Maybe other people are using it as such. There's certainly a lot of talk about personality being more important than looks etc.

I think it's wise to be a bit wary of using it as a dating site

Tbh, the same goes for the dating sites. I’ve met more guys on dating sites for hook ups and the guys I’ve met on here wanted a connection in and out of the bedroom. It’s like a reversal of what it should be.

That's interesting. Why do you think that is? Is it because in some way people feel the need to validate sex with the illusion that it is more than just a casual thing? Hence the guys on dating sites being ok with cash hook ups and the guys on here wanting to date in a sort of weird double bluff kind of way.

It’s probably more my behaviour, on dating apps I’m trying to show my naughty side and here I suppress it a bit more and try to show the ‘nice girl’ side of me. It seems to have worked better the way I do it here. Do you have sex sooner on here than on a dating site?

No. I decided this year to take things a bit slower but generally I take things slower on here. It seems to have kept interest a lot longer. Yeah because women in dating will make you wait and test your worth a lot of the time. Here can be 1 social then sex or sex straight away. If you treat them the same you have to act the same I think.

I’ve never made anyone wait but here, guys will say anything and agree that they want the same as me. I tread more carefully and spend more time getting to know and don’t always have sex quickly. Interesting, so you have sex quicker off a dating site? Yeah some men will promise you the world.

I have done. All my very long term relationships were from having sex the first night. I decided to do things differently this year. You seem the type though who is only going to be seeing 1 guy at a time. So it wouldn't dishearten some men like it might if you were seeing multiple men. Good luck

In a committed relationship then yes, up to that point, I see a few like I am now. Yeah, on here I think oh he can keep you busy when you're not with me attitude. But a lot won't and definitely not in vanilla dating.

In real world dating, it’s the same. I will go on a few dates with different people until it clicks properly with one. Never put your eggs in one basket too early on. Advice from dating experts. Yeah but do you tell the vanilla guys that? On here they could see verifications etc ignorance could be bliss for them.

I’m not on about here. I don’t do any different on here or vanilla dating. If I’ve only met someone once or twice then I may still someone else for a date. Until it’s exclusive then that’s my prerogative. Most people do it or at least in London we do, same as all big cities in the world. If they ask then I would say but they are probably multi dating initially also. It’s kike job interviews, You don’t take the first job offer you get you know. Yeah I get that but I think if some vanilla guys knew it might have an impact that's all.

Impact on what? I’m talking about just going for drinks and just general getting to know them. Not sleeping with them at the same time. "

I think if some vanilla guys who you were dating knew you were seeing other men, they might not want to see you again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a room you two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree, nearly every other message starts the same, would you like to go for dinner, would you like to meet up for a drink etc. "

I’m doing it wrong! I NEVER get dinner or drinks offers!

This is not a hint btw, well maybe not..

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Nah... Some want to find a partner to include in their kinky fuckery, (and where better to find one in a site filled with kinky fuckers?), but that doesn't mean that they don't enjoy the other delights the site has to offer too, or won't further down the line.

All these threads condemning singles for wanting a partner who already understands their kinks and have experience of the swinging lifestyle.... All they serve to do is to chase singles off the site... Singles who may have actually become swinging couples you might have enjoyed playing with in the future...

The short-sightedness astounds me at times!

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Couples looking for casual nsa sex with random singles have nowhere else to look for them other than a swinging site . It’s much the same for couples looking for couples .

Singles who are happy to be a part of this are genuine Swingles . Singles who are looking for the one to swing with together , are again , genuine Swingles . Singles who are looking for just one person to date exclusively , and who get pissed off when ‘ the one ‘ they meet on here wants to carry on meeting others , are the ones who change the focus of the site . And if the truth be known it’s pretty obvious to anyone they are on the wrong site !

I would say the latter seems to be way more prevalent than it’s ever been before .

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By *ilk_TrayMan
over a year ago

South


"You can use the site to meet your needs... each to their own

Agree. I met my partner on her. Was not looking for a relationship. But that's what happened"

Same here

Joined as a single, met my partner. Started swinging as a couple and now I’m still swinging as a single with her consent.

