FabSwingers.com forum: Principle

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Reading a recent 'meet me today' I saw that this person wanted to be wined and dined, the type of food, wine and restaurant was specified, and then it said we could shag.

Not a tight ass, but it did get me thinking!

Thoughts?

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

needs a dating site i would think

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My thoughts too, but guessing that some people will be happy to go down that route if they get what there after!

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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago

north wales / chester

easily bought then that or starving !!! ..would need to be connection for me never mind food and wine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they want that cool i guess the person meetings knows the terms

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By *oournsMan
over a year ago

Some people are here for more than a pump and dump or a splash and dash. Fair play to them i say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading a recent 'meet me today' I saw that this person wanted to be wined and dined, the type of food, wine and restaurant was specified, and then it said we could shag.

Not a tight ass, but it did get me thinking!

Thoughts?

I would want a signed contract that I get to shag her in a way I like.

Or see if she would be happy with an early dinner or 2 4 1 type thingy

Or I wanted to feed some to chat too, I would use the dating sites, some nice women on them sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt see it as a date rather an evening of foreplay, flirting over a meal, flashing underwear, talking dirty etc can lead to some very interesting, passionate sex.

I love getting ready for a meet so why not enjoy the whole evening. Nothing wrong with being civilised before you shag like animals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

THINK ! it would be fun , as long as there is a lot of flirting , and the odd feel under the table . FRANKIE XX

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?"

why dont u ask her?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did it say that they are expected to pick up the tab? I wouldn't mind going for a meal and drinks with someone and am quite happy to pay my way too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not unless she puts a gun to your head and says pay for my meal dimwit

Of course it might be a bit much if she hands him the reciept for the corset, new dress, high heels and stockings, not to mention the remote controlled egg she has inserted (bloody batteries cost a fortune), the make up and the perfume. Feck when you think about how much I spend on dressing to please I think from now on Ill buy the dinner and wear jeans and a top.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading a recent 'meet me today' I saw that this person wanted to be wined and dined, the type of food, wine and restaurant was specified, and then it said we could shag.

Not a tight ass, but it did get me thinking!

Thoughts?

My thoughts are, be honest about what you want, whatever that may be, from bareback sex to being taken out for a meal, then people will either reply or they wont

Some guys like taking women out i get many offers of being taken out for a meal by guys on here, so women after that will always find a guy to oblige

However if its not for you, just move on

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?"

You can only be pushed into something if you let them.

Me personaly think you are paying for the privelage of shagging if you are paying all.

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By *oournsMan
over a year ago

"Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?"
dont guys anyway ? Whats one dinner really ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes was clearly expected to pick up the tab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"needs a dating site i would think"

cant say as i agree, i have met guys off here and been to concerts with them, met some and had a night out on the town, i have been out for meals with people i have met off here, i went to download festival for the weekend with one guy, but i didnt class any of the meets ive had as dates, i am quite capable of sitting at a table with a guy and having a meal without falling in love with him

To me a date is the feeling/intentions behind who your having night out with not the act of having a meal

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?dont guys anyway ? Whats one dinner really ?"

Really? It's very rare for a bloke to pay for a meal for me. And if I meet in a pub then we usually go dutch on the drinks.

However, if anyone wants to treat me, I prefer 5 star cuisine. Can't promise you a shag though.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Yes was clearly expected to pick up the tab!"

Then don't contact that person for a meet, as you don't match what you both want....it really is that simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?"

not at all, if i met a guy and had a meal with him and at the end of the evening i didnt want to play i would simply pay my share of the bill and go home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This day and age, IMHO, it is not unreasonable to expect both parties to go Dutch on the first meeting, be it just a coffee or meeting up for a meal.

If the T&Cs are clearly stated in a person's profile and upfront, then it is down to the gent to decide whether they are acceptable to him or not.

I guess there must be sufficient gents about who are willing to cough up in the hope to get their legs over for such ladies to be successful on FAB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes was clearly expected to pick up the tab!"

I never expect anyone to pay for anything for me, tho im not that petty i will sit and copper up my half, if i meet a guy and we got to the club if hes happy to pay the entry i will get the bar bill on the way out, or if we are staying over one pay club entry other pay for hotel room etc, not because im a femanist lol but just because im not the type of person who thinks because im a single woman on a sex site im so special that guys will jump thro hoops to meet me lol i like to be fair on my meets plus also i dont like to feel obligated to have sex because i've been 'bought' for the night, if i have paid my own way i feel much easier in going home without playing, thats not to say i wouldnt go home if they did pay for everything but i would feel a bit guilty knowing they had spent money on me

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I have been out to dinner with a guy on here about 3 times and we have not even had sex. Its more of a friendship and when we are not busy we meet up. There is no spark but we have become friends and he won't let me pay for the meals even though I have offered on every occasion.

