FabSwingers.com forum: Ignored messages

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There could be many reasons. Maybe it is only one of them online and they want to read the message together?

Maybe they have read it and aren't interested so they have marked it as unread.

It's just how things work on here, it can be frustrating but not much you can do about it.

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Don’t like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often ignore mail

It's not because I'm being rude.

Maybe I miss some real belters but after you open some of the mail I receive it puts you off opening more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There could be many reasons. Maybe it is only one of them online and they want to read the message together?

Maybe they have read it and aren't interested so they have marked it as unread.

It's just how things work on here, it can be frustrating but not much you can do about it."

I get that what you are saying but surely they can just read it and say thanks but no thanks. Seems to be a lot of game playing and childish behaviour on here, thought we were supposed to be adults.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?"

They may have read it when you were offline and then marked it unread. I do that all the time when I don’t have time to respond at that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We share your frustration OP - but sadly its normal on here - if the recipient don't like you, not matter how polite you are, they can and often will just hit delete

Do bear in mind that the vast majority of women and MF couples on here have to deal with sometimes 100''s of messages per day - its nothing personal, just a question of choices

Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?

They may have read it when you were offline and then marked it unread. I do that all the time when I don’t have time to respond at that time. "

That may be the case but surely after a few days they could send me the no hanks, it’s not like it was my first and only message I sent. If they were not interested after the first message they could have ignored it and that would be that.

Either way I am obviously expecting too much.

Thanks for the advice guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm online but I've just woke up from a night shift. I have messages from this past week. I'll reply to them all at some point but I'm not really in a chatty mood x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I quite often log in and out without checking my mail.

Sometimes conversations get lost because they've dropped down in my inbox and I've forgotten to reply.

Why not send them another message? If it's been a few days then I'd think that was more than reasonable, at least then you'd have your answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There could be many reasons. Maybe it is only one of them online and they want to read the message together?

Maybe they have read it and aren't interested so they have marked it as unread.

It's just how things work on here, it can be frustrating but not much you can do about it.

I get that what you are saying but surely they can just read it and say thanks but no thanks. Seems to be a lot of game playing and childish behaviour on here, thought we were supposed to be adults."

So would it make you feel better to be rejected in words?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?

They may have read it when you were offline and then marked it unread. I do that all the time when I don’t have time to respond at that time.

Either way I am obviously expecting too much.

Thanks for the advice guys"

People change their minds all the time. I know I do. One little thing can put me off or I just lose interest. Sometimes something else comes along that’s more suitable. Don’t take it too personally. Just move onto the next.

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

It's just the nature of the beast unfortunately OP, don't take things personally on here and you will do just fine.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

That’s why unfortunately many don’t bother with messages at the best you see to end up with a game of ping which rarely goes anywhere

Recently I even had someone well verified message asking to meet and as soon as I asked her to exchange numbers there was no response and the message remained unread.I just blocked her and moved on

There’s just so many dreamers on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t take it personally, you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea. I have moved on, just wanted some clarification on this type of situation!

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

"There could be many reasons. Maybe it is only one of them online and they want to read the message together?

Maybe they have read it and aren't interested so they have marked it as unread.

It's just how things work on here, it can be frustrating but not much you can do about it.

I get that what you are saying but surely they can just read it and say thanks but no thanks. Seems to be a lot of game playing and childish behaviour on here, thought we were supposed to be adults.

So would it make you feel better to be rejected in words?"
umm yes, very much so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore 90% of messages sent to me.

Simply because they haven’t read the profile, haven’t send a picture or have just said ;

Nice tits

Want to fuck

Oi bbz cm ovr

None of which will get any response, because if they can’t be bothered, neither can I.

I don’t want to generalise, but this is 90% of men!

And then they come on a forum saying no one will meet or talk to them.....doh

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By *ensualcouple99Couple
over a year ago

Colchester

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?"

We quite often leave mail unread. It's usually if we are interested in the message and don't want it lost in amongst others, until we've both read it and able to answer it together.

Sometimes we just need time to think about messages, especially if we are seriously considering meeting with the person.

So unread messages can mean different things to different people.

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By *inakiss64Woman
over a year ago

Near St Albans

Women get bombarded with messages as soon as they come online, littery every couple of minutes a new guy messages, so how the hell do you think can possibly answer them all, if I'm chatting to some guy on here then the rest get ignored to save your sanity

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?

