FabSwingers.com forum: Has the site had it?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Genuine question.

I re-joined, after a long break. I left originally because I conside_ed the site had become nothing more than a chat site really.

It's now worse than ever; litte_ed with fakes, time wasters and chatters.

So, from a "meeting people for sexual encounters" perspective, do you think the site has had its day?

I`m not going to post any response as I know I will attract some criticism from the "forumites", the "go to a club or social" brigade (no thanks - hate them) and "chatters" - just genuinely interested in whether anyone feels the same as I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on and off here for 8 years and I think its more popular now, has more users and I do think its harder now to find genuine people who won't muck you about and will actually meet but it is what it is. I never take it seriously or get my hopes up or expect anything, that way, I'm never disappointed.

I dip in and out of the forums, look for social and club meets as I generally prefer to get my fun at clubs, its guaranteed, safer for a single woman and can play on my terms.

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I've been on and off here for 8 years and I think its more popular now, has more users and I do think its harder now to find genuine people who won't muck you about and will actually meet but it is what it is. I never take it seriously or get my hopes up or expect anything, that way, I'm never disappointed.

I dip in and out of the forums, look for social and club meets as I generally prefer to get my fun at clubs, its guaranteed, safer for a single woman and can play on my terms. "

I would agree but I think the OPs real issue is the percentage of man has gone up to women and there are more hot guys now who look after themselves so competition is more intense so its far harder for many men on here now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been on and off the site for many of years and recently nobody seems interested in meeting which is the reason why we only use this for club invites and party invites which we changed the profile over to today due to too many time wasters on here lately it's a shame as it used to be lots of fun but not no more

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

No I don’t think it has had its day. I do feel that often people have unrealistic and unreasonable expectations from the site though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Genuine question.

I re-joined, after a long break. I left originally because I conside_ed the site had become nothing more than a chat site really.

It's now worse than ever; litte_ed with fakes, time wasters and chatters.

So, from a "meeting people for sexual encounters" perspective, do you think the site has had its day?

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I personally think it's at its best for years maybe it's your mindset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s turned into Facebook....

Now please Fab my photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldnt agree more!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve been back for almost 5 weeks now and have had one meet with a single guy. We have had a few couples mess us about which is a little bit frustrating, but at least the single ladies leave us alone

So, I guess it has become more of an X-rated Facebook! Either that or we’re just unappealing to 99% of all we’ve spoken to so far which is a distinct possibility

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve been back for almost 5 weeks now and have had one meet with a single guy. We have had a few couples mess us about which is a little bit frustrating, but at least the single ladies leave us alone

So, I guess it has become more of an X-rated Facebook! Either that or we’re just unappealing to 99% of all we’ve spoken to so far which is a distinct possibility

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your pics are very sexy and creative, unappealing I don't think so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it has changed... the same proportion of genuine and interesting people to the usual ‘nice tits, fancy a f**k’ contingent

But I know it’s always easier for women, as we have more choice due to numbers! x

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By *vesham cplCouple
over a year ago

Evesham

We don't think the site has had its day however it is a lot harder to meet genuine couples now. It does seem that more and more people use it for chat and display than for what it used to be, a genuine swingers site for people that play.

We won't give up yet but just keep hoping that the chat only brigade find another site to use when this one falls out of fashion.

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

Charge everyone to use it. It's not much.

Get rid of the dead weight who are only here for wank and chat

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Genuine question.

I re-joined, after a long break. I left originally because I conside_ed the site had become nothing more than a chat site really.

It's now worse than ever; litte_ed with fakes, time wasters and chatters.

So, from a "meeting people for sexual encounters" perspective, do you think the site has had its day?

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Been told it used to be a lot better, think it has been compromised yeah. Loose lips sink ships

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Charge everyone to use it. It's not much.

Get rid of the dead weight who are only here for wank and chat"

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

So you have posted to the forum's encouraging people to chat about Fab being full of chatters. How ironic..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think it has changed... the same proportion of genuine and interesting people to the usual ‘nice tits, fancy a f**k’ contingent

But I know it’s always easier for women, as we have more choice due to numbers! x"
yes you do and you appear to appreciate it

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Genuine question.

I re-joined, after a long break. I left originally because I conside_ed the site had become nothing more than a chat site really.

It's now worse than ever; litte_ed with fakes, time wasters and chatters.

So, from a "meeting people for sexual encounters" perspective, do you think the site has had its day?

a couple of things...

1) if you have already closed down the social/club route.... you have closed down those avenues to meet people, and thats on no one else but you....

2) you can look at the site as one part of the jigsaw.... or you can look at the site in isolation, if you look at the site in isolation you are competing in a larger pond, you are working much harder to stand out....

you can curse/hate socials and clubs as much as you want, but at the end of the day the site does give you the options to make it work.... whether you get it to work or not is on you and you alone.....

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I dip in and out of the forums, look for social and club meets as I generally prefer to get my fun at clubs, its guaranteed, safer for a single woman and can play on my terms.

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By *utsidenakedMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Charge everyone to use it. It's not much.

Get rid of the dead weight who are only here for wank and chat"

Yes ya right something to out the false fabers, I used to pay but now found it a pointless way to go, as makes no difference to the false profiles blocking up the system

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Charge everyone to use it. It's not much.

Get rid of the dead weight who are only here for wank and chat"

Even the "dead weight" can pay to be here if they want to.

Some who want to be here, may not be able to.

Ability to pay does not ever stop those who you may disapprove of from being here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, I've done exactly the same as you, left and returned. While I do agree with someone who said it's more like a naughty Facebook, it's always going to be what you make of it.

What I have noticed, is there are less people that appeal to me than there was previously, maybe my priorities have changed.

