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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know of several fun, good looking, well presented men who don’t go to clubs because they ‘don’t want to be one of the wanking dead’. As a fairly regular club goer I think this is a shame. For me, the best club nights are those that have a good selection of single men.

A couple of observations to any men considering going to clubs but concerned about being ridiculed as a ‘wanking zombie’:

A) It’s not compulsory to wander round in a towel wanking. You can resist!

B) Most of the ‘towel wanker’ contingent don’t actually make eye contact or talk to people before they enter rooms uninvited and lob a cock in your face.

C) Within the last two months I and my friends have encountered guys who push to go into a room within 5 minutes of starting a conversation, guys who won’t take a direct ‘No’ as an answer (several times), BO, and a kiss from which I could identify the precise Macdonalds menu item he had just eaten.

D) I’ve twice had fingers in my fanny without the slightest attempt at permission and one idiot who tried to penetrate me bare.

I still go to clubs, I have great fun at clubs and I have adapted my play and meet style to reduce my encounters with unprotected f@ckwits, but Men of Fab, if you are clean, teeth brushed, sweet smelling, with a reasonable chat game and the willingness to ask permission before touching and a playbag full of condoms, then you are already so far ahead of many single men at clubs that you will never be mistaken for a ‘towel wanker’.

The single picky female club goers of Fab need you!

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

Always been ahead of the curve

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

It does appeal, but I wouldn't go alone.. I'd have to find a lady friend before plucking the courage.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

It was the quarter pounder with cheese, wasn't it?

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth

This is the kind of advice the wanking dead need.

Or they need to just leave.

They should do the latter.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"I know of several fun, good looking, well presented men who don’t go to clubs because they ‘don’t want to be one of the wanking dead’. As a fairly regular club goer I think this is a shame. For me, the best club nights are those that have a good selection of single men.

A couple of observations to any men considering going to clubs but concerned about being ridiculed as a ‘wanking zombie’:

A) It’s not compulsory to wander round in a towel wanking. You can resist!

B) Most of the ‘towel wanker’ contingent don’t actually make eye contact or talk to people before they enter rooms uninvited and lob a cock in your face.

C) Within the last two months I and my friends have encountered guys who push to go into a room within 5 minutes of starting a conversation, guys who won’t take a direct ‘No’ as an answer (several times), BO, and a kiss from which I could identify the precise Macdonalds menu item he had just eaten.

D) I’ve twice had fingers in my fanny without the slightest attempt at permission and one idiot who tried to penetrate me bare.

I still go to clubs, I have great fun at clubs and I have adapted my play and meet style to reduce my encounters with unprotected f@ckwits, but Men of Fab, if you are clean, teeth brushed, sweet smelling, with a reasonable chat game and the willingness to ask permission before touching and a playbag full of condoms, then you are already so far ahead of many single men at clubs that you will never be mistaken for a ‘towel wanker’.

The single picky female club goers of Fab need you!"

Some women are so demanding, take your dress off, we need to talk!

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act ..

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act .."
this

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act .."

Exactly my point mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men again ?? lol what about the women that walk around pissed or the couples who always feel entitled and also if this behavior is there then theres a need for it as someone is allowing it and letting them get away with it...

if someone put there fingers in me or attempted to do something ive not consented them to do then i would 100% take it further.

and as for hygine i agree but have to say smelly breath (and bodys) is not a just a guy thing plenty of smelly other people in clubs .

very rare i go to the clubs nearby now as its pissed up single women who are giving the bad behavior its rewards so those ''guys '' that misbehave know that their £30 is going to get rewarded everyweek because the pissed up women are always there too..supply and demand bad behavior will alway bring more bad behavior so rather than blame the guys maybe blame the clubs for allowing it ie money talks.

my opinion only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is such an interesting post. I love going to clubs for a couple of reasons. First of all I really enjoy the like minded company. But when I say like minded I mean that no pressure, social aspect where you can just be yourself. I love the escape that clubs provide from my stressful, everyday life and see my time there as a break from it all. If I joined the towel gang then most of my reasons for enjoying going to a club would go out of the window!! All that said, I still get emabarrased going to a club as a single guy. I really don’t want to be labelled as one of the walking dead gang and really do my very best not to be. However, I still feel that sense of non-single guy people not wanting me to be there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act .."

I usually go to clubs alone. Does that make me desperate?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I agree with the OP. Respectful friendly single guys are great. I don't need you to buy me drinks while doing back flips and reciting Shakespeare in Swahili (I don't want you to buy me drinks period, although the other bits would be impressive and entertaining. Utterly unnecessary though). It's not that hard. Be friendly, don't be a creep, ask before touching. Be prepared to make a bit of small talk. Be clean. Really. That's all you need to not be the subject of derision.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act ..

I usually go to clubs alone. Does that make me desperate?"

Confident.. There is a difference with the sexes in this situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act ..

I usually go to clubs alone. Does that make me desperate?

Confident.. There is a difference with the sexes in this situation. "

But not all single men are desperate. If anything, I’ve seen the most desperate behaviour from single females at times, after too many drinks usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds delightful.....

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act ..

I usually go to clubs alone. Does that make me desperate?

Confident.. There is a difference with the sexes in this situation.

But not all single men are desperate. If anything, I’ve seen the most desperate behaviour from single females at times, after too many drinks usually. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act ..

I usually go to clubs alone. Does that make me desperate?

Confident.. There is a difference with the sexes in this situation. "

I really don't see that it's that different. It's the same for anyone, male or female, to walk into a club alone. Maybe you're talking about being socially skilled, which is traditionally considered a female trait, but also applies to the successful single men on the club scene.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act ..

I usually go to clubs alone. Does that make me desperate?"

Don’t think I would find you following people around like Randy dog ?

Standing watching others fucking whilst opening your towel and rubbing yourself...?

It’s like there’s no shame !

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By *ereforthafunMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Very sad that this happens, not all men are like that tho. Respect and manners should be a minimum expectation, sad that this isn’t always given tho.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act .."

this is going to make me "popular" for what you just said.... but i think the singles guys who team up specifically for the purpose of going to a club are actually the desperate ones.... for a few reasons...

it says to me you feel like you need a handholder,

it says to me that you feel that you are "above" the other single guys who are confident enough to go on there own! (or you are looking down on them)

it says to me that you are using the person you are going with the get to other people who may not have been interested in you otherwise!

saying all that though...sometimes for the reasons the OP gives, sometimes single guys can be their own worst enermies!

but in a way, would i change the way the wanking ninja zombies are... not at all! because it gives you a way in a club to actually stand out and be the single guy who goes round and talks to people, and can have a good laugh and a good conversation... and in confident in themselves enough to do that, you get to be the master of your own fate by making that good impression!

anyway... said enough... all abuse can be directed to my inbox!

