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"Sorry may not of been totally clear by the question. It’s not happened yet but if we met a lady to join us and it ended one sided I’m just wondering how many are happy carrying on with that or wal_ing out the room at that point which is obviously awkward. I guess every situation is different but either one of us would find it hard getting pushed out. Mrs - no chance Mr - 50/50 I may think yeah take one for the team and let her enjoy it or think no this isn’t what we wanted and call it off but awkward once you’re in bed! But everyone is different. Hard to answer isn’t it as we’re all different " I was just jo_ing. I'd do what makes you both happy no compromises. | |||
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"I made the big mistake of ta_ing one for the team once..never ever again. It actually turned my stomach and really upset me for ages after. My husband was mortified when he realised how badly it affected me..I thought i would be fine with it but wasn't at all.Hence my profile being very fussy now..still doesn't stop the unfuckables from getting in touch as they don't read it anyway..Now i am very clear what i want. " Not easy is it and have to be careful it doesn’t affect your relationship. Hasn’t done to us at all but I think it’s very important to stick to what you both set out for or the other could start resenting and forget what this was all about. Fine line isn’t it. | |||
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"You communicate about what you want a 3 way to be before you meet anyone and them come to an agreement between yourselves as the primary playmates. You then execute the agreement you came to. And if that offends, breaks the flow or ceases the meet so be it" Great advice thanks | |||
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"I've been there, explained all before meeting and I'm pretty sure they only agreed to.meet so they can be with him. Only been2 meets where it has genuinely been about us both. I find that once they move on to him, I don't get a look in and get forgotten about by both, I've literally had minutes on him and I do try to share and guide the other woman on to him but not so she's on him for thre rest of the night, and then maybe swap around but that doesn't seem to happen" Even amongst bisexuals, women on average find men more attractive sexually and vice versa? So I'd expect this in your shoes, the reverse is true when arranging a threesome with a guy of course? That's the thing with couples meeting couples it tends to "level the playing field" so to speak? | |||
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"We have both been involved in threesomes before we met and as a couple but we find on here the chats usually favour one of us rather than both which is not what we want. Question is if in the situation and one is getting less attention do you carry on or leave them to it? " Flames here. IMHO, never "leave them to it". It's not going to be fun for the partner missing, and it's not going to be as much fun for the partner left behind if their partner is awol (presumably...). Unless both really don't give AF. I'm familiar with the scenario, as everyone wants to chat to Phoenix, and indeed, I am lucky that we do enjoy the hotwife scenario. But it has got so one sided that swinging got boring for me. So - Keep tal_ing - But always set out with the agreement (like us) that it's a thumbs up from both of us, or it's a "no". And keep tal_ing / using signals. IMHO anyway! Good luck. | |||
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"Sorry may not of been totally clear by the question. It’s not happened yet but if we met a lady to join us and it ended one sided I’m just wondering how many are happy carrying on with that or wal_ing out the room at that point which is obviously awkward. I guess every situation is different but either one of us would find it hard getting pushed out. Mrs - no chance Mr - 50/50 I may think yeah take one for the team and let her enjoy it or think no this isn’t what we wanted and call it off but awkward once you’re in bed! But everyone is different. Hard to answer isn’t it as we’re all different " We’ve always fully discussed what is wanted. We meet a couple where FF happens but both partners are there and the MF thing only happens with own partners. We also meet another couple where it’s MMFF sort of but she won’t allow her husband to touch me, sometimes it’s 3 and a bitsome where he dips his toes in, sometimes it’s more MMF where I (Mrs) dip my toes in lol. We’ve yet to find a single female for us both to enjoy, the ones we’ve spoken to either don’t want cock or don’t want pussy! Lol can’t win which is why we stick to couples, although sometimes couples are difficult to find as there has to be a connection between all four of you. We’re easy going couple and Mr J is very much a gentleman and makes everyone feel at ease! | |||
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"I had an mmf recently with my girlfriend. I was pushed out of the 'action' and was left to watch & take photos. I didn't decide to leave, just let them get on with it. While I was hot to see it hasn't done us any good as its left me feeling useless sexually, that she's had the all the fun. Alot of resentment. I'd be tal_ing alot about what it is you both want from the experience, and if one partner recognises that the other is being left out they should bring them back in (unless agreed otherwise). I agree with the guy that said non couple mmf/ffm is less likely to go wrong." Sorry to hear about your experience. It seems people have had the good and the bad of this scenario. I do agree as a couple you should have rules and boundaries should one get or feel pushed out. | |||
