FabSwingers.com forum: Fab insecurities

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you ever get weird Fab insecurities popping up out of nowhere? I’m currently stressing about my bj skills and how tight my fanny is (or is not).

I may just have too much time on my hands..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get weird Fab insecurities popping up out of nowhere? I’m currently stressing about my bj skills and how tight my fanny is (or is not).

I may just have too much time on my hands.."

I think most of us get these and other insecurity s, but the way I look at it is most guys I meet with want to come back for more so I guess i can't be that bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes when i come accross a lass whos not as orgasmic as im used to but it adds to the challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never as each meet is different some great some average some terrible just like all aspects of life.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I've sometimes worried about cumming too quickly when playing with certain lady friends only to find out that they see it as a compliment that I've been so aroused by them that I couldn't hold back.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Nope, I know I'm quite rubbish at blow jobs. I'm good at lots of other things though so I don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get weird Fab insecurities popping up out of nowhere? I’m currently stressing about my bj skills and how tight my fanny is (or is not).

I may just have too much time on my hands.."

Everyone will have them at times. It's called being human and having feelings

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I worry that I'm going to meet a nutcase that's going to hurt me or even kill me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I worry that I'm going to meet a nutcase that's going to hurt me or even kill me

I doubt you're alone there, I do too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get weird Fab insecurities popping up out of nowhere? I’m currently stressing about my bj skills and how tight my fanny is (or is not).

I may just have too much time on my hands.."

If you need someone to dispel those myths, let me know. I might know someone

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By *W1967Man
over a year ago

South Leicestershire

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No, I don't. I'm pretty sure that most people on fab overstate the skills and attractiveness of the people they've met and that transfers to verifications.

I think I'm good enough for the people we meet.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I worry that I'm going to meet a nutcase that's going to hurt me or even kill me

I doubt you're alone there, I do too

I'm glad I'm not the only one, sometimes I think I'm a bit ott!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know I'm not good at BJs though I do find the odd person that doesn't mind me practising

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I worry that I'm going to meet a nutcase that's going to hurt me or even kill me

I doubt you're alone there, I do too

I'm glad I'm not the only one, sometimes I think I'm a bit ott!"

There is loads of scenarios like this, just have to choose wisely I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had this profile over a year and not met anyone because I’m too insecure to even message anyone I spend time writing out messages then never send them not because I’m afraid of rejection more I’m afraid I won’t stack up to their previous meets and they won’t want to meet me again I’m not small in the trouser department but I’m not big either and when I see women or couples asking for a hung man it puts me off even more as I have no idea if I’m hung or not

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

I'm just insecure about my looks really ..almost to paranoia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a Netflix series called Black Mirror, which has a different (unrelated) theme/idea for each episode. One of the episode saw a sanitised world where everyone rated one another using a handheld device....the end result is that you get a score between 1-5.

Everyone sought to be above a 4...if you slipped below a 3, you'd have trouble in your day to day (like renting a car "Sorry sir, youre less than a 3").

Reading some of the profile verifications on here, it strikes me we're all heading that way.....ultimately, everyone will probably end having a personal score/review (not sure there'll be a category for fanny tightness or BJ skills though)

Welcome to the future....it's great to be back.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There's a Netflix series called Black Mirror, which has a different (unrelated) theme/idea for each episode. One of the episode saw a sanitised world where everyone rated one another using a handheld device....the end result is that you get a score between 1-5.

Everyone sought to be above a 4...if you slipped below a 3, you'd have trouble in your day to day (like renting a car "Sorry sir, youre less than a 3").

Welcome to the future....it's great to be back."

People already talk in terms of leagues on here and punching above their weight.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Nope ....

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

Everyone sought to be above a 4...if you slipped below a 3, you'd have trouble in your day to day (like renting a car "Sorry sir, youre less than a 3").

Welcome to the future....it's great to be back."

Have you read about what they have introduced in China? Everyone is "scored" as to whether they are leading a "good"life or not - eg if thy watch too many video games they get a bad score; eg if they give blood they get a "good" score.

Over 21 million people have been refused flights as their "score" isn't high enough.

Source: The Week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone sought to be above a 4...if you slipped below a 3, you'd have trouble in your day to day (like renting a car "Sorry sir, youre less than a 3").

Welcome to the future....it's great to be back."

Sounds like reality.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think on fab as in the rest of life you have to be the best you can be and realise that it's good enough. If we were contacted by someone who was asking for a certain attribute I knew I didn't have we just wouldn't meet them. That doesn't mean I'm a lesser person it just means my talents lay elsewhere.p

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Everyone sought to be above a 4...if you slipped below a 3, you'd have trouble in your day to day (like renting a car "Sorry sir, youre less than a 3").

Welcome to the future....it's great to be back."
Hang the DJ, it's a good episode

Women start on about a 15 here though.

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By *andtsurreyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

I'm the worst for this and have considered quitting Fabs because of it. Although there are loads of supportive messages for bigger girls there are also loads of abusive posts on the forums too. For some reason my brain ignores the good comments and concentrates on the negative ones.

I realise i shouldn't worry about what complete strangers type but I still do.