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act ..

I usually go to clubs alone. Does that make me desperate?

Confident.. There is a difference with the sexes in this situation.

I really don't see that it's that different. It's the same for anyone, male or female, to walk into a club alone. Maybe you're talking about being socially skilled, which is traditionally considered a female trait, but also applies to the successful single men on the club scene. "

It wouldn't be how I would conduct myself, but I would be part of a group who are like that. I think Pete above said it as its very unlikely you would need to follow anyone around. I would feel better if I had pre-arranged a meet before and entered the club together. Even if that was all we did.

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By *udewhennudeMan
over a year ago

newport

It tickles me how it's all those other guys which are the problem, and as for needing someone to hold your hand, when you're a grown man. I doubt many guys think they are desperate going to clubs on their own.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act ..

this is going to make me "popular" for what you just said.... but i think the singles guys who team up specifically for the purpose of going to a club are actually the desperate ones.... for a few reasons...

it says to me you feel like you need a handholder,

it says to me that you feel that you are "above" the other single guys who are confident enough to go on there own! (or you are looking down on them)

it says to me that you are using the person you are going with the get to other people who may not have been interested in you otherwise!

saying all that though...sometimes for the reasons the OP gives, sometimes single guys can be their own worst enermies!

but in a way, would i change the way the wanking ninja zombies are... not at all! because it gives you a way in a club to actually stand out and be the single guy who goes round and talks to people, and can have a good laugh and a good conversation... and in confident in themselves enough to do that, you get to be the master of your own fate by making that good impression!

anyway... said enough... all abuse can be directed to my inbox! "
Well said taking women can sometimes limit your options too.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

On the rare occasions we have been on a night when single guys have been in attendance we have not been impressed.

Yes they have been polite and respectful not seen or experienced much if any issues the OP has but our issue is that they often wear tatty or old jeans and t-shirts, some even look like they have just come from work or are about to put a shift in. It doesn't take much effort to dress a bit smarter for Christ sake.

With the women it is different once they have had a few drinks there seems to be a feeling of entitlement, we have had them knocking on doors to private rooms when we have been with another couple saying we should open up so they could have look and join in. The odd grope and the look of shock when they get told that if they do it again we will either break their hand or report them and the general d*unken behaviour leave a lot to be desired.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make towel wankers look the height of sophistication

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is the kind of advice the wanking dead need.

Or they need to just leave.

They should do the latter. "

I think most of the wanking dead aren’t on fab. This is an attempt to recruit the sexy, clean, respectful single Male.

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth


"This is the kind of advice the wanking dead need.

Or they need to just leave.

They should do the latter.

I think most of the wanking dead aren’t on fab. This is an attempt to recruit the sexy, clean, respectful single Male."

I think you’re right there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Some women are so demanding, take your dress off, we need to talk!"

Ha! You got me before with that one. I’m wise to you now..!

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I agree with the OP. Respectful friendly single guys are great. I don't need you to buy me drinks while doing back flips and reciting Shakespeare in Swahili (I don't want you to buy me drinks period, although the other bits would be impressive and entertaining. Utterly unnecessary though). It's not that hard. Be friendly, don't be a creep, ask before touching. Be prepared to make a bit of small talk. Be clean. Really. That's all you need to not be the subject of derision. "

So with you there, we like having single guys around - especially the one’s who talk, smile, make an effort to look good and smell good. Do they have to look like Brad Pitt, nope, in fact best that you don’t! We look for interesting, like minded, fun people who want to give as well as take

So single guys of fab, come and say hello in a club. We will talk back, nothing else is guaranteed, but this is where it all starts for us

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By *hill44Man
over a year ago

hinckley


"I know of several fun, good looking, well presented men who don’t go to clubs because they ‘don’t want to be one of the wanking dead’. As a fairly regular club goer I think this is a shame. For me, the best club nights are those that have a good selection of single men.

A couple of observations to any men considering going to clubs but concerned about being ridiculed as a ‘wanking zombie’:

A) It’s not compulsory to wander round in a towel wanking. You can resist!

B) Most of the ‘towel wanker’ contingent don’t actually make eye contact or talk to people before they enter rooms uninvited and lob a cock in your face.

C) Within the last two months I and my friends have encountered guys who push to go into a room within 5 minutes of starting a conversation, guys who won’t take a direct ‘No’ as an answer (several times), BO, and a kiss from which I could identify the precise Macdonalds menu item he had just eaten.

D) I’ve twice had fingers in my fanny without the slightest attempt at permission and one idiot who tried to penetrate me bare.

I still go to clubs, I have great fun at clubs and I have adapted my play and meet style to reduce my encounters with unprotected f@ckwits, but Men of Fab, if you are clean, teeth brushed, sweet smelling, with a reasonable chat game and the willingness to ask permission before touching and a playbag full of condoms, then you are already so far ahead of many single men at clubs that you will never be mistaken for a ‘towel wanker’.

The single picky female club goers of Fab need you!"

Been to chams & club 29 always enjoyed it ,never pushed upon anyone just go with the flow some one will play with you after a drink & a chat ,clubs are good for like minded people of fan

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with the OP. Respectful friendly single guys are great. I don't need you to buy me drinks while doing back flips and reciting Shakespeare in Swahili (I don't want you to buy me drinks period, although the other bits would be impressive and entertaining. Utterly unnecessary though). It's not that hard. Be friendly, don't be a creep, ask before touching. Be prepared to make a bit of small talk. Be clean. Really. That's all you need to not be the subject of derision.

So with you there, we like having single guys around - especially the one’s who talk, smile, make an effort to look good and smell good. Do they have to look like Brad Pitt, nope, in fact best that you don’t! We look for interesting, like minded, fun people who want to give as well as take

So single guys of fab, come and say hello in a club. We will talk back, nothing else is guaranteed, but this is where it all starts for us "

Could not agree more with these two posts. I hope more respectful single men give clubs a try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A key point is how the ‘clubs’ monitor and police the number of single guys they admitted.