As for fakes and time wasters, I think they are fairly easy to spot, so I don't get caught out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what it is. Suppose I’m lucky not to have come across any fakes or timewasters. I like chatting though

and I like meeting people even if it ends up just being friends. I can usually sniff out the fakes within a couple of messages too. So for what I want it seems to work fine. Depends what you’re looking for I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's not working there are plenty of other ways to meet people. No one likes a whinger

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

I think it's not as good as it used to be a few years back,but if you've got enough patience then i still think it's pretty good. Myself and Lexi have found loads of genuine people from here for our party. I guess it really does come down to how social you can be. Most we know are from clubs or parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dip in and out of the forums, look for social and club meets as I generally prefer to get my fun at clubs, its guaranteed, safer for a single woman and can play on my terms.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

To us, it is a fun site.

There is an element of desperation, self degradation and delusion. However if it is taken at the level it is projected, what’s the problem.

Equally the main forum’s are only a small part of the site.

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By *inakiss64Woman
over a year ago

Near St Albans

Some might say time wasters on here but that is a matter of opinion

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By *wansfeetCouple
over a year ago

Guisborough

We think it's super. We still have amazing meets regularly and have met lots of awesome singles and couples from here

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A one strike and you're out, for all the moany buggers, even before we lose the non payers. That should just leave happy jolly people to go around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just concede the sites had it, their ya go, sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With nearly 30,000 people online at the moment it definitely hasn't had it. Different to five years ago sure but things evolve.

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

In the olden days when you had to buy a contact magazine and put pen to paper, send a letter and photos via a third party for cash, swinging actually worked much better. The percentage of genuine people was very high. Now it is somewhat lower and people prefer to meet in clubs to hedge their bets.

We still have friends from those days too. Ok, so we are 93 and 110!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had it but I guess it depends on what you expect and are comparing it to? I never expected too much as a single older guy but I've still met some lovely people. And chatting is fine ... what's wrong with that?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I think it's harder to meet on here simply because of the larger volume of people.

More are willing to sign up than will actually take the plunge.

I would also say 5 weeks is a relatively short period of time. People have lives away from swinging that take precedence.

Since we mainly meet at clubs any meets from Fab is just an added bonus for us anyway...

Nita

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I joined in 2012 so have been here a while.

Its what you make it and what you expect from it. I dont do socials or clubs, I try and stand out with messages, not always (because I have lazy days) but I always write a respectful message and send my picture. I win some, I lose some, some drive me round the twist, some sit on my face....

Overall, the site serves the purpose for what I use it for.

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Site is bound to change as a younger generation join and see and do things differently. Plus safety has become more of an issue over the past few years hence more people choosing to meet at clubs.

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By *woPlusMore69Couple
over a year ago

Birstall

"Genuine question.

I re-joined, after a long break. I left originally because I conside_ed the site had become nothing more than a chat site really.

It's now worse than ever; litte_ed with fakes, time wasters and chatters.

So, from a "meeting people for sexual encounters" perspective, do you think the site has had its day?

You can get some good guys on here that actually turn up , we don't use clubs and have no intention of using clubs . I have found it just takes longer to find the 'ideal' regular friend's xxx every message seems to be the same

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Genuine question.

I re-joined, after a long break. I left originally because I conside_ed the site had become nothing more than a chat site really.

It's now worse than ever; litte_ed with fakes, time wasters and chatters.

So, from a "meeting people for sexual encounters" perspective, do you think the site has had its day?

Fab has been working really well for me recently, I can't remember ever having so many genuine people to share intimate fun times with, than I have right now

I've tried the club scene over the last year, and found it pretty dire to be a single guy in one, a real test of self-confidence in fact, so I'll continue doing what works best for me; messaging in here, and arranging private meets

The best advice I can offer you, is get busy with the block button! Cut the wheat from the chaff, whittle the profiles that catch your eye down to a handful, then make a concerted effort with your messages, rather than scattergunning the site half-heartedly. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different things work for different people some do really well on here others don't some realise its not working for them down to what they are doing on here and change things and find it works others blame it on the site, others or anyone other than themselves and continue to struggle.

hoy have to laugh some only see the end of their nose for the problem when they should be looking on the mirror and evaluate why they fail and others don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In the olden days when you had to buy a contact magazine and put pen to paper, send a letter and photos via a third party for cash, swinging actually worked much better. The percentage of genuine people was very high. Now it is somewhat lower and people prefer to meet in clubs to hedge their bets.

We still have friends from those days too. Ok, so we are 93 and 110!"

I totally agree with this!

We must be a similar age!

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By *ockring91Man
over a year ago

liverpool

OP obviously wasn't too bothe_ed as they have left the site just after 5 hours after starting the thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on Fab about 7 years ago. In our opinion, it was a much better site then with regard to meets.

We know literally dozens of really nice couples who have left the site. All quote a similar reason i.e. the time invested on it, no longer results in the desi_ed outcome (a meet).

We rarely browse on here any more, and when we do, just tend to look at the "meets and events" section for those looking to meet. Even doing that only results in about a 5% success rate!

So, either we have become unappealing (accept that is quite possible) or the dynamics of the site have changed.

A swinger's site? Questionable nowadays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met on Fab about 7 years ago. In our opinion, it was a much better site then with regard to meets.

We know literally dozens of really nice couples who have left the site. All quote a similar reason i.e. the time invested on it, no longer results in the desi_ed outcome (a meet).

We rarely browse on here any more, and when we do, just tend to look at the "meets and events" section for those looking to meet. Even doing that only results in about a 5% success rate!

So, either we have become unappealing (accept that is quite possible) or the dynamics of the site have changed.

A swinger's site? Questionable nowadays.

