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Winks is there any point?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I can't see the point in winks.

Someone winks you do you wink back or send a message. What if you don't get a reply

Views please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never even look to see whos winked me, i just clear them off every now and again, so theres no point sending me a wink as id never know lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i like winks, they are a tentative 'i like you.....' then if i like them back i wink back and wait for them to message me

wat i dont understand is people who wink but have no pics on their profile. how do i know if i like them or not????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

praps they've just got a squint?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we see it as abit like a smile across a crowded room

what you do after that is up to you.

is there a right or wrong way to deal with them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you enjoy them there's every point, if you don't enjoy them - ignore them.

Something for everyone - live and let live eh ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see whats wrong with them and why so many people get a cob on if you send one. Like people have said it's merely a little nudge to say "I like your profile take a look at mine". Not very worthwhile for a single bloke mind cause you're expected to put a little more effort in but for couples and single ladies I think they're worth while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never responde to a wink because im always scared they winked me by mistake and dont want me replying

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I never look at mine...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If I like the look of them I wink back. If I REALLY like the look of them, I'll message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I like the look of them I wink back. If I REALLY like the look of them, I'll message them. "

Same here - I wouldn't stress about it! Z

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By *TUNNAWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

they mean nothing to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh - if I didn't get a reply to a wink i'd be totally unconsolable and wouldn't sleep for a week, then i'd send them a message asking why oh why didn't they reply to my wink! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send a wink to say I like the sound of your profile if you feel the same about me pls wink back but a lot of women think naff you if you can't be botherd to message me stuff your WINKING ! So I've been told by some .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... im always scared they winked me by mistake and dont want me replying "

That's crazy!

I don't check them all the time. I wink at folks I've chatted to, just as a reminder to them that I'm still here Have been known to wink at someone I quite fancy, just to test the waters.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

ignore them totally[here,if someone isinterested they will message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wink to see if people are interested in my profile ,so if they wink back ireturn a message ,sometimes i send messages and they are deleted . so you take your chance

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

Really dont mind at all if we like them we'll wink back n maybe even msg them a thankyou ...they are a subtle icebreaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i wink to see if people are interested in my profile ,so if they wink back ireturn a message ,sometimes i send messages and they are deleted . so you take your chance"

Yea it's a pain in the arse when you take the time and effort to write a decent message and then it just get's deleted or not read so sometimes I'll just send a wink then if they message or wink back then I'll message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love winks.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"i never even look to see whos winked me, i just clear them off every now and again, so theres no point sending me a wink as id never know lol"

snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Winks are great, as long as they are not overused.

For me, if someone's profile matches what I'm looking for and I don't fall fowl of any of their stated requirements I will generally open up with a proper introductory message.

But if there could be a sticking point, or I'm not sure if they will be interested, I will often wink and then if I receive a wink back will send the message.

As someone else said it's like a smile over a crowded bar.

I think it everyone replied to emails, even if to say 'sorry not interested' then winking would be less important, but certainly in my experience most couples don't bother replying no matter how much thought you have put into messages, so in cases where the profile isn't an exact match, winking can be a good place to start in order to communicate to someone who actually wants to be communicated with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have never winked anyone in my fab life lol

im am now off profile perving and to send a wink to someone i fancy, i shall report back if i get a reply lol

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

sits patiently awaiting wink from naughtynymphos me thinks i could be waiting along time pmsfl

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By *stwoforfun2Couple
over a year ago

South Suffolk Area

We quite like them. Prefer a message, but still think a wink is like a smile from across the bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like them and can't see the point in them. If you wanna get in touch then message me, cos a wink means nothing to me, and a wink from 300 miles away from a blank profile makes me really wanna jump on a train and dash down there...FFS!

I always apologise if I've inadvertantly sent a wink, cos it sometimes happens when the page has shifted on the screen and I've pressed a button at the wrong time...I never, ever send them intentionally and don't like getting them either....waste of time in my book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm loving the winks myself at the moment.I hadn't been winked at for a few months then when I logged in 10 min ago noticed I had a new wink waiting for me.

Anyway I didn't get too excited about it as I've only been winked at by guys in the past.

So I was very pleasantly surprised to see I had a backlog of winks from a few lovely looking couples and one or two single females,awesome!

Don't know if there's a glitch or bug in the system but I honestly had no clue they were there as I wasn't notified of them!

Now I don't know how old these winks are but I'm going to reply by message to some of them tomorrow and hopefully they'll still be interested in taking things further.

So,my many thanks and gratitude to the guy who last winked at me,if it wasn't for your wink I would never have known about this backlog.

Cheers dude,you da man!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Considering the amounts of emails females get, and having to compose each one on the fly with the risk of not getting a reply, I like to weigh my chances.

So I wink, a gentle 'Howdy!'. If I get a wink back (or more) then its safe to proceed. If I get nothing back say after 7 days, then I move on, safe in the knowledge I had not wasted my time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite lik them, they are a friendly hello, or similar to a smile, which someone else has remarked on this thread. I don't remember to look every day, my OH tends to look more than I do.

I do wink at people myself, again its a friendly hello.

What I don't like though is people assuming ill meet them just because I've winked them. I have winked and then received messages back asking when we are going to meet without even attempting to get to know anything about us etc. My standard stock phrase is 'its a wink, a friendly hello, it does not mean I am shaving my genitals in anticipation'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we think they are fine,cant beat a good wink lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i never responde to a wink because im always scared they winked me by mistake and dont want me replying "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i never even look to see whos winked me, i just clear them off every now and again, so theres no point sending me a wink as id never know lol"

Ditto!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wat i dont understand is people who wink but have no pics on their profile. how do i know if i like them or not???? "

Exactly.. we get loads of these!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

a waste of a click of a button....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wat i dont understand is people who wink but have no pics on their profile. how do i know if i like them or not????

Exactly.. we get loads of these! "

yeah, that annoys me too. You got my attention to look at...what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a waste of a click of a button...."

Not if it ends in a meet. In fact, it all started with a click...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont mind winks, we think they are a great way to get noticed, But like one said already if people actually messaged back even if just a thx no thx we wouldnt use them, we have read many profiles saying they wont reply to mail from people they wont meet, but yet expect you to mail them lol, we wont mail anyone who states they dont reply to mail, we wink if we get winked back we,ll send mail, if we get winked at we,ll wink back and expect them to mail us, unless they awesome and we wont wait lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PEOPLE ! say winks are a waste of time , but ! I personally think of it of a way of showing i am interested , and if i get one thats how i look at them , if i see a nice lady in the street or bar i usually give them a little wink anyhow ! FRANKIE XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about if some one has a glass eye can they still wink then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say that it's a quick way to note your interest in someone without emailing them, much like having your pics fab'd it depends on the response you get with regard to if it's a waste of time or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to say that it's a quick way to note your interest in someone without emailing them, much like having your pics fab'd it depends on the response you get with regard to if it's a waste of time or not. "

Going off that profile pic id wank erm sorry I mean wink all over that gorgeous lookin female lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to say that it's a quick way to note your interest in someone without emailing them, much like having your pics fab'd it depends on the response you get with regard to if it's a waste of time or not. "

Agreed.It depends on the person doing the winking and how they personally use the function.

Some folks will just use them as a friendly hello while others will send winks to test the water so to speak.

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