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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone organised a sneaky meet for there spouse/partner without them knowing? You know...’oh, who’s this turning up?’...etc?’

How did it go? Or do you have to plan everything together?

Some people’s fantasie involve the surprise element, but knowing before hand is just roll play. I mean, tying someone up, then opening the wardrobe door etc...(something like that).

Does it go well, do you laugh when it all goes wrong? What’s everyone’s experience and views.

Would you like a surprise?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

No we don't like surprises and planning something like this is like saying next Tuesday they will be up for it so come and hide in the wardrobe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No we don't like surprises and planning something like this is like saying next Tuesday they will be up for it so come and hide in the wardrobe."

...and wait till Thursday when they will be gagging for it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I organised a meet with another female friend of J’s, he didn’t know that we were in contact. The whole planning of it and not letting him know was difficult as I was like a kid at Christmas wanting to tell him about everything, but managed to keep it under wraps for a month whilst we were already aligning diaries. When he knocked on the hotel door, I sent him a picture of C and I kissing, dressed up in lingerie, stockings and heels, the shock on his face was visible when I opened the door lol. Luckily he was very surprised and well up for it (funny that ha ha) and we had an amazing afternoon! Just waiting for the return favour lol Em x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Frankly its my worst need nightmare. I appreciate that for some its a fantasy or role play but it would kill the mood stone dead for me

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It'd be opt in for me. As in, I'd agreed that this could happen at some unspecified point in the future. Otherwise I think there'd be too much that could go wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my FWB I'd be up for her setting up a meet for me with another woman. Her to choose and I'd have no knowledge of who it was.

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey

Arranged a two guy (bbc) meet for wife’s birthday as a surprise. She knew there was a meet but not what it was, but we have ultimate trust in each other to judge what would be welcome and otherwise so not a problem. Everyone enjoyed themselves, including me having a couple of quiet leisurely hours with a paper in a very pleasant cofffe shop. Not something I have the time to do often!

On my birthday she surprised me with a two guy erotic massage - she went for a walk.

The key is to not give in to your own fantasies when arranging the surprise, but genuinely think of what the other person might like. And then let them get on with it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Arranged a two guy (bbc) meet for wife’s birthday as a surprise. She knew there was a meet but not what it was, but we have ultimate trust in each other to judge what would be welcome and otherwise so not a problem. Everyone enjoyed themselves, including me having a couple of quiet leisurely hours with a paper in a very pleasant cofffe shop. Not something I have the time to do often!

On my birthday she surprised me with a two guy erotic massage - she went for a walk.

The key is to not give in to your own fantasies when arranging the surprise, but genuinely think of what the other person might like. And then let them get on with it."

It is and Mr N knows the very last thing I'd like is a surprise like this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I organised a meet with another female friend of J’s, he didn’t know that we were in contact. The whole planning of it and not letting him know was difficult as I was like a kid at Christmas wanting to tell him about everything, but managed to keep it under wraps for a month whilst we were already aligning diaries. When he knocked on the hotel door, I sent him a picture of C and I kissing, dressed up in lingerie, stockings and heels, the shock on his face was visible when I opened the door lol. Luckily he was very surprised and well up for it (funny that ha ha) and we had an amazing afternoon! Just waiting for the return favour lol Em x "

Did you have a get out plan if it went wrong? If he wasn’t up for it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Frankly its my worst need nightmare. I appreciate that for some its a fantasy or role play but it would kill the mood stone dead for me"

Yeh. I’m in two minds if I’d like a surprise like that or not. The anticipation of something happening is great, to have it thrown at you, maybe not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Arranged a two guy (bbc) meet for wife’s birthday as a surprise. She knew there was a meet but not what it was, but we have ultimate trust in each other to judge what would be welcome and otherwise so not a problem. Everyone enjoyed themselves, including me having a couple of quiet leisurely hours with a paper in a very pleasant cofffe shop. Not something I have the time to do often!

On my birthday she surprised me with a two guy erotic massage - she went for a walk.

The key is to not give in to your own fantasies when arranging the surprise, but genuinely think of what the other person might like. And then let them get on with it."

The word trust pops up a lot when swinging as a couple, and I suppose that’s when things work well.

