FabSwingers.com forum: Is it possible to have a opposite sex as a best friend..?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As Stated, I know it’s possible but do you have a friend of the opposite sex that is a good friend but secretly it’s really a crush..! And have you ever tried to make a move ..?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes, and no. I have plenty of really close male friends (in the league of best friends) who I have zero attraction to and will never be considerations. They're just great people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, and no. I have plenty of really close male friends (in the league of best friends) who I have zero attraction to and will never be considerations. They're just great people. "

You have answered Yes and no...

so you have given the answer to the no scenario on your reply, is there a answer to the yes, have you ever had that scenario..! ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. But I need to be completely unattracted to them. Every girl I’ve had as a best friend has quite often become something more. Plus New partners don’t like men having girls as friends!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. But I need to be completely unattracted to them. Every girl I’ve had as a best friend has quite often become something more. Plus New partners don’t like men having girls as friends!"

So more often than not it’s a yes for you then..?

Do men find woman having male friends a problem also ..?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Yes, and no. I have plenty of really close male friends (in the league of best friends) who I have zero attraction to and will never be considerations. They're just great people.

You have answered Yes and no...

so you have given the answer to the no scenario on your reply, is there a answer to the yes, have you ever had that scenario..! ?"

Oh, sorry, I was going off the headline. Yes I have best friends who are male where it's completely platonic. So no, I've never made a move.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, and no. I have plenty of really close male friends (in the league of best friends) who I have zero attraction to and will never be considerations. They're just great people.

You have answered Yes and no...

so you have given the answer to the no scenario on your reply, is there a answer to the yes, have you ever had that scenario..! ?

Oh, sorry, I was going off the headline. Yes I have best friends who are male where it's completely platonic. So no, I've never made a move. "

Thank you for your input A.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my close friends are women. I've never made a move on a platonic friend but I have friends in my life who began as either partners or casual lovers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband had a friend who considered him her best friend, she made a move claiming she was in love with him now they no longer speak because she couldn't accept the fact that he was happy with me and not interested in her romantically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have lots of close male friends that I've never looked at sexually and would never make any kind of move on, and a few exs that began as friends but became something more.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Yes 105%

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My husband had a friend who considered him her best friend, she made a move claiming she was in love with him now they no longer speak because she couldn't accept the fact that he was happy with me and not interested in her romantically. "

Yes I can see that would cause a problem. This is a common accurance in my limited experience.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have lots of close male friends that I've never looked at sexually and would never make any kind of move on, and a few exs that began as friends but became something more. "

So if a current male friend made a move on you, you would be totally shocked..?

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Yes two close female friends one whom I enjoy walking and some nude sunbathing the other for social coffees or theatre visits

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I feel that this is possible but I also think in my opinion mostly one or the other develops feelings and there is always tell tale signs that are ignored and brushed under the carpet.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I have a couple of very close male friends. We had a thing a few years ago and it fizzled out as we weren’t compatible in that way but the friendship stayed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have loads of close friends who are male. My ex was invariably jealous of them, even though nothing untoward was going on. There were one or two I really fancied, but I kept it under wraps for fear of souring the friendship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, I have a couple of very close male friends. We had a thing a few years ago and it fizzled out as we weren’t compatible in that way but the friendship stayed. "

Ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did but he's not really my friend anymore. We did 'make a move' and it ruined the friendship. Probably we never were friends, he was just using me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have lots of close male friends that I've never looked at sexually and would never make any kind of move on, and a few exs that began as friends but became something more.

So if a current male friend made a move on you, you would be totally shocked..?"

Completely.. there's no romantic interest in any of them and I'm sure they all feel the same. Friends with several exs too and likewise it's 100% platonic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have loads of close friends who are male. My ex was invariably jealous of them, even though nothing untoward was going on. There were one or two I really fancied, but I kept it under wraps for fear of souring the friendship. "

Thank you, this is exactly the situation I’m talking about. I think close friendship between the majority of opposite sexes have lust intertwined in it somewhere by at least one side if not both.

Most and not all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I did but he's not really my friend anymore. We did 'make a move' and it ruined the friendship. Probably we never were friends, he was just using me.

It’s a shame to loose a friendship over that, also ashame you think he was using you.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

No unless 1 of them is gay

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No unless 1 of them is gay"

?????

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I've tried being just good friends with males however even though I've said I'm not interested in them sexually, they seem to continue to keep making suggestive comments to me. That kind of kills it for me

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"No unless 1 of them is gay

?????"
Think about it, it is quite clear

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've tried being just good friends with males however even though I've said I'm not interested in them sexually, they seem to continue to keep making suggestive comments to me. That kind of kills it for me

Common occurance with both sexes I think. Thanks for the input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I can see that would cause a problem. This is a common accurance in my limited experience. "

Probably didn't help we had a d*unk threeway with her before she told him that but their friendship did end with her begging him to leave me and our family for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a friend who was a "tomboy" lesbian.

But within a short period of time I learned she was sociopathic/narcasistic...

She appeared to be like a boy but it was only superficial.

I became stuck with her as a neighbour/colleague.

She literally believed she was the best looking boy or that she could knock men out with 1 punch.

She was genuinely evil and toxic.

Her girlfriend used to beat her up alot and I got to the point where I routed for her girlfriend because they had a ridiculous "make up break up" thing every week.

They were both superficial people. They wanted to inform my then girlfriend about a time I cheated (I regreted months later)

Propper toxic...