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you looking for a male

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

"Different things work for different people some do really well on here others don't some realise its not working for them down to what they are doing on here and change things and find it works others blame it on the site, others or anyone other than themselves and continue to struggle.

hoy have to laugh some only see the end of their nose for the problem when they should be looking on the mirror and evaluate why they fail and others don't."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Appears OP has had it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the internet too many weirdos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met on Fab about 7 years ago. In our opinion, it was a much better site then with regard to meets.

We know literally dozens of really nice couples who have left the site. All quote a similar reason i.e. the time invested on it, no longer results in the desi_ed outcome (a meet).

We rarely browse on here any more, and when we do, just tend to look at the "meets and events" section for those looking to meet. Even doing that only results in about a 5% success rate!

So, either we have become unappealing (accept that is quite possible) or the dynamics of the site have changed.

A swinger's site? Questionable nowadays.

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dm me

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

So, I guess it has become more of an X-rated Facebook! Either that or we’re just unappealing to 99% of all we’ve spoken to so far which is a distinct possibility

No way José.. very appealing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dm me "

We`ll let you know when we are seeking a single fella - thank you x

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

the op.gone awol.ha ha and we still ans the twats thread .know wonder he never got any joy from fab .wernt on long enough .i think hes gone to rob the pudsey bear box from greggs .prop gonna eat the pies as well.

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

It's certainly changed. Sometimes it seems to me as if the idiots and jeremy kyle-style "swingers"have grown bo_ed with their pitball, ditched their tracky suit and have now discove_ed swinging.

Suddenly some fool will admire, and even want to fuck their fat ugly wife, infact the very same guy will also admire the 20 year old ford focus on the driveway.

I became inolved in the scene long before the internet, we actually used to buy a magazine (forum), search through ad's, then write a letter to the couple and enclose a SAE (to the me me me millennials, thats a self addressed enelope) then wait a few weeks for a reply. Yes it took ages , but at least you were guaranteed educated and polite couples replied...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Genuine question.

I re-joined, after a long break. I left originally because I conside_ed the site had become nothing more than a chat site really.

It's now worse than ever; litte_ed with fakes, time wasters and chatters.

So, from a "meeting people for sexual encounters" perspective, do you think the site has had its day?

a couple of things...

1) if you have already closed down the social/club route.... you have closed down those avenues to meet people, and thats on no one else but you....

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmfao!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lmfao! "
hi sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people leave because they don’t like the place - then why do they rejoin...? Plenty of others sites out there

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By *akey2somCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

We find it easy to find the fakes and time wasters, anyone that has been on here for a year or more with no verifications we don’t even answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We find it easy to find the fakes and time wasters, anyone that has been on here for a year or more with no verifications we don’t even answer. "
I can’t get verified without a meet ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taken tv off thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love this site, have amazing meets, meet amazing people and have amazing sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love this site, have amazing meets, meet amazing people and have amazing sex!"

You just teasing lol

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By *akey2somCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

"We find it easy to find the fakes and time wasters, anyone that has been on here for a year or more with no verifications we don’t even answer. I can’t get verified without a meet .."

There is really no excuse with the amount of clubs and socials about to never get a chance to meet or get a verification if your genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Charge everyone to use it. It's not much.

Get rid of the dead weight who are only here for wank and chat"

I'm only here to fuck. I'm clear I'm only here to fuck.

When I'm competing against far fitter specimens, I am always going to lose out.

Unless there is a site out there that is based on written profiles and not photoshopped glamour, my personality just isn't enough to cut it.

I was doing ok a few years back, so either the site has changed or I have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We find it easy to find the fakes and time wasters, anyone that has been on here for a year or more with no verifications we don’t even answer. I can’t get verified without a meet ..

There is really no excuse with the amount of clubs and socials about to never get a chance to meet or get a verification if your genuine."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We find it easy to find the fakes and time wasters, anyone that has been on here for a year or more with no verifications we don’t even answer. I can’t get verified without a meet ..

There is really no excuse with the amount of clubs and socials about to never get a chance to meet or get a verification if your genuine."

Dm me please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dip in and out of the forums, look for social and club meets as I generally prefer to get my fun at clubs, its guaranteed, safer for a single woman and can play on my terms

Most ” gym fit guys ” have egos the size of small countries lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats what it needs! Charge everyone a little amount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Ops gone now stand at ease, the site will improve now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re looking to meet couples similar to ourselves. We can no longer find that on Fab so the people we meet are people we’ve known for years.

So in that way the site is worse for us than 5 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its like anything that sticks around for a while in that it evolves amd changes with time and ultimtly its the majority of users that changes the way it feels here. Ive sensed a change in the this place even in the 2 years ive been here or is it that I have changed in those 2 years??? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

8 years ago there were less users

But most seemed genuine

Lots of fake profiles and pic collectors now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"8 years ago there were less users

But most seemed genuine

Lots of fake profiles and pic collectors now "
do you have any pics I havnt seen?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I’m going to sound like one of those bitter men. I’m not. I’ve met some lovely people on here. Some are now good friends. Something has changed this last year. I can’t put my finger on it. Maybe the ratio of men to women has tipped further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do feel that often people have unrealistic and unreasonable expectations from the site though. "

We have to agree with this. It appears that some people think that just by joining a site, then you’re guaranteed sex and everybody just wants to have Sex with everybody else. So people exercise their rights to their personal taste when deciding who they are attracted to - we accept that we might not be to everybody's taste and of course are disappointed if people we find attractive don’t feel the same about us, but that’s the way of the world.

We also agree with another posting that to the majority of swingers, playing with others is something you do when “normal life” allows - people have commitments/priorities/logistical issues that can be an obstacle ( for us it’s the fact that at the moment we’re actually living 300 miles apart so we play when and IF we want to after getting quality time just the two of us when we are together).