Clubs are commercial enterprises and charge a premium for single guys .... hence it’s easy to to view the entry log and top up revenue by allowing single or even groups of single guys.

I have invited ‘guests’ in the past .. for specific role play scenarios...

What does annoy are the guys that enter a dungeon mid play ... stand with scan of beer giving a running commentary.... this is absolutely unacceptable...

we’ve also had our fair share of the wanking zombies.. even more annoying when it’s mesnt to be a fetish event .. guys in jeans and lumberjack shirts constantly prowling and often standing to close and wanking .

Yes .. we are Fet orientated and exhibitionists.. but on our terms .

Top tip for single guys .. don’t get d*unk .. understand the protocol .. don’t assume that just because you’ve paid a premium that you have the God given right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"men again ?? lol what about the women that walk around pissed or the couples who always feel entitled and also if this behavior is there then theres a need for it as someone is allowing it and letting them get away with it...

if someone put there fingers in me or attempted to do something ive not consented them to do then i would 100% take it further.

and as for hygine i agree but have to say smelly breath (and bodys) is not a just a guy thing plenty of smelly other people in clubs .

very rare i go to the clubs nearby now as its pissed up single women who are giving the bad behavior its rewards so those ''guys '' that misbehave know that their £30 is going to get rewarded everyweek because the pissed up women are always there too..supply and demand bad behavior will alway bring more bad behavior so rather than blame the guys maybe blame the clubs for allowing it ie money talks.

my opinion only "

You’re missing the point. I don’t think many of the towel wankers and idiots without condoms are on fab. At no point have I suggested that bad behaviour is restricted to men and neither have I said that I didn’t follow up unwanted contact.

What we need is MORE sociable, clean, fairly dober people in clubs, which, despite the examples above, are generally clean, safe environments for single women to meet others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A key point is how the ‘clubs’ monitor and police the number of single guys they admitted.

Clubs are commercial enterprises and charge a premium for single guys .... hence it’s easy to to view the entry log and top up revenue by allowing single or even groups of single guys.

I have invited ‘guests’ in the past .. for specific role play scenarios...

What does annoy are the guys that enter a dungeon mid play ... stand with scan of beer giving a running commentary.... this is absolutely unacceptable...

we’ve also had our fair share of the wanking zombies.. even more annoying when it’s mesnt to be a fetish event .. guys in jeans and lumberjack shirts constantly prowling and often standing to close and wanking .

Yes .. we are Fet orientated and exhibitionists.. but on our terms .

Top tip for single guys .. don’t get d*unk .. understand the protocol .. don’t assume that just because you’ve paid a premium that you have the God given right "

Yes. I had to interrupt a flogging last night to remind people that it wasnt a coffee morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I’ve gone to clubs alone, I’ve been quite lucky as I do follow the respectful, clean etc rules.

What bugs me is the wanking dead who instantly feel it’s ok to move in on a lady/couple who have invited me in. The reason they choose a person or people is because that’s ‘their choice’. The WD just want meat, which is fine if the ‘meat’ wants to be treated like that but come on.

A couple of years ago I joined couple in a smaller room at a club, 2 other guys asked if they could watch, this was agreed. Then because of others just barging in one of the guys blocked the door. Men tries to push past him hard (he was a handy lad and didn’t mess) no one entered. This only after a little while. It was only after it calmed down did the lady get to relax.

The 2 other chaps were rewarded later in the evening.

Moral, be respectful, a gent and enjoy. Just my point of view.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Bookmarked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting.

Everybody says clubs are the way to go.

Ok, not everyone, but it's mentioned a lot on the forums as if they are some sort of nirvana.

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

To be fair we have been going to clubs for 6 years now and we have yet to meet any bad mannered towel wankers (love that name).

Maybe it says more of how different clubs tolerate and deal with different behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bookmarked "

You know I was thinking of you..amongst others..

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Deffo the kind of single guy needed at clubs, rather than the wanking zombies.

Seen a club review recently saying there wasn't enough single guys there.

It's not just single ladies looking for decent guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Interesting.

Everybody says clubs are the way to go.

Ok, not everyone, but it's mentioned a lot on the forums as if they are some sort of nirvana."

Well from anecdotal evidence there seems to be an increase in last minute cancellations and no shows. If I meet you in a club then

You exist

You’re the gender you described

I can see whether there’s an attraction

You’re committed enough to meeting me to pay the club entry fee

And you are present.

If you don’t show up there may be others I know there and very likely friendly bar staff I can chat to.

I haven’t paid out for a hotel room and if it goes horribly wrong there are people I can call on who should have experience in handling these kind of problems, who can act as witnesses and who can provide moral support should I want to escalate it. They are also closer to hand than they would be in a hotel.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"To be fair we have been going to clubs for 6 years now and we have yet to meet any bad mannered towel wankers (love that name).

Maybe it says more of how different clubs tolerate and deal with different behaviour. "

Agree with you there, we are quite picky with clubs and look at reviews and ask our friends what they think. At the end of the day, you can get a pretty good idea about which clubs(& sometimes which events) you want to go to. Several times we have gone to clubs and just felt they weren’t for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Deffo the kind of single guy needed at clubs, rather than the wanking zombies.

Seen a club review recently saying there wasn't enough single guys there.

It's not just single ladies looking for decent guys"

Very good point.

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By *lwaysreay9Man
over a year ago

Next to you

Honestly I can't believe how sone men act, manners and respect have been forgotten.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly I can't believe how sone men act, manners and respect have been forgotten. "

My personal view, probably prejudiced, is that these guys are often from overseas and assume that the women in the clubs are basically prostitutes and that the club price includes some promise of action. I really don’t think many of them are on fab.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

It’s true you know

Women like me need all you gorgeous, handsome and absolutely not-dressed-in-a fucking-towel (and I don’t care if it is monogrammed) men to come clubbing.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be fair we have been going to clubs for 6 years now and we have yet to meet any bad mannered towel wankers (love that name).