Time for a new hobby perhaps!

T xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think on fab as in the rest of life you have to be the best you can be and realise that it's good enough. If we were contacted by someone who was asking for a certain attribute I knew I didn't have we just wouldn't meet them. That doesn't mean I'm a lesser person it just means my talents lay elsewhere.p"

I can't compete so I don't.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I can't compete so I don't. "

I sometimes wonder if I just don't care enough about what other people think about me or I'm not competitive.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I can't compete so I don't. "

Also Ms Heels there's no clear idea on here of what the "competition" is. It's all smoke and mirrors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only insecurity I have really is my height 5'7 not just on here Ive had quite a few women say sorry I don't go with anyone under 5'10 or you are too short .... lol okay I now just think of it as your loss I've got plenty more qualities that tower my height

Try and turn whatever is against you into a positive thats my advice to anyone on here that struggles.

I understand people have preferences too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for some interesting and honest posts. I’ve heard about the China scoring system too. Truly terrifying.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

Everyone sought to be above a 4...if you slipped below a 3, you'd have trouble in your day to day (like renting a car "Sorry sir, youre less than a 3").

Welcome to the future....it's great to be back.

People already talk in terms of leagues on here and punching above their weight."

Whilst some of us dont give a feck! we are what we are take us or leave us!!!!

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Found the opposite, confidence boosting on here & in clubs. Was feeling age, gravity, extra pounds but this lifestyle is awesome with compliments

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By *aughty_Nat69Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Do you ever get weird Fab insecurities popping up out of nowhere? I’m currently stressing about my bj skills and how tight my fanny is (or is not).

I may just have too much time on my hands.."

Yeah totally. After read veri’s and what guys say about every girl, I struggle to believe any compliment I get. I default to, just saying that to get into my pants. Nothing special about me, they say the same to all the girls.

My tummy is my worst part! Always worry about that in meets xxx

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Do you ever get weird Fab insecurities popping up out of nowhere? I’m currently stressing about my bj skills and how tight my fanny is (or is not).

I may just have too much time on my hands..

My tummy is my worst part! Always worry about that in meets xxx"

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"Do you ever get weird Fab insecurities popping up out of nowhere? I’m currently stressing about my bj skills and how tight my fanny is (or is not).

I may just have too much time on my hands..

My tummy is my worst part! Always worry about that in meets xxx"

My hubby calls mine sexy squidge

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I'm the worst for this and have considered quitting Fabs because of it. Although there are loads of supportive messages for bigger girls there are also loads of abusive posts on the forums too. For some reason my brain ignores the good comments and concentrates on the negative ones.

I realise i shouldn't worry about what complete strangers type but I still do.

Time for a new hobby perhaps!

T xx"

Just had look through your pictures and think you look amazing. Absolutely nothing to be insecure about.

For me Fab has the opposite effect. Had some really nice compliments, that have made me feel a lot better about how I look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know I'm not good at BJs though I do find the odd person that doesn't mind me practising "

Haha I am sure you will have plenty of volunteers willing to help you practice, can I be first in the queue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I worry they'll be disappointed I'm not naturally sexy. I'm alright at posing but kinda goofy when I move

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I worry they'll be disappointed I'm not naturally sexy. I'm alright at posing but kinda goofy when I move

Do you think everyone else on fab is naturally sexy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not getting meets adds to my insecurities. If I put people off before I even meet them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I worry they'll be disappointed I'm not naturally sexy. I'm alright at posing but kinda goofy when I move

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and you can't half pose, very sexy.

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Never had Fab insecurities so far but now having insecurities about not having Fab insecurities after reading this.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"I worry they'll be disappointed I'm not naturally sexy. I'm alright at posing but kinda goofy when I move

Bet your not goofy at all

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

No because i think after you have met lots of different people you realise that its better with some than others, same as it is for them too, its to do with how compatable you are and the mood you are in at the time i guess and even if the sex was good it doesnt mean you will want to meet each other again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never had Fab insecurities so far but now having insecurities about not having Fab insecurities after reading this.

No don’t. It was a late night post. A weak moment.

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By *andtsurreyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

I realise i shouldn't worry about what complete strangers type but I still do.

Time for a new hobby perhaps!

T xx

Just had look through your pictures and think you look amazing. Absolutely nothing to be insecure about.

For me Fab has the opposite effect. Had some really nice compliments, that have made me feel a lot better about how I look. XX"

Aw thank you, that's lovely xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I worry they'll be disappointed I'm not naturally sexy. I'm alright at posing but kinda goofy when I move

Do you think everyone else on fab is naturally sexy?"

No but I don't think insecurities work like that. I know there are other people out there who don't like their noses too but it doesn't make me dislike mine less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I worry they'll be disappointed I'm not naturally sexy. I'm alright at posing but kinda goofy when I move

That in itself is quite sexy

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I worry guys will be put off by my apalling mummy tummy and stretch marks. Hence why there are nonfull frontal nude pics on my profile...

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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

"I worry they'll be disappointed I'm not naturally sexy. I'm alright at posing but kinda goofy when I move

Blame porn, nobody really moves as sexy as in porn except porn stars and dancers. I'm sure you're sexy AF whatever you do if your pictures are anything to go by.