They may have read it when you were offline and then marked it unread. I do that all the time when I don’t have time to respond at that time. "

If it's a second message, they can read it from the their 'sent'coloum and it will still look unread in the inbox! Thereby giving the impression it's not been read. As someone said, couples like to respond together, so a response can be somewhat delayed.

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

"There could be many reasons. Maybe it is only one of them online and they want to read the message together?

Maybe they have read it and aren't interested so they have marked it as unread.

It's just how things work on here, it can be frustrating but not much you can do about it.

I get that what you are saying but surely they can just read it and say thanks but no thanks. Seems to be a lot of game playing and childish behaviour on here, thought we were supposed to be adults.

So would it make you feel better to be rejected in words?"

Good point!

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By *exyJ-and-HornyGCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster area

"There could be many reasons. Maybe it is only one of them online and they want to read the message together?

Maybe they have read it and aren't interested so they have marked it as unread.

It's just how things work on here, it can be frustrating but not much you can do about it.

I get that what you are saying but surely they can just read it and say thanks but no thanks. Seems to be a lot of game playing and childish behaviour on here, thought we were supposed to be adults."

Totally agree with you here mate, manners cost nothing. It's not like you'll be heart broken if these strangers don't fancy you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate if you get ignored I may as well give up. Sending messages they usually don't answer or straight delete(not even viewing profile).

Maybe I myself am not everyone's cup of tea but blimey are women so shallow they only go for bigcox muscles and 6 footers?

There must be some guys (and indeed girls) a small percentage who are lapping it up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate if you get ignored I may as well give up. Sending messages they usually don't answer or straight delete(not even viewing profile).

Maybe I myself am not everyone's cup of tea but blimey are women so shallow they only go for bigcox muscles and 6 footers?

There must be some guys (and indeed girls) a small percentage who are lapping it up! "

No, we don’t all go for those kind of guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate if you get ignored I may as well give up. Sending messages they usually don't answer or straight delete(not even viewing profile).

Maybe I myself am not everyone's cup of tea but blimey are women so shallow they only go for bigcox muscles and 6 footers?

There must be some guys (and indeed girls) a small percentage who are lapping it up! "

I don't go for muscles and height. There's so much more that I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this

We were chatting really well they said about meeting it was all arranged

I messaged them on the morning of the meet to check everything was ok still as they had asked me to do so but I have had no contact since

They are regularly online and are still on my friend list but they have yet to read the messages

Oh well easy come easy go

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By *exyJ-and-HornyGCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster area

"I've had this

We were chatting really well they said about meeting it was all arranged

I messaged them on the morning of the meet to check everything was ok still as they had asked me to do so but I have had no contact since

They are regularly online and are still on my friend list but they have yet to read the messages

Oh well easy come easy go "

Sadly there are way too many time wasters.

Block! Simple solution

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?"

As a couple it sometimes takes a while for both to be available - if the message is there and not deleted I would think it's going to be read and hopefully responded to at some point. If you're of no further interest, I would think they would have deleted it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all your responses, I agree and accept with most of them. I suppose I just did not understand why they wanted a response and ignored it when I sent it. If they had read it and then marked it as unread, it seems a lot of hassle. Just read it and reply saying no thanks or delete it. Either way the messsge is clear, Not interested!

I have put it down to experience and moved on, my opinion is probably time wasters.

Oh well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all your responses, I agree and accept with most of them. I suppose I just did not understand why they wanted a response and ignored it when I sent it. If they had read it and then marked it as unread, it seems a lot of hassle. Just read it and reply saying no thanks or delete it. Either way the messsge is clear, Not interested!

I have put it down to experience and moved on, my opinion is probably time wasters.

Oh well!"

They may well be time wasters.

Or they may have got another message off someone they are more interested, so have decided not to go ahead any further with you.

Either way, they obviously aren’t responding to you, so it’s oretty pointless worrying about it or asking others why someone else isn’t talking to you.

Just move on, and get chatting to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easiest thing to do is to delete mail once it is sent, rather than torturing yourself over it.

Fire and forget.

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"I often ignore mail

It's not because I'm being rude.

Maybe I miss some real belters but after you open some of the mail I receive it puts you off opening more "

But you’re complaining in your status about people not reading your profile correctly

What do expect when you go on a Forum and admit you don’t any of your messages ????