I make friends platonicly with girls but I'm not having the argument about a lesbian being "a boy" because I learned that are using female privalidge when it suits them and they will NEVER understand what being a man is really about.

MEN can't talk violence then back away and expect not to get knocked out...

Men and worn are different and I got my fingers drasticly burned by treating someone "as HE wanted to be treated"

Because SHE could never grasp or respect basic male principals.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

One of my best mates is a bloke. We've been friends for around 15 years. Been on holidays together, all the usual stuff you'd do with a good mate.

Great bloke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As Stated, I know it’s possible but do you have a friend of the opposite sex that is a good friend but secretly it’s really a crush..! And have you ever tried to make a move ..? "

I have had this with my male best friend since I was about 14 years old.

We are really good friends, once we were FWB but now just friend. I am basically in love with the guy but will never tell him as our friendship means too much to me.

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By *haneleviMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster

My best mate is female, very very simlar though. We've done stuff in the past. Even had a 3some with her current partner of 3 years. Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had nearly all male best friends (longest for 30 years) never would have sex with them as that would change the relationship and the saddest thing is very very rarely does a girl friend understand ... always sad when not seen for 10 years now divorced never be same friendship again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"One of my best mates is a bloke. We've been friends for around 15 years. Been on holidays together, all the usual stuff you'd do with a good mate.

Great bloke.

Proof that there are these kind of friendships about. ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think it is depends on circumstances but I have a number of ladies I give regular massage too and one says I am like going to a hairdresser. Doesn't tell her man and comes away totally relaxed and primed for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of my closest friends is Male. We do coffee, drinks , meals, I’ve watched him having tattoos done. We’ve been friends for years and it’s never been more than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I think it is depends on circumstances but I have a number of ladies I give regular massage too and one says I am like going to a hairdresser. Doesn't tell her man and comes away totally relaxed and primed for him"

Doesn't sound the same kind of thing though tbh do you do friend stuff together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As Stated, I know it’s possible but do you have a friend of the opposite sex that is a good friend but secretly it’s really a crush..! And have you ever tried to make a move ..? "

One of my best friends is a guy. Neither of us have ever tried anything on, and he knows fine well that I’m in an open marriage. I’m totally not his type

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By *appyWandererMan
over a year ago

Croydon

My female friends are amazing, far more loyal and supportive then my male friends ever could be. They are objectively attractive but i have no desire to sleep with them.

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By *oney to the beeWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"As Stated, I know it’s possible but do you have a friend of the opposite sex that is a good friend but secretly it’s really a crush..! And have you ever tried to make a move ..? "

It is possible but why spoil a friendship there are plenty of people on here to fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As Stated, I know it’s possible but do you have a friend of the opposite sex that is a good friend but secretly it’s really a crush..! And have you ever tried to make a move ..?

It is possible but why spoil a friendship there are plenty of people on here to fuck."

Exactly. I don’t get why people do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As Stated, I know it’s possible but do you have a friend of the opposite sex that is a good friend but secretly it’s really a crush..! And have you ever tried to make a move ..? "

Never been a crush it's a great friendship luckily I'm a grown up and have never required sex from my friends lol a totally different part of life

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By *m A FuckerMan
over a year ago

kingswood,surrey/leysdown kent

of course it is,i have several..dunno why people ask this lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As Stated, I know it’s possible but do you have a friend of the opposite sex that is a good friend but secretly it’s really a crush..! And have you ever tried to make a move ..?

One of my best friends is a guy. Neither of us have ever tried anything on, and he knows fine well that I’m in an open marriage. I’m totally not his type "

I’m getting the feel from your reply maybe you would like him to approach you maybe ..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As Stated, I know it’s possible but do you have a friend of the opposite sex that is a good friend but secretly it’s really a crush..! And have you ever tried to make a move ..?

One of my best friends is a guy. Neither of us have ever tried anything on, and he knows fine well that I’m in an open marriage. I’m totally not his type

I’m getting the feel from your reply maybe you would like him to approach you maybe ..?"

The fuck? No, not at all

We’re best friends, we love each other as friends, there’s nothing sexual between us at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As Stated, I know it’s possible but do you have a friend of the opposite sex that is a good friend but secretly it’s really a crush..! And have you ever tried to make a move ..?

One of my best friends is a guy. Neither of us have ever tried anything on, and he knows fine well that I’m in an open marriage. I’m totally not his type

I’m getting the feel from your reply maybe you would like him to approach you maybe ..?

The fuck? No, not at all

We’re best friends, we love each other as friends, there’s nothing sexual between us at all

Ok point taken. Wrong end of the stick.

Thanks for your input

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

"As Stated, I know it’s possible but do you have a friend of the opposite sex that is a good friend but secretly it’s really a crush..! And have you ever tried to make a move ..?

It is possible but why spoil a friendship there are plenty of people on here to fuck."

because you don't have a dick.

every minute do it, do it, do it. it is said that men think of sex every...something... seconds. why do you think your guy friend hasn't thought about having sex with you just not voicing it especially if you are a "5-10" hot on a social scale. even if you are not his type very likely he has thought about it.

The only way he hasn't, if he is always busy and has hectic lifestyle.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Yes it is and I’ve got one. We met on here. We were together. We are now best friends. There is the occasional Fab naughtiness where we make a great Fab tag team lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got a really close female friend that I’d run through a brick wall for. She’s stunning and funny but I couldn’t make a move on her. It just wouldn’t feel right.

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