Maybe it says more of how different clubs tolerate and deal with different behaviour. "

Likewise (although I've only been going for about three years). Maybe it's the clubs they go to, as you say

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I am a single guy in London who goes to OP4F on his own the play areas have white lines which you can only cross is a couple or single lady asks you to join.I have seen guys watching and wanking hoping to be asked.I have been to Rios spa and been a spa guys are there are plenty of towel wankers pushing trying to get into a room with out been invited when a guy comes out to they are always the first to ask what was the lady like etc etc.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Great post, Tigerlily, and some excellent responses too. I can honestly say that I pride myself on the fact that when visiting clubs I will chat to anyone, am never pushy, and refuse to be one of the repugnant wanking dead. And it certainly works - you just have to be yourself!

Another rule I set myself at a club or a meet is don't drink. Quite a few times I've seen women sitting in a club at the end of the night, puking up in a carrier bag. Not good.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am a single guy in London who goes to OP4F on his own the play areas have white lines which you can only cross is a couple or single lady asks you to join.I have seen guys watching and wanking hoping to be asked.I have been to Rios spa and been a spa guys are there are plenty of towel wankers pushing trying to get into a room with out been invited when a guy comes out to they are always the first to ask what was the lady like etc etc."

That’s a very different atmosphere to what I’ve experienced in Leeds and Manchester clubs.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"I am a single guy in London who goes to OP4F on his own the play areas have white lines which you can only cross is a couple or single lady asks you to join.I have seen guys watching and wanking hoping to be asked.I have been to Rios spa and been a spa guys are there are plenty of towel wankers pushing trying to get into a room with out been invited when a guy comes out to they are always the first to ask what was the lady like etc etc."

The last time I went to Rios was 16 years ago, and was pushed back into a room I had been in with a couple by a group of Turkish guys, all trying to pile their way in. My firm "No" resulted in receiving a threat of being shot by one of them. Hence, I've not been back to that shit hole.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I was at a club in north west last night. Me and a friend were playing in the dungeon. We had a good play then a couple asked do you mind if we join in.

Now this was akward as I hadn’t checked with my play partner if she would be ok with it. I wispered in her ear is it ok. Anyway a number of couples came and watched some felt a bit akward with how to react

What I mean by that is should they just watch, can they join in, is it ok to come in the dungeon. Some giggled and wandered off some sat down and joined in.

I always say to people if I am playing in an open room please feel free to watch,normally it is because and the person I am playing with are completely happy with being watched

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By *hubbyfatcockMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Can't say I've ever been to a club, so this may a grain of salt moment.

I think it takes a few certain types of guy to go to a club.

On a personal level I don't feel like I have the body type or the attractiveness to be accepted into that situation.

Those that go, good on you keep on fighting the good fight

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"Can't say I've ever been to a club, so this may a grain of salt moment.

I think it takes a few certain types of guy to go to a club.

On a personal level I don't feel like I have the body type or the attractiveness to be accepted into that situation.

Those that go, good on you keep on fighting the good fight "

You shouldn't let that put you off. Club goers come in all shapes and sizes, and everyone is unique. You really should try one out, and I'm sure you'll enjoy yourself and forget your fears straight away.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"Can't say I've ever been to a club, so this may a grain of salt moment.

I think it takes a few certain types of guy to go to a club.

On a personal level I don't feel like I have the body type or the attractiveness to be accepted into that situation.

Those that go, good on you keep on fighting the good fight "

I am a tall lad with about a stone to 1.5 overweight but I go to clubs and have a laugh

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"I am a single guy in London who goes to OP4F on his own the play areas have white lines which you can only cross is a couple or single lady asks you to join.I have seen guys watching and wanking hoping to be asked.I have been to Rios spa and been a spa guys are there are plenty of towel wankers pushing trying to get into a room with out been invited when a guy comes out to they are always the first to ask what was the lady like etc etc.

The last time I went to Rios was 16 years ago, and was pushed back into a room I had been in with a couple by a group of Turkish guys, all trying to pile their way in. My firm "No" resulted in receiving a threat of being shot by one of them. Hence, I've not been back to that shit hole."
. I have heard about pushy guys and on the reviews page some horror stories about Rios not something I have experience but any lady or couples going should take a extra guy to act as a sort of minder.OP4F is much better more respect is shown by us single guys perhaps because your membership has to be approved and me personally I would never risk losing it as London does not have many clubs to offer.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Can't say I've ever been to a club, so this may a grain of salt moment.

I think it takes a few certain types of guy to go to a club.

On a personal level I don't feel like I have the body type or the attractiveness to be accepted into that situation.

Those that go, good on you keep on fighting the good fight "

One guy once told me (when I was feeling too nervous for the club scene), think about the average demographic in your local supermarket. That's probably true in a club as well.

(I wish I could unsee that when I'm grocery shopping though! )

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act .."

A lot of single men have tremendous fun in clubs non of them looked desperate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The reason I would never go to a club alone ..

How desperate looking that would be ..

I’ve been with partners in the past and was shocked how the desperados act ..

A lot of single men have tremendous fun in clubs non of them looked desperate."

There was one glitter covered man looking very happy as two women attended to him for some time last night. Be pleasant and approachable and good things might happen.

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By *hubbyfatcockMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I've heard a lot of good things about both cams and xtasia it's just the initial hurdle of plucking up the courage to go lol

I guess that's where the 'handholding' mentioned here in previous posts comes in.

Not looking down on anyone, in fact I'm wishing I was confident enough to be like them!

More of a social moth than a social butterfly

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"I am a single guy in London who goes to OP4F on his own the play areas have white lines which you can only cross is a couple or single lady asks you to join.I have seen guys watching and wanking hoping to be asked.I have been to Rios spa and been a spa guys are there are plenty of towel wankers pushing trying to get into a room with out been invited when a guy comes out to they are always the first to ask what was the lady like etc etc.

That’s a very different atmosphere to what I’ve experienced in Leeds and Manchester clubs."
. I can’t knock OP4F it’s well run with well behaved members after all no one wants their membership cancelled.Rios any one can go in any time except Saturday 7.00pm to Midnight they are open from 11.00 am to 7.00 and it is a spa when I go it is to relax first after that anything else is a bonus no expectation no disappointment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've heard a lot of good things about both cams and xtasia it's just the initial hurdle of plucking up the courage to go lol

I guess that's where the 'handholding' mentioned here in previous posts comes in.

Not looking down on anyone, in fact I'm wishing I was confident enough to be like them!

