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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone else find it frustrating as a guy that you get likes on your pictures and winks from a couple who find attractive and want to chat to and when you go to

Message them they don’t accept messages from guys.

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm thinking marquis de sade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought that if someone winked at you you could message them even with filters? Like when you’re outside their filters but they message you first

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By *emo169Man
over a year ago

Crawley / Pattaya, Thailand

Unfortunately some people have difficulty setting there filters to suit there needs, which can be the main reason this happens. Primary one is age many just leave it at 18-99.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation. "

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?"

so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here? "

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer."

I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

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By *iway2016Man
over a year ago

The CF post code


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So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer."

That's the OPs problem. He is unable to respond to a wink because of filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread "

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?"

why do you send a wink?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find it frustrating as a guy that you get likes on your pictures and winks from a couple who find attractive and want to chat to and when you go to

Message them they don’t accept messages from guys.

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation. "

If they’ve winked, you can message them. It’s like a key to the door!

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?"

Ur right! A wink can mean " i like ur photo u look good! Ive winked at men if i think " hes handsome" but i never assume they see my wink and will msg me! Thats my wee view lol

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln

If a couple message or wink at you it means you can message them. Fabs system is set that any contact from someone with filters is switched off for that person. So if they did wink at you then you can message them.

Click account then filters and read the paragraph at the bottom .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?why do you send a wink?"

We're fucking adults, why would we ever send a wink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?Ur right! A wink can mean " i like ur photo u look good! Ive winked at men if i think " hes handsome" but i never assume they see my wink and will msg me! Thats my wee view lol"

but surely you fab a pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?why do you send a wink?

We're fucking adults, why would we ever send a wink!"

ahhhh I get you now, protagonists

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?Ur right! A wink can mean " i like ur photo u look good! Ive winked at men if i think " hes handsome" but i never assume they see my wink and will msg me! Thats my wee view lolbut surely you fab a pic? "

yeah i do! Thinking back i v rarely wink at any men but if i see a wee photo i like i will fab it! I occassionally get a " thanks for fabbing my pic and sometimes i dont but i think its best just to say " drop ur knickers" no messing!!! Lol lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?Ur right! A wink can mean " i like ur photo u look good! Ive winked at men if i think " hes handsome" but i never assume they see my wink and will msg me! Thats my wee view lolbut surely you fab a pic? yeah i do! Thinking back i v rarely wink at any men but if i see a wee photo i like i will fab it! I occassionally get a " thanks for fabbing my pic and sometimes i dont but i think its best just to say " drop ur knickers" no messing!!! Lol lol " "

yes get straight to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?why do you send a wink?

We're fucking adults, why would we ever send a wink!ahhhh I get you now, protagonists "

Tbh, on the evidence of this thread you're not particularly good at getting anything! More imposing your narrow mindset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?why do you send a wink?

We're fucking adults, why would we ever send a wink!ahhhh I get you now, protagonists

Tbh, on the evidence of this thread you're not particularly good at getting anything! More imposing your narrow mindset."

lol

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?Ur right! A wink can mean " i like ur photo u look good! Ive winked at men if i think " hes handsome" but i never assume they see my wink and will msg me! Thats my wee view lolbut surely you fab a pic? yeah i do! Thinking back i v rarely wink at any men but if i see a wee photo i like i will fab it! I occassionally get a " thanks for fabbing my pic and sometimes i dont but i think its best just to say " drop ur knickers" no messing!!! Lol lol " yes get straight to it "

Bish bash bosh!! Lol ive got a wee habit of saying that " saying" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?Ur right! A wink can mean " i like ur photo u look good! Ive winked at men if i think " hes handsome" but i never assume they see my wink and will msg me! Thats my wee view lolbut surely you fab a pic? yeah i do! Thinking back i v rarely wink at any men but if i see a wee photo i like i will fab it! I occassionally get a " thanks for fabbing my pic and sometimes i dont but i think its best just to say " drop ur knickers" no messing!!! Lol lol " yes get straight to it Bish bash bosh!! Lol ive got a wee habit of saying that " saying" lol"

I love that saying, do you say it after to

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?Ur right! A wink can mean " i like ur photo u look good! Ive winked at men if i think " hes handsome" but i never assume they see my wink and will msg me! Thats my wee view lolbut surely you fab a pic? yeah i do! Thinking back i v rarely wink at any men but if i see a wee photo i like i will fab it! I occassionally get a " thanks for fabbing my pic and sometimes i dont but i think its best just to say " drop ur knickers" no messing!!! Lol lol " yes get straight to it Bish bash bosh!! Lol ive got a wee habit of saying that " saying" lolI love that saying, do you say it after to "

Yes indeed!!! Then i shout " GOAL" back o the net top of the pops!!!!!! Then sleep for a few hrs and do it all again!!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally cannot think of any other reason to wink at someone except to say I am interested.

If they are just appreciating your pics there is a feature for that.

All the people saying there are numerous reasons for winking.....perhaps they would like to enlighten us thicko's with that list of reasons.

Surely that would be more helpful instead of nastiness...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

Where in the wink does it say anything about initiating a conversation?so the wink means carry on nothing happening here?

A wink can mean any number of things. You'd have to ask the sender what they meant by it for your answer.I don't need to, you send a wink you're showing interest what other reason is their, none, they are sending it to see if other party would be interested in them, so that party the Op initiates contact, he did and hence the thread

You may have your own very limited interpretation of what a wink means to a sender but that's by the by in the wider scheme of things.

I could spend the next hour listing possible reasons but can't be arsed tbh.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?Ur right! A wink can mean " i like ur photo u look good! Ive winked at men if i think " hes handsome" but i never assume they see my wink and will msg me! Thats my wee view lol"

That is what fabbing photo's is for. If you think a guy is so handsome why would you not want to speak to him. What exactly is the point....one might go down the road of viewing that as being a bit of a prick tease.

I could never wink at a man just for the sake of it....what a waste of time and energy.

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By *eardsandboobsCouple
over a year ago

north of lincoln


"

So frustrating! I can understand why they’d only accept messages from guys as they must get inundated but they are the ones winking at me to initiate a conversation.

It might be stating the bleeding obvious but if the wink sender, in this case, has specific contact filters on then the one thing they are not initiating is communication. Is that too obvious?"

A wink turns the filter off. See the filters page

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally cannot think of any other reason to wink at someone except to say I am interested.

If they are just appreciating your pics there is a feature for that.

All the people saying there are numerous reasons for winking.....perhaps they would like to enlighten us thicko's with that list of reasons.

Surely that would be more helpful instead of nastiness..."

Being objective, here's five off the top of my head:

I like the tone of your profile.

One line in your profile made me laugh.

Love your varied portfolio of pics.

Agree with something you said in forums.

Thanks for fabbing my picture.

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