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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others " I don't.. I just steer clear of attached people | |||
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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others " Even if your judgement tells you its ok? | |||
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"Just wondering ... Do you like to meet and be intimate with people who cheat on their partners?" Do I like to meet cheats? No. I wouldn't like to do that as I never meet cheats. I am single and only like to meet single people just as it says in my profile. | |||
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"Just wondering ... Do you like to meet and be intimate with people who cheat on their partners?" We never ask, not our business x | |||
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"Never knowingly. I’ve had multiple meets with people who have admitted later on their married. Stopped meeting with them straight away "Same here. Its soul destroying when you find out | |||
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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others I don't.. I just steer clear of attached people " Yup, me too and it’s on my profile so if you choose to ignore that and ask to meet you will then get my succinct thoughts on the matter. | |||
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"Yes if partner fully aware...." That’s not cheating. | |||
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"I met a guy who was attached and said his wife didn't mind him being on here . Til she turned up at my door saying she did mind. Not a nice experience . Then he had a cheek to message me again asking into wanted to continue . This is why I don't want an attached man . I don't aid in cheating . " This is why I don't Drama | |||
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"I met a guy who was attached and said his wife didn't mind him being on here . Til she turned up at my door saying she did mind. Not a nice experience . Then he had a cheek to message me again asking into wanted to continue . This is why I don't want an attached man . I don't aid in cheating . This is why I don't Drama" I don't no more . Never again . | |||
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"There's a few women/couples on here who state that they prefer married men. I don't know why. Maybe they get off on the scenario or just that attached people more likely to be discrete " Marrieds are more discreet. | |||
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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others " Why? Everyone makes a judgement on who they may or may not want to fuck, through fab or otherwise. V x | |||
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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others " It might not be judging just applying a set of standards that suit you and your conscience | |||
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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others Why? Everyone makes a judgement on who they may or may not want to fuck, through fab or otherwise. V x " I judge everyone.  | |||
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"Just wondering ... Do you like to meet and be intimate with people who cheat on their partners?" No I do not. It's pathetic. How would you like if was fucking your wife/gf behind your back | |||
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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others " I judge people on here every day based on a variety of things, everyone does when they're deciding who they want to meet surely. | |||
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" Marrieds are more discreet." | |||
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"There's a few women/couples on here who state that they prefer married men. I don't know why. Maybe they get off on the scenario or just that attached people more likely to be discrete " From my experience it can be either of the above, or a combination of both... ....I used to play with a married woman who was turned on by my being married too, and knew I would be discreet about her playing with me behind her husband's back... | |||
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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others " It has got nothing to do with judging!!!! its to do with personal choice!! if people want to cheat that's fine by us, just we will not assist them in it!!!! | |||
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"It's immaterial to me. It's a swinging site " Couldn't agree more... I don't know why there are so many self-righteousness woman in here...judging and so on | |||
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"Oh and calling us cheats, as they were angels.... If we are to judge, let's judge by having pre-Marital sex... Lol Worst if they have multiple single partners.... Lol " I understand your reaction. Psychologically, no one is going to let themselves be the villain in there own story. Your ego will protect you, adjusting your self narrative, so your actions are understandable. Even good / positive. I’m not mad for labels. But it’s the generally accepted label in society in general. If you have sex with someone else, without your partners permission and knowledge. Then you have cheated, infer a cheater. So people won’t be using that word as a slur. Just to describe the act. I think, if you put yourself in that position you need to be thick skinned. As people will judge you for it. Particularly if you post on an open forum. Your business is no one else business, unless you have a direct interaction with them through a meet. So in that vain, perhaps keeping your business to yourself (seeing as it’s no one else business) will avoid you getting or feeling like you are being judged? | |||
