FabSwingers.com forum: NSA / FwB and cuddles after sex

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wondered what people’s boundaries are on cuddles and affection in a no strings attached/ friends with benefits arrangement.

Do you think it leads to blurred lines, as cuddles = dopamine & serotonin = emotional attachment?

Do you think women find it harder to cuddle after sex and not feel some attachment or is it the same for guys.

Or can some people enjoy a cuddle after a meet and not feel anything?

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By *omewhatSlightlyDazedMan
over a year ago

Warwick Birmingham & YamYamLand

"Just wondered what people’s boundaries are on cuddles and affection in a no strings attached/ friends with benefits arrangement.

Do you think it leads to blurred lines, as cuddles = dopamine & serotonin = emotional attachment?

Do you think women find it harder to cuddle after sex and not feel some attachment or is it the same for guys.

Or can some people enjoy a cuddle after a meet and not feel anything? "

I can enjoy a cuddle after sex and not feel attachment, it's just nice. Best is when it leads to round 2 then more cuddles and so on

Hadn't really thought about it tho so I'm interested in seeing people's opinions on this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not interested in cuddles after. It would get in the way of me instantly falling asleep.

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

Cuddles and chat after. Got to have time to recover for round 2... And 3... And 4...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can enjoy a cuddle after sex and not feel attachment, it's just nice. Best is when it leads to round 2 then more cuddles and so on

Hadn't really thought about it tho so I'm interested in seeing people's opinions on this"

I’m interested in the subject too as had different experiences from guys, some who cuddle a lot and some quite cold after sex. But I guess it means you have to be quite honest with yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddles then pizza and I'm in!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

It depends on the relationship, totally - I love cuddling but it feels completely different with different people, because I feel differently about them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not interested in cuddles after. It would get in the way of me instantly falling asleep."

That is so funny

I was in Glasgow two weekends ago !! Went to Cj’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can enjoy a cuddle after sex and not feel attachment, it's just nice. Best is when it leads to round 2 then more cuddles and so on

Hadn't really thought about it tho so I'm interested in seeing people's opinions on this"

Agreed! I think people really overestimate how many women get attached and how easily too. I’ve had a lot of men become too attached too quickly (some before I’ve even slept with them, just been discussing a fwb type situation).

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

I love a good cuddle afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love cuddles afterwards. It wouldn't make me attached. It just feels normal to have a cuddle.

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By *owhard007Man
over a year ago

leeds

"Cuddles and chat after. Got to have time to recover for round 2... And 3... And 4..."

Couldn't agree with you more.

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By *ensualgent38Man
over a year ago

London, Edinburgh

Cuddles after. Always preferable.

Her head on my shoulder, stroking my chest. Chatting on. Relaxed. Sated.

Really rather lovely

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By *omewhatSlightlyDazedMan
over a year ago

Warwick Birmingham & YamYamLand

I like to be big spoon and slowly run my fingertips up and down your side. I think I've got a knack for this as it usually leads to more sex and I've had good feedback

Its not normally me that needs the recovery time

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By *omewhatSlightlyDazedMan
over a year ago

Warwick Birmingham & YamYamLand

"Cuddles after. Always preferable.

Her head on my shoulder, stroking my chest. Chatting on. Relaxed. Sated.

Really rather lovely

And this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. Why wouldn't you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love cuddling afterwards. I don't feel attached in general. Just more attached in the moment. I care for those I meet. They are my friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cuddles are important

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

It all depends on the situation - it can feel a bit awkward when another man's wife wants to cuddle up after with me when he's watching!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It all depends on the situation - it can feel a bit awkward when another man's wife wants to cuddle up after with me when he's watching!

Big turn for me

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By *ribsaMan
over a year ago

A box at end of your bed

I love a good cuddle before during and after sex it just much nicer that a fuck me and get off get out. Don't think it makes things complicated if your both happy with that situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only way to go after a fun session head on guys shoulder fingers running across his chest and chatting.

Often leads to round 2.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not really interested in cuddles with anyone but Mr N.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

I think men are more likely to get attached via cuddling because they are the ones who tend to be more against it.

I love cuddles, hugs,and affection and can do that with anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done in the past, I don't mind abit but I'm not cuddling for ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love cuddling afterwards. I don't feel attached in general. Just more attached in the moment. I care for those I meet. They are my friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to cuddles and it doesn't mean you're attached, just a good way to finishing off. I hope you ladies like kissing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cuddles and chat after. Got to have time to recover for round 2... And 3... And 4...

Couldn't agree with you more. "

Agreed

I would say it would be weird not to have some emotion after. I personally do enjoy banter, cuddles, giggles inbetween.

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By *hunterMan
over a year ago

here n there

Cuddling is the best n then onto round 2

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

I like to spoon and cuddle after nooky in an MMF,

It’s just natural instinct... doesn’t mean I’m confused that the man next to me is my hubby and the one on the other side of the spoon is a “friend”

We are only human after all, do what comes natural to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends on the dynamic between me and the guy.... Some guys I just wanna have a bit of banter with, fuck the living daylights out of and send him on his way so I can chill with a cuppa... Others I wanna chat with, fuck the living daylights out of then cuddle up with n have a cuppa together, possibly before another round... My fwb I cuddle up to every night we watch crap tv, eat dinner, fuck, play video games, watch you tube, fuck, snuggle, chat, sleep.... Different things for different people... But I am built for cuddles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It all depends on the dynamic between me and the guy.... Some guys I just wanna have a bit of banter with, fuck the living daylights out of and send him on his way so I can chill with a cuppa... Others I wanna chat with, fuck the living daylights out of then cuddle up with n have a cuppa together, possibly before another round... My fwb I cuddle up to every night we watch crap tv, eat dinner, fuck, play video games, watch you tube, fuck, snuggle, chat, sleep.... Different things for different people... But I am built for cuddles

A cuppa that's a game changer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cuddles and chat after. Got to have time to recover for round 2... And 3... And 4...

Couldn't agree with you more.

Agreed

I would say it would be weird not to have some emotion after. I personally do enjoy banter, cuddles, giggles inbetween."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A cuppa that's a game changer

I am a tea addict, so ya know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No cuddling for me , after I cum ... I’m getting dressed and out the door...

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By *nicorn on wheelsWoman
over a year ago

scotland

I am a bit weird about cuddling, spooning etc but tbh I’m not a very affectionate person in general unless I’ve already got the feelings there and even then that’s been extremely rare in my life. I agree that people think it’s the women that fall easily when I’ve seen guys fall hard and quick, I personally think the difference being women are

Possibly more open of it happens where guys shut off (not saying this is accurate just my perception)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it depends if there was a connection. sometimes a spark is there and youre comfortable but then other times the foreplay and sex is almost boring and you turn off. i think its due to an connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A cuppa that's a game changer

I am a tea addict, so ya know

My kinda lady, who is putting the kettle on? How do you take yours? X

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By *herrySnickersWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I love a cuddle and a cuppa also - some laughs and chats...

In my opinion - a regular FWB is not NSA - it’s not like a hole in the wall - you are both humans with feelings and there’s obviously some sort of connection there.

I like to monitor my feelings and if I’m still happy when he does leave then I know I’m cool with the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love a cuddle and a cuppa also - some laughs and chats...

In my opinion - a regular FWB is not NSA - it’s not like a hole in the wall - you are both humans with feelings and there’s obviously some sort of connection there.

I like to monitor my feelings and if I’m still happy when he does leave then I know I’m cool with the situation.

Well said xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always cuddles after, my fwb gives the best cuddles.

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