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield

"I ignore 90% of messages sent to me.

Simply because they haven’t read the profile, haven’t send a picture or have just said ;

Nice tits

Want to fuck

Oi bbz cm ovr

None of which will get any response, because if they can’t be bothered, neither can I.

I don’t want to generalise, but this is 90% of

men!

And then they come on a forum saying no one will meet or talk to them.....doh"

Agreed we just ruin it for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often ignore mail

It's not because I'm being rude.

Maybe I miss some real belters but after you open some of the mail I receive it puts you off opening more

But you’re complaining in your status about people not reading your profile correctly

What do expect when you go on a Forum and admit you don’t any of your messages ????"

She said she often ignores mail. That doesn’t mean she ignores every single message.

I’d guess the mail she ignores is similar to the mail I ignore, from men I’m not interested in, those who can’t string a sentence together and those who aren’t capable of saying “Hello, how are you” before “Fancy a fuck.”

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We ignore the usual one liners and those that can’t be arsed to read before they message.

Keeps the numbers down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *eyooooMan
over a year ago

London

Nobody replys on this its so hard to get a convo its untrue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's polite etiquette not to reply to messages if you're not interested. Saves hurt feelings etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?"

Maybe they waited till you were offline, read It, then unread It, as they weren't interested and they felt it would be less drama to just make it look like it had got lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I often ignore mail

It's not because I'm being rude.

Maybe I miss some real belters but after you open some of the mail I receive it puts you off opening more

But you’re complaining in your status about people not reading your profile correctly

What do expect when you go on a Forum and admit you don’t any of your messages ????

She said she often ignores mail. That doesn’t mean she ignores every single message.

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By *eyooooMan
over a year ago

London

"It's polite etiquette not to reply to messages if you're not interested. Saves hurt feelings etc. "
i would rather sombody tell me that then jusy get ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ignore 90% of messages sent to me.

Simply because they haven’t read the profile, haven’t send a picture or have just said ;

Nice tits

Want to fuck

Oi bbz cm ovr

None of which will get any response, because if they can’t be bothered, neither can I.

I don’t want to generalise, but this is 90% of men!

And then they come on a forum saying no one will meet or talk to them.....doh"

I do exactly the same as you do BUT none of that has anything to do with this thread.

He has not just sent some one liner which has been deleted and now he is complaining about it.

The couple replied to him and asked him for more info which he provided and he is asking why would they do that and then not even read the reply THEY ASKED FOR....

Your response is 100% irrelevant to the question....doh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's polite etiquette not to reply to messages if you're not interested. Saves hurt feelings etc. i would rather sombody tell me that then jusy get ignored "

What difference does it make? They’re still not interested.

I put it on my profile, if I don’t reply I’m not interested. If guys don’t read my profile, it’s their problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?"

Three possibilities

1. they genuinely have not read it and that could be for a variety of reasons.

2. the have read it and then marked it unread again because they are now not interested for whatever reason and they have no intention of letting you know

3. the have read it and then marked it unread again because they do want to reply but together and by leaving it unread it will not get lost among other messages, assuming they keep a tidy inbox and delete anything that does not interest them.

Its like being at work and marking emails unread because although you have read them you have not dealt with it yet and you do not want to forget that you haven't.

Cannot think of any other reasons.

Send a follow up message and if no joy just delete their messages and block....don't let them come back in weeks to come with excuses. It is not unreasonable when your in communication with someone that your message gets read when they are next logged in....some will say they have not looked at their inbox. I think it more likely they have just not been looking at your message because your further down the pecking order. They have better fish to fry.

I have had it myself with I man I met/played with at a club, we started talking on here afterwards and he kept pushing for another meet and when I agreed to his date and time and gave him the options for where to meet my message was not read (I believe it was and then marked unread) despite him coming online 3 times to my knowledge after I sent the message. I was clearly just on standby in case someone else flaked out. So I blocked him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Might be waiting till there together to read an reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you bbwchick, that’s exactly the scenario i was trying to clarify. THEY ASKED for a response.

And thanks for your response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There could be many reasons. Maybe it is only one of them online and they want to read the message together?

Maybe they have read it and aren't interested so they have marked it as unread.

It's just how things work on here, it can be frustrating but not much you can do about it.