Do I feel Fabs is becoming a dating site?

Not really in my opinion. I have seen profiles from singles who are open to the idea of finding a partner but there’s nothing wrong with that.

As Long as people realise the nature of this site then no one gets hurt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single id say no

I have been on Pof and found it awkward explaining I didn't want dinner and drinks

Also it's much easier to be open about what you want/need sexually here

If anything I'd say 'dating' sites aren't what thy are supposed to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there sex on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there sex on here "
not for you obviously but for some yes

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"As a single id say no

I have been on Pof and found it awkward explaining I didn't want dinner and drinks

Also it's much easier to be open about what you want/need sexually here

If anything I'd say 'dating' sites aren't what thy are supposed to be "

If only you lived closer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is there sex on here not for you obviously but for some yes "

Says the guy with no verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's what you want it to be. This platform is awesome for connecting like minded people that share similar interests. I do my own thing and go with the flow.

On occasions you may come across people who you really fancy or are attracted to, but if the feelings are not mutual all you can do is be yourself and enjoy your time within the lifestyle.

Meets, socials, dating anything is possible on here that is why this is a fabulous site!

On a side note:

For the dreamers...

If you dare to dream, dream BIG because dreams do come true. Many fabbers are proof of that on here keep on fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has site has become a dating site and Facebook wrapped into one......

I personally stay away from single females on swinging sites.... the minute you have sex with them more than once... they expect you not to chat or meet anyone else....

The minute they find out you met someone else... they will start with the dumb questions..

Like did you use protection?

Was her pussy better than mine?

To avoid drama I stick with couples....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering most of the members are single why wouldn't people want to connect with someone likeminded?!

It's only natural to be drawn to people with a similar outlook and lifestyle.

Happiness should be embraced however we find it. Live and let live.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

No matter how dark a room is, once you put on the light the darkness must give way, even if the ladies say they are not interested in some sort of relationship, I have found in my journey so far that a majority of the ladies cannot operate the way the guys operate.

Guys who cannot handle multiple women at the same time have this same problem but most times it is induced by the ladies, maybe they meet a lady and would like to meet her constantly but the lady puts them to the back of the list intentionally, they then think if I offer some sort of relationship I can solve this issue. This is my opinion based on my journey so far and I find it to be true.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"This has site has become a dating site and Facebook wrapped into one......

I personally stay away from single females on swinging sites.... the minute you have sex with them more than once... they expect you not to chat or meet anyone else....

The minute they find out you met someone else... they will start with the dumb questions..

Like did you use protection?

Was her pussy better than mine?

To avoid drama I stick with couples...."

A lot of single women's hearts just broke then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d be more than happy to find a partner on here.

She’d probably be more trusting if you have the same sexual tendency

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time. "

Goods - money - goods.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Goods - money - goods.

"

No, it's the principle of it.

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By *edtothecore74Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"This has site has become a dating site and Facebook wrapped into one......

I personally stay away from single females on swinging sites.... the minute you have sex with them more than once... they expect you not to chat or meet anyone else....

The minute they find out you met someone else... they will start with the dumb questions..

Like did you use protection?

Was her pussy better than mine?

To avoid drama I stick with couples...."

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I personally find that peoples attitudes have changed morally on here, especially the men, it's like all scruples and moral have gone out the window completely.

I had one guy recently who did not understand the concept of wanting to be friends with someone I am fucking! Yeah As if all I need is a cock......I have toys for that thank you

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers "

We’re not sure - don’t people usually meet folks on dates?

We’re a couple, so don’t date other people. But there does seem to be an increase in people who could better find what they’re after elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers "

Well my Mrs is dating 5 men then!!!

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Goods - money - goods.

No, it's the principle of it."

For some people.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Goods - money - goods.

No, it's the principle of it.

For some people."

Why should some have to work harder than others though? That's a bit humbling.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers Yeah, I've been asked to take a Lady off here for dinner but I like to differentiate the two.

