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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay after having had what has to be the most up themselves message I have ever possibly had on fab in all my years I have to say something...( as not been the only one over the last two weeks)

Us women swinging with partners are rarely if ever swinging because our partners dont do it for us... We are not doing it because we are missing out... We are doing it because we want to.. because it excites us... because its impossible to do some of the things we want to do with just ourselves.

I know its different for everyone.. but I am not sure why single guys dont get why it offends me when they suggest that I am on here because my Master cant satisfy me..

This is far far from the truth and actually my Master is the only man I have ever met that if I was asked to only have him for the rest of my life that I would be satisfied and content.

I can have 20 guys and still need my master to satisfy me after.. as its just different...

I know everyone is here for their own reasons... and I would think that most on here as couples are not on here because there own partner does not do it for them...

BTW the message was from a guy been on for over a year and no veries.. so no doubt his attitude has put off many others too.. lol

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Well apparently I am deluded because I think that sex is mostly in the mind.. ???

for me if I connect on more than a physical level... ie turn my mind on. then its a million times better.. trouble is no one knows you as well as your loving partner.. ( or your main sexual partner ) and the fact is no matter how fantastic a guy is.. he is never going to be "Better" or give me such an intense time.. because I dont have the connection ...

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Agreed 100%

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

anyone for a game of twister??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"anyone for a game of twister?? "

I used to be good at Kerplunk, but didn't always win...

Wolf

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"

Well apparently I am deluded because I think that sex is mostly in the mind.. ???

for me if I connect on more than a physical level... ie turn my mind on. then its a million times better.. trouble is no one knows you as well as your loving partner.. ( or your main sexual partner ) and the fact is no matter how fantastic a guy is.. he is never going to be "Better" or give me such an intense time.. because I dont have the connection ...

Agreed 100%"

+1

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By *weet threesome wifeCouple
over a year ago

north west nothern ireland

i can idintafy with that, we had a few guys now comin off with the' i will show u how sex should be done, and that he felt sorry for me needin to play with other guys as cos if i was with him i'd need no one else, it is soooooo feckin anoyin they dont have the brains to get it

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By *iceguydaveMan
over a year ago

Monmouth


"

Well apparently I am deluded because I think that sex is mostly in the mind.. ???

for me if I connect on more than a physical level... ie turn my mind on. then its a million times better.. "

Isabel Allende once said "For women the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time."

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By *isub69Man
over a year ago

Epsom

Some people on this site really are deluded and can't handle rejection.

I am always shocked when I see threads like this one as it makes me wonder how some people think they are going to come across as someone people want to meet.

At least you can always block them.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

It's not men who fail to understand, it is one of the vanilla mentalities which fails to understand.... plenty of women have a similar mindset too.

If you are getting what you need from your partner... be that male or female.... why would you need or even want sex with other people.

Joining a swinging site does not a swinger make.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"

Well apparently I am deluded because I think that sex is mostly in the mind.. ???

for me if I connect on more than a physical level... ie turn my mind on. then its a million times better.. trouble is no one knows you as well as your loving partner.. ( or your main sexual partner ) and the fact is no matter how fantastic a guy is.. he is never going to be "Better" or give me such an intense time.. because I dont have the connection ...

Agreed 100%

+1"

One of the quickest ways to get blocked in chat by me is to suggest there must be something wrong with kev...and it happens all to often.Do these men never think that he can and does fuck me when i am off cam...not for their satisfaction on cam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Joining a swinging site does not a swinger make."

Oh so very true xx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

OK...the abusive posts have been removed as calling another member disgusting names isn't allowed.

The subject is a good one....but if the slagging off of the person carries on then the thread will end up pulled.

If you are going to dicuss the subject , please don't discuss the man himself , just the subject.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its not all men, its some men. It tends to be the single ones that have never swung with a partner or who say if i had a partner i wouldnt swing. These are not swingers. Many on this site use it as an inbetween relationship looking for sex. These are the ones that also tend to think that they are going to get an easy lay. Then come on the forums moaning cause they are getting nothing from the site

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

[Removed by poster at 03/01/12 12:40:14]

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Its not all men, its some men. It tends to be the single ones that have never swung with a partner or who say if i had a partner i wouldnt swing. These are not swingers. Many on this site use it as an inbetween relationship looking for sex. These are the ones that also tend to think that they are going to get an easy lay. Then come on the forums moaning cause they are getting nothing from the site"

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP question....yes we have had this too and I do get defensive of Mr R when it happens.