I get that what you are saying but surely they can just read it and say thanks but no thanks. Seems to be a lot of game playing and childish behaviour on here, thought we were supposed to be adults."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women and couples treat men like pieces of meat. Men treat women and couples like pieces of meat.

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By *mooth Operator 07Man
over a year ago

in the deep mist of the valleys

Don't take fab to seriously and let it go over you're head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We sometimes leave a message unread for a while even though we intend to reply, due to circumstances or just plain bit being in the mood, and we prefer to reply together which can cause a delay as we don't live together.

Mr B

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By *ycra loutMan
over a year ago

york/Scarborough

I know exactly what you mean and I understand your frustration. I read profiles of the ones that stand out to me..then send a polite friendly message.most messages get deleted and others don't bother to reply. Its starting to make me think that this site is full of fakes

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By *dam and slutCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"I know exactly what you mean and I understand your frustration. I read profiles of the ones that stand out to me..then send a polite friendly message.most messages get deleted and others don't bother to reply. Its starting to make me think that this site is full of fakes

Discretion, you may want to edit, see I read your profile ?? . apologies I would write to you directly, but that may end up into a ping pong series of messages.

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By *ycra loutMan
over a year ago

york/Scarborough

Thankyou..il do some editing..but I thought most people want discression as people's sex lives are not the sort of thing that want to be the talking point of the town/city etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some get 1000+ messages. How much time do you think people spend on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We ignore or don't read loads for ages.

The real problem seems to be that most men think this is a really important intense messaging session going on. We'll I'm afraid for most couples it isn't important, there's jobs, kids, parents, DIY, car breakdowns, business trips and so on to deal with. So the times we are in the mood to reply to messages we want to pursue are quite limited.

The fact you are sitting there with your stuffy in hand wanting an instant response and shag is just tough luck I'm afraid

Then quite often when you get round to it the other person has had a sulky strop and blocked you or the message has dropped off the inbox or you take another look and think, why was I interested, I'm not now.

So you don't get a response or at least not in the timescale you feel entitled to. But I'm afraid that is how the site is supposed to work. I don't really understand how, when the faqs are so clear about non responses, people continually whine about it. If you don't like how the site is setup and run isnt the solution obvious?

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?"

Often. It’s frustrating. After a period of time I just delete and block so I don’t bother again. We always respond. I find it worse when you’ve been chatting and they ask to meet and you say love to and ask for dates and then there is no response! Total waste of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to see how men cope with hundreds of messages every day it's impossible to reply to all of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?"
they've read it but either marked it as unread or read what you can read without opening it or went on holiday for a week and when they got back it had gone off the page or they've just forgotten about you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't win them all just chalk it up and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens to us ladies too. I just block the profile to stop any further communication if nothing after a day. If they wanted to chat or was interested then they would reply when read the message. Unfortunately some people don’t have manners to say thanks but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be honest, the sheer volume of mail i receive per day, it is impossible to keep up and read/reply to them all, it would be a full time job if i tried! Its not intentional at all, me ignoring people, unfortunstely, its a side effect of being a single girl on a site full of guys..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens to us all, I can count on the one hand actual replies I’ve had proper to say no, is it because I’m not buff and have a massive cock? Probably!

Probably because I look like I should be living under a bridge lol

Most end up deleted and not even read, the rest are read and ignored, take an attitude of indifference to it or you will drive yourself mad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I missing something here, advice please.

I understand that ladies and couples get lots of messages from guys and it’s not possible to answer them all. However

I have recently messaged a couple and sent the usual required pics, they responded and wanted to know more.

Since I sent my update they have just ignored my message, been online regularly and not even read the message.

I get it’s their prerogative to read messages but why ask if you don’t want to read the response.

Has anyone had a similar experience?"
we get that many messages that it isn't always easy to answer or read all of them.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We always reply and although don’t get to open all messages right away we would never leave them unopened for days and days if we are going online, I get if a couples and both wanting to see messages but perhaps opening and replying with will get back to you if looking to meet would work or just delete if you don’t want to reply instead of leaving people hanging in the balance, if someone did this to us I would delete their last message and block them lol nobody likes ignorant people, even on here. Also get single females get zillions if messages but if you have already struck up conversation only polite to at least open it. Maybe we are just to nice

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

For me if your not interested just hit delete says it all.

Keeping a unread message what does that archive other than showing a picture hunter or seeing how many messages you can get.