More of a social moth than a social butterfly "

I think you will be surprised how mixed and friendly the crowd is at those two well reviewed clubs. Be aware of the differences in the dress policy between the two and choose your event or day/time carefully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know of several fun, good looking, well presented men who don’t go to clubs because they ‘don’t want to be one of the wanking dead’. As a fairly regular club goer I think this is a shame. For me, the best club nights are those that have a good selection of single men.

A couple of observations to any men considering going to clubs but concerned about being ridiculed as a ‘wanking zombie’:

A) It’s not compulsory to wander round in a towel wanking. You can resist!

B) Most of the ‘towel wanker’ contingent don’t actually make eye contact or talk to people before they enter rooms uninvited and lob a cock in your face.

C) Within the last two months I and my friends have encountered guys who push to go into a room within 5 minutes of starting a conversation, guys who won’t take a direct ‘No’ as an answer (several times), BO, and a kiss from which I could identify the precise Macdonalds menu item he had just eaten.

D) I’ve twice had fingers in my fanny without the slightest attempt at permission and one idiot who tried to penetrate me bare.

I still go to clubs, I have great fun at clubs and I have adapted my play and meet style to reduce my encounters with unprotected f@ckwits, but Men of Fab, if you are clean, teeth brushed, sweet smelling, with a reasonable chat game and the willingness to ask permission before touching and a playbag full of condoms, then you are already so far ahead of many single men at clubs that you will never be mistaken for a ‘towel wanker’.

The single picky female club goers of Fab need you!"

Absolutely this. Oh and don’t wander round from room to room in packs.

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By *woPlusMore69Couple
over a year ago

Birstall


"men again ?? lol what about the women that walk around pissed or the couples who always feel entitled and also if this behavior is there then theres a need for it as someone is allowing it and letting them get away with it...

if someone put there fingers in me or attempted to do something ive not consented them to do then i would 100% take it further.

and as for hygine i agree but have to say smelly breath (and bodys) is not a just a guy thing plenty of smelly other people in clubs .

very rare i go to the clubs nearby now as its pissed up single women who are giving the bad behavior its rewards so those ''guys '' that misbehave know that their £30 is going to get rewarded everyweek because the pissed up women are always there too..supply and demand bad behavior will alway bring more bad behavior so rather than blame the guys maybe blame the clubs for allowing it ie money talks.

my opinion only "
agree with this xx

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By *uggiedMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Would not have the bottle to go to a club there are so many mixed views about them that can be a bit of putting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"men again ?? lol what about the women that walk around pissed or the couples who always feel entitled and also if this behavior is there then theres a need for it as someone is allowing it and letting them get away with it...

if someone put there fingers in me or attempted to do something ive not consented them to do then i would 100% take it further.

and as for hygine i agree but have to say smelly breath (and bodys) is not a just a guy thing plenty of smelly other people in clubs .

very rare i go to the clubs nearby now as its pissed up single women who are giving the bad behavior its rewards so those ''guys '' that misbehave know that their £30 is going to get rewarded everyweek because the pissed up women are always there too..supply and demand bad behavior will alway bring more bad behavior so rather than blame the guys maybe blame the clubs for allowing it ie money talks.

my opinion only

You’re missing the point. I don’t think many of the towel wankers and idiots without condoms are on fab. At no point have I suggested that bad behaviour is restricted to men and neither have I said that I didn’t follow up unwanted contact.

What we need is MORE sociable, clean, fairly dober people in clubs, which, despite the examples above, are generally clean, safe environments for single women to meet others."

never said you were as such it was just my opinion ... if clubs want a better standard of men then maybe there needs to be a better standard of women and couples too ?? guess what im saying is the ''guys who wank or unclean'' are there because they are getting what they want otherwise they would not be there hence what i was saying... also clubs tend to look after there regulars the wanking zombies mostly are the regular guys (down this way anyway) not trying to belittle you in anyway hence why i said my opinion maybe the clubs should stop letting women in for free then the guys who pay over the top wont have a sense of entitlement (not that they should anyway) a club in the southwest is prime ex sample you go to the club pay couples and guys sit around making convo and warming up then 10 .30 ish 2 pissed up women walk in see to all the wanking dead and the newbies who get caught up in the moment then as soon as no more is left for them they fuck off lol yep they are the regulars too lol great being a free night aint it lol

oh and condoms or lack of them is not a wanking dead problem its all.

so not to upset anyone its my opinion only...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

also clubs should not be as strict with numbers of single men control them numbers yes but not to a point of silly numbers

oh shit grammer lazy lets wait for the nazis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose if there all as like minded as each other and as a single male you have got the courage to do it then it’s ok.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"men again ?? lol what about the women that walk around pissed or the couples who always feel entitled and also if this behavior is there then theres a need for it as someone is allowing it and letting them get away with it...

if someone put there fingers in me or attempted to do something ive not consented them to do then i would 100% take it further.

and as for hygine i agree but have to say smelly breath (and bodys) is not a just a guy thing plenty of smelly other people in clubs .

very rare i go to the clubs nearby now as its pissed up single women who are giving the bad behavior its rewards so those ''guys '' that misbehave know that their £30 is going to get rewarded everyweek because the pissed up women are always there too..supply and demand bad behavior will alway bring more bad behavior so rather than blame the guys maybe blame the clubs for allowing it ie money talks.

my opinion only

You’re missing the point. I don’t think many of the towel wankers and idiots without condoms are on fab. At no point have I suggested that bad behaviour is restricted to men and neither have I said that I didn’t follow up unwanted contact.

What we need is MORE sociable, clean, fairly dober people in clubs, which, despite the examples above, are generally clean, safe environments for single women to meet others.

never said you were as such it was just my opinion ... if clubs want a better standard of men then maybe there needs to be a better standard of women and couples too ?? guess what im saying is the ''guys who wank or unclean'' are there because they are getting what they want otherwise they would not be there hence what i was saying... also clubs tend to look after there regulars the wanking zombies mostly are the regular guys (down this way anyway) not trying to belittle you in anyway hence why i said my opinion maybe the clubs should stop letting women in for free then the guys who pay over the top wont have a sense of entitlement (not that they should anyway) a club in the southwest is prime ex sample you go to the club pay couples and guys sit around making convo and warming up then 10 .30 ish 2 pissed up women walk in see to all the wanking dead and the newbies who get caught up in the moment then as soon as no more is left for them they fuck off lol yep they are the regulars too lol great being a free night aint it lol

oh and condoms or lack of them is not a wanking dead problem its all.

so not to upset anyone its my opinion only..."