On another site we had someone on a forum say it, the couple were looking for another female to play with, but so it seems they didn't think that they were looking for females as the wife can't satisfy the man and got angry when asked if that was the case...funny old world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the OP question....yes we have had this too and I do get defensive of Mr R when it happens.

On another site we had someone on a forum say it, the couple were looking for another female to play with, but so it seems they didn't think that they were looking for females as the wife can't satisfy the man and got angry when asked if that was the case...funny old world."

You get defensive and then they take that as your scared to try them because of course they cant see how anyone is better than them..

I simply told the guy messaging that if he can make me cum by talking in my ear then he was good.. lol

cali, x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I simply told the guy messaging that if he can make me cum by talking in my ear then he was good.. lol

cali, x"

Send me ya phone number xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I simply told the guy messaging that if he can make me cum by talking in my ear then he was good.. lol

cali, x

Send me ya phone number xx "

hahaha.. that actually made me really LOL... Master can do it as he has a word or two that works as an orgasm trigger its really good unless I am out somewhere public.. lol

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a few descent single guys on here although a lot that come across as far less sexually experienced and open than they like to portray in the profiles. I think a bad sexual attitude is going to lead to some pretty bad sex so they often don't get a look in and then bitch about it afterwards.

It's more of a Dom/sub thing for us when we play with guys so guys will false egos get shot down by me pretty quick

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh dont think this is me bashing single guys.. I only really play with single guys..and have met lots of lovely ones..

but lately there has been an increase in guys offering me the fuck of a lifetime because I must not be getting it properly at home..

When I put them straight they can get quite nasty about it.. I wouldnt mind but I bet I have had more men and more experience than they could imagine.. so when they tell me I know nothing about sex it does amuse me..

not least the fact I used to work as a sexual therapist lol

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the problem with free sites is there will always be chancers who understand nothing about sex apart from the put it in, cum and pull it out I got mine mentality. I think we've been quite lucky in general and most guys I've spoken with are always okay with being more sub when it comes to play than what they have advertised.

Having said all this at least you are not getting messages like some of the other kink sites continuously asking if they can be your toilet slave

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Having said all this at least you are not getting messages like some of the other kink sites continuously asking if they can be your toilet slave "

oh no I just get wannabe doms saying I will train you to be an obedient little fuck toy... They get even more offended when I the slave, dare to point out they couldnt dom me with their best attempts..

It takes all sorts.. and it doesnt really upset me or really offend me.. just think that if one single guy reads this and then thinks. ohhhhh my attitude is wrong.. then maybe I have done some good..

HOwever the guys that think like that.. wont have their attitude corrected by me.. lol

ohhhhh shame I cant send them all to sassy.. I am not into guys being dominated but some of these I would enjoy seeing their submission lol

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha indeed. You would be suprised at how many of these so called Doms suddenly wither when I answer the door with an erection and tell them to get undressed. They all secretly love the roles switching and find most 'doms' make better subs than men openly expressing themselves as sub. Saying this though we are having fun and can usually tell through a few messages whether someone is going to be able to cope with us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay after having had what has to be the most up themselves message I have ever possibly had on fab in all my years I have to say something...( as not been the only one over the last two weeks)

Us women swinging with partners are rarely if ever swinging because our partners dont do it for us... We are not doing it because we are missing out... We are doing it because we want to.. because it excites us... because its impossible to do some of the things we want to do with just ourselves.

I know its different for everyone.. but I am not sure why single guys dont get why it offends me when they suggest that I am on here because my Master cant satisfy me..

This is far far from the truth and actually my Master is the only man I have ever met that if I was asked to only have him for the rest of my life that I would be satisfied and content.

I can have 20 guys and still need my master to satisfy me after.. as its just different...

I know everyone is here for their own reasons... and I would think that most on here as couples are not on here because there own partner does not do it for them...

BTW the message was from a guy been on for over a year and no veries.. so no doubt his attitude has put off many others too.. lol

Cali x"

Absolutely, totally agree!! It annoys the life out of me when I get messages like "Let me come show your hubby how it's meant to be done!" (yes that was an actual message)... I think some lads on here must be retarded!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not all men, its some men. It tends to be the single ones that have never swung with a partner or who say if i had a partner i wouldnt swing. These are not swingers. Many on this site use it as an inbetween relationship looking for sex. These are the ones that also tend to think that they are going to get an easy lay. Then come on the forums moaning cause they are getting nothing from the site"

And yet that is not the attitude of the OP. OP did not say some men, or a few men, OP said men.......

Some men are nobs, some aren't. Some women are nobs, some aren't/ Some couples are nobs, some aren't. C'est la vie.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Absolutely, totally agree!! It annoys the life out of me when I get messages like "Let me come show your hubby how it's meant to be done!" (yes that was an actual message)... I think some lads on here must be retarded!!"