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"It's immaterial to me. It's a swinging site Couldn't agree more... I don't know why there are so many self-righteousness woman in here...judging and so on" It's not just 'self righteous women'  that have that opinion, as it's a 'self righteous man' that's calling you out as a cheat from this profile. If you're doing anything that you wouldn't happily tell your partner about then that is wrong and says more about you than it does them. So many cheaters profiles have the words genuine, honest and respectful on them when in actual fact they couldn't be further from the truth. We don't care what (often spurious) reason folks give for cheating as it doesn't or ever will change the fact that you're cheating on your partner and as is our right, we can judge and dismiss any people we want to, as I'm sure others do when they see our profile. | |||
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"Oh and calling us cheats, as they were angels.... If we are to judge, let's judge by having pre-Marital sex... Lol Worst if they have multiple single partners.... Lol " Pre marital sex. Victimless Numerous partners victimless Cheating. Possible break up of a whole family Oh yeah self righteous Feeling a bit angry because your possible pool of partners has shrunk to a mere droplet of water. I choose who I do anything with. | |||
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"Oh and calling us cheats, as they were angels.... If we are to judge, let's judge by having pre-Marital sex... Lol Worst if they have multiple single partners.... Lol " In what context would we judge people on Pre Marital sex? And if you think multiple partners is worse then why you on this site mate? Some of the things I have seen from clubs nights out on here may offend your delicate sensibilities in that case.  | |||
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"Oh and calling us cheats, as they were angels.... If we are to judge, let's judge by having pre-Marital sex... Lol Worst if they have multiple single partners.... Lol " If you are in a relationship and sleeping with others whilst your partner doesn’t know, you are a cheat. Why would that bother you if you’re happy & comfortable with what you’re doing? Every single person judges every single day, it’s part of life. I choose not to see cheats, some choose to only meet married people. We are all entitled to a choice. | |||
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" Feeling a bit angry because your possible pool of partners has shrunk to a mere droplet of water. " Hahaha! | |||
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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others I don't.. I just steer clear of attached people " Same here or I try to. It’s the pesky ones that fail to mention it that annoys me most. | |||
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"From these reactions.... Hahahahaha... I rest my case.... Life is short... Live and let live.... " Be honest with your partner if you want to live by that mantra, what’s the worst thing to happen. Life is too short like you said!! | |||
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"From these reactions.... Hahahahaha... I rest my case.... Life is short... Live and let live.... Be honest with your partner if you want to live by that mantra, what’s the worst thing to happen. Life is too short like you said!! " | |||
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"I unknowingly met an attached guy once. His pregnant girlfriend found out, figured out who I was and proceeded to send screenshots of my fab profile to my family. So no, never again will I go down that route " How did she manage to figure out who you are? | |||
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"I unknowingly met an attached guy once. His pregnant girlfriend found out, figured out who I was and proceeded to send screenshots of my fab profile to my family. So no, never again will I go down that route How did she manage to figure out who you are?" She Google searched my phone number which led her to my Facebook page. A lesson surely learned there | |||
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"Oh and calling us cheats, as they were angels.... If we are to judge, let's judge by having pre-Marital sex... Lol Worst if they have multiple single partners.... Lol I understand your reaction. Psychologically, no one is going to let themselves be the villain in there own story. Your ego will protect you, adjusting your self narrative, so your actions are understandable. Even good / positive. I’m not mad for labels. But it’s the generally accepted label in society in general. If you have sex with someone else, without your partners permission and knowledge. Then you have cheated, infer a cheater. So people won’t be using that word as a slur. Just to describe the act. I think, if you put yourself in that position you need to be thick skinned. As people will judge you for it. Particularly if you post on an open forum. Your business is no one else business, unless you have a direct interaction with them through a meet. So in that vain, perhaps keeping your business to yourself (seeing as it’s no one else business) will avoid you getting or feeling like you are being judged? " Cor! That reminded me of how I used to post in the forums when I was last on here. I am on a toned down version at the moment. Will kick it up a notch at some point though. Enjoyed reading that post. Here is my contribution in a short version for now: Cheaters is the correct word to use. Not a personal attack on anyone and I am sure they are good people in many ways, but they have chosen to cheat and that is their choice. If somebody cheated on me I would be heart broken! That is not something I can accept or participate in and help others to do it. I choose to stay away. | |||