If people want guaranteed sex, find an escort. If you find people who can’t meet at the drop of a hat time wasters, or if your whole life revolves around swinging but theirs doesn’t, don’t label them , just move on and find somebody with the same mindset as you.

We both had experience of swinging before getting together - and it still makes us laugh that there are people on the scene who are judgemental of others - yet who would have a hissy fit if a non-swinger judged them for being swingers.

The site is like life - it’s what you make it. There are no guarantees, you get out what you put in, and there IS someone out there who will be a match - you just might have to put time and effort in.

Therein endeth the sermon - we’re going to take our unappealing, troglodyte selves back to our cave now so we don’t offend anybody’s eyes and sensitivities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I can’t get verified without a meet .."

Just a suggestion - it might help if you put a bit more detail in your profile. Contrary to popular misconception couples and ladies are NOT just interested in your body and cock. Ladies want to try to get a read on the man they might meet, perhaps not least from a safety perspective. And couples , the ladies again like to know a bit about the guys, and the male partners will normally want to try to get a read as to whether the guy will behave respectfully towards his partner. Oh, and a “please” doesn’t go amiss when asking people to DM you.

It is an unfortunate reality that when it comes to single guys, it’s a “buyers market”. The proportion of single guys to couples and single ladies LOOKING to meet single guys is large. As two people who have swung as singles we both know this, and Fire has been on the single guy side of the fence and been the person “buying a lottery ticket” in the hope of the jackpot - knowing the odds are long.

Hopefully you’ll take these suggestions in the manner they are intended - not as criticisms but more as trying to help. Best of luck anyway and ..... no, we don’t want to DM you thanks

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over a year ago

"No I don’t think it has had its day. I do feel that often people have unrealistic and unreasonable expectations from the site though. "

100% people set their standards way too high on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Charge everyone to use it. It's not much.

Get rid of the dead weight who are only here for wank and chat"

that would be a good idea id gladly pay what i pay for gold

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over a year ago

I dip in and out of the forums, look for social and club meets as I generally prefer to get my fun at clubs, its guaranteed, safer for a single woman and can play on my terms.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"No I don’t think it has had its day. I do feel that often people have unrealistic and unreasonable expectations from the site though.

100% people set their standards way too high on here "

Did you mean preferences? Are people not allowed the choice of who they socialise with and fuck? I'm assuming you have standards.

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"If people leave because they don’t like the place - then why do they rejoin...? Plenty of others sites out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I can’t get verified without a meet ..

Hopefully you’ll take these suggestions in the manner they are intended - not as criticisms but more as trying to help. Best of luck anyway and ..... no, we don’t want to DM you thanks

it doesnt feel that way. i have a very detailed profile which gets overlooked constantly, maybe im too open or its too long but get so many people looking at my profile and only 1 in 5 actually messaging, winking or fabbing

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By *ustagentMan
over a year ago

wa14

its not just fab that seems to have lost some of its mojo! after all it is a couples game ,they pick you not you picking them, nearley all clubs seem to be loosing clientel, maybe too many clubs and not enough people to go round!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Thats what it needs! Charge everyone a little amount

if only a small amount i doubt it would deter the fakes, timewasters and certainly not the pic hunters (that said we perfectly happy with the site on the whole)

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over a year ago

"No I don’t think it has had its day. I do feel that often people have unrealistic and unreasonable expectations from the site though.

100% people set their standards way too high on here

Did you mean preferences? Are people not allowed the choice of who they socialise with and fuck? I'm assuming you have standards. "

nah not preferences everyone has a right to a preference and who they choose to meet

but when is see profiles thats like

"overweight 5ft2 brunett

seeks muscular 7ft 2 black or white man

must accommodate and take me for dinner

must have tattoos and must shave everything

must be able to take to clubs"

theses are what i mean now i know thats a lil vague but im sure youve all seen profiles like it thats what i man by setting standards way to high

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over a year ago

"No I don’t think it has had its day. I do feel that often people have unrealistic and unreasonable expectations from the site though.

100% people set their standards way too high on here

Did you mean preferences? Are people not allowed the choice of who they socialise with and fuck? I'm assuming you have standards.

nah not preferences everyone has a right to a preference and who they choose to meet

but when is see profiles thats like

"overweight 5ft2 brunett

seeks muscular 7ft 2 black or white man

must accommodate and take me for dinner

must have tattoos and must shave everything

must be able to take to clubs"

theses are what i mean now i know thats a lil vague but im sure youve all seen profiles like it thats what i man by setting standards way to high

also couples who are like bring 420 or sniff and you can do anything to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its not just fab that seems to have lost some of its mojo! after all it is a couples game ,they pick you not you picking them, nearley all clubs seem to be loosing clientel, maybe too many clubs and not enough people to go round!

maybe the price of clubs deter people away?

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

"Genuine question.

I re-joined, after a long break. I left originally because I conside_ed the site had become nothing more than a chat site really.

It's now worse than ever; litte_ed with fakes, time wasters and chatters.

So, from a "meeting people for sexual encounters" perspective, do you think the site has had its day?

This is something that we have been talking about today.

We've just got back from the Benidorm fiesta and from the threads on here it seemed that there would be around 25 couples and a similar number of single guys. It seemed so popular that even a newspaper did an article on it, shouting that "hordes" of swingers will be heading to the fiesta.

There were a couple of informal events that were well publicised on here and lots of members (couples and singles) expressed an interest.

The reality was this.

Event number one was attended by four couples (including ourselves) and one single guy. Event number two was two couples, ourselves and one other who had also attended event one, plus three single guys.

It really does make you wonder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure that the site has 'had it's day's, however I do think it's a very different site than it was in the beginning.

