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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It seems that the guys are the ones to make contact with ladies first, which is fine but I was wondering if you ladies do contact us guys first... Or maybe it's just me that doesn't get first contact lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye it happens sometimes so ive heard xx

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By *oournsMan
over a year ago

a


"Aye it happens sometimes so ive heard xx "
if a wink counts then yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made first contact with a couple of guys

*tries to steady halo *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've made contact with guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been known to send the odd message to inform the gent how much I appreciate his pics. No need for that as I can FAB their pics now.

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

havent had to,but i would if i was interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"havent had to,but i would if i was interested "

Mail me mail me lol xx

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By *o Peep n WoodyCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

We have only ever had 1 female make initial contact with us

always been us making contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had first message from a single female have had two from a couple once ipon a time.

First free to message me lol

Rob x

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

i have done very occasionally. The problem is thatby the time i've gone through my inbox and cleared out winks and friends invites, i've been online for ages and haven't had chance to peek at the forums! So i come over here for a natter and a giggle and then its time to log out. So its rare that i get a chance to browse. Though i have mailed a couple of forumites and had a very nice time thank you as a result...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I'm guessing it's not just me that starts things off then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

same here. maybe its thru fear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol yeah mate that must be it! Either that or we are all just pig ugly lol

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By *erksGuy3Man
over a year ago

Aquitaine France

I have made a few first contact .... But never had an answer back lololol

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

had a few ladies message me for a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have sent winks and dropped hints in forums on the would you fuck posts does work.

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Well I am always the one who send messages to guys as its usually me they wanna shag...lol

I am very selective in my choice so never leave it to hubby to choose

A lot of women make the first contact but dont always get proper replies as I find a lot of timewasters or guys who just chicken out at last minute

xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not sure why they'd chicken out with you guys!!!

And Gemini maybe I should put up a who would fuck me forum post see if that works lol

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By *rs and mr sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

Boldon


"had a few ladies message me for a meet "

Yes Darling, I messaged you first to scrounge a lift to a Blackpool party we were both going to; that was before I actually knew where you lived. You still picked me up though Of course the rest is history with me moving in as soon as I get that elusive job! xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol that one must have passed me by

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

Yes, some women do make the first contact. Occasionally it's a really good email and very straight to the point, which I like.

However, not keen on single line/single word messages like "hello", "where do you live" for the obvious reasons!!

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I don't have a problem sending a first message to guys if I like the look of them and their profile.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"It seems that the guys are the ones to make contact with ladies first, which is fine but I was wondering if you ladies do contact us guys first... Or maybe it's just me that doesn't get first contact lol"

i can only comment on me...no,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do occasionally but am always wary as I know I am not most mens cup of tea.

At least I know that I am what they are looking for if they make first contact x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do occasionally but am always wary as I know I am not most mens cup of tea.

At least I know that I am what they are looking for if they make first contact x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do it all the time

Saves deleting all the messages from men I am not interested in I just contact the ones that I like the profile of and are what I am looking for x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Guess that's not me then lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Yes they do, but more in relation to a forum post than from browsing profiles I think.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Must admit that I don't...

Simply because so many have got in touch first...

However, IF I saw someone I liked look of....I most certainly would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes they do, but more in relation to a forum post than from browsing profiles I think. "

no

i fi look at profiles and see one i am drawn to i message them and past 2 times i have made 1st contact and not been onthe forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just love these generalisation topics.... Of course SOME ladies make first contact, others probably don't and still more would except they have lots of existing mail's from males

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I travel for work and like to browse talent for when I visit other towns. I message men quite a lot but don't get that many replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very very rarely make 1st contact... ive probably only done it a handful of times and would only have done if the profile stated they liked BBW or larger women...

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish


"I have been known to send the odd message to inform the gent how much I appreciate his pics. No need for that as I can FAB their pics now.

"

You mean its possible to fab single men's pics, oh no, now I'm going to get really depressed.....

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like looking at mens pics and thinking mmmmmm

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Yes they do, but more in relation to a forum post than from browsing profiles I think. "

You have got to be joking right. Why fish in a small pond when there is a huge ocean out there.

I do my best to avoud male forumites as playmates...... the hens start to chuck too loud and oh the feckin' pecking.

There are 100's of funny, smart, totally lush guys out there, enjoying life under the radar.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Yes they do, but more in relation to a forum post than from browsing profiles I think.

You have got to be joking right. Why fish in a small pond when there is a huge ocean out there.

I do my best to avoud male forumites as playmates...... the hens start to chuck too loud and oh the feckin' pecking.

There are 100's of funny, smart, totally lush guys out there, enjoying life under the radar."

