FabSwingers.com forum: Chat before photos?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?

Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.

Are they in the right or wrong?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I like to see a face pic early on in the convo, no point chatting to someone you don't find appealing, shallow as that might sound!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see early on

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By *mber DextrousWoman
over a year ago

Devon

I prefer to chat a bit before sending a pic, I want to a) know we're unlikely to cross paths in a work capacity and b) get a feel for whether we're likely to get on before sending face pics. A good personality can overcome looks but it never works the other way round for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?

Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.

Are they in the right or wrong?"

Much prefer to see who I am talking to tbf and won't talk to a dick pic we have face pis set to freinds only but more than happy to chat and let people see providing they send us some face pics to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind,I'm happy to share early on but I think that sometimes it's interesting to see if you click mentally 1st

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I am looking for playmates, then I won't engage in conversation if someone either doesn't send me a clear picture of their face or has doesn't have one on their profile

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I prefer to chat a bit before sending a pic, I want to a) know we're unlikely to cross paths in a work capacity and b) get a feel for whether we're likely to get on before sending face pics. A good personality can overcome looks but it never works the other way round for me. "

This for me too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really dislike it as you get to know them and then when face pics are eventually shown im not attracted to them. It ends in total disappointment.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

If thats how they want to work thats up to them,however i think it would limit meets.

I ask early on and if someone refuses ,I would move on .We all value our privacy on here and it would make me wonder what they were hiding.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?

Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.

Are they in the right or wrong?"

If they don’t send photos within the first or second message, I’m not gonna respond. I’m not going to waste time chatting to a potential meet that turns out I’m not attracted too

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

I kik to chat a bit first, but will send face pic on request , as no point in chatting loads if not fancied, but I het s lot of have you a pic, when they have none at all then they dont get one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got no objection to sending a photo of me straight off if someone asks but I either like the person I'm chatting to or I don't, after that it seems a little immaterial to me as long as they have been verified of course

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?

Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.

Are they in the right or wrong?"

No right or wrong, just what suits both parties, we explain that we don't even open the message if it doesn't have a face pic attached.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

This is me, too. I want to get a bit of a sense of whether we're compatible and that the other person respects me (and we don't know each other). Not endless chat, but, a few messages or so. Those who don't like it won't get anywhere with me.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

If no face pic is in the first or second message we'll ask for one, no pic then and it's end of conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't need a face pic unless a meet is on the cards. I'm personality driven so if you click, you click.

An average person with a beautiful soul will always look prettier than a beauty with zero personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find mental stimulation far more important than looks.

Of course appearance is important but not as much as a connection.

If we clicked and were considering meeting then obviously pics would be needed.if at that point either person doesn't fancy the other, respectfully move along. Might be frustrating but on the up side,at least you had a decent chat and maybe made a new friend

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Much prefer early face pics.

Way to frustrating when you've spent ages messaging to find there's no attraction there atall. It may be shallow but to connect with someone sexually there has to be both a mental and physical connection for us.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t push for face pics until the other person is comfortable but if chatting back and forth then you want to see who you’re talking to at some point. If their profile is totally blank then it’s a no no. Too many fake profiles here for our liking for that.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s only a few messages I can understand but after a while why wouldn’t they do yes b annoyed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always request a face pic with first message and we will return ours if attraction is sparked. No attraction = no play..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to chat before sending my face photo as I haven’t met any women who think I am in the least bit attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?

Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.

Are they in the right or wrong?"

I only want to swap pics after I've decided if I want to meet them or not. I'd happily not even see a pic as long as I knew they were normal looking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?

Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.

Are they in the right or wrong?"

I've never worried about face photos. I can judge whether I want to continue a conversation or meet with someone, more by what they say than what they look like. I've met many people, both for a social and play without knowing what they look like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?

Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.

Are they in the right or wrong?

I only want to swap pics after I've decided if I want to meet them or not. I'd happily not even see a pic as long as I knew they were normal looking x"

See, maybe it’s just me but I can’t decide whether I want to meet someone without seeing their face. And I don’t want to talk for ages just to find out that I don’t like their face or vice versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No right or wrong just different ways of doing things. I won't chat without seeing a face pic.

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By *idsBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Tamworth

I pointed this out to some dude that kept messaging me and got accused of disrespecting him. Oh how hilarious that was when he threw his toys out of the pram and blocked me saying he didn’t think we were compatible (Ha! Ye think?)

Early on works best for me, but to each their own.

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By *uggiedMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

There are to many men posing as women so i now like a face photo early on

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I like to swap face pics early on, if I feel I'm having to coax one out of somebody I lose interest fast.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

For me there has to be an initial attraction before I send a face pic, but I do send one quite early on

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By *woPlusMore69Couple
over a year ago

Birstall

"I don't mind,I'm happy to share early on but I think that sometimes it's interesting to see if you click mentally 1st"

This ! After a few messages and see if a little chemistry is there before asking for pictures xx good guys send face pictures without being asked xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't mind,I'm happy to share early on but I think that sometimes it's interesting to see if you click mentally 1st

This ! After a few messages and see if a little chemistry is there before asking for pictures xx good guys send face pictures without being asked xx"

So because a guy doesn't send a pic without being asked, he's bad? LMFAO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So if I message a person with no face pics on their profile, I should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are your thoughts on people who want to talk endlessly before sharing face photos?

Personally it does my head in. I don’t want to talk to someone I can’t see.

Are they in the right or wrong?

I only want to swap pics after I've decided if I want to meet them or not. I'd happily not even see a pic as long as I knew they were normal looking x

As long as they are normal looking I don't really mind. I fancy my husband I don't need to fancy anyone else x

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We’ll send a face pic with the first message if we see someone we like, and would expect a face pic early on if there was interest.

There has to be a mental and social connection and attraction naturally, but both of these things are moot if their isn’t also a mutual physical attraction.

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By *ackandsashaCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

All the different opinions prove we are all different, and that's good. We would never meet another couple if there wasn't a connection regardless of looks.

We can usually tell after the first 2 messages if we want to take it further.

Then, pics are essential. Especially when some people clearly don't know their correct age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see a Face pic before I chat. No point getting into a conversation if the face does nothing for me.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's also an interesting measure of someone. Are they willing to compromise? I'm willing to move the face picture up a bit, but not to message two or three. If they're not willing to chat for what probably amounts to fifteen or twenty minutes all told, then they don't respect my boundaries and it's a no from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think this is the difference between when I first started and what I'll call the Facebook generation.

I may sound like a dinosaur, but when I first started it was by letter from the back pages of a magazine or a contact magazine, the only photos available, if at all, were some grainy Polaroid. You used to add a phone number, chat to them and get a feel for a couple or female that way. Very often you would meet not knowing what they looked like or they you. It was almost, dare I say, a 'truer' swinging. It was literally about sex, which is as it should be. Ok, if when you met, you didn't get on, you went your separate ways as you do now. Of course it was more difficult in those days, you had to put the effort in, you still do, but it is so much easier. You certainly didn't have so many, if any, time wasters.

I do think swinging, like the majority of the internet, has become much more image based. I'm not sure whether that is a good thing or not. It gives you the opportunity to make an informed choice on how someone looks. It doesn't necessarily mean they are suitable though.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

That just sounds like ‘worse’ swinging, rather than ‘truer’ swinging.

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