I have made a great many friends here over the years, but have found my best meets to be in clubs.

Chat on here or socials from here has rarely led me to want to play with someone in the past few years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its alive and well and cove_ed in vanilla ice-cream

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I dip in and out of the forums, look for social and club meets as I generally prefer to get my fun at clubs, its guaranteed, safer for a single woman and can play on my terms. "

Agree on the first part.

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over a year ago

" I can’t get verified without a meet ..

Hopefully you’ll take these suggestions in the manner they are intended - not as criticisms but more as trying to help. Best of luck anyway and ..... no, we don’t want to DM you thanks

Didn’t say it was foolproof - again - personal choice comes into play. And also unfortunately for single guys, the good ones often suffer because of the actions of the multitude of idiots - we used to allow contact from single guys but got flooded with a plethora of the usual articulate “fancy a fuck”, “ I wanna shove my cock in your a**” etc etc. Even with the empathy for single guys, and the willingness to try to give good guys the opportunity to make contact , it got too much - there was a serious risk of our sarcasm chip becoming overloaded!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Absolutely not. Stronger and better than ever.

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By *ust ClareTV/TS
over a year ago

Settlewick!

I'm probably one of those that would be conside_ed a time waster by some, as I mostly chat on the forums and post pictures.

I do however meet sometimes when time allows, but it does seem I spend 99% of my time turning people down as

1: they don't read my profile properly

2: they think I'm desperate and should shag anyone who approached me

3: they are too far away to be realistic

I do enjoy the freedom to chat about things which I couldn't on other sites, chatting either via pm or on forum allows me to keep my profile buoyant, and hopefully on occasion I can contact people I've connected to before to arrange taking things further

I also think that there seems to be a higher percentage of 'unpleasant' people on here than before,not necessarily fakes but people I wouldn't want to meet socially let alone sexually,but that's probably a reflection on the increased membership and popularity of the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep definitely had its day, so many wanabees and when you send a message omg the abuse, and then you reply to it ADMIN jumps in and stops your messages, doesnt make sense, after 3 months no veris should be kicked of site sorry wont be able to reply probably be banned by admin again

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People mention these fake people but I've no clue who they may be as I don't knowingly come across them.

If you are rigorous in your filtering of potential friends and meets, you expect most of them to be discarded for many reasons - you're just not mutually matched. I'm always unsure whether people have unrealistic expectations, as they find it so hard to get anyone to match.

We've now had many years of people using the internet for meeting others for dates and sex -this maturity means that others have different expectations from those old days, they are much more experienced and have learned from mistakes etc. This also means that you are competing with others who are also better than they were. In other words you have to be better than you were just to stand still.

One aspect of life is that some also become less attractive over time, for very many reasons. You may be doing things better but less people want you now. Perhaps you are similar to many others they have known and they are looking for something fresh - there's some luck involved but with many years of internet use and meeting others, it can just be a simple case of people already being satisfied from meeting people like you.

I think it's wise to spread your bets and meet people in all kinds of different ways. If you have a site improvement idea, submit it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’re looking to meet couples similar to ourselves. We can no longer find that on Fab so the people we meet are people we’ve known for years.

So in that way the site is worse for us than 5 years ago."

THIS, this and this!

Single fems will obviously have no problem getting a meet.

The number of first class, swinging couples who have left here is considerable. We know of lots and, as you say, finding a meet with a compatible couple nowadays is proving very difficult.

So, yes, Fab has deteriorated from that perspective (in our humble opinion).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Absolutely not. Stronger and better than ever."

May we put forward this theory.

Masses of single men on here can't find a single girl to swing with, and genuine swinging couples seeking single men are getting rarer.

Net result - a percentage of the single men turn to T girls for sex/swinging.

Hence single girls and T girls have no issues with the site - many couples are becoming disillusioned with it.

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Absolutely not. Stronger and better than ever.

May we put forward this theory.

Masses of single men on here can't find a single girl to swing with, and genuine swinging couples seeking single men are getting rarer.

Net result - a percentage of the single men turn to T girls for sex/swinging.

Hence single girls and T girls have no issues with the site - many couples are becoming disillusioned with it.

"
Some truth in that but if you're Straight even if you're desperate you wouldn't turn Gay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve not really been on here that long so can’t really talk off Fab but in my honest opinion every website/social media site I’ve ever used is full of messages from people saying this site is shit not what it used to be. Football, swinging, Facebook whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep definitely had its day, so many wanabees and when you send a message omg the abuse, and then you reply to it ADMIN jumps in and stops your messages, doesnt make sense, after 3 months no veris should be kicked of site sorry wont be able to reply probably be banned by admin again"

If it’s so bad, why are you still here?

Surely if it was as bad as some make out, you’d just leave and find somewhere better to go... I know I would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been here since about 2008-9.

The number have gone up, but I think in terms of getting meets it hasn't changed dramatically, what has. Hanged is the number is people who have joined a swingers site who don't swing or are positively anti swinging. And that is odd and personally something I think the site should do something about orcrenamecrge site as previously said, something like the 'Inbetweeners facebook' or 'flirting for beginers' or maybe 'innuendo for the celibate' . It is genuinely odd, or aren't there other adult forums these people can join that are designed for this sort of thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just wish all the non swingers would fuck off. It's called FABSWINGERS. Sick of people looking for one to one hook ups, bdsm/fetishes, picture collectors, cam knobs and the tons of bullshitter and time wasters.

Phew, that's better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep saying, fab is a failure of its own success. I wish they would charge for it because it would limit the fakers but I still love the place and the forums and I have some amazing friends I've made over the years

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Been here since about 2008-9.