Too many people on here with too little real people wanting to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One other thing I would add is;

if you messaged someone and it was either deleted without reply or they reply "thanks but not thanks" then the best thing to do is you delete them and block - simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens to us ladies too. I just block the profile to stop any further communication if nothing after a day. If they wanted to chat or was interested then they would reply when read the message. Unfortunately some people don’t have manners to say thanks but no thanks

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omg that's a new one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's no profile pic, it's delete. If there not anything I'm interested in delete. If the opening comment is great cock delete.

If.....there's non of the above I'll answer and see where it goes ??

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By *arkside2698Man
over a year ago

luton

You're not the only one that finds this strange. I've been messaged by couples enquiring about joining them and when I've replied I've been ignored. I haven't been the one that messaged in the first place, merely replied. Best thing is not to worry about it and move on.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I must say if I am kinda used to people that do reply and don’t reply. I have a fab friend that does reply but takes a few days to reply but I know that

Others may reply, sometimes they do sometimes they don’t.

For me I have stopped looking at sent messages years ago. Most of friends I have met in person at clubs so I know I will see them in a couple of weeks anyway

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Saying no to someone is going to get you a "but why not" or "give me details why no"t or "you are ugly anyway so f off" message back and this happens at least 1/3 the time. If guys here after a message had to put a blindfold on and spread their legs knowing there is a 1 in 3 chance of a kick in the bollocks most would keep there eyes open and legs closed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We ignore or don't read loads for ages.

The fact you are sitting there with your stuffy in hand wanting an instant response and shag is just tough luck I'm afraid

You have totally missed my point. I am well aware of the rules and I do not think I am entitled to anything, including a response. I was merely querying why someone would ask me to reply and when I do they did not even read my reply. Just seems strange, hence my post!

No more said on the subject, it’s done! Closed!

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By *ortobello SionnachWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"We ignore or don't read loads for ages.

The fact you are sitting there with your stuffy in hand wanting an instant response and shag is just tough luck I'm afraid

No more said on the subject, it’s done! Closed!"

Some miss the point because they are baiting you, its best to just ignore most do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We ignore or don't read loads for ages.

The fact you are sitting there with your stuffy in hand wanting an instant response and shag is just tough luck I'm afraid

No more said on the subject, it’s done! Closed!"
I reopen it sorry end of

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Lol we rarely have mail. Decided to open our account today. It did shoot up from 30 views to 98 views but still only received 3 new messages! Not hundreds like what people say they get. I politely answered all three and wonder what’s wrong with our profile lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol we rarely have mail. Decided to open our account today. It did shoot up from 30 views to 98 views but still only received 3 new messages! Not hundreds like what people say they get. I politely answered all three and wonder what’s wrong with our profile lol. "

Nothing wrong with your profile from what I can see

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Nothing wrong with your profile from what I can see

Why thank you Mr Action Man!

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By *igwillywirral2Man
over a year ago

Birkenhead

Hey guys does anyone have same problem as me and gets ignored a lot? I always use manners and polite and some people just delete the message any ideas why

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Hey guys does anyone have same problem as me and gets ignored a lot? I always use manners and polite and some people just delete the message any ideas why"

Yes it's on the FAQ see below

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By *amRod64Man
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Hey guys does anyone have same problem as me and gets ignored a lot? I always use manners and polite and some people just delete the message any ideas why"

yes but its not the end of the world.....keep trying.

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By *straightguys4uMan
over a year ago

bromley

It's probably a guy pretending to be a couple - the site is full of them.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Hey guys does anyone have same problem as me and gets ignored a lot? I always use manners and polite and some people just delete the message any ideas why"

Your avatar and sole profile pic are your cock.

Your question in this thread contains significantly more words than your profile.

Are you giving people some substance to look at and read?

Or not.........?

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Hey guys does anyone have same problem as me and gets ignored a lot? I always use manners and polite and some people just delete the message any ideas why"

Are you 24 or 27?

Profile says straight but you want to meet men and TV’s.

One photo - a cock.

Limited text on profile.

Not suprised you’re getting nowhere

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

"Hey guys does anyone have same problem as me and gets ignored a lot? I always use manners and polite and some people just delete the message any ideas why

Are you 24 or 27?

Profile says straight but you want to meet men and TV’s.

One photo - a cock.

Limited text on profile.

Not suprised you’re getting nowhere

Aw poor lad keeping all his options open

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