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Bookmarked

You know I was thinking of you..amongst others.."

Thank you Let's hope some positivity towards single guys comes from this thread

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Deffo the kind of single guy needed at clubs, rather than the wanking zombies.

Seen a club review recently saying there wasn't enough single guys there.

It's not just single ladies looking for decent guys"

I saw that post too, it reminded me I have two half-price vouchers for that club still to use......

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By *ycra loutMan
over a year ago

york/Scarborough

I would love to go to a club but as already mentioned. I couldn't go alone as I've never been before therefore don't know what happens and what's required. But after reading the above comments..Id hate to be labelled as a wanker as I have respect for everyone and everything. So if there's any nice people. Ladies or couples that are local'ish to me.can you get in touch with me please

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Interesting.

Everybody says clubs are the way to go.

Ok, not everyone, but it's mentioned a lot on the forums as if they are some sort of nirvana."

Everyone should try visiting a club (or two), for curiosity's sake if nothing else. It's always better to try something and fail, than not try at all, and spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have always been rather dubious about clubs, and after reading this I am definitely never setting foot in one.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Isn’t the towel look the least sexy look going. On women too. There I said it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as with towel based clubs the men have to wear them.. the women dont they can cover themselves up ith something sexy hardly fair i say

disclamer = my opinion only

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London


"as with towel based clubs the men have to wear them.. the women dont they can cover themselves up ith something sexy hardly fair i say

disclamer = my opinion only "

Towels aren't always conpulsory - full nudity is acceptable in most "towel-based clubs".

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By *nyx99Man
over a year ago

London

Interesting commentary all round. Definitely things to bear in mind. Can't say I've been to a club either, though the thought had crossed my mind, minus some of the bad rep that 'single' guys get on club reviews. I would have a assumed some a similar approach to getting ready for a night out at a 'vanilla'... Cleaned and dressed to impress, at least that would be my approach. As for the wanking dead, that sounds horrific. As for correct protocol when meeting fellow clubbers, again assumed that it would be the same as a regular night out, make a good impression and go from there...??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"as with towel based clubs the men have to wear them.. the women dont they can cover themselves up ith something sexy hardly fair i say

disclamer = my opinion only

Towels aren't always conpulsory - full nudity is acceptable in most "towel-based clubs". "

no you dont say ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Isn’t the towel look the least sexy look going. On women too. There I said it! "

You have to fold it in half, then it’s a gladiator skirt. COMPLETELY different effect..

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I want to try a club but am not keen on going on my own. Not because of being the wanking dead, I just seems a bit awkward. With a couple it doesn't seem too bad as you can play with each other and just have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to try a club but am not keen on going on my own. Not because of being the wanking dead, I just seems a bit awkward. With a couple it doesn't seem too bad as you can play with each other and just have fun. "

As long as you go... understand and respect the rules, act like a gentleman and have good hygiene, you have no reason to feel awkward. Don't be afraid to approach a single lady or couple and ask how their night is going and if they would like to chat. If they say yes then see where it goes from there, if they say no then be respectful, tell them to enjoy their night and perhaps go back to the bar. The more respectful and polite you are at a club, the more chance you have of being invited to play. I despise being followed in a club after politely saying no to someone, and I'm put off by "lads" who seem to come in a group. Being pushy gets you nowhere either.

I guess my point is, act like you would if you were on a date or similar. Not as if you are in a brothel. And have fun. That's the whole point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know of several fun, good looking, well presented men who don’t go to clubs because they ‘don’t want to be one of the wanking dead’. As a fairly regular club goer I think this is a shame. For me, the best club nights are those that have a good selection of single men.

A couple of observations to any men considering going to clubs but concerned about being ridiculed as a ‘wanking zombie’:

A) It’s not compulsory to wander round in a towel wanking. You can resist!

B) Most of the ‘towel wanker’ contingent don’t actually make eye contact or talk to people before they enter rooms uninvited and lob a cock in your face.

C) Within the last two months I and my friends have encountered guys who push to go into a room within 5 minutes of starting a conversation, guys who won’t take a direct ‘No’ as an answer (several times), BO, and a kiss from which I could identify the precise Macdonalds menu item he had just eaten.

D) I’ve twice had fingers in my fanny without the slightest attempt at permission and one idiot who tried to penetrate me bare.

I still go to clubs, I have great fun at clubs and I have adapted my play and meet style to reduce my encounters with unprotected f@ckwits, but Men of Fab, if you are clean, teeth brushed, sweet smelling, with a reasonable chat game and the willingness to ask permission before touching and a playbag full of condoms, then you are already so far ahead of many single men at clubs that you will never be mistaken for a ‘towel wanker’.

The single picky female club goers of Fab need you!"

I couldn't go to a club because, if any of this happened to me, I would be swinging for people.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Interesting.

Everybody says clubs are the way to go.

Ok, not everyone, but it's mentioned a lot on the forums as if they are some sort of nirvana.

Everyone should try visiting a club (or two), for curiosity's sake if nothing else. It's always better to try something and fail, than not try at all, and spend the rest of your life wondering what might have been. "

So true, we all get nerves but what do people imagine is really going to happen!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did try it but ended up with ptsd after developing a dent on my head from a flying well end whilst i was getting frisky with a girl

So for that reason as well as the fact i font wanna bump into people i may know from real life im out

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan
over a year ago

North west

We’ve been visiting clubs for nearly 6 years.

We often encounter towel wankers, but I must add we’ve never had any cross the boundary, maybe it’s because Kim has a certain (don’t fuck with me) look. She would never in a million years show any interest because She’s not generally interested in single guys, but, we did have one guy who made an effort, came over, chatted, was non pushy , he was groomed and spent the time to get to know us and eventually spent 2 fun filled hours in a play room with us. If he’d not Invested some time in getting to know us, it would never have happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met some great blokes in clubs but the vast majority are not the type I'm interested in. Then when those get all stalkerish it's another level of cringe

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"We’ve been visiting clubs for nearly 6 years.

We often encounter towel wankers, but I must add we’ve never had any cross the boundary, maybe it’s because Kim has a certain (don’t fuck with me) look. She would never in a million years show any interest because She’s not generally interested in single guys, but, we did have one guy who made an effort, came over, chatted, was non pushy , he was groomed and spent the time to get to know us and eventually spent 2 fun filled hours in a play room with us. If he’d not Invested some time in getting to know us, it would never have happened."