Very true. Although I have met because of getting to know people on the forum, I think the admin said the forum members are about 0.1% of all the members. Talk about restricting your choices!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like the look of someone's profile and pics and they are in the area then yes do contact them, fabbing pics does make it easy to get their attention lol

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"Yes they do, but more in relation to a forum post than from browsing profiles I think.

You have got to be joking right. Why fish in a small pond when there is a huge ocean out there.

I do my best to avoud male forumites as playmates...... the hens start to chuck too loud and oh the feckin' pecking.

There are 100's of funny, smart, totally lush guys out there, enjoying life under the radar.

Very true. Although I have met because of getting to know people on the forum, I think the admin said the forum members are about 0.1% of all the members. Talk about restricting your choices!"

I agree with you both, but what I wrote previously was just my experience so far: I've had more messages from forumites than from browsers.

Of course living in the arse end of nowhere might mean browsers are thin on the ground in my patch. The curse of living in a small pond!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

u`ll be contacted by aliens before that happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been contacted by women lately I think women are quite specific in what they look for and so profile needs to be fairly specific and have good pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they do i have had 3 ladies contact me first its rare but it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the only way this site works for me. I dont contact first, so I would just be some kind of weird voyeur, who just posted on the forums and stared at the pretty pictures.......wait a minute....... oh shit.........

No but seriously, I do ok.....

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I/ we sometimes initiate contact if someone catches my eye - the worst that can happy is the message be ignored or a 'no thanks' received in reply, after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it has been known lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont as a rule make first contact, i get enough mail off here from guys without having the need to trall thro profiles and messaging guys first

I find it easier to just reply to guys i like that message me first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is a good one, it highlights the guys dilemma (guys meaning girls and guys).

Some site users complain of full inboxes, some like that as it gives a broad choice. Some people dont make the first move whilst others do. Very interesting, I shall dash of an email to Sydney straight away.

Seriously though, I dont know why I dont message first, I think its down to, not enjoying waiting for a message to be read, or it being instadeleted.....

I sent a message yesterday though (ooo'er, broken personal rule), but the lady in question is damn, well just damn..... (and yes I know I wasnt meeting, but come on, I'm a man, I have needs!)

I think I shall stick to my approach, might mean I miss out on a lot of wonderful folks, but occasionally I have a browse and let my halo slip....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I like the look of someone's profile and pics and they are in the area then yes do contact them, fabbing pics does make it easy to get their attention lol "

some guys think just looking at their profile is you making contact lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I like the look of someone's profile and pics and they are in the area then yes do contact them, fabbing pics does make it easy to get their attention lol

some guys think just looking at their profile is you making contact lol"

Oh the joys of stealth mode

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I'm just guessing then that none of you lovely ladies are bothered about me x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Well I'm just guessing then that none of you lovely ladies are bothered about me x"

Awww, I am!

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By *oodnvampCouple
over a year ago

beverley

I generally keep in contact with ppl I contact first so yes, why not.

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By *oodnvampCouple
over a year ago

beverley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I'm just guessing then that none of you lovely ladies are bothered about me x"

oh bloody hell i'll meet you at chams on the 16th stop moaning ffs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be totally honest the main reason i dont contact guys is because i work on the theory that if they liked me they would have contacted me and the reson they havnt is because im not their type, so i see no point in mailing them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol naughty thanks but rather you didn't do it under duress lol x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Well I'm just guessing then that none of you lovely ladies are bothered about me x

oh bloody hell i'll meet you at chams on the 16th stop moaning ffs lol "

Give him a good spanking for being such a big baby while you're there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be totally honest the main reason i dont contact guys is because i work on the theory that if they liked me they would have contacted me and the reson they havnt is because im not their type, so i see no point in mailing them "
good point i work on same thing , lol x I let them mail me x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"To be totally honest the main reason i dont contact guys is because i work on the theory that if they liked me they would have contacted me and the reson they havnt is because im not their type, so i see no point in mailing them "

I do this 90% of the time but I get messaged a lot by people far too far away for me to meet. So sometimes I go on advanced search to find single men in my area who can accommodate. I'll probably start being more pro-active about it in 2012 as waiting for a guy who ticks all my boxes to message me mught take some time!

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By *oournsMan
over a year ago

a


"To be totally honest the main reason i dont contact guys is because i work on the theory that if they liked me they would have contacted me and the reson they havnt is because im not their type, so i see no point in mailing them "
tbf if everyone adopted that attitude then no one would msg anyone. If you like the look of someone whats the worst that could happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I'm just guessing then that none of you lovely ladies are bothered about me x

oh bloody hell i'll meet you at chams on the 16th stop moaning ffs lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do if someone catches my eye lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"To be totally honest the main reason i dont contact guys is because i work on the theory that if they liked me they would have contacted me and the reson they havnt is because im not their type, so i see no point in mailing them tbf if everyone adopted that attitude then no one would msg anyone. If you like the look of someone whats the worst that could happen"

They don't reply. Hurts my feelings.