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over a year ago

"Just wish all the non swingers would fuck off. It's called FABSWINGERS. Sick of people looking for one to one hook ups, bdsm/fetishes, picture collectors, cam knobs and the tons of bullshitter and time wasters.

Phew, that's better."

Sorry, I'm not going anywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep saying, fab is a failure of its own success. I wish they would charge for it because it would limit the fakers but I still love the place and the forums and I have some amazing friends I've made over the years "

Charging won't help, and women won't pay to get the same experience they have now. I know I wouldn't.

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over a year ago

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew, that's better."

If only you were admin you could run this site the way you like & only have it include swingers!

Thankfully you aren’t admin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew, that's better.

Sorry, I'm not going anywhere

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. "
Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place.

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over a year ago

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place. "

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over a year ago

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place. "

We know a song about that don’t we Geoffrey

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place.

We know a song about that don’t we Geoffrey "
Geoffrey?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been here since about 2008-9.

Haha that is so true, the number of friends that tell me they need a boyfriend so have joined tinder is hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Been here since about 2008-9.

Haha that is so true, the number of friends that tell me they need a boyfriend so have joined tinder is hilarious

It’s not exactly uncommon or impossible to find a relationship on Tinder though.

Many people use it for different things.

I have two friends who are engaged who met from there 3 years ago, so clearly someone seeking a relationship on there isn’t unheard of.

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over a year ago

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place.

We know a song about that don’t we Geoffrey Geoffrey?

Never mind

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place.

We know a song about that don’t we Geoffrey Geoffrey?

Never mind "
Hey answer me woman!

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over a year ago

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place.

We know a song about that don’t we Geoffrey Geoffrey?

Never mind Hey answer me woman! "

No cos now I’m thinking I’ve got it wrong and I’ll look a proper twat then! I’ll put the wine away now

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place.

We know a song about that don’t we Geoffrey Geoffrey?

Never mind Hey answer me woman!

No cos now I’m thinking I’ve got it wrong and I’ll look a proper twat then! I’ll put the wine away now

"
Rihanna sang the song don't think it was a cover.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

It does seem to be different, but probably because there's more users, it has grown beyond swinging, society has gotten more open about purely sexual relationships and that has drew more people and different people in.

Most people who aren't here to meet usually have it on their profile so it isn't much of an issue.

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over a year ago

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place.

We know a song about that don’t we Geoffrey Geoffrey?

Never mind Hey answer me woman!

No cos now I’m thinking I’ve got it wrong and I’ll look a proper twat then! I’ll put the wine away now

Rihanna sang the song don't think it was a cover."

Yeah I know that lol

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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place.

We know a song about that don’t we Geoffrey Geoffrey?

Never mind Hey answer me woman!

No cos now I’m thinking I’ve got it wrong and I’ll look a proper twat then! I’ll put the wine away now

Rihanna sang the song don't think it was a cover.

Yeah I know that lol "
Wtf did Geoffrey come from then? My name starts with a J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv been here for many years as a single female and as a couple with hubby, we pretty much gave up looking for compatible couples a long time ago and mostly do our own thing now. In my opinion it’s no longer a swingers site it’s a sex site, the vast majority now are just here to cheat on their spouse, that’s not swinging in my book...and someone said earlier that it’s easier for single ladies to get meets...I disagree...have you ANY idea how many weirdos, timewasters and just downright abusive people there are on here??? There’s A LOT...and I get them all...my block button is _ed hot on a weekend, it’s a good job I have a thick skin I can tell you ;D

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

maybe the price of clubs deter people away?"

It's locations of them down here.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place.

We know a song about that don’t we Geoffrey Geoffrey?

Never mind Hey answer me woman!

No cos now I’m thinking I’ve got it wrong and I’ll look a proper twat then! I’ll put the wine away now

Rihanna sang the song don't think it was a cover.

Yeah I know that lol Wtf did Geoffrey come from then? My name starts with a J"

Look up a kids show called rainbow x

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over a year ago

"Been here since about 2008-9.

I certainly don’t consider this a dating site, nor do I use it for such.

However there is nothing wrong with others using it in the way they please. Yeah I have seen people that have found Love in this hopeless place.

We know a song about that don’t we Geoffrey Geoffrey?

Never mind Hey answer me woman!

No cos now I’m thinking I’ve got it wrong and I’ll look a proper twat then! I’ll put the wine away now

Rihanna sang the song don't think it was a cover.

Yeah I know that lol Wtf did Geoffrey come from then? My name starts with a J

Look up a kids show called rainbow x"

Ah just looked how old he is. Thought he was older. No wonder

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Fab is only as good as the people who use it.

Clubs are only as good as the people who are there when you are.

I’m having a ball with Fab, but I’ve been very unlucky in the clubs. I’ll stick to using Fab

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By *uyfrombristolMan
over a year ago

Bristol

My impression as a newbie is that it's generally full of people who say they want exactly what you're offering, but then don't actually want it when it comes down to it. That or people who ghost you after a few positive messages for no apparent reason. Or people who post meet requests, then post updates complaining noone has replied, yet haven't even read your messages. Oh and those who I genuinely think live in fantasy land and have non-existant female companions.

I'm pretty disillusioned with the site to be honest. I'm a reasonably decent looking bloke, articulate, intelligent, own home, reasonably affluent, good in bed (and out)... Just can't seem to catch a break. Ironically I've had far more luck on 'traditional' dating sites.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"My impression as a newbie is that it's generally full of people who say they want exactly what you're offering, but then don't actually want it when it comes down to it. That or people who ghost you after a few positive messages for no apparent reason. Or people who post meet requests, then post updates complaining noone has replied, yet haven't even read your messages. Oh and those who I genuinely think live in fantasy land and have non-existant female companions.