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

When I was on here as a couple had he arranged a surprise meet for me I would have been furious. I like to have a say in who I meet when, and I like to prep so I'm smooth and lovely. As shocking as this might be I don't sit around in lingerie 24/7 in hope of a Fab meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I organised a meet with another female friend of J’s, he didn’t know that we were in contact. The whole planning of it and not letting him know was difficult as I was like a kid at Christmas wanting to tell him about everything, but managed to keep it under wraps for a month whilst we were already aligning diaries. When he knocked on the hotel door, I sent him a picture of C and I kissing, dressed up in lingerie, stockings and heels, the shock on his face was visible when I opened the door lol. Luckily he was very surprised and well up for it (funny that ha ha) and we had an amazing afternoon! Just waiting for the return favour lol Em x

Did you have a get out plan if it went wrong? If he wasn’t up for it? "

No lol not really ... even if he was a bit shocked we’d arranged it behind his back ... he certainly got over it quite quickly

Not sure I’d do it again though lol although he’ll be expecting it every time we meet in a hotel now

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Has anyone organised a sneaky meet for there spouse/partner without them knowing? You know...’oh, who’s this turning up?’...etc?’

How did it go? Or do you have to plan everything together?

Some people’s fantasie involve the surprise element, but knowing before hand is just roll play. I mean, tying someone up, then opening the wardrobe door etc...(something like that).

Does it go well, do you laugh when it all goes wrong? What’s everyone’s experience and views.

Would you like a surprise?"

I would like to see someone try to get into my wsrdrobe with all the shoes and things it would be a challenge even for the likes of Linford Christie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has anyone organised a sneaky meet for there spouse/partner without them knowing? You know...’oh, who’s this turning up?’...etc?’

How did it go? Or do you have to plan everything together?

Some people’s fantasie involve the surprise element, but knowing before hand is just roll play. I mean, tying someone up, then opening the wardrobe door etc...(something like that).

Does it go well, do you laugh when it all goes wrong? What’s everyone’s experience and views.

Would you like a surprise?

I would like to see someone try to get into my wsrdrobe with all the shoes and things it would be a challenge even for the likes of Linford Christie "

I can imagine someone stepping out looking like a pantomime dame.

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey


"Arranged a two guy (bbc) meet for wife’s birthday as a surprise. She knew there was a meet but not what it was, but we have ultimate trust in each other to judge what would be welcome and otherwise so not a problem. Everyone enjoyed themselves, including me having a couple of quiet leisurely hours with a paper in a very pleasant cofffe shop. Not something I have the time to do often!

On my birthday she surprised me with a two guy erotic massage - she went for a walk.

The key is to not give in to your own fantasies when arranging the surprise, but genuinely think of what the other person might like. And then let them get on with it.

The word trust pops up a lot when swinging as a couple, and I suppose that’s when things work well. "

When you have been together for 20 years you kind of get a feel for what your partner likes.

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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago

Sussex/Surrey


"When I was on here as a couple had he arranged a surprise meet for me I would have been furious. I like to have a say in who I meet when, and I like to prep so I'm smooth and lovely. As shocking as this might be I don't sit around in lingerie 24/7 in hope of a Fab meet."

No-one does. As I said, she knew something would happen on her birthday, it was signalled well in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no interest in surprise meets, and someone arriving unexpectedly would dry me up like the Sahara desert - they'd be leaving quicker than they arrived and terribly unsatisfied

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"I told my FWB I'd be up for her setting up a meet for me with another woman. Her to choose and I'd have no knowledge of who it was."

What did she say?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Arranged a two guy (bbc) meet for wife’s birthday as a surprise. She knew there was a meet but not what it was, but we have ultimate trust in each other to judge what would be welcome and otherwise so not a problem. Everyone enjoyed themselves, including me having a couple of quiet leisurely hours with a paper in a very pleasant cofffe shop. Not something I have the time to do often!

On my birthday she surprised me with a two guy erotic massage - she went for a walk.

The key is to not give in to your own fantasies when arranging the surprise, but genuinely think of what the other person might like. And then let them get on with it.

The word trust pops up a lot when swinging as a couple, and I suppose that’s when things work well.

When you have been together for 20 years you kind of get a feel for what your partner likes. "

I’m just happy with a feel, even if she doesn’t like it.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

My wife once arranged a BDSM session for my birthday with herself and a female friend she knew I was interested in.

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