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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being honest is the best policy it dosent confuse people. A respectful no sorry your not for me/us works every time for us. male

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol "

Lol we do not give a single duck if we upset a loser we do not want to meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would they be upset? Being turned down just means that we all save time.

The alternative seems to be stringing people on untill the position becomes untenable, then vanishing.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"Being honest is the best policy it dosent confuse people. A respectful no sorry your not for me/us works every time for us. male "
it doesn't matter how nice you are sometimes there still there still text you back going on your wife is fat and you are less of a man in some way.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol

Lol we do not give a single duck if we upset a loser we do not want to meet... "
What if they are not loser and after chatting and exchanging pics you realise they are just not for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would they be upset? Being turned down just means that we all save time.

The alternative seems to be stringing people on untill the position becomes untenable, then vanishing. "

As a single man it’s nice for people to either answer a no or see the mail deleted. Means the same thing.

If someone gets upset and throws their dummy out, they should definitely not be on this site.

Everyone likes someone something different and have personal choices.

I was asked by a couple to play with them. I didn’t fancy them so politely said. No thanks. Got some grief. Easy answer, block and delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Not all of us. I usually don't get a message at all just the mail gets deleted. But when I do get a "No thanks" message I will thank them for the polite reply and leave it there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No thanks is sufficient.

Ignore follow on messages of 'why'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our profile we state in the first line we do not respond to one line rude or lazy messages and we still get loads.

If they have taken the time to put together a message with face pics we will respond to it.

If we are not attracted to them we say we are not a match, have fun and stay safe. No body wants to feel they look like the elephant man..just be polite.After doing that we always block so that we don't waste time with a repeat scenario.

If they are complete fuckwits on the other hand..ie I'm gonna fuck you so hard i'll break your pelvis..instant block...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest with a polite " not my type" sorry" message!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Nice but not for me"

Works for me. Polite and to the point.

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

not my type thank you.....part of the parcel i say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol "

Just add a line to your bio saying if we delete your message we are not interested not being rude just saves time and if they can’t read that they are muppets happy fabbing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks but not for me have fun. Then I leave it at that whether they reply or not. I tend to ignore completely the unverified profiles that just say hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I do the same! "sorry you're not for me". Will always try and reply if I can, to the initial one at least...any subsequent ones after the thanks but no thanks I tend to ignore!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Easy for me: I have on my profile I won't respond to anyone outwith what I'm looking for - and don't.

Anyone who meets what I'm looking for always gets a message in return, usually along the lines, thanks so much for the message, unfortunately not what I'm looking for at the moment, but with his warm eyes/lovely smile/fit physique - whatever, I'm sure they'll have an enjoyable Fab experience.

Nine years on site, never had a "well didn't want to fuck you anyway you fat slag" type message.

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"No thanks is sufficient.

Ignore follow on messages of 'why'

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I completely agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Easy for me: I have on my profile I won't respond to anyone outwith what I'm looking for - and don't.

Anyone who meets what I'm looking for always gets a message in return, usually along the lines, thanks so much for the message, unfortunately not what I'm looking for at the moment, but with his warm eyes/lovely smile/fit physique - whatever, I'm sure they'll have an enjoyable Fab experience.

Nine years on site, never had a "well didn't want to fuck you anyway you fat slag" type message.

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Being nice makes people be nice in return.

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By *entileschiWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I just say sorry no and hope they don't ask why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete the message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In our profile we state in the first line we do not respond to one line rude or lazy messages and we still get loads.

If they have taken the time to put together a message with face pics we will respond to it.

If we are not attracted to them we say we are not a match, have fun and stay safe. No body wants to feel they look like the elephant man..just be polite.After doing that we always block so that we don't waste time with a repeat scenario.

If they are complete fuckwits on the other hand..ie I'm gonna fuck you so hard i'll break your pelvis..instant block..."

Have to realise that most people they don't read profiles at all!!

And that's sooooo annoying. I'd rather mention on the first msg sent after they contact ... Please read profile before going further rather then chatting for a week and then when they realise you are not for them.... All you got it's a '' no thank you '' msg . Why waste time?! I really don't get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol "

Either don't engage/reply or just say thank you but no thankyou or not what we are looking for. .

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By *DKinkyJenTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

I just delete unless they really are failing to get the hint that I’m not interested or I’m bored (mostly with a sarcastic comment ending with informing them they will be blocked if they continue to bother me)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol "

If there has been a decent message exchange just say no thanks, if it's the normal garbage just delete and block. This is a swingers site, no point being all precious about it, anybody that gets upset at being turned down doesn't belong here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually say a polite "No thank you You're not my type"

It's nice to be nice.

When i get that same responce from someone I may be interested in I would never take offence.

We can't all be attracted to everyone. Take it on the chin and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ask them if they own a mirror..

Then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say being polite but honest is the best way.

Simply "you're not my type, I'm sorry..." we can't be everyone's cup of tea so no bad feelings and life goes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually say a polite "No thank you You're not my type"

It's nice to be nice.

When i get that same responce from someone I may be interested in I would never take offence.

We can't all be attracted to everyone. Take it on the chin and move on "

Just noticed your comment ha ha

100% agree.

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By *urity555Man
over a year ago

south west

If someone has taken the time to write us a decent message, I generally will reply back.

If they haven’t, or if they blatantly haven’t read our profile, I will ignore & delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply back with a simple no thank your not my type! But if the come back with why - I block. I shouldn’t have to explain myself to anyone on here!!!

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

We’ll always think about the people who will be reading our rejection and therefore are careful with what we write.

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

I just flambé them in scorn and derision - that way there is no chance of them coming back for a second bite at the cherry

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"We’ll always think about the people who will be reading our rejection and therefore are careful with what we write. "

Disagree!

When visible my profile sets out, no ambiguity, the type of person I'm looking for. I've had men contact me on behalf of someone else as my filters exclude them.

My approach is not to engage with anyone too stupid to read the profile/try to get round filters etc.

If someone takes a more direct view, I'm not hating on them for that. If people dropped the sense of entitlement and accept they didn't have universal appeal, the better their fab experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always appreciate a simple "not for me thanks, good luck" I however, can take rejection like a grown up person

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Just wondered what other people's thoughts on this are do you just go with a straight no thanks and leave it at that or another approach we never know the right way to go about it as don't like upsetting folk lol "

Just ask yourself "What would you like to hear if someone turned you down"

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By *queekyCheesyCouple
over a year ago

newark

I have what can only be described as amazing people skills

So the result of the matter is.. I shut up and mrs says no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t be too British! Thanks but no thanks is polite enough

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By *.H.SMan
over a year ago

London

thanks but no thanks.....be civil at all times

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