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By *edtothecore74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Spalding

Consent... it really seems to be a struggle for many of those that message me to understand.

I mean seriously.... manners, respect and consent are universal.... right?

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Not every man respects women on here unfortunately. It should be a given though.

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By *edtothecore74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"Not every man respects women on here unfortunately. It should be a given though."

Exactly... and omg those that get pissy when pulled up... well... actually, those are sport lol.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Apparently if we have to establish consent then lawyers will have to be involved before men even look at women.

Or, you know, you could do the very normal thing of reading body language or asking if that's absent or unclear? Heavens above. Women. Being people with rights. Who knew?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find this more in clubs.. we’ve stopped going to clubs when single men are invited, just because they are like lemmings! Just because I’m in a club doesn’t mean my pussy is open for everyone.. talk to us.. we are human and like to have a conversation before play.. it’s all part of the banter and flirting.

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By *edtothecore74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"Apparently if we have to establish consent then lawyers will have to be involved before men even look at women.

Or, you know, you could do the very normal thing of reading body language or asking if that's absent or unclear? Heavens above. Women. Being people with rights. Who knew? "

I refer mainly to a universal boundary of consent.... ie... not being/speaking to someone in a sexual manner right off the bat....

It seems that the majority (of men, but thats my frame of reference) think a womans presence here is open season.

I am continually shocked by those that genuinely have no clue.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Apparently if we have to establish consent then lawyers will have to be involved before men even look at women.

Or, you know, you could do the very normal thing of reading body language or asking if that's absent or unclear? Heavens above. Women. Being people with rights. Who knew?

I refer mainly to a universal boundary of consent.... ie... not being/speaking to someone in a sexual manner right off the bat....

It seems that the majority (of men, but thats my frame of reference) think a womans presence here is open season.

I am continually shocked by those that genuinely have no clue."

I think to some extent being spoken to sexually is more acceptable here than elsewhere. And different people will have different comfort levels on being approached.

Like you, I hate it, and those who do it to me generally meet my block button. Which they might have figured out if they'd read my profile.

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By *edtothecore74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"I find this more in clubs.. we’ve stopped going to clubs when single men are invited, just because they are like lemmings! Just because I’m in a club doesn’t mean my pussy is open for everyone.. talk to us.. we are human and like to have a conversation before play.. it’s all part of the banter and flirting.

"

Exactly. None of my being is available to all comers simply by boon of mutual presence.

Ive had to slap back a number of grabby mcgrabbersons in club too....

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By *edtothecore74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"Apparently if we have to establish consent then lawyers will have to be involved before men even look at women.

Or, you know, you could do the very normal thing of reading body language or asking if that's absent or unclear? Heavens above. Women. Being people with rights. Who knew?

I refer mainly to a universal boundary of consent.... ie... not being/speaking to someone in a sexual manner right off the bat....

It seems that the majority (of men, but thats my frame of reference) think a womans presence here is open season.

I am continually shocked by those that genuinely have no clue.

I think to some extent being spoken to sexually is more acceptable here than elsewhere. And different people will have different comfort levels on being approached.

Like you, I hate it, and those who do it to me generally meet my block button. Which they might have figured out if they'd read my profile. "

I agree, although i do try to educate and invariably im the one that gets blocked....which i find amusing trololololol

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By *ustme6Man
over a year ago

tamworth

Was on a jury a year or so ago...where case revolved around consent...way trickier than u might imagine...guys beware

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Consent... it really seems to be a struggle for many of those that message me to understand.

I mean seriously.... manners, respect and consent are universal.... right?

"

In an ideal world yes, but you have to take into account the brain cells 75-80 percent have on here. It can be a frustrating time trying to get to the 20-25 that are ok

Just block and delete x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Apparently if we have to establish consent then lawyers will have to be involved before men even look at women.

Or, you know, you could do the very normal thing of reading body language or asking if that's absent or unclear? Heavens above. Women. Being people with rights. Who knew?

I refer mainly to a universal boundary of consent.... ie... not being/speaking to someone in a sexual manner right off the bat....

It seems that the majority (of men, but thats my frame of reference) think a womans presence here is open season.

I am continually shocked by those that genuinely have no clue.

I think to some extent being spoken to sexually is more acceptable here than elsewhere. And different people will have different comfort levels on being approached.

Like you, I hate it, and those who do it to me generally meet my block button. Which they might have figured out if they'd read my profile.

I agree, although i do try to educate and invariably im the one that gets blocked....which i find amusing trololololol"

I don't think they're worth it. Either some women do appreciate their sex scenes out of a horror film, or they don't fully appreciate that we have our own thoughts and desires and thus are within our rights to refuse their "charming" offers.

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

You ask if you can touch, play or watch anyone in or out of a club.

If there is a hint of one partner not being able to freely consent or I feel being able to remember giving their consent, then it’s a no from me.

Same applies if the woman asks me to play / join her / them.

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By *edtothecore74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"Consent... it really seems to be a struggle for many of those that message me to understand.

I mean seriously.... manners, respect and consent are universal.... right?

In an ideal world yes, but you have to take into account the brain cells 75-80 percent have on here. It can be a frustrating time trying to get to the 20-25 that are ok

Just block and delete x"

No.... ive dealt with many a man and educated him.... its not rocket science. If i have the time i will put good vibes out there for the next lady they contact, and the one after that... yadda yadda

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By *edtothecore74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"You ask if you can touch, play or watch anyone in or out of a club.

If there is a hint of one partner not being able to freely consent or I feel being able to remember giving their consent, then it’s a no from me.

Same applies if the woman asks me to play / join her / them. "

Agreed... but what about online consent?

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By *edtothecore74 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Spalding


"Was on a jury a year or so ago...where case revolved around consent...way trickier than u might imagine...guys beware"

Interesting. Id love to know more. Not the juicy details, but what you learnt about consent etc

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Consent... it really seems to be a struggle for many of those that message me to understand.

I mean seriously.... manners, respect and consent are universal.... right?

"

Not for everyone sadly some think its just about what they want

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"I find this more in clubs.. we’ve stopped going to clubs when single men are invited, just because they are like lemmings! Just because I’m in a club doesn’t mean my pussy is open for everyone.. talk to us.. we are human and like to have a conversation before play.. it’s all part of the banter and flirting. "

The old thing we paid doesn’t matter how we behave or how grotesque we are it’s our right to grab you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I find this more in clubs.. we’ve stopped going to clubs when single men are invited, just because they are like lemmings! Just because I’m in a club doesn’t mean my pussy is open for everyone.. talk to us.. we are human and like to have a conversation before play.. it’s all part of the banter and flirting.

The old thing we paid doesn’t matter how we behave or how grotesque we are it’s our right to grab you "

I suspect taxes paid towards the creation of laws and the enforcement in the courts is way more than club fees. If we really must look at it in monetary terms, rather than people being entitled to respect and autonomy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree entirely with you, consent should never be implied it should always be sought after and given. It’s not just in a sexual way either if you want to take something you ask the person first you don’t just take it or was I raised differently

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