I see nothing wrong with going out for a meal or a night out with someone from here after all why should my stanards slip being on a sex site. I am not saying that that is what I want all the time. I just think its nice to be respected that is all. I am not going to fall in love with every bloke that takes me out for dinner or to a club or out for the day. Its a chance to spend time with interesting people who like to do the same things.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Reading a recent 'meet me today' I saw that this person wanted to be wined and dined, the type of food, wine and restaurant was specified, and then it said we could shag.

Not a tight ass, but it did get me thinking!

Thoughts?

They were upfront and honest about what they wanted....so can't see the problem really.

Two options available - 1) contact if happy or 2) move along to the next 'meet me today' ad.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"needs a dating site i would think"

Disagree.

We have enjoyed meals, drinks and 'normal' vanilla evenings with singles and other couples.

Should we be on a dating site too?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with enjoying some company, but did you expect the others to pay for the whole evening?

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?dont guys anyway ? Whats one dinner really ?

Really? It's very rare for a bloke to pay for a meal for me. And if I meet in a pub then we usually go dutch on the drinks.

However, if anyone wants to treat me, I prefer 5 star cuisine. Can't promise you a shag though.

Bibi's any good?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?dont guys anyway ? Whats one dinner really ?

Really? It's very rare for a bloke to pay for a meal for me. And if I meet in a pub then we usually go dutch on the drinks.

However, if anyone wants to treat me, I prefer 5 star cuisine. Can't promise you a shag though.

Bibi's any good?

My goodness I haven't been there since the York branch shut down!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a KFC big box meal n am urs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading a recent 'meet me today' I saw that this person wanted to be wined and dined, the type of food, wine and restaurant was specified, and then it said we could shag.

Not a tight ass, but it did get me thinking!

Thoughts?

Its a nice way of relaxing and getting in the mood but would expect both partys to pay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met one bloke who only ordered a drink for himself. When I called him on it his response was "this isn't a date". I left.

I always meet socially then arrange a meet at my home at a future date. No way would I entertain a tight arse...erm, well I would, but you know what I mean

Personally don't see the problem, the lady is stating what she wants, no different to the couples who expect single men to book and pay for hotel rooms then leave the couple to the room once they've tired of him.

Choices...if not for you what's the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a KFC big box meal n am urs

lol my kinda man

one of the best meets ive had that really stands out was a guy i met and we sat on a park bench for ages just talking, then went to the chippy and shared a bag of chips lol

I know it sounds all WTF and naff when you put it like that but he was so nice and it was nice, just to meet someone down to earth and be yourself and actually be liked for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Met one bloke who only ordered a drink for himself. When I called him on it his response was "this isn't a date". I left. "

and so would i, i have no probelm buying drinks on meets and wouldnt dream of ever going to the bar and getting just one for me and would expected to be treat with the same respect i show others

Ive had it when i went to a club and the guy i was with actually asked me what i have had to drink so they can work out my share of the bar bill, i just said to him if your that skint i'll pay it, so paid the lot and left

I just find that kind of penny pinching attitude very unatractive, i think because i wouldnt do it it shocks me others do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not naff its the simple things u can enjoy with good company =]

i shared a bag of chips with a girl once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there and done that, and basically happy to take a lady out for a meal as part of a pleasant evening, and even an overnighter!

But when the supposedly very experienced swinger was always sooo tired, and the sex was at best very basic, I woke up to the fact that I was pretty well paying for IT, and I wasn't getting much value for my money!! So decided that enough was enough!!

Nowadays, it's an uphill struggle to buy a certain lady a cup of coffee!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wrong site ....not my cup of tea lacks any sort of class in my eyes .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont think anyone should be allowed to advertise on here that they will get a shag if they buy me dinner....flowers....or anything else.

maybe the OP should ask for the shag up front

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the main difference is offering to take a lady out for a meal and being told by the woman you have to take her out

I remember meeting a single guy off here once who was out of work after being made redundant, he was a really nice guy and we chatted on msn for a while and he kept saying to me when he was back on his feet, job wise, he would take me out for a drink etc we had been talking about club and he mentioned he would like to try one so i took him to one, i paid for us to get in and the room after to stay in and to be honest i was happy to do that because i liked him and we all fall on hard times in our life, however had he told me at any point that he expected me to pay if we went id have told him where to get off

Doing something out of a want of doing it or as a gesture of your personality is not the same as being told you have to in order to get a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the main difference is offering to take a lady out for a meal and being told by the woman you have to take her out

Doing something out of a want of doing it or as a gesture of your personality is not the same as being told you have to in order to get a shag "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the main difference is offering to take a lady out for a meal and being told by the woman you have to take her out

Doing something out of a want of doing it or as a gesture of your personality is not the same as being told you have to in order to get a shag "

Quite agree, although I wouldn't have been so generous. I have my children to relieve me of my cash, and if a friend needed help not a problem but I wouldn't be subbing someone I met of here!