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By *oournsMan
over a year ago

a


"To be totally honest the main reason i dont contact guys is because i work on the theory that if they liked me they would have contacted me and the reson they havnt is because im not their type, so i see no point in mailing them tbf if everyone adopted that attitude then no one would msg anyone. If you like the look of someone whats the worst that could happen

They don't reply. Hurts my feelings. "
checks profile and pics. Comes back dubious to above statement. Pull the other one

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"It seems that the guys are the ones to make contact with ladies first, which is fine but I was wondering if you ladies do contact us guys first... Or maybe it's just me that doesn't get first contact lol"

It's rare but I have contacted one or two single guys.

One didn't reply and the other one we have now met a few times.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"To be totally honest the main reason i dont contact guys is because i work on the theory that if they liked me they would have contacted me and the reson they havnt is because im not their type, so i see no point in mailing them tbf if everyone adopted that attitude then no one would msg anyone. If you like the look of someone whats the worst that could happen

They don't reply. Hurts my feelings. checks profile and pics. Comes back dubious to above statement. Pull the other one "

Actually, some don't! Everyone has different tastes.

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By *oournsMan
over a year ago

a


"To be totally honest the main reason i dont contact guys is because i work on the theory that if they liked me they would have contacted me and the reson they havnt is because im not their type, so i see no point in mailing them tbf if everyone adopted that attitude then no one would msg anyone. If you like the look of someone whats the worst that could happen

They don't reply. Hurts my feelings. checks profile and pics. Comes back dubious to above statement. Pull the other one

Actually, some don't! Everyone has different tastes."
hmm there is my first omg moment today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made contact first I know a few others who have on here to. We're all here for same reason so why not it all adds to the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well im gay so i cant get out of makin first contact at times....most single fems on here are frigging rude tho and never reply ... bitches

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I have no problem contacting guys I like the look of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done a few times, usually when I think they are waaaaay out of my league lol! in for a penny eh? I've always had replies, always polite and friendly and even the odd success

I don't do at the minute really, cos I'm not in a position to meet right now, but once I'm feeling up to it, why not? you don't get if ya don't ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... i get enough mail off here from guys without having the need to trall thro profiles and messaging guys first "

Therein lies the reason I DO search. I think I must be one of the only ladies on the site who seldom gets a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't happen often,but was just mailed by a sexy lady this morning.

So i'll need to sink a couple of coffees to wake up and ditch this hangover lol.

Then i'll mail her back in proper state do do so! javascript:doSmilie(' ')

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"I have no problem contacting guys I like the look of "

That's my fave couple!!

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By *oournsMan
over a year ago

a


"... i get enough mail off here from guys without having the need to trall thro profiles and messaging guys first

Therein lies the reason I DO search. I think I must be one of the only ladies on the site who seldom gets a message "
really ! Or im being gullible maybe because you have not meeting at moment, and guys cant be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol! no really, it's true... you might be right though, maybe it is to do with the timing .... hey, does that mean most guys DO read profiles after all?

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By *picyspiregirlCouple
over a year ago

chesterfield

I have made contact first but very rarely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely make first contact as there are very few on here who knock me off my feet enough to make me want to send a message. Fussy =)

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By *azmissy67Woman
over a year ago

welshpool area


"I very rarely make first contact as there are very few on here who knock me off my feet enough to make me want to send a message. Fussy =)"

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"I have no problem contacting guys I like the look of

That's my fave couple!!"

XmwahX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never, i dont realy need to though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"havent had to,but i would if i was interested "

Lazy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started slow, but yep definately my experience right now, getting winks from couples

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Id say prob about half of my meets have been people that Ive messaged first.

Personally Id rather look for what I want than wait to see what Im offered...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mailed a guy once, he sent me a nice reply, but turned me down, so have never sent another one since

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Its rare.. but can happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"Id say prob about half of my meets have been people that Ive messaged first.

Personally Id rather look for what I want than wait to see what Im offered..."

My sentiments exactly

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"I mailed a guy once, he sent me a nice reply, but turned me down, so have never sent another one since "

Oh I get turned down as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mailed a guy once, he sent me a nice reply, but turned me down, so have never sent another one since "

I mailed a guy on another site, his reply was "lol, what a whale" havnt made 1st contact since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm, decided 2 browse less anyway, now use it just 2 check who's online that i'm in contact with, best just 2 stick the forums and chat

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

And 'they' say a lot of single guys can't handle rejection.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"Id say prob about half of my meets have been people that Ive messaged first.