I've attended several clubs over the past year, and chatted with couples, single females, and single guys. I avoid being presumed part of the 'wanking dead', which can be tricky when your natural curiosity draws you around the play areas, and you're a guy on your own, but I always wear boxers to avoid the dreaded towel! What I've found is, in general, most people have pre-arranged meets inside, so when the play really starts happening after about midnight, the bar/social areas go quiet, and you (specifically me) become a voyeur. Nice if that's what you're into, not great feeling left out. Once I get to that point, and I'm in the bar like Billy no mates, I tend to leave. It's for this reason, I won't be considering any more club visits, without a prior meeting arranged

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Can we just say to all you single guys who are now skeptical of going to a club, please don't be.

They are the best of fun if you behave appropriately and it's only very seldomly ruined by the minor few. Reading your replies we don't imagine any if you fall into that category.

Just go and enjoy yourselves, no club would be any good without single guys. Happy clubbing.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"

Some women are so demanding, take your dress off, we need to talk!

Ha! You got me before with that one. I’m wise to you now..!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure why any guys would spend upwards of £30 to be treated as second class, when you can get just that for a fiver - and from the comfort of your own sofa

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames


"Can we just say to all you single guys who are now skeptical of going to a club, please don't be.

They are the best of fun if you behave appropriately and it's only very seldomly ruined by the minor few. Reading your replies we don't imagine any if you fall into that category.

Just go and enjoy yourselves, no club would be any good without single guys. Happy clubbing. "
Absolutely correct - clubs work so much better with a choice of well groomed, well behaved, wickedly erotic single men. Some couples may not want to play with you - but plenty do. Our last play date at our local club was essentially made perfect by the single men who participated. Please take heart and attend. Your manners and charms will get you so much .....

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By *ottie 13Woman
over a year ago

Happy go lucky


"I know of several fun, good looking, well presented men who don’t go to clubs because they ‘don’t want to be one of the wanking dead’. As a fairly regular club goer I think this is a shame. For me, the best club nights are those that have a good selection of single men.

A couple of observations to any men considering going to clubs but concerned about being ridiculed as a ‘wanking zombie’:

A) It’s not compulsory to wander round in a towel wanking. You can resist!

B) Most of the ‘towel wanker’ contingent don’t actually make eye contact or talk to people before they enter rooms uninvited and lob a cock in your face.

C) Within the last two months I and my friends have encountered guys who push to go into a room within 5 minutes of starting a conversation, guys who won’t take a direct ‘No’ as an answer (several times), BO, and a kiss from which I could identify the precise Macdonalds menu item he had just eaten.

D) I’ve twice had fingers in my fanny without the slightest attempt at permission and one idiot who tried to penetrate me bare.

I still go to clubs, I have great fun at clubs and I have adapted my play and meet style to reduce my encounters with unprotected f@ckwits, but Men of Fab, if you are clean, teeth brushed, sweet smelling, with a reasonable chat game and the willingness to ask permission before touching and a playbag full of condoms, then you are already so far ahead of many single men at clubs that you will never be mistaken for a ‘towel wanker’.

The single picky female club goers of Fab need you!"

Couldn't agree more

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I want to try a club but am not keen on going on my own. Not because of being the wanking dead, I just seems a bit awkward. With a couple it doesn't seem too bad as you can play with each other and just have fun.

As long as you go... understand and respect the rules, act like a gentleman and have good hygiene, you have no reason to feel awkward. Don't be afraid to approach a single lady or couple and ask how their night is going and if they would like to chat. If they say yes then see where it goes from there, if they say no then be respectful, tell them to enjoy their night and perhaps go back to the bar. The more respectful and polite you are at a club, the more chance you have of being invited to play. I despise being followed in a club after politely saying no to someone, and I'm put off by "lads" who seem to come in a group. Being pushy gets you nowhere either.

I guess my point is, act like you would if you were on a date or similar. Not as if you are in a brothel. And have fun. That's the whole point "

Good advice. I'm going to try one one day.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I know of several fun, good looking, well presented men who don’t go to clubs because they ‘don’t want to be one of the wanking dead’. As a fairly regular club goer I think this is a shame. For me, the best club nights are those that have a good selection of single men.

A couple of observations to any men considering going to clubs but concerned about being ridiculed as a ‘wanking zombie’:

A) It’s not compulsory to wander round in a towel wanking. You can resist!

B) Most of the ‘towel wanker’ contingent don’t actually make eye contact or talk to people before they enter rooms uninvited and lob a cock in your face.

C) Within the last two months I and my friends have encountered guys who push to go into a room within 5 minutes of starting a conversation, guys who won’t take a direct ‘No’ as an answer (several times), BO, and a kiss from which I could identify the precise Macdonalds menu item he had just eaten.

D) I’ve twice had fingers in my fanny without the slightest attempt at permission and one idiot who tried to penetrate me bare.

I still go to clubs, I have great fun at clubs and I have adapted my play and meet style to reduce my encounters with unprotected f@ckwits, but Men of Fab, if you are clean, teeth brushed, sweet smelling, with a reasonable chat game and the willingness to ask permission before touching and a playbag full of condoms, then you are already so far ahead of many single men at clubs that you will never be mistaken for a ‘towel wanker’.

The single picky female club goers of Fab need you!"

Yes! So much yes! This is exactly what we need. Glad to see a fellow single female club goer supporting the single males! (the decent ones)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to say that many of these posts are really not selling the idea of going to a club to me!

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...


"I know of several fun, good looking, well presented men who don’t go to clubs because they ‘don’t want to be one of the wanking dead’. As a fairly regular club goer I think this is a shame. For me, the best club nights are those that have a good selection of single men.

A couple of observations to any men considering going to clubs but concerned about being ridiculed as a ‘wanking zombie’:

A) It’s not compulsory to wander round in a towel wanking. You can resist!

B) Most of the ‘towel wanker’ contingent don’t actually make eye contact or talk to people before they enter rooms uninvited and lob a cock in your face.

C) Within the last two months I and my friends have encountered guys who push to go into a room within 5 minutes of starting a conversation, guys who won’t take a direct ‘No’ as an answer (several times), BO, and a kiss from which I could identify the precise Macdonalds menu item he had just eaten.