What if you clicked with said lady? Why miss out unless you are not wanting more. Guys who treat women differently just because they are on this site are not the kind of guy I would ever meet. Yeah, maybe but I don't like the idea of investing money then she could be off getting gangbanged the next day. I would be a mug then! Usually women you are dating aren't fucking anybody else at the time.

Goods - money - goods.

No, it's the principle of it.

For some people. Why should some have to work harder than others though? That's a bit humbling."

Just to add I'm an equal opportunities shagger

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Of course some people on here men and women, are looking to date, whether they are happy to admit that is another thing entirely!!

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

Eh been a swinger as part of a couple here for a few years, love the swinging scene so stayed as a single and have been to clubs and played since. Not that anybody wants to date me, but I'd be open to it if it came along. Makes things so much easier meeting people on the same wavelength

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone cpl or fem want to date my old man apply here could do with a night off

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Something has changed over the last year. I’m not sure what it is. Less and less people seem interested in actually meeting and fewer new people seem to be joining. There are many single ladies that are scared off after a short time. It’s a shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’ve noticed a change in the site

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has site has become a dating site and Facebook wrapped into one......

I personally stay away from single females on swinging sites.... the minute you have sex with them more than once... they expect you not to chat or meet anyone else....

The minute they find out you met someone else... they will start with the dumb questions..

Like did you use protection?

Was her pussy better than mine?

To avoid drama I stick with couples...."

I’ve had this experience a few times with single guys. Fucked them once and then they’ve spat their dummy out cos I went to a club a few days later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers "

Not for us, unless you include a good shag as part of th edate !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes

And you can shut up "

lol

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

We weren't looking to date/relationship but we didn't anticipate meeting each other. So accidental for us. But if you did want to date people with similar sexaul appitites then surely this would be great site to look? After all most of mainstream society are not swingers so a normal dating site would be a struggle to find what your looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes it could be to a point as they seek the perfect playmate or more but the reality is it more of a chat site than anything else

Utter bollocks. I chat a while to gauge some common likes, but my ultimate aim is to find someone I like enough to meet more than once."

Agreed. Try again, more utter bollocks from this poster.

It's a good job it isn't a chat site as he doesn't answer his messages anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single id say no

I have been on Pof and found it awkward explaining I didn't want dinner and drinks

Also it's much easier to be open about what you want/need sexually here

If anything I'd say 'dating' sites aren't what thy are supposed to be If only you lived closer "

Move

I'm worth it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has site has become a dating site and Facebook wrapped into one......

I personally stay away from single females on swinging sites.... the minute you have sex with them more than once... they expect you not to chat or meet anyone else....

The minute they find out you met someone else... they will start with the dumb questions..

Like did you use protection?

Was her pussy better than mine?

To avoid drama I stick with couples....

I’ve had this experience a few times with single guys. Fucked them once and then they’ve spat their dummy out cos I went to a club a few days later "

Yeah with girls met someone then met someone else for a social then went on like we was married

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"As a single id say no

I have been on Pof and found it awkward explaining I didn't want dinner and drinks

Also it's much easier to be open about what you want/need sexually here

If anything I'd say 'dating' sites aren't what thy are supposed to be If only you lived closer

Move

I'm worth it "

Have to change your username to L'Oreal. I could go on a road trip though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope that we aren't at dating stage ... I'm not ready for that ... Eski xoxo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We weren't looking to date/relationship but we didn't anticipate meeting each other. So accidental for us. But if you did want to date people with similar sexaul appitites then surely this would be great site to look? After all most of mainstream society are not swingers so a normal dating site would be a struggle to find what your looking for."

Exactly. Maybe there needs to be a dating section fof swingers or a new app.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone cpl or fem want to date my old man apply here could do with a night off "

Love this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Genuine question...From your more recent experiences...is Fab becoming more like a dating site...as opposed to platform for swinging and sex or fetish contacts?

This is not a necessarily a criticism...more of an observation.

I would be curious to guage the opinions of my peers "

Sadly, partly, as well as an outlet for the women's institute problem page and general counselling for the challenged. About the only thing it isn't is a swinging site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and also a place for men to complain that despite being a nice guy and sending a nice message women still have the audacity not to have sex with them.

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