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By * starr - OP   Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

if we call ladies BBW then why dont we call men BBM? i dont like to "label" anyone, but men dont get called big beautiful men do they. im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now.everyone is different, we all have the same bits, just some are more fuller than others.the uk average size woman is a 16, but this can look very different depending on your height.if i was 6ft, then i wouldnt look so big.i like some of my curves and try to emphasise these "assests" and hide the others.

thats just my opinion.

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By *ummy mummyWoman
over a year ago

southampton-ish

the "label" given to larger men is BHM

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I think if you searh BBW on the forums you will get some great answers as this topic is brought up on a daily basis.

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes


"the "label" given to larger men is BHM"

go on, I'll ask, BHM?

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"the "label" given to larger men is BHM

go on, I'll ask, BHM?"

Handsome...

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes


"the "label" given to larger men is BHM

go on, I'll ask, BHM?

Handsome..."

failed again

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

I think the male equivalent is 'BHM' (Big Handsome Man) although I don't think it's widely used.

For me, I am what I am ... I don't object to the label 'BBW' as it's only an indication to others that I'm above average in the wobbly bits dept. However, that term alone is a little subjective so I just tend to put my dress size when we're advertising for meets and let those looking decide whether that's too big for their preferences.

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes

in my (limited) experience, neither men or women mind the other person with a few extra wobbly bits - I really like it its the person that matters, if they are considerate, and "normal".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im called a BBW all the time and i dont like it purely because i dont think big is beautiful..i shed 7stone of my weight and want rid of the rest..

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes


"i shed 7stone of my weight and want rid of the rest.."

well done.. Ive shed 6.5stone, and lets face it, I needed too.

dont mind the BBW label though

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

Hate being called a bbw as I know im big but not as big as I was (size 28 - 30, now as size 20 - 22) but dont mind being called beautiful!

Im a fat bird and hate being reminded of it as I am uncomfortable with how I look but working on it, I'll never be a skinny minnie but changed my name twice from big bi fem, to curvy bi fem only to get called fat in chat.

Ooo im a poet n didnt know it!

Dont do labels if I can help it but there is always someone to knock your confidence for how you look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always liked the terms buxom and ample.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


" im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now.-)"

Then I am at a loss as to why you started another thread on it.

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By * starr - OP   Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.


" im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now.-)

Then I am at a loss as to why you started another thread on it."

my point was that you dont see guys "labelled"

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By * starr - OP   Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

and i myself like the larger (blonde) ladies.curves are just lovely to touch

if only i could touch some more curves other than my own

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

But the rest of your post was the same as other threads you are tired of seeing and why I couldn't understand why you started another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now.-)

Then I am at a loss as to why you started another thread on it."

I must admit thats what i was thinking when i read the post

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"the "label" given to larger men is BHM"

the label given to larger men is "fat"....

your welcome....

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes


"if only i could touch some more curves other than my own "

i would be happy to oblige if I could be of any assistance

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

i like BHM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now.-)

Then I am at a loss as to why you started another thread on it."
its like a lot of topics on fab relating 2 likes/dislikes and preferences, it has a hell of a lot of mileage, it'll just keep coming around

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


" im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now.-)

Then I am at a loss as to why you started another thread on it. its like a lot of topics on fab relating 2 likes/dislikes and preferences, it has a hell of a lot of mileage, it'll just keep coming around"

That I know....I was commenting on the OP comments.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"the "label" given to larger men is BHM

the label given to larger men is "fat"....

your welcome.... "

your not fat,your cuddly

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes


"the "label" given to larger men is BHM

the label given to larger men is "fat"....

your welcome....

your not fat,your cuddly "

and who doesn't like a cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now."

Yet you felt the need to start another...sigh...

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Shouldn't it be BFB for men? Big Fat B*s? Women tend to get larger naturally, but men are only large because of their lack of exercise and great alcohol consumption. They have no excuse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shouldn't it be BFB for men? Big Fat B*s? Women tend to get larger naturally, but men are only large because of their lack of exercise and great alcohol consumption. They have no excuse!"

can you please eplain that comment?

how do women get larger naturally

anyone who is fat is so because they take more calories in than they are burning off, thats male and female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems odd that someone who hates being labelled has their username starting with BBW...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the "label" given to larger men is BHM

the label given to larger men is "fat"....

your welcome.... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree why would you not like the label BBW but your usename start BBW?