It's the reverse for me, pretty much given up on dating sites.

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over a year ago

"I'm a reasonably decent looking bloke, articulate, intelligent, own home, reasonably affluent, good in bed (and out)... Just can't seem to catch a break. Ironically I've had far more luck on 'traditional' dating sites."

But none of that matters.

If someone’s physically not attracted to you, they’re not attracted to you, doesn’t matter how you consider yourself or what you have.

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"the op.gone awol.ha ha and we still ans the twats thread .know wonder he never got any joy from fab .wernt on long enough .i think hes gone to rob the pudsey bear box from greggs .prop gonna eat the pies as well."
fuck think found the op.just past a fat guy eating pies carrying a stolen pudsie bucket.wearing a tee shirts saying .no body likes me .and in big letters fuck fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the op.gone awol.ha ha and we still ans the twats thread .know wonder he never got any joy from fab .wernt on long enough .i think hes gone to rob the pudsey bear box from greggs .prop gonna eat the pies as well.fuck think found the op.just past a fat guy eating pies carrying a stolen pudsie bucket.wearing a tee shirts saying .no body likes me .and in big letters fuck fab. "

Is that your professional opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been in the scene a few years now and fab has changed from what I’ve noticed, spoke to some swingers in clubs and they don’t use fab so it’s a mixture of things. Fab has lots of singles and fb couples, some genuine couples and a lot of single men with bad intentions. Some people are just here to chat and love the attention but have no interest in meeting, some just stay in the forums so everyone is different. But as a swingers site....I wouldn’t say that anymore but that’s just my views.

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

We've pretty much come to the conclusion that the swinger world (and we mean world not just FAB) is infested with fakes and time wasters. However they are not all the same, I'll start with couples profiles.

Some are just some sad ugly old fart who gets his kicks out of pretending to be something he is not. Certainly FAKE however they are usually easy to spot.

There are other couples profiles on here that are basically just a guy who desperately wants to get his Mrs into swinging. Some have had a bit of fun with a camera in the bedroom so he has a few pics to put up but his Mrs knows nothing about the profile. He just hopes that by arranging some kind of vague meeting he can jolly her along into something more. This type of couple also come under the category of FAKE.

We've also found that there are a large number of couples who are actually genuine swingers but while the Mrs maybe wants to meet occasionally, the man wants to meet every week or sometimes every day. To do this he has to try to arrange meets on here (and elsewhere) then convince the Mrs to go along. When she refuses it then becomes a no show. These come into the TIMEWASTER category.

We have no hard statistics to back it up but from experience we reckon that around half of the couples profiles on here fall into one of the above.

Now to single guys.

We have seen enough over the years to be able to conclude that the majority of single guys in the swinger world are actually either married or in a relationship.

They see swingers as a safe way of getting extra (or in some cases any) sex without the risk of having an affair or having to dip into family funds to pay for a prostitute.

The problem with these is that they will set up a meet in the hope that they can think of an excuse to swerve the Mrs for an hour or two. Infuriatingly they will usually take it to the wire before they cancel or just not show up because they haven't been able to sneak away. These guys are the worst because they fall into both the FAKE and TIMEWASTER category's.

There is another type of guy who thinks (maybe accepts) that swinging is about the only way he will ever get any kind of sex. He is genuinely single but is either too unattractive, overweight, or has no social skills whatsoever (quite often all three) The honest ones are neither timewasters or fakes but when they put up fake pics and/or describe themselves as "fun, attractive, average body" Etc then they also fall into both category's.

The above is part of the reason that we only meet in clubs.

A no show? no problem we still have a good night.

Unattractive or not as described? Say hello, be polite for a few minutes then body swerve.

After reading that anyone who is new to the site may think WTF am I doing here? So to be fair we have to say that in nearly ten years on here we have met some very nice people, both couples and singles and had some great fun.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I've come to decide that the site "is what it is" so I enjoy the forums and chatting and if I'm lucky enough to get on well and the couple/lady want it progress to fun then brilliant but if not I'm not disappointed.

To many people forget that life goes on away from and off fab and you can miss out if fab is the only way of interacting with the opposite sex.

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By *akey2somCouple
over a year ago

wakefield

Phew, that's better."

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

"the op.gone awol.ha ha and we still ans the twats thread .know wonder he never got any joy from fab .wernt on long enough .i think hes gone to rob the pudsey bear box from greggs .prop gonna eat the pies as well.fuck think found the op.just past a fat guy eating pies carrying a stolen pudsie bucket.wearing a tee shirts saying .no body likes me .and in big letters fuck fab.

Is that your professional opinion

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for what its worth yea .ha ha and still lots of good genuine folks on here .people only go on about the fakers [well fuck em ]they never going to turn up for meets .plenty good folks with good verries that do .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sick of coming in the forum and seeing people bitching because they ain’t getting it handed to them on a plate. Theirs other ways of getting a quick fuck, go out to a bar. People are on here for their own reasons, we are out for girls, and we ignore some because their attitude is shit because they think they can act like the lord and be controlling. We have had some brilliant times off fab, been to some clubs, we ain’t rushing into things, people need to take the site with a pinch of salt...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same returned too see this place full off idiots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sick of coming in the forum and seeing people bitching because they ain’t getting it handed to them on a plate. Theirs other ways of getting a quick fuck, go out to a bar. People are on here for their own reasons, we are out for girls, and we ignore some because their attitude is shit because they think they can act like the lord and be controlling. We have had some brilliant times off fab, been to some clubs, we ain’t rushing into things, people need to take the site with a pinch of salt... "

We'll sign off on this topic with our latest "Fab experience". Had a couple of verified profiles as "friends" for a few months now and exchanged private chat etc. As our time is a bit scarce at the mo we arranged to meet the people on both profiles at ours (with a month's notice) this Friday. Everyone seemed v happy with each other and we were even going to pick people up at a train station too, to bring them to our house (we are nice like that!).