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"I see some people get rather indignant and seem to place themselves on the moral high ground regarding cheaters. I wonder if these same people when meeting a prospective husband or wife away from fab say; oh by the way I used to be on a sex site would you like to read my many verifications, i doubt many would. Isnt that a form of cheating? That requires them to step down from the high ground." How can you cheat on a person that you haven't met before ? Or that you're not with ? Cheating is having sex behind your partners back. I don't understand the correlation with someone you're not with or haven't even met yet ? We all have a past, and in vanilla relationships I've never listed all my previous sexual partners. I'm extremely open with my swinging lifestyle, so it wouldn't be an issue for me. However I see your point of if this is a secret life, they meet someone and initiate a relationship and never speak of this past . However I'm sure many people leave things out of their past when meeting new people not necessarily sexual elements. Its about honesty in a relationship, rather than sexual history. If I were to fond out that my partner had been swinging for years in the past it wouldn't be an issue for me as I too enjoy the lifestyle. I find I probably "normalise" swinging elements more and more the longer I swing. I have to remember on vanilla dates that its not the done thing to call a friend up to come and join in haha. I agree with parts of your opinion here about honesty regarding past. However I don't agree its cheating. Cheating is doing something knowing if you were to be found out you could lose your marriage, home and family life. Swinging in the past is just that. X | |||
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"I respect your veiw as we should all do, when you say it wouldn't be an issue for you if a prospective hubby was an ex swinger, it might be a huge issue for another lady, so much so that the relationship would stop right there. The point I was trying to make, probably badly, was we all cheat in differing ways. Personally, I play with a lady friend as a couple, who have met many guys who may or may not have been married and quiet frankly it dosent bother us in the least, we are there for sex and nothing else." As I said, I wouldn't bother me as I'm in the swinging lifestyle also. I agree swinging is swapping and fun and sex and playing and all that goes with it. However, I've been that wife sat at home with the children. And when I discovered my husbands NUMEROUS infidelities it broke me. It tore my world apart. Broke my family, marriage and my son now has to be shared between two households. I for one wouldn't want to be part of any of that. If I knew the person was married, that would be knowingly being part of it. So if I find out they are married, I politely refuse to play. I wouldn't want to be amy part of hurting someone else for the sake of a "fuck". | |||
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"I respect your veiw as we should all do, when you say it wouldn't be an issue for you if a prospective hubby was an ex swinger, it might be a huge issue for another lady, so much so that the relationship would stop right there. The point I was trying to make, probably badly, was we all cheat in differing ways. Personally, I play with a lady friend as a couple, who have met many guys who may or may not have been married and quiet frankly it dosent bother us in the least, we are there for sex and nothing else." You have to respect her view as it's right and true. Your view should not be respected because it's wrong on so many levels along with your statement that 'we all cheat' because not everybody does. | |||
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"Just wondering ... Do you like to meet and be intimate with people who cheat on their partners?" No. | |||
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"So, we all have our personal reasons that colour our views on cheating. I have been married for 43 years, 7 years ago my wife was left brain damaged after an awful car crash, i still care for her, but i have my needs and so play, my wife of course dosent know, or my family or friends, am I to be labelled a cheater?" Yes what you are doing is still cheating. I don't judge you for doing it, I would expect to be made aware of the fact, so I can make my own informed choice. I choose not to play with married people no matter what the reasons are that they cheat. Just as others choose to play with those cheating and some actually prefer to play with those cheating. I'm answer to your question. Yes . | |||
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"I see some people get rather indignant and seem to place themselves on the moral high ground regarding cheaters. I wonder if these same people when meeting a prospective husband or wife away from fab say; oh by the way I used to be on a sex site would you like to read my many verifications, i doubt many would. Isnt that a form of cheating? That requires them to step down from the high ground." Is this a joke? The two aren’t comparable. LOL. | |||
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"So, we all have our personal reasons that colour our views on cheating. I have been married for 43 years, 7 years ago my wife was left brain damaged after an awful car crash, i still care for her, but i have my needs and so play, my wife of course dosent know, or my family or friends, am I to be labelled a cheater?" Yes you are a cheater. Key sentence “My wife doesn’t know” if she doesn’t know that you’re fucking other people, you are cheating on her. If so many of you cheaters were actually comfortable with what you are doing to your partners you wouldn’t desperately feel the need to try your hardest to justify what you’re doing. It’s as simple as that. | |||
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"Fair enough, and your correct technically, I do cheat, yet I still think by not disclosing to a potential spouse that you was once on a swingers site with 200 or so verifications is also cheating, and dishonest. Guess thankfully, we are all different its always good to debate." I would and I do disclose about my swinging lifestyle. And I certainly don't have 200 or so verifications. Not that it would matter. Yes the technicality is you are having sex without your wives knowledge. So therefore you are a cheat. No matter the reasons behind it. Cheating is fucking behind your partners back. I still fail to see the correlation with cheating on a spouse, to your previous sexual history when dating?? Do all vanillas' do a full sexual disclosure when dating ? I've often found vanilla men on apps such as tinder far more sexually active than swingers. ! | |||