I don't like the label VVWE

Rob xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's my label the ladys give me is VVWE lol

Rob

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

depends if they work for blackberry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mr b here

now you cant ever have too many bbws

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mr b here

now you cant ever have too many bbws

"

Mr B is the only person i know that makes you feel like hes complimenting you when he says you've put weight on lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"mr b here

now you cant ever have too many bbws

"

your biased

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am and proud of it

and of knowing nn

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By * starr - OP   Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

i have bbw at the start of my username so people no from the start im big.

im not against the term bbw, i just didnt understand why women had a label and men didnt, seems some people do have labels for the larger guys.

my post wasnt about bbw's, it was supposed to be asking why dont men have a "label" like some call women bbw.but i now realise some do have labels.

sorry for confusing people or causing any other emotion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what do us skinny's get?

SUM = Skinny Ugly Man

SHM = Skinny Handsome Man

PHM = Petite Handsome Man

THM = Thin Handsome Man

Oh bugger it I will stick with "Gimpy looking"

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By *waymanMan
over a year ago

newcastle


" im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now.-)

Then I am at a loss as to why you started another thread on it.

my point was that you dont see guys "labelled" "

You've obviously not seen me in my 'fat bastard' tee shirt....

Or my 'I ate all the pies' hoody...

Sorry, but you're so wrong, it's quite hilarious. People will refer to guys like me as pie eaters or beer monsters quite cheerfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on the whole are a lot more fragile, emotionally, than men.

Therefore, BBW is a lot more acceptable to many women than something they may find derogatory.

Trace is always amazed about the things us guys say to each each other.

Things like patting a guy on the belly and asking when he had the bay window fitted or "When's it due?".

"Don't fall over mate, you'll rock yourself to sleep trying to get up", etc, etc.

The sort of things that would have a woman storming out, bursting into tears, or even contemplating suicide just get shrugged off by a guy.

For the most part, guys will just admit they're fat or out of shape, without the need for a protective label.

This of course is only the opinion of an out of shape fecker who ate too much crap over the hols! R

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women on the whole are a lot more fragile, emotionally, than men.

Therefore, BBW is a lot more acceptable to many women than something they may find derogatory.

Trace is always amazed about the things us guys say to each each other.

Things like patting a guy on the belly and asking when he had the bay window fitted or "When's it due?".

"Don't fall over mate, you'll rock yourself to sleep trying to get up", etc, etc.

The sort of things that would have a woman storming out, bursting into tears, or even contemplating suicide just get shrugged off by a guy.

For the most part, guys will just admit they're fat or out of shape, without the need for a protective label.

This of course is only the opinion of an out of shape fecker who ate too much crap over the hols! R

XX "

as they say

women will never be as good as men till they look in the mirrow and see a fat, ugly, bald thing looking back and still think they sexy

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


" im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now.-)

Then I am at a loss as to why you started another thread on it.

my point was that you dont see guys "labelled"

You've obviously not seen me in my 'fat bastard' tee shirt....

Or my 'I ate all the pies' hoody...

Sorry, but you're so wrong, it's quite hilarious. People will refer to guys like me as pie eaters or beer monsters quite cheerfully.

"

some of us refer to you a sexy as fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate being called a bbw as I know im big but not as big as I was (size 28 - 30, now as size 20 - 22) but dont mind being called beautiful!

Im a fat bird and hate being reminded of it as I am uncomfortable with how I look but working on it, I'll never be a skinny minnie but changed my name twice from big bi fem, to curvy bi fem only to get called fat in chat.

Ooo im a poet n didnt know it!

Dont do labels if I can help it but there is always someone to knock your confidence for how you look"

Omg lulu, just had a nose at ur profile! Ur sooooo sexy! How could anyone say ur fat! Cheeky buggers! How dare they!

My confidence used to be in my boots! Since fab it's increased 10fold!

Praise be to the guys who worship at the alter of big girls!

Who cares what's on the outside, it's the inside of a person that matters most! U have to like the person u want to play with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women on the whole are a lot more fragile, emotionally, than men.

Therefore, BBW is a lot more acceptable to many women than something they may find derogatory.

Trace is always amazed about the things us guys say to each each other.

Things like patting a guy on the belly and asking when he had the bay window fitted or "When's it due?".

"Don't fall over mate, you'll rock yourself to sleep trying to get up", etc, etc.

The sort of things that would have a woman storming out, bursting into tears, or even contemplating suicide just get shrugged off by a guy.