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"As a single woman, I can say the experience with threesums is a variable experience. With couples - it's been mixed, some good, a fair few not so good. Typically the wife/GF seems to get jealous. This is even when I've had full sex with the woman. I'm bisexual but love to fuck men and seems that a wife/GF seems to have a hard time watching me fuck her man and overtly show that I'm enjoying the sex With two blokes - fabulous almost always With an unrelated M and F - haven't had too many of those (except for with some people I am very close with - that's an entirely different and lovely experience) but always been good With 2 girls - always hot So generally I don't play much with couples LOL x" Thanks for your detailed input lol we’re not a jealous couple at all and I enjoy seeing him with another woman more than he enjoys seeing me with one but out the two of us he is more likely to get bored/turned off if it’s one sided and leaves us to it which isn’t for me. I guess as most say it’s about communication so we shall do just that lol x | |||
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"As a single woman, I can say the experience with threesums is a variable experience. With couples - it's been mixed, some good, a fair few not so good. Typically the wife/GF seems to get jealous. This is even when I've had full sex with the woman. I'm bisexual but love to fuck men and seems that a wife/GF seems to have a hard time watching me fuck her man and overtly show that I'm enjoying the sex With two blokes - fabulous almost always With an unrelated M and F - haven't had too many of those (except for with some people I am very close with - that's an entirely different and lovely experience) but always been good With 2 girls - always hot So generally I don't play much with couples LOL x Thanks for your detailed input lol we’re not a jealous couple at all and I enjoy seeing him with another woman more than he enjoys seeing me with one but out the two of us he is more likely to get bored/turned off if it’s one sided and leaves us to it which isn’t for me. I guess as most say it’s about communication so we shall do just that lol x" I sense the issue with you and your bloke maybe is that either you two or your lovers aren't playing a 3sum the way it's meant to be which is to play with each other not just one member of the 3. I can't ever recall a 3sum where it fizzled down to just me and one of them because I only play with people who want to play with more than just me and personally, I want the intimacy of more than a pair of hands on me. The only exception was once when I was with 2 bi guys and they were so hot for each other they literally forgot about me and shagged each other but guess what? They knew I loved watching bi guys and I did exactly that - watched and played with myself, I wasn't upset. Round 2 they both made up by royally fuc_ing me. Point is I didn't feel I was being left out. Good luck | |||
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"As a single woman, I can say the experience with threesums is a variable experience. With couples - it's been mixed, some good, a fair few not so good. Typically the wife/GF seems to get jealous. This is even when I've had full sex with the woman. I'm bisexual but love to fuck men and seems that a wife/GF seems to have a hard time watching me fuck her man and overtly show that I'm enjoying the sex With two blokes - fabulous almost always With an unrelated M and F - haven't had too many of those (except for with some people I am very close with - that's an entirely different and lovely experience) but always been good With 2 girls - always hot So generally I don't play much with couples LOL x Thanks for your detailed input lol we’re not a jealous couple at all and I enjoy seeing him with another woman more than he enjoys seeing me with one but out the two of us he is more likely to get bored/turned off if it’s one sided and leaves us to it which isn’t for me. I guess as most say it’s about communication so we shall do just that lol x I sense the issue with you and your bloke maybe is that either you two or your lovers aren't playing a 3sum the way it's meant to be which is to play with each other not just one member of the 3. I can't ever recall a 3sum where it fizzled down to just me and one of them because I only play with people who want to play with more than just me and personally, I want the intimacy of more than a pair of hands on me. The only exception was once when I was with 2 bi guys and they were so hot for each other they literally forgot about me and shagged each other but guess what? They knew I loved watching bi guys and I did exactly that - watched and played with myself, I wasn't upset. Round 2 they both made up by royally fuc_ing me. Point is I didn't feel I was being left out. Good luck" Thank you. We always meet for a social first but maybe we need more than one so we can gauge the chemistry between the three of us and make sure it’s clear what we want and don’t want. Thanks everyone for the input x | |||
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"As the couple it makes sense for us to please our guest the most. We can have each other anytime. " Well unless they are pillow princess. If they don’t add anything, what’s the point.... The real fun ones will always add to the fun with another dimension. When one add one creates a sum bigger than two. Add a third and you can square that. | |||
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