D) I’ve twice had fingers in my fanny without the slightest attempt at permission and one idiot who tried to penetrate me bare.

I still go to clubs, I have great fun at clubs and I have adapted my play and meet style to reduce my encounters with unprotected f@ckwits, but Men of Fab, if you are clean, teeth brushed, sweet smelling, with a reasonable chat game and the willingness to ask permission before touching and a playbag full of condoms, then you are already so far ahead of many single men at clubs that you will never be mistaken for a ‘towel wanker’.

The single picky female club goers of Fab need you!"

This is an excellent post.

OK the towels are missing but the same can be said for some of the guys in the German, Spanish, and French clubs.

Don't get us wrong our swinging life is almost exclusively in clubs and we have met some really nice guys over the years, but for fucks sake, we have met some real dickheads as well.

The only thing we would add to the above is that if you do get invited to play, please remember that a pussy has a body and a brain attached to it. Ramming as many fingers inside as you can with the action of digging an allotment or for coal may have looked good in the last porn movie you watched. However, from our experience and the wife's feelings it really isn't appreciated.

So bad has it been recently that we are now considering a no fingering rule. Some guys should really take the time to learn, and that doesn't mean from the hamster and the like.

Rant over.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral


"I know of several fun, good looking, well presented men who don’t go to clubs because they ‘don’t want to be one of the wanking dead’. As a fairly regular club goer I think this is a shame. For me, the best club nights are those that have a good selection of single men.

A couple of observations to any men considering going to clubs but concerned about being ridiculed as a ‘wanking zombie’:

A) It’s not compulsory to wander round in a towel wanking. You can resist!

B) Most of the ‘towel wanker’ contingent don’t actually make eye contact or talk to people before they enter rooms uninvited and lob a cock in your face.

C) Within the last two months I and my friends have encountered guys who push to go into a room within 5 minutes of starting a conversation, guys who won’t take a direct ‘No’ as an answer (several times), BO, and a kiss from which I could identify the precise Macdonalds menu item he had just eaten.

D) I’ve twice had fingers in my fanny without the slightest attempt at permission and one idiot who tried to penetrate me bare.

I still go to clubs, I have great fun at clubs and I have adapted my play and meet style to reduce my encounters with unprotected f@ckwits, but Men of Fab, if you are clean, teeth brushed, sweet smelling, with a reasonable chat game and the willingness to ask permission before touching and a playbag full of condoms, then you are already so far ahead of many single men at clubs that you will never be mistaken for a ‘towel wanker’.

The single picky female club goers of Fab need you!

This is an excellent post.

OK the towels are missing but the same can be said for some of the guys in the German, Spanish, and French clubs.

Don't get us wrong our swinging life is almost exclusively in clubs and we have met some really nice guys over the years, but for fucks sake, we have met some real dickheads as well.

The only thing we would add to the above is that if you do get invited to play, please remember that a pussy has a body and a brain attached to it. Ramming as many fingers inside as you can with the action of digging an allotment or for coal may have looked good in the last porn movie you watched. However, from our experience and the wife's feelings it really isn't appreciated.

So bad has it been recently that we are now considering a no fingering rule. Some guys should really take the time to learn, and that doesn't mean from the hamster and the like.

Rant over."
Sorry

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By *orksCouple25Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"men again ?? lol what about the women that walk around pissed or the couples who always feel entitled and also if this behavior is there then theres a need for it as someone is allowing it and letting them get away with it...

if someone put there fingers in me or attempted to do something ive not consented them to do then i would 100% take it further.

and as for hygine i agree but have to say smelly breath (and bodys) is not a just a guy thing plenty of smelly other people in clubs .

very rare i go to the clubs nearby now as its pissed up single women who are giving the bad behavior its rewards so those ''guys '' that misbehave know that their £30 is going to get rewarded everyweek because the pissed up women are always there too..supply and demand bad behavior will alway bring more bad behavior so rather than blame the guys maybe blame the clubs for allowing it ie money talks.

my opinion only "

That post is excellent and is the exact reason we have stopped going to any Clubs in the UK. Any scratter with £30 quid can get in and scratter women are really encouraged to come because they are often allowed in free of charge !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know of several fun, good looking, well presented men who don’t go to clubs because they ‘don’t want to be one of the wanking dead’. As a fairly regular club goer I think this is a shame. For me, the best club nights are those that have a good selection of single men.

A couple of observations to any men considering going to clubs but concerned about being ridiculed as a ‘wanking zombie’:

A) It’s not compulsory to wander round in a towel wanking. You can resist!

B) Most of the ‘towel wanker’ contingent don’t actually make eye contact or talk to people before they enter rooms uninvited and lob a cock in your face.

C) Within the last two months I and my friends have encountered guys who push to go into a room within 5 minutes of starting a conversation, guys who won’t take a direct ‘No’ as an answer (several times), BO, and a kiss from which I could identify the precise Macdonalds menu item he had just eaten.

D) I’ve twice had fingers in my fanny without the slightest attempt at permission and one idiot who tried to penetrate me bare.

I still go to clubs, I have great fun at clubs and I have adapted my play and meet style to reduce my encounters with unprotected f@ckwits, but Men of Fab, if you are clean, teeth brushed, sweet smelling, with a reasonable chat game and the willingness to ask permission before touching and a playbag full of condoms, then you are already so far ahead of many single men at clubs that you will never be mistaken for a ‘towel wanker’.

The single picky female club goers of Fab need you!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can we just say to all you single guys who are now skeptical of going to a club, please don't be.

They are the best of fun if you behave appropriately and it's only very seldomly ruined by the minor few. Reading your replies we don't imagine any if you fall into that category.

Just go and enjoy yourselves, no club would be any good without single guys. Happy clubbing. "

Excellent x

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

Thanks for the advice, I'll give it a go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with you on this subject Tigerlilly. Great advice for single males. It's great to see you are doing well on here and very active on the forums to offer friendly advice.

I'm never pushy in the club's and always polite and respectful to everyone. It goes a long way to be nice and I have to say after all my many club visits, I have never come away feeling disappointed.

I have now met some wonderful people on the swinging scene and even become friends with a few. We often go out for Sunday lunch and talk about our adventures when we catch up.

You can't make this stuff up lol x

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