For the most part, guys will just admit they're fat or out of shape, without the need for a protective label.

This of course is only the opinion of an out of shape fecker who ate too much crap over the hols! R

XX

as they say

women will never be as good as men till they look in the mirrow and see a fat, ugly, bald thing looking back and still think they sexy "

Nooooo I've always thought that women are higher on the evolutionary scale than men.

It's just that they're, for the most part, more fragile.

Although.....both sexes seem to suffer from varying degrees of body dysmorphia in one way or another. R

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Although.....both sexes seem to suffer from varying degrees of body dysmorphia in one way or another. R

XXXX"

they sure do, ive seen no end of profile where their description dont fit their pic

Guys putting athletic who are clearly just skinny, women putting curvy who are large, men putting curvy thats just plain wrong women putting slim when they medium at best but also seem some profile where the womens put large and they dont really look large to me

I sometimes wonder if they are just selling themselves or if they really beleive they are the size they state they are

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc


"

Omg lulu, just had a nose at ur profile! Ur sooooo sexy! How could anyone say ur fat! Cheeky buggers! How dare they!

My confidence used to be in my boots! Since fab it's increased 10fold!

Praise be to the guys who worship at the alter of big girls!

Who cares what's on the outside, it's the inside of a person that matters most! U have to like the person u want to play with!"
. Thanks Abbie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shouldn't it be BFB for men? Big Fat B*s? Women tend to get larger naturally, but men are only large because of their lack of exercise and great alcohol consumption. They have no excuse!"

Nice!

Guess what... I'm a female, the minute I stop taking exercise I start gaining weight - SHOCK HORROR!!! ....I must be some sort of freak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the "label" given to larger men is BHM

the label given to larger men is "fat"....

your welcome.... "

But tried to be disguised as hunky, rugby built. Fat is fat, and not to be mistaken for big.

Think Miranda = BBW, Old Dawn French = fat.

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By *lassic1Man
over a year ago

bellshill


"mr b here

now you cant ever have too many bbws

"

I had one once....it was a Three series diesel.

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By *lassic1Man
over a year ago

bellshill


"That's my label the ladys give me is VVWE lol

Rob "

Had one of them as well.....it was a Passat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol i dount bbm`s are anywhere near as pop as bbw`s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the "label" given to larger men is BHM

the label given to larger men is "fat"....

your welcome.... "

+1 I'll agree with that. No i'm not overweight but from what I've experienced men don't get labelled as much BHM (or whatever it is) and just get called fat or overweight. Probably because people feel that men won't be offended as easily (I say this as my opinion and not as fact so don't shoot me). Blokes just get called fat by other blokes so I guess it's felt it's more acceptable to them.

I think the BBW thing probably came about as a nicer way of saying a women was overweight. Clearly not everyone is going to like the term.

Like I said, just my opinion. Probably not politicaly correct. Just for the

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shouldn't it be BFB for men? Big Fat B*s? Women tend to get larger naturally, but men are only large because of their lack of exercise and great alcohol consumption. They have no excuse!"

Is that a wind up???? Yes women will put on some weight naturally just like men do but to get overweight by a large margin is done by eating to much and not exercising enough by BOTH sexes not just men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair, it is only a sifting device for searches and most people have pics up, or available on request, which give a good idea of what they are like. That said there is a definite lack of male pics on many profiles. If they don't have pics it's their choice and we just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like the idea of having labels at all, especially with sexual orientation, but I guess its the best way to describe yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shouldn't it be BFB for men? Big Fat B*s? Women tend to get larger naturally, but men are only large because of their lack of exercise and great alcohol consumption. They have no excuse!"

Neither do women tbh. I'm no longer a size 8...I'm now a 12 and it's down to being lazy...I had a child nearly 4 years ago. I can't use that excuse anymore pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol i dount bbm`s are anywhere near as pop as bbw`s "

Defo not...why shag a fat guy when the hot toned men will shag us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol i dount bbm`s are anywhere near as pop as bbw`s "

but ask yourself this if the ratio of men to women on these sites was reversed and it was women who out numbered men 100 to 1 would BBWs still be as popular?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a curvier larger lady to be honest, but anything's a bonus hehehe

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I think the thing I was being flippant about the men being "fat" thing... is that men are likely to say kinder things to get leg over, whereas women don't.... but in reality a lot of men have as many confidence issues about their size as women do.....

the thing for many to realise that confidence comes from within..... and it took me a while to work that out.....

once i did.... took so many steps forward.....

p.s the miranda vs dawn french thing.... complete pish!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol i dount bbm`s are anywhere near as pop as bbw`s

but ask yourself this if the ratio of men to women on these sites was reversed and it was women who out numbered men 100 to 1 would BBWs still be as popular? "

No doubt many men have wanted to ask this question............soooo glad it was asked by a woman.