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"So, we all have our personal reasons that colour our views on cheating. I have been married for 43 years, 7 years ago my wife was left brain damaged after an awful car crash, i still care for her, but i have my needs and so play, my wife of course dosent know, or my family or friends, am I to be labelled a cheater? Yes you are a cheater. Key sentence “My wife doesn’t know” if she doesn’t know that you’re fucking other people, you are cheating on her. If so many of you cheaters were actually comfortable with what you are doing to your partners you wouldn’t desperately feel the need to try your hardest to justify what you’re doing. It’s as simple as that. " . | |||
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"Fair enough, and your correct technically, I do cheat, yet I still think by not disclosing to a potential spouse that you was once on a swingers site with 200 or so verifications is also cheating, and dishonest. Guess thankfully, we are all different its always good to debate." There is no correlation. Someone’s sexual history BEFORE they met a person really isn’t that persons business, if asked they should be honest, I know I would. However it is not cheating to not tell someone how many people you’ve slept with if you’re never asked, it’s completely different to deceiving someone and having sex behind their back whilst in a relationship & they think you’re loyal. If you don’t think what you’re doing is wrong, tell your wife. | |||
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"I believe they are, if my wife whilst courting told me she had met 200 guys of a swingers site then that would be that,end of courtship, if I found out after getting married then I would not be a happy chap to say the least, it's cheating and dishonest, and you have to then ask the question why not tell them, is it something you would feel ashamed of?" So people you fuck now with 200 or so verifications are good enough to fuck, but not good enough to court, marry ? Its ok for you to do it now ? And also cheat? Extremely conflicting comments and statements. | |||
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"I believe they are, if my wife whilst courting told me she had met 200 guys of a swingers site then that would be that,end of courtship, if I found out after getting married then I would not be a happy chap to say the least, it's cheating and dishonest, and you have to then ask the question why not tell them, is it something you would feel ashamed of?" It’s not cheating nor is it dishonest. It’s only dishonest if you’re asked and then lie about it. I haven’t slept with even close to 200 people but if I had and someone asked, I would tell them. I’m not ashamed, it is just sex, not a taboo act. Maybe everyone should fill out a form on sexual partners before they get into a relationship? Ridiculous. So you’d end your marriage if your wife had fucked 200 people, yet you’re lying to your wife and are increasing the knotches on your bedpost without her knowledge? The hypocrisy. That means if she finds out about your cheating she has every right to leave you. If you have a problem with women sleeping with multiple men, you’re on the wrong site. | |||
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"I believe they are, if my wife whilst courting told me she had met 200 guys of a swingers site then that would be that,end of courtship, if I found out after getting married then I would not be a happy chap to say the least, it's cheating and dishonest, and you have to then ask the question why not tell them, is it something you would feel ashamed of? So people you fuck now with 200 or so verifications are good enough to fuck, but not good enough to court, marry ? Its ok for you to do it now ? And also cheat? Extremely conflicting comments and statements. " It’s a common theme with some. They’re happy to fuck all and sundry on here, but they wouldn’t like it if their partner did the same, they want their partner to be seen not heard and have very little sexual partners. Self entirled hypocrites everywhere. | |||
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"I believe they are, if my wife whilst courting told me she had met 200 guys of a swingers site then that would be that,end of courtship, if I found out after getting married then I would not be a happy chap to say the least, it's cheating and dishonest, and you have to then ask the question why not tell them, is it something you would feel ashamed of? So people you fuck now with 200 or so verifications are good enough to fuck, but not good enough to court, marry ? Its ok for you to do it now ? And also cheat? Extremely conflicting comments and statements. It’s a common theme with some. They’re happy to fuck all and sundry on here, but they wouldn’t like it if their partner did the same, they want their partner to be seen not heard and have very little sexual partners. Self entirled hypocrites everywhere. " | |||
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"I never said anything of the sort about not wanting my partner fucking whilst I fuck as you put it all and sundry, the boot on the other foot I would tell my prospective spouse I was a swinger rather than hide the fact, thus giving her the choice of staying or walking and I would expect the same of her. I'm not talking about a few boyfriends or girlfriends im talking about many multiple partners. So please don't paint me as someone who thinks the wifes place is at home you cannot be further from the truth." How exactly would you tell your spouse you’re a swinger, when you haven’t even told your wife?! You talk about hiding, but you’re hiding the fact you’re on here and having sex with other women from your wife, so you are in no place to talk. You are completely contradicting yourself. You expect honesty from a partner, but you don’t even give that to your own partner. | |||