Guess what? One profile has now gone completely silent on us - and the other seems to be getting cold feet.

Think that will be it for us now. We are not going to risk all the arrangements (drinks laid on, both spending hours getting ready etc.) for what is a probable no show.

Please also understand the people concerned were very keen on our type of meet - we exchanged phone numbers - talked etc.

It seems that Fab has become like this now - VERY difficult to find reliable people, who stand by their word and who actually MEET.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same returned too see this place full off idiots "

So when will you be deleting your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally find this site ok. I'm not actively looking to meet anyone and just enjoy browsing and dipping in and out of the forums its no big deal to me, just something I enjoy occasionally. Having been on in the past with different motives maybe I may have thought differently then; but its always been positive for me anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no disputing that there are a lot of fakes and time wasters, but on the other hand we have had plenty of really wonderful meets from here too.

Your results will vary based on how much firepower you bring to the table, and how much work you are able to put into finding the right people

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Part of the issue with that comparison is, on a dating site people are looking for the whole package whereas on here, many people are more interested in looks and that's so subjective - no matter how good looking you are you'll never appeal to everyone. If you don't catch their eye physically it's a case of moving on to the next. By no means all of course, but for so many you can be articulate and intelligent and it matters not a jot because they never get that far!

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Lots of good meets from here and made some good friends, hopefully a few of us are off on holiday together next Spring.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Charge everyone to use it. It's not much.

Get rid of the dead weight who are only here for wank and chat"

I'll be off then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to cum and go

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By *ovefun55Man
over a year ago

london

Its needs to become a pay site

Less people would pay to waste time

Not saying expensive but you have to be a site supporter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I said this a week ago ,it’s more about posting pictures ,camming and chatting on forum and I got slagged off ,mostly by women ??

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Its needs to become a pay site

Less people would pay to waste time

Not saying expensive but you have to be a site supporter

Rubbish. Even timewasters have money. I've been on others, trust me this is by far the best of them. The site provides tools such as filters to block different sexes, ages, no public pics newbies etc. People should use them and a large dose of common sense.

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over a year ago

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

Its a damn good stepping stone to socials events parties etc where you actually get to meet people and make connection im hardly on the chase on site i just cant be bothe_ed i always fancy my chances at parties/clubs you cant go wrong x

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Its a damn good stepping stone to socials events parties etc where you actually get to meet people and make connection im hardly on the chase on site i just cant be bothe_ed i always fancy my chances at parties/clubs you cant go wrong x"

It is, I've met lots of people and made other friends through them.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I said this a week ago ,it’s more about posting pictures ,camming and chatting on forum and I got slagged off ,mostly by women ??"

People use the site how they want to. If more bothe_ed to read profiles before messaging there also wouldn't be such a problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its needs to become a pay site

Less people would pay to waste time

Not saying expensive but you have to be a site supporter

That’s what you think.

Plenty people have money to burn and wouldn’t mind paying to see wank fodder or to arrange meets and then not turn up.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I've not been doing much meeting lately (actually ages), and not been doing much more than dipping into the forums.

So it suits me fine.

I should probably make the effort and get going again. Then I'll be able to tell if it's worse/harder than my previous experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I said this a week ago ,it’s more about posting pictures ,camming and chatting on forum and I got slagged off ,mostly by women ??"

If it’s as bad as some of you make it, why do you still have profiles here?

If I didn’t enjoy my time on a site, or thought it wasn’t full of time wasters I’d leave.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I said this a week ago ,it’s more about posting pictures ,camming and chatting on forum and I got slagged off ,mostly by women ??

If it’s as bad as some of you make it, why do you still have profiles here?

If I didn’t enjoy my time on a site, or thought it wasn’t full of time wasters I’d leave. "

You see, this it what I don't understand. If they don't like it no one is forcing them to stay!

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By *laqgrapeMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

"I said this a week ago ,it’s more about posting pictures ,camming and chatting on forum and I got slagged off ,mostly by women ??

If it’s as bad as some of you make it, why do you still have profiles here?

If I didn’t enjoy my time on a site, or thought it wasn’t full of time wasters I’d leave.

You see, this it what I don't understand. If they don't like it no one is forcing them to stay! "
I agree but i understand what he means from a single guys perspective my advice would be to change his approach his strategy and game plan coz the playing field is not level,i did and it worked for me so i cant complain x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If it’s as bad as some of you make it, why do you still have profiles here?

If I didn’t enjoy my time on a site, or thought it wasn’t full of time wasters I’d leave.

You see, this it what I don't understand. If they don't like it no one is forcing them to stay! "

I suppose, when you've had such great success on here in the past (the site WAS amazing for meeting couples - started going downhill about 4 years ago - and now is really difficult) you tend to hang on in the hope it will get back to what it was?

Perhaps we need to accept it will never get back to what it was - without doubt, the chatters have taken over.

That's not a criticism per se, just an honest observation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I said this a week ago ,it’s more about posting pictures ,camming and chatting on forum and I got slagged off ,mostly by women ??

If it’s as bad as some of you make it, why do you still have profiles here?

If I didn’t enjoy my time on a site, or thought it wasn’t full of time wasters I’d leave.

You see, this it what I don't understand. If they don't like it no one is forcing them to stay! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been on and off fab for the past five or six years and the moaning has got worse over the last couple of years but it’s still way better than any other site I have been on. I hardly ever meet these days but also I don’t feel the need to wink or message all comers as to be honest I get more interest via being bolshy on the forums than by waving my MP about. It is what it is, a bit of fun, and not worth stressing about.

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