I've always worked with large groups of men, hundreds over the years.

Whenever the "what sort of woman do you fancy" question arose, which was often, the ones who went for BBW were few and far between.

So it begs the question as to whether there's a lot of truth in what you asked?

Or, on the other hand..........do all men who fancy BBW's join swinger sites? R

XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol i dount bbm`s are anywhere near as pop as bbw`s

but ask yourself this if the ratio of men to women on these sites was reversed and it was women who out numbered men 100 to 1 would BBWs still be as popular?

No doubt many men have wanted to ask this question............soooo glad it was asked by a woman.

I've always worked with large groups of men, hundreds over the years.

Whenever the "what sort of woman do you fancy" question arose, which was often, the ones who went for BBW were few and far between.

So it begs the question as to whether there's a lot of truth in what you asked?

Or, on the other hand..........do all men who fancy BBW's join swinger sites? R

XX"

You've only got to look at the blokes posts on "who's your fantasy fuck" thread.

There aren't many BBW type ladies mentioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol i dount bbm`s are anywhere near as pop as bbw`s

but ask yourself this if the ratio of men to women on these sites was reversed and it was women who out numbered men 100 to 1 would BBWs still be as popular?

No doubt many men have wanted to ask this question............soooo glad it was asked by a woman.

I've always worked with large groups of men, hundreds over the years.

Whenever the "what sort of woman do you fancy" question arose, which was often, the ones who went for BBW were few and far between.

So it begs the question as to whether there's a lot of truth in what you asked?

Or, on the other hand..........do all men who fancy BBW's join swinger sites? R

XX"

nah i just think because women are hard to find on here lots of guys standards drop

i have met some really good looking guys off here, guys who i know full well if they saw me walking down the streey they wouldnt give me a second look

but on here im a single woman who meets single men so despite the fact im over weight im highly desirable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol i dount bbm`s are anywhere near as pop as bbw`s

but ask yourself this if the ratio of men to women on these sites was reversed and it was women who out numbered men 100 to 1 would BBWs still be as popular?

No doubt many men have wanted to ask this question............soooo glad it was asked by a woman.

I've always worked with large groups of men, hundreds over the years.

Whenever the "what sort of woman do you fancy" question arose, which was often, the ones who went for BBW were few and far between.

So it begs the question as to whether there's a lot of truth in what you asked?

Or, on the other hand..........do all men who fancy BBW's join swinger sites? R

XX

You've only got to look at the blokes posts on "who's your fantasy fuck" thread.

There aren't many BBW type ladies mentioned"

theres arnt that many famous big ladies to mention, ok theres a few but there isnt many big wonen who make it famous, i can off the top of my head think of maybe 10, now many none big famous women can you think of? 100s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My OH would disagree with the majority of men being attracted to very slim women. How many men are attracted to catwalk, androgynous type women, I'd guess at not many.

I would say that a large majority of men are attracted to big boobs. I'm not necessarily saying very overweight women, but women with boobs and a bit of meat on their bones. Nigella Lawson is a prime example.

But of course as with everything, we can't really make guesses at what we think others would like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol i dount bbm`s are anywhere near as pop as bbw`s

but ask yourself this if the ratio of men to women on these sites was reversed and it was women who out numbered men 100 to 1 would BBWs still be as popular?

No doubt many men have wanted to ask this question............soooo glad it was asked by a woman.

I've always worked with large groups of men, hundreds over the years.

Whenever the "what sort of woman do you fancy" question arose, which was often, the ones who went for BBW were few and far between.

So it begs the question as to whether there's a lot of truth in what you asked?

Or, on the other hand..........do all men who fancy BBW's join swinger sites? R

XX

nah i just think because women are hard to find on here lots of guys standards drop

i have met some really good looking guys off here, guys who i know full well if they saw me walking down the streey they wouldnt give me a second look

but on here im a single woman who meets single men so despite the fact im over weight im highly desirable "

I've seen you at chams I really do feel you put yourself down way to much.