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

"I worry guys will be put off by my apalling mummy tummy and stretch marks. Hence why there are nonfull frontal nude pics on my profile...

I've checked every one of your pics and not once was I put off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To quote a well used phrase...'your height doesn't really matter if yo are laying down'....

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By *owhard007Man
over a year ago

leeds

"I worry guys will be put off by my apalling mummy tummy and stretch marks. Hence why there are nonfull frontal nude pics on my profile...

There a part of who you are love. You can't beat a hummy mummy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I worry guys will be put off by my apalling mummy tummy and stretch marks. Hence why there are nonfull frontal nude pics on my profile...

I've checked every one of your pics and not once was I put off. "

Same you have a beautiful body I would never be put off by a 'mummy tummy' or stretch marks natures events make us who we are how we look its beautiful in my opinion x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To quote a well used phrase...'your height doesn't really matter if yo are laying down'...."

Yes!! thats great

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By *andtsurreyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

"I worry guys will be put off by my apalling mummy tummy and stretch marks. Hence why there are nonfull frontal nude pics on my profile...

Please don't ever feel insecure, you look utterly stunning.

T xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently had that with someone I was arranging to meet. Looked at the verifications he had been given by the hot young slim ladies and suddenly felt inadequate.

Moral of the story for me? Don't look!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realise i shouldn't worry about what complete strangers type but I still do.

Time for a new hobby perhaps!

T xx"

I’ve just had a peek at your pics T. You have a gorgeous body. X rated thoughts going through my mind!

Miss V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get weird Fab insecurities popping up out of nowhere? I’m currently stressing about my bj skills and how tight my fanny is (or is not).

I may just have too much time on my hands.."

Totally!!...just had profile hidden and stayed away for a couple of days because of it!!

Ridiculous really but think a lot of us have those sort of moments!! Have had a good talking to myself now though and back out in the open!! Lol!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I worry they'll be disappointed I'm not naturally sexy. I'm alright at posing but kinda goofy when I move

Do you think everyone else on fab is naturally sexy?

No but I don't think insecurities work like that. I know there are other people out there who don't like their noses too but it doesn't make me dislike mine less. "

Its not about other people not liking their nose its about recognising that very few noses are perfect.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I look at other guys in clubs and see them tatts and huge muscles and I think who would want to play with me

Clearly some people do like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I look at other guys in clubs and see them tatts and huge muscles and I think who would want to play with me

Clearly some people do like me

We all prefer different flavours at different times

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"I look at other guys in clubs and see them tatts and huge muscles and I think who would want to play with me

Clearly some people do like me

We all prefer different flavours at different times "

Agreed, sometimes I prefer to watch some times I like to join in.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Recently had that with someone I was arranging to meet. Looked at the verifications he had been given by the hot young slim ladies and suddenly felt inadequate.

Moral of the story for me? Don't look! "

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By *andtsurreyCouple
over a year ago

Torbay

"I’ve just had a peek at your pics T. You have a gorgeous body. X rated thoughts going through my mind!

Miss V x"

Thank you my lovely, you've cheered me up no end

T xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Found the opposite, confidence boosting on here & in clubs. Was feeling age, gravity, extra pounds but this lifestyle is awesome with compliments

Likewise x

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I worry guys will be put off by my apalling mummy tummy and stretch marks. Hence why there are nonfull frontal nude pics on my profile...

Please don't ever feel insecure, you look utterly stunning.

T xx "

Awwwww thank you

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

I don't care as long as I cum... Jobs a good un

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm..I guess. After my last bulking season,I was insecure at being seen naked but not sure that was just fab orientated.

In all honesty, as long as Adam appreciates me and likes what I have to offer.. I'm happy!

Eve. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone sought to be above a 4...if you slipped below a 3, you'd have trouble in your day to day (like renting a car "Sorry sir, youre less than a 3").

Welcome to the future....it's great to be back.

People already talk in terms of leagues on here and punching above their weight.

Whilst some of us dont give a feck! we are what we are take us or leave us!!!!

this i like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's been one occasion I did for a few months about the size of my chopper after someone said some particularly nasty things to me.

That's in the past and now you either like me for me or you don't. No insecurities at all, someone will always like you for you. No point worrying about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve just had a peek at your pics T. You have a gorgeous body. X rated thoughts going through my mind!

Miss V x

Thank you my lovely, you've cheered me up no end

T xx "

As your pictures did me

V xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmmm..I guess. After my last bulking season,I was insecure at being seen naked but not sure that was just fab orientated.

In all honesty, as long as Adam appreciates me and likes what I have to offer.. I'm happy!

Eve. x"

Both got great bodies! I am currently bulking for a few months I no how you feel lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you ever get weird Fab insecurities popping up out of nowhere? I’m currently stressing about my bj skills and how tight my fanny is (or is not).

I may just have too much time on my hands.."
Yep I'm guessing over thinking, go to a club that appears to be the stock cure here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In truth fab has helped me accept my shortfalls and embrace the little things and the joy they can bring.

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