Personally Id rather look for what I want than wait to see what Im offered...

My sentiments exactly"

Indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't, at first...but u need a few kicks and gut punches, if the knock backs don't floor u permenantly, they serve as a lesson 2 tread more carefully and not take things 2 much 4 granted

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"well im gay so i cant get out of makin first contact at times....most single fems on here are frigging rude tho and never reply ... bitches "

very polite sub here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well im gay so i cant get out of makin first contact at times....most single fems on here are frigging rude tho and never reply ... bitches

very polite sub here "
ooooo come to mi social mini social in mancs be rude of you not too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be totally honest the main reason i dont contact guys is because i work on the theory that if they liked me they would have contacted me and the reson they havnt is because im not their type, so i see no point in mailing them tbf if everyone adopted that attitude then no one would msg anyone. If you like the look of someone whats the worst that could happen"

they could say no lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem messaging guys that I like the look of.

Makes me smile the statements of 'I don't need to message', as if all the confident go getting women on the site need to either, I should imagine they have more messages than they can deal with.

The only reason I don't do it more often is that my OH has a demanding job with erratic working hours and I don't like to message without a specific timescale in mind. I am certainly not bothered about being told no or have my message ignored.

I've asked guys in clubs to play too. I've even been in the orgy room at chams lying on my back being licked by a guy, who wasn't doing it to my liking particularly, so I called another guy over to take his place. Be proactive not reactive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occasionally I do but its more often from a comment in the forums

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I try not to contact first as I usually don't get a reply... so I wait. lol.

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By *oournsMan
over a year ago

a


"lol! no really, it's true... you might be right though, maybe it is to do with the timing .... hey, does that mean most guys DO read profiles after all?

"
you have a profile

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"I try not to contact first as I usually don't get a reply... so I wait. lol."

I'm done waiting... hoping someone makes the first contact (shameless "look a tme!" plug, lol!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't sent a message first, due to receiving a lot of messages. I don't get the chance to browse etc.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

yep i have sent messages if a profile really catches my eye .sometimes i get a replie ,sometimes not . the few time i have had replies have been alot of fun !!!!!! mmmmmm!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yep i have sent messages if a profile really catches my eye .sometimes i get a replie ,sometimes not . the few time i have had replies have been alot of fun !!!!!! mmmmmm!!!!!! "

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I've had a few messages and winks from the ladies but you're right us blokes do tend to make most of the first contacts

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

Yes they do, in fact I think a message is just arriving. Oh hang on, my watch is fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've mailed a guy to wish him happy new year and said gissa shag before I become a lesbian for this year.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

The only guys I've made first contact with (excuse the Star Trek ref) have been folk who've made me laugh out loud when I've read their posts in the forum - had a couple of brilliant meets as a result. Other than that, haven't bothered as yet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And 'they' say a lot of single guys can't handle rejection."

An interesting point. Why risk rejection when there's a constant flow of inbound messages. Single men, on the other hand, generally have no choice but to make the first move. God bless em!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MM not sure !I have had a few ladies contact me , and had lots of fun with them , and 2 of them where very attractive ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mailed a guy once, he sent me a nice reply, but turned me down, so have never sent another one since "

And that one rejection which was well-crafted and tactful put you off? Jesus.

But to answer the OP lots of women message first. Like single guys a lot of the emails I receive are of the "I want you to fuck me" variety, whilst a lot are also well thought out and written which proves that message writing isn't a skill which favours any one gender....

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"And 'they' say a lot of single guys can't handle rejection.

An interesting point. Why risk rejection when there's a constant flow of inbound messages. Single men, on the other hand, generally have no choice but to make the first move. God bless em! "

Saying that, I was contacted this morning by 2 couples who clearly don't know how to approach soemone - not unless they have one approach for other couples, and their approach for single guys goes with "he should be grateful!". lol

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I keep saying im going to mail people first, i dont know why i dont. Its not fear of rejection as we all get it at sometime, im convinced it was the way i was brought up. I had it drummed into me never to ask so dont know if thats spilt over or not.

The one time i decided to, i got down the first page of guys and lost interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I'd never stop messaging poeple that take my fancy though as though you know in advance with inbound messages that the other party is interested, you get to pick and choose those that appeal to you the most.

Plus once your message has been sent there's that lovely thrill of anticipation before they reply....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been contacted first a few times.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I got an unsoliceted message from Granny Crumpet this week.

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By *xscotMan
over a year ago

Kingston

was that before or after she wrapped herself in flooring felt? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

usually get winks which I send a message too but the sea of other men just puts it down so by the time they get to it its either "cant be bothered" or "got something better".

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