I have had messages almost word for word on that a few times lol

Block button is best bet.. but sometimes my defensive nature takes over..

To Bukkakeslut.. I only really have a power exchange dynamic with my Master.. and know that he would not submit to anyone in anyway.. and its actually I believe the only reason my submission is triggered by My Master.

as I am not submissive to others at all.. even struggle a little when I have to be because I have been told they will be dominating me.. as if they have an even slight hint to them that I could dominate them.. I cant take them seriously

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally get you Cali

We have been approached by someone on here who had the words bull and Dom several times in their profile asking me if I could breed them whilst they fucked my wife

I think most men now use the term Dom loosely as they genuinely believe it's what women are looking for and half of said crowd could not even hint at the mentality behind the label.

We will carry on finding the few gems on here

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Okay after having had what has to be the most up themselves message I have ever possibly had on fab in all my years I have to say something...( as not been the only one over the last two weeks)

Us women swinging with partners are rarely if ever swinging because our partners dont do it for us... We are not doing it because we are missing out... We are doing it because we want to.. because it excites us... because its impossible to do some of the things we want to do with just ourselves.

I know its different for everyone.. but I am not sure why single guys dont get why it offends me when they suggest that I am on here because my Master cant satisfy me..

This is far far from the truth and actually my Master is the only man I have ever met that if I was asked to only have him for the rest of my life that I would be satisfied and content.

I can have 20 guys and still need my master to satisfy me after.. as its just different...

I know everyone is here for their own reasons... and I would think that most on here as couples are not on here because there own partner does not do it for them...

BTW the message was from a guy been on for over a year and no veries.. so no doubt his attitude has put off many others too.. lol

Cali x

Absolutely, totally agree!! It annoys the life out of me when I get messages like "Let me come show your hubby how it's meant to be done!" (yes that was an actual message)... I think some lads on here must be retarded!!"

I think some (not all) single men assume the male half of the couple must be a bit of a cuckold if he lets other men join him and his partner for sex. Thus the let me show him how it is done type talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

couldn't agree more hunny

my biggest bug bear is the fact they message us as if i'm a single fem not even aknowledging the fact we are a couple really drives me batty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not all men, its some men. It tends to be the single ones that have never swung with a partner or who say if i had a partner i wouldnt swing. These are not swingers. Many on this site use it as an inbetween relationship looking for sex. These are the ones that also tend to think that they are going to get an easy lay. Then come on the forums moaning cause they are getting nothing from the site"

Nail on head.

Him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Well apparently I am deluded because I think that sex is mostly in the mind.. ???

for me if I connect on more than a physical level... ie turn my mind on. then its a million times better..

Isabel Allende once said "For women the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time." "

I couldn't agree more. Hence I make sure my vocabulary and imagination speak for me...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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I think some (not all) single men assume the male half of the couple must be a bit of a cuckold if he lets other men join him and his partner for sex. Thus the let me show him how it is done type talk. "

Oh I get sometimes the why.. but My Master is always willing to show men how its done at clubs and parties.. funny I actually offer these guys this from time to time.. and none ever take me up on the offer..

But the thing is my profile clearly states that Master is my Master..and clearly not a cuckhold so I just assume they havent read my profile too..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have also experienced this, I think most couples have.

We have had great threesomes with some absolutely lovely guys but whilst I had a great time, it will never be as good as with my OH. Simply because no other man is him. I get very offended if guys say this to me, how dare they think I would ever entertain them being dismissive of my partner or even believe. I am lacking in satisfaction at home.

We swing simply because my OH does not have two cocks and we like the naughtiness of swinging and love the club atmosphere. Swinging is a hobby, not a quest for satisfaction

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


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Isabel Allende once said "For women the best aphrodisiacs are words. The G-spot is in the ears. He who looks for it below there is wasting his time." "

This works for me!

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Totally get you Cali

We have been approached by someone on here who had the words bull and Dom several times in their profile asking me if I could breed them whilst they fucked my wife

I think most men now use the term Dom loosely as they genuinely believe it's what women are looking for and half of said crowd could not even hint at the mentality behind the label.

We will carry on finding the few gems on here "

Auntie jems first rule of internet bdsm, if they have Dom or bull i their user name, they arent one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how is it then that i dont get women msging me saying "that girl of urs must be crap, let me bang ur knob"? eh? .... sexism thats what that is.... bitches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mr b here

ark at the mrs

like she acknoleges were a couple pffft from the decision maker lol

love you my sweet

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