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"I never said anything of the sort about not wanting my partner fucking whilst I fuck as you put it all and sundry, the boot on the other foot I would tell my prospective spouse I was a swinger rather than hide the fact, thus giving her the choice of staying or walking and I would expect the same of her. I'm not talking about a few boyfriends or girlfriends im talking about many multiple partners. So please don't paint me as someone who thinks the wifes place is at home you cannot be further from the truth." You said if she told you while courting - you wouldn't have carried on the courtship. However now you are doing it, people are pointing out the double standard of your comments. Its not always easy to convey by text what you mean, and people can be very quick to jump on certain elements in the forums. However you have said that not disclosing sexual history Is the same as cheating on a spouse. My opinion is they ate not comparable. Rather like apples and oranges. I'm sure if your wife knew she was being cheated on by her husband with men and women she would be extremely hurt and upset. That is your business and morals to deal with. I don't judge. I however choose not to play with attached. I certainly am not happy that you class me as a cheater because I swing and have had previous sexual encounters. You asked were you a cheat. The answer is yes. I'm sorry if that was a hard pill to swallow. How ever ots a factual comment. I swing. When I date guys I tell them I u enjoy the swinging lifestyle. I'm open and honest. As far as I can see, nothing is open or honest about what you are doing. | |||
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"If you had bothered to read and digest what I posted earlier you would see that my wife is brain damaged and as such unable to speak hear or comprehend anything, prior to her accident I never in 36 years as you say cheated, so I will take no lessons of you thankyou." I’m sorry to her about your wife’s condition, however it doesn’t take away from the fact you’re cheating. So my comment still stands. | |||
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"I never said anything of the sort about not wanting my partner fucking whilst I fuck as you put it all and sundry, the boot on the other foot I would tell my prospective spouse I was a swinger rather than hide the fact, thus giving her the choice of staying or walking and I would expect the same of her. I'm not talking about a few boyfriends or girlfriends im talking about many multiple partners. So please don't paint me as someone who thinks the wifes place is at home you cannot be further from the truth. You said if she told you while courting - you wouldn't have carried on the courtship. However now you are doing it, people are pointing out the double standard of your comments. Its not always easy to convey by text what you mean, and people can be very quick to jump on certain elements in the forums. However you have said that not disclosing sexual history Is the same as cheating on a spouse. My opinion is they ate not comparable. Rather like apples and oranges. I'm sure if your wife knew she was being cheated on by her husband with men and women she would be extremely hurt and upset. That is your business and morals to deal with. I don't judge. I however choose not to play with attached. I certainly am not happy that you class me as a cheater because I swing and have had previous sexual encounters. You asked were you a cheat. The answer is yes. I'm sorry if that was a hard pill to swallow. How ever ots a factual comment. I swing. When I date guys I tell them I u enjoy the swinging lifestyle. I'm open and honest. As far as I can see, nothing is open or honest about what you are doing. " Absolutely agree. You can’t speak on honesty when you aren’t honest yourself. | |||
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"I never said anything of the sort about not wanting my partner fucking whilst I fuck as you put it all and sundry, the boot on the other foot I would tell my prospective spouse I was a swinger rather than hide the fact, thus giving her the choice of staying or walking and I would expect the same of her. I'm not talking about a few boyfriends or girlfriends im talking about many multiple partners. So please don't paint me as someone who thinks the wifes place is at home you cannot be further from the truth." Very few people on here have slept with 200 people from Fab. What if it’s 20 people from Fab you’ve slept with? Should you tell a prospective partner and at what number, in your world, does someone walk away? What about people who have been on Tinder? Do they have to tell prospective partners of previous encounters ? You’re living in a bit of a bubble which allows you to justify your own values by comparing them with unrelated behaviour. One scenario involves making a promise and breaking it - married and cheating. The other involves things you’ve done before making a promise to someone - sexual history. | |||
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"I never said anything of the sort about not wanting my partner fucking whilst I fuck as you put it all and sundry, the boot on the other foot I would tell my prospective spouse I was a swinger rather than hide the fact, thus giving her the choice of staying or walking and I would expect the same of her. I'm not talking about a few boyfriends or girlfriends im talking about many multiple partners. So please don't paint me as someone who thinks the wifes place is at home you cannot be further from the truth. Very few people on here have slept with 200 people from Fab. What if it’s 20 people from Fab you’ve slept with? Should you tell a prospective partner and at what number, in your world, does someone walk away? What about people who have been on Tinder? Do they have to tell prospective partners of previous encounters ? You’re living in a bit of a bubble which allows you to justify your own values by comparing them with unrelated behaviour. One scenario involves making a promise and breaking it - married and cheating. The other involves things you’ve done before making a promise to someone - sexual history. " | |||