I'd give anything to look like you in a corset, from what i know and seen your a very desirable woman. I'm not into woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My OH would disagree with the majority of men being attracted to very slim women. How many men are attracted to catwalk, androgynous type women, I'd guess at not many.

I would say that a large majority of men are attracted to big boobs. I'm not necessarily saying very overweight women, but women with boobs and a bit of meat on their bones. Nigella Lawson is a prime example.

But of course as with everything, we can't really make guesses at what we think others would like "

i can only speak from my own personal experiences but about 4 years ago i lost nearly 8 stone and went from a size 22 to a size 10 and i got far far more attention at a size 10/12 than i did at a aize 18 plus, i have since gained some weight over the past couple of years and am now back upto a size 14/16 ish and i have noticed the attention i get has dropped, not so much on here but at clubs mainly

It could be one of a few things i suppose

Mainly when i was slim i had more confidance and started wearing nice underwear so maybe that attracted some of the attention rather when when i was a size 22 walking round in a towel

I still wear underwear now even tho i dont feel as confidant as i did when i was a size 10 and i still get lots of men talking to me at clubs but nowhere near as many as i used to and i had also noticed that the type of men who talked to me when i was bigger compaired to when i was slimmer was different too

Im not saying by any means big ladies cant find meets because ovbiously they can all i am saying is when i was a size 10 i got far more attention and from better looking guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if we call ladies BBW then why dont we call men BBM? i dont like to "label" anyone, but men dont get called big beautiful men do they. im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now.everyone is different, we all have the same bits, just some are more fuller than others.the uk average size woman is a 16, but this can look very different depending on your height.if i was 6ft, then i wouldnt look so big.i like some of my curves and try to emphasise these "assests" and hide the others.

thats just my opinion. "
someone for everyone on here,.. people just need to look xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've seen you at chams I really do feel you put yourself down way to much.

I'd give anything to look like you in a corset, from what i know and seen your a very desirable woman. I'm not into woman"

nah im just one of them people that are straight talking and say what i mean, some people like you for that others find it offensive

I dont by any means think im ready for the knackers yard just yet lol i dont see myself as sexy at all because im not, i am over weight, i do have flabby bit and stretch marks, but i really do not mean it as a put down, because i like me i think im a nice person, im just being honest

But thank you for the compliment

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over a year ago


"My OH would disagree with the majority of men being attracted to very slim women. How many men are attracted to catwalk, androgynous type women, I'd guess at not many.

I would say that a large majority of men are attracted to big boobs. I'm not necessarily saying very overweight women, but women with boobs and a bit of meat on their bones. Nigella Lawson is a prime example.

But of course as with everything, we can't really make guesses at what we think others would like

i can only speak from my own personal experiences but about 4 years ago i lost nearly 8 stone and went from a size 22 to a size 10 and i got far far more attention at a size 10/12 than i did at a aize 18 plus, i have since gained some weight over the past couple of years and am now back upto a size 14/16 ish and i have noticed the attention i get has dropped, not so much on here but at clubs mainly

It could be one of a few things i suppose

Mainly when i was slim i had more confidance and started wearing nice underwear so maybe that attracted some of the attention rather when when i was a size 22 walking round in a towel

I still wear underwear now even tho i dont feel as confidant as i did when i was a size 10 and i still get lots of men talking to me at clubs but nowhere near as many as i used to and i had also noticed that the type of men who talked to me when i was bigger compaired to when i was slimmer was different too

Im not saying by any means big ladies cant find meets because ovbiously they can all i am saying is when i was a size 10 i got far more attention and from better looking guys "

You being confident about yourself probably played it's part to some degree but lets not beat around the bush. The majority of men find a slimmer woman more sexualy attractive. It's a fact. Just like the majority of women when presented with a good looking, fit bloke and a less attractive over weight bloke would pick the good looking, fit bloke most of the time first. We're on a sex site and particularly in clubs you're going to be drawn to people you find physically attractive before their personality.

I think a lot of people feel like they're walking on egg shells when talking about weight issues for fear of upsetting someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If physical attraction didn't play it's part there would be no need to put pictures on your profile would there??

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over a year ago


"My OH would disagree with the majority of men being attracted to very slim women. How many men are attracted to catwalk, androgynous type women, I'd guess at not many.

I would say that a large majority of men are attracted to big boobs. I'm not necessarily saying very overweight women, but women with boobs and a bit of meat on their bones. Nigella Lawson is a prime example.