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes

"I think the main difference is offering to take a lady out for a meal and being told by the woman you have to take her out

Doing something out of a want of doing it or as a gesture of your personality is not the same as being told you have to in order to get a shag "

100% agree. there is nothing meant by buying someone a drink, or a bad of chips

its just nice and human!

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By *atureFem4FunWoman
over a year ago

Petts Wood

Whatever happened to ignoring something that doesn't suit you?

After all she put up a meet request....she wasn't contacting you directly and demanding anything

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By * starr -Woman
over a year ago

Burton on Trent.

if someone offers to take you out for a meal, then thats different, they are willing to pay i should imagine, but i dont agree with telling someone where and when and you will pay for it all.this is a swingers site after all, so swing people, if you want to wine and dine then i dont think this is the site for you.

i just expect them to turn up with condoms, (which many dont) so i at least pay for those to make sure im always covered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever happened to ignoring something that doesn't suit you?

After all she put up a meet request....she wasn't contacting you directly and demanding anything"

if you believe something is wrong in principle then i think it is only fair that you should challenge it

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes

"i just expect them to turn up with condoms, (which many dont) so i at least pay for those to make sure im always covered.

some dont bring condoms. hmm shame on them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i just expect them to turn up with condoms, (which many dont) so i at least pay for those to make sure im always covered.

some dont bring condoms. hmm shame on them!"

i always provide my own condoms as i cant use latex ones and its amazing how many turn up with latex ones even tho ive said i cant use them and still expect a shag lol

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By *erkshireMan123Man
over a year ago

Devizes

"i always provide my own condoms as i cant use latex ones and its amazing how many turn up with latex ones even tho ive said i cant use them and still expect a shag lol

Im still amazed how many dont want to use them, and indeed messge people with a "fancy a shag" message. bonkers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever happened to ignoring something that doesn't suit you?

After all she put up a meet request....she wasn't contacting you directly and demanding anything

if you believe something is wrong in principle then i think it is only fair that you should challenge it"

if she had mailed him directly and told him he should buy her a meal then yes i agree

but she didnt hes just read this on someones profile and in that case i do not feel anyone has the rights to challange anyone over something they do not agree with on someones profile

Ive seen some right rude profiles in my time i wouldnt dream of airing my views on what they have put

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Please be reminded that I am not challenging what they have said, my comments have been neutral.

Merely though it would provoke interesting discussion on here.

After all isn't that what its for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like to know who this girl is ??

sounds like the perfect evening to me

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?dont guys anyway ? Whats one dinner really ?

Really? It's very rare for a bloke to pay for a meal for me. And if I meet in a pub then we usually go dutch on the drinks.

However, if anyone wants to treat me, I prefer 5 star cuisine. Can't promise you a shag though.

+1.

though when i meet guys for coffee - i always has a public place meet first for safety - and i pull out my wallet, i'm generally told to put it away again... but thats just a coffee, not a meal or a night of drinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't expect to be nor do I want to be wined and dined; for starters I drive to meets so wouldn't consider alcohol at all. I am quite happy with a coffee or soft drink, depending on where I meet someone, for the social first meet. And on the other hand, some of my meets are in both my lunch break and theirs so neither is an option

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Nothing wrong with enjoying some company, but did you expect the others to pay for the whole evening?"

No we wouldn't....

But the point I was making in my earlier post, people had the choice to contact her if they were happy with what she wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?"

What?! You mean she's not paying for it!

Time for a cool sharp harp methinks lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure that I got my point across! Im sure it would be a horny night 'and all that'.

BUT are you being pushed into paying for the night?"

What?! You mean she's not paying for it!

Time for a cool sharp harp methinks lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Reading a recent 'meet me today' I saw that this person wanted to be wined and dined, the type of food, wine and restaurant was specified, and then it said we could shag.

Not a tight ass, but it did get me thinking!

Thoughts?

My thoughts are, when someone states they expect x, y and z to be paid for in return for sex, it's no different to them asking for the cash.

If you want to go for it, it's up to you.

I might rewrite my profile to include details of where to pay my gas bill, where I want my shopping doing and how to set up a derect debit to pay for my broadband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reading a recent 'meet me today' I saw that this person wanted to be wined and dined, the type of food, wine and restaurant was specified, and then it said we could shag.

Not a tight ass, but it did get me thinking!

Thoughts?

My thoughts are, when someone states they expect x, y and z to be paid for in return for sex, it's no different to them asking for the cash.

If you want to go for it, it's up to you.

I might rewrite my profile to include details of where to pay my gas bill, where I want my shopping doing and how to set up a derect debit to pay for my broadband."

and you forgot to pay for the vets bills and the luxury holiday

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