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"I never said anything of the sort about not wanting my partner fucking whilst I fuck as you put it all and sundry, the boot on the other foot I would tell my prospective spouse I was a swinger rather than hide the fact, thus giving her the choice of staying or walking and I would expect the same of her. I'm not talking about a few boyfriends or girlfriends im talking about many multiple partners. So please don't paint me as someone who thinks the wifes place is at home you cannot be further from the truth. Very few people on here have slept with 200 people from Fab. What if it’s 20 people from Fab you’ve slept with? Should you tell a prospective partner and at what number, in your world, does someone walk away? What about people who have been on Tinder? Do they have to tell prospective partners of previous encounters ? You’re living in a bit of a bubble which allows you to justify your own values by comparing them with unrelated behaviour. One scenario involves making a promise and breaking it - married and cheating. The other involves things you’ve done before making a promise to someone - sexual history. "
Once again, cheaters attempting to justify their cheating to a bunch of strangers, then complain we are “judging”. | |||
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"Goodness me, wish I had the depth of knowledge of a prophet and the moral compass of a saint. Alas I am only human" You don’t need the moral compass of a saint, to be against cheating. | |||
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"I’m intrigued by people’s comments on this one, for me being open on my situation was the way to go about it. I totally get and respect the people that don’t get involved with somebody that’s attached. " | |||
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"So, we all have our personal reasons that colour our views on cheating. I have been married for 43 years, 7 years ago my wife was left brain damaged after an awful car crash, i still care for her, but i have my needs and so play, my wife of course dosent know, or my family or friends, am I to be labelled a cheater?" Blimey...  | |||
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"From these reactions.... Hahahahaha... I rest my case.... Life is short... Live and let live.... Be honest with your partner if you want to live by that mantra, what’s the worst thing to happen. Life is too short like you said!! " Agreed | |||
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"It's immaterial to me. It's a swinging site Couldn't agree more... I don't know why there are so many self-righteousness woman in here...judging and so on It's not just 'self righteous women' that have that opinion, as it's a 'self righteous man' that's calling you out as a cheat from this profile. If you're doing anything that you wouldn't happily tell your partner about then that is wrong and says more about you than it does them. So many cheaters profiles have the words genuine, honest and respectful on them when
in actual fact they couldn't be further from the truth. We don't care what (often spurious) reason folks give for cheating as it doesn't or ever will change the fact that you're cheating on your partner and as is our right, we can judge and dismiss any people we want to, as I'm sure others do when they see our profile."Couldn’t agree more | |||
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"It's immaterial to me. It's a swinging site Couldn't agree more... I don't know why there are so many self-righteousness woman in here...judging and so on It's not just 'self righteous women' that have that opinion, as it's a 'self righteous man' that's calling you out as a cheat from this profile. If you're doing anything that you wouldn't happily tell your partner about then that is wrong and says more about you than it does them. So many cheaters profiles have the words genuine, honest and respectful on them when
in actual fact they couldn't be further from the truth. We don't care what (often spurious) reason folks give for cheating as it doesn't or ever will change the fact that you're cheating on your partner and as is our right, we can judge and dismiss any people we want to, as I'm sure others do when they see our profile.
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"I’m not usually interested in wether someone is attached or not. Most of my play is in clubs, sometimes I don’t even catch their name. " brilliant and honest answer i bet 90% of people on here would do the same | |||
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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others I judge people on here every day based on a variety of things, everyone does when they're deciding who they want to meet surely. " The best summation of it so far. | |||
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"Once you’re on here and participating I believe you shouldn’t be judging others " Guessing you just randomly message profiles then without making any kinda judgment as to wether they’re worth the message in the first place then How liberal | |||
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"A a rule generally I’m not interested I’m here for NSA fun and I’ve found most cheating attached men are the most unreliable for meeting mostly because the string they’ve already got attached to them at home, that’s in the dark about the situation as pulled on said string to stop the meet occurring In a club I don’t tend to be fussed as he’s already there and out for the night anyway " As a rule, we are generally here for the fun and let's be honest fucking. You should not go into swinging with the hope of a relationship so enjoy what you can. | |||
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"I don't. But my fwb is married. I don't come on here to judge people or make sweeping statements. There's enough of that in 'real' life. People have reasons and words like 'cheating' don't always fit." Bull you judge people on here on a daily basis as we all do on some level | |||
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"I don't. But my fwb is married. I don't come on here to judge people or make sweeping statements. There's enough of that in 'real' life. People have reasons and words like 'cheating' don't always fit. Bull you judge people on here on a daily basis as we all do on some level " | |||
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