But of course as with everything, we can't really make guesses at what we think others would like

i can only speak from my own personal experiences but about 4 years ago i lost nearly 8 stone and went from a size 22 to a size 10 and i got far far more attention at a size 10/12 than i did at a aize 18 plus, i have since gained some weight over the past couple of years and am now back upto a size 14/16 ish and i have noticed the attention i get has dropped, not so much on here but at clubs mainly

It could be one of a few things i suppose

Mainly when i was slim i had more confidance and started wearing nice underwear so maybe that attracted some of the attention rather when when i was a size 22 walking round in a towel

I still wear underwear now even tho i dont feel as confidant as i did when i was a size 10 and i still get lots of men talking to me at clubs but nowhere near as many as i used to and i had also noticed that the type of men who talked to me when i was bigger compaired to when i was slimmer was different too

Im not saying by any means big ladies cant find meets because ovbiously they can all i am saying is when i was a size 10 i got far more attention and from better looking guys

You being confident about yourself probably played it's part to some degree but lets not beat around the bush. The majority of men find a slimmer woman more sexualy attractive. It's a fact. Just like the majority of women when presented with a good looking, fit bloke and a less attractive over weight bloke would pick the good looking, fit bloke most of the time first. We're on a sex site and particularly in clubs you're going to be drawn to people you find physically attractive before their personality.

I think a lot of people feel like they're walking on egg shells when talking about weight issues for fear of upsetting someone. "

i agree, i think the majority of men, (and majority dont mean all of them lol) do prefer slim women, and by slim i dont mean cat walk models or size zero women i mean healthy slim, to over weight ladies

you only have to go to clubs and watch which women have all the good looking guys watching/following them, its always the young slim one that get most of the attention, i have never been to a club and seen all the men following a over weight middle aged woman about

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over a year ago

Just for the record naughty "I would destroy you" as Keith would say

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over a year ago


" im getting tired of seeing this subject in the forums now.-)

Then I am at a loss as to why you started another thread on it.

my point was that you dont see guys "labelled" "

Maybe because not enough ladies don't like bigger guys.

Some women embrace this label, some don't. It not used to offend but if you don't like it, that's cool.

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over a year ago


"Just for the record naughty "I would destroy you" as Keith would say "

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over a year ago


"Just for the record naughty "I would destroy you" as Keith would say

"

Have you not seen celebrity juice?? Keith Lemon??

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over a year ago

Naughty I won't quote your post because it was a long one.

In relation to your comments about getting more attention when you were a size 10 etc - I would honestly say that it was about confidence and how you felt rather than your size.

I have noticed a difference in how I am perceived at times in clubs. When I first get into a club, I'm dressed in underwear I love, I may have accessories on like hats, hairbands, jewelled corsets, gorgeous shoes, wacky eyelashes. I feel gorgeous therefore I act differently. I work the club basically. I chat, I flirt, I prance around in my outfits, I thrust my chest out, I act the diva, some will dislike it and see it as an inflated ego, some will respond favourably and follow me around like the pied piper.

After I've been in the jacuzzi I keep a towel on. I don't act the same way in a towel. Its almost like I'm in limbo between exhibitionist diva Feebs but not quite my everyday studious,sensible self.

To a degree the clothes give me confidence because I exude a different stance when in them. I feel good therefore I feel uber confident.

I have never gone without attention in a club, whilst I have an ok face, my body is nowhere near perfect, though to be fair my huge boobs are my biggest asset and accessory. I am a big girl, I'm overweight, have a flabby tummy, thighs to crack walnuts etc but I feel more sexy in a club now than I ever did when I was a size 8 all those years ago, clubbing in vanilla world.

I wouldn't say I play with guys who are deemed not to be conventionally handsome either. I have played with some gorgeous model type men, one was so breathtakingly gorgeous I had to keep looking behind me to check it was really me he was smiling at. And I've had attention from some gorgeous fit black guys who were younger and fitter than me. And I've also played with guys who may be classed as normal everyday types whom after chatting to, they make me laugh and they are instantly as attractive as George Clooney to me.

I truly believe the vibes you give off reflect the attention you receive not necessarily your body size. If you believe you were prettier at a size 10 and now you are bigger and feel you are less attractive, that's the vibe you will give out. In reality you are very attractive and sexy.

As Gok would say 'its all about the